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Aug. 14, 2023 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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5239 Freedomain Comedy Sunday!

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Just starting up the show here.
This is for subscribers.
We're gonna make this a regular thing as best I can.
11 o'clock in the morning.
I got up at 5.30 this morning because this book is tearing me from, like, this book is literally like a shark in the water tearing me limb from limb.
This peaceful parenting book.
It's giving me wild dreams.
It's harshing my sleep.
It's all kinds of things.
But, so yeah.
So, how to pass the shit test from women?
Well, there's only one way to pass the shit test from women.
You know, right?
Oh, you had to confuse with Amber Heard?
No, that's a whole different creature.
That's a whole different creature.
She ain't pretty, she just looks that way.
How do you pass the shit test?
From women, from anyone, right?
How do you pass the shit test?
It's right, yeah, you don't.
Okay, listen, the only way that you pass the shit test is you don't give a shit about the shit test.
Right.
How do you pass the shit test?
You just don't give a shit about the shit test.
The shit test is basically, how dare you?
And it's like, I dare.
How dare you have this opinion?
I dare.
If you try to be cool, you're not cool.
Yeah, I mean, so many years ago, my therapist gave me a book completely unrelated to anything I was going through.
My therapist, this is gosh quarter century ago, right?
My therapist gave me a book called Man's Fear of Women.
I also remember reading a lot about this in Marlon Brando's autobiography of all things.
So my therapist gave me a book called Mansphere of Women and one of the things that I remember very vividly from this book was a dog trainer talking about how
For the male dogs, the female dogs will just sometimes rush at them and bite at them for no particular reason.
They'll just do it.
Chompy chomp.
And the male dogs who ran away, he didn't let them breed.
The male dogs who bit back, he didn't let them breed.
Who did he let breed?
Who did he let breed from the dogs?
Who were randomly attacked?
The male dogs who were randomly attacked by the... No, not the ones that didn't even flinch because that would be blind or something, right?
Hmm.
That's right.
So, uh, for dogs, right?
For male dogs, there's a shoulder you can turn to another dog and the dog can't really get a bite on it.
Right?
Because he can bite your arm.
He can bite your neck maybe a little or your nose, your tail, but there's a shoulder that's kind of flat and dogs just can't get a purchase on it because it's too flat.
And so the dogs that would turn the impervious shoulder to the females, let the females bite to the shoulder, not fight back, those are the ones he would let breed.
Do you see what I mean?
Bullying, to be bullied in that sense, you, here's the thing, you don't want to just laugh it off like, ha ha ha, whatever it is, right?
Because that's engaging and provoking, right?
So you want to be assertive but not aggressive.
Aggressive is when you punch back.
Assertive is when you stand your ground.
Now you don't want to you don't want to pretend like nothing's happening because that's kind of dissociated you know like somebody's yelling at you or whatever snarling at you and right you don't want to pretend like nothing's happening that but you you don't want to be afraid and you don't want to counterattack.
So.
I don't really have much to say about gender dysphoria.
Or what used to be called gender dysphoria.
I don't even know what they're calling it now.
So.
Yeah.
Okay, let me ask you this.
Let me ask you this.
Who... If you are authentic and not pretending you are someone else, you will pass the shit test naturally without even thinking about it.
So.
Yeah, some you may have choppy audio issues.
I don't know how to handle that.
Hello, Steph from Australia.
Hello.
Good to see you mate.
So how's it?
So do you have a celebrity crush?
I mean, obviously other than me, but you have a celebrity crush just out of curiosity?
Or did you?
It's that old joke from, Farrah Fawcett was the big pinup girl from, she was in Charlie's Angels.
Farrah Fawcett from the 70s and Steve Martin used to have a great joke about her.
He said, Farrah Fawcett is so stuck up, she's never even called me once.
And after all the time I spent holding up her poster with one hand.
Is there any way to adjust the live stream video resolution on Logal's app?
Internet is not great today.
Go to your phone, I guess, right?
Go to your phone!
Let's see here.
Have you seen Oppenheimer?
Yeah, I've done a review.
Anne Hathaway?
Yeah, she was pretty sort of big-eyed anime girl back in the day, right?
And let's see here.
Tom Hardy?
Yeah, who is Tom Hardy?
I just think Thomas Hardy, like the writer.
I once did a whole play adaptation of The Mayor of Castorville, which was a very big favorite novel of mine at the time.
There are more than a few that I like physically, but that's what a celebrity crush is, basically, right?
Jennifer Connelly will be my eternal crush.
I have a guilty pleasure with just Michael Colony's crime novels.
They're good audiobooks to fall asleep to.
Not that I'm insulting his writing.
It's interesting writing and he's very... I think he was a cop at one point and a detective, so he knows his stuff very well.
So Jennifer Connelly, yeah, she's definitely pretty.
Yvonne Strahovski.
Yvonne Strahovski?
Well, isn't that...
Let's see, who is Yvonne Strahovski?
Oh yeah, she's pretty.
She's got that Eastern European lantern jaw.
Yeah, she's pretty.
I don't know who she is, though.
What does she do?
Is she a singer?
Actor?
Something, right?
Let's see here, who else do you have?
Zooey Deschanel.
Eyes like a big, wide, startled baby.
And it's her sister who dies in Bones, right?
Oh, Megan Fox?
Boy, you have a dangerous taste.
Mila Kunis?
Also a very dangerous woman, in my opinion.
Mila Kunis is pretty monstrous.
I mean, she's in some movie where they were praising genital mutilation of boys.
It was just horrifying.
Okay, so who's Tom Hardy?
I'm curious.
Let's see if we can
Let's slice ourselves off a tasty slab of man meat.
Oh, he was in Black Hawk Down.
Nice looking guy.
I wouldn't say super handsome, but I'm not really the target market.
Russell from the gas station?
Well, it's good to have a local celebrity crush, I suppose.
No, listen, I know some of the newer actors.
I just, I mean, don't really know who he is.
Henry Cavill?
Yeah, he's a good-looking guy.
And serious buckets of charisma, right?
If you don't have much to say on gender dysphoria, what would be my next best bet to seek help on my deep-seated feelings?
I couldn't answer that.
I mean, you're asking for help with a specific issue, and I don't have that.
Judi Dench?
Also, quite a lot of charisma.
They fired Cavill from Superman and The Witcher.
Yeah, didn't they fire Cavill from The Witcher because they said he was too into the source material?
Can't be fun to be him with all the Me Too stuff floating around, right?
Is he not married?
Does he date Cavill?
Chris Helmsworth, of course.
I mean, it's a bit boring to say, but, you know, he does take his high tea very well, and has a narrow waist and arms bigger than my calves.
But yeah, very charismatic guy.
All right, sorry, let me just go here.
I got a question in Telegram.
Gal Gadot is pretty.
Yeah, but she's manipulative pretty.
I mean, that's what I found kind of annoying in Wonder Woman, because she's just like, oh, I'm so out of it.
And I know she was acting and all that,
Your thoughts on societal decay or collapse?
On all the people who think they're heroes and are going to suffer from a simple toothache, diarrhea, or infection?
Robert Duvall has put out a lot of great movies.
Was he the one in Tender Mercies?
Yes, very good.
A very, very touching movie.
He's got a great speech at the end.
Okay, let's talk about societal collapse, shall we?
And hopefully we'll get to the end of this before it does.
But from a minus 10 to plus 10, how much do you care that the average person is likely to suffer?
Let's be frank.
Minus 10 to plus 10.
10, minus 7, minus 5, minus 10, don't care at all.
Yeah, look, I have two minds about this, and I go back and forth like a pendulum on cocaine on the Titanic.
So I have two thoughts about this, which is not to say they're important or relevant, but my two thoughts are this.
Number one is that every person is an individual, and the suffering of all individuals is a pain in my heart.
And though they may have made mistakes, and they may have been unable to overcome their propaganda and programming,
It is sad and they will suffer and I don't like to see suffering and of course I've worked as hard as I can over the course of my life as a whole since the age of 15 to alleviate people's suffering.
So as an individual, you know, it's ridiculous.
Like I think about for each individual who's going to suffer,
I think about, well you know they've got stuff in that kitchen drawer, you know that kitchen drawer where random detritus collects and eventually you end up with stuff in there like implements for the kitchen that no man, god or woman knows what they're exactly supposed to do.
I don't know, is that supposed to scoop out the beating heart of a potato in the microwave?
I don't know what this is for.
So everyone has these little bits of detritus and they have the jars of stuff in their bathroom.
And you know, like you have this thing where it's like, I have to use facial moisturizer because my skin is very dry.
And so twice a day I'll put on facial moisturizer.
And I don't like to, like, I don't like to throw it out.
I'm the kind of guy, like, if I can get my entire head inside the almond butter jar to suck out the remnants of the butter juice, I'm doing that.
It just happens.
It's a thing that happens when you grow up.
Poor, which is you just hate to waste.
So everyone's got these things, maybe there's travel things, you got them at a hotel or you picked them up for some trip, you didn't finish them, and you've got these jars and bottles and containers that are mostly empty but not quite and you're going to see it.
So everyone's got these little tiny details and detritus and things in their lives.
Tools you bought for one thing.
Then you're probably never going to use it again, but you can't throw them out.
Scissors that you plan to get sharpened one day.
Honestly, books.
You are going to get round to those books.
You promise yourself that you don't.
And all that kind of stuff.
Yeah, everyone has this sort of detritus and things that orbit them and their lives like the rings of Saturn and they're all individual and detailed and, you know, everyone who's going to suffer has a favorite song and a song they just can't stand.
I always love that joke.
It's like, well, traffic was backing up behind me, but my favorite song was coming on the radio and there was a tunnel.
What am I supposed to do?
Everyone has a favorite movie.
I remember one depressing conversation some years ago with, doesn't really matter where, but this woman who was not doing very well in life was very proud that she had an original DVD of the movie Space Jam.
