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Dec. 27, 2022 - Fresh & Fit

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The Financial RISKS Of Getting Married! What Society DOESN'T Tell you!

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	It's a Fresh Fit Podcast, man.
	It's Money Monday!
	We've got a very important topic.
	We're going to talk about marriage and the costs that you don't see coming.
	This might save your life, man, and save you some pennies, so let's get into it.
	it.
	Let's go.
	Welcome to Fresh Fit Podcast, man.
	It's Money Monday, man.
	As y'all know, one of my favorite days, man.
	So quick analysis before we get into the show.
	Number one, rumble.com slash freshandfit.
	As you guys know, we're going to get canceled at any point now.
	And the content that we make is not safe for YouTube, not safe for the internet, not safe for TikTok, not safe for anything really.
	That's why we keep getting banned on other platforms whenever people repurpose our stuff.
	So check us out on Rumble.com slash FreshFit.
	So if we do go down, you'll know where to find us.
	Also, FreshFit.locals.com, guys.
	Fresh just went live right before we did the show.
	You guys get to see behind-the-scenes stuff, whether it's us going out into town, double dates, Fresh, womanizing to his usual.
	While we're late for the podcast.
	Yeah, while we're late.
	Or, you know, him and his many adventures putting X-rated stuff.
	Well, not really X-rated.
	Let's say like Y-rated.
	Allegedly.
	Chris, you got that?
	Got you.
	It's not Patreon.
	Okay, whatever.
	Yeah.
	So yeah, man.
	Freshandfit.locals.com and all our old Patreon videos are there.
	So if you guys want to go ahead and check out old Patreon content, it's all there for y'all at Locals.
	Also, guys, we're on Megaphone, okay?
	We're no longer on Spotify or Anchor or any of these other guys.
	We are on Megaphone.
	So if you guys want to listen to us on audio, go ahead and click one of the two links below and check us out.
	We got one for Fresh and Fit and one for Fresh and Fit After Hours.
	Also, check out with other members of the Discord, guys, at discord.gg slash freshandfit.
	Go ahead and check us out there.
	Talk with members from all over the world, different walks of life, but we all got the same mindset.
	Also, check us out at fresherpodcaststore.com.
	Hoodies and t-shirts, I'm thinking I'm going to launch them at the beginning of next year.
	Okay, guys?
	I got the designs.
	I'm still tweaking them a bit.
	I kind of want them perfect before we launch them, but they are fucking hilarious.
	So, we're going to have some Shirts that will probably get you in trouble at your job.
	Chris is hating these shirts.
	Yeah, he's hating them, but they're funny.
	And then our other YouTube channel, guys, is Fresh and Fit Clips.
	That channel's going crazy right now.
	We need you guys to go and subscribe to that channel, guys.
	76%.
	Of the people that watch that channel are not subscribed.
	So that means we got a lot of Ninja Watchers over there because that channel is getting a lot of views, but yet people are not subscribing.
	Guys, it's very simple.
	Just hit that red button on the top right and subscribe to the channel, okay?
	Look at all those plaques, man.
	We need one more, bro.
	Yeah, we need one more.
	I need one more million plaque, bro.
	I don't care about getting fed it to a million.
	I want fresh fit clips at another one milli so we can have two plaques so we can flex them on haters like LaSan, Lobby, and Layback, and all these other dorks that talk shit about us, okay?
	Because there's nothing I'd take more satisfaction in than lapping YouTubers that talk shit about us that have been on the platform way longer than us.
	And I was getting more views and more subscribers than those fucking bums.
	Alright?
	So, yeah.
	Okay.
	And the next vlog channel.
	Chris, can you bring my channel real quick?
	So we had a funny-ass livestream, man.
	It was the fake Mia Khalifa, myself, Asking questions, but the questions were not about me.
	It was about her being a virgin with her ex boyfriend for four years.
	What?!
	So go to videos, Chris.
	Sorry, lives.
	What the fuck?!
	Basically speaking, she dated a guy for four years and he apparently never smashed.
	No, go to live, Chris, at the very top, if you don't mind.
	But that was a crazy debate.
	Sicko pulled up as well.
	It is his virgin friend.
	It was pretty dope.
	So go check it out, man.
	Yeah.
	Gotta put time stamps in that bad boy, man.
	Yeah, I need to.
	Come on, man.
	I need someone that can do it for me.
	Yeah.
	Bruh.
	I mean...
	My nigga's slow, bro.
	I mean, I sometimes, if it's like, it depends, if it's like something for Fetit that's like very detailed that I want you to really understand, I'll just do it myself.
	Yeah, because I'll know where it's nuanced and stuff like that.
	And yeah, guys, check me out on Fetit 1811.
	As you guys know, I've written down promo cases on there.
	The most recent one I did, if we could pull it up real fast, Chris.
	I went ahead and broke down the Gunna plea deal, guys.
	I went ahead and actually pulled up the document and I explained, you know, what it's like to get a plea deal, what an Alford plea is, which is what Gunna put in.
	Did he actually snitch?
	Did he not?
	And yeah, go check it out.
	I break it down.
	I got all the time stamps in there.
	If you guys go in there, I go into detail as to all the different chapters about like, you know, did he actually snitch?
	Here's a document.
	We will go over news articles.
	We go over the YSL indictment, what he actually pled guilty to.
	So there's detailed timestamps in there for y'all.
	And the other thing, too, I want you guys to know is that I'm dropping an episode on the most prolific serial killer in United States history.
	The guy's name is Samuel Little.
	He had 93 confessions for murders of women through the 1970s all the way up to 2005.
	Yeah.
	He killed him all by strangulation of his hands, who's kind of a weirdo.
	But, yeah, and the FBI confirmed 60 of his kills, so he is the number one serial killer in the United States for the most confirmed kills.
	It's like fucking playing Call of Duty or some shit.
	Damn.
	But, yeah, guys, that video's gonna drop on Thursday.
	I just filmed a breakdown for that one.
	That's why I couldn't go to the...
	Yeah.
	Because they've been asking for that one.
	I did a poll on Instagram.
	I said, yo, which serial killer y'all won?
	He won, like, overwhelmingly.
	So, you got over 50%.
	It's a fun time for you guys, man.
	Facts.
	Y'all cock-blocked me, man.
	I could have got some action, too, possibly.
	But, uh...
	Make a kid downstairs.
	Yeah, man.
	So, anyway, it is what it is, though.
	I love y'all, man.
	We don't get fucked by these hoes.
	Which, by the way, if you're at the strip club on Christmas Day, then that is the number one identifier.
	So I was in there, right?
	You were at Gold Rush, right?
	Gold Rush.
	I'm sober because I don't really like partaking in alcohol at all.
	And it's funny because I was like, hold on a second.
	I'm looking at all girls in here.
	I'm like, okay, one there, one there, one there.
	There's about 20 or 30 girls in there.
	Not dancers.
	No, no.
	Dancers.
	Okay, okay.
	So this is dancers, right?
	I'm like, you got no family.
	Where's your dad at?
	Why are you here on Christmas Day?
	It's crazy.
	And then secondly, I'm like, oh shit!
	Oh shit!
	I'm like, why are you here?
	I'm like, I got no family here, so fuck it.
	It doesn't count to me, though.
	Because I don't got no family here.
	They're all in Barbados, motherfuckers.
	But it's funny to see, bro.
	I mean, you could have went home to Barbados, but you don't celebrate Christmas.
	They got to do a show here.
	I can't just go for one day and come back.
	Yeah, you could have, bro.
	Nah, bro.
	You could have, man.
	That's a lot, bro.
	But we don't, I mean, you don't celebrate Christmas anyway, though.
	I don't, I don't.
	Yeah, well, I don't either, man.
	Pagan holiday.
	Yeah, yeah, exactly.
	Santa calls worshipers.
	Yeah, but I got a lot done, man.
	I went to the gym.
	I filmed two podcasts.
	So, yeah, man, I felt good to get everything done.
	Pause.
	Jerked off.
	That was later on.
	Hold on, hold on.
	Chris, what do you do for Christmas, bro?
	What do you do?
	Me personally?
	Just rest, man.
	It's a pain in the ass to do with these girls, man.
	So, I streamed online, too.
	Shout out to the merch gang that came through.
	Get some subs.
	Had a good time with them.
	Definitely did a few things.
	Upgraded my streaming platform.
	And, yeah, just had a great time with that.
	What's wrong with your hoodie, bro?
	You look like the hunchback retard-omus.
	Yo, yo, yo.
	I'm on a lie, bro.
	I'm like, what's wrong with this hoodie?
	It's a little weird.
	I'm on a lie.
	It was raining outside, so I was like, fuck this shit.
	You just like tucked it in your neck?
	I don't know what happened, man.
	What the fuck?
	He's trying to cover your head.
	What the fuck is going on, bro?
	He probably can't even get his head into the hoodie, bro.
	That's it.
	It's right here.
	Yo.
	His head got bigger, bro.
	I don't know what's happening.
	Chris put the hoodie on just like this.
	I apologize to you guys, man.
	He's like, put the hoodie on.
	Hey, put the camera on me.
	Oh, shit.
	He's like this, bro.
	He came.
	Oh, no.
	Yo, Mo.
	What about you, bro?
	What was your Christmas like?
	Oh, shit.
	Oh, yeah, this nigga, bro.
	This little check will be like, who's that on the couch?
	Stop it in the dark.
	Oh, man.
	Well, I just hung out with my sister and her family, and, you know, she has three girls, so I always love seeing them.
	Three girls?
	Goddamn.
	Yo, look at Mo.
	Mo would be like, yo, look at my Christmas chair.
	Shout out to you, Mo.
	Yeah.
	Love you too, Fresh.
	Ow!
	And as y'all can see, I got my Christmas gift somewhat.
	Like, my hair is growing back more than it used to be.
	As you guys can see, it's still thin on the top.
	However, it is growing back significantly from before.
	And then if you guys look at the back of my dome, pause.
	Can you hit camera, I think, three or four?
	Yep.
	Or five?
	Three or four.
	If y'all remember, this shit back here used to be all ball, man.
	This whole thing, man.
	So the crater is slowly getting filled in, man.
	And when I do a full recovery, don't worry, guys.
	I still have the pictures.
	I still have everything.
	And I'm going to give y'all a full debrief and breakdown of...
	The hair transplant surgery, where I got it done, how much I paid, how I did it.
	I'm going to show you guys all the grotesque pictures of my head being cut open.
	Oh, God.
	Yeah, bro.
	So, since your hair's growing back, should I invite Smiley's girls to the platform this week?
	I mean...
	Oh, those lesbians?
	No, no, just crazy-ass girls.
	Oh, yeah, yeah.
	They always talk about my hair.
	But, yeah, it is what it is.
	But, yeah, it's growing back, guys.
	It's only been six months.
	I got it in June, so it takes about one full year for it to grow back.
	So it's coming in, man.
	It's coming in.
	It's still a little light on the top, but it's going to grow in.
	It's coming.
	It's coming, slowly but surely.
	That's what they always say.
	Speaking of, it's coming.
	Yeah, okay.
	Let's hit these chats real quick and before we get to today's topic.
	Okay, Chris.
	Marriage cause divorce.
	Ten bucks.
	Yo, shout out to you, bro.
	I'm going to give you a dime to Marco.
	Because I saw you go crazy in the chat.
	We mentioned marriage in the title.
	He's their support.
	He's like, yo, I've been through this shit, nigga.
	Yeah.
	So shout out to you, bro.
	We definitely got to give you a Don DeMarco for that, man.
	I know you've been wanting us to cover this.
	And I actually look back at our episodes and we never really did a full episode on the damages of marriage from a financial standpoint.
	And just so you all know, actually, you know what?
	I'll make that intro after.
	Okay.
	If 100K men watch the stream, each man avoids marriage and saves at least 100K in property loss, alimony, legal fees on divorce, 100K viewers times 100,000 savings, 10 billion worth of value from FNF. Yes, you're right, my friend.
	Worst part about divorce is begging a single mom, Karen, divorce judge, for your own money back and permission to see your own kids.
	When you get married, you lose all control over your money and kids.
	Okay.
	Whenever a man is striving in life and self-improving, there is always a three or four ready to mess things up.
