She Admits She’ll Cheat On Her Boyfriend But NOT Her Husband?
Dom Luker interviews Rosé Rax, Mara, Charlene, and Boss Lady regarding their complex dating histories, including shared baby daddies and conflicts over gas tanks. The group debates transactional relationships versus seeking God-fearing partners, with Boss Lady arguing female submission stems from absent father figures while others reject male superiority despite biological longevity differences. Amidst discussions on intentional parenting and childhood trauma, the episode concludes by challenging traditional gender roles through personal anecdotes of co-parenting and financial independence. [Automatically generated summary]
So, if you don't mind, give us your name, your age, what you do for a living, dating status.
It works, of course.
Your body count.
My name is Rosé Rax.
I'm 27, and I'm an entrepreneur.
And dating status, it's quite list three.
You say you're entrepreneur?
Yes.
What does that entail?
I mean, there's certain things you don't say, but I used to be a dancer, you know, trapper, whatever scammer, whatever you want to call it.
But entrepreneur.
So, what's your most, I guess, like, lucrative job title, you say?
Um, as of right now, there's certain things that I can't put public, but you know, say no more.
We've made money, we can know we're making money.
Okay, I dated complicated, yeah, it is, it's a complicated situation.
Okay, highest education level: uh, college, some college from college completed.
No, I didn't.
I had babies, so I had a dropout.
How many kids?
Three.
Good lord.
Good lord.
Okay.
Parents together or no?
Mine?
No.
Birth control?
Uh-huh.
Birth control?
Yeah, sure.
Sure.
At this point?
Yeah.
All right.
And then, of course, body count.
Oh, five.
Five this week or?
No, no, no.
Five all together.
I was with my baby daddy for like 10 years.
So that took a lot.
27 minus 10.
That's 17th.
So how many men could I have really rocked up?
Why'd you guys break up?
It's complicated.
Like I said in the beginning, it's complicated.
Oh my god.
We'll come back to that.
That's fine.
All right.
Welcome back.
What about you?
Hi, I'm Mara.
Mada who?
I'm Mara.
Mada who?
What?
Mara, what?
Your name, Mada who?
Just Mara.
Okay.
Hold you.
My name is Mara.
I'm 32.
I'm from Connecticut.
I live here.
Why are you laughing?
Nope.
We're listening, you know.
Why Connecticut is funny?
No, it's just.
But I am married and I have no kids.
And my parents are together.
What else did you do?
I want to be married for.
Party count, don't forget.
Since the first time I came on.
I know, but how long has it been since then?
Maybe like three years.
Three years?
Does he watch this show when you come on or no?
Does he watch the show when you come on?
No, unless if I'm on it.
Yeah.
Does he watch it when I come on?
Yeah, pretty much.
Okay.
Yeah.
I thought you said when it comes on.
Okay.
But when I come on, yeah.
All right.
Prince, you said together, no?
Yeah, my parents are together.
Together?
Non-Surgical Vaginal Tightening00:03:23
Birth control?
No.
Highest education level?
Associates.
All right.
And then, of course, childhood education.
You said no kids, right?
No.
Why no kids?
He doesn't want kids.
I do want kids, but I don't know.
It just hasn't happened yet.
Three years is crazy.
Yeah.
Okay.
That might be a hard one there.
Also, what's your question?
Maybe one of us have to go and see who's the problem, but I don't know.
Oh, so you've been trying?
We're not in a rush.
Okay.
What do you mean?
But you shot the club up and you didn't get no kids?
Oh, okay.
But what did you ask?
What's your background?
I'm Puerto Rican.
I know Kansas.
Puerto Ricans are.
Yeah, I know.
I know Puerto Rican.
You know, Puerto Ricans are fertile as well, right?
That's true.
Wait, what's your background?
I'm Colombian.
Colombian?
Makes sense.
I love Colombia.
Columbia's dressed.
Like 310.
I love it.
It's cheap.
It's nice, but the girls are a bit crazy.
Where are you from?
Barbados.
Thanks.
What about you?
Hi, I'm Charlene.
How old are you?
39.
I live here in Miami.
I bleach kitties and tighten vaginas for a living.
You bleach?
Yeah.
Well, okay, bring it up with me.
What does that mean?
Bleach.
So I offer intimate bleaching for women and men, of course, too.
And we also tighten vaginas.
It's a non-surgical vaginal tightening.
Oh, she rejuvenated.
At Miami Beauty Spa?
Does it actually work though?
Yeah, it actually does.
I have like so many pictures and like actual, I have received.
Yeah, taking the mall off.
That's crazy.
I'm resetting something.
You know what's the worst part?
You gotta buy a car, right?
It has high mileage.
You revert the mouse back to what it was before.
You won't even know.
That's scary.
Yeah.
That's scary, actually.
Damn, how many girls come in for that?
Like a lot of girls?
Actually, that's my two top services that I have at my spa.
Wow.
That's crazy.
Yeah.
How much it costs to.
Actually, I charge $100 for internet bleaching per area, and we charge $250 for each session of vaginal tightening.
How many do you need to get?
Three.
And you're back snatched?
Yeah, period.
Okay.
Yeah.
That's not a good one.
This color goes away with three.
Four sessions for internal stations.
Once a week.
How are y'all doing?
Are you using like a vacuum on that motherfucker?
Actually, it's non-invasive.
So it's an ultrasound probe that we put in the girls' vagina, right?
And then it has radio frequency, which reproduces the collagen that they have lost in the vagina.
So it tightens up the elasticity.
It helps with the moistness and it helps for all the girls and women who have multiple kids and have urinary incontinence.
Do you have one?
No, I'm good this far.
Thank you.
No contains.
There you go.
Three, no worries.
No complaints around here.
Okay, highest education level.
I'm currently in nursing school right now.
So I have nurse?
Yes.
Go ahead.
Dating Struggles Explained00:15:05
I have one more year to go and I'm super excited.
And yeah.
And I'm currently single, but not looking.
I have a few friends.
So, you know, and I'm pretty busy and occupied.
Friends with benefits or just friends?
Well, you know, they give you the benefits.
I hate to say it, but I live in Miami and it's not cheap here, you know, so I kind of do need a little bit of help.
No, I mean what I mean.
You know what's crazy, right?
You want to know whenever we're in like a recession or get into a recession?
Whenever girls are like, let's slow in the club, except extra money, or like, I need help.
Helps all the time.
But it's normal.
Okay.
Parents together or no?
Yes, they are.
Birth control?
Yes.
I actually have an IUD and I use condoms.
At 39?
Yeah.
I don't want no more kids, but I don't want to use hysterectomy because I don't want to get menopause.
Okay.
You know?
How many kids do you have?
One.
One?
Yep.
Where's it at?
He's active.
We're not together, but we're active.
My son is in college.
He has a scholarship for basketball.
He plays talking shit.
Yeah.
I did my thing.
But yeah.
All right, cool.
And what's your body count?
I would say, damn, don't judge me, but I would say like it could be anywhere from like 15 to 20.
I've had my fun.
Yeah.
That's pretty low.
For what?
Almost.
How?
How long?
I mean, how long?
Old are you?
39.
Yeah, it's pretty low, I would say.
Well, thanks.
I thought it was a little.
If it's true.
Yeah.
How long were you with your BD?
Not long.
No, no long young.
I was like 17.
Yeah, most of my relationships have been long.
So that's what has saved me.
Yeah.
But lock that.
I've kind of been like in school a lot.
I've been outside, you know, of course.
Like you said, it saved you.
That's a very funny term.
Saved me.
What about you?
My name is Boss Lady.
Wait, hold on.
Your mom named you Boss Lady?
No, my mom didn't name me Boss Lady.
I named myself Boss Lady.
But we don't talk government names out here.
Are you good friends?
Yes.
We have a podcast together.
We have a podcast together.
What's it called?
Boss Baddie, Boss Baddies.
What are we going to talk about?
On Boss Baddies.
Just so you know, you know, beforehand, we carry a relationship together.
We share the same baby daddy.
So backstory.
Back to working on your fucking tall.
Wait, wait, you have the same baby daddy?
Yes, and we are cool and we have a podcast together and we're homies and whatever you want to call it.
Exactly.
Many years of fighting and sugar and gas tanks.
Oh my God, we're still talking about the sugar in the gas.
You say you did it, but girl, I did not do it.
But we're past that.
We're fighting.
She did not pass it.
She put me in gas tanks.
I did not mean to fucked up.
We fought and then I burnt my customer and I came back after my event.
I had to go and drop the tank.
I had to go everything.
And on the same night that we fought baby daddy, this is what I admitted.
I'm not going to lie.
If someone's suggesting your gas tank, that's fucked up.
Listen to me.
If I did it, I'm going to say I did it, but I didn't do it.
Trust me.
And believe me, I did not do that.
Maybe it was one of her people, but they knew where my car was at.
It was the same night we had a big pupil who would just pull up to the restaurant.
That's a little bit of a baby daddy.
Yes.
Same time?
No.
No.
I'm the first baby man.
Married 10 years ago.