And I was like, oh God, that's a fairly sad thing to hang your head on.
So yeah, every individual has their quirks, their histories, a particular number of cavities and fillings, and maybe a little bit of tinnitus in one ear, and all of this kind of stuff, and they have their own particular memories of how much they liked their or didn't like their high school photo, and you know, what it was like to ask out or be asked out for the first time, how well they ever learned to dance, how self-conscious they were, whether they ever lost their self-consciousness,
So everyone is an absolute infinite constellation of detail and depth and history and detritus and stuff, and it's a fingerprint, it's unreproducible, it's obviously singular, and when they suffer, that's all part of there, right?
So that's the stuff that's around them, that's detail.
And of course, you know, I was just writing about this, I finally wrote the introduction to the Peaceful Parenting book, or the prologue.
And, you know, one of the things that I wrote was, you know, one of the ways that I'm able to get very strong views of child abuse and its effects over the lifespan is because I've talked to thousands of people by now, for hours at a time, individually, usually.
I've talked to thousands of people over the last 17 years about what happened in their childhood and how it affected their adulthood.
I don't think, and from a sort of moral philosophical perspective, I don't think anyone else can really do that or talk about that.
I mean, maybe a therapist sees people, but therapists can't talk about it.
And therapists don't see thousands of people because they see many people for a long period of time individually, right?
Yeah, I've had these really deep and powerful conversations with thousands of them, and that has really informed the Peaceful Parenting books.
So everyone has these sort of individual things about them.
Their quirks, likes, preferences, what's their favorite color, you know?
Maybe their skin reacts too much to this particular fabric or whatever.
So we all know these sort of details that cloud people, around people, that make them who they are in a way.
And so that's all the individual stuff, right?
That's all the individual stuff.
But then, when you talk to them about anything that means anything, right?
When you talk to somebody, they'll talk about their quirks, their, this is my favorite sports team, and I injured my knee playing football when I was 12.
Like, they have individual stories, individual histories, and I find that stuff interesting and so on.
But when you start to break through that surface detritus, right?
The crust, the exoskeleton, the
Brittle stuff at the top of the Caramel right?
The creme brulee crust when you get through that you get through the outside What is there on the inside?
What do you I mean we've all we've all gone there to some degree or another right?
What is what is under the crust?
It's kind of empty goo, right?
Sort of pre-programmed responses.
The NPC, right?
Everyone's an individual on the outside.
You go in, and for the most part, they're just NPCs, right?
I mean, I remember when I was doing my person-on-the-street interviews, when I was doing... I did some of the... In particular, in California, you would just meet these NPCs.
They'd start talking, they'd have an interesting thing to say, they'd be positive, then some particular topic would come up and it'd freeze, right?
So, I swing between these two things, right?
I swing between these two things.
Everyone's an individual and unique and a snowflake and fantastic and interesting, and there's some truth in that.
And then there's the goop, right?
And the goop, like the NPC wiring,
It can be seriously dangerous, right?
It can be seriously dangerous.
I mean, what was it in America?
Was it 40% of people on the left wanted to force people to get vaccinated and or take away their children if they wouldn't vaccinate their children?
If you have those kinds of opinions, I'm not really sure I care entirely, either what your favorite song is, or what happens to you over time.
Do you follow?
So for every individual, you know, at a sort of a fairly shallow level, they're interesting.
But once you get into that volcanic electrified mush underneath, it's, it's volatile and it's, it's dangerous.
It's very dangerous.
It's kind of like, you know, when lava has gone out and out into the world and cooled a little bit, it looks like rocks.
But when you step on it, it's lava underneath and you'll go down and melt.
Yeah, I'm going to just double check this data, but I remember that kind of vividly.
Let me see here.
Boom, boom, boom.
Let me just make sure I do things in a fair and factual manner.
And let me see here.
Maybe it wasn't exactly 40, let me just check.
But yeah, I mean, there was a real, I mean, some real tyranny stuff came out, right?
Some real tyranny stuff came out.
But yeah, I remember that 40% number and it could have been higher, so.
Let's see here.
I'm reading, oh, this is my novel, Almost, at almostnovel.com, or you can go to freedomain.com slash books.
I'm reading Almost and I see a lot of parallels.
Yes, yes, yes, yes.
COVID is the main reason why I don't care anymore.
Yeah, I mean, it's kind of a release.
Like, I took a lot of risks and fought a lot of hard battles to try and help the world and I'm very proud and happy about what I did.
I have no regrets about any of it.
And then, you know, COVID came along and people were screaming to have your rights taken away and to have you locked in your house and lose your capacity to travel and all of that just because they were told.
And this is after the examples of Nazi citizen collusion in the 1930s and the Stasi and NKVD in Eastern Europe and the Soviet Union and all of the turncoats under Chairman Mao.
And yeah, it's like, I appreciate that these people were very scared and they were told who to hate.
And it's like, okay, so that was unpleasant.
That was very unpleasant, but it's also very liberating.
Like, I am someone, for better or for worse, I think it's for better, hit me with an O if you're an optimist or a P if you're a pessimist.
I'm just curious, right?
What do we got?
We got a 50-50?
But it's mostly a 50-50, right?
Oh, thank you for the tip, I appreciate that.
Thank you.
So what do we got here?
It seems about 50-50, right?
Whereas the optimist says the glass is half full, the pessimist says the glass is half empty, and the engineer says that the glass is engineered incorrectly.
The Atlantic ran an article arguing that flying is a privilege.
Unvaccinated should be added in the no-fly list.
Yes, yes, yes, the idea that you don't have an innate characteristic, you only have permission from the ruling class.
Well, that's the new thing, right?
That's the new thing.
P, I am blackmailed, right?
So I recommend this.
I don't know how many people can do it or whether they should.
Yeah, show the papers and all of that, right?
So my particular habit, as you probably know by now, my particular habit is, whatever the downside is, find the upside.
Find the upside.
So what's the upside of everyone baying for you to get locked up for not taking an experimental gene thing?
What's the upside of that?
They got exposed?
Yeah, that's true.
But I mean, personally, what's your personal upside?
Not sort of general thing.
What's the personal upside?
Yeah, you don't feel any obligation.
Like, I'm not going to put myself on the line for the majority of people who believe that bodily autonomy and the Nuremberg Code is bad, right?
You know, my ancestors suffered, fought, bled and died fighting and under the Nazis.
and out of the Nazi experimentation and I assume also out of the Japanese experimentation on prisoners of war and and Jews and and homosexuals and other sort of intellectual dissidents and so on like these experimentation all of that produced
The Nuremberg Code, which every... I mean, you know all of this stuff, right?
Every country has signed it except for maybe North Korea or something.
And the Nuremberg Code is pretty clear.
You can't force people.
You have to provide benefits.
They've got to be able to cancel at any time.
You can't threaten them.
You can't bribe them for any kind of medical treatment.
It has to be fully informed consent and no coercion, bribe, punishment, anything like that.
That is what we extracted from the 40 million dead horror of World War II.
That's one of the things we extracted, right?
So, and again, my ancestors fought, bled, suffered, were imprisoned, were on the run, and died under the Nazi regime.
I mean, my childhood was hell to a large degree because of the Second World War, because I'm sure that my mother was handled extremely appallingly under the
Nazi regime.
I know that she was and of course her mother was bombed to death she barely fled that day my mother and Then the Russians came in and raped everything inside.
So yeah, it was it was you know So so my childhood went so all of the people who were like basically fucked the Nuremberg Code It's like okay, so What did What did everyone suffer and die for right?
Fact check.
COVID-19 vaccine mandates don't violate the Nuremberg Code.
Well, but how about fully informed consent, right?
Was there fully informed consent?
I don't think when they tried to hide the test documents or the testing documents for 75 years.
Also, when the manufacturers have complete immunity.
I mean, that was kind of a clue, wasn't it?
Bit of a clue.
It's safe and effective.
But we're going to need complete legal immunity from any consequences.
I mean, this wasn't even a tough IQ test, right?
So, yes.
So now, did USA Today write this article about COVID-19 vaccine mandates don't violate the Nuremberg Code?
Is that right?
Let me just double check this.
Oh, the Nuremberg Code addresses human experimentation, not vaccines approved for emergency use.
Is that right?
No, but my understanding is that
It's medical procedures as a whole.
Human experimentation, not vaccines approved for emergency use.
So they just changed the definition, right?
But without it, I mean, most vaccines took 10 years to test and had a failure rate of 94%, right?
Like normal vaccines that are part of the regular dead versions of the virus.
Like most regular vaccines take 10 years to test and have a failure rate of 94%.
Like 94% of them don't work or produce bad outcomes.
So the idea that there were no experiments going on is wild.
It's wild.
If you change the definitions, sure, the government can create a checkbox that says this is not any kind of experimentation.
So what else did they say here?
So really, the Nuremberg Code is only to do... I thought it was medical procedures as a whole, that you can't... that somebody has to get... I mean, I don't think you can force people to get medical procedures as adults, can you?
I mean, if you're a cancer patient and you don't want to get... I mean, they can't force you to get radiation and chemo, can they?
So yeah, so the fact that regular vaccines are 10 years and 94% failure rate, I don't see how an entirely new technology that failed for 25 years and yeah, it's it's wild.
It's wild.
So yeah, I don't quite see the logic of that.
But of course, I'm perfectly happy to
With kids, it's a different matter, right?
But with adults, I don't see that.
I mean, you can't have informed consent if the trial data is hidden, right?
And I think we all saw these videos that if you went to get the vaccine and you asked for the insert, it was blank, right?
Good morning, Ron.
Nice to meet you.
Immunity has been the case for vaccines for a while.
Yes, that's true.
That's true.
No, I know you, I knew you were just quoting.
Yeah, I mean, so it was 86 that Ronald Reagan signed this law in or that said that there's going to be a pool and manufacturers can't be held liable unless they go through this whole thing and they can't be held directly liable and so on, right?
