The Golden One - Marcus Follin - Suicide - Causes and Prevention (With a Focus on Young Men)
Aired: 2019-10-23
Duration: 07:08


=== Evolutionary Insights on Suicide (03:29) ===

[00:00:00]  Greetings, today I thought to talk a bit about suicide.
[00:00:03]  It's not the most fun topic to talk about, but it has to be done because ultimately it might save a few lives if we gain a deeper understanding about the causes and knowing the causes we can also talk about how to prevent suicide.
[00:00:21]  So basically let us turn to the primordial truth and what does it say evolutionary about suicide.
[00:00:28]  Yes, that there is an evolutionary explanation for primarily men killing themselves and that is if it means that the tribe or the social setting has a higher chance of survival without a man he can then in order to increase his tribe's chances of survival he can kill himself.
[00:00:51]  So that can be the evolutionary explanation as why some men view it as a better course of action to take their own lives rather than to live on.
[00:01:01]  So it's basically a calculation on I can do more good for my tribe if I am not alive, if I'm not taking resources etc.
[00:01:10]  So that can be our starting position in viewing suicide and in today's society we have a lot of young men who do not feel like they are contributing to their social setting and that is a bad start if we're talking about mental unhealth to feel that you're not useful basically.
[00:01:32]  Then of course we have a discussion on the physical unhealth because they're too related.
[00:01:38]  If you don't take care of your body you don't take care of your mind and add to this you have a lot of drugs both legal and illegal drugs that we have to talk about but that will be for another video.
[00:01:51]  Now I'm just talking about the evolutionary reasons and the more social reasons for men killing themselves.
[00:01:58]  So basically we know if a man doesn't really have any place, he doesn't feel useful, it can lead to depression and that can in the worst cases lead to a suicide.
[00:02:10]  So in preventing a suicide it's first and foremost necessary to give men a place to give these young guys a meaning and a purpose so that they can feel like they are working towards a greater goal.
[00:02:23]  They are being part of something.
[00:02:25]  Because only working for yourself, yeah, it can be satisfactory in short amounts of time, but in the long term I don't think it's healthy for a man to feel that he is on his own.
[00:02:36]  Some guys might say that, you know, I'm only doing this for myself and I'm only looking out for myself, but it's a very unnatural thing to do.
[00:02:44]  And this is also my biggest concern with certain guys who are promoting hyper individualism, etc. because it's not good in the long run for anyone's mental health.
[00:02:58]  So basically what society has to stop doing is to vilify these young men saying that their natural urges are something bad.
[00:03:09]  So they say toxic masculinity here, Toxic masculinity there.
[00:03:14]  Instead, you should say these are all good urges you have to protect the weak, for example, to become powerful so you can protect the weak.
[00:03:21]  You can talk about going to the gym, saying that is an outlet for outdated, bad, and yeah, toxic masculinity.

=== Find Support, Feel Valued (03:39) ===

[00:03:30]  Of course, if you vilify all the things that makes men happy, it will not be a good way forward for them.
[00:03:38]  Because if they can't make themselves happy, if they can't make themselves feel useful, feel good, being able to help others, yeah, then you will lead them into a place where you've taken away their joy derived from masculine endeavors, and that is not a good mix in the long run.
[00:03:57]  Because you can only deafen your senses with porn and over-consumption of video games and bad foods and drugs, marijuana.
[00:04:07]  You can only do it for so long.
[00:04:08]  Ultimately, you come to a point where you actually have to have something higher to strive to watch.
[00:04:13]  So, basically, what can be done?
[00:04:16]  Yes, first and foremost, giving men a purpose, giving men a social setting, giving men something to work to watch, giving men something to help with.
[00:04:27]  So, keeping that in mind, let us view some of the options you can do if you feel like you would like to take your own life.
[00:04:36]  And also, if you have someone you know who perhaps do not feel well, please do share this video.
[00:04:43]  So, what you can do is simply, first and foremost, look at the biological aspects.
[00:04:47]  Go for a run, run as fast and as long as you can.
[00:04:51]  Then, you might get an endorphin kick, you might feel a bit better.
[00:04:54]  Then, go home, have a nice shower, and then go to your local supermarket and buy something nice to eat.
[00:05:01]  It might sound really simplistic, it might not be a long-term cure, but it can be a short-term experience that makes you feel good about living that day.
[00:05:11]  Then, you might start realizing, yeah, you know what, there are things I can do that I can feel better.
[00:05:16]  Then, secondly, find a way to help others.
[00:05:20]  That's the absolutely best way you can deal with your own unhappiness.
[00:05:24]  It's to help others.
[00:05:25]  So, sign up for some something.
[00:05:28]  It can be anything.
[00:05:29]  Check out your local community.
[00:05:30]  What can you do for others?
[00:05:32]  And then you feel needed by someone, and then you will be happy, thus, satisfying your masculine energy of wanting to be a valued member of the tribe.
[00:05:42]  Then, thirdly, do try to find a social setting where you are welcome and where you feel at ease in.
[00:05:49]  This is, of course, a very hard step, but you can try at least.
[00:05:53]  You can try to join some sort of social milia where it is possible.
[00:05:58]  Again, it is hard, but that would be a third step along the way.
[00:06:03]  So, to conclude, what you can do, first and foremost, look at your biological setting.
[00:06:08]  What are you doing with your body?
[00:06:10]  Are you sleeping well?
[00:06:11]  Are you abstaining from porn?
[00:06:13]  Are you abstaining from drugs?
[00:06:15]  Are you abstaining from alcohol?
[00:06:17]  Are you getting enough training?
[00:06:18]  Are you getting enough fresh air?
[00:06:20]  Are you out in the forest enough?
[00:06:23]  So, ask yourself all of these questions.
[00:06:25]  And if you say, Yeah, you know what, I am taking care of myself, then move on to what can I do to help others?
[00:06:33]  What can I do to help my local community?
[00:06:35]  Can I help some old relative I have or anything like that?
[00:06:40]  Then, hopefully, you can find someone to help.
[00:06:43]  Then, thirdly, find a social setting of your own where you are comfortable.
[00:06:48]  So, I hope that brought some insights to the matter.
[00:06:51]  At least, I know this was just me scratching on the surface of a very complex topic, but I just had to make this video in case someone stumbles upon it and can get some perspective on it so you can help someone in need of your assistance.
[00:07:06]  So, thank you for watching.
[00:07:08]  XXO.