Hodgetwins - Trans Man crying like a girl for being misgendered
Aired: 2022-11-30
Duration: 11:16


=== Transitioning and Gender Identity (11:16) ===

[00:00:00]  Yeah, got a new show for y'all.
[00:00:01]  We got a damn good show.
[00:00:03]  Damn good show.
[00:00:04]  Damn good show.
[00:00:06]  We're going to talk about this girl, man.
[00:00:08]  She transitioned.
[00:00:10]  And man, let me tell you.
[00:00:11]  Go ahead and bring the video up.
[00:00:12]  Look at her before she transitioned.
[00:00:15]  Oh, man.
[00:00:16]  I love the tattoo, man.
[00:00:17]  Smoking hot, right?
[00:00:18]  It's smoking hot.
[00:00:19]  Some of you guys see this.
[00:00:21]  Y'all like, man, this is the one.
[00:00:23]  This is the house.
[00:00:24]  The picket fence?
[00:00:25]  The picket fence, the dog, the cat, the goldfish, the minivan.
[00:00:28]  Yeah.
[00:00:29]  The swimming pool in the backyard.
[00:00:31]  The church on Sundays.
[00:00:33]  The picnics eating sandwiches.
[00:00:36]  At the park under the tree.
[00:00:38]  Watching the kids play.
[00:00:42]  But she transitioned.
[00:00:43]  She transitioned, and this girl no longer exists.
[00:00:46]  Well, she exists.
[00:00:48]  This girl right here?
[00:00:49]  She gone, man.
[00:00:52]  She gone.
[00:00:55]  Go ahead and play it.
[00:00:57]  She, her, dead inside.
[00:01:00]  She, they, cute, but no.
[00:01:02]  They, them, almost.
[00:01:05]  He, they.
[00:01:09]  Tell you what, if I was locked in prison, I'd still do you.
[00:01:12]  If the prison saying much, who wouldn't?
[00:01:17]  I even call you they while I'm doing it.
[00:01:21]  Yeah, if I ever get locked up, I hope they do.
[00:01:24]  Um, and I'm in a male prison and they let you come in my.
[00:01:27]  What kind of prison would you be in other than a male prison?
[00:01:31]  I'm just being specific.
[00:01:33]  You know, I'm in a male prison.
[00:01:34]  Well, you got to spell things out nowadays.
[00:01:36]  Things are different.
[00:01:37]  Not women can be in ass.
[00:01:39]  So long as they're not as a male.
[00:01:41]  Yeah, so I mean, if I ever break the law, I hope they do put some of you trans up in there.
[00:01:45]  Yeah, it'd be the easiest time ever did.
[00:01:47]  10 years.
[00:01:49]  That's okay.
[00:01:50]  Got my partner in here.
[00:01:54]  But anyway, she had somewhat of a meltdown on social media about people misgendering her.
[00:02:01]  Which is going to happen.
[00:02:02]  Some may be intentional, some it may not.
[00:02:05]  I mean, people.
[00:02:06]  So, yeah.
[00:02:07]  So let's check out the video.
[00:02:09]  Yeah.
[00:02:11]  Look, just because you do not like someone or just because you're upset with someone does not mean that you're exempt from validating their gender identity.
[00:02:20]  Like, it doesn't work that way.
[00:02:22]  I don't give a fuck if I literally hate someone with every fiber of my being.
[00:02:28]  I will never, ever, under any circumstance, just stop using their pronouns or refer to them as the wrong gender.
[00:02:36]  It doesn't work that way.
[00:02:37]  If you do that, you're transphobic.
[00:02:40]  You're transphobic.
[00:02:41]  You're transphobic.
[00:02:42]  You don't get to pick and choose whose gender identity you validate just based on your own personal feelings.
[00:02:48]  Pause it right there.
[00:02:49]  But pause it before you get to this.
[00:02:51]  You know what?
[00:02:53]  Yeah.
[00:02:53]  I mean, gender, your gender.
[00:02:56]  Hey, calm down.
[00:02:57]  You're getting excited.