I mean, again, I'm no doctor, of course, but I don't see how an entirely new technology... I mean, you know, one of the cardinal things, isn't it, that you do with any new medicine is you make sure you don't give it to pregnant women without massive amounts of testing?
Isn't that sort of a big thing?
And they just said, yeah, it's safe for pregnancy.
I don't see how that's not any kind of experiment.
I mean, I remember way back in the day, at the beginning of all of this, just saying,
Well, just tell us what steps you're skipping.
If the average vaccine takes 10 years and has a 94% failure rate, and you're using entirely new technology to deliver it in a few months, just what steps did you skip, right?
What steps did you skip?
Nobody ever said, right?
Right.
They had to get the Emergency Use Authorization.
Yeah, which meant that they couldn't... The FDA, I think, because of... The FDA, because of lawsuits, I think, has now admitted that doctors can prescribe Ivermectin.
And I've heard both sides of the case about Ivermectin.
I don't know which one's true or not, whether it's effective or not.
I don't know.
But now they're saying, no, no, no, we just... It was opinions and blah, blah, blah, right?
So, but you can't get an emergency use authorization for medicine if there's an alternate treatment, which is I think one of the reasons why, you know, the nose washes, the zinc, the vitamin D, the hydroxychloroquine, the ivermectin.
And again, I don't know whether, I know that the nasal wash has had very good, I think it's had very good success on reducing symptoms, but I mean, it seems a little less experimental to me, right?
Any thoughts on climate lockdowns?
The Canadian government released new net zero power grid requirements.
It's pretty monstrous if you know anything about power grids.
Yeah.
I mean, this has been coming for decades, right?
It's been coming for decades.
You know, if you're livestock, it's good to not be too expensive and inconvenient to your owners, right?
All right, so let me see here.
My company went hard on pregnant female workers that didn't want to vaccinate.
Now they're acting like nothing happened.
Oh, sure.
Yeah, of course.
Of course.
In one of the first shows of yours I listened to, you were talking about the introduction of Obamacare and how the quality of doctors was going to go downhill, right?
Yeah, I mean the Obamacare thing was interesting, right?
The Obamacare thing as a whole was interesting, right?
So, long story short, what happened was
Well I mean it's all the way back to the Second World War.
So in the Second World War you weren't allowed to give people raises and so companies who wanted to keep talent ended up paying for their health insurance instead.
And so health insurance ended up being tied to your place of employment which was not great because when you changed your job you lost your health insurance and people didn't like that.
And so what happened was
As more and more money got spent by the government, people began to lobby for health insurance plans to include more and more stuff that people didn't want, right?
So you have this ridiculous situation where people in their 70s are paying for insurance against fertility treatments, like for the price of fertility treatments, which they're never
going to use and everybody who has an obscure illness wants it tied into health insurance so that they can get that paid for and so on so more and more esoteric stuff got dumped into health insurance plans and people just didn't didn't like it so what happened was because you know health insurance is supposed to be for catastrophic stuff like catastrophic unpredictable stuff
I mean, what happened to me?
I'm a healthy guy.
I got cancer.
Catastrophic stuff.
That's unpredictable.
Like car insurance.
You don't have car insurance for an oil change or maintenance because that's predictable.
And so, as more and more people began to be unhealthy,
Insurance companies didn't want to insure them, right?
So as you began to, as the U.S.
population in particular began to gain a lot of weight, insurance companies didn't want to pay for their, they wanted to up their rates.
And of course everybody ran to the government and said, it's discrimination, it's phobia, and blah blah blah.
So basically the government forced insurance, health insurance companies to cover everything.
And the price, of course, went through the roof.
You cover everything, then the price goes through the roof.
So what happened was there were a whole bunch of people, especially young people, who said, well, this doesn't make any sense.
I mean, why would I pay, you know, $2,000 or $1,000 or $2,000 a month for health insurance when I'm at a time of life when I'm very unlikely to get sick?
So why would I?
So then what happened was people who didn't have health insurance got sick and then they applied for health insurance and the health insurance company said, well no, you're already sick.
We can't sell insurance if you've met the qualifications for payouts already.
Like you can't phone the insurance company and say I need insurance, fire insurance for my house.
My house is currently on fire.
So what happened was the government then said, again in response to all the people who hadn't bothered to get health insurance and then got sick because of unhealthy, like you know 70 to 90 percent of health issues are lifestyle related, based upon your choices, not based upon your genetics.
So then what happened was the government said, well you can't deny people for pre-existing conditions.
Oh brilliant, big brain mover, you can't deny people for pre-existing conditions.
So, what does that mean?
If you can't deny people who are already sick, what will people do?
It's very predictable, right?
What people will do is they will wait until they get sick, and then they will apply for health insurance, which is basically just a massive subsidy.
And this is true for young people as well.
The young people are like, wait a minute, if I can't be denied for pre-existing conditions, then I'll just wait till I get sick, and then I'll apply for health insurance, because they can't deny me, right?
And this is also to do with the fact that
People who had a job where they had health insurance and then they got sick and then they switched jobs, the new people wouldn't insure them, right?
And so there was that as well.
So because people could wait till they got sick and then just apply for quote insurance, which is ridiculous, the whole point of insurance is it's supposed to be an unknown, right?
So then the insurance companies basically said, we're going out of business.
You either have to change this law or we're going out of business.
The government didn't want to change the law in particular because the law is in America that if you show up to the emergency room they have to treat you no matter what, right?
Because female voters.
And so if the government couldn't offload people with pre-existing conditions onto the insurance, private insurance, those people would then come to the government, subsidize or government run or government controlled hospitals or Medicare, Medicaid or whatever.
So the cost would then accrue to the government.
So the government didn't want to change that.
And of course you've got this big population of sick people and then you've got all these tenderhearted people who's like, this sick person can't get help.
Oh, we have to help them.
Right?
So, I mean, I'm of the walk-it-off generation, so I have a little bit less sympathy for people who screw up their health and don't get insurance.
So then, what happened was people didn't, they waited until they got sick, which was going to put the insurance companies out of business.
So then, the big brain solution was, well, we'll just force people to buy insurance.
We've made insurance pointless to buy.
You don't, like young people don't benefit from it and you can just wait till you get sick and then buy your insurance.
So they made, nobody wants to buy insurance and insurance companies work.
Like insurance, you need the vast majority of people not, you know, not needing it, right?
If everyone needs insurance, it's not insurance.
It's something else.
It's something weird.
It's completely unsustainable as a business model, right?
So, they had made insurance completely unviable as an industry.
So then, what do they do?
Well, more force always leads to more force, right?
If you force insurance companies to cover everything under the sun, if you force them to accept people with pre-existing conditions,
Then health care becomes very expensive and unnecessary so people don't buy it.
So then then it's the solution then to relax all of those restrictions?
Nope!
The solution is to force people to buy insurance and that's where Obama came from.
Obamacare came from.
Boy, it's been a while since I've done any public policy stuff.
I don't know if that's interesting, but that's an old muscle.
That's an old muscle.
How do you source your news?
I often hear you mention things before I hear them from my sources.
So, I don't honestly know.
I just have a bunch of stuff that floats across my tablet from time to time.
But I mean, I read the news.
I do find it very interesting.
It's more fun if you watch it like a movie.
It's like a disaster movie rather than you're in it.
You're an extra.
All right.
Climate laws won't apply to their private jets.
Oh, come on.
Yeah, I mean, you know, all of the people who are like, oh, the world's gonna be underwater and they buy their, they buy their multi-decker million dollar houses right on the waterfront.
I mean, it's, it's, I don't even know what to say.
I mean, I don't really know what to say.
I mean, anybody who, I don't know, anybody who believes this stuff.
I mean, one of the earliest interviews I ever gave was on how climate change was not a particular thing.
And that was like 15 years ago and none of the predictions they made have come true, right?
Using the UK healthcare system, I'm still waiting for the results of the blood test I did in April of 2021.
All they did was tell me the results were good, but never managed to get them.
I had to travel abroad to get proper tests and I got the results in about 24 hours.
Oh yeah, some times that I've spent in the States, if I've ever needed to dip into the healthcare system there for whatever reason, it's beautiful.
Beautiful.
You know the meme, right?
The meme about healthcare?
Oh, I need stitches!
And the UK system is like, we can see you in 31 months.
The American system is, that will be $61,000.
The Canadian system is, have you considered dying?
Yeah, like 3% of the, was it 3% of the deaths in Canada were assisted dying?
That's wild.
In Canada we have socialized medicine, but I have kept my South Korean citizenship.
In case I get cancer, I would hate to wait so long for a cancer treatment.
Well, the diagnosis takes a long time as well.
You don't want to be a redshirt in that movie, that's right.
What's that movie?
Oh gosh.
With Sigourney Weaver.
Galaxy Quest.
It's a very funny movie.
Galaxy Quest is a very funny movie.
Alright.
How would you define a temper tantrum?
My son is two years old.
I would like to know how to identify it.
He recently cried because a child took a toy back he borrowed.
When I prepare him he's not happy but accepts it.
But this time it was very sudden.
I don't know if that counts as a temper tantrum.
A temper tantrum is when it feeds on itself.
A temper tantrum is when it drives itself.
And usually it's the result of a long period of a child not being listened to.
Now, if your son is two years old, the concept of property rights and lending and borrowing is probably too advanced for him.
So you said he cried because the child took a toy back he borrowed.
So you mean your son borrowed the toy and then your child took the toy back?
Yeah, I don't think that's it.
It's not a good thing.
It's not, to me, it's not age appropriate.
If your child is two, to say, oh this is borrowed, it actually belongs to him, it's only yours temporarily, he can take it back whenever he likes, that's not going to be something a two-year-old is really going to process very well, in my humble opinion.
So he probably got really upset because he experiences that as, I just had a toy stolen from me, I just had a toy taken away from me.