	Probably the most important money Monday stream.
	Guys, burn this into your brains.
	There's no point making money if you're going to get married and then get finessed by Karen, the divorce judge.
	Spend some time thinking how to keep the money you have made, okay?
	Wow.
	And then, this is all for marriage cause divorce, by the way.
	Yeah, he going in.
	People don't realize what marriage is.
	It's an agreement between husband and state that the husband will lose his money, house, and kids on divorce.
	Most guys only realize this when it's too late.
	That's facts.
	That's a good point, though.
	Vikranami goes...
	By Rod Eric goes, what's good FNF slash Discord?
	Myron, Fresh, Chris, and Moe.
	I've started my vlog channel.
	Type in Rod Eric on YouTube.
	Fellas, thanks for supporting FNF Dallas.
	See you at One Million Party.
	Yes, guys, go subscribe to his channel, guys.
	Go support him.
	Rod Eric on YouTube.
	At Rod X Eric on YouTube.
	Go check him out.
	He's one of the members of FNF Dallas, man.
	Huge supporter.
	Great guy.
	Good dude.
	Awesome guy.
	Very pure pause.
	Biggest myth in RP is that men only lose half in divorce.
	They also lose legal fees and alimony, which we're going to talk about that, plus add-ons if it is equitable distribution state.
	The UK is equitable distribution, and I lost 70%.
	Holy marriage-caused divorce.
	Wow.
	And then Josh next goes, red pill taken, ascend, rise, get up, warriors.
	Got you.
	And then John Rampage goes, the Mighty Ducks starring LaSan Piker.
	Starring LaSan Piker.
	Oh, okay, yeah.
	And then, damn, Rumble doesn't have the video where I let off at and I miss a lot, but I'll continue to support.
	Chris is a bum.
	All right, Edwin, I appreciate that.
	He wants to merge.
	Yeah, Hassan took a big L that time trying to argue with me about the Fifth Amendment.
	He don't know what he's talking about.
	He said that his argument was you could take the Fifth Amendment And what I was saying is, though that is true and you can take the Fifth Amendment any time, you can only really assert that Fifth Amendment privilege if you have reasonable expectation that you're going to be prosecuted for incriminating statements you may make.
	However, if you are not making statements that are going to incriminate yourself, you cannot use the Fifth Amendment.
	You are compelled to testify or else you can deal with legal consequences of being held in a contempt of court, obstruction of justice, etc.
	And that's what I was trying to explain to him because he was like...
	Whatever!
	Like, no, dummy, then no one will testify.
	Think about it.
	Yeah.
	What the hell?
	His whole argument of assuming what the verdict was correct on is because he felt like his emotions and his feelings were important to the case, but that's irrelevant.
	It's what actually happened with the evidence.
	So he's arguing for a mute point.
	He's one of those guys, bro, that will argue something in bad faith even if he knows that he's not right and or he doesn't have expertise in it.
	The big difference is, like, for example, let's say we started talking about, like, politics.
	I wouldn't really get too much into politics because I don't consider myself a political commentator.
	But I talk about things that I know I know versus just talking on shit I don't know.
	But he's that type of guy that he'll talk on stuff he doesn't know because he thinks he knows.
	And his audience is too stupid to correct him on it.
	Here in Australia, we got 304s in court.
	Was that claiming half of their ex's property after living there with them for only four months under the de facto rule?
	All right?
	Wow.
	I've been following all of your mail advice for four months now, working on an auto repair business that was profitable last week and working a day job.
	I've been getting in shape and I quit smoking.
	Thank you.
	Yes, my friend.
	That's what it's about.
	Podcast 2023, Fresh and Bald.
	Thank you very much, Fresh and Bald.
	What pushed you from procrastination to motivated?
	We're going to talk about that, actually, for Fresh.
	Special thanks for the RP playlist with Rolo.
	You are using a silver platter to save many lives.
	Much appreciated.
	Thank you.
	Simply too awesome.
	Speaking of which, guys, my book is...
	We got all seven chapters written.
	It's going to be seven chapters, about 75 pages.
	I just need to make some edits and add some stuff in there.
	And it's going to be out probably first quarter of next year, guys.
	You guys are really going to love it.
	Hassan, I'll be sitting on the toilet pissing watching his first ever Super Chat.
	Keep it grinding.
	Big dogs.
	Thank you so much, Sema Auto.
	Yeah, now I see why he's been ducking us for so long on a debate, guys.
	So, it is what it is.
	And it's not about clout, by the way.
	I know y'all are like, well, he just wants to clout, whatever.
	Bro, we gave him an opportunity to debate us and Andrew Tate, the most Googled man on earth, and he still declined.
	Bro, then if that's the case, then no, you're just scared.
	Just show it support.
	10 bucks for monkey.
	Do you sell enterprise 10 properties before marriage can even be considered two year minimum vending process marriage rather than the Lambos?
	All right.
	Credit card question.
	What would be, you know, guys, I think next Monday we're overdue to give you guys another episode on credit updated for 2023.
	And what I'm thinking is we'll do one for travel credit cards, one for general all-use credit card, cashback card, and then we'll do one for beginner.
	So we'll give you guys a whole credit series in 2023.
	Give me what's in the chat if y'all want that.
	Update it for 2023 because as you guys know...
	Things change.
	Things change.
	Offers change.
	You know, credit cards fall off the pedestal.
	Sometimes they get nerfed.
	Sometimes they don't.
	New cards come on the scene.
	So what I'll do is I'll do an updated credit, a full credit thing.
	Probably an episode on how to get your credit on point is the first one, right?
	Beginner intro to credit, right?
	Then beginner credit cards, then cashback credit cards, and then travel credit cards.
	Yeah.
	And then also, we'll add a bonus, business credit cards for y'all.
	Which are the best business credit cards to get?
	For any of you guys out there that want to be entrepreneurs.
	If y'all want that, give me one in the chat.
	Because a lot of you guys really love the credit information that we get.
	I get messages every single day from y'all saying, y'all bump my credit score up 100 to 300 points.
	And I'm like, holy bro, that's fucking awesome.
	Yeah, I mean, you're spending the money anyway, so might as well get benefits from it.
	Yeah, man.
	And it amazes me how so many people don't know this information on using credit cards and leveraging them to get your credit score up, get things that you would have bought anyway, and simultaneously increase your credit score.
	So we got you, man.
	You guys get a lot of value from that credit stuff.
	I did not think you guys were going to love it that much.
	So we're going to...
	And it's just kind of like a thing that I kind of did on the side.
	And I didn't realize until I did an episode, I'll never forget, with Donovan.
	And I talked about the Apple credit card one time.
	It just came up randomly on conversation.
	And I talked about the pluses and negatives of having it and where you should and shouldn't use it.
	And everyone was like mesmerized, like, whoa!
	What the hell?
	No, no, no.
	You told me you could get all this.
	I was like, yeah, bro.
	Yeah, it's an Apple credit card, but I think that this credit card is actually better for this use.
	And that's kind of when people are like, whoa, bro, you need to do something on credit cards.
	And that's when it hit me.
	People want this information because we don't teach, especially young men, we don't teach y'all how to use credit to your advantage to not only get stuff using other people's money, but also increase your credit score, which then will make you a better lendee, which will then allow you to purchase assets.
	I think the money talk and financial education is kind of missing from our current system.
	And as a result, we don't know what to do with our money.
	So that's a good point.
	And our credit score is, guys, I'm constantly in the high 700s and Fresh is pretty much always at 800.
	So we got y'all, man.
	You know, this is really needed information.
	I can't tell America with no score.
	So if I can come over here, no score, read a book, apply it, and make that go to court.
	What's your excuse?
	This dude could barely speak English.
	Facts, bro.
	You figured it out.
	So what's your excuse?
	Do you guys know if you can take alimony away with putting it in prenuptial agreement?
	I don't know about that.
	Depends on the state.
	What about prenups?
	Carlton, Darville.
	Well, that prenup's got to be written ironclad, bro.
	And even then, it could still fuck you up.
	Yeah, it can't always save you, bro.
	It depends on the state that you're in.
	It's a gamble.
	They also talked about this topic on...
	Credit score went up to 70 points because of this pod.
	F the haters.
	There we go.
	Kenny the Goldsmith.
	That's what I'm talking about.
	Love is enough was what the ex-wife said.
	Now she says you still look good.
	Swerve on that 304 bros.
	I'm millions up on game now.
	Trucking over headaches.
	FNF saved my life.
	That cohabitation is a bad idea too.
	What are the options for LTRs?
	What are the options for kids?
	We'll talk about that.
	Kenny the Goldsmith, my homeboy, is giving me marriage advice.
	I trust him because he's done it four times.
	Goddamn.
	So proud of your success.
	I apply your teachings as if they are law, as well as the Tates.
	I have a video dropping soon called Andrew Tate, Modern Day Tyrant.
	Okay?
	He's not a tyrant, but I think he's trying to say that's what the media describes him as.
	And guys, from this point forward, we're only going to read 20 and up so that we can make sure that we get underway with the show.
	But last one here from D.L. St.
	Happy holidays to the entire Fresh Fit fam.
	Shout out to Myron, Fresh, Chris, and Big Mo.
	Alimony and child support can wreck you.
	Listen up, people.
	Keep leaning from the front, gentlemen.
	Alright, cool.
	So that brings us, guys, to the topic at hand, okay?
	And before anyone says, Myron Fresh, how are you talking about marriage?
	You've never been married before.
	Well, just so you know, if you forgot, I was there, bro.
	I was in your seat.
	I did it for you, so you don't have to do it, bro.
	And look, I stepped up.
	But then I stepped away.
	Thank God.
	It worked out.
	And this topic came...
	Actually, you guys voted for this topic.
	We did a poll because we really want to get y'all involved and give you guys what you want.
	And this one, I think, won by...
	It did win by a landslide.
	It was like 52% maybe, something like that.
	It just edged out, but it was a majority.
	So, yeah.
	I mean, today's guys' topic is we're going to talk about the dangers of marriage from a financial perspective.
	And I'm going to kind of...
	Fresh alluded to it, but guys, yes.
	I have never been married, but Fresh has...
	So look, he's going to interrogate me for you guys to get a full reaction from my experience of being married.
	Look, I get it.
	Stupid Fresh.
	Look, I did it for you, bro.
	So you don't do it yourself.
	And I think it's very important.
	They say a smart person learns from his mistakes.
	A wise person learns from other mistakes.
	So yeah, Fresh is about to tell you all of his L's tonight, man.
	So Fresh, let me ask you a question.
	So...
	Can you tell us how you got married?
	What led up to that?
	So, people get married for different reasons, right?
	But the most reason I can see that makes sense is they say it for love.
	However, what I did is I said, you know what?
	I'm in America, right?
	I was raised in a Christian family and I met a girl.
	And I was told growing up, like, hey, if you were the girl...
	Are you moving with her?
	You should be married at least in the church.
	And it's typical because in that teaching, it's like, okay, you don't want to have sex before marriage.
	You don't want to also do certain things before I actually get married.
	So, you know what?
	If I'm going to make this serious before God, I should at least be married.
	So, I walked into it.
	I met the girl.
	So, you had pressure from your family to marry her?
	Family, religion.
	And I was like, you know what?
	I don't want to do things the wrong way.
	And you were going to be...
	You were going to school to become a minister, right?
	Yeah.
	So, funny story.
	What's up?
	I think that's important for the people to know, too, that you were very, religion kind of, like, blinded you a bit.
	Yeah, but it can't be grounded, though, because I would have done some dumb shit earlier on.
	But overall, though, that premise and that foundation is funny, because I was actually studying computer science in Barbados, and then I was like, you know what?
	This is cool and all, but I want to do more than just for myself.
	You know, I want to do things for other people.
	And I was helping into church and then my pastor recommended, hey, like, you know, Walter, I think you're in a good spot to become a minister yourself.
	Like, you know, definitely preaching would be funny as hell for me speaking.
	Wait, wait, they have computers over there?
	Chris, you are stupid, bro.
	Chris, you're for the kids.
	You're for the kids too, bro.
	I'm stupid.
	Anyhow, your family is.
	The point is that he said, you know what?
