Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux - There Is No Healing...
Aired: 2025-03-05
Duration: 04:47


=== No Return to Normal (04:47) ===

[00:00:00]  Okay, so you are a female, right?
[00:00:04]  No.
[00:00:05]  Um.
[00:00:12]  What is it?
[00:00:12]  I don't know what healing means in this context.
[00:00:19]  So healing, right?
[00:00:20]  Healing is something that we generally get from the body, right?
[00:00:27]  The physical realm, right?
[00:00:28]  You break your arm.
[00:00:29]  And your arm heals.
[00:00:30]  Like, I have this little finger here.
[00:00:32]  I was playing volleyball, and a guy spiked it straight into my finger and bent it backwards, and I could barely move it for weeks.
[00:00:38]  Like, now it's, like, 99% back to normal, right?
[00:00:40]  So it's healed, right?
[00:00:42]  It's back to normal.
[00:00:43]  I could stretch it a little bit more, but it doesn't really matter, right?
[00:00:45]  So, but yeah, it was sore for, like, a long time.
[00:00:49]  I mean, when I moved it too much, right?
[00:00:51]  So that's healing.
[00:00:52]  It's back to normal.
[00:00:56]  Break your arm.
[00:00:57]  Put it in a cast.
[00:00:58]  It heals back to normal, right?
[00:01:04]  So healing is a return to a pre-functioning state.
[00:01:08]  There is no healing in abused childhood because you cannot get to a pre-functioning state because you never had that in the first place.
[00:01:15]  If you grew up in a very violent, abusive, neglectful, dysfunctional environment, there's no healing, right?
[00:01:23]  I mean, because there is no, you know, pre-functional state.
[00:01:28]  That you can get back to.
[00:01:29]  There wasn't like a you that got damaged and then you can heal and go back to the you that was not damaged because you were damaged from the beginning.
[00:01:38]  And I don't say this to give you despair.
[00:01:40]  I say this to give you hope.
[00:01:42]  There is no return.
[00:01:44]  I do not think there'll be a return journey, Mr. Frodo.
[00:01:46]  There is no return journey.
[00:01:47]  There is no going back and being whole.
[00:01:50]  There is no going back and being undamaged.
[00:01:53]  You have to work with what is and that can be a great strength for you.
[00:01:57]  It can turn you into a very powerful person, but healing, from what I understand, and correct me, of course, if I've got something wrong, but there is no healing.
[00:02:07]  There is no healing in the way that it would happen with the body, where you have something functional, and then you return back to that.
[00:02:13]  Because there wasn't, if you grew up in a toxic, dysfunctional family, there was no functional you, because you were just surviving that from the very beginning, right?
[00:02:20]  There was no functional you that you can return to.
[00:02:22]  There is no circling back and making whole.
[00:02:25]  There is only pressing on.
[00:02:26]  And finding strength.
[00:02:28]  Finding strength in the suffering.
[00:02:30]  There is no going back and undoing the suffering.
[00:02:32]  There is no healing.
[00:02:33]  There is only pressing on and finding strength through the suffering.
[00:02:42]  I was told by a crazy German woman, don't think.
[00:02:46]  Okay, when a crazy person tells you not to think, probably the best thing you can do is think.
[00:02:53]  I was raised...
[00:02:55]  With an entire group of people who believed in subjective morality and lived pretty terrible lives.
[00:03:00]  So, if your fat uncle tells you what he eats, you don't follow that diet, right?
[00:03:05]  If your drunken uncle tells you, well, you know, alcohol technically is a solution.
[00:03:17]  It's how you deal with things.
[00:03:18]  Go out, party, have fun, drink, right?
[00:03:20]  And then he dies of liver failure or something.
[00:03:24]  And don't do that.
[00:03:25]  So, I was raised with a bunch of people who gave me massive examples of everything not to do, and I've lived my life in reaction to that insanity and found deep sanity.
[00:03:42]  you But I can't return to some sane thing that I had because I was raised by crazy people.
[00:03:51]  I can't return to some sane stuff that's...
[00:03:53]  Somehow back there, I can only press on to the same step that I get by judoing the trauma into deep and robust health, right?
[00:04:04]  There's no healing.
[00:04:05]  There's only health.
[00:04:06]  There's only pressing onto health.
[00:04:08]  No circling back.
[00:04:09]  There's no undo.
[00:04:10]  There's no original you that was not harmed, and I'm sorry for that.
[00:04:13]  I really am, and I'm not trying to give you any despair.
[00:04:15]  I'm trying to have you not wallow and circle back, trying to achieve something that can't be achieved called healing.
[00:04:21]  You can't heal yourself.
[00:04:28]  But you can press on and find strength in the suffering, find robustness and sanity, Like, I can't go back and be raised by sane people, but I can use the lessons of the insane people and become super sane myself.
[00:04:44]  There is no return to healing.