Right, so saying it's temporary custodianship of somebody else's actual property and you have it by the grace of their kindness and they can rescind it at any time, like, you know, it's a reason why kids can't sign car loans, right?
Because then they're like, well, what do you mean I have to give it back?
Yeah, and the Republicans said they were going to stop Obamacare and then
Boner broke that promise.
Okay, but so, but okay, I mean, devil's advocate position, how are you going to stop Obamacare?
How are you going to stop Obamacare?
Are you just going to cancel it?
Okay, well then the health insurance companies go out of business.
And then what?
I mean, you have to unroll so much bureaucracy and laws and legalese and contract, you have to unroll so much.
And you know how sticky this stuff is.
It's like Velcro on the sole.
All right.
Assisted dying basically means government healthcare services.
Yeah.
I believe you narrow in on the valuable info by ignoring the trolls and distractions.
I'm not sure what that is to do, sorry.
Why do you think troubled women shave their heads when they're having a breakdown?
I've noticed this pattern time and again.
What is this?
Oh, that one's easy.
That one's easy.
It is the true self attempting to reduce the physical beauty so that they can be evaluated for who they are rather than how they look.
You follow?
I mean, the two examples, obviously, are Britney Spears.
When she was having a breakdown, she shaved her head because she was, I mean, gorgeous, right?
I mean, almost perfect figure, great face.
She's got that half-childish, neoteny, bug-eyed anime face and a great figure.
She was really at her prime in... It's almost like a force of nature to see how physically attractive Britney Spears was in... Not so much Baby One More Time.
It was too teen for me.
But... Oops, I Did It Again.
That red suit.
My God, those red pants.
Oops, I Did It Again.
It's just like, I'm not even looking at a human being.
I'm looking at, like, anime AI perfect male fertility symbol aggregation.
I think it was actually the original name for her band but they felt it wouldn't fit on a CD label.
So she was used, exploited, judged, evaluated by her looks.
And it's one of the things, by the way, that drove Amy Winehouse nuts.
Amy Winehouse was, you know, a soulful singer, a tragic addict.
I assume she was abused like almost all the women in the modern music industry and probably most of the historical musical industry.
Alanis Morissette, when she was in her mid-teens, was just
Absolutely pillaged and abused by the men in power around her.
It was just absolutely appalling.
I mean, we've heard the stuff from Keisha and other people about just how terrible it was.
Queen has a whole song about financial exploitation, that they'd been in the business ten years and had a bunch of hit albums.
Freddie Mercury was still living in a tiny apartment with mold on the walls because they just never had any money.
And it was all just... Elton John was stolen from.
Sting had to take his accountant to court to try and get millions back that the accountant had stolen from Sting.
And I think he ended up being convicted and serving time.
And Billy Joel was ripped... I mean, this is a common thing.
As a whole.
So, the exploitation in the music industry and the entertainment industry as a whole.
I was just thinking about this this morning, right?
As I said, I got up at like 5.30.
I'm not much of a morning person, but I got up at 5.30 this morning.
And I was just thinking about, you know, when I was younger, I really wanted to be an artist and, you know, be an actor and a playwright and a director and a novelist and a poet and all of that.
But that would have brought me into the realm of the arts.
And that's...
A monstrous, horrifying, fairly demonic place to be, so... Somebody up there was looking out for me by not giving me what I want.
It's half the story of my life.
There's somebody up there looking out for me by not giving me what I think I want.
Or what I know I want, but I shouldn't... I shouldn't have, right?
So yeah, troubled women, that's number one is Britney Spears and number two is Sinead O'Connor, of course, who had an absolutely appalling childhood of physical, emotional, verbal and sexual abuse.
And she was very pretty.
Her face was very pretty.
And she was rejecting the looks.
Rejecting being attractive.
So some women shave their heads.
What's, of course, the most common thing that women do when they are abused and exploited for their bodies?
What do women do?
Tattoos and piercings?
No, that's more of a subculture mating symbol for highly dysfunctional people.
Yeah, they get fat.
Yeah, they gain weight.
So gaining weight is a way, so if a woman is sexually abused and exploited when she's a child or young, sexually abused of course as a child, molested and so on, but if she is
If men are only interested in her for her body, then she kills her body, right?
She destroys her physical attractiveness because her physical attractiveness is drawing predators, right?
You follow, right?
If who you are is drawing predators, you have to change who you are.
You have to camouflage yourself.
You have to try to repel the predators.
So you understand that being single and being obese has gone up in lockstep.
It's the only stairs they climb, right?
It's gone up in lockstep over the West, right?
Over the past 40, 50 years.
Right, so women are unprotected in the world, right?
They're unprotected in the world because they don't have a marriage, they don't have a pair bond, they don't have a man, they don't have a secure environment, a secure neighborhood.
They're out there and being a woman in the modern world is like running through the worst neighborhood in town dressed to the nines with a clear plastic bag full of hundred dollar bills.
You're going to attract a lot of attention, right?
Like if you see, if you have a $100 bill, if you have a bag, clear bag full of $100 bills, you're running through a bad section of town, people start chasing you, what do you do?
You throw away the money.
Ah!
Go get the money and then you're safe, right?
You understand?
And so what you have that is a value that is drawing predation, you throw it away.
You get rid of it.
You follow?
So if having a shapely figure, having long hair, having all of this stuff, if that is drawing predation, you've got to get rid of it.
You have to get rid of it.
And then of course you get these theorists that say, well, you've got a, you've got a, the male gaze is dangerous.
Well, no.
The male gaze is lusty, as is the female gaze at times, of course, as well.
The male gaze is lusty, but it's not dangerous.
Lust is not dangerous.
Right?
What does predation mean?
So in this context, predation means that you will lie to and manipulate a woman in order to have sex.
The sex has nothing to do with pair bonding, it's nothing to do with values, it's nothing to do with morals, it's nothing to do with family or children or love.
You simply, well I mean of course not with molestation, that's a simple power
objectification and rape of children.
But for young women it's that you are drawing men who are dangerous.
They're dangerous either to your body in that you might enjoy flirting but then if you turn them down they will become aggressive, which is dangerous, particularly if you're in private.
Or they will lie to you, they will manipulate you, they will get you to open up and trust them, they'll have sex with you and then they'll leave.
And they will
They will break your heart.
And they will make you cynical.
And that's a poison, right?
So a man who breaks a woman's heart is poisoning her to not trust other men.
He's destroying her capacity to pair bond.
And it's like the genes react against it very strongly, right?
Basically, it's when you want to use another person as a masturbatory extension of your own exploitative fantasies.
Well, I guess make them reality, right?
So, I mean, when I grew up, I mean, I had this babysitter.
Her name was Yvonne, this babysitter.
And, you know, even as a five-year-old kid, I could tell that she was pretty shapely, right?
And pretty.
And I remember she took me once to go and return.
We had these glass bottles of pop, of Coke or whatever, right?
I thought it was free money right because I didn't realize you you paid five pennies and or whatever and then you you paid five pennies and you got the deposit back but of course I was a little kid so I had one or two of those and in the flat and she took me to the convenience store up the road so that I could return these bottles and buy a little piece of candy or whatever I bought a little piece of chocolate or something like that and we were walking back and I so vividly remember this I could probably even pick it out on Google Maps there was this big apartment building
And there was a road, a fairly busy road, and we were walking past.
It wasn't the apartment building I lived in, but it was on the way back.
Beautiful sunny day.
Not a cloud in the sky.
Unusual for England, like the summer of 1940.
Like, not a cloud in the sky.
And she had tight pants on, she had a tight shirt on, and she was shapely.
Shapely.
And pretty.
Blonde and all of that.
Anyway, so this car drove by,
with these guys hollering at the top of the lungs at her and thumping on the roof.
I really vividly remember that.
Just, oh, you know, this this feral, oh, you know, just how pretty she was.
I don't remember what they said.
It was just, you know, baby or, you know, hey, hot hottie or good looking or like something like that.
Right.
And they just drove on and it was just guys appreciating
Um, a very pretty woman.
And, uh, and she wasn't like a teenager.
I think she was in her sort of early to mid twenties or whatever.
And I have no idea about her life as a whole, but I just remember, I remember that car going by.
And these guys thumping and screaming like ape, like thumping and screaming at Yvonne, the babysitter.
I remember Yvonne looked down at me with this.
Satisfied smile, and she said, oh, it's a wicked, wicked world.
And she was smiling, right?
And I remember thinking at the age of five, I can get a whole career out of commenting about this.
No, I'm kidding.
I didn't say that.
But I should have, because it would have been true.
Yeah, cartoon werewolves with the big pop-out eyes.
Yeah, yeah.
Roger Rabbit style, right?
And I just remember her with this smile of satisfaction and excitement and interest.
Oh, it's a wicked, wicked world.
And she was aglow, calling it wicked, obviously dressing for it.
She appreciated it, but it was wicked.
Like it was very, it was very Adam and Eve, very, very complicated and a very congested moment.
You ever have these things in life?
It's just incredibly congested.
Because there's so much in that.
These guys were hollering and yelling and calling out and thumping the roof of their car, but they didn't stop.
She appreciated the attention.
She was aglow with it.
She said it was wicked.
She smiled.
Like, that's some complicated stuff, right?
And listen, we got some lovely ladies here.
Lovely ladies.
No, not that kind.
Not like the Les Mis kind.
We got some lovely ladies here.
Is it not?
Yeah, the attention is nice until it's dangerous.
That's right.
That's exactly right.
That's exactly right.
It's nice as long as they keep driving.
Do I have that right?
It's nice.
It's fun.
It's relatively innocent.
It's appreciative.
But if they stop the car and get out and come towards you, that's a whole different thing.
Now, of course, again, the reason I said she wasn't a teenager was A, she wasn't a teenager, and B, of course, these guys were hollering and bug-eyed Roger Rabbiting at her when she's with a kid.