	I think you should go to Alberta, Canada.
	It was the mission place you can go to.
	And they teach you how to become a minister.
	And I almost went.
	And then I came to Miami first, and the rest was history, bro.
	Like, I don't know what it was.
	I said, you know what?
	I just want to go to Miami first, see what it's like, because I've never been here before.
	So here's the plan, right?
	The plan was to go to Vegas, go to this conference, and go to New York, right, visit family, and then decide if I want to stay there or go to Miami and figure it out.
	I said, Miami, figure it out.
	And I was still grounded, so to speak, in the church, but I was more like trying to hustle how to get my money on point.
	And I kind of focus on that more than anything else.
	However, when I found somebody after getting my money up, Being responsible.
	I was like, damn.
	If I'm supposed to be a man of God, you know, I need to actually...
	And you mean by meet somebody.
	This is when you met your ex-wife.
	Yeah, yeah.
	So, this is a little history.
	So, I worked for myself for a year and a half.
	I didn't go out and party.
	I just worked for myself, saved money, paid all my tools because...
	What year was this approximately?
	This was 2014.
	This is 2014.
	All right.
	So, you're fresh here in the United States.
	You've been here only for about a year and a half.
	Yeah.
	You came in about 2012, 2013.
	Yeah.
	So, you worked for a year and a half saving your money.
	I didn't know anybody...
	I didn't know anything.
	You know what?
	If I come to Miami, if I come to America, I could probably be successful.
	Had you been in Miami the entire time you were here?
	No, I went to New York for like a month, and then Vegas for like four or five days.
	Okay, but predominantly that year and a half or whatever that you were here building yourself up, you were in Miami.
	Miami, yeah.
	Okay, so...
	So you worked for a year and a half.
	This is the Chick-fil-A. This is driving the shitty car.
	This is trying to make a way.
	AT&T. AT&T. You know, the tech job, the customer service, all these different odd jobs, right?
	Yeah.
	So that you can kind of figure things out.
	So did you meet your ex-wife?
	Like, right after?
	That year and a half of, like, being in hibernation and trying to save money?
	Yeah.
	So, that part of my life, I said, you know what?
	I need to be in monk mode.
	I can't waste time because, first of all, everybody speaks English properly.
	Right?
	I'm just mumbling, stuttering all this shit.
	And then I'm like, bro, I'm broke, bro.
	It used to be worse, guys.
	Yeah, way worse.
	And then...
	The funny part is that like, bro, it was so bad.
	I was making like $9 an hour.
	And my drive from my studio apartment to work was like an hour and a half away.
	And then the tolls used to add up.
	So I didn't know about tolls coming to America.
	So I'm like, okay, I got a car.
	I'm driving to work.
	I read it super fast.
	And I got a letter in the mail.
	I'm like, what's this?
	I got a letter in the mail.
	Merry Christmas.
	Yeah, Florida doesn't play with that.
	They will send you letters.
	They'll send you a letter for $20.
	And in my head, I'm like, bro, it probably costs y'all more to send this letter than the $20.
	Florida is on some fucking collection type shit.
	After I paid rent, bought food, did stuff for myself, paid for gym membership, had to pay tolls, I was broke.
	I said, yo, never again, bro.
	And that day, I swore to myself, I'll never take toll rolls again until now.
	Wait, you went to the gym?
	Yeah, nigga.
	I was actually skinny back then.
	But overall, that experience...
	So you went a year and a half monk mode.
	Yeah.
	So during this period, and I think this is very important so people kind of understand your mindset at this point, you weren't fucking with girls.
	No.
	So you're probably like, fucking Thurston, I need a bitch.
	I am dying.
	Back in my village, bro.
	It's like, I got tourist girls, I got girls from the island.
	It's easy, just pull to the beach, pull to the party scene.
	Yeah.
	You had a perfect...
	And I want the people to understand this.
	When you're thirsty, how bad a decision you'll make.
	Because a lot of y'all will go ahead and get married off of thirst alone and you're not using rational thought.
	So you were getting a bunch of girls in Barbados.
	You had a perfect setup to get laid because you're a mess around tourist chicks.
	You were a local.
	And back then, I had the status, bro.
	Everyone knew who I was.
	I was with the cool people.
	Your family is known on the island.
	Yeah.
	Cars, motorcycles.
	It was cool.
	And then, like, you know, party scene was pretty dope with that too as well.
	Yeah.
	But coming here, it was like Brent Rowe.
	You had the perfect social circle set up there.
	Exactly.
	And then you come here and you're a nobody and it's like, fuck.
	Exactly.
	So, after that period of time being in monk mode, I finally went on set up with my roommate, my boy Carl, and we'd go back and forth to parties every night.
	He's the one that showed me the whole scene of, like, where to go, what night to go to that party spot, if it's lit or not.
	So I learned quickly about the party scene in Miami.
	And at this point, you're not RP aware, right?
	I'm watching videos, but I'm not really into it like that.
	I'm more like, you know what?
	That's cool.
	He said about women.
	That's funny.
	That's true.
	But I wasn't really taking it that serious.
	Anytime I've noticed a guy is somewhat successful with women sexually, he's going to have some awareness of the RP to some degree.
	You're going to understand that girls aren't sugar and spice and everything nice.
	You might not fully embrace it, but you're going to understand that there are unflattering realities of women.
	So you probably kind of suit on new things here and there.
	But it's not like, okay, I know the theory all the way.
	It's like...
	I just knew how to get what I want in that environment.
	Yeah.
	I didn't really know, like, why I was doing what I was doing.
	Yeah.
	That makes sense.
	Gotcha.
	Yeah, yeah.
	A lot of naturals are like that.
	Yeah.
	Yeah.
	So then I go to this party spot.
	It's called Brick House.
	Back in the day, it was lit.
	Oh!
	Bruh!
	That place is still open to this day, right?
	Yeah, bro.
	That shit's in the hood in Wynwood.
	Yo.
	Bruh!
	Yo.
	Holy!
	It's hilarious, bro.
	Okay.
	Because we got to paint the picture for the audience.
	A lot of them are like, what the fuck is this place?
	Yeah.
	It's a bar, outside bar in Wynwood, guys.
	Wynwood is the graffiti district here in Miami.
	Think of it as like the Williamsburg of New York.
	And it's a bar that's...
	I ain't gonna lie to y'all, man.
	It's kind of hood.
	All they do is play ratchet rap music.
	Yeah, I mean, I'm gonna fight there.
	Yeah, bro.
	So, yeah, it is kind of hood.
	So, I wouldn't go somewhere like that.
	I've been there, like, maybe once or twice.
	Actually, what, with you one time and all that, fuck this shit.
	Yeah.
	But, okay, so you met her there.
	Yeah.
	Or you went to Brickhouse.
	Okay, continue.
	So, Once again, I'm with my boy Carl.
	We're out having fun, whatever.
	We're at a break house, right?
	So I'm like, yo, bro, I gotta pee real bad.
	I'll be right back.
	So I'm going to the bathroom line now.
	I'm sitting there waiting as long as I was lying.
	There's two girls in front of me.
	I'm like, okay, she's pretty cute.
	I'm not gonna say shit because I'm kind of, you know, just chilling, whatever.
	And then she dropped something.
	And I'm like, oh, was that yours?
	Here you go.
	And she's like, oh, thank you.
	I'm like, Hold on.
	You look familiar.
	Classic light.
	But did she actually look familiar?
	Normally that's true when you say that shit.
	Now it is, but you know, what do you do?
	Where are you from?
	She told me the whole story.
	I was like, yo, you seem pretty cool.
	When next are you free?
	Oh, I'm free tomorrow.
	I'm like, let's hang out.
	She was down with it.
	We went out, had a blast.
	Where'd y'all go?
	We went to, I believe it was a pizza spot.
	It's funny.
	Anthony's Cold Fight Pizza was fire back in the day.
	I used to be there all the time.
	So that spot, and I think we went to Blackbird, actually.
	Blackbird is the dive bar guys here in Brickell, for the people that are wondering.
	Ladies Night.
	Yes, yes.
	Is it Blackboard or somewhere in Wynwood?
	Blackboard does Ladies Night on Tuesdays.
	Yeah.
	But every weekend we used to go to Wynwood.
	So then we went out.
	It was a great time.
	And it was a good connection.
	So we went out more often than that.
	And then over time, I was like, damn, she's cool.
	So this is what, 2015 now?
	It's 2015.
	At this point?
	Yeah.
	And then, dude, she's making me food.
	She's paying for shit.
	She's really putting work.
	I'm like, damn, why she's so nice?
	It's pretty different.
	So y'all start hanging out every day now?
	Yeah, yeah, pretty much.
	Okay.
	And then she said, hey, well, you know, I have a kid as well.
	Oh, you didn't know?
	Well, I knew, but I didn't really, like, see the kid at all, because, you know, she would come see me, meet her somewhere else.
	You knew she had a child, but it wasn't real yet, because you had never, you never dealt with her saying, like, I got a babysitter or something.
	Like, you didn't deal with the consequences of her kids, so you didn't even feel real at that point.
	Exactly.
	Okay.
	So fast forward now, time passes, I'm like, yo, like, you know, she's putting effort, she's putting work, and, like, she really, like, cares because if she didn't care, dude, all those are messed up shit back in the day, too.
	So it was like, you know...
	Oh, so you were still running around with other chicks?
	Yes.
	I mean, I got a camera.
	Okay.
	But, yeah.
	That's the matter, God.
	I repeat that.
	Allegedly.
	Allegedly.
	But, you know, and then...
	We all weren't, like, official at this point.
	You were just seeing her.
	She wasn't, like, your girl at this point.
	No, no.
	Okay.
	But, so, then after that, I was like, yo, like...
	We're pretty cool.
	I like where this is going.
	And I said, you know what?
	If you're going to move closer to me, let's move in the same spot.
	We save money.
	That's me thinking, you know what?
	I'm making money, but I can cut it in half.
	I can do certain things.
	You know what?
	You're stupid.
	Let's see how this works.
	Because I never did it before, ever in my life.
	What year is this now?
	Is this still 2015?
	2016.
	Okay, so y'all have been seeing each other for almost a year now.
	Yeah, a year, six months, eight months.
	And she wanted to move closer to Miami, and you were like, just move in with me.
	Yeah, so I actually left my studio apartment.
	And a lot of y'all have been in this situation, so please pay attention here.
	There's a reason why I'm having him tell this story, because I guarantee you, a lot of you guys have been in the same predicament.
	No somebody has been in this predicament.
	I think it's very important to know the why, right?
	So that you can understand the how later on.
	Yeah, and I know you might call it, oh, you're stupid fresh.
	I get it, bro.
	But like, yo, back then, I was just like, you know what?
	I think this is the right way to move.
	I didn't know any better.
	And you were how old at this point, too, just so people know.
	21?
	You were 21, 22?
	Yeah.
	So, remember, I'm new to America, bro.
	I don't know how this stuff works.
	I'm from the islands, bro.
	You just pull up to a spot.
	It's a cool little vibe.
	You go do your thing and then you're back home with your friends.
	There's a divorce culture like that over there in Barbados, right?
	We're just having fun getting lit.
	So then...
	So she moves in.
	Yeah.
	So then I get a spot in a nice area because she kind of lived in like a bad, not a bad area, but kind of like a, you know, more lower flat area.
	Where she at?
	I mean the neighborhood.
	It was like Hialeah, bro.
	Hold on, we gotta tell the niggas what that is.
	Guys, Hialeah is basically, yeah, it's another town right outside of Miami.
	It's kind of ghetto.
	I call it Crime-Aleah.
	Huge.
	No one there speaks English, bro.
	So yeah.
	And it's funny.
	Lower socioeconomic status for sure.
	While I was waiting to get my apartment and get the apartment approved, I stayed with them for like a month or two.
	And I lived in Hialeah, so I learned a lot of Spanish.
	I learned a lot about the culture.
	Oh, so you lived in Hialeah too?
	Yeah, with their family.
	Yeah, so before I got the apartment, I moved in.
	With her?
	Yeah, because I was waiting for her to get approved on all that stuff, right?
	Okay.
	So then, you know...
	How long were you there with her?
	Like a month or two.