10 difference.
Yeah.
Is he Hispanic?
Black?
Dominican Dominican.
He's black.
No, black poppy Dominican.
There you go.
He's actually whiter than the both of us.
Right.
He's actually whiter than all of us.
That's crazy.
How old are you?
I'm 41.
41?
Okay.
What do you do for work?
I do accounting.
Accounting?
Yeah.
Full-time?
Yes, I do.
Besides, you know, doing the podcast and trying to put a brand out.
That's dope.
Yeah.
Highest education level.
Associate's degree in medical, but I don't currently work medical.
I do paralegal work, more criminal law.
Are your parents together or no?
No.
Birth control?
No.
And you said you have how many kids?
One kid?
One.
One?
Yeah, he traumatized me enough.
I'm good.
Why do you guys break up?
For the obvious reasons that we just were not getting along at the moment.
Okay.
And then he met you after.
Yeah, I was after.
I was after.
He's moving and shaking.
He's not playing.
How many kids do you have?
Me?
No, him.
He has four.
One and three.
Yeah.
Oh, wow.
He's dropping some bums over there.
Okay.
He's a good two baby moms.
Right?
It could be worse.
Right.
I mean, and we got a walker.
One of them.
One is enough.
One is enough.
Okay, Dom.
All right, Dom.
Welcome to the show once again, Dom.
You don't know who you are.
One of the top journalists in America, I would say, right now.
I'm number three.
Yeah, well, you can say, depending on who you ask, they would say I'm the best.
But number one journalist on X, been dominating social media this year.
And most of what you hear and see on the news, at least 40% of it comes from me.
Nice.
Yo, Dom McCorps and CNN, MSNBC, all of this combined.
And Dom, when you drop a news article or news, all that, sorry, news piece, it goes viral.
Yeah, it does.
The world reacts to it.
It's crazy.
Trying to control the perception of people's reality.
100%.
So listen, ladies, we got a full panel here.
Some experience, some not so experience in that sense.
Let me ask a question.
Most guys dating nowadays, right, aren't the bar.
Either they're not tall enough, not secure enough financially.
How would you say you would find a good man nowadays?
Is it going to be in the club, you know, and supermarket?
Where would you find a good man from your opinion?
I don't think you just find him.
I think it naturally just happens.
You can have like the perfect, for me personally, you can find a guy that's perfect, perfect setting, perfect home, perfect career, perfect everything.
But internally, he probably has something, some damage to him.
Yeah.
So it all depends, you know.
And why do you think you're single?
I mean, who said I was single?
Oh, you're not?
I mean, there's someone in my life, yes.
A main person in your life?
Yes.
Okay.
How long have you been together?
For some time now.
For some time.
Three years, four years?
No, it's a year and a half.
No, no, no.
It's not half an hour.
A year and a half.
How'd you guys meet?
Same area, location of where we hang out.
Type, he was always there.
I just never paid attention until one day.
What made you pay attention that time?
Honestly, it was my birthday.
My boss had taken me out, you know, and a couple other co-workers for my birthday.
He always treats.
He treats.
He always treats, you know, for my birthday, he always takes me on.
I've been working for him for a couple of years.
I run his accounting for like four of his friends.
So it's not like I'm a nobody to him.
So I was out that day and you know, I was again having fun for my birthday.
And, you know, you tend to like open up more when you're not less guarded.
So that's what happened.
I was like having fun and I just saw him like in a different place, I was being less guarded.
I was open to speaking to him in a different way.
Okay.
So you found your person randomly.
It wasn't by accident.
Right.
So it wasn't like that.
Like, yeah, it was, it was, like I said, it just happened.
Okay.
What about you?
How'd you find a good man and why are you single?
I don't know where to really go to like nice places because I feel like, you know, when you're trying to find someone that's within your caliber, you should go to places, I'm assuming, within your caliber.
So if like, if you're looking for, I don't know.
Give me a description.
Like, what's a nice place to you?
Nice restaurant, nice hotel, nice bar.
I like restaurants.
I'm a restaurant person.
So it's like, you know, I like to go to like, I was telling my girls, I like to go to like Mila, Casanel.
We love you.
Oh my god.
So you're equating the caliber you are to the restaurant, right?
Yeah, you know, and it's like, I like to dress up.
I like to get real pretty.
I like to wear long, nice dresses and stuff.
So it's like, you know, you can't just wear that anywhere.
So it's like, that's the type of things I like to do.
So I feel like since that's what I like to do, you know.
Tony, right.
So how long have you been going to these places?
Because I like Casino's as well.
But how long have you been going to these places?
I would say within like, it's been like two years now.
Two years.
Yeah.
So you're going to these spots to find well, we can find good people, good men.
Why are you still single?
Well, I've actually ended up finding nice relationships and new friends because I'm like, and even female friends, you know, new acquaintances, you know, people with opportunities and stuff like that where we can help each other grow.
So it's like I've been so busy with school and work that I'm so focused on that that I don't feel at this time I have the time to pour and focus into someone else.
So it'll be selfish for me to like even try to.
So I'm not really like looking.
So would you say it's more of like a multiple factor where you have multiple friends that helps you better than one person?
Is that better?
You would say?
Well, I'm not saying I'm just like just friends, like male friends.
Like, you know, it's just friends.
Friends in general.
Right.
Associates.
I'm talking about like men, though.
Not like girls.
Like actual men.
I'm not looking for men friends.
Like, right.
Just, I don't know.
Okay.
What about you?
Obviously, you're married.
Yeah, but kind of like both of them, I feel like you do whatever you like to do and you'll find somebody good there.
I mean, not always, but like, you know, at least have the same interest.
Like somebody who actually should.
What if what if you're interested in things that really don't better you?
I mean, if that's where you are mentally as a person, aren't you supposed to meet a man that's better?
Then you are already on to something that's better.
So, it wouldn't necessarily always mean a band that's best for you.
It's going to be interesting in something you're interested in, especially if that doesn't serve you.
So, how could you know that, say, if you like bowling, you'll find a man of your dreams that's bowling?
Maybe he's too busy to bowl.
Right.
He might not be in the locations that you're in.
Right.
So, that's true.
When they were talking, I was kind of like thinking about that.
And it's like, you know what's where, or you know, you know, where to find because, like, I like going to the club.
Yeah.
I know for a fact there's a thousand people.
I think not one of them are like somebody for that has potential for me to take seriously.
You know what I mean?
Yeah.
And I feel like when you have like hobbies, you know what I mean?
Like things that actually take up your time.
Of course, you're not all of if you like to do, I don't do pottery, but if you like to do pottery, you meet somebody there, they could be nice.
And but like you said, they could not have enough time for you or not be the person for you.
But at least it's, I don't know, better than just meeting somebody somewhere you're not comfortable.
Like if you don't like to go to the club, but somebody comes, you know, you try to talk to them or something and you guys don't have interest.
The meeting of the diet has a lot to do with how women feel.
It's like comfortability and what feels right, but that's not really keys to success.
You know, it's kind of, I think it's basing your reality on emotions and that in itself leads to failure.
Or intuition.
I kind of feel like intuition is propaganda for women.
Because if intuition was that successful, they would succeed in more aspects of life than they do.
They're just not in tune in too many aspects, you know.
And men aren't.
There's certain things.
Definitely, they rule the world for a reason.
But there's certain like levels to it, maybe.
Like as I don't want to like rebuttal you guys, but maybe there's certain levels, but I know for a fact if I don't feel comfortable with a guy, I'm not going no matter what the fuck they got going on.
Or, you know what I mean?
That's fair, but okay, you mentioned you go to the club, right?
Does your husband go with you to the club?
No.
So you go alone?
For the most part.
Sometimes whenever he feels like going, but he's not really like a, he don't really like to go out.
He's cool.
You going alone to club?
I don't go by myself.
I go out with friends.
Other girls?
Yeah.
Oh, this nigga.
Well, what's wrong with you?
Yeah, what's wrong with you?
Was I supposed to go out with guys?
I've seen him before in Miami.
You've seen me out?
Yeah, I've seen him before.
I've been to him a couple times.
Why they didn't say hi.
He were your friends.
Girlfriend, bro.
Should I see the club?
I'm like, bro, I could not do that.
No hopes in the club is like, why get there without your mans?
But the thing is that there's absolutely not a second where I have a chance of where he has a chance of thinking that I'm not coming straight home.
You know what I mean?
Yeah, but you could do a stop somewhere.
You could do a bus stop.
You just never know.
I don't pay a quick stop.
And you think that's going to be worth ruining who you have at home.
Okay, so you would never cheat?
No.
Okay.
What do you think?
I think if I have a wife or girlfriend and she wants to go to club alone.
Boyfriends I cheat on.
If I had a boyfriend, I definitely cheat.
But it's a husband.
But that leads you to question, did that nigga get cheated on before he came to the ring?
Damn.
That sounds like insane.
I'm a failure.
He didn't get cheated on because I felt really good about him.
Like, I don't know.
It was just something that made me not want to do that, you know?