Oh gosh, Gerard.
Should I, should I do a Twitter thing?
Like why I'm not on Twitter thing?
Do you care?
Do we care about this?
I appreciate your support and all of that, but do you care?
I've done it so many times now.
Okay, that's fine.
Yeah, so Gerard, when you buy a company, you inherit all of its assets and liabilities.
So there's no, a company is a person, right?
Yeah, we've done so many.
So yeah, you can just go look on all of this, right?
Because he says, do you not think it's a little immoral or demeaning to demand that someone apologize for someone else's bad behavior?
Yeah, so when William Elon Musk bought Twitter, he bought the user base, he bought the advertising contracts, he bought the employee contracts, he bought all of the assets and all of the liabilities.
So if Twitter had done something illegal, then he would not be immune from that.
Right?
So, anyway.
What would have been a great way for a young girl to have handled that stuff?
Well, that's an interesting question, right?
That's an interesting question.
But isn't that explanation a technicality?
That's the law.
That's... I mean, I'm not sure what you mean by technicality.
That's how corporations work.
And are you saying that there's nobody left at the corporation who had any hand in them maligning me?
Come on, right?
All right, so, yeah, my cousin gave me a hug while picking up from school.
A guy from a car calls out for a hug as well.
Oh yeah, of course, right?
And I've done the bit where some woman is waving to some guy behind me and I'm like, hi!
Whatever, right?
Morality overrides the law!
Yes.
But he bought all of the assets and the liabilities.
And you have to make things right.
And so if you bought a corporation that wronged people, you can apologize on behalf of the corporation, right?
Look, I wouldn't ask for a personal apology from Elon Musk, for heaven's sakes.
The guy doesn't even know who I am.
I wouldn't ask for that.
I would even accept a blanket one.
If they said, people were accused of this, this and this, it wasn't the case, we're sorry.
Hey, that's something.
Right?
That's something.
That's something.
But the apology isn't some personal thing that I want for my own emotional satisfaction.
The apology is, we did something wrong.
And if they're not admitting that they did something wrong, then they'll just do it again.
Like, I mean, you know this Linda Iaccarino or whatever her name is?
Like, you know, she just got interviewed.
She's the new CEO of Twitter.
And she's like, well, of course, if the speech is illegal, we'll ban the person.
OK, I get that.
And they said, but if it's...
They have this weird thing where it's got a rhyme.
Some of it's rhyme, it's true.
It's freedom of speech, not freedom of reach, right?
And so she says, but if it's lawful but awful, we'll demonetize it, we'll demote it, we'll hide it, you can't share it.
And it's like, okay, so just back to square one, right?
Isn't paying billions of dollars to give free speech to people an indirect apology?
No, I don't see the logic of that.
Just be honest, man.
Just say you want me to go back on Twitter.
Don't try and manipulate me with all this moral nonsense.
Right?
If a corporation has wronged you, they need to apologize.
That's a moral... Look, it would be completely hypocritical for me to have given this advice to people over the years and believe in it, but then not.
Not do it myself.
No.
I need assurances that they understand they did wrong, taking responsibility, apologizing, and that way I can have some assurance that it won't happen again, right?
No, he's not trolling.
Honestly, he's not trolling.
I know that you can't just say, like, let's not be Twitter, right?
It's not trolling if it's a legitimate hypothesis.
He's perfectly welcome to ask these things.
I have no issue with him asking it at all, right?
Jordan Peter said he'd rather die than go back on Twitter.
He's not back on Twitter.
Well, that may have been a contract that he had with Ben Shapiro's outfit, right?
I don't know.
So, for women, the attention is great fun until it becomes dangerous, right?
Now, do you know what the equivalent is for men?
Yeah, Jeffrey Tucker got a fairly non-controversial two-hour interview.
You yeeted off YouTube recently, right?
So, no, what is the equivalent for men?
For women being sexy, enjoying the appreciation but not wanting to be in danger?
There is an equivalent.
No, come on, guys.
Come on.
Okay, so I'll tell you.
So for men, yeah, that's right, you got it, flashy money.
Yeah, so for men, it's great fun to roll around in a Bugatti, I suppose.
I don't know, but I've never done anything like that.
But it's great fun to have, you know, Conor McGregor going to get a million dollar watch or something.
It's great fun to just be flashy and throw your money around and just pay for everything and be super expensive.
And then what happens?
What are you risking?
What are you risking?
Cardi B shows up?
Yeah, that's right.
Yeah, you're going to get robbed.
It could be a gold digger.
You could get robbed through the court system in a sense, or you could get robbed.
Right?
So, and you understand the equivalent, right?
So for women, what is your sexiness for?
Why does it exist and why do men desire it?
What is your sexiness for?
Babies?
Well, no, not particularly.
Not particularly.
It's for pair bonding.
It's for creating a stable foundation in which to raise your children, right?
That's what your sexiness is for.
Your sexiness is for creating a loyal pair bond with a quality man who's going to protect and provide.
Do we have that?
Do we agree with that?
Because all female attractiveness throughout the animal kingdom is for offspring.
Human beings have to be a little bit different, right?
Somebody says, only shallow women are interested in that money flashing, which can be hidden.
Pretty women are born that way and hard to hide it.
You...
You can hide your looks to some degree, for sure.
You can hide your looks to some degree.
I'm not talking full burka, but you can hide your looks to some degree.
You don't have to go out like Yvonne did when I was five, right?
You don't have to go out with really tight pants on and a spray-on shirt and all that kind of stuff, right?
So for women,
Your sexiness is for your family.
It's to found your family, right?
Now, what is the value of staying sexy after you become a mother?
There are two main values for women to stay sexy after you become a mother.
You say, oh well, you know, it's done, it's achieved, it's part of maintaining the pair bond for sure.
What is the other big selfish reason that women should stay attractive after they have kids?
If your man dies, you can attract another?
Okay, so a woman, when she's dating, right?
A woman's attractiveness makes money.
No, the pair bond, the woman doesn't say sexy to jump ship or if the husband dies.
No, no, no.
When a woman is single, she has things, she makes money from her attractiveness, so to speak, right?
And that money is a down payment for the pair bonding.
Do we follow that?
Yes, boom!
Aristo, you are on fire today, baby.
Right.
Her attractiveness will raise her husband's status among other men.
That's right.
So if you have a beautiful wife and you work at a corporation, or even if you're an entrepreneur or something, if you show up, the investors say, oh, we want to meet you.
And you come with a beautiful, poised, elegant, intelligent woman who's a great conversationalist and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Are you going to get the deal?
Are you going to get the promotion?
People, I mean, women have this funny thing that they think if they get married and have kids, they can't monetize their beauty anymore.
It's like, no, no, no, you monetize your beauty more after you get married and have kids.
Am I wrong?
Tell me I'm wrong.
You monetize your, you get way more money being attractive after you're married because your husband's status goes through the roof.
Am I right?
I mean, this may not be in every culture.
Okay, let me ask you this.
If you're a guy and you're trying to make money by telling people how to be successful, right?
You want to tell guys how to be successful, right?
And then somebody shows a picture of your wife who's 300 pounds.
Does anybody believe you?
And it doesn't mean that you, like, you don't have to be a fitness expert or something like that, but you just, you know, here's how to be successful, and then your wife is fat.
Well, you understand, as a man, you look at a man with an unattractive wife, and I'm not just talking face, I'm not talking face, because I'm not talking about the things that are beyond your control.
Right?
I'm not talking about the things that are beyond your control.
All women look good
When they're fit and slender.
All women look good when they're fit and slender.
Now, you will judge the man as having some hidden fault or flaw or problem if he claims to be successful but has an unattractive spouse.
So let's say this influencer, he might make $200,000 a year by telling men how to be successful if his wife is slim and fit.
You follow?
Now, how much money can he make if his wife is fat?
This influencer who tells men how to be successful.
Thank you for your God-tier content, as always.
It's constantly mind-blowing.
Oh, thanks, Edward.
I appreciate that.
That's very kind.
Thank you.
So, he goes from 200 bucks.
He makes virtually nothing.
So, the woman is going to get paid hundreds of thousands of dollars to lose weight.
Did you follow?
Or to not gain weight.
Or to not gain weight.
So if she gains weight, she's crippling her husband's or her partner's chances of economic success.
She's throwing money away.
And she's throwing more money away than she ever did when she was dating.
Right?
If your husband wants to be an influencer and tell men how to be successful, if you gain weight, nobody will believe him.
He won't have a career.
Time to go back to constant workouts and starving.
LOL, let's get that money.
No, no, because it's not like the woman has to be some Jill Ireland super fitness model.
How an attractive woman brings more money for her husband.
Absolutely.
So,
A woman who stays slender and fit over the course of her marriage.
Not only does she help her husband make quite potentially literally millions of extra dollars, she monetizes her beauty through her husband's status.
Yeah, men do not respect men with obese women, yeah.
A happy wife will do everything to please her husband.
I get that.
That's, that's very nice.
Husbands should do what they do to please their wives as well.
But the happy wife will also, it's for her children.
So if she gains weight, her children end up with far fewer resources, right?
Cause her husband can't make that extra 50 or a hundred thousand or more a year by being high status, right?
So she is selfishly eating food at the expense of her children.
Yes, you're right.
Taylor, you also save money on groceries.
That's right.
She does not even need to be seen by outsiders in the relationship.
Her man won't even respect himself and will have the same end effect, even though she's not seen by outsiders.
Right.
Now.
How do you make more money outside of this as a man, right?
Is this stuff interesting to you guys?
I want to make sure we're spending our time wisely here.
Is this interesting?
I want to just double check that we're not missing another topic.
Fascinating.
Okay.
So if you are a man, how do you make more money by valuing, sorry, by marrying a high status woman?
And it's got nothing to do with her attractiveness raising your status.
As a man, how do you make more money?
