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Dec. 25, 2024 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
08:03
I Will Explain Modern Dating to You
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So, hit me with a why if you would like me to explain modern dating to you.
Hit me with a why.
If you would like me to explain modern dating to you, I can, I will.
You may be skeptical because I'm not the springiest of young spring chickens on the noble planet, but I can tell you, if you would like me to explain modern dating to you, this I will do.
You may be skeptical, but I hope I've given you some cause that I do not make baseless claims.
And in this case, I will explain it to you Although ahead of time you will say, come on, guy's 58, he hasn't been to the dating market since the Diluvian era.
But I'm telling you, after I explain it to you, you will be like, damn, he's still got it.
He may not have it in five minutes from now when he passes out, but right now, he's still got it.
All right.
I will explain dating for you from the female perspective, as if.
I will explain dating to you.
All right.
So, You know, when you get your first professional job, like a real job, you get your first job, what's it like?
Well, you go in, you dress to the nines, and you got your little briefcase, and you're ready to roll, and you're happy and excited to be there.
And do you do any real work for the first couple of days?
Nah, not really.
You're getting some policy stuff, you're meeting with HR, you're being shown where your stuff is, getting your logins, being shown what you can use, what you can't use, get your email set up.
Like, it's just a bunch of prep.
And you know, there's all these people like, hey, new guy, new girl, let's do cake.
Let's go out for brunch.
You know, like it's a lot of fun.
You don't do any work, really.
It's a lot of fun.
Feels like a party, but you still get paid.
I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this.
I don't know what that wink was.
It's just basically a stroke.
And it's sort of like when you go to school, like the first day or two of school, you're just figuring out where things are.
You know, you're getting introduced to your teachers, going over a little bit of the curriculum, maybe getting some books, and you're meeting old friends and so on.
You don't get any homework.
You're not really learning much, but you're kind of having a lot of fun.
Your first couple of days at work, first couple of days at school, don't really have any work to do.
It's a lot of fun.
You get paid at work, but you don't really have to produce anything.
Hit me with an A if you agree with this general assessment.
I think we've all been there.
It's kind of a lot of fun.
I remember when I first went to the National Theatre School in Montreal for a couple of years, and when I first went there, I was like, they only take like 1% of people who apply, so I managed to sort of eke in there.
And the first week, we were just creating stuff and having fun, and there weren't any classes, and I was like, is this theater school?
But anyway, then the classes started, and it got more sort of regular.
Anyway, so you go to your job, you're getting paid, it's a lot of fun, and nothing really is demanded of you for the first little while.
So that's women dating.
And they would rather, in the main, for the most part, in the modern world, they would rather just keep dating, because it's fun.
You get paid, and you don't have any responsibilities.
I was talking to a caller today who's going through a divorce, and it's with a Ukrainian woman who is 21 and super attractive.
and, you know, she wants to get married, and a lot of sympathy, it's a war-torn region, and, you know, I get it, but she wants to get married, and, you know, she might like to do something in photography, and maybe go back to school for a while, maybe get a job in a coffee shop, and, you know, maybe in eight years or so, she might want to have you know, maybe in eight years or so, she might want to Right.
So I did a role play pretending to be him.
Of course, he's pretending to be her.
And it was like, okay, so I make 80 to 90,000 a year and you're going to make like 30 to 40k max, you know, maybe, maybe less.
If you're in school, you'll need financial assistance.
But let's just say, let's just say that you make a differential is 40k, right?
Right.
So, you make 40k, I make 80k, right?
And I said, let's just forget about all the complicated before-after-tax stuff and just use the bare numbers.
So, for eight years, I'm contributing 40k more a year.
For 8 years, I'm contributing 40 more K a year.
So, after 8 years, I've paid $320,000 more than you have for our shared lifestyle.
How did he meet her?
A dating app.
So, So I said, okay, look, if you're having kids, you're running my household, you're raising the next generation, and you're being a great mom, I have zero problem dumping 320K into the family over eight years.
An extra 40K, more, whatever, right?
But if you're not running the household and you're not raising my kids, what am I paying for?
What am I paying for?
Why would I pay an extra $320,000 to have a woman be my wife when she's not running the household and she's not raising my kids?
That is a sort of foundational question about modern dating.
Because the whole point of a man paying extra is to show his generosity, to show that he's got additional resources to give to the woman to run the household, raise his kids.
And that's why men pay for dates.
In the same way that your employer pays you for getting trained.
Or just showing up and getting sorted out and, you know, all the propeller heads swarming all over your equipment, making sure it's locked down and you get access to everything and all that, right?
So in the role play, she said, well, it's the man's job to provide for his wife.
No, that is incorrect.
That is where you are wrong.
It's not a man's job to provide for his wife.
It is a man's job to provide for his family, his children.
Now, to provide for his children, he has to provide for his wife.
It's a man's job to provide for his children.
And if the woman is not producing children...
It is not the man's job to provide for his children.
Right?
This makes sense, right?
Now, whether you agree with it or not, whether you agree with it or not, this is the general perspective.
So, women will sometimes, or maybe even often, complain that men make more than women do.
And, okay, when men have generally evolved, you know, more aggression, more testosterone, bigger, stronger, More efficient, a little bit more of an ability to concentrate for a long period of time.
So, men have kind of, you know, evolved to be more productive.
Why have men evolved to be more productive?
So that their excess productivity can go to feed pregnant and breastfeeding wives, mothers, And they're children, right?
The man's children, right?
So why are men more economically productive?
Because we have to be because it's our excess productivity that goes to feeding our families.
I'm sure this makes reasonably good sense to you.
I'm sure, I'm sure, I'm sure.
What the heck?
Where am I, uh...
Did I close something I shouldn't have?
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