So he was the one that was lucky out of all the ones that didn't get cheated on.
Apparently, everybody else got cheated on.
So, so let me get it straight.
You won't cheat if it's your husband, but if it's a boyfriend, you might cheat.
It's fair.
You be honest to some extent.
Now, let's just be fair here.
Dom, if that was you, how would you react?
Because remember, this is your wife.
She says she won't cheat on husband, but boyfriend.
I would know like I got cheated on.
Nigga, I'm blowing her back out before we got everything.
That's what it is.
I mean, what it is.
So, that means when he was a boyfriend at one point, you cheat on him.
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No, I just said when I met him, I just felt like I didn't want to do that.
You know what I mean?
So, he changed your whole, I want to say, outlook on like perspective.
Yeah, okay.
Like, and not really changed it.
I just always felt like I would find like I was that your was that your intuition that you just knew?
Shut the fuck up.
Like, I always, I used to smoke.
I used to smoke cigarettes.
Gross, but I always said, I always said, like, if I ever had kids, I would never smoke again.
Like, I just don't want that around my kids.
Yeah.
Right?
So, it's like when you know, you know.
And I had a brain aneurysm, so I stopped smoking a long time ago.
But it's just like, I knew I didn't always want to, like, cheat on her, but I would just be having fun.
And I know they're having fun too.
So, I'm going to have my fun.
You know what I mean?
We're not like making seriously.
Does your husband cheat?
Huh?
Does your husband cheat?
Does he cheat now?
Yeah.
No.
He's like never outside.
He doesn't do anything.
In the past?
I don't know.
Is he white, black, Asian?
Black.
Interesting.
He doesn't cheat at all.
Successful guy.
Trinidadian.
Yeah.
You get cheated on this.
Oh, you're crazy.
While I'm here, he's locking me with his mistress, right?
I'm telling you, them niggas are horny, man.
They'll horn you so quickly.
Okay, we'll move on though.
What about you?
Where can you find a good man?
And then why are you single, you think?
Well, I never said I was single.
I said it's complicated.
And if I was single, I want to find my man in church because I want a God-fearing man.
I'm tired of these straight men.
I'm tired of these trapping men.
And that's why you got in Miami.
So that's what it is.
And I don't want to talk about that.
Do you go to church to find him?
I want my man in church.
Do you go to church to find him?
No, but if I wanted, if I wasn't, if I was single, if I was single, you don't want to church.
But you want to find your man in church.
But I am not single, so I don't have to go to church, baby.
But if I were, that's a word of advice to the ladies because I'm tired of these trappers.
I'm tired of these scammers.
And you need to find you, a God-fearing man.
And now you have my man, period.
So, so I have a question.
When I got at home, pay the bills.
And that's all that matters.
Wow.
Yeah, come on.
Stop the show.
But I'm not single, so I don't got to go to church.
For everybody in the back that didn't hear me, I don't got to go to church.
But he's asking for a word of advice, and I'm giving the advice to everybody.
So she's saying in a nutshell, it should be single again.
She goes to church, find her man.
Dom, be honest, though.
The church, I mean, no, what I'm trying to figure out is, did you, were you initially looking for the church going man when you were trying to find me?
No, but if I were, I'm going to go to church, is what I'm trying to tell you.
No, I'm saying initially through your love life.
No, but my love life has been one person consistent for about 11 years.
So I'm not looking and it's complicated.
But if I were to get back on the market, you're saying that you initially weren't looking for a church going man in the past.
But you guys asked, where would you look for a man?
And I know, but I'm just saying there's a question, so it would be now, but it wasn't then.
So, when you were looking for a baby father, etc., you wasn't looking for a man that would have been a little bit more.
No, my baby father is perfect, so let's not even take it there.
But if I were to look for a man, I'm just saying the only reason I'm saying that is because it's typically, it seems like it just seems like to me that a lot of the good guys get overlooked until the women become baby mothers, and then they probably have to be aware of that.
That's a question because you guys are asking where would you guys find a good woman?
How about that?
Oh, no, honestly, um, it's not really where you find them, it's really more so-your influence makes the woman you think.
So, I know, so that's complicated.
Because if you meet, I'm not gonna say older because it could be a younger and it could be an older woman.
If you meet a woman that's already set in her mind, and let's say she's a stripper or you know, it's a nightlife or night work, you know what I'm saying?
So, it's like, how would you change somebody?
But you like her, so it's not the influence.
Well, that necessarily don't go for those, but you can try.
Okay, so that's why I'm in church.
Thank you.
If I go, if I look for a man, I'm gonna go to church.
You know, you asked the question: where do you find a good woman, right?
Before, and in Miami, obviously, it's a high, I want to say, activity-paced place like New York or Vegas or LA.
But I think dating here is kind of cooked in a way because it's very transactional, you know?
It is.
I had a call with a dating coach actually today, he's very famous, and he's quitting his services of giving people dating advice.
I was like, Why are you gonna quit, bro?
Like, you're you're you're top tier, top-rated.
He said, In general, nowadays transactional, there's no real meaning to like learn game and really become a better man.
Because think about it, long term, what's the angle?
Rich, poor.
What do women need?
Security, and the security they look for men with money.
So, ultimately, looks are definitely part of it, but long-term, money's the actual factor, not necessarily.
So, hold on, hold on.
You mentioned before, times get hard, right?
You need help sometimes, right?
Survival brings about people's true and biology, uh, biological nature, which means, by example, they're gonna want to have security at the very end of the day, which means the bottom line is money is very important.
So, ultimately, in Miami, most women want money as a factor of living here long term.
So, my thing is, like, good women nowadays are hard to find because they want money up front for the most part.
Not every woman, of course, but like most of them here in Miami, especially in Berkeley.
What's crazy is that my parents have been together for like almost 40 years, and my dad has always been a provider.
So, everybody talking about nowadays women look at money, it's not looking at money, it's looking at providing.
And certain women will go for a lower-class man because they don't need that much, you know what I mean?
Like she said, you date in your category, you date in your tier, whatever, right?
Your caliber, whatever she said.
So, if I'm working at McDonald's and I'm living on a couch, clearly, I'm not looking for a, but he could still provide for what I need, which is not much, you know what I mean?
But I feel like women always look for providers no matter what level you're looking for.
I do agree that some women are asking for more than what the fuck they're worth nowadays because I feel like every bitch feels like you can't take me to Cheesecake Factory on a first date.
But I literally just got done talking about that today.
I disagree, yeah.
No, I get what you're saying, but I feel like on a first date, not Cheesecake Factory, but you could take me there after.
But the first date, you should be trying to impress me.
The first date, you should care about what I think.
So, you're saying all that, right?
But, like, let's be honest here, though.
Uh, what do we have today?
TikTok, Instagram, everything's inflated.
So, they're gonna see, yeah, my parents were in love together.
That was taking care of households, but now it is like, yo, working bag, travel.
I could do this shit too, even though you're four or five, which is hilarious.
But it's like there's levels of the shit.
So, Gary's saying, but what do we see in society?
People want more than they actually deserve, especially women.
That's what I just said that, right?
I just said, like, women think they're worth more than yeah, but then you're also defending women that damn the point is that, like, I think nowadays, especially that dating is definitely more transactional.
And at the end of the day, yes, you can say some women are going to go for lower-tier men, but ultimately, what do they all want?
High-tier men.
So, but don't, what do you think, bro?
I don't necessarily agree, honestly.
Without due respect, I don't necessarily agree because when you're saying, as far as a provider, um, initially, everybody always randomly thinks a provider, it has to do with money.
I mean, there's a lot of women nowadays that are making their own money that they don't need you to provide them an income, they need you to provide them something more that they can't give themselves with the money.
So, like, just the other day, I asked a question at the event, um, and I was asking to pick in between the two: would you prefer to be with a loyal and a broke person or a rich and toxic person?
And after the poll that I did, the majority of the people chose loyal and broke.
So, hold on, hold on, hold on.
You get a rule, yeah.
So, in reality, so like we're like, in reality, you want to say that everybody wants a provider financially, but no, it's not.
Like, like initially, they want someone they can make them feel good inside.
I think that beats more the money than anything because the women nowadays are making their money, yeah.
But women, the women that make more money than men, they all stress that they have a hard time respecting them.
Not true.
I agree, not true.
I mean, not necessarily respecting them, but unfortunately, there's going to be a conflict that would not exist if he was making more money than her.
Hold on, does your man agreed more money than you?
Your man?
Does he make more money than me?
Um, no, we make the same amount of money, same amount, yeah.
I would say, do you respect him as an equal?
Uh, yes, I do.
See, that's that's better.
You have to respect him as an equal, yeah.
Okay, but a lot of people want 50-50 these days.
I'm not, I'm, I'm not.
Unfortunately, I'm that person.
If they want 50, I like to.
I'm I've always been that person throughout my whole life.
Like, you know, even when I was in my baby Zad, even when I was with my ex that, I was with him for seven years.
I've always been a 50-50.
We equals.
I don't like, I've just asked me personally.