	Oh, so just like a month in between getting the spot.
	But I learned so much about the Spanish culture, how they eat, how they do things, how they like really operate outside of like, you know, the common...
	I'm assuming she's Cuban if she lived there in Hialeah.
	Well, she's like, she's like Nicaraguan, but like a Cuban family, Cuban friends.
	Hialeah is very mixed.
	Yeah, it's mixed.
	Yeah.
	Mostly Cubans.
	But it's just a lot of different Hispanic cultures in one city.
	Yeah.
	But long story short...
	Shout out to Mo, clarifying.
	I made the move and, you know, she moved in.
	So I made a list here of things that I actually paid for.
	And it was mad because we split it in half, basically.
	So it wasn't that bad.
	But generally speaking, the guy's gonna pay for everything up front.
	So even though I did some dumb stuff, I still made it so that I benefited in a way.
	Because I'm like, bro, I'm not stupid at this point.
	I'm just like, you know what?
	I want to save money.
	I want to make things work in a more smooth process.
	And once again, I want to be grounded in religion.
	So you moved in with her for two main reasons.
	Number one, for religious reasons, right?
	And then also to save money.
	At this point, were y'all married yet?
	Yes, because we got married in court.
	Did you guys get married before?
	So hold on, we missed a step.
	So did you guys get married before or after you moved in?
	Before I moved in.
	Okay, so before you moved in with her, y'all went to downtown and got married.
	I didn't want to move in and be living with her if I wasn't married.
	Okay.
	That was the whole point.
	Gotcha.
	Yeah.
	Okay.
	So then y'all get married, live at her place for a month waiting to transition.
	Yeah.
	Right?
	And then, okay.
	And then, so I made a list here of things that I kind of saw coming into it that I didn't see beforehand.
	And it was cost of moving together.
	Bro, you need furniture, you need first payment, last payment, and deposit for most things you move into.
	Yeah.
	Mommy's like that, guys.
	They're going to take first, last, and a security deposit here most of the time.
	And she was cool.
	So she paid half of the rent, which is pretty dope, right?
	But most of y'all, you're going to pay most of it.
	It's not everything for yourself.
	So it's kind of like, cost moving in, it's heavy.
	Then you got to buy furniture, you got to buy appliances, you got to buy all that stuff.
	And it's like, that adds up quickly.
	So let's say, for example, you move in and we go right to a new spot.
	Let's say average, actually in Miami itself, it's like $1,500 to like $2,000 for rent, right?
	So that's by two because first and last, and then deposit, so that's like $6,000.
	It's more now, but back then that's probably what it was.
	So that's $6,000 you got to spend, right, up front.
	You got to buy furniture, all that stuff.
	Dude, that adds up.
	Yeah.
	Next thing you know, you're going to be around 10K when it's all said and done.
	Yeah.
	And then part two is like kids and being a stepdad.
	So imagine you have a kid with this woman, right?
	You're moving with her.
	You got to make sure that he's fed, school, all these things add up, right?
	So you walk into it, oh yeah, I'm getting married.
	Bro, you're bringing on a whole bunch of responsibility that you're not aware of for the most part.
	And for me, it's like, cool.
	I'm not really like the dad, but I'm still the stepdad.
	So...
	Even indirectly, I was paying for stuff regardless.
	Did you feel like financial pressure as soon as y'all got married?
	Did it just smack you right in the face right then and there that you immediately became responsible from a financial standpoint to be the primary breadwinner?
	The money I had before when I was single was gone, bro.
	It was like, okay, I would save like $500 to $600 a month or $700 if I was doing really well on the side.
	And I was like, oh shit, we're going for dinners, we're going to fun trips, we're doing fun stuff.
	It's like, oh, hold on, wait.
	My savings is...
	So the whole purpose for which you moving in with her was actually defeated by you moving in with her because you incurred other costs that you didn't even see coming.
	I didn't even see coming.
	Yeah.
	And my mom was like, Walter, you sure you want to do this?
	Because she was like, yo, you married a single mom, bro.
	I'm like, I got this cover, man.
	I do this shit.
	Like, this is what I'm walking to do.
	And, you know, looking back, I was like, yo, I was trying to try to do the right thing, but I didn't look to see all the details in this marriage scenario.
	So what are the...
	Okay, so let's start with naming off some of the things that just crept up on you that you didn't come.
	So you get married, start thinking you're going to save money.
	Yeah.
	But in reality, you ended up not being able to keep that 500 or 600 that you would have left over when you were by yourself in the first place.
	Yeah.
	So, you mentioned the moving in cost.
	Costs, you said, like, significantly more than you thought.
	So, remember, I was in a low-class area, so to speak.
	Yeah.
	Right?
	So, I moved to a better area.
	So, remember.
	Where were y'all at?
	Which y'all moved to?
	Pembroke Pines.
	Okay.
	Guys, that Pembroke Pines, what, 30 miles up north, Moe, from Miami?
	And west.
	And west.
	Okay.
	About 30 miles or so north.
	It's a southwest area of Broward County and just north of Hialeah.
	But it's one of the most safest areas.
	Yeah.
	It's not bad.
	Yeah.
	It's a good...
	A lot of families live there.
	Yeah.
	So then, you know, the first thing, move it to a nice area.
	That's more money regardless.
	Yeah.
	Did y'all move into a house and apartment?
	Apartment.
	Okay.
	So I was paying, like, I think between, like, $7,000 most for my studio apartment.
	Moved in there.
	It was like $1,600.
	So it upped my expenses as well.
	Even though it was cut in half though.
	Because, pro, you pay for that rent, you still gotta pay for water, light.
	You still gotta pay for garbage.
	You gotta pay for food and groceries.
	And you're in a significantly better area now.
	So everything's heightened in price.
	So that's one thing.
	And then two is like...
	You don't realize that, but like, trips, food, stops, you may have two people now, or one person, because remember, it's just you before, so plus one, or with kids, plus two, it adds up.
	Yeah.
	So that's something you didn't see coming.
	And it's funny, because you go to work, you're like, okay, cool, I'm working a job, I'm tired, I don't want to cook, then you go eat out, that adds up too.
	So all these things that you don't see beforehand do add up.
	And the money you have, for example, if you're single doing your thing, cool, you have it there.
	But when you got other expenses, it kind of like adds to that as well.
	So overall, like walking into it, I didn't realize what I was actually getting into.
	So moving in to a new place, Moving up to a better neighborhood, right?
	And then also the food cost, I guess you didn't see that coming because every time you went out, obviously the child came with y'all, right?
	How old was he?
	Maybe two, three, four?
	He was three.
	So everything that you bought, you had to buy an extra two of.
	And then what other costs did you not see coming?
	And then opportunity costs.
	This is huge.
	So remember, I was like, okay, I'm coming to America to be successful, right?
	So my thing was like, okay, I'm putting in work by going to Starbucks, studying YouTube, studying Instagram, real estate, all this stuff behind the scenes, but I have to go pick up the kid from school.
	So the shit that isn't even tangible sometimes.
	Like you'd be in the groove getting something done, and then you had to break that to be a dad.
	Yeah, literally.
	So, I mean, obviously, if you get married to somebody that has no kids, that's a little bit less of an issue.
	But I'm just saying, like, if you do have kids with somebody, it's going to happen, right?
	And then when you live with somebody, bro, you kind of like take on all of their like issues as well.
	Yeah.
	So it's like, it's just some of the things you don't see.
	Opportunity is kind of like wasted in a sense because instead of focusing on yourself, you're focusing on other people rather than just yourself.
	So it does add up in terms of like opportunity costs are down because now your time is spent elsewhere.
	Damn.
	I didn't even think about that.
	And that's something you can't even measure.
	You can't measure that.
	All the times that you have to cut back studying or doing something to be a dad.
	And how many times did you have to do that?
	Did you have to find a way to, I guess, study at different times during the day when he was asleep?
	Literally?
	Yeah.
	What I would do is whenever I was going to work, I would put an audio tape in my car.
	I would read at work or watch a video at work as well when I'm off or on a break.
	I would learn in between work.
	When I get home, I was like, yo, I got shit to do.
	It's busy.
	For a three-year-old, probably, it was very...
	They were both cool.
	I came to be successful.
	I didn't come to be a dad or be in a marriage, so to speak.
	I kind of think, you know what?
	If someone wants to be with somebody and they want to make it work, I get why you want to imagine kids.
	But bro, for me personally, I wasn't ready for that.
	See, that's the scary part.
	All the...
	And the cost, bro.
	I didn't see the cost, bro.
	The opportunity cost is huge, bro.
	People say, oh yeah, I'm in love.
	I like this girl.
	But like, bro, anyone that's successful has to put in the work up front.
	You put in the work relationship, it could end.
	And she could divorce you and then she's gone.
	But since you put in the work up front, all right, now I've made it.
	What do I want to do?
	Then you can share it with someone versus like trying to build it as you're trying to build the plane while you're flying it, which is like not a good...
	It's almost impossible, bro.
	Yeah.
	Keep a thousand with you.
	What are some other costs that you didn't see that kind of slapped you in the face?
	I mean, this is good stuff, guys.
	I hope y'all are enjoying this, man, because there's some things here that I didn't even think about.
	So, the moving in, thinking that you're going to save money, but in reality, you didn't.
	Moving into a neighborhood, obviously, there's a kid, so you want to move into a safer neighborhood, which is going to cost more.
	Better schools.
	Better schools.
	Paying for food, paying for basic necessities are now doubled from what you used to pay for before, because not only are you paying for her, you're also paying for her child.
	Yeah, because you might be like, okay, she's paying half, but I have to rent.
	Everything else you're paying for.
	And it doesn't matter because the rent went up anyway.
	So you're paying what you were paying regardless in the first place.
	Any other costs that came in that kind of snuck at you from being a dad that people wouldn't catch?
	I would say, like, let's say you want to do something fun, like travel or, like, for example...
	Movies.
	Movies.
	Simple.
	It's just an extra, like, burden.
	You get me?
	Yeah.
	That's not kind of bad, but hey...
	No, no, no.
	It's the truth.
	We got to let the people know.
	What about...
	You ended up buying her a car, too, right?
	Yeah.
	So can you tell the people about that?
	So, basically, I was like, okay, cool.
	Well, if I'm married, I gotta at least make sure she's good.
	So, she had an older car.
	We sold out one, and then I got her new car, but it was under my name.
	So, basically, she didn't make payments for it, but under my name.
	And what was the reason for buying the car?
	Did it have more space?
	More space, and then her car was old.
	Yeah, and safer.
	Yeah.
	Yeah.
	See, and these are things that, like, kind of come up, guys, right?
	When there's a child involved that you don't even, like, at the time, you don't think twice about it, but then looking back in 2020 hindsight, you're like, oh, wow, I just added another bill to myself and incurred more debt.
	Yeah.
	For what?
	But, like, when you're dealing with family, with people that you love, you don't think about these things logically.
	You think about it- No, it's my kid.
	We need extra space.
	I don't want her driving around in a car that is dangerous or older.
	So you don't even think.
	You just spend the money.
	But looking back, you're able to be like, damn, okay, this is another added expense.
	And at that age, you got to remember that you should be investing in yourself because you're still not even developed to really do things on your own.
	You got to figure out, okay, cool.
	As a man, I need to get better in fitness, mindset, education, maybe entrepreneurial stuff as well.
	That takes time to invest in yourself.
	The time you're spending doing that, Or spent dealing with someone else's kid or your kid or just family stuff.
	That shit adds up.
	So all the things you don't see is a part of being married because, bro, it takes work to be married.
	What about your health?
	I remember when you first came to the States, you were obviously very thin.
	Did you gain weight during this period?
	Hell yeah.
	So, oh, that's another thing too.
	Tell the people about that.
	When you live with a girl, right?
	It happens slowly, but you don't realize it.
	You're basically, like, getting in a comfort zone where you have a routine.
	And that routine is kind of, like, exposed in terms of, like, you have to literally put your time into different things.
	So before I get to the gym, a cool 30-40 minutes, and then I'm out.
	But I have to make sure I'm home because maybe he needs to go to school or a medical issue or like...
	This thing just pop up and you're kind of like...
	Your day revolved around him.