By marrying a high-status woman.
You get better connections?
It could be.
It could be.
Let's take her out of your business equation.
Because we already dealt with that side, right?
Confidence with a question mark?
That might be a bit... No, it's not that your confidence will be higher.
That will help.
Her family has good connections, may not necessarily be the case.
Ambition?
Starts with a C. What is the biggest motivator for men?
What do we get up to do?
Starts with a C, and it's not that word.
What makes a man better that starts with a C?
Challenge?
Confidence?
Children?
Competition!
Yes, Jared!
Ding, ding, ding!
You get the prize!
You get the prize!
Hey, we were just talking about this yesterday.
So, yes, competition.
Cocaine.
Yes, cocaine and competition.
Competition for cocaine.
So, if you have a very attractive wife, how eager are you to work out, to do well, to make money, right?
Because you're competing with all the other options she has, right?
Gotta keep the keeper, yeah.
And also, sorry, I just forgot to mention this earlier, not only does the woman who stays slim and fit raise her husband's status to the point where she makes hundreds of thousands or more of extra money, but she also, by keeping her husband sexually interested in her, to an easier degree, she avoids divorce, and divorce destroys half the family's finances or more, right?
Divorce destroys half the finances of the family or more.
So if she stays slender and fit, she makes a huge amount of money and she avoids destroying half their assets.
So this is the women who gain weight in a marriage, and we'll talk about the men in a sec, but the women who gain weight in a marriage are incredibly selfish because they are destroying resources their children need to succeed and survive in the world.
Thank you, Beth, for the tip.
I really, really appreciate that.
Yet it seems like women also want a good-looking guy too, not just a wallet.
But the reason that there are men and women is for children.
I mean, who cares what the men want and who cares what the women want?
What matters is what the children need.
I'm sorry because I've just done all of this stuff in the Peaceful Parenting book, right?
So it doesn't matter what you want.
It matters what the children need, right?
When you date, you get married, you have kids.
That's what it's all for.
It's for what the children need.
Does that follow you?
Do you follow?
What is slender and fit nowadays?
Well, you know, reasonable weight and so on, right?
Now here's another, another way that women help their, what's another way that women help their husbands by staying slim and fit?
They increase the family income.
Nothing to do with anything we've talked about so far.
What is another way, it's so multi-dimensional, what's another way that women make the family money by being slim and fit?
Yeah, he works out as well.
He's most likely to work out, even if he doesn't work out.
A woman who stays slim and fit will be playing tennis with her husband.
She will be playing pickleball.
She will go swimming.
They will go to the beach.
They will all go to the playground with the kids and jump around and run around.
They'll go to play parks.
They'll go to trampoline parks.
She will keep him active.
Right?
Good health hygiene, lower medical bills, and what happens to a man's testosterone level when he exercises.
You live longer?
Yeah, it goes up.
What happens to a man's capacity to compete when his T-levels go up?
Is he better able to compete if his testosterone levels are higher?
Also, how comfortable are obese women being out in public on average?
Yeah, fat cells make estrogen as well.
The T-levels reads different levels.
What if the guy doesn't want to exercise or anything physical with the spouse?
You understand I'm talking trends here, right?
I know a short woman.
I know a tall woman.
Yeah, well, somewhat.
I mean, then he's going to get divorced.
Because she's going to stay fit.
He's going to get lazy.
She's going to stay strong.
He's going to get girly and estrogen based.
And he's going to get weak and he's not going to make much money.
And then she's probably going to end up attracted to someone else.
Exception to the rule, guy.
Strikes again.
Right, right.
Right.
I had two babies in the past two years.
Third baby due in December.
My wife has gained about 80 pounds.
I think it's a good trade-off, to be honest, but it does have its downside.
Well, if you love your wife, what do you have to do if your wife is gaining weight?
And again, kids, I understand and all of that, but if you love your wife, what do you do with your wife?
Well, maybe not running if she's gained 80 pounds.
That would kill her knees, I assume, right?
But what do you do with your wife if she's gained weight and you love her?
Oh, she's pregnant now, due in December.
Yeah, you can die together.
Here's the thing, right?
Hit me with a why if you have trouble improving the thoughts and actions of the people in your life.
Hit me with a why if you have trouble.
Yes.
Would you like to know how to motivate your wife to lose weight?
Well, you get in shape yourself first, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it works, right?
She says she'll lose it after she's done breastfeeding.
That's fine.
It's not just enough to improve yourself.
That's necessary, but not sufficient.
Okay.
When you go to a car dealership, why is the car dealer guy talking to you?
You couldn't drop weight until you stop breastfeeding because breastfeeding consumes a whole bunch of calories, right?
Yeah, he's there to sell you a car.
So he's talking to you for his own benefit, right?
Which means you're skeptical, right?
Now, if you're talking to a salesman and he says, I need you to buy the most expensive car because I've got to make my quota and I'm low this month, right?
Are you going to buy?
Are you going to want to do what he wants?
No.
Why not?
Don't you have any compassion, man?
Why wouldn't you do what he wants?
Why wouldn't you do what the salesman wants if he tells you to buy something expensive so he can make his quota?
Yeah, what's in it for me?
Yeah, because you're concerned about your interest, not his, right?
So, a good salesman will sell you something if he makes it all about you.
Right?
I mean, if I just said, well, I just want you to guys think how smart I am and how I can talk about just about any other subject and provide value off the top of my head with no prep.
Right?
If it was just all about you guys staring at my big speckled forehead going, wow, big brain, right?
Would you, would you come to these shows?
No, right?
What am I trying to do with philosophy and you?
What am I trying to do with philosophy and you?
No, it's not curiosity help.
Yeah, to benefit you, right?
I'm here to benefit you.
I mean, obviously, I appreciate the tips and I need to survive and got to pay bills and all of that, right?
But it's for your benefit.
I mean, I already have a great wife.
She is a fantastic figure.
We do sports all the time.
She's fit as a fiddle and looks fantastic.
So I'm just trying to keep up because she's younger, but
I don't need this stuff for me, it's here for you.
I'm trying to give you as much value and I of course appreciate the tips and thank you very much, but I'm here to give you value and that's why you're here and that's why you're listening because is it about me?
Is it about me, my vanity, my ego, or is it about the value that you can get out of what we're doing together?
So if you want your wife to lose weight, if she senses it's about you at all,
It would be almost impossible for her to do it.
Who's the salesman you listen to?
It's the salesman who makes it all about you.
I want to get you in the right car.
If we don't have the right car, walk away.
You're perfectly happy to leave.
I want to get you in the right car.
If we have a good fit, we'll make it work.
If I don't have the right car for you, there's a guy across the street, there's a guy down the road, there's a guy one town over, he'll set you up.
Right?
If it's about you,
Do you follow?
If you say, like, if it's about you, you will achieve nothing.
You have to be willing to lose for anything to be a win-win.
Like, you have to be willing to lose the sale for the sale to be possible in any honorable way at all.
Like, I remember when I was in
Hit me with a Y if you'd like to hear a not very proud story of mine.
I don't know.
It's, you know, because it's not about me and my ego or anything.
Right?
You do?
Okay.
My only excuse is it was a while ago.
So hit me with an M if you've ever been to Morocco.
Marock me Amadeus, if you've ever been to Morocco, land of the four colors.
Okay, so some of you have been to Morocco, right?
One of the four colors, the blue of the sky, the red of the earth, the yellow of the sand, and the silver of the water.
There's four colors in Morocco.
It's a pretty place, and I'm glad that I went.
I actually went from a business trip in China straight to Y2K in Morocco.
I spent like five weeks with no English signs at all.
So anyway, a friend of mine and I went and we had a driving tour of Morocco, which was fun.
Anyway, I get taken to this
Rug Merchant.
And the Rug Merchant is super, super silly.
You know, he's just like, oh, welcome in, Effendi.
Let me sit you down.
Here is some mint tea.
Here are some biscottis.
Let me tell you a little bit about the history of my shop and the wonder of the woven arts of my rugs and blah, blah, blah, blah, right?
He's just spent time, sat, generous, nice, bottomless tea and snacks and all this kind of crap, right?
Quick question.
I was a young single man living in a one-bedroom apartment at the time.
Did I have even the slightest need for carpets and or rugs?
Just hit me with a yes or no.
Arab salesman.
Oh, yes.
The oiliness and the sycophancy that controls you, the subjugation that bullies you, the subservience that controls you.
Yes, it's 100% true.
Right.
Okay.
So we can all agree that as a young single man in a pre-carpeted apartment that I didn't even own, I was just renting, right?
Can we all agree I had no use for an expensive rug or carpet of any kind?
Right, we can agree with that, right?
A toupee, maybe.
Right.
Now, if we agree, this is just a Logic 101 test, this is an IQ test, right?
So if I had less than no need for one... Oh, it's horrible.
Now let's just move on to another topic.
I can't, I can't, I can't even, I can't even with this today.
Yes, I'm afraid so.
So if I had less than zero need, a negative need, for one expensive rug, would I have A, more, or B, less need for two expensive rugs?
Anyone?
Just, you know, throw it out there if you want.
But come on, man, that was a lot of tea!
Do I still have that rug?
Okay, what's wrong with that sentence?
What is wrong with asking me if I still have that rug?
What's wrong with that sentence?
That's entirely too complementary to me to what actually happened.
Those rugs, that's right!
More than one rack.
But my friends, they are so pretty.
Look at this, Effendi.
It's pretty beautiful.
You take this home and you'll be the king of your... right?
You might need a spare if you spill something on it.
Now, my friend, he had his own particular emotional problems and so on.
But my friend, did he buy any rugs?
You know, I felt a little bit like, you know, I was a bit smarter in some ways, maybe a little bit wiser.
Did he buy any rugs?
He did not.
How many rugs did I buy?
All of them!
Actually, by the way, I've never shown you guys my rug store, but I'm still in Morocco and I just bought all the rugs and the rug store and that guy.
