Andrew Schulz and Akaash Singh dissect a toxic relationship dynamic where one partner avoids disagreement by feigning agreement, contrasting it with Schulz's tendency to admit fault immediately yet defensively when right. They analyze a specific conflict over missing studio equipment, highlighting Schulz's passive-aggressive "stop crying" response instead of owning his mistake, which led Akaash to calculate that staying in the car was faster than retrieving the gear. Ultimately, the conversation previews a Patreon episode where social justice lawyers might ruin the fun, underscoring how communication breakdowns erode trust even among close collaborators. [Automatically generated summary]
Transcriber: nvidia/parakeet-tdt-0.6b-v2, sat-12l-sm, and large-v3-turbo
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Fighting To Agree00:02:06
Have y'all had a big argument yet?
Yeah, but like she'll be fighting to agree.
Like she'll be like, I don't know what she's saying.
I've never had like the fundamentally different opinion argument where you're like, no matter what you say, I'm not going to agree with you.
No matter what she says, you're not going to agree with her.
Not had that.
That don't exist to this guy.
Oh, my God.
Wait, why does that?
Nah, because you'll find a way to get her to agree.
Look, you can't have it.
He's convincing.
That's what I'm saying.
I'm locked Obama, bro.
That's not good.
You got to give her some, bro.
No, no, no.
You got to take a few walks.
I know.
She can't strike that.
Sometimes you're going to go on base.
Don't fucking.
I'm telling you, bro.
Because you know what's going to happen.
You know what's going to happen?
I know.
Yeah, but if they're not good at argument, they leave a loophole.
Nah.
Because here's my thing.
When you have their own preppy.
When you're right, I don't fight.
Like, when I fucked up or I'm wrong, I don't fight.
I go, you're right.
I fucked up.
I'm sorry.
You're going to know immediately I don't hold on to it.
But when I'm right, the ship going down.
But here's the thing.
All the time.
You know what your problem is?
You know, at UFC, when they stop the fight.
And you still punch?
You still punch in.
You like, nah, fuck that.
You can't cap out.
You're like, nah.
You catch this beaten.
Yo, you're not wrong.
I don't like using the metaphors.
They're beating women.
But in general, with arguments, like, yeah, submission is important.
But I know.
It can't be like agree to disagree.
I don't know how to do that.
Oh, my God.
You know what I mean?
But again, when she's right, she's right.
Like, when she's right, she's right.
I don't mind, like, you could bring him a point or, like, I, you know, wasted your time or something like that when I should have not wasted your time.
Like, I was late.
Yeah, you're right.
I fucked up.
My bad.
I'm sorry.
But once I fucked up and you say I fucked up, how many times do we need to say I fucked up?
About four or five, probably.
See, that's too many times.
But I feel like you would make them say it four or five times if they fucked up.
Depends how convincing they are the first time.
I think it's time for me to do that.
I know he's never dated a black woman.
Admitting The Mistake00:07:11
I think it's time for homie court because I might have to get Andrew to stand.
Our exchange area.
All right, go ahead.
Go ahead.
Homie court.
So he says that when he's wrong, he just admits he's wrong and moves off.
So Andrew was supposed to pack the equipment up last time.
Can you put this on the screen?
And I gave him the screen available.
I'll just read it out.
I'll just go.
So I gave him the list of the stuff he needed to pack.
So he needed the cams, tripod, and the recorder.
So I get to brilliant idiots today.
I get the brilliant idiots today.
And I'm like, everything's there but the recorder.
I'm like, yo, where's the recorder?
He's like, at the studio.
I'm like, come on.
I listed that in the things to pack.
You said you don't take the switcher, so we kept it there with the switcher.
I said, the recorder.
He says, stop crying.
Because the way I was reading it was different.
It was like.
I said, the recorder has nothing to do with the switcher.
He's like, I'll go get it.
You're wasting my time crying.
And then I reply, but when I fuck up, you cry about it for days.
You got it.
And then he's right one-word messages, solutions, period.
Never cry, period.
Solutions, period.
And I say, hmm, whatever you say.
Like right now, period.
Problem solved.
Period.
Wait, is he writing period or he's putting the period?
He's just putting the period.
It's very passive aggressive stuff.
Yeah, it's very passive.
You're not supposed to use grammar, you know.
Text messages are very passive aggressive, bro.
That's a weird rule, man.
It is, but you know that.
I don't make the rules, bro.
Like, this is what it is.
I didn't mean it that way.
I'll be hitting periods at the end.
I didn't mean it that way.
Somebody has to be a period.
I'm not sure.
So, mind you, this is let me give you the time.
When I stopped texting, this was at 12:59 and he was still going at 106.
LOL dot dot dot, and I'm going to go.
Dot dot dot passive aggressive.
That was passive aggressive.
No, but now I'm giving him a little bit.