I don't like the levels of that you're, you know, you could feel that you're better than me.
And then that comes with different treatments.
So, that I'm not, I'm, I don't agree with you.
You don't want the man to feel reality.
No, what reality?
What is what is the reality?
That he is better than you.
How is he better?
The man is supposed to be the leader.
I mean, he could lead always a hundred percent.
So, a leader, how is a leader not better than his followers?
They follow for a reason.
What am I following?
You're following a leader.
A leader has to follow.
What am I following, though?
You have to tell me what I'm following, though.
You can't just say I'm a leader and not tell me what am I leading.
They want to lead you to what you're what's what is better, what you're missing out on.
What aspects of that?
But I'm not missing out on with him.
What is it?
I'm not missing out if I'm with him.
It doesn't make any sense.
If you're with the leader to follow his advice, he could see some things that you might be lacking, could see some things you're not with.
Yeah, I wouldn't listen to him because he's a man.
I would say, because he's a man, yes.
But if you're listening to him, he has to be better.
You can't listen to a man that's lesser, right?
So, the woman you're with, you want so then necessarily.
To submit, yes, when he told you to do that, that is God's intended way.
You see, the problem is that modern society has made it feel like submission is a punishment.
Submission is a gift.
No, it's not.
Submission is a gift because a submission puts a woman in her feminine energy.
As soon as a woman don't feel like she's in a submissive position, she becomes masculine.
Correct.
That's not her natural sense.
Who wants a manly bitch?
No nigga.
Nobody.
No nigga.
Who beg to differ?
They're fun to fuck and they're fun to talk with.
And they're fun to be homeboys.
I don't exactly.
I mean, my situations, they could complain about how aggressive or how masculine, however you guys want to say it, I've been.
But, you know, I wasn't with a guy for one day.
My relationship have all been long-term.
Yeah, but hold on.
They can be.
But they ended, right?
No, they're not.
They have never been.
There was 10, 7, and we're going on a year and a half.
So clearly, the dominance in me is not that bad.
But they ended though, right?
They ended, of course.
By her account, though.
Of course.
No, it doesn't even matter by what account.
Because at the end of the day, two different people are able to see things in different ways at some point or another.
That's called growth.
But it also shows like he could grow, I can grow.
Every man that you've talked to, you're saying they won't.
They agree with the 50-50 relationship.
No, no, no, no.
I didn't say that.
I said I choose that.
I never said what they were.
Are they accepting it?
I mean, whatever they want to do is on them.
If they've accepted it, that makes sense why you've had success in a dumb relationship because they're too submissive, they damn shelf.
So, I mean, that itself says the men that you're targeting aren't the ones that put you in your position you're supposed to be in.
Yeah.
Which is what?
Submission.
You shouldn't be saying that you're masculine or any of those things.
That's just not your natural sense.
I mean, I mean, for me, I mean, you only become masculine as a woman through care.
Every type of person, me personally, has a different upbringing and a different lifestyle.
Some are able to be more feminine than others.
And unfortunately, that comes with life.
A female's masculinity is a survival tactic.
Yeah.
Right.
And depending on how you how you're up.
But the point is that you were put in the position to feel like you need to survive because a man wasn't there to protect you.
My father was not in my life.
So, okay.
Understandable.
So if you had a strong leader, a man with a position you're supposed to play, you wouldn't even have these problems.
If a man that initially was supposed to be in life played his role, was a leader, you wouldn't have those issues.
But I didn't get that upbringing from my father, from the leader.
I got it from a woman.
So then I guess naturally it continues.
Yes.
And it's a circle of life.
It's a cycle.
Yeah.
Now, no, dumb.
If she had a father in her life that was there for her, to give her instructions, say, daughter, listen, go this path.
You're doing this for me.
Maybe it would have been different.
It would have been different.
Because she didn't have that.
However, he's saying, no, move forward.
You're adult.
You're older.
There's some trauma in the past.
A new man that comes in your life is going to say, you know what?
I don't know.
It's to me.
Is that you?
It's probably not you.
But what does he want?
Right.
You know, like, that's very important.
Some guys, I guess, like a more, um, you know, I wouldn't even say dominant because I hate that word, like the whole masculine thing.
It's just those men are looking for the men.
You're talking about a woman that knows what she wants.
A woman that just doesn't need guidance from somebody.
They're looking for a mother.
I guess so.
That's you.
I guess so.
I guess I have to have my mom rose.
And that's why ants.
Yeah.
And then that's a cycle of their lives.
And I guess they were leaders.
What about your mother?
Because I guess, you know, so then it is.
What about your cycle, though?
How did you know?
How do they leaders not to lead us because they're men?
But they were looking for mothers.
So but you have too many people in love.
So I'm going to be listening to somebody that just needed a mother.
It doesn't make any sense.
But there's two people in love playing outside their role.
He's too submissive.
You're too dominant.
Correct.
It just doesn't work.
But what you're agreeing to me on the fact of that that's not the natural state of a woman.
Yes, and a woman typically is only at that point because they've been forced there.
Correct.
So what's wrong with the man saying that a woman should submit?
Because a man can't just say it.
He has to have a woman.
He has to be able to be able to put those guards down when she's had them up for so long.
Yeah, that's easy for a man to do.
You can do that in a week if you're a good man.
That's not a problem.
No, no, no.
We're not talking about dropping the panties.
I'm not talking about dropping the body.
I'm talking about submitting a week.
To understand and know that they're safe and they're secure.
They're trying to be submissive.
Knowing they're safe and secure because it only takes a man a week for a woman to know that he could air my kids if I need him to.
So you feel that every man can make a woman do that?
If the man is good, if he's genuine and intentional and truly wants to be so then, every man can't lead then.
No, hell no.
There's a lot of submissive ass niggas.
But I said a man in his natural state, they are a leader.
A natural man is better than a natural woman in every way.
I won't argue with that.
Good point.
Okay.
So I'm glad you brought up this topic because it's actually a very good topic.
Got a video here to play.
I actually demonstrate this thing full-time.
A lady talking about her struggles with dating.
And what's happening is she's definitely masculine, definitely been through a couple guys, but she understands now that dating is just a change that's cooked.
And funny, you posted this video actually.
Oh, shit.
Oh, this is right.
Masculine Energy in Women00:03:59
Yeah.
Here we go.
Oh, I've seen this.
Yeah, this shit's crazy.
All right.
You want me to be honest?
I'm angry.
I'm mad.
I'm fuming.
I'm on fire.
I'm mad because I care more about you than you care about me.
And that's how it's always fucking God.
Oh, my God.
I'm tired of it.
I'm mad.
I'm angry.
I'm tired of feeling so much.
I'm tired of being in my head.
I hate it.
angry i'm angry i'm angry how much i try to let go of it and give it to god it's still so heavy I feel hopeless.
I feel humiliated.
That's why I'm embarrassed.
She's going through it.
I'm confused.
We see that.
And I can't ask for help.
I'm over it, bro.
Was this really both?
Yes.
Oh, my gosh.
I'm sick of this.
I'm sick of this.
Think of this.
I don't want to feel anymore.
Feeling is what's supposed to make somebody a person.
And I don't even.
Yeah, so women are frustrated across the board.
Dating definitely is a lot harder.
And as you can see, women are going through it every single day by themselves, of course.
They're crying.
They're depressed.
But again, the question was: what does your man actually want from you?
And if you know what that is, could you tell me?
We'll start here.
Well, and my situation is to be a mother and to be a wife and take care of the house like I do.
So I have no complaints and I have no problems.
My life is good.
Be honest.
Has that ever happened to you?
You in a car by yourself?
If it did happen to me, I wouldn't have posted it.
Number one.
Fair.
And number two, no, I have never felt that level of frustration to scream on a phone.
So I cannot relate.
Okay.
What about you?
Same.
I absolutely could not relate.
But I feel like I haven't felt like that since I was in my first relationship.
You know?
Right.
Yeah.
Like, of course, I feel like every girl, and you're lying if you didn't go through it, but the first time you ever felt like you were in love, like you went through it.
Yeah, you went.
But the thing is that as you grow, you learn, right?
And you don't make the same mistake you're not supposed to.
And you just find better.
Like, I honestly, I can't say that any of my exes were like terrible, maybe one, terrible men, though.
Like, you know, I don't feel, I feel like I do good picking men.
Like, I don't know.
I feel like I do a good job picking men.
Well, you got one now, but I mean takes a while.
And for you?
I haven't screamed out of phone like that, but I have been like in a situation where I have felt maybe I think she feels more still like her, played with, confused, you know, because sometimes not just men, but women do the same thing and like play games with the opposite sex as well.
But it's like it was a point where I was talking to someone and I will always think it was gonna like go somewhere because of the way like he would treat me.
But then it was like, then when I wasn't there and I would say like little things that would insinuate more exclusivity, then it's like, oh no, then we're just friends.
And I'm like, okay.
Picking Men Right00:04:31
Okay.
So it's like I did have to like obviously come to my stanzas and understand like he doesn't see me how I see him.
But I ain't, I didn't scream at myself like that.
