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June 18, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
05:48
"He's Too Insecure to Love Me!"
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The shock that men would dare ask what is in the relationship for him or what does she bring to the table?
Oh yeah, of course, all women's preferences are standards.
All men's preferences are based on insecurity and hysterical need to control women.
Right, so I mean, I'll steal directly from the whatever podcast because I think his name is Brian, the man they call Brian.
He was having a debate with women and he was saying, if your man, if your boyfriend doesn't want you to go to the club, Don't want you to go to the bar and drink with your girlfriends.
Is that bad?
Oh, that's so bad.
He's so insecure.
He should trust me.
He's too controlling.
Well, that's controlling.
Okay.
Well, what if your man wants to go to a strip club?
Oh, that's bad.
He shouldn't do that, right?
Well, wouldn't he just say, well, you've got to trust me.
You're insecure if you don't want me to go to a strip club.
And Brian's argument, which was a very solid, a good argument, was that The man's chances of sleeping with the stripper are virtually zero, but 90% of the men of the club will have sex with a reasonably attractive woman if she offers it.
So, the relationship is far safer if the man goes to the strip club than if the woman goes to the club and gets drunk.
Right, so, yeah, asking women what they bring to the table.
Well, see, but women now have had three generations of old-age pensions in the welfare state.
They don't need women.
You put the welfare state in and then you tell women they don't need men and they believe you.
I get it.
I get it.
If I get $100 worth of free groceries delivered to my house every day, I don't need no stinking grocery store.
It's not complicated, right?
The welfare state was put in place in part to convince women empirically that they don't need men and therefore make women less appealing, more entitled.
Less dateable, and to reduce the birth rate.
Alright, somebody says, Steph, I want to be clear with you.
Good, because being opaque with me is not helpful.
I've had hours and hours of value from you over the years, and it's only fairly recently that I have subscribed to you.
On a monthly subscription now that my finances are becoming more stable.
My plan is to build up my therapeutic coaching and I will be able to increase my subscription.
Plus, I'm spreading your values to my clients, as I mentioned.
I've also spread it to my friends and family.
I've not hoarded the knowledge.
I just wanted to get this off.
Yeah, I mean, I...
Your finances have to be in a pretty bad state where a $10 a month subscription is the difference between...
It's just a matter of priorities.
And this is not to do with donating to me.
Do it or don't do it.
but I just sort of make the case.
So everyone thinks, well, I'll be...
We'll take my example.
So people say, well, I'll donate to Steph when my finances are more stable.
But that's a passive thing.
And it's not even true.
There's very few people in the world whose finances are so bad that if they subscribe for $5 or $10 a month to me, they're going to end up homeless.
Come on, there's always something you can cut.
It's literally a coffee a month.
There's a $3 subscription at freedomain.com.
I will not believe anyone, and I'll just be honest with you, and I could be wrong, but I will not believe anyone who says, Steph, I can't afford $3, $5, or $10 a month.
I just don't have the money.
I just don't believe it.
I really don't.
I don't believe it.
I mean, I wouldn't say that to people.
I can say I'm not comfortable.
I don't want to.
I'm not happy.
It makes me anxious.
But to say I can't afford...
You've got computers, cell phones, internet.
You probably have...
And so the idea that you can't subscribe because you just don't have the money is essentially not true.
It's essentially not true.
And I'm not nagging you about this.
Thank you, Chris.
You just need to understand, and I'm not trying to get you to donate, honestly.
Maybe you've been around people who aren't direct, blunt, and honest with you, but if someone says to me, Steph, I couldn't afford three bucks a month, I couldn't afford five bucks a month, I just don't believe you.
Now, I'm not saying you should spend it, but you could.
There's almost nobody in the West Where it's like, well, my necessary expenses are $2,000 a month.
My income is $2,000 a month.
And if I subscribe for a couple of extra bucks a month, I'm going to get kicked out of my apartment.
I'm going to go hungry.
That's just not the way that life works.
That's not the way.
I mean, do you go out to eat?
Do you have a coffee out once in a while?
Do you pick up a bagel in a drive-thru?
I'm just saying that it's a choice.
And you want to recognize that it's a choice for you.
Don't hide behind the determinism of made-up math.
I'm just being blunt with you.
And I want you to tell the truth to people because the more you get into the habit of telling the truth to people, the higher quality people you can have in your life.
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