I disassembled him for parts to pay for my ticket home.
I spent...
No.
No, I can't.
It scalds me in my memory.
You know, like the people who decided to go and get a university degree rather than listen to me about Bitcoin.
How much money did I spend on these rugs?
Now, this is 23 years ago, right?
You got to think of inflation, right?
I can't let it off my chest.
It's just too embarrassing.
$1,500?
That's a really, really nice thing to say, Jared.
I appreciate that.
It's very kind.
$1,000?
Oh!
How lovely.
How lovely.
I spent over $2,000 on these rugs.
Oh, when you were 19?
You sold $300 face cream from a mall pop-up store you couldn't afford?
Yeah, yeah.
Oof.
$2,000.
But you know it gets worse from there, right?
You know it gets worse than that.
I don't even have them and that's a story for another time.
Oh no, it gets worse from here.
No, the rugs were fine.
They were nice rugs.
No kidding.
No, they didn't get lost in transit, but you're getting close.
I will ship them.
You tell me, I will ship them.
So they met me at the airport.
The rugs met me at the airport.
And he was an honorable guy.
May have overcharged me a little, and that's pretty much the most expensive mint tea I've ever had in my life.
It was a little bit more expensive to ship, but that wasn't the major issue.
Hit me with a why if you've ever flown into a country with expensive rugs.
Just out of curiosity, have you ever done this?
Spoiler, it's not free.
There's... Well, so customs, right?
So customs was like, because I can't hide them, I've got these giant rugs with me.
It's not like I can put them on as two pairs of pants and pretend I'm a cowboy, right?
I mean... No, no, I had... Look, I paid for them and I had the receipt and I had all of that, right?
And, you know, it's the sunk cost fallacy, like once you've already paid $2,000 for rugs you don't need, and you've also paid for their shipping, and now somebody's saying, oh yeah, you owe another $800 in import duties.
Now, you know I have great respect for our friendly neighborhood government workers, right?
So, I go over to the separate place and this, he was a nice guy, and I don't have the worst sense of humor in the world, and he said, you're gonna owe some duties on these rugs, and I said, not if you buy them,
My friend Effendi, I have also brought some mint tea in my chest bags, and I will... So I, um... He said, you owe... You owe duties on these, and I'm like, I can't.
He's like, what, you can't afford it?
And I said, no, I can't.
Like, I emotionally can't.
I have no spine.
I have... No excuse.
I have no reason for these rugs.
They followed me like a curse, like I disturbed some...
Mummy's tomb.
I can't pay.
It's too painful.
It's too horrible.
You know what these mugs are?
These are mirrors that I look into and see a jellyfish.
I see a man with no spine.
I see a man whose price is three cups of mint tea.
I can't.
If I pay this, I'll never be able to ask a woman out.
I'll have to pee sitting down for the rest of my life.
I can't.
I mean I'm supposed to be high tea, I'm bald and I can't say no to a salesman so oily if you give him a hug he'll hit the ceiling.
Legend says they are at an art exhibit at the Toronto airport.
Did you immediately regret buying the rags?
Oh yeah, absolutely immediately.
They followed me like a haunted trailing ghost, like I had murdered my own self-esteem and the ghost of my murdered self-esteem was following me with chains and ghastly cries about my own pathetic spinelessness.
Oh my god.
He said,
You're not going to pay?
I said, please, please don't make me.
I can't let go of the rugs, but I can't pay the tariff.
The tariff will be the last shreds of my self-esteem and I will never be able to hold my head up high in public again.
It will be the end of my bloodline.
I will have no self-respect in the future.
And listen, 30 people work for me at my company and I won't be able to negotiate anything because my exposure as the only hominid able to walk upright with
A jellyfish for a spine.
Maybe I can make some money at a circus for being the only invertebrate vertebrate, but I can't.
Anyway, so he ended up laughing.
Yeah, whole new world.
Yeah, so you can say that your self-esteem was carpet bombed.
Yes.
Yes.
Glad you told this story.
It's colorful, but not as colorful as the tears on my rug.
And I was like, you know, I could have just flown with these rugs right over this carpet and not paid any tariffs at all.
So anyway, I, I poured out my tale of woe to the customs agent.
And he said, that's very honest.
It's very heartfelt.
Okay, fine.
Go on through.
Can you believe it?
Yeah.
Never paid the tariff.
Natural 20.
Yeah.
That's when I began to think that laws maybe weren't as absolute as I thought.
Well, there's been a few times in my life where I've been paid.
I've never been an official comedian, although I've done standup once or twice, but I've never been an official comedian.
But occasionally.
I mean, I remember once being in serious trouble at the border.
It doesn't really matter, at a border.
I remember being in serious trouble at a border for reasons that don't really matter right now.
And this surly border agent came in.
I was taken off to a little dark room on its own and a surly agent came in and I just looked at him and I smiled and I said, I can't say I love what you've done with the place.
Because what are you going to do?
You've got to just roll the dice.
Either they're gonna come down on you or they're gonna laugh.
But you gotta roll the dice, man.
Go down with a grin if you can, right?
So... Well, it also shows that, you know, it shows some courage.
But no, I was just... I was honest with this guy.
And honesty can get you a fair amount of distance, I guess, but... Yeah, it's...
It was not my proudest moment at all, right?
So in this guy, this guy, this oily Arab salesman who managed to milk money out of men by massaging their mint tea gland, was the sale about me?
Nope.
See, I was about him.
Now, it worked.
And I think it worked because I grew up in England and tea is just something you have to be nice and polite about.
I don't know.
Maybe that's why he did tea.
Maybe it's a big Moroccan thing.
I don't know.
Whatever, right?
But yeah, for the price of about 45 cents of tea and snacks, he got two grand out of me.
Now, I have no regrets for that purchase, right?
I have no regrets for that purchase.
Why not?
Because you gotta screw up to get wise.
How did he get you to buy the rugs?
Reciprocity reflex, yeah, for sure.
And you understand, in our relationship, I'm the Arab salesman, right?
Because he taught me that if you're very generous, reciprocity works.
So what did I do?
No ads.
Everything's for free.
Books are free.
I'm generous, right?
Valuable lessons.
It helped me to make the business decision about this show, which has served, I think, all of us well, lo these 17 plus years.
Also being a waiter, but because, you know, your tips are voluntary, but... Did he keep calling you, my friend?
I think...
I think I learned the Arabic phrase for big-nosed, white-skinned, foreign sucker.
I think that was the phrase.
Something about also revenge for colonialism.
I think that was also in there, so... Yeah, maybe his lessons were worth it after all.
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
Thank the rug salesman for the existence of this livestream.
Yeah, absolutely.
25 years?
He's probably still alive.
It's probably still alive.
No, honestly, I mean, I know it's it's a pathetic story in a way, but I learned a lot and it was very instructive and Yeah, so
You need to hire that guy, maybe.
But here's the other thing, too.
The other thing I learned was never try to beat someone at their own game.
So this was his job, right?
So he probably had a deal with all the people who gave driving tours that they were going to drop off these European sucker fish into his oily domain and then he was going to milk them dry.
And, you know, my driver probably got a cut.
And, you know, I'm sure they did some secret Arab-Muslim handshake or whatever it was.
And, you know, fine.
More power to them, right?
That was just the driver who I swear was dozing off.
I actually could not sit in the front seat after a while because I just let go of it.
And I'm like, dude, are you a sonar bat?
Like, how are you navigating?
I'm like, what is happening here?
I don't know how we're alive.
How is it possible we're alive?
I mean, if he was a young guy, I'd assume we were going to die, but he was a middle-aged guy, so I assume he'd done this before.
So, yeah, so... I learned a lot from that interaction.
And I have no issues with it.
He didn't force me to do anything.
He just was very persistent in the asking.
And I was, as a lot of Tidy Whities are, a little over-compliant.
I remember my Arabic driver telling me all about Cat Stevens and all of the other people who converted to Islam.
Very interesting.
Maybe I'll talk about that whole trip one day.
It was a very interesting trip that I learned quite a lot about the world, because I'd never been to that part of the world before.
But I'd always wanted to go to Morocco.
Yeah, do you have those people, like you don't know how they're driving?
You know, they're fiddling with the radio, they're checking in that Mariana Trench between the seats looking for, you know, their yearbook photo from 1973 or they're, you know, checking their mail or playing a video game with their feet or something.
It's like, how are we going to live?
How are we going to live?
And these are the people, they drift into your life to remind you of your mortality and have you appreciate every breath you take.
Muscle memory, yeah, yeah, for sure.
And they're smoking with the other hand.
Yeah, yeah.
I've been a while since I've been... I had a pilot in a small plane who was texting the whole time.
Nice.
Hopefully he wasn't texting for instructions.
Last summer.
True story.
Yeah, yeah.
Alright, what were we talking about?
Oh yes, sorry, back to your fat wife.
So what you want to do with your overweight wife is you want to take her to Morocco and get her addicted to mint tea because it's very non-fattening and she'll lose the weight.
Also, you'll lose $2,000 worth of weight from your bank account.
Maybe that will help.
Oh yeah, like I have a visceral hatred for some drivers, like the guys who just come screaming up behind you.
You can see their red, purplish, dragon-nosed faces and they're hunched over and you just, they're in some deathly rush, you know it's not real.
And then the moment you pull aside, they scream up and go up ahead and it's like, please just go have your accident somewhere else, long way away from me.
She might get a stomach parasite too.
Well, she'll definitely get a carpet parasite.
We went from fat wife question to magic carpet riots in Morocco, right?
The real magic was bypassing customs.
So with your wife, if she gains weight, why do you want her to lose weight?
If you make it all about her, you have a shot.
And this is true in life in general, right?
In life in general, if you make it all about the other person,
You have a chance.
It's your best chance.
It's not perfect.
We're not magicians.
We're not geppettos.