But what I just did was like, you know, I'm like, is either two things?
Either I keep being dumb or just cut ties.
And I cut ties and that's that.
And but you know, it can happen.
Like I'm sure men be screaming at themselves in the car too, the same way women scream at them.
I'm sure people live in the car too.
I'm not sure if you're a video of a man screaming.
You know, so it's like, but yeah, but it's a big difference though.
Because if a woman does it, it's okay.
If a guy does it, he's a loser.
He's there.
I don't see society.
I think she's a loser for posting it.
Okay.
I agree.
That's fair.
I agree.
For posting it.
I feel like anybody that cries on social media over like real situations, I feel like it's really a cry for help, though.
Some could be like, send it to your personal family.
Send it to your Facebook friends separately, the ones that care.
Like, I'm looking at it and I don't have different mindsets.
You know, I just feel bad for her because she did say she did say one statement that said, I don't have anyone to say this to.
Or I think she said, I don't have no one who to talk to.
So maybe that was her form of venting because she has, which I still, I don't know.
I'm not, I'm no one to judge, but I just feel like maybe she just don't have nobody to talk to in general.
Some people just don't have nobody to like talk to.
I don't know.
What do you think, Don?
What do you think?
Well, I guess my response really would be a question.
So the woman, the video was actually talking about how the woman can't find love and she's struggling to find a partner.
But so I would have a question for all the women on the board.
How many of you have been invited to at least a VIP table, some type of VIP event from a guy or maybe a group of friends?
We're in Miami.
That happens right here.
So you've experienced it.
Right.
When you go to these events, have you ever like gone back and told your friends like any dudes that you saw was attractive or you know, you had some good connections?
Do you ever like go back?
Like just regular conversation.
I had a good time last night.
Yeah.
For the already I have with my best friend that I have.
Now, when you talk about the men, is it typically the men, maybe I don't know if it's strip club or is it the men that's throwing money?
Is it the men that look like they have status?
Or is it the men that's in the VIP section with you that you go back and talk about?
Because what I normally notice with women, they don't notice the janitor that was in that motherfucker.
They don't know the bartender.
They don't notice the dude at the door.
Do you notice the janitor?
I do.
I'm a nigga.
Because I was broke as fuck, too.
Oh, okay.
So of course I'm going to notice him.
I understand his reality.
No, no, I'm saying a woman janitor.
Would you notice the woman janitor?
Niggas are fucking anything.
Yeah, of course.
Exactly.
Yeah, yeah.
Oh, my God.
Ronaldo.
One of the greatest fucking football players of all time.
Ronaldo, this girl that he met was it, what she worked for Louis Buffon.
Yeah, Gucci.
Yeah, something like Guccia store.
So yeah, man, it don't matter.
They date down.
So that's that's not unique.
Yeah, don't notice the janitor.
Because dudes, they get a sense of pride from changing a janitor to a supermodel or whatever, because they can say they did that.
So we're in a different reality.
But a lot of women, they might miss their husband, who's a janitor, that will become the boss one day.
Because I've never been, I wasn't always the boss.
I was one time the mom, but I was overlooked many, many, many times simply because I just wasn't of a status.
That's understandable because a woman is looking for security, not a janitor.
But at the same time, how do you know the janitor isn't your security?
That's what I said.
So it's like I see women like that that's complaining, and a lot of times they're overlooking the men that if they gave them the chance, if they got to know them and found out they had the potential, they were going to give them the world forever.
Give them kids and never look back.
Because one thing about a man, if you believe in them, when they're chasing their dreams, no matter how much of a dog they might be, they'll never give up on you.
Yeah, that's one thing I can account.
I mean, there's some of the sorriest niggas.
They won't give up on the one that believed in them.
Good point.
You know what's funny about this video?
I guarantee she's like 30 friends in the friend zone.
30 guys in the friend zone.
Guys she looked over in the past from school.
Good guys that said, you know what?
I don't know why you up.
She said no to them.
She's not by looking, by the way.
But my issues are like attention is getting on the internet.
It's crazy.
You're crying on camera for attention.
Now, mind you, all the guys in the past that she looked over, where are they now?
And they would have been probably good candidates for her.
You said before.
So to me, it's kind of like this video here encompasses and shows that a lot of men are passing about good guys because they don't feel like the guys good to them are going to be good for them long term.
Intuition is there, but it's not really there because that could happen to a lot of women.
So, but yeah, so going back this way one more time.
Intuition vs Emotions00:15:18
Let's say, right, you found a dream, you're a dream guy, which you kind of found a guy ready.
What would you bring to him on to the table?
Like, would you give him like loyalty?
Would you give him like kids?
What do you give to him?
I mean, I can only speak on the situation I'm in unless we're speaking about hypothetical situations.
In general, yeah.
Okay.
What I would bring is if I really love the guy that I'm with, I would bring loyalty.
I would be, you know, if we have kids, I would be a mother like I am.
I would hold down the house like I do.
I would go, you know, we have Airbnbs together.
We have upcoming businesses coming up, construction companies that we are building up together.
So, you know, it just depends who you can build with.
You can't just get with somebody and be a dead end.
You know, I'm not saying my relationship is perfect, but we're trying and we have things that we are building up.
Is it cool?
You having three kids?
Oh, oh, hypothetically.
Yeah.
I mean, I have dealt with men that are cool with it and do want to step up to the plate.
So three kids has never stopped anything, baby.
So, so he has to take on the thing.
They want to.
Whoa.
Okay, so he works his ass off, gets to a certain point, successful, and that's to take care of your kids as well.
No, because I can take care of my own kids.
And they have a father.
He don't got to pay that.
But if he does want to, like, situationships I have had in the past, they do step up to the plate and they do want to.
I find that very short-term, though.
That's where I'm good where I'm at.
So, you know.
Okay.
And for you?
Me what?
Your husband, what does he want from you?
Um, eventually, at some point, kids.
Of course.
I, um, we both want me to be a stay at home.
But I like to, I like, so I'm not really like pushing my business.
Everybody be like, like, how's your business going?
And like, it's not going as good as it could or should.
But it's because I don't really promote it because I don't want to do it no more.
I've had it for like eight years.
And I do want to stay home, but I don't have any kids.
I'm going to be bored over there.
You know?
You seem confused.
What do you mean?
I've had my business for eight years.
Yeah.
Okay.
I have loyal clients, like clients that I don't want to like give up on.
I do want to.
Wait, hold on.
So your husband wants you to quit your job and stay at home mom.
He doesn't want me to, but yeah, that's the end goal.
When I am a mom, like I'm not a mom right now, and I like to have my own money, and he still, of course, provides for whatever I need, like you know, but I like to have my own too.
Good though, well, I mean, I mean, it makes sense, especially if the husband approves.
I mean, shit, having a kid, I feel like this, man.
It's too many people that's rushing to have kids on emotion.
If you're doing it intentional, and I can't deny that, man, I can't even declip for him.
Like, I can't help but fuck with that because I don't have kids because a pussy is good.
Yeah, that too, but a kid is like it's just permanent.
So, I think a lot of mothers that when they become understood, they wish they could wait their time.
So, if you take your time with it, I can't disagree with that.
But I would say a shit with women, it's unfortunate, man.
I didn't make the rules.
The older y'all get, it's better off to have a kid because of health issues or whatnot.
That's beyond being emotional, but you know, I'm sure you already know that.
Yeah, but outside of that, I understand.
Like I said, like now, you know, I'm at a point where, yeah, we do want to have kids, but it's not like anything that's like being rushed.
Maybe I'm like by 35, I'll be like, you know what?
Let's think that scares me.
Even that, yeah, and even that's your reaching point.
I don't want to be having a blast.
Like, I've traveled so much, I have such a good time, and I know I'll be able to do that with a kid, but it's just like you know, what worries me?
I'm 31, I don't have a kid yet.
I've turned 32 on the 23rd of this month, and I've been thinking to myself for the first time.
It's like, nigga, if I wait till I'm 40, that little nigga gonna be dead.
Like, I'm not missing my grandkids.
Like, this shit gets real the older we get.
Yeah, I say that.
And it's like, is anyone else thinking that way?
Like, honest to God, if you have that kid at 40, 50, I'm gonna miss out a lot of their life.
Yeah, I think my parents feel like that because I don't have any grandkids.
We're racing the clock.
We won't ever see our great grands, etc.
Like, it'd have been a lot easier if we had them at 20s.
But the older we get, there's that's guaranteeing that you're gonna miss more and more of their life.
And when you have kids, that becomes your entire life.
So, there's, I don't know, it's like, is it really worth it to experience the quote-unquote life without kids?
Because everyone has kids, it becomes their world.
I want kids.
I used to be a teacher.
So, my degree is in early childhood education.
Just like Chris.
Yeah.
Early childhood education.
I used to be a teacher and I love kids.
Like, but I like to give them back too.
I go home and I do whatever the fuck I want.
You know?
Yeah.
Like, but I do want kids because I love kids.
Like, it's not like anything I'm against at all.
I love kids.