	Exactly.
	And also as well, your wife.
	Is she happy?
	Is she good?
	Is she like in a good spot?
	Because, dude, all the emotions from work come home to you as well.
	So it's like a...
	You're dealing with trying to stay and maintain yourself and other people.
	And if you're not ready for that, if you're not really stable, if you're not really set up to handle that, it could actually hurt you.
	So I would just say in terms of living with somebody that you care about or a woman, you kind of have to compromise a lot to make it work.
	And if you don't compromise, it's going to end regardless.
	So...
	It's a lot of costs.
	Fitness-wise, if you're not really focused on going to the gym, you kind of set it to the side.
	A lot of costs, for example, health, because you want to get things done fast.
	So you might get in McDonald's a lot or Wendy's.
	You're on the go.
	So health-wise, I would say it can deteriorate.
	So you're not being consistent at the gym as well.
	Exactly.
	Something like that kind of happens to me too as well.
	Okay.
	I got another question after.
	I'll hit these chats real quick.
	Yo, guys, I hope y'all are enjoying this, man.
	Y'all are learning from freshest mistakes.
	And then, this is very important.
	Yeah.
	Debt.
	Dude, like...
	Let's hit it after these chats.
	Yeah.
	We'll talk about debt, and I also got another question here as well.
	Let me write that down about debt.
	I just paid off my debt.
	I live on family property, so I only pay utilities.
	I make $60,000 to $65,000 a year, $48,000 to $56,000 a week.
	I have $10,000 to invest in side hustle.
	Should I go with side hustle for use or use for buying first home and go real estate?
	Bro, go real estate, man.
	I mean, you know us.
	We're always going to tell you go with the real estate because you're going to get tax benefits from that and some cash flow.
	But just make sure that the deal works, man.
	If it doesn't cash flow, just say no.
	Just say no.
	Tylon 25 goes, happy holidays, FNF fam.
	Now that the year is coming to an end, what is your most memorable moment?
	That's a good one.
	That's a good one.
	I'm not going to lie.
	To me, it was a trip to Romania.
	That showed me a lot of what I needed to do.
	And I remember you telling me this stuff before as well.
	I'm with the winners.
	For example, I'm in the room.
	I'm here.
	I can't stay the same.
	I got to improve no matter what.
	And I got very, like, comfortable in that situation, you know?
	I was like, you know what?
	We did it.
	We're on the way up.
	Like, but me as an individual, am I improving?
	So that trip turned me around a lot, bro.
	So I'm in the gym now, focusing on myself more because, like, bro, I kind of put that to the side for the...
	Hanging out with Tristan, Andrew, Justin, it's really good to be around successful guys.
	FNF helped me wake up in a stupid relationship.
	She has three kids, two dads, and is 25.
	Definitely not what I wanted.
	Left her, got in the gym, down 4% body fat, focusing on money more, and I'm trying to buy a house.
	Thanks, gents.
	That's from Logan Gage Official.
	That's what we're talking about.
	Because think about it.
	You're going to go ahead and focus on a relationship that's probably going to fail versus yourself.
	This nigga, little son, he said, Fresh got married to get that citizenship.
	Okay, bro.
	Let me make this extremely clear for you guys.
	Fresh's mother was born in New York City.
	She's a United States citizen.
	As a US citizen, she goes ahead and passes that citizenship off to Fresh.
	So Fresh has two different citizenships.
	He has an American citizenship and a Bayesian citizenship.
	But he got it from his mom, guys.
	So he did not marry that girl for papers.
	I don't know why people say that shit.
	And also, I couldn't get a job so fast if I wasn't a citizen.
	Just like that?
	In a corporate setting?
	Yeah, he was a citizen, bro, from before.
	Just that he didn't come to the United States until he was older, but he was always a U.S. citizen from his mom.
	My heroes.
	I was in a toxic relationship where, when I came home from work, it was unavailable to relax before doing chores.
	So she'd yell at me for that, and then she started getting physically abusive.
	I left that bitch for vids.
	Okay?
	Shout out to you, my friend.
	Yeah, it happens, bro, because in that scenario, you got stuff to do.
	Because she's even like, yo, you need to take the garbage out or whatever.
	It's like, It's kind of like a small nag that starts to add up and it's like, bro, that's annoying, bro.
	I don't know how to...
	It's kind of annoying.
	Just put it that way.
	Okay.
	What do you guys think of marrying in another country from Asia or Yup and bringing her back to Miami?
	Good idea or not.
	You know what?
	We'll talk about that marriage.
	We'll talk about that in another...
	Well, later on on this.
	Okay.
	So you were saying debt.
	Tell us about the debt.
	So, people forget sometimes that when you have debt, it can mentally hold you back as well.
	And it causes you to take actions you don't want to take because, for example, you might work a job you hate because you're going to pay debt back or pay your bills or whatever, right?
	Now, when you marry somebody, you kind of take on their debt as well because you're not one.
	So, all of their debt is going to affect you because either we live with somebody or what they pay for...
	The money's not reduced because they're paying debt or they're affecting you because that debt that they're paying for, the money doesn't come to y'all.
	It goes to that person.
	So overall, it's kind of like when that person's in debt, their bills, their mindset, their whole actions will affect you living with them.
	And that's very important.
	So student loans, credit card debt, personal loan debt.
	Did she have a lot of debt when you came in?
	Yeah, she had some debt.
	How much?
	I can't remember.
	Maybe like 30, 20?
	Damn!
	For what?
	College?
	School?
	I think medical bills.
	Medical bills, yeah.
	How the fuck do you rack up 20, 30k medical bills?
	Well, this is what I've seen.
	Let's say, for example, you get injured, you get hurt, right?
	You get the ambulance bill and you get the medical bill.
	You can't really pay all the time.
	They put you on payments.
	How many times does this chick run an ambulance, bro?
	What the hell?
	That's an example.
	I don't know the other stuff.
	Okay.
	I wasn't there.
	Okay.
	But all that stuff is a plan because it doesn't go away like that.
	So you marry that person?
	Was it just increasing?
	Like maybe it was the balance originally like $2,000 and she just didn't pay and it just kept bumping up?
	Probably.
	And it's funny because in that scenario, bro, like...
	You should ask your partner, what's your credit score?
	Because you need to see their past history, the whole facts, before you even get into it.
	And, you know, certain things that I know now that I wish I knew before, but, you know, I mean, overall, though, like, Debt does come into play, but if you talk about it beforehand, it should be fine, but you need to know before you jump into it, because that's going to affect your life indirectly or directly.
	Okay.
	So, my question is this.
	I know you mentioned that you gave up, like, chances of, like, how do I say this?
	Of, like, studying and trying to, like, figure out how to make money.
	Did you give up opportunities?
	Such as being able to maybe an opportunity presented itself to you in another city or state or whatever, and you had to say no because I can't bring the family?
	Yeah, there was conferences where I could have went, but once again, if I miss work, The money I would make was going to help pay for the rent.
	So it's like, if I leave work, I have savings, but not my savings.
	So it would actually affect how I pay my bills, because I have so much bills to pay with this extended family.
	So that right there said, you know what?
	Nah, I'm not doing it because it's too much of a risk for me to go to that conference for three days, come back.
	I'm going to get some knowledge, but hey, it's a risk.
	And who knows who you would have met there, what you would have learned there, what opportunities could have come from going out there and meeting people.
	I mean, you know now from doing networking, all it takes sometimes is one handshake and one meeting to change your life.
	And it's funny, before I met her, I went to a workshop with my mentor.
	You know him as well.
	And that changed my whole life completely because I was focused on, okay, you know what?
	Rather than focus on...
	And that was before you met her.
	Exactly.
	So thank God you met him before you met her because otherwise you probably wouldn't have even had the time or the opportunity to go there.
	Because it was in my head.
	For example, we go through life, right, and we get seeds planted in our head.
	It may be a mentor, a video, a parent's talking to you, or somebody's just saying, you know what, why don't you try this?
	And that little seed can grow if you nourish it correctly.
	So I've always said to myself, you know what, come into America, I'm going to be successful.
	When I went to that workshop, I was like, cool.
	This path that I'm going on now, working a job, 40 years, isn't the way to go.
	But this path over here is an option.
	So even though I was stuck on time, remember I go to work, audio tapes, my job videos.
	So that helped me second in that sense, but still.
	So you got lucky that you were already consuming that type of content.
	Prior to meeting her.
	However, if you had not consumed that content before, who knows where you'd be now.
	Exactly.
	Damn.
	Let that sink in, bro.
	If you had not Already been taking in that kind of, you know, entrepreneurial-type content prior to meeting her, you probably would have never consumed it in the first place, because you would have been more concerned with providing for the family, making money, you know, getting more hours, etc.
	And in between, damn, I don't know how I found it, but I found Solo TV, the Force videos, King Rich's videos as well, and...
	Tom Likas.
	That's what changed your mind, right?
	So I would watch him here and there and be like, this is funny, but it's true, right?
	So tell people the epiphany moment for you.
	What was that moment that you said, holy fuck, I've spent a ridiculous amount of money I'm fucking up.
	I'm stupid.
	I missed out on opportunities.
	What was that like?
	So this might seem kind of dark, but I was at a place where I was making money, but I felt like I was going nowhere.
	And I was like, hold on.
	Dead end.
	I was here to be successful and And show my family that I can make it on my own.
	Because the whole point of me coming here was to do a trial of a bird of a man.
	For example, you know a trial of a warrior?
	How to go through the jungle, whatever.
	Become alive, fighting animals, something like that.
	So my granddad came to America and he became successful on his own, basically.
	So you know what?
	I could do the same thing.
	And I came and I was like, you know what?
	I'm going to do it less than my granddad.
	I'm going to do it better.
	And that was my whole goal of coming to America and not depending on my family back in Barbados.
	Yeah, because you had a good setup in Barbados.
	You didn't have to leave, but you came up here to challenge yourself.
	It was so good that I could just wake up, get on my motorcycle, ride to the beach, go to a party, get lit, and I'd be good.
	I'm taken care of.
	But, once again...
	You wanted to be a Spartan.
	Literally.
	So, I had to leave my comfort zone to get better.
	Long story short, though, one day after work, I sat in my car.
	I was like, yo, I'm not happy.
	Remember what year this is?
	It's probably 2016, if I'm correct.
	2017, somewhere around there.
	Okay, so this is about a year of being with her, living together, being married.
	Literally a year of being with her.
	Okay.
	Once again, this might sound dark, but like, dude, when you live with a single mom, you're in the house, but you feel alone.
	It's like you're You're working on yourself.
	You're becoming better.
	You're trying to become somebody.
	But it's like, damn, I'm overshadowed by this other person's kid.
	And you feel alone, bro.
	It's like you're stuck in this box.
	And sometimes if you're just married to one woman, she's negative or very controlling, so to speak.
	It's like, yo, that could hurt you as well.
	Did you feel like a plow horse?
	Like you were just there to make money, bring a check, and that's it?
	Not directly, because she actually did care about me.
	She did help a lot as well.
	Personally speaking, that environment was not for me.
	I'm asking a good question for you.
	So y'all can get the goddamn idea of what the hell's going on here.
	I'm being interrogated, bro.
	By a fed.
	I need y'all to understand.
	I want y'all to get this sauce, man.
	I really do.
	This is some deep shit, man.
	Because most people won't admit this shit.
	And a lot of you guys are either in this situation, have been in this situation, or might go into this situation had you not seen this podcast, man.
	This might save one of y'all from fucking yourself up.
	Yeah.
	So I sat in my car that day.
	I felt overwhelmed.
	I felt like, damn, I didn't come here until like...
	This to happen.
	And I'll never forget, I remember going to Grant Cardone's office, him telling me, you don't have what it takes.
	You're not gonna make it.
	And I was like, hold on.
	These choices I made right now...
	Were you married at the time that thing was filmed?
	No.
	You weren't married?
	No, I wasn't married.
	Was it before you met her?
	Before I met her, yeah.
	Okay.
	Yeah, so, mind you, all these...
	All the experiences I wear to L's and to L's is like, damn, I'm here now, and if I don't make a change, I'm gonna be stuck here, bro.
	Like, it's just like, do or die.
