Sept. 1, 2024 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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| Alrighty. | |
| Questions from freedomain.locals.com. | |
| Is this a fair way to gauge if a child has been well parented? | |
| Asking whether or not they want to have their own family and children someday. | |
| In other words, is it possible that a well parented kid would not want to be a parent when they grow up? | |
| Yeah, I mean, as you become a parent it becomes progressively more important. | |
| I actually say it's very important to begin with. | |
| To figure out which children are raised well or not, because the kids security and happiness and all of that depends upon them having reasonably decent friends and all of that. | |
| So it is time for rank prejudice time. | |
| This is just, I'm not saying there's some big rational argument behind this. | |
| I'm just telling you straight up. | |
| For me, people who don't want kids are weird and depressed. | |
| There's something to me so foundationally wrong with people who don't want to have kids. | |
| And I'm not talking about people who struggle to have kids or people who want kids but can't find the right person. | |
| I mean people who just like straight-up antinatalists don't want to have kids. | |
| And it's incomprehensible to me as a whole. | |
| And of course I can't help but think of the four billion years of evolution that got us to where we are. | |
| And it just takes one selfish person to break the chain. | |
| It just takes one selfish person. | |
| It's such like all of our ancestors reproduced. | |
| That's why we're here. | |
| Every single one of our ancestors reproduced and they reproduced with the general idea and goal that other people were going to continue on the line. | |
| Right. | |
| It's the old question of. | |
| If you knew ahead of time that you and your wife had some genetic whatever, that if you had kids, all of your kids would be sterile, would you have kids? | |
| I think a lot of people would certainly have some pretty significant doubts about that. | |
| Is it worth having kids if you know your kids are going to be sterile? | |
| So we have kids on the idea or argument that they're going to continue the line, are going to continue the bloodline. | |
| So, you know, you got to think of how many millions of generations go back to the dawn of living creatures that get to us. | |
| So every single one of those millions of generations struggled and fought, killed, died, survived the most unimaginable horrors in order for you and me to exist. | |
| To not pay it forward to me is such a fundamental lack of gratitude that it is incomprehensible as a whole. | |
| Having children is a deep celebration of the joys of existence. | |
| Having children is honoring all the sacrifices of all those who came before you, who handed the guttering candle of life through the endless storms of both pre-history and history. | |
| Every ape that dodged a jaguar, Every serf that survived, everybody who raised children during a time of plague or pestilence, famine, war, natural disasters of every kind, displacement. | |
| People, you know, humanity got down to about 10,000 people during the last ice age and they fought their way back. | |
| If any one of your ancestors had chosen not to have children at all, you wouldn't be here. | |
| Or, if they'd chosen to have one less child, and your parents or someone along the line happened to be late in the birth order, well, then you wouldn't be here. | |
| Now, if with all the comforts and conveniences and medicines and dentistry of the modern world, you can't stand to be here, then there's something wrong with what happened to you or what you've done with it or both. | |
| And if you say, well, you know, my childhood was traumatic and so on. | |
| And yes, of course, I understand. | |
| I've talked to a lot of people over the course of the show. | |
| Yes, a lot of childhoods are very bad. | |
| Absolutely. | |
| However, imagine what it was like. | |
| When superstition reigned. | |
| I mean, science is only a couple hundred years old, really, and the sort of general education of the general population and the values of science, reason, and objectivity is really only 100 to 150 years old. | |
| You know, 0.0001% of sort of human evolution, we actually had a rational scientific understanding of the world. | |
| Prior to that, it was all gods, ghosts, goblins, the undead, spirits, superstition, curses, voodoo, like of every terrifying kind. | |
| The world, sort of epistemologically, in terms of its actual reality, the world was a nightmare of psychoses, right? | |
| The world was a nightmare of psychoses. | |
| You lived in a waking dream of satanic devils and priestly classes and sacrifice and murder and torture and you name it. | |
| And so, almost all of human history was a massive fever dream of rank, terrifying, psychotic subjectivity and torture and murder. | |
| You know, there's this kind of funny myth about how the witch burning, oh, it's just witch hunting. | |
| Well, and it's like, oh, all these strong independent women were challenging the church and they got killed. | |
| It's like, nope, that's not what happened. | |
| It was women informing on other women for the most part to take out sexual rivals. | |
| One hysterical young woman even informed on herself and a lot of women were in fact arrested for being witches because they were giving abortion potions to other women that were causing the death of people. | |
| They were literally murderers in that way. | |
| So, that's life throughout almost all the human history. | |
| We believe the earth was flat and that we lived in the mind of battling demons and gods and ghosts and ancestors and what would be considered pure psychoses in The modern world was everybody's general perception of reality. | |
| You lived in a madhouse of deranged people with just enough wit to deviate from everything that is natural, but not enough wit to classify anything as objective. | |
| Oh, don't you like it when those sentences slide together that way? | |
| When the syllables fornicate and you get some glorious offspring. | |
| A lot of what I do is oral sex, let's be honest. | |
| So, because I'm now analyzing sex. | |
| What did you hear? | |
| Oh, filthy. | |
| Anyway, so I think a child who is well raised will see that his parents enjoyed being parents. | |
| They enjoyed having children. | |
| They enjoyed the whole process and they are pro-life and they are affirming and they are enthusiastic about the future or at least enough to have kids. | |