[00:02:58]  Your gender doesn't need to be validated.
[00:03:01]  Like, I don't need my gender validated.
[00:03:03]  The only reason why you would need your gender validated is if you want to play the opposite gender.
[00:03:08]  Yeah.
[00:03:09]  Yeah.
[00:03:10]  That's not how validation works.
[00:03:13]  Like, somebody can actually validate your gender, right?
[00:03:17]  You're he now.
[00:03:19]  They can actually do that.
[00:03:21]  They're not really validating.
[00:03:23]  They're actually validating.
[00:03:25]  Should I say it?
[00:03:26]  Don't say it.
[00:03:28]  They're actually validating.
[00:03:29]  Don't say it.
[00:03:30]  Don't say it.
[00:03:32]  They're actually.
[00:03:33]  Don't say it.
[00:03:34]  I'm going to say it.
[00:03:36]  I'm going to say it.
[00:03:38]  They're actually validating.
[00:03:41]  Don't say it.
[00:03:43]  I'm going to say it like this.
[00:03:44]  I'm going to say it like this.
[00:03:45]  Be nice.
[00:03:46]  Be nice.
[00:03:49]  Don't say it.
[00:03:50]  When somebody validates your gender, uses the pronouns that you want them to use, he or she use.
[00:03:56]  Because they're psychic?
[00:03:57]  That actually validating.
[00:04:00]  Don't say it.
[00:04:02]  Don't.
[00:04:03]  Make believe.
[00:04:04]  Fairy tale.
[00:04:05]  Had to say it, didn't you?
[00:04:06]  Had to say it.
[00:04:07]  Had to go there.
[00:04:08]  It's not reality.
[00:04:10]  Well, people, when they see you, I'm assuming that they don't know who you are.
[00:04:15]  They don't know your preferred pronouns.
[00:04:16]  Like when I was looking at you, I could totally.
[00:04:18]  Obviously, I could tell you were a female, but I didn't know what your preferred pronouns up until the point when you explained to everybody that's watching your video what your preferred pronouns.
[00:04:27]  I mean, unless the people actually know who you are and you had that conversation with them and told them, hey, call me shit again.
[00:04:35]  I'm going to slap the shit out of you.
[00:04:37]  Right?
[00:04:38]  But if people are making this mistake by coming across you and they don't know who you are, of course they're going to misgender you because you come off like a female.
[00:04:46]  I'll give you an example.
[00:04:47]  You come off like a gay female.
[00:04:49]  Yeah.
[00:04:50]  You know?
[00:04:52]  Like a butch, right?
[00:04:53]  I didn't go there.
[00:04:54]  You had to say that, did you?
[00:04:55]  What else?
[00:04:55]  A butch.
[00:04:57]  In a lesbian relationship, there's a call them butchers, right?
[00:05:01]  No, man.
[00:05:04]  Horrible person.
[00:05:05]  Just horrible.
[00:05:07]  What the?
[00:05:08]  You know what you need?
[00:05:08]  You need Jesus.
[00:05:10]  All right, look here.
[00:05:11]  You don't call them that.
[00:05:13]  Look, maybe people, like, let me say something.
[00:05:15]  Like, some people, they want to be nice.
[00:05:19]  Like, I met this woman at one of my comedy shows.
[00:05:21]  I was like, oh, you're pregnant.
[00:05:23]  How many months are you?
[00:05:23]  She's like, I'm not pregnant.
[00:05:24]  I was like, oh, you just a fat bitch.
[00:05:28]  It's like, I walked right into that.
[00:05:30]  And like, some people probably scared that they don't know you.
[00:05:34]  So, of course, hey, how you doing, man?
[00:05:36]  How you doing?
[00:05:37]  I mean, your voice is still very feminine.
[00:05:38]  And I can't see from the waist down.
[00:05:40]  If you got those wide childburnt hips, you can take all the testosterone you want.
[00:05:46]  Them childburne hips.
[00:05:48]  Yeah, your gait, how you walk, how you carry yourself, your mannerisms.
