Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux - If You Choose Bad Parents Over Your Future
Aired: 2025-01-29
Duration: 07:36


=== Choosing Life Over Death (07:00) ===

[00:00:00]  Your children have yet to be born.
[00:00:02]  To align yourself with your parents at the expense of your future is to choose death over life, decay over growth, failure over birth.
[00:00:13]  It is to choose a cemetery over a kicking crib.
[00:00:19]  It is to choose lowering into the earth rather than hurling into the sky.
[00:00:28]  Bye.
[00:00:29]  Thank you.
[00:00:33]  It is to choose wrinkles over rosy cheeks.
[00:00:39]  It is to choose that whose choices are passed over those whose choices are yet to begin.
[00:00:45]  And that regret of avoidance of taking that which is familiar rather than that which is new is the fundamental question, the fundamental question.
[00:00:58]  Everybody, oh, sexual market value, sexual market value.
[00:01:01]  Okay, let's talk about sexual market value.
[00:01:02]  It's the most fundamental question you need to ask about dating.
[00:01:06]  Most fundamental question.
[00:01:08]  And I would appreciate some tips.
[00:01:09]  I know I'm spitting straight fire here, but this is going to blow your mind because this is an encapsulation of what I've been doing for 20 years.
[00:01:18]  Do my parents add to my sexual market value?
[00:01:24]  That's the brutal, hard, deep, powerful, and essential question you must ask yourself.
[00:01:31]  Do my parents, does my family of origin add to my sexual market value?
[00:01:37]  Now, by sexual market value, I'm not just talking about sex, of course, right?
[00:01:40]  I'm talking about dating, engagement, marriage, children, and so on.
[00:01:45]  Do my parents add to my sexual market value?
[00:01:48]  Are they a plus or a minus for quality people?
[00:02:00]  Because if they add to your dating market value for trashy people, you're just dicing with death.
[00:02:04]  Do your parents add to your sexual market value?
[00:02:14]  In other words, are your parents someone, are your parents people that other strangers with no history and no ties and no bonds?
[00:02:26]  Are your parents people that a virtuous stranger would be thrilled to know?
[00:02:33]  Seriously.
[00:02:39]  Bye.
[00:02:41]  Thank you.
[00:02:41]  You got to ask that question.
[00:02:48]  You have to ask this question.
[00:02:51]  And it has concentric rings.
[00:02:53]  Concentric rings.
[00:02:58]  Do my parents add value to a quality person with no history with them?
[00:03:05]  do my parents add value to a quality person a moral person who has no history with them do my parents add value other than accidental history and unchosen bonds right Thank you.
[00:03:28]  Thank you.
[00:03:31]  Are they government workers or are they in the free market?
[00:03:39]  That's the first question.
[00:03:43]  Second question.
[00:03:44]  What about my extended family?
[00:03:46]  What about my siblings?
[00:03:47]  Do my brothers and or sisters add value to my sexual market value?
[00:03:53]  Do they?
[00:03:57]  Do they treat you with good humor, with respect?
[00:03:59]  Are they wise?
[00:04:00]  Do they care?
[00:04:01]  Would they be great aunts and uncles?
[00:04:03]  If you're a man, do your siblings add value for you in the dating market?
[00:04:12]  Would your siblings, because your siblings are going to be around longer than your parents in your life, right?
[00:04:18]  So, let's say you're 25. Let's say you've got siblings in the 20s.
[00:04:23]  Well, your parents are 25, your parents are probably 55 or whatever, so they've got another 30 years.
[00:04:28]  Siblings have another 60 years.
[00:04:31]  Siblings will be around twice as long as the parents.
[00:04:38]  So you say, okay, if I met my siblings at a party and didn't know anything about them, would I want to see them again?
[00:04:43]  That's your date, people.
[00:04:50]  That's your girlfriend, your fiancé!
[00:04:52]  That's how they see it, because that's what it is for them.
[00:04:57]  If you had no history, do they add value?
[00:04:59]  No history, no unity, no, well, we grew up together, no, well, they've been around forever, no habit, no nothing.
[00:05:07]  Can you empathize with people who don't already empathize with your parents?
[00:05:17]  Do your parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins?
[00:05:23]  Are they people that other people of quality with no history will be happy to know?
[00:05:30]  Do you follow?
[00:05:31]  Shit, I've had this on my desktop for like a month to talk about.
[00:05:34]  People are going to come into your life with no history, but the people you are bound with and to that you never chose.
[00:05:48]  doesn't mean they don't have value, but they're coming in blind with no history.
[00:05:52]  None.
[00:05:57]  Are the people in your life a genuine plus to the people who've never had those people in their lives?
[00:06:10]  Yes.
[00:06:10]  Are the people in their lives a genuine plus to the people who've never had those people in their lives?
[00:06:17]  Super deep, important question.
[00:06:20]  What about your friends?
[00:06:25]  Quality, moral, wonderful woman comes into your life.
[00:06:30]  She sees your family.
[00:06:32]  of origin, your parents, your siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, second cousins, and your friends.
[00:06:38]  Are they a plus and a bonus for someone to get to know who has no history history?
[00:06:50]  Have you held on to those friendships long past their expiration dates?
[00:06:54]  Well, you know, we hung out a lot when we were teenagers and didn't really have any choice and we kind of came up together.
[00:06:59]  Okay?

=== Has It Become a Ceiling? (00:35) ===

[00:07:00]  Have you hung on to it too long?
[00:07:02]  Has it become a ceiling or a cap?
[00:07:04]  If you become more successful, do your friends become more resentful?
[00:07:13]  Are they growing with you?
[00:07:14]  Are they challenging you?
[00:07:15]  Do you inspire each other to greatness, to better?
[00:07:18]  Because if you're listening to this message, man, greatness is circling you like an angelic vulture.
[00:07:24]  You have the potential.
[00:07:33]  That's why you're listening.
[00:07:35]  You have the potential.