July 11, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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| All right. | |
| So, Papito. | |
| You are live with me. | |
| If you wanna chat, you can send your thoughts through my brainwaves, reshape my neurons with your syllables, tongue caress me into wisdom. | |
| What's on your mind, my friend? | |
| Don't forget to unmute. | |
| Hi, Stefan. | |
| How are you today? | |
| Well, how are you doing? | |
| Good, good. | |
| Thanks. | |
| I would have argued against all your points. | |
| This idea to reduce the risk. | |
| Risk is cost plus odds, right? | |
| So the cost is very high. | |
| But what I want to do is to turn it on you. | |
| Like, why would we want to have a wife these days? | |
| Sure, that's a great question. | |
| So there's a number of reasons as to why you'd want a wife. | |
| I mean, there's love, of course. | |
| And if you can have love, that's the greatest thing in the world. | |
| I don't really need to sell you on that, I'm sure. | |
| But there are very practical benefits to a man to have a wife. | |
| So men who are married live on average five to seven years longer. | |
| I get there's cause and effect. | |
| There's correlation. | |
| It's not causation. | |
| But when you start to add up enough benefits, it starts to become pretty compelling. | |
| So you've got a five to seven year extension in your lifespan, which is very significant. | |
| You have better mental health. | |
| You have lower levels of stress and cortisol. | |
| You have greater financial success as, and this is just marriage. | |
| Kids is a whole other issue, right? | |
| So in terms of physical, mental, financial health, longevity, peace of mind, happiness, and so on, men do significantly better when they're married than when they're single, which is exactly what you'd expect. | |
| You'd expect nature to have programmed us to get benefits from something like marriage. | |
| Now, of course, there are risks. | |
| Naturally, you could end up marrying some total horrible shrew. | |
| As the Bible says, it's better to live in the corner of a roof than in a house with a quarrelsome woman. | |
| But there's ways that you can vet that. | |
| There's ways you can check that. | |
| And of course, I've done work for the last 20 years talking to thousands of people about their relationships, telling them how to avoid the red flags. | |
| Everyone tells you everything they need to know about them in the first minute. | |
| Honestly, I'm not kidding about that. | |
| And so we've unfortunately been raised to not see these red flags, which of course is, you know, predatory people are in charge of the world. | |
| And so the lions don't teach the zebras how to identify lions. | |
| So predatory people don't teach you how to identify their fellow predators. | |
| So a lot of men walk blind into the estrogen death traps of vagina dentata. | |
| So I would say that you assess the risk. | |
| The benefits are enormous. | |
| And it's well worth it statistically. | |
| Can I push back on the benefits, though? | |
| Because I think all the stats you quoted are based on our society that wasn't quite nearly as close as the levels of people living alone and being fine with that as we see in modernity, especially with the millennials generation forward. | |
| So I don't think you can just say, so number one, those statistics, you know, we would have to look into it. | |
| I'm pretty sure those studies are shaky at best. | |
| Sorry, and what do you mean by shaky? | |
| Shaky at best is a judgment. | |
| And so what I mean is the question. | |
| No, no, hang on. | |
| So that's a clear prejudice, right? | |
| I'm not saying you're wrong, but to dismiss, you know, pretty well-researched stuff just because you don't like it is not intellectually responsible, right? | |
| No, okay, which is what you just did. | |
| What I said is what we should look into the statistics. | |
| No, no, you said. | |
| No, hang on, hang on, hang on. | |
| You said these statistics are shaky at best. | |
| How do you know? | |
| Yeah. | |
| Because I've seen, you know, the studies about happiness, for instance, reported happiness is a shaky at best type of measurement. | |
| the use of Compared to what? | |
| Something has to be shaky compared to what. | |
| So when people say they're happy, you're saying, I don't believe them. | |
| But what else? | |
| How else are we supposed to measure? | |
| Well, something doesn't have to be compared to anything in order to have a weak foundation. | |
| So I reject it. | |
| Sure, it is. | |
| No, absolutely. | |
| You can't say strong or weak relative to what? | |
| Is a man strong relative, like is an Iron Man strong? | |
| Yeah. | |
| Is he strong? | |
| We're not talking about it. | |
| I'm still talking. | |
| Is a strong man strong relative to a giant tractor? | |
| No. | |
| Is he strong relative to a locomotive? | |
| Yeah. | |
| Is he strong relative to a weak man? | |
| Sure. | |
| So, yes, all comparative measures require a standard. | |
| So if you're going to say this is shaky at best, it is compared to what? | |
| You're saying it falls short in some matter. | |
| If self-reported happiness is the best way to measure happiness, maybe there's another way. | |
| I don't know. |
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