Hodgetwins host critiques a trans man's social media reaction to misgendering, arguing strangers are not obligated to validate identities conflicting with feminine traits like voice and gait. He frames the distress as unnecessary emotional labor, comparing the subject's appearance to Justin Bieber post-transition and labeling Republicans as insurrectionists. Ultimately, the segment suggests individuals must toughen up against societal perception rather than demanding external approval for their gender identity. [Automatically generated summary]
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Transitioning and Gender Identity00:11:16
Yeah, got a new show for y'all.
We got a damn good show.
Damn good show.
Damn good show.
We're going to talk about this girl, man.
She transitioned.
And man, let me tell you.
Go ahead and bring the video up.
Look at her before she transitioned.
Oh, man.
I love the tattoo, man.
Smoking hot, right?
It's smoking hot.
Some of you guys see this.
Y'all like, man, this is the one.
This is the house.
The picket fence?
The picket fence, the dog, the cat, the goldfish, the minivan.
Yeah.
The swimming pool in the backyard.
The church on Sundays.
The picnics eating sandwiches.
At the park under the tree.
Watching the kids play.
But she transitioned.
She transitioned, and this girl no longer exists.
Well, she exists.
This girl right here?
She gone, man.
She gone.
Go ahead and play it.
She, her, dead inside.
She, they, cute, but no.
They, them, almost.
He, they.
Tell you what, if I was locked in prison, I'd still do you.
If the prison saying much, who wouldn't?
I even call you they while I'm doing it.
Yeah, if I ever get locked up, I hope they do.
Um, and I'm in a male prison and they let you come in my.
What kind of prison would you be in other than a male prison?
I'm just being specific.
You know, I'm in a male prison.
Well, you got to spell things out nowadays.
Things are different.
Not women can be in ass.
So long as they're not as a male.
Yeah, so I mean, if I ever break the law, I hope they do put some of you trans up in there.
Yeah, it'd be the easiest time ever did.
10 years.
That's okay.
Got my partner in here.
But anyway, she had somewhat of a meltdown on social media about people misgendering her.
Which is going to happen.
Some may be intentional, some it may not.
I mean, people.
So, yeah.
So let's check out the video.
Yeah.
Look, just because you do not like someone or just because you're upset with someone does not mean that you're exempt from validating their gender identity.
Like, it doesn't work that way.
I don't give a fuck if I literally hate someone with every fiber of my being.
I will never, ever, under any circumstance, just stop using their pronouns or refer to them as the wrong gender.
It doesn't work that way.
If you do that, you're transphobic.
You're transphobic.
You're transphobic.
You don't get to pick and choose whose gender identity you validate just based on your own personal feelings.
Pause it right there.
But pause it before you get to this.
You know what?
Yeah.
I mean, gender, your gender.
Hey, calm down.
You're getting excited.
Your gender doesn't need to be validated.
Like, I don't need my gender validated.
The only reason why you would need your gender validated is if you want to play the opposite gender.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That's not how validation works.
Like, somebody can actually validate your gender, right?
You're he now.
They can actually do that.
They're not really validating.
They're actually validating.
Should I say it?
Don't say it.
They're actually validating.
Don't say it.
Don't say it.
They're actually.
Don't say it.
I'm going to say it.
I'm going to say it.
They're actually validating.
Don't say it.
I'm going to say it like this.
I'm going to say it like this.
Be nice.
Be nice.
Don't say it.
When somebody validates your gender, uses the pronouns that you want them to use, he or she use.
Because they're psychic?
That actually validating.
Don't say it.
Don't.
Make believe.
Fairy tale.
Had to say it, didn't you?
Had to say it.
Had to go there.
It's not reality.
Well, people, when they see you, I'm assuming that they don't know who you are.
They don't know your preferred pronouns.
Like when I was looking at you, I could totally.
Obviously, I could tell you were a female, but I didn't know what your preferred pronouns up until the point when you explained to everybody that's watching your video what your preferred pronouns.
I mean, unless the people actually know who you are and you had that conversation with them and told them, hey, call me shit again.
I'm going to slap the shit out of you.
Right?
But if people are making this mistake by coming across you and they don't know who you are, of course they're going to misgender you because you come off like a female.
I'll give you an example.
You come off like a gay female.
Yeah.
You know?
Like a butch, right?
I didn't go there.
You had to say that, did you?
What else?
A butch.
In a lesbian relationship, there's a call them butchers, right?
No, man.
Horrible person.
Just horrible.
What the?
You know what you need?
You need Jesus.
All right, look here.
You don't call them that.
Look, maybe people, like, let me say something.
Like, some people, they want to be nice.
Like, I met this woman at one of my comedy shows.
I was like, oh, you're pregnant.
How many months are you?
She's like, I'm not pregnant.
I was like, oh, you just a fat bitch.
It's like, I walked right into that.
And like, some people probably scared that they don't know you.
So, of course, hey, how you doing, man?
How you doing?
I mean, your voice is still very feminine.
And I can't see from the waist down.