	Okay.
	I was like, you know what?
	I don't know how to get out of this, but I need some help.
	So where'd I go?
	YouTube.
	Typed in, dating single moms.
	How to be successful.
	How to get out of the rat race, right?
	And I watched all those videos, and over time I found Tom Likas.
	And he had a podcast live on air in LA. And he had a call and show.
	Do you remember what the name of the episode was?
	Yeah, Don't Date Single Mothers.
	Yo, Chris, can you search it on YouTube so we can actually find that video?
	It's there.
	So then...
	Don't Date Single Moms, Tom Likus.
	It's probably going to be a clip or something like that.
	It is one of the best videos I've seen breaking down why you shouldn't do it.
	See how people call in after he made his whole speech about not doing it.
	And he's like, yo, I've did it many times before.
	Don't do it, guys.
	It's not worth it.
	Yeah, he had like four marriages.
	And this guy called in.
	I'll never forget.
	It was like crystal clear that day.
	It was nighttime.
	But crystal clear in my mind because he said it very specifically.
	He said, listen, man, if I could go back in time and give people advice out there, I would say, Think about your life.
	If you're going to go out there with someone that's this kid, why not have your own?
	And he said, yo, I spent my whole life, 25 years, dating this woman for her to leave and take the kid.
	I was like, damn.
	He was literally crying on the phone, basically, like, damn, like, I messed up, you know?
	And I was like, hold on a second.
	Was this the video?
	That's it.
	This is the video?
	That's it.
	This is the video that set fresh free, guys.
	I watched all that shit, bro.
	I watched all that shit, bro.
	All that shit, bro.
	And how long is this one?
	35 minutes?
	Dude, it's so good, bro.
	And it's not a video, guys.
	It's just audio.
	You know what I mean?
	Because you guys got to remember, this was shot back in the early 2000s.
	Can you or no?
	Yeah, you probably can, yeah.
	Just because you want to do something doesn't mean it's the right thing to do, does it?
	No.
	Alright.
	So, there really wasn't a good reason to get married, was there?
	In fact, it was not a good idea, was it?
	No.
	At the time, we thought it was.
	That's because you were young and immature, didn't know what you were doing.
	Pause.
	Hey, there we go.
	See what he said there?
	Young and immature.
	Bro, I didn't know what I was doing, bro.
	I was like, oh, God said you should be married, live with somebody?
	I'm gonna go do it.
	And like, I get that part, but like, the foundation was rocky.
	Because it wasn't like the right person.
	Yeah.
	And you didn't have the financial stability either.
	I was working on it.
	I was on the way there, but I wasn't fully there.
	And that's why people are like, oh, I want to get married.
	Bro, can you take care of yourself and the family?
	Can you really?
	Because dude, that shit adds up quickly.
	So, sat in the car.
	Watch our video.
	I watched King Rich's video.
	SoloTV84 as well.
	Actually, is the channel up?
	I haven't seen it in a while.
	Hit a video.
	Shout out to him though.
	Eight reasons why you shouldn't date a single mom.
	I was like, well, tell us in the chat.
	If you date a single mom, you're going to be a dumbass.
	It's funny, bro.
	And then I was like, dude, I know what I got to do.
	Yeah, it's probably gone.
	I know what I gotta do.
	Actually, no, Kim Richards has one as well.
	I was like, bro, I gotta tell her what's happening, and I gotta dip.
	I can't be here no time.
	So you're sitting in your car alone, you listen to the broadcast.
	So you guys can understand this in your mind, right?
	Go use your imagination, guys.
	So it's a night, sometime 2016, 2017, he's sitting in the car listening to this Tom Likas thing in the vehicle.
	And he's just like, holy shit, coming to his epiphany phase.
	And at that point, you decided, I gotta end this.
	Yeah, I'm gonna text, are you home yet?
	When you're coming, I'm just like, yo.
	So you were there, but you were just sitting in the parking lot.
	Watching these videos.
	And then I was like, bro, it's gonna hurt, man.
	Because I cared about her.
	Definitely, she was cool as hell.
	Awesome girl.
	No hit towards her at all.
	Never bad.
	The kid was the first priority.
	Not me.
	So it was a little bit different.
	And then I said, you know what?
	I'm going to go upstairs, tell her what it is, and break it off.
	Now, luckily, it was basically a year, under a year, basically.
	And you can do, like, an annulment.
	Where, like, you're married, but you're not really married.
	Or you can divorce.
	I think I did the divorce papers, though.
	But long story short, we didn't have any assets together.
	We didn't have any, like, major things together.
	Thank God.
	So when I had to send the papers, that was it.
	Just walked away, scot-free.
	You got lucky.
	Yeah, and I gave it a car because, you know what, that's your kid.
	Take your kid to school.
	And she ended up making payments on it.
	You got lucky that she didn't try to fuck you over.
	She's a very cool girl.
	So luckily, I chose a girl that was actually cool and not very vindictive.
	And she's like, you know what?
	It hurts, but I understand.
	And most girls have been like, you're leaving me?
	Hell no!
	She threw your clothes outside, burn your stuff, make life hell for you.
	She said, you know what?
	Your happiness is important.
	She signed the papers, and that was it.
	And now she's with the family today.
	Shout out to her.
	She's doing her thing.
	And for them, it works because that's their life.
	But for me, I need to be successful.
	So I'm just saying this to say, like, guys, if you want to make it in life, you want to be successful, kids can't stop you.
	But overall, you can make it harder, easier for yourself.
	And marriage and having kids in that scenario can make it difficult for yourself.
	So think about it before you do it.
	Damn.
	Man.
	And I got some numbers I want to go over, too, and I'll hit these chats.
	Yo, Chris, can we kill everything except for Facebook, Twitch, and Twitter?
	Say one more thing.
	Guys, come on over to YouTube or Rumble.
	Okay, we're killing all the other streams.
	YouTube or Rumble, fresh and fit.
	So you might laugh and say, fresh or dumb, you're stupid, whatever, but I don't take anything back, bro.
	Those experiences, those I took, taught me to be who I am today.
	And over time, I'm glad because now I know what to do.
	Moving forward, those mistakes I made in the past, getting married, getting married, Dating a single mom, doing that stuff, like, doing dumb stuff, like, dude, I'm not doing it anymore.
	You don't regret it at all, huh?
	No, because, dude, imagine...
	You needed that experience?
	I needed that, bro.
	Because sometimes, like, to really understand, you need to get burned by the stove.
	Yeah.
	Because sometimes you don't...
	So, you know, oh, that happened to him?
	It won't happen to me.
	But sometimes you need that burn to feel it, so you know what?
	Damn, this is real.
	And now, when I made that mistake, hell no.
	And thankfully, you didn't deal with any really, really bad consequences, and she was understanding.
	And here's the other thing too, y'all gotta understand, bro.
	A lot of times when you divorce a girl, you're kind of at the mercy of her Yeah.
	The wife was like, yo, you know what?
	I'm tired of this.
	I'm bored.
	And he just caused a divorce, but she got lots of stuff.
	It's a tricky situation because you never know how it's going to go.
	Luckily for me, it went smooth.
	But damn.
	Shit.
	Let's read these chats and I got something I want to say as well about this.
	We have this, but we're going to read it.
	I'll read these real fast.
	Bro, I just bought my wife of eight years the latest WRX. She's always wanted one.
	She's now got this attitude that it's her car and I cannot drive it.
	What the fuck do I do, bro?
	Yo, dude.
	First of all, is it in your name?
	Because that's your car legally.
	One.
	And then two, bro, you're the man in the house.
	You just say, hey, yo, sweetie, I'm driving the car today because I need to.
	This is what it is.
	Passion follower goes, being in the army, I only make 24k a year, so would you recommend getting out or staying in?
	Bought my first home with VA, but to get another home, it will take over five years helping in jail, please.
	If you don't have any, like, you know, important skills yet, stay in the military, bro.
	Learn a high income skill in the military and then get out into the workplace.
	First, 100% correct.
	I've experienced some of the same problems that didn't have anything to do with me.
	Can't chase money and love at the same time.
	That's from Dinor.
	Facts.
	As men walk away from marriage, how do you think the system responds, reacts, or is this part of the larger play to destroy families in the West?
	Or Orwell, Huxley.
	Yeah, FS Claire, let me give you all just a cold hard reality, bro.
	Women don't give a fuck that guys are walking away from marriage and women don't give a fuck that men are walking away from dating, bro.
	You guys gotta remember that women only see about 10-20% of the male population in the first place anyway.
	They could give a fuck less what the other 80% are doing.
	And I get it, man.
	I don't have an issue with any of the MGTOW guys or guys going their own way, right?
	But just understand that they don't give a fuck about that movement.
	They don't give a fuck about average to below average guys.
	They only care about the top echelon of men.
	So whatever y'all do is going to basically be done...
	Bro, you are literally invisible.
	Like, they don't see you, bro.
	Like, whatever you do, okay.
	Alright.
	That's fine.
	And Eric Clary said this perfectly, and I talk about this in my book as well, that most women don't like most men.
	Like, I need you guys to really, like, one more time.
	Like, get that through your heads.
	Most women do not like most men.
	Most girls would prefer to be single than have a loser all to themselves.
	And you can thank Instagram, social media, Disney, mainstream television, and all the other...
	You know, forms of entertainment that we have nowadays that sells women a dream that they deserve a Prince Charming, regardless of how they behave.
	That's the world that we're in.
	Girls will sit there and hold out for a higher status guy.
	And they can now because they can go ahead and make their own money.
	They can get their own education.
	Social media gives them a list of options of men that they never had.
	And just so, again, because I have to explain things and analogies for the women to understand, but sometimes I got to explain it for y'all.
	I want to ask you guys a question, right, that are watching the show right now.
	Yeah.
	No matter how you act, she's always going to be available at the end of the night to have sex with you.
	Right.
	And she's hot.
	Whatever you want, she cooks and cleans for you, provides you all the typical utility that you would want in a girlfriend and or a wife.
	Yeah.
	Right.
	Let's assume that that was always there.
	Would you really bother and or care to get to know other women and, you know, get a girlfriend?
	Not really.
	You wouldn't, right?
	Fantastic.
	That's exactly how women feel that make their own money and have their own career.
	It is the equivalent to you having a girl already and not necessarily caring about what the other gender thinks and or wants.
	That is the modern-day woman's mindset, guys.
	They have an abundance mindset on fucking steroids.
	It's like you having a chick at home no matter what.
	You're going to be less incentivized to go out there and care about what the other gender thinks.
	You're going to be less incentivized to become attractive to the opposite gender.
	You're going to be less incentivized to figure out what that other gender wants.
	That is why so many model women are the way that they are, guys, because when they have their own job, their own careers, their own life, they don't need you.
	Men are expendable commodities in 2022.
	It used to be, oh, I need to get married so that I can have a guy provisioned for me.
	I want to go ahead and have a nuclear family, etc.
	That shit is done, bro.
	So, a lot of y'all are invisible to most women, bro.
	You just gotta accept the cold hard fact.
	You either can cry about it, right, and be one of these invisible guys at 80%, or you can rise up, become a top 20% guy, have a fighting chance, and compete in the marketplace.
	But I'm telling y'all, nothing is changing.
	It's only gonna be more and more polarizing when it comes to guys that are getting girls and guys that aren't.
	It's only going to get worse from here.
	And very good point.
	You want to have a choice in where your dating pool is.
	So for example, if you're broke, not in shape, not actually that guy you want to be, you have limited options, if any at all.
	Versus if you're a guy of value, you get to choose who you want in your life.
	That's very important, man.
	And then another guy, this is a really good point, Fresh.
	Another guy asked, if I get married in another country, should I bring her back?
	You want to hit that real quick as far as marriage abroad?
	I told a story a while ago on a different stream about this guy that we knew that brought her back from Colombia, and she was the ideal girl, bro.
	A literal nine, very feminine, very beautiful, very caring, loving.
	However, once again, that's the environment that she was brought up in, raised in.
	Coming to America now, it's totally different.
	It's the West, bro.
	You got music, thoughtery, you got parties, you got people telling her, it's just a bunch of stuff happening in America that's going to taint you in a way.
	Now she's tarnished, by the way.