| And people who don't want to have kids, well, I mean, they're on strike, and why do people go on strike? | |
| Because they're miserable. | |
| Or, you know, there is a certain laziness that people have about having kids, in that they say, well, you know, they may have all of these abstract reasons, you know, like some environmental depopulation nonsense, right? | |
| But Yeah, those same people who say it's really, really important to not have kids for the sake of depopulation are very keen on sending endless aid to the third world, which causes a lot of people to have a whole lot of kids. | |
| So it's certainly not that. | |
| But... | |
| It's their laziness. | |
| Every day it's easier to not have kids, right? | |
| Every day it's easier to not have kids. | |
| Every day, generally, it's easier to not eat well and just follow your taste buds. | |
| It's easier to not exercise, right? | |
| It's easier to not think. | |
| It's easier to not read. | |
| You know, flipping on some failed video is easier than reading a book by Dostoevsky. | |
| So, I mean, it's just a kind of laziness. | |
| And so generally when I'm meeting kids, I obviously don't talk about their future plans for families because that's not exactly where their mind's at. | |
| But the thing I look for the most when it comes to meeting kids is, are they able to have a conversation? | |
| Are they able? | |
| Are they socialized? | |
| And not just socialized for other kids, but are they socialized to have eye contact, firm handshake, have a conversation without freaking out? | |
| Because if they can't have a conversation with an adult without freaking out, it means that they've been fairly aggressively raised and they live in a state of caution or fear. | |
| So that's mostly what I looked for. | |
| Are they able to have a conversation? | |
| A lot of people, and it's a funny thing how For a lot of people, the line between child and adult is this massive gulf. | |
| Like, the adults were never children, the children are never going to grow into adults and so on. | |
| I mean, I remember trying to have a conversation with a girlfriend's parents. | |
| Gosh, I was in my, I was out of 19 or so. | |
| And I was having a conversation with a girlfriend's parents and everything was just kind of stilted and awkward. | |
| And I'm, you know, even back then I wasn't the worst conversationalist in the world. | |
| So everything was kind of stilted and awkward. | |
| And then they were also there to meet my mother, believe it or not. | |
| Yes, this was a long time ago, almost 40 years. | |
| But my mother came in and their entire demeanor completely changed. | |
| They were no longer dealing with foolish wayward youths. | |
| They were, in fact, dealing with another adult who deserves respect. | |
| And they got up, and their whole demeanor changed, their whole posture changed, the animation in their voice came there, they straightened up, they beamed, they were very positive. | |
| Because now, you see, even though I was, of course, legally an adult, now They were dealing with another, capital P, parent, and they were dealing with adults, and did not have to bridge this massive gulf between... It's funny, because, of course, thinking back then, let's see, they would have better been younger than I am now. | |
| Yes, my girlfriend was my age, so she was probably 19 or 20, and it would have been 25 when they had her, so 45, even if they were 35, 55, yeah, I'm older than they are now. | |
| And so one of the things that I look for with kids is, can they have a conversation with an adult? | |
| What that means to me, if they can, what that means to me is that their parents have had conversations with them and haven't created this massive artificial gap between adults and children. | |
| I mean, we're not a different species, for heaven's sakes. | |
| It's just a matter of time until the child becomes an adult. | |
| And I remember when Izzy was little, I made, you know, I took great pains to, I showed her some pictures of myself when I was younger and said, you know, like, I was a kid and this is just a process, we're not totally different, I'm not some big magical adult and all of that, and, you know, some different species or anything like that, I'm not some demigod or whatever it is. | |
| So I really wanted her to understand that there was not some big weird magical gulf between Myself and her. | |
| Because, you know, when you're a kid, your parents seem like demigods, right? | |
| I mean, they're big, tall, strong, powerful, incompensable, vastly superior in skill and language and size and strength and all of that. | |
| And I was just like, no, I was like you are. | |
| And you grow to, you know, Won't be quite as tall, probably, but you'll grow to be tall and knowledgeable and it's just a matter of time. | |
| I don't like this massive gap or division between adulthood and childhood. | |
| I think it's a power play. | |
| I always go back to, there was, oh my gosh, Johnny Fever on the old WKRP had a daughter and her daughter had a boyfriend who was kind of hippie-dippie, right? | |
| Justin was his name? | |
| Justin? | |
| Anyway, so Johnny Fever is trying to tell Justin something and it's like, power trip, man! | |
| He's like, Justin, Howard Hesselman played. | |
| We are here to get down into this famous switch from, you're having my baby right now, to Some rock and roll, like we are now. | |
| He took the whole record and scratched and they went from easy listening to rock and roll. | |
| That was a great show. | |
| The great show. | |
| And power trip, man, power trip. | |
| Well, that's a lot of adults, right? | |
| We are, we are better. | |
| Oh, yeah. | |
| Politicians do this too. | |
| Priests do it too. | |
| Teachers do it. | |
| Like we are superior. | |
| We are a different species. | |
| You know, basically your little shits need to get your lives in order. | |
| You know, like if you watch the movie Blackberry, Which maybe I'll talk about in the show tonight. | |
| Watch the movie Blackberry, there's this, you know, big, rotund sociopath who comes in to scream at the engineers and try to get them to act like adults! | |
| Which, you know, kills a lot of the creativity of the company and so on, right? | |
| So, yeah, that's sort of the major thing that I look for with kids and I hope that this helps. | |
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| Have yourself a wonderful, wonderful afternoon. | |
| I'll talk to you in a couple hours. |
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