[00:05:53]  No, like, I can obviously tell that you're female.
[00:05:55]  You just got short hair and a bunch of piercings.
[00:05:58]  You know?
[00:05:58]  Yeah.
[00:05:59]  I mean, it's just human nature.
[00:06:00]  Everybody's going to think like I am.
[00:06:02]  That don't make us transphobic.
[00:06:03]  It just makes us human.
[00:06:05]  Unless we know who the fuck you are.
[00:06:08]  And they're not being tolerant.
[00:06:09]  They're not homophobic.
[00:06:10]  That's just another word.
[00:06:11]  They're just not tolerant of your alternative lifestyle.
[00:06:15]  And I mean, for a lot of people, sex, you can't change that.
[00:06:22]  They don't want to play that game with you.
[00:06:24]  Yeah.
[00:06:25]  You know what I'm saying?
[00:06:25]  People, fuck it.
[00:06:26]  Hey, let's finish the video.
[00:06:30]  I don't understand what is so hard about correcting other people when they misgender others.
[00:06:37]  Like, it takes you like two seconds, but you know what it takes for me to have to constantly do that?
[00:06:43]  A lot of fucking unnecessary emotional labor that I already have to take on on a daily basis just to fucking exist and be who I am.
[00:06:52]  But you don't have the energy to speak up and say something on my behalf.
[00:06:57]  And I just have to keep white knuckling this.
[00:06:59]  White knuckling, huh?
[00:07:00]  You hear it raining?
[00:07:01]  It was right now.
[00:07:02]  I like it.
[00:07:03]  Right.
[00:07:03]  It puts me to sleep.
[00:07:04]  Especially when it's at night.
[00:07:05]  You're going to sleep.
[00:07:06]  Oh, it's raining.
[00:07:06]  You hear it?
[00:07:07]  Yeah.
[00:07:07]  Picture right there.
[00:07:08]  You hear it hidden top of the car.
[00:07:09]  Yeah, I heard it hidden the car.
[00:07:11]  Yeah.
[00:07:12]  Hey, look, this is what you sign up for.
[00:07:14]  You're supposed to be a man.
[00:07:16]  Most men don't cry like this.
[00:07:18]  And you gotta.
[00:07:21]  You need to look at the video that you just created.
[00:07:25]  You're telling people to stand up for you when you've been misgendered.
[00:07:29]  How do they know you've been misgendered?
[00:07:31]  They don't know you.
[00:07:33]  How do the people, the people that's misgendering, misgendering you?
[00:07:37]  How do they know they're misgendering you?
[00:07:40]  You're asking people to sign up for a fight that they didn't sign up for.
[00:07:45]  Yeah, they didn't sign up for all this.
[00:07:46]  But you know what?
[00:07:47]  They're not misgendering you.
[00:07:49]  Yeah.
[00:07:50]  This is how people see you.
[00:07:52]  Unless you want to up the testosterone doses.
[00:07:55]  No, she's taking throw some trend in there.
[00:07:58]  You don't want to take no trend.
[00:08:00]  Throw some trends, some tremor bowling, and some, what's that herself, some windstraw?
[00:08:05]  That'll toughen you up real quick.
[00:08:08]  No, man, but they can obviously see that you're still a woman.
[00:08:11]  Yeah.
[00:08:12]  You kind of look like Justin Bieber, though, because in a way, you know?
[00:08:17]  Don't you got that Justin Bieber vibe to her?
[00:08:19]  She don't look nothing like no damn Justin.
[00:08:21]  Oh, she got the Justin Bieber going, man.
[00:08:24]  Man, she ain't got no damn.
[00:08:25]  Man, she got all kinds of Justin Bieber going.
[00:08:28]  Man, you crazy as hell.
[00:08:30]  You know, when Justin Bieber cut his hair short, bring a picture up.
[00:08:33]  She got some damn Justin Bieber going right here.
[00:08:37]  That's Justin right there.
[00:08:38]  That ain't Justin.
[00:08:39]  That's Justin after he transitioned into a woman.