	So, it's a magic combination of multiple variables and factors that allow women to abstain from their natural role as, you know, mothers, you know, wives, etc.
	Like, we live in a society in the United States, guys, that incentivizes women to not be dutiful wives.
	Yeah.
	Right?
	It's not really conducive to raising a family.
	There's a shame for it.
	You know what I mean?
	You're cleaning?
	You're cooking?
	Yeah.
	For him?
	Yeah.
	You don't have to grow?
	Yeah.
	So, she came to America, got into a circle of friends here, the Miami girls, the Daughtery, the Air Force, and it turned to her.
	She changed completely, and she was leaving her man home.
	Oh, I'll be late.
	I'm sleeping over at my girl's house.
	And was this like an average guy?
	Average guy.
	So imagine, she would have been fighting in Columbia, going over here, turned completely.
	And then she divorced him, and she waited two years, by the way.
	She waited two years, then divorced his ass, and I got another guy.
	Yeah.
	It's an L, bro.
	I mean, yeah.
	And I'm glad you brought up that story.
	Guys, if you're going to go ahead and go to Brazil, Colombia, Philippines, Thailand, you know, what's another one?
	Ukraine, Russia, any of these countries, the Eastern Bloc countries, right?
	Because a lot of y'all like going to these places to find a serious girlfriend or whatever.
	Fucking stay there.
	Don't bring her, bro.
	Don't bring her back to the United States and get her brainwashed with this radical feminism and bullshit.
	It's not going to help you, bro.
	And I've told you guys this before.
	Marriage, I think...
	I still think marriage is a fantastic institution.
	when the state's not involved.
	100%.
	When the state's involved, that's when there's issues.
	And unfortunately, in the United States, the state is always going to be involved.
	So you can't afford to get married in the United States and have the government meddle in your affairs when it comes to marriage.
	When it comes to having children and a family, you want to do it under the pretense of a marriage, but you just can't safely do it in the United States.
	So if you are going to marry abroad, you're going to have a girl, you want to have a family, etc.
	Don't do it here.
	Don't do it here.
	Do it somewhere where you're not getting the law involved, where they can come in and destroy you financially as a man.
	And if there's a problem for her, you know what she wants.
	If she needs a state to be involved, that's a problem.
	That's a red flag, bro.
	And we had this talk with Hafiz.
	Right?
	And a lot of these guys that, you know, are more trad cons and want to have families and all this other stuff.
	I'm not for...
	I'm not against families.
	I'm not against marriage.
	I'm against marriage when the state is involved in the United States and typical first world countries.
	That's what I'm an issue with because we know two-parent households are...
	Critical to raising children that are productive members of society.
	I understand that.
	That is a fact.
	That's not my opinion.
	That is a fact.
	And having children within the confinements of marriage is critical.
	However, you cannot afford to do it in a place like the United States, like a place in the United Kingdom, in a place like France, for example, where you can't even fucking do a paternity test on children that you think might not be yours.
	Clown world shit.
	If it's a first world country with common law, more than likely the divorce laws are not made for you to win, my friend.
	So you gotta go somewhere where the laws are not going to cripple and destroy you financially, emotionally, spiritually, make you lose your kids, make you lose access to your finances, your home, all this crap.
	You gotta be intelligent about this shit.
	So bringing a girl back to the States that you married abroad is quite frankly one of the stupid things you could do.
	Yeah, dating nowadays is tough, bro.
	That passport gang, it works, but only over there.
	Yeah, it's passport and stay gang.
	That's what it's got to be.
	No, not to the passport, bros.
	We get it.
	There's a whole movement of dudes leaving the States and becoming expatriates in these other countries, and they're doing what they want to do.
	But, bro, that ends once you bring them back here, my friend.
	As my friend Casey would always say, go where you're appreciated.
	Yeah.
	Hey, Myron and Fresh, would you guys ever have time liking us on your show?
	You should.
	That thing would get more hits than a UFC pay-per-view.
	Yeah, we'll try.
	I would love to, bro.
	I tried on Facebook, but...
	I'm going to hit him on Instagram again.
	We'll see.
	I will say this.
	Live streams like this bring more value than after our show.
	I can understand what Fresh is saying.
	Men need to hear this because a lot of guys fell into this trap.
	Yes, man.
	That's why...
	It's funny.
	It's a joke, but, like, dude, it can save somebody's life, bro, because this is real life.
	Like...
	Life refreshes mistakes.
	I wish I had somebody that told me this before I did it.
	So I could know, you know what?
	Alright, bro.
	Think twice before you even go down that path.
	Luckily, I got all scot-free, but dude, you might not be that lucky.
	Yeah.
	FNF gang, how do I balance getting money and being in my children's lives?
	I have daughters and I want to be an active parent, but I'm getting fucked by child support and need to continue chasing the bag.
	Any advice?
	At that level, you've already entered into that agreement with the court and child support, so you're kind of stuck there.
	However...
	What you could do is involve them in your lifestyle.
	So like Grant Cardone, right?
	He'll have his kids and fly them out with him to whatever meeting he has.
	Okay, cool.
	Our daughters.
	I'm going to do this show real quick.
	Then we're going to go have a fun time.
	We don't know how cool his wife is, though.
	His wife might be using the kids as pawns against him.
	Oh, yeah.
	Again, bro, we don't know enough to give good advice on that, but that's, bro, I'm telling you, man.
	If you can implement them into your lifestyle, it doesn't affect them in a bad way.
	Absolutely.
	If you can.
	Fuck them kids.
	MDZ, yeah.
	Some men don't care about these women either.
	MDZ, I wish I could say that, but the truth is y'all care a lot more than they care.
	Which is why podcasts like this are so popular.
	Male self-improvement podcasts are exploding because I'll tell you all this.
	There's no YouTube channels out there teaching women how to get guys.
	I'll tell you all that right fucking now, bro.
	They don't need help, bro.
	They don't need no fucking help, man.
	It's the guys that need the goddamn help.
	To maintain, they need help, but to get them?
	Yeah.
	It's easy.
	Shout out, big respect to Taliban.
	They just kicked all the Afghan women out of the colleges and workforce.
	They may have just saved the family.
	What the fuck?
	Yo, what the fuck?
	This nigga yelling, bro.
	Lord Hybrid.
	Yo, this nigga, bro.
	Raymond Raiden.
	God of thunder.
	Fuck.
	Taliban.
	Yo, y'all got no chill in the chat, man.
	Problem if you're a literal boss, manager, or director of, the best thing, the best women work for you or for under your authority.
	Cool.
	And guys, I wrote down some numbers real quick for y'all as far as cost or associate or marriage that you guys might not be aware of.
	Breaking stats.
	The average wedding in the United States, guys, is $28,000, okay?
	Mind you, we know that the average American's income is somewhere between $37,000 to $50,000 per year.
	That's damn near a year's salary on a fucking wedding event, okay?
	Which means you're going to be paying that back for years to come.
	Yes.
	The average divorce, guys, is going to cost you somewhere between $7,000 to $20,000, okay?
	And that doesn't count the anguish and the pain and everything else that you're going to have to pay for during that divorce, okay?
	Okay.
	Yeah.
	300,000 K or so 300,000 300,000 dollars excuse me by the time they're 18 let's say you have three kids that's a million dollars now imagine that doesn't include incidentals or any random occurrences that's just like regular fees bro that's regular That's not accounting for them going to college.
	None of that.
	That's just them living until they're 18.
	We haven't even talked about college yet, okay?
	And then, if you want, the typical home in the United States, guys, three-bedroom, two-bath, is somewhere between $250,000 to $400,000, guys.
	The average three-two in the United States, okay?
	And it varies wildly because, obviously, a home in California is going to be significantly more than a home in Arkansas.
	But it averages out to about $250k to $400k for a three-bedroom, two-bath.
	And also, right, we didn't talk about, you know, alimony, child support, all these things that could fluctuate significantly based on how much money you make per year, guys.
	So, like I said before, I'll say this one more time to bring this full circle.
	I think marriage is a I cannot tell guys in good faith to get married in the United States knowing all the negative consequences that can come to you financially, emotionally, destroying your life, etc.
	in the States.
	If you want to get married nowadays and you want to have that traditional nuclear family, which by the way is the best way to raise children, More than likely, you ain't gonna be able to do it here.
	Right?
	Unless you can find some way to do it where the state isn't involved, do not fucking get married.
	And some guys, they think, you know what?
	I won't get married to her, but I'm gonna cohabitate.
	Same shit.
	If you live with her, bro, for a period of time, she's getting mailed to your house, same laws apply.
	So it's crazy, bro.
	Don't get legally married, guys.
	That's the biggest takeaway I could give y'all is don't get married legally where the state can now meddle in your affairs.
	Yeah.
	Because you're gonna take the L as the man.
	Do it through the church, which is what I should have done.
	Hmm.
	Yeah, and I'm sure there's plenty of ways to get married where the state isn't involved, but those are the options you guys need to explore.
	As far as, like, going to the downtown or City Hall and cutting a fucking marriage certificate, all that shit, hell no.
	I walked in there, boom, my God.
	I was like, yeah, I did this shit.
	Oh, God, I messed up, man.
	You stupid.
	Oh, man.
	All right, cool.
	I'm a single man working a full-time job.
	How can I claim real estate professional for tax return purposes if I own two to three rental properties to lower my income to be in a lower tax bracket possible?
	We're going to have Steve come on and talk about that being a real estate professional.
	That's a fantastic question.
	Labeling yourself as a real estate professional on your taxes lowers your liability significantly.
	But I think you need to be able to prove a certain amount of hours of work.
	I got to double check with Steve, but we're going to bring him on the pod and we're going to talk about that for y'all.
	What was that?
	And that's from RM. And guys, also, I bought two houses last week, and I'm about to do another deal in cash next week.
	I'm going to talk to you guys.
	Once I close all three of them, I'm going to go ahead and tell you guys how I found the deals, how much I paid for each, cash flow analysis, all that stuff.
	I'll bring the chart out and everything, and I'll tell you guys what to look for when you're buying houses in this real estate market.
	As y'all know, the interest rates have been going up and down all over the place.
	The markets cool off a bit, but this is a fantastic time to buy, regardless of what these other idiots are saying.
	Like, oh my god, real estate market is just shaking.
	Don't do it.
	Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
	Yeah, that's a bunch of normie stupid advice.
	If you're buying and holding real estate, guys, and collecting rent, this is a fantastic time to buy.
	Because remember, as home prices go up or down, it doesn't matter.
	You, people are always going to need a place to live, and tenants are always going to need a place to stay.
	And you as the homeowner, right, as the landlord, you're able to win on either side.
	Uh...
	And we'll talk about that probably maybe either next week or after the credit episodes for y'all.
	Money Monday.
	But we got y'all, man.
	We're going to give you guys a sauce.
	We want y'all to fucking build financial independence.
	Where we at?
	Tamir Kasun.
	Goes, wish I had this info before.
	Married with four kids.
	Now I'm stuck.
	Cheaper to keeper.
	Continue doing what y'all doing.
	Save the younger brothers.
	Hey, man, we got you, bro.
	I'm not gonna lie.
	If you got too much kids, you're fucked, bro.
	Yeah, facts.
	That shit...
	You know, Rolo always famously says that women are dream killers.
	And that's not because women are actually dream killers.
	It's because a lot of you guys are too stupid to not realize that you can't kill your dreams just because you're in a relationship.
	Yeah.
	One more time for y'all because a lot of you guys...
	Don't want to take accountability.
	Rolo always famously says that women are dream killers.
	It's not that women actually kill your dreams.
	It's that a lot of you guys are too stupid to realize that you need to continue pursuing your dreams even though you're in a relationship with her.
	Despite whatever the hell she tells you.
	Because if you win, she wins as a byproduct as your woman.
	But a lot of you guys will sit there and be like, okay, I won't go to the gym today.
	I'll stay home and watch TV with you.
	Or, okay, I'll take this day off of work so that I can hang out more with you.
	No, bro.
	You need to go ahead, that little soft pussy voice in your head like, no.
	Just be comfortable.
	Just relax.
	Stay home.
	Watch Netflix.
	Ah!
	You gotta tell that motherfucker...