Babysit, everything.
Like, cool.
I love kids.
And kids love me, you know?
But I just feel like I'm still having fun.
But also, you know, I wouldn't be mad if it happened right now.
You know what I mean?
Like, I'm not, I'm not.
I'm already at the age where it's okay if I do get pregnant.
You know, whatever happens, happens.
But I'm not like.
35 is my late, though.
35 is very late.
I feel like at 35, if it didn't happen, we're doing like in vitro.
Like, but I'm carrying, and we're having a kid.
And the husband, the husband's older.
Older than me.
But so coming older.
Okay.
So if that makes sense.
So I'm saying, though, if he has.
He's 42.
So, okay.
He's still not too old.
The same thing, too.
I mean, the same goes for me that would go for him.
That's not old.
The longer he waits to have kids.
They could still have kids.
Men could have kids till like we die a lot quicker than y'all.
Yeah, but men's clock is different than women, though.
Women is different.
We own this earth a lot less than y'all.
Y'all outlive us.
Even when a woman dies.
So if a woman, it's proven when a woman, when a spouse dies and it's a female, I mean, all of you probably have seen this yourself.
The man follows right behind the woman.
Women survive, outlive their men, write books and all kinds of shit.
Yes, they do.
It's true.
I mean, that itself shows you.
It's proven to say to her.
Selfish.
We didn't choose that.
Man died from a broken goddamn heart.
I'm like selfish.
I don't want to do this.
It has to be.
You should have been stronger.
I thought men were better.
That's the crazy thing.
What happened?
So listen, even in death.
Even in death, even in death, even if it's led to our love for them, we're not allowed to be weak.
100%.
So even the fact that you're not.
So be strong and outlive us.
It's biology.
It's not our fault.
Okay, so it's not our fault that we're living longer.
What the hell?
If you die and you're crazy and your husband survives, he's following right behind you, is what I'm saying.
Typically, the husband's father, they die from a heart attack, etc.
Like the same year, less than a year out.
You never almost hear that with a woman.
You don't hear the oh, she died from a heart attack after her husband died, you know, 60, 7 years old.
You only hear that with the husband.
Right.
I mean, from either side, so I don't know.
Shit, I done heard it three times in my own family.
Them niggas drop when their wife is.
They love it.
So why is it love?
So why can't the woman follow the man?
What's lacking?
I feel like if a woman's that in love, they would too.
But it doesn't happen.
Now we're speaking, not respecting hypothetical attacks.
You gotta ask God about that.
We're speaking of hypotheticals, no, but I can ask a woman because she's here.
I can't ask him.
I can ask him, but he'll probably tell me through you.
So the question is, it's like, so why is it that a man, even in death, nigga, they ain't even allowed to die.
It's like, oh, you should have been alive.
Like, damn, that's our whole reality, bro.
So even loving a woman too hard, so you mean to tell me it validates right now that we shouldn't love you too hard.
We shouldn't go too hard.
Because if we die, you're going to say, well, damn, that nigga was too weak to live.
So it's like, man, he always put yourself first.
And you're going to be a little bit more damn good.
No, it's real.
It's real.
Because if a man don't put himself first, he'll be dead off this motherfucker.
And she's going to say, boo-hoo, you should have been stronger to be here.
Everybody put themselves first, first of all.
Yeah.
You'll consider watching a man get married in the first place then.
Because we're going to lose at the very end.
But niggas lose.
You said, why?
Losing life and death.
So what's the W here for us getting married?
You know what's crazy?
My parents didn't get married till their 27th anniversary.
They did not get married.
Like, they were just together.
And I swear to God, on everything I love, everything, I've never seen my parents argue.
That's good.
I've never seen them raise their voice at each other.
That's good.
I've seen them mad at each other.
And I only know they're mad because my mom will serve my dad a plate and just put it down on the table instead of bringing it to him.
You know what I mean?
But my mom still serves him the plate, no matter what.
You know what I mean?
Yeah, but we're in a different generation, though.
I feel like back then, it was a lot more traditional.
No, it's just like you said, were you raised with a dad?
Yeah.
You know?
But what about you?
The question: what topic were we back on again?
So you found your dream man.
What would you give to him to make it work?
I agree with a lot of the things that you were saying about the submission to a man because I feel like how can a man be a man by you not being submissive?
I am smart and I do work a lot.
So I don't just sit here and just have my hand out.
Like, my goal is for all of us to be better.
Like, at the end of the day, when we retire, I want both of us to be good.
Like, and I agree with what he was saying earlier.
Like, I feel like I'm good, but I would like to have another man to make me better.
So I listen.
Uh-huh.
You listen?
I'm observant.
Okay.
That's great.
Does it?
I'm smart.
I work hard.
And yeah.
That's amazing.
Imagine, though.
I got a 39-year-old that's smart, listens, and observant.
This is great.
What about you?
Your current man, at least.
What do I, what does he expect from me?
Yeah.
What would you say he expects from you?
In my current relationship.
Because obviously you're the boss, so boss lady.
I mean, I would say to be a bit more less vocal.
So are you like nagging him?
Annoying him?
not nagging i'm just very um are you mad at this What I feel, I say.
Opinionated.
What I feel, I say.
So, and maybe it would be just that, to be less vocal.
You know what's crazy?
I was wondering, okay, why do marriages stay along and last longer than most people being, right?
Why does it last so long?
And usually it's because each partner knows the other partner very well.
They know their habits.
They know their actual like pet peeves, all that stuff.
But what's funny is that the nagging part of women to men never goes away.
And even at the lowest, I want to say level, most women will always say, you know what?
I need to speak my mind.
But like, why are you doing that?
If you know it pisses him off, you know?
Why speak your mind if you know it's going to get him upset?
Because it's my mind to speak about.
Yeah, but you know he doesn't like it, though.
Right.
But I mean, at the end of the day, me personally, my personal opinion, I'm not living on this earth just to satisfy his needs.
She said they're equals.
So if he gets to speak, she gets to speak.
But that's a problem, though.
That's the issue.
If you're equal, that's a problem for you.
I'm sure he won't say it.
No, I'm sure that he feels that way as well.
But again, you're asking me about me.
And I can only speak for myself and I can only think for myself and I can only like move for myself.
Like I can't control what another person thinks, feels, or anything like that.
If you want it to last, he has to be happy too, right?
If I want it to last, I'm going to just always keep her, you know, as authentic as I can be to him and to myself.
Has that worked in the past, long term?
I mean, I had 10 years, seven years.
It wasn't that bad.
I'm not like the majority of women these days that are just, you know, a new, you know, they're in love with a new guy every three months.
You know, so dumb.
I hear what you're saying.
I understand.
But let's say that this is your girl.
She says to you how she feels in the moment.
It could be a bit annoying, maybe a bit nagging sometimes.
How would you respond?
Because I know how I respond.
I would say it's disrespectful because typically women only do that with a man.
They won't do it in other aspects.
Like we feel all kind of shit about people that we don't say.
Oh, no.
I speak my mind to everybody.
I mean, if you know me, you know.
I have a very, like, that's just who I am.
It's not nothing personal.
So you don't have a filter or anything?
So, I mean, I do.
I have a sense of filter that at times I can control and at times I can't.
It all depends how emotional I am at the moment.
So you're kind of dictated by your emotions.
Not my emotions, by what I feel behind my emotions.
Like what gets you to feel like.
So that's emotions behind emotions?
Because feel an emotional.
The thought of the emotion.
You know, the thought that brings behind the emotion, if that makes any sense.
Like, I'm not going to just get emotional about something just because.
But we can think emotionally.
I mean, even that thought itself stems from emotion.
I don't just think emotionally.
It's behind what comes with the emotion.
Like what I feel strongly about.
What's your biggest pet peeve?
Having to repeat myself.
Imagine, right?
I'm dating you, and I said to you, babe, what'd you say again?
Oh, I didn't hear you.
My bad.
On purpose.
How would you feel?
Oh, no.
I mean, it's something that I would answer.
But if you're something that you're doing on purpose, you can tell when somebody does something on purpose.
Oh, so I know.
If I'm your man.
I mean, me personally.
That you speaking your mind is going to piss me off.
And you still do it.
So then that shouldn't be my mind then because me speaking my mind should not be with a person that's experienced.
Because the thing is, like.
I mean, honestly speaking, if I can't speak my mind, then basically I'm just an object in your life.
It's just sitting there.
So this is the thing.
You got a lot of things.
People have a lot of things.
The problem is when people that say they speak their mind, they typically speak everything that's on their mind.
Like, we all have stuff on our mind, man.
But respect from someone else.
You can refrain from saying certain things.
I try to.
I'm being 100%.
See, the one thing I can't, I don't.
You're working on it.
No, 100%.
The first step to changing is admitting your faults.
And I've done that.
And I'm working on it.
And that's it.
That's all I can do.
I can't beat myself up about it.
Again, I come from histories of things that I've gone through in life.
Speaking Your Mind00:04:27
And I have my past traumas.
Has a man ever hit you?
Yes.
Okay.
Please.