[00:08:46]  I don't know what to tell you, man.
[00:08:48]  I mean, live your life.
[00:08:49]  You don't need validation from anybody, actually.
[00:08:52]  You do exist.
[00:08:53]  I mean, you just need to toughen up.
[00:08:54]  You need to...
[00:08:56]  You just want people to kiss your ass.
[00:08:57]  They're not going to kiss your ass.
[00:08:58]  Yeah, just because you're a female who wants to be a man.
[00:09:01]  Yeah, people don't kiss my ass.
[00:09:02]  Why should they be able to have to kiss yours?
[00:09:05]  I mean, some people is never going to accept you for who you are.
[00:09:08]  People don't accept me for who I am, especially when it comes to my politics.
[00:09:10]  But hey, I'm not going to cry about it.
[00:09:12]  Yeah, I'm just going to be me.
[00:09:14]  I'm going to be happy who I am.
[00:09:15]  Won't you just be happy who you are?
[00:09:16]  You put a lot of work into it.
[00:09:18]  You don't need validation from these homophobes, these damn, these intolerant people.
[00:09:24]  Yeah, like if I met you and I knew you were, I would obviously, because I know you, what your preferred pronouns are.
[00:09:29]  Yeah, and we'll call you heat.
[00:09:31]  And we're actually like really nice guys, honestly.
[00:09:33]  Yeah.
[00:09:34]  I believe that lie that Republicans are insurrectionists and that we're homophobic.
[00:09:39]  Yeah, like if it was a party.
[00:09:40]  That we hate black people.
[00:09:42]  Like if we're at a party?
[00:09:43]  Yeah.
[00:09:44]  I'd call you by your preferred pronouns.
[00:09:45]  Because I'm over this shit.
[00:09:47]  Yeah, I'll buy you a drink.
[00:09:48]  Yeah.
[00:09:49]  What's up?
[00:09:49]  But you get crazy on me?
[00:09:51]  I misgender the hell out your ass.
[00:09:54]  Yeah, piss me off one night.
[00:09:56]  Disrespect me call you.
[00:09:56]  I'm going to say, girl, get your ass out of my house.
[00:10:01]  I'm tired of playing with you.
[00:10:02]  Don't don't you ever talk to me like that.
[00:10:07]  Get them damn childburn hips out of here.
[00:10:11]  Yeah, man.
[00:10:12]  But yeah, you just need to toughen up.
[00:10:14]  This is what you sign up for.
[00:10:16]  Yeah.
[00:10:17]  And just accept yourself.
[00:10:18]  When you accept yourself who you are, you don't need acceptance from anybody else.
[00:10:22]  Yeah.
[00:10:23]  Like you'll never hear me saying I'm black and I'm proud.
[00:10:26]  I mean, I'm proud of myself.
[00:10:27]  Being black has nothing to do.
[00:10:31]  When you hear people, I'm black and I'm proud.
[00:10:33]  I'm black.
[00:10:34]  They don't really mean it.
[00:10:35]  They don't.
[00:10:37]  They really hate themselves.
[00:10:40]  Why would I have to go out and say I'm black and I'm proud?
[00:10:43]  Why would you even be proud of being black?
[00:10:45]  It's something you're born with.
[00:10:46]  You didn't have to earn it.
[00:10:48]  Yeah.
[00:10:48]  I could say I'm proud to have a bachelor's degree in accounting and finance.
[00:10:52]  I'm black and I'm proud.
[00:10:53]  That's...
[00:10:54]  Well, you know where that derived from, you know.
[00:10:56]  What?
[00:10:57]  You're in the civil rights era, man.
[00:10:59]  Well, I...
[00:11:00]  That's where it derives.
[00:11:01]  The reason why some people say that they black and they proud because it was once in this country was a stigma to being black.
[00:11:07]  You was less than.
[00:11:08]  So people were standing up for themselves.
[00:11:10]  I'm black and I'm proud.
[00:11:13]  You see what I'm saying?
[00:11:14]  But you ain't gotta do that shit today.