	Nope.
	And fucking go to work that day.
	Or go to the gym.
	You gotta do what's required regardless of how you feel.
	That is literally the measurement of success.
	You must do what is required regardless of how you fucking feel.
	That is the main difference between being a man and being a woman.
	You are not ruled by your emotions and quite frankly, you don't have the excuse of saying, I feel emotional right now.
	I'm on my period.
	You don't get that fucking benefit as a guy.
	You gotta do what's required regardless of how you feel, motherfuckers.
	And you might feel like a sense of obligation and duty to say, you know what?
	I should compromise for this situation, but...
	In that same duty obligation, that's for you to actually say, you know what?
	As a man, I need to be successful for my family.
	So you got to make a choice, bro.
	Either you're compromising for her or for your life and your family.
	Yep.
	Got to choose.
	And I'll tell you guys this, man.
	It's always better to sacrifice her because she's going to benefit in the first place anyway as soon as you make more money, bro.
	She wins regardless, bro.
	You know, men make money so that they can go ahead and take care of a family.
	Women make money so that they can say they're independent of your bum ass.
	That's the difference, bro.
	When men and women make money, we have totally different goals.
	A woman was arguing with a group of men saying if a man asks for a paternity test, he's basically saying that her loyalty is in question because real men wouldn't test to see if the kid is his.
	Yeah, that's the clown world shit.
	Yeah, in France, it's illegal.
	That's like the ganjitsu.
	It's a trick.
	So, you know, oh, don't get tested.
	It's your baby.
	Literally, in France, it's illegal.
	Someone was telling me about that.
	I was like, holy.
	So if you think a kid isn't yours and you're with a chick, you can't even get a paternity test.
	Wow.
	Question.
	For 50k, I can start my own business that can yield 100 to 300k per year or buy a house and save for another few years to start my own business.
	It comes down to you, bro.
	Is there a market for what you want to do?
	What do you say to guys like Ruslan and Hafiz who gaslight men into getting married?
	They're not aware of the current sexual marketplace, bro.
	Don't rush into it, bro.
	Look at the...
	Issues of finances, getting divorced, look also the positives of it as well.
	Look at the downs and ups of it.
	However, make a calculated choice, logical choice, and then go with it.
	But, bro, to be honest with you, bro, like I said earlier, do it either outside of the state or outside of the U.S.
	Here's the problem with TRIADCONs before I close this thing out.
	I don't have a problem with Hafiz, right?
	As you guys know, we get along with him.
	People were trying to drag him a couple months ago, and we're not with that.
	But I do fundamentally disagree with, you know, that TRIADCON mindset that guys need to get married and they need to do it, especially United States.
	The problem is this.
	Even though it's a fantastic institution, it's dated.
	It no longer works in 2022.
	It's not 1950 anymore.
	Women are not necessarily wives, okay?
	You got a lot of strong, independent women here that are more concerned with living a certain type of lifestyle versus being a dutiful wife.
	And what I say is, you got to acclimate to that.
	You're not going to change the world.
	You just got to adapt to the world.
	So the problem with Tradcons is they're about 70 years too goddamn late.
	Yeah.
	That's the problem, bro.
	They don't live in today's current sexual marketplace.
	Yo, shout out to D. Rose, man.
	He had his wife and baby mama in pajamas for Christmas over at the crib.
	W to D. Rose, bro.
	D. Rose?
	Yeah, a basketballer.
	Oh, Derek Rose?
	Yeah, that nigga's legit, bro.
	Oh, he used to play for the Bulls?
	Yeah, yeah.
	Yeah, okay.
	Shout out to him.
	Yeah, cool.
	Anything else?
	No, we got some girls here.
	All right, guys.
	We have two chats for Rumble.
	Two shots from Rumble?
	Okay.
	Shout out to all of our ninjas on Rumble, bro.
	Yes, sir.
	Rumble gang.
	Big Smalls goes, for people thinking about prenups, most of the prenups can be contested in court, and in some countries like Canada, it's almost useless.
	Yeah.
	I mean, a prenup is, you know, depending on how it's made, you know, it could still come back to bite you in the ass, especially if you make her sign it under duress.
	You guys should watch.
	Steven Jackson did a whole broad pod on this where he talked about how his wife wouldn't sign the prenup until the day of the marriage.
	And the day of, he's like, I'm not getting married.
	And she's like, okay, okay, I'll sign it.
	She brings a fucking letter to him crying and shit on the wedding day.
	And he was like, nah, I ain't signing it because this is going to be considered signing under duress and it would have been thrown out.
	Imagine he signed it.
	Yeah, that would have been a big fucking...
	What?
	The knowledge saved him.
	Yep.
	The knowledge did save him.
	Guys, here's the knowledge for you, bro.
	And all you guys that are successful, that got money, that got assets, you guys gotta think even harder about getting married, bro.
	You got shit to lose, bro.
	Yeah, man.
	Back then, bro, I got shit to lose.
	I was good to go.
	You got some money, you got some status, bro.
	All you guys that are watching the show make six figures a year, you got a couple real estate properties, you know what I mean?
	You're making a good amount of money, bro.
	You need to think even harder about marriage, bro.
	For you, it's even less acceptable.
	Dude, they really watch you because they know where they can benefit from.
	Yeah.
	If it fails.
	Yeah, bro.
	It's L. What else we got here?
	Local Airmen.
	Seen too many men get cheated on in the Air Force.
	Jody is undefeated.
	Boys, don't try it.
	Yeah.
	And real quick, I guess I'll just rehash this before we close out.
	I've always said you need to have a couple things in place before you even think about getting married.
	Be 35 years old, make...
	Six figures a year.
	Have at least six months to one year of savings in your bank account ready to deploy in times of crisis.
	Have sex with 50 girls and be in shape.
	Now, I know you're like, oh my god, what the hell, Byron?
	Does that make any kind of sense?
	Well, 35, you're going to be more experienced and a lot of women are going to find you more attractive because you have experience.
	Women are attracted to experience.
	Men are attracted to inexperience.
	It is what it is.
	50 girls.
	And then trying to build when you're on the way up and being married, bro?
	Dude, that's almost impossible.
	You don't have to be superhumanly focused on that alone.
	Fuck them kids.
	And your family's going to have to help you to do some shit like that.
	It's team effort at that point.
	That's number one.
	Being older, you're just going to have more life experience.
	You're going to be wiser.
	The woman's going to want to defer to your authority.
	That's number one.
	Number two, as far as making six figures a year.
	Guys, inflation is here.
	We live in a day and age nowadays where...
	I ain't gonna lie to y'all, bro.
	The average salary of $50,000 per year is not fucking enough.
	You need to make more, okay?
	Because not only do you need to make enough money for you to survive, you need to make money for your children and your family to survive.
	We just went over $17,000 per kid per year.
	If you have two kids, that's damn near $50,000 alone in itself.
	That's not even counting the mortgage, all that other shit, all right?
	Next, be in shape, bro.
	Guys, this is fucking non-negotiable.
	If you're not in shape, no one's going to respect you.
	If you don't respect yourself, who the fuck is going to respect you?
	You can't be a fat piece of shit, triple chin.
	Hey, babe, I need you to...
	I want to get some sex.
	She don't even want to fucking touch you or look at you because you're a disgusting creature.
	Get in fucking shape, bro.
	That's one thing in life that you have 100% control over.
	Going to the gym and eating properly, alright?
	And then next, 50 girls.
	Why?
	Okay, well guys, I'll be honest with y'all.
	The average woman nowadays that's college educated, that is somewhat attractive, is probably going to have a body count somewhere in the double digits.
	If you don't have at least that amount, hey man, you ain't going to be...
	You're not going to be...
	Experience enough to deal with women from a position where you won't get finessed.
	You need experience, bro.
	And I know somebody in the chat's like, that's Haram.
	Haram!
	You're right, bro.
	But hey, this is the current modern dating marketplace.
	I'm giving guys the best advice for the marketplace here in the States.
	And then, what was the other one?
	Have six months to one year of savings.
	Guys, that's not negotiable, man.
	You need to have money for a rainy day.
	The average American doesn't even have $1,000 in savings or can't cover a $500 bill if it was an emergency.
	That's un-fucking-acceptable.
	If you're watching our podcast, you better be fucking saving your money, not buying a bunch of stupid shit.
	Okay?
	And then, what was the last one?
	I think that's it, no?
	35, 50 girls, in shape.
	Savings.
	Savings.
	I think that's it.
	Yeah, I think that's it.
	Cool.
	And I just had to rehash that for y'all.
	Jesus Castillo.
	Goes, 21, made a decision to get married over a year ago.
	I've since separated because she was holding me back.
	Always been highly motivated and I feel like I'm in a slump.
	I've tried and researched but can't seem to get ahead.
	Putting pride aside to say, I need help.
	Bro, you just gotta get your head in the fucking game, man.
	You know what I mean?
	Everybody goes through a little mental funk and like, oh, I don't know if I want to do this anymore, blah, blah, blah.
	You know, you just got to tell yourself, okay, I got to stop being a pussy and I got to do what's required regardless of how I feel.
	I've said it before.
	I'll say it again.
	Guys, one of the biggest differences between men and women is women get the privilege of being able to behave based on how they feel.
	You as a man, you gotta behave based on what's fucking real.
	Because if you behave based on how you feel, no one gives a fuck, okay?
	No one wants to watch you cry in a fucking corner.
	Most people are repulsed by watching a grown-ass man cry about their circumstances, alright?
	You gotta toughen up, right?
	Fucking pull your fucking, grab yourself by your bootstraps, stop being a bitch, hold your fucking nuts, look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, am I happy with what I see back, looking back at me?
	The answer is no, you got some fucking work to do.
	Because I'll be honest with y'all, a lot of you motherfuckers look at yourself in the mirror, triple chin, fucking looking like shit, neck beard, all kept, fucked up, looking dirty as hell, pizza stain on your t-shirt, wondering why.
	Man, nobody fucking respects me.
	Because you don't even respect yourself when you look in the fucking mirror.
	Alright?
	You guys are out here wanting bad bitches, but y'all niggas look bad all day.
	What the fuck is going on?
	Like, that's the truth!
	You gotta see it on this podcast.
	Women that are average don't even want average motherfuckers.
	You gotta be superior.
	You gotta be superior in today's day and age.
	And barely.
	You know what I mean?
	So, yo, there is no fucking excuse.
	It's do or die.
	Adapt or die.
	We're not here to fucking cry.
	On this podcast, we give y'all solutions.
	We don't give you guys...
	We're not gonna sit here and cry about hypergamy and all this other fuck shit.
	You gotta fucking grab your nuts and get the shit done.
	Okay?
	Regardless of how you fucking feel.
	Fuck your feelings.
	You're not a woman.
	You're a man.
	Nobody cares.
	Nobody's coming to save you, bruh.
	Nobody's coming to save you.
	A lot of y'all gotta stop being fucking soft.
	And I blame the trophy society that we have nowadays where we give everybody a fucking trophy just for participating.
	That's some bullshit.
	Raiden, God of Thunder.
	I got married, had a kid, and this divorce in order to make sure my child was not born out of wedlock.
	No good deed goes unpunished.
	Yeah, bro, that is a...
	Fatality.
	Raiden, God of Thunder.
	Definitely about to get hit with that thunder.
	Dildo Swagons goes, I've seen cases when you don't live with a woman and common law marriage is still applied.
	I've seen cases where the kids live with the man and the court's still charging money.
	You need a John Cena 75-page contract to give Nikki Bella when dealing with women.
	Yeah!
	Yeah, bro.
	Don't get married in the West, bro.
	But, alright, cool.
	We're going to be back here.
	Chris, call it?
	10.
	10?
	Alright, cool, guys.
	We're going to be back in about 45 minutes with some lovely ladies on the panel.
	We've got a great show after hours planned for y'all.
	Love y'all.
	Guys, share this video with a friend that's thinking about getting married, about to get married, is a simp, you know, is engaged or whatever the fuck.
	Share this video with them and let them hear freshest testimony.
	Use my L to your advantage, bro.
	Facts.
	Real talk, man.
	Love y'all.
	Catch you guys back here in a bit.
	Peace.
	Peace.

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