No, no, no, no.
Shut up.
Well, I mean, it started with my father, if you want to know.
So, yes, of course.
Yeah, my father was a person in my life that would hit me.
So yes, of course.
Well, that's definitely trauma for sure.
Of course.
So that's why I say you never know what somebody's been through that makes them that way.
You know?
Did you like talk back to him?
To my dad?
No.
No.
I didn't.
He was just, as you guys would call, a leader.
And that's how he led.
I mean, I wouldn't say that bigger than anything else.
And that's how he led.
Hold on.
Forgive me here.
This is the truth.
This is the honest truth.
This might be a bit extreme.
Okay.
Hear me out here, right?
Okay.
So what I'm getting is: if a man hits you, you won't talk back.
That was my dad.
I was a child.
And as a child, you should respect your parents and you shouldn't be talking back to your parents.
Okay, so you respect your father, but not your man.
Who said that I talked back to my man?
I just state my opinions.
That's not talking back.
Oh, now, so now you go post.
You changed the definition.
No, you guys are changing it.
You redefining it because you said that.
So you're redefining it, but it's okay.
Because you said it.
Okay, my brain hurts.
Say it again.
Say it again.
Here's my point.
Okay.
You mentioned before that if well, back in the day, your dad obviously hit you.
You didn't talk back.
So I said the statement is basically for him to hit me.
I didn't.
And that's terrible, by the way.
It's what I said.
That's right.
When he hit me, it wasn't because I talked back.
He said you because he won't hit you?
Yes.
Okay.
But you respect your father.
100%.
I don't respect him.
Okay, you said earlier.
She was a kid.
My point is, is that if you respect somebody, you don't do things to hurt them or want to affect them emotionally or physically, right?
We try not to, of course.
So back to what I was saying before about your actual guy, he's like, you're talking your mind sometimes.
Why don't you stop it?
I try to.
And it all depends on, again, the type of conversation that we're having.
Every conversation shouldn't be an aggressive conversation or stating your opinion shouldn't always come from an argument.
It could be any type of conversation you're having.
I mean, that's every conversation shouldn't be an argument just because we're stating different sources of opinions.
Let's take a short break here, do some chats, because definitely I can see some trauma that's coming down the path here.
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Deserving an Ideal Guy00:06:16
So Dong, what level of school did you finish?
That's not to read.
It's a lot to read.
It's love to read.
Do that one.
You're funny.
What do you say is the biggest issue with dating now, from your opinion?
I would say expectations.
Most likely will probably be the most basic one.
But outside of that, I would just say people's perception of what a relationship is supposed to be, even at this panel.
I just think the main problem is that it's been too many bad guys that a lot of women run into.
And so their expectations of what a man specifically is and a man's expectation of what a woman is supposed to be is kind of miscured to the point that we're seeing all these conflict and these issues.
Like a woman feels like submission is a negative trait to have because they feel like it puts them in a vulnerable position to be hurt.
And that's only because they've been hurt before.
And a man feels like to provide for a woman, it makes him a simp because he's been played before and a bitch took his money and ran off.
So I just think that bad experiences, man, is the main problem with relationship.
If we actually were good people to each other initially, we wouldn't have this constant trauma.
Agreed.
So I think we're all really responsible.
We've all been fuck niggas and cheated on people and shit through our lives most of the time.
And I think it's really stems from the people that's complaining.
Right.
All right.
Triple 6G says, Freshman boy, sorry to set out from the episode today.
When are we going to have another car episode?
I'm in a bit of a car pickle.
Cars falling apart, but I'm definitely not trying to buy a new car in this market.
Neither expertise, my guy.
Thanks.
We did one for Money Monday.
Actually, this dropped on Tuesday.
But next one could do one next week as well.
What's your car pickle though?
Falling apart.
Guys, just buy used cars, man.
Buy a new car is an L. You're going to get hits on depreciation.
Also, as well, it's going to cost a lot of money for no reason.
And it's the same shit, bro.
Honestly, just buy a used car three to five years down from the previous, sort of, from the current year goes a long way.
And get it checked by a mechanic before you buy it.
And buy used, bro, because buying a new car is an L. Also, not worth it.
Gas says, ladies, why do you deserve your ideal guy?
Why should he pick you?
Also, at what level of guy will you accept cheating, PS?
You need to take away Chris Mike for real.
He's not here today, but it's fine.
So ladies, why do you deserve your ideal guy?
And why should he pick you?
Ladies, why do you deserve your ideal guy?
Why should he pick you?
I mean, me personally, I can only speak for myself.
I bring a lot to the table.
I'm not just a woman that just, you know, sits there and just takes, You know, house duties, but I also have gone to school.
I'm knowledgeable, it's just a lot that comes with me.
I mean, the good comes, the good outweighs the bad, that's for sure.
The bad has provided me a lot of experiences that have made me smarter and have pushed me to be where I'm at today.
Okay, would you say that, like, you are at the table?
I'm sorry, so you know how women say I'm the table?
That I am the table.
Would I say that I am the table?
Yeah, I mean, a table is nothing without chairs.
So, so your man's the chairs.
That's the kids.
I would say we all play a part in the chair and the table.
It all comes together.
Okay.
What about you?
What I deserve.
Your ideal guy.
Why should she pick you?
Well, I don't know.
An ideal guy is someone who why should he pick me?
Them lips.
I'm just saying I was just helping you out, man.
Helping you out.
Come on.
I am very submissive.
Okay, submissive.
You observe, you think?
No, I am observant, and I do think.
And I am always willing to change and learn new things.
Like, I'm not just like to be taken care of, but I do take care of my man as well, too.
Like, you know, it's like how they say, you know, he pays the mortgage, I'll take care of the bills.
Like, you know, it's like, I do want two Benzes in my driveway than having to settle for two Hondas in our driveway.
So it's like, you know, I do want us to be better and progress.
So it's not just that I'm coming to be like gimme, gimme, gimme.
Like, I'm here to also help you and whatever I can to make us better.
Right.
That's not too bad.
Benz's are pretty affordable.
So affordable cars.
So, so I'll take a Honda.
They're good too, you know.
But you know what I mean?
Like, you know, if we can make ourselves better, live better, be more comfortable, that'll be great.
So it's like, whatever I do have to do for this relationship, I will do it the same way I would expect him to do the same.
Exactly.
Sounds good.
Sounds good.
For you?
Why should he pick me?
I mean, he already did, but right.
Why do you think he picked you out of all the girls to get it picked?
Because I'm very, one, I'm very catering, like, very, very catering.
I'm like motherly, but not in that sense that you said he's looking for a mother.
Motherly, like, I'll cook for you every day.
You know, like, right.
I'm very motherly.
Like, something hurts.
I got you.
You know, band-aid, like, whatever.
And that's definitely one of the main first reasons why.
So you're not drinking.
Like, huh?
Nurturing, yeah, like that.
And why do I deserve my ideal guy?
Because of that, right?
Okay.
And then for you?
I just feel like you my answers be different.
Motherly Nurturing Traits00:11:25
Like, nobody added a cigarette when she said that.
Like, hold on.
I'm going to get what I deserve regardless.
So don't nobody have to pick me because I'm already chosen.
So it is what it is.
Thank you.
I love options.
Okay.
No, but I gotta get hold of them.
I'm good.
What's your last thoughts here on the show?
And then I've done closed out.
So, thoughts on the show?
Close it for you.
Hit love it.
What'd you learn?
If anything at all?
Well, after this podcast, I definitely feel like men do think they're superior.
Here we go.
I mean, I'm not saying that it's not, but I don't know.
I just feel like men and women have different roles in this world and nobody's better than anybody.
You know, and that's just the way it goes.
What positions outside of birth does a woman exceed outside of a man?
Okay, so I was waiting for somebody to ask me now.
So with that being said, a woman holds the household down.
A woman takes care of children, love.
You know, there's many roles that a woman plays that men cannot.
You guys can be the leaders, the superior, the providers, but without love in the household, you guys really have.
All of that sounds like assistance, right?
I never said that I'm better than you, though.
You said that better than that.
But I never said men are superior, but either a woman.
You get what I'm saying?
I'm not saying nobody's better.
No, no, but men are superior.
And I will never agree to that.
You don't have to agree to it.
The thing is, so if I have a basketball team in LeBron James, let's say in his heyday, he was a starter team.
It's undeniable.
Niggas don't have to accept it or not.
Six men isn't as valuable as LeBron James.
It's not about being emotional.
It's about admitting that this motherfucker does more than everyone else on the team.
But not everybody's a LeBron James.
That's another thing.
Not everyone's a LeBron James, but LeBron James is a leader on the team.
And that's what we're talking about.
We're talking about LeBron on his team.
So a man in your household, he is supposed to be LeBron James.
If he is the LeBron James in your household, he is better, whether you like it or not.
And if he is LeBron James of your team in your household, it's just a man being a man.
So if a man is being what he's, his God-given right, he's better than you.
He's superior than you.
The only man that's not superior to you are bad men, which you shouldn't be wasting your time with, of course.
