Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux - How To Win A Woman's Love
Aired: 2025-01-20
Duration: 06:48


=== Corrupt vs. Virtuous (02:17) ===

[00:00:00]  All right.
[00:00:00]  She writes about her relatively wealthy husband.
[00:00:04]  I can be critical because he's not super, quote, fun in an energetic way, but that's because he's emotionally very level.
[00:00:10]  So no extreme highs or lows.
[00:00:12]  I am more of an extreme high and low person, actually, so when somebody's super level, I feel like my energy can be too much.
[00:00:18]  Well, I mean, but he's a team lead because he's not super emotional, right?
[00:00:24]  Super emotional team leads.
[00:00:26]  Let's go on the roller coaster, right?
[00:00:28]  John says, very interesting points.
[00:00:29]  I felt like I lost 20 years due to my childhood.
[00:00:31]  Long story short, I treated life as a sprint, as a way to make up for the time that's gone with the wind.
[00:00:40]  Someone says, that's amazing to this woman.
[00:00:42]  Hearing you talk about your husband makes me want to work even more.
[00:00:46]  I've been working quite hard on my career with a good degree of success.
[00:00:49]  also planned for years now to give a girlfriend of mine real-time relationships.
[00:00:52]  Right.
[00:00:53]  I had a conversation It's a call-in show.
[00:01:00]  It's a public call-in show.
[00:01:01]  It'll be out, I'm sure, soon.
[00:01:04]  But it was a guy who was still enmeshed in a corrupt and immoral family system.
[00:01:09]  And we went through the exercise of, well, what does a quality, virtuous woman...
[00:01:14]  He was in his late 20s.
[00:01:15]  I said, well, what does a quality, virtuous woman see when she is in your environment?
[00:01:21]  She sees this crazy, corrupt family.
[00:01:23]  She sees you bowing down before it, and she sees that.
[00:01:27]  She won't have any real authority because you're going to count out the irrational and corrupt in your life and at the expense of the virtuous and moral.
[00:01:36]  And he's like, so I've got to prepare myself for this woman who's coming down the pipe.
[00:01:42]  I'm like, bro, bro, she might already have come and gone.
[00:01:49]  She might already have come and gone.
[00:01:52]  If that doesn't give you goosebumps, I don't know what will.
[00:01:54]  Do it now.
[00:01:55]  Because you don't know when she's coming.
[00:01:57]  She could be here tomorrow and you should have cleaned up your social environment six months ago.
[00:02:02]  She might have come and gone.
[00:02:04]  She might have seen you across the room, saw the flash of submission in your eyes as you laughed at an unfunny joke from a dominant person and said, No.

=== She Might Already Have Gone (03:29) ===

[00:02:17]  All right.
[00:02:18]  Question.
[00:02:18]  I was laid off yesterday.
[00:02:20]  I'm sorry to hear that.
[00:02:21]  I have a decent amount of savings and I'm not in a bind financially.
[00:02:24]  I'm a software developer.
[00:02:25]  A former co-worker referred me a job listing that I fit well.
[00:02:29]  It would be a 20% raise, but it is for a cannabis e-commerce site slash company.
[00:02:35]  I have major reservations about working for a company like that.
[00:02:38]  Would I not be profiting from people doing what I consider to be dumb lifestyle choice and those self-medicating, even if it is partially marketed as medical?
[00:02:46]  Thank you, Lloyd.
[00:02:47]  I appreciate that.
[00:02:49]  You know, we all, there's no particularly obvious solution to the problem of Overlapping corruption, right?
[00:02:56]  I mean, I've mentioned this before, and this is when I was still a minarchist, so it wasn't so bad, but I did business with concerns in the distant past.
[00:03:11]  I would say, obviously, you know this, if you have a choice, don't do it, because you are contributing, unless it's purely medical, right?
[00:03:19]  but you are contributing to people's dissociation and time wasting.
[00:03:22]  So keep looking as if you don't have a job, and if you're starving, take the job.
[00:03:35]  That would be my particular solution.
[00:03:40]  Somebody says, I've very much been sprinting, trying to make up time, but my health issues are a huge roadblock that I just can't tough guy my way out of, like I used to do when they affected me in my 20s.
[00:03:51]  I'm sorry about that.
[00:03:52]  that?
[00:03:53]  What are your health issues?
[00:03:53]  The readiness is all.
[00:04:02]  It's a great line.
[00:04:05]  It very much affected me from Hamlet.
[00:04:12]  I love this.
[00:04:13]  I love this quote.
[00:04:18]  I've read it before.
[00:04:19]  I will read it again.
[00:04:24]  We defy augury.
[00:04:27]  There's a special providence in the fall of a sparrow.
[00:04:34]  If it be now, tis not to come.
[00:04:36]  If it be not to come, it will be now.
[00:04:39]  If it be not now, yet it will come, the readiness is all.
[00:04:47]  Since no man of ought, he leaves known.
[00:04:50]  What is to be, to leave betimes, let be.
[00:04:53]  Sorry, the last bit, who cares, right?
[00:04:54]  We defy augury.
[00:04:56]  Augury is a form of prophecy.
[00:04:58]  We don't, we can't see the future, right?
[00:05:03]  There's a special providence in the fall of Aspera.
[00:05:06]  If it be now, it is not to come.
[00:05:09]  It's happening now.
[00:05:10]  If it be not to come, it will be now.
[00:05:13]  If it be not now, yet it will come.
[00:05:15]  The readiness is all, right?
[00:05:17]  Stuff's going to happen now or it's going to happen soon.
[00:05:20]  And the readiness in life is everything.
[00:05:23]  I studied computers for years so that when an opportunity came to be the principal architect, Of a big software project, I was ready.
[00:05:34]  I studied philosophy for decades before podcasting came along.
[00:05:39]  and sure as Sherlock I wouldn't be able to do any of this shit in a university or in a publishing house because I ain't no fucking communist.

=== Can't Dig For Water Desperately Thirsty (01:01) ===

[00:05:47]  I did self-knowledge for years and therapy for years before I met my wife.
[00:05:59]  then I was ready.
[00:06:00]  The time to plant a tree is not when you desperately need the shade because it's going to take 10 or 15 years to grow.
[00:06:14]  You can't dig for water when you're already desperately thirsty.
[00:06:22]  Prepare for things in life.
[00:06:25]  Do not wait to react.
[00:06:26]  You will lose every time.
[00:06:28]  I went to theater school.
[00:06:34]  So I could act like a philosopher.
[00:06:38]  No, I mean, I wrote for decades, and then I just happened to get my first book published when I met my wife, and that's one of the things we talked about to begin with.