Jan. 29, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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| All right. | |
| Steph, how was your experience with us for us overall? | |
| How can we do better? | |
| How can we do better? | |
| You know, that's actually the first time in 20 years that anyone's asked that, so I really do appreciate that question. | |
| So, I would just give this as a general life advice. | |
| Is, in life, pause and really check that you're adding value before you say something. | |
| I try to avoid obvious things. | |
| I try to avoid cliches. | |
| And I try to liberate you to pursue and achieve practical things in the real world. | |
| That's sort of my goal as a whole. | |
| So, you'll sometimes see me pause because I'm like, okay, I've got this obvious stuff in my head, but I don't want to insult you by saying obvious stuff. | |
| Like the guy who was saying, like, But it depends on, you know, really different circumstances can produce really different results. | |
| It's like, yes, a bird is not a fish. | |
| Got it. | |
| Birds don't have gills and fish don't have wings. | |
| So I get it. | |
| So pause and work hard to make sure you're adding value, which means don't say obvious things as if they're deep. | |
| Like, imagine if you were going to a physics conference, imagine how much work you would have to do to actually add value. | |
| At a physics conference. | |
| So, I try to have every sentence that comes out of my mouth be of value and not obvious in one way or another. | |
| So, in general, in life, just make sure you add value. | |
| I mean, we've all been in those meetings where someone's talking for the sake of talking or, you know, he loves the smell of his own farts, he gets high on his own supply, he loves the sound of his own voice. | |
| So, people who talk for the sake of talking rather than Out of a genuine, deep, and empathetic desire to add value to people, well, those people are kind of tiresome. | |
| Is your communication about you or about value you can add to someone else based upon your knowledge of what they know? | |
| All right, your cutting sense of humor is so disarming. | |
| Now here comes a gun joke. | |
| Jay Dyer. | |
| Yeah, I did that debate way back in the day, right? | |
| It's still there, yeah. | |
| Freedomain.com slash podcasts or fdrpodcasts.com. | |
| Just do a search for D-Y-E-R. All right. | |
| Reminds me of a lot of modern therapists constantly trying to get you to introspect rather than taking actionable steps to get better. | |
| Yeah. | |
| Yeah, listen, introspection is fine. | |
| Introspection is how you discover your barriers, and then the purpose of discovering your barriers is to overcome them, right? | |
| I mean, if you want to win a running race and you don't want to train, then you can introspect to find out what your barrier is, and you say, oh, it's because I had a really mean coach when I was a kid who used to force me to train. | |
| I've got a resistance to it. | |
| It's like, okay, now you know that you're responsible for doing it, right? | |
| I mean, we may have had a couple of calls, possibly, potentially. | |
| We may have had a couple of calls over the years of people who have Listen to the show for 10 years and not taking one piece of advice. | |
| The purpose of listening to this show is to make positive practical decisions and act in your own life. | |
| I always think of Danica Patrick now. | |
| She dropped out of high school, I think. | |
| Okay, I read that it's an IQ thing, actually. | |
| It really ticks people off when you say cliched things if they're emotionally intelligent or otherwise intelligent. | |
| For example, working at the grocery store and the barcode doesn't scan, you can bet that someone says, if it doesn't scan, it's free! | |
| Right. | |
| Or somebody who says, extra points for hitting pedestrians in a car, you know, like bonus points or something like that. | |
| Like some absolute cliché thing. | |
| It's just input-output. | |
| It's MPC talk, right? | |
| I understand what you're saying, Steph. | |
| I'll think more before I speak. | |
| Sometimes what I say is actually for me, not others. | |
| You're right. | |
| Right. | |
| People who use word sounds to try to sound smart. | |
| Yes! | |
| That has always bothered me. | |
| That has always bothered me. | |
| It's like a doctor saying, well, here's the thing. | |
| I know exactly, I know exactly what the cure is for your, you think you're going to die, your fatal illness. | |
| The cure is Levicticus Maximus von Burlow head. | |
| It just goes into some Latin, Esperanto, Klingon mix, right? | |
| And it's like, no, no, can you... | |
| No, it's a fantajimo, ole, fatang, fatang, biscuit barrel head, bonus, beforeton. | |
| Okay, I got one word in there. | |
| And so, if you're trying to give people something that is important and necessary for their health and happiness and all of that, how about you make it comprehensible? | |
| To the general population? | |
| You know, how about you make it comprehensible to the general population? | |
| That's all. | |
| That's all. | |
| It's all that needs to be done. |
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