If you got those wide childburnt hips, you can take all the testosterone you want.
Them childburne hips.
Yeah, your gait, how you walk, how you carry yourself, your mannerisms.
No, like, I can obviously tell that you're female.
You just got short hair and a bunch of piercings.
You know?
Yeah.
I mean, it's just human nature.
Everybody's going to think like I am.
That don't make us transphobic.
It just makes us human.
Unless we know who the fuck you are.
And they're not being tolerant.
They're not homophobic.
That's just another word.
They're just not tolerant of your alternative lifestyle.
And I mean, for a lot of people, sex, you can't change that.
They don't want to play that game with you.
Yeah.
You know what I'm saying?
People, fuck it.
Hey, let's finish the video.
I don't understand what is so hard about correcting other people when they misgender others.
Like, it takes you like two seconds, but you know what it takes for me to have to constantly do that?
A lot of fucking unnecessary emotional labor that I already have to take on on a daily basis just to fucking exist and be who I am.
But you don't have the energy to speak up and say something on my behalf.
And I just have to keep white knuckling this.
White knuckling, huh?
You hear it raining?
It was right now.
I like it.
Right.
It puts me to sleep.
Especially when it's at night.
You're going to sleep.
Oh, it's raining.
You hear it?
Yeah.
Picture right there.
You hear it hidden top of the car.
Yeah, I heard it hidden the car.
Yeah.
Hey, look, this is what you sign up for.
You're supposed to be a man.
Most men don't cry like this.
And you gotta.
You need to look at the video that you just created.
You're telling people to stand up for you when you've been misgendered.
How do they know you've been misgendered?
They don't know you.
How do the people, the people that's misgendering, misgendering you?
How do they know they're misgendering you?
You're asking people to sign up for a fight that they didn't sign up for.
Yeah, they didn't sign up for all this.
But you know what?
They're not misgendering you.
Yeah.
This is how people see you.
Unless you want to up the testosterone doses.
No, she's taking throw some trend in there.
You don't want to take no trend.
Throw some trends, some tremor bowling, and some, what's that herself, some windstraw?
That'll toughen you up real quick.
No, man, but they can obviously see that you're still a woman.
Yeah.
You kind of look like Justin Bieber, though, because in a way, you know?
Don't you got that Justin Bieber vibe to her?
She don't look nothing like no damn Justin.
Oh, she got the Justin Bieber going, man.
Man, she ain't got no damn.
Man, she got all kinds of Justin Bieber going.
Man, you crazy as hell.
You know, when Justin Bieber cut his hair short, bring a picture up.
She got some damn Justin Bieber going right here.
That's Justin right there.
That ain't Justin.
That's Justin after he transitioned into a woman.
I don't know what to tell you, man.
I mean, live your life.
You don't need validation from anybody, actually.
You do exist.
I mean, you just need to toughen up.
You need to...
You just want people to kiss your ass.
They're not going to kiss your ass.
Yeah, just because you're a female who wants to be a man.
Yeah, people don't kiss my ass.
Why should they be able to have to kiss yours?
I mean, some people is never going to accept you for who you are.
People don't accept me for who I am, especially when it comes to my politics.
But hey, I'm not going to cry about it.
Yeah, I'm just going to be me.
I'm going to be happy who I am.
Won't you just be happy who you are?
You put a lot of work into it.
You don't need validation from these homophobes, these damn, these intolerant people.
Yeah, like if I met you and I knew you were, I would obviously, because I know you, what your preferred pronouns are.
Yeah, and we'll call you heat.
And we're actually like really nice guys, honestly.
Yeah.
I believe that lie that Republicans are insurrectionists and that we're homophobic.
Yeah, like if it was a party.
That we hate black people.
Like if we're at a party?
Yeah.
I'd call you by your preferred pronouns.
Because I'm over this shit.
Yeah, I'll buy you a drink.
Yeah.
What's up?
But you get crazy on me?
I misgender the hell out your ass.
Yeah, piss me off one night.
Disrespect me call you.
I'm going to say, girl, get your ass out of my house.
I'm tired of playing with you.
Don't don't you ever talk to me like that.
Get them damn childburn hips out of here.
Yeah, man.
But yeah, you just need to toughen up.
This is what you sign up for.
Yeah.
And just accept yourself.
When you accept yourself who you are, you don't need acceptance from anybody else.
Yeah.
Like you'll never hear me saying I'm black and I'm proud.
I mean, I'm proud of myself.
Being black has nothing to do.
When you hear people, I'm black and I'm proud.
I'm black.
They don't really mean it.
They don't.
They really hate themselves.
Why would I have to go out and say I'm black and I'm proud?
Why would you even be proud of being black?
It's something you're born with.
You didn't have to earn it.
Yeah.
I could say I'm proud to have a bachelor's degree in accounting and finance.
I'm black and I'm proud.
That's...
Well, you know where that derived from, you know.
What?
You're in the civil rights era, man.
Well, I...
That's where it derives.
The reason why some people say that they black and they proud because it was once in this country was a stigma to being black.