But if you're around a man that's genuine man, he is your superior.
There's nothing you can do about that.
There's nothing, there's nowhere you can show me where a man doesn't excel in a woman that we didn't even give you the position to even attempt.
I mean, we gave you the right to vote.
We gave you the right to leave schools.
Did you women even know that before we gave y'all the right to be teachers, that the education system was much better?
No, this is not misogynistic propaganda.
No.
We genuinely lost a lot of our education once you were able to start teaching.
Or even our voting rights.
So it went from liberal to conservative.
You know, that liberals wouldn't win an election at all if women weren't able to vote.
And they target women because they're targeting you through emotion because they know you don't understand policy.
You don't have time to think about it.
It doesn't feel good to learn policy.
So you don't.
Men, because we're superior, we're willing to do the things that's hard.
That's not fun.
You think we enjoy this political shit?
No.
But we do it because we're superior.
We know it's necessary and we know society is based on it.
It isn't because it doesn't feel good.
It's because we're better and we know what it takes to be good.
It's not about how we feel.
That's what makes us superior because we don't do things from what we feel we do because it's demanded.
And that's okay.
That's not your position to do that.
That's why you're supposed to assist.
But no assistant should ever think they're superior.
The student should never think he's better than the teacher.
So what would you do without that assistance?
What would you do without the assistance?
You can still excel.
Men will just be empty.
Oh, is that really what you think?
How can you say this when a woman gave birth to you?
That's kind of crazy.
This is the thing.
So you're saying, and that's exactly crazy.
That's typically where it is.
That's their last position.
What did I start this off with?
I said it's beside birth.
Beside birth.
Because that's, you know what?
Every time I start speaking at man shit, that's what you women always revert to.
Your basic nature of giving birth.
That's your one-up on us.
And that's your only one-up because it's your only position.
That's what makes you special.
You're here to give air to our children.
I mean, I'm not going to get into it, but I'm not saying that men are better and women are better, but I just don't feel like men are the superior ones.
I feel like everybody has an equal view.
And I'm always going to stick to that.
And that's fine.
You can fit this.
You can stick that.
People stick to delusions every day.
It wouldn't make you no different from the average American.
But nonetheless, man came here first.
You came from our rib, not the other way around.
You are our assistants.
You're here to assist us.
The only reason that you feel that's conflicting, you haven't found a man good enough to assist.
And you haven't found a good, a good woman enough either.
You can say that.
You haven't found a woman clearly to put you and put me in with you in the scenario that you could feel like women are women and men, not equal, but we play a big role.
I'm never, and I'm sorry for you.
When I was broke, when I was broke and I was looking for a way when I was still a boy trying to be a man, I found a lot of equals, but they didn't respect me the way they should have.
Maybe y'all weren't good.
There's no trauma behind this.
There's no trauma whatsoever.
Maybe y'all weren't good enough for Earth by the way.
There's no trauma.
I don't hate bitches.
We had to come.
And he had to make us out of your rib.
Yeah, there's no trauma whatsoever.
You guys weren't good enough.
I mean, my trauma, but God was like, we didn't put bitches on this earth.
You don't understand that y'all have no substance without us.
You wouldn't exist unless we had to rip together.
And I like that too.
You got that.
You could have.
He could have left it all men on this earth.
And he could have.
But the thing is, he gave Adam an assistant.
He didn't give Adam a leader.
From your very start, you were here to help.
Whether you like it or not.
That's like a man arguing with opposition against God.
Every man will tell you God leads the household.
I go first, the woman, second, and the kids.
Bro, men don't argue their position.
Why are women so argumentative over their position on earth?
Eve did the same thing, and look where we ended up.
That's why y'all bleed every morning.
I know my position, but I still like to hear everybody's like point of view.
You know what I mean?
I know my, like I said, my parents have been saying, I've never seen them argue.
Why do I not see them argue?
Because my mom don't, my mom's not the woman to be bickering back and forth with him.
You know what I mean?
And my mom respects.
They respect each other, really.
But it seems like to me, the woman here at the table that has the parents with the longest marriage is the woman that's doing what the fuck she's supposed to do.
Now, that thing, that's also odd.
Your mom seems like she's less argumentative.
Isn't that conflicting?
And she makes.
And you're saying you think I am?
No.
I'm simply stating that I am that your mom is being a woman.
He's being a man.
And that's why it's able to last so long.
Yeah.
And I think that's the thing.
Like I said, I said, I know my part, but I just like to hear everybody's thing because I saw a meme literally like two days ago and it spoke about that.
It was like, we came from their rib, but maybe it was because they couldn't last without women.
If a man doesn't feel that he's superior, he will never secure his woman.
If a man breaks into the house and we're married and a nigga breaks through our door and I say, baby, the shotgun in the closet, could you please go get and handle that nigga?
But I'm the type of girl that's going to grab the shotgun.
Don't know it.
You're going to lay that nigga down.
With you.
And I respect the girl.
No, no, no, baby girl.
I said, I need you to grab the shotgun.
No, no, no, no.
I need to go run in the closet.
I need you to get the gun and kidnapping him out of here.
Oh, no, baby.
We ain't going to get it.
But I'm not superior.
Hold on.
Get him when he's in your closet.
If you don't feel like a man is supposed to be superior, why can't you take that role?
What's the problem with you being the superior in that moment of life and death?
But what's wrong with me wanting to grab the gun and be right next to you?
No, I don't need you to be next to me.
I need you to leave.
We're equal.
You're my superior.
So go kill that nigga.
Okay.
So why you can't go to the bathroom?
You know what?
You got that.
You got that.
So that's their natural position.
A man is superior.
And if he's not superior, you're going to have complaints when he isn't acting like a superior.
Yeah.
100%.
Okay.
Thoughts in the show?
Hey, I love it.
Thank you for having me.
It was fun.
I appreciate it.
Everyone's.
We were all interesting.
And if you want your kitties beached, holla at me.
Yeah, get it.
Get that shit.
Reset.
Get that shit reset.
So, who's superior?
Men or women?
Who's superior?
Men.
Okay.
Yeah.
What you learned today?
What about you?
What's the question?
My thoughts on the show?
Last thoughts?
The show.
Thank you for having me.
Thank you for everybody sharing their opinions.
Like I said earlier, we're all different people, whether we're men, women, everybody has a different mindset.
Yes, I have learned where you guys come from with your opinions on the leadership facts.
And again, it's not about that.
Women don't know their roles.
It's just some women have been pushed to carry on a different role.
It's more so my opinion.
So, yes, and don't forget we got Boss Patty's podcast coming through.
Thank you guys for having us and seeing more of our story, our growth.
Two baby mamas.
You know, women a lot of days don't like to support women.
So girls, one cup.
Cheers.
Why not get freaky like that?
It's not that type of party.
Sorry, right?
But anyhow, women don't like to support women these days, I find.
So I'm very glad in trying to, you know, along with other women, putting that out there and pushing us to grow and be, you know, more better.
Well, I will say that having the same baby daddy is not that strange, but doing a podcast together is definitely strange.
Right, especially coming from our history and you know, the problems that we've been through in the tank, right?
Yeah.
Well, I mean, oh God, it wasn't me.
I've done more than that, but not that.
How did we make them?
That you're going to have to see it on our podcast.
Okay.
I'm going to just let y'all know we did live together.
Yeah, we moved in together afterwards.
While my daughter was big, wait, wait, two y'all into Timos himself?
Yes.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That nigga was living a life, low-key, though.
No, not living the life, but he did find himself in a more peaceful state of mind.
That's for sure.
Sister wives.
I'm just saying a man.
Sister wives are fucking the same dude.
That's not that type of party.
Well, he was blessed because you can't never really have bigger life.
And he was more happy for the peace.
How many men can say that?
You know, so I mean, we winning already.
All right, Dom.
Where can it find you, bro?
YouTube and Twitter, Instagram, all social media.
Can you bring up Dom's YouTube real quick on the screen?
So it's crazy because at the same time, I've met Dom for a year now?
Yeah, yeah, it's been over.
Dom's are you doing YouTube?
How long now?
Really?
It started like last year when I first created the channel and stuff.
And just started.
You get a lot of views now, bro.
Yeah, man.
It's crazy.
It's kicking off.
That's what's up.
Shout out to Dom.
And then, Dom, what's coming up next for you, bro?
Right now, I'm interviewing Tori Lane's father.
That should be next month.
So we're going to do an exclusive drop-in on Jason.
Let's go.
So that should be really good.
Outside of that, I have, I don't forget, I got like two different, two different other interviews I'm supposed to be setting up.
Going to the White House again sometime before the end of this month.
Nice.
And I think I'm skipping CPAC because that's up in Texas.
I'm supposed to be leaving like tonight.
But outside of that, man, you see me at some political events, and whatnot.
That's nice.
Here's Dom's YouTube right here, guys.
Go stuff to him.
Go support him.
And we'll be doing a show on Friday with Tommy Robinson coming into town with some girls.
It will be lit.
So to stay through for that on Friday, we're out of here.