I've been back in.
And I said, dot dot dot LOL.
And I'm the one who's crying.
Exactly.
So now he smoothed it over.
He's like, oh, I really don't think you're crying, man.
I'm just fucking around.
I'll show you on time.
He says he's going to go get the recorder.
I just want to acknowledge that I listed the recorder as the items that needed to be brought from the studio.
Never once did he be like, oh, yeah, my bad.
It seemed like you fucked up.
The way I read it, I don't know.
No, so here's the thing.
Stop crying is so funny.
You can't say shit after stop crying without looking like you're crying.
Exactly.
I'm like, that was a good one.
So I was like, all right, you got it.
Stop crying.
So, so here's the thing.
Was I 100% wrong?
No.
I don't care for your girl.
Can I be honest?
Can I be honest?
Yeah.
All right.
This is what happened.
Let me read that.
All right.
This is how this was going on.
All right, ready?
And now the rebuttal.
All right.
1250.
Where's the recorder?
Then I go at studio.
He goes, come on.
It's own text.
Yeah, because you fucked up.
But it's not necessary.
Come on.
And then when it's own text, come on.
Like, solutions, bro.
It's solutions.
We need solutions, bro.
Let me try.
Let me try.
There's no way.
He's going to go.
He goes, come on.
Like, to me, it sounded like this.
Like, he was like, like, suck his teeth mad hard.
Like, come on.
Like that.
That's exactly how I thought.
So, and then he texts another thing.
I listed that as the things to pack.
Then I go, you said don't take the switcher.
So he kept it there with the switcher, right?
That's me not acknowledging that I fucked up.
Yes.
But trying to find an excuse why it made sense.
Okay?
That's what that is.
Now I'm happy.
You finally admit that you fucked up.
Exactly.
And then now I'm about to be right again.
You didn't see it coming, though.
You thought you were out.
Okay.
For the record, I don't think any of us thought you weren't going to come back and say, it didn't happen.
I really didn't think it was going to look like it.
No, it's not that.
That slide.
It's not the delivery.
It's just you.
You ain't going to stop it and I'm wrong.
Every time you say that about your girl, I'm like, I would love to see that.
Yo, she be getting me, bro.
She gets me, dude.
Sometimes I'm wrong.
Because I'll be wrong.
I'll be wrong.
I'll be wrong.
Like, I'll take her toothbrush.
She'd be like, did you take my toothbrush?
I'd be like, nah, I might have done that.
So, what am I supposed to say?
I didn't.
You lost your toothbrush.
I think your toothbrush went missing.
You lost something very easily.
I'd be like, yo, you fucked up somewhere.
I know, boo, yeah.
That's for what, man.
You check your purse?
Hey, babe, check your purse.
You might have put it in your purse.
You might have needed it when you were eating all the time because you be eating all the fucking time.
She's like, why?
What do you mean I'm eating all the time?
Yeah, look at you.
You know, like, goddamn time.
Let's talk about that.
Why don't we talk about that?
Why aren't we talking about why you need to brush your teeth because you got so many fucking food sucking signs on?
Oh, my God.
Okay.
So you're wasting my time.
No, no, I said this.
Stop crying.
So he goes, he said something back that I thought was pretty good.
He goes, he goes, stop.
And this was how I knew he was crying.
He goes, he goes, I go, stop crying.
He goes, has nothing to do with the switcher.
The fact that you're crying, right?
So that's when I was like, I'll go get it.
Because you admitted to me that you were crying.
However, you want to play this.
I know.
I know how it sounds.
I thought I could get out of it, but I didn't know.
I was wrong with this one, Al.
I'm sorry.
Respect, bro.
Let's love you, bro.
Once you admit it to go get it, I know.
Stop Crying And Fix It00:01:23
Oh, okay.
Because he'll never go get it.
No, you know what it was?
I was already in an Uber on the way down, and I calculated by the time you got to leave the fucking studio, go get parking.
You might not even be able to park here.
Yeah.
It'd be faster if I just stayed in the car.
Yeah.
Because I knew you did not want to go get it.
Because you knew where it was.
Yeah.
I think that's what annoyed me.
He goes, yo, where's the answer to the question?
Where's the recorder?
And I was like, you know what the fuck the recorder is.
Where else the fuck would it be?
I left in the goddamn studio with the switcher.
That's what annoying about the conversation is you basically were like, you could have texted me like, yo, son, you forgot the switcher.
You forgot the recorder.
Can you go get it?
But instead, you're kind of passive aggressive.
You the one that's passive aggressive.
You had to acknowledge that.
He had to dodge.
He had to acknowledge he fucked up.
Come on.
Stop.
Come on.
We had him.
We had him somewhere.
He was just like, oh, we're not gaping fucking all over.
I was like, bro, yo, what's up?
This is Akash.
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