We're not controllers.
We can't babblefish people.
But if you make it all about the other person... Let me ask you this.
When I'm doing a call-in show, you guys listen to call-in shows, when I, what percentage of my attention is on the other person and what percentage of the attention is wanting the other person, what percentage of my attention is wanting the other person to pay attention to me?
What percentage of my attention is on the other person?
Minus a hundred percent if I want them only to focus on me, but it's a hundred percent, right?
All I do is ask questions.
And the only time I'll talk about myself is if it is to empathize or amplify something that he has done.
This whole story, I mean, I'm glad you enjoyed it.
I haven't thought about it for years, but this whole story is an engaging way to get you to understand how to help people change.
Right?
So 100% of my attention is on the other person.
Does that cost me?
It does not.
Because I get pleasure, deep visceral pleasure.
This heals my wounds to help the world, right?
Because some people take their pain and re-inflict it on the world, and some people take their pain and provide what they were denied.
Right?
Some people who are tortured, go torture other people.
Spread the pain.
Other people who are tortured, rescue people from torture.
Because they know how bad it is, right?
It's about self-empathy and so on, right?
How do you manage to fully listen, fully to the other person versus thinking about what you'll say next?
I don't think about what I'll say next.
I don't think what I'll say next because I trust myself.
I mean, I've been doing this for a long time.
So I trust that I will make the right connections.
And there are occasional times where I'm like, you can hear this like two or three second pause from like, okay, what should come next?
But it always comes to me.
It always comes to me.
So if you want your wife to lose weight for her, the carpet story shows your charisma too.
It could have been humiliating or hilarious.
It's hilarious.
Well, because I'm not going to pretend like, oh, I've had an iron will from day one.
It's like, no, I'm bendy.
Integrity is something you, you work at.
You don't just have it like Howard Rock, right?
Oh, thanks for the tip.
I appreciate that, Dan.
Tragedy plus time equals comedy.
Yeah, I wasn't super pleased.
That was some money for me back then, right?
So yeah, I mean, I mean, two grand is a lot of money no matter what, but back then I'd be that like, that's like four or six grand now, right?
But I always try to extract more value out of these losses than I lose, right?
Because that way it's an investment, not a loss.
So
With your wife, if it's about her, right, if it's about her, and you, the only benefit you take is in helping her, whereas if it's like, I'm not attracted to you, it's kind of gross, I'm embarrassed, it's not great, you know, you had a vow, you promised, and I've kept fit, if it's about you, you're not gonna do it.
Not gonna do it.
Not gonna do it.
Rent?
No, the apartment I was paying for was $1,000 a month, so it was two months of rent, two and a half maybe with the shipping, and it would have been over three with the duties.
I don't know if the guy let me through customs because he empathized with me, he found me funny, amusing, or he just wanted to move on and was tired of the whining.
I mean, you know, whatever.
Oh, thanks for the next import fee hassle.
Absolutely.
I appreciate that.
It's very, very kind.
So yeah, you make it about the, and this is not just true to your wife, make it about the other person, right?
If you want to get a raise, make your work about making your boss look good.
That's a win-win.
And that way you can also figure out who exploits you and who doesn't.
So that's my suggestion.
And it's worked for me.
And the people who focus on me, the people I focus on, it's just wonderful the way that it all works out.
So, if you want your wife to change about something, you have to find some way that it's all about her.
That you're just facilitating her happiness, what's best for her.
And women, of course, in particular, are so sensitive to shame or disapproval.
Am I right about this, ladies?
Like, hit me if you're of the fairer sex persuasion here.
And, I mean, you're very sensitive to, you know, what is one of the worst things
You can do to a woman is be judgmental, right?
Whereas what are men always doing with each other?
We're doing physical tests and making jokes and judging each other, right?
Yeah, yes, to be judged, to be disapproved of, to be found wanting, right?
So women find... So for men, it is loss of status.
For women, it's negative judgment, right?
These are the two things that burn our respective organs with the fire of a thousand suns, right?
So if you approach a woman with a negative judgment, it overwhelms her in general, and she will push back.
Right?
I mean, it would be like if you have, if you're overweight as a man and a friend says to you, and he says to you, come to a very advanced workout class.
I mean, people will laugh at you, but you need to do it.
You won't want to go because that'll be a loss of status.
You'll feel humiliated, right?
Women are very self-critical, and therefore, if you criticize women, it overwhelms them.
Because now she's got two people criticizing her, and she's surrounded, right?
Again, there's lots of exceptions, but this is a general truism.
And you've got to love that.
You gotta love that.
Women are so poised to be down on themselves that if somebody external does it, she's ganged up on.
Does that make sense?
Yeah, it makes sense, right?
And listen, you can get mad at this, it's different, who cares?
It is what it is.
Women have boobs and self-criticism.
That is, I don't know, to me, if I had boobs I wouldn't have self-criticism because I just enjoy having boobs, but that's, you know, part of vive la différence, right?
Currently pregnant, you need to rule out medical issues for weight before you come down on her as well.
For sure, yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely.
Of course, go get yourself tested.
Blood work is always a great idea and all of that, right?
Yeah.
If you didn't learn that lesson, then how expensive could it have been the next time?
Absolutely.
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
People, you think you're losing money.
You're not, you're gaining wisdom and you're getting an inoculation, right?
I lost two grand, but I was, uh, I never did it again.
And I probably saved a lot more money since then by saying no to things I don't need.
So no, it's not a cost.
It's a, it's a value.
It's a benefit, right?
It's like saying, well, I'm losing time because I'm at the gym.
It's like, no, you're not.
Yeah, you're paying tuition for knowledge.
That's right.
I mean, I got an entire sales course and business degree for $2,000 and an hour of my time.
You can't get better education than that, right?
Where are those rugs again?
I'll tell that story another time.
But they're not here.
They're on my chest.
Actually, I got them put on my eyebrows.
They were very small rugs, that's the worst part.
It's just these two things, right?
It's really sad when you think about it.
Two grand, right?
They looked bigger in the shop, but then I washed them and they shrank and that's it.
Yeah, they're at the Royal Ontario Museum.
Very nice.
Very nice.
Yeah, they're in my armpits.
My armpits spell vaguely Moroccan.
And you know, here's the funny thing too, like when I go to the aquarium with my daughter and we see jellyfish pulsing through the aquarium, the tank, I can still vaguely smell mint tea.
I see an invertebrate.
Invertebrate.
I smell mint tea.
It's just one of these Pavlovian associations that I have.
It's wild.
That must have been some good tea.
I could have got roofied for all I know.
Yeah, that was it.
Yeah, that's it.
Oh, mint?
Okay, hit me with a why if you've ever had the gleeful and glorious experience of chewing a mouthful of mint gum and then taking a swig of ice water.
Have you ever had that?
If you could control that pain, you could control the world.
It's second only to the ice cream headache, where it's like, this ice cream is really tasty, I think my head will explode from flavour.
Isn't that like the worst, most god-awful thing in the world?
Like, literally, I will double over with that ice cream headache pain.
You live for that pain?
Well, that is something else.
Yeah, those are the two things.
And then, of course, being over 50, just every now and then, you turn and twinge.
You ever have that, if you're over 50?
Milk after mint toothpaste?
Yeah, that could do it.
Well, why, you'd be having something sugary after toothpaste, but... It was... You ever have that, just turn and twinge?
You know?
Like I was reading about Brian May, the guitarist for Queen, just tore his butt, and not in the old Freddie Mercury style, but he tore his butt gardening.
And it's weird, like, I'm just standing.
I'll turn around and, you know, reach down for something.
It's like, oh, what?
I didn't even know I had that muscle.
What is that, a tendon?
What the hell's happening?
Did I just swallow some demon?
Wait, am I going to give birth to some alien like John Hurt style?
It's weird, right?
I mean, I exercise, I stretch, but you know, I'm going to be 57 in a month, and you just get these little creaky corners, you know?
It was a great Babylon Bee article, man, 36, rushed to the hospital after sleeping in a slightly unusual position one night.
Oh my gosh, yeah, it's wild.
I don't know what's going on there, man, but it just is the way that it is.
Like, you know, I did like, I don't know, 15,000 steps yesterday and tonight.
This morning, my right butt cheek is a little tight.
Why?
Don't know.
Tried stretching it?
Eh, a little un-kink, but why is it kinked?
Why?
I don't know.
It wasn't like I was wrestling with kangaroos.
I mean, obviously in my dreams, because that's a sexy dream I have every night.
Misalignment?
Well, that helps.
No, because sometimes I elude 20,000 steps in a day and I'm totally fine, so who knows, right?
But also, also I think that because I'm dropping some weight at the moment, I think that my body is just adjusting to stuff.
Yeah, getting up from the floor after playing with your kids.
Yeah.
Do you know I used to just get up?
Did you?
Like, I used to just get up.
Like a silent movie, right?
I don't know when a soundtrack had to get added to my life because I get up.
Like why?
Why?
Like, if my family's watching TV, I'll lie on the floor and I'll do some sit-ups or leg lifts or whatever, right?
I used that in describing my younger alter ego called Arlo in my novel, The Present, which you should totally read.
But I don't know why, why?
Right, so first I just got up like a silent movie, and then I got up with subtitles, like I'd be like, hmm, in my head, right?
Now I come up with like a soundtrack.
A soundtrack.
And I, you know, don't you do your very best?
Like to not make them porn noises when you get up as a middle-aged man.
Do you, is that just me?
Like, you want to be like, oh, not, oh, right.
Oh, don't you want to not, not sound like a, a disco soundtrack.
Uh, it's, uh, it seems important because you want to keep it manly, right?
Not, ooh, but like, you know, like you've just put the final twist on a saber tooth tiger's neck, something like that.
You make those noises during squash?
I didn't used to.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I used to think it was ridiculous when people would make these noises during sports.
But now I don't make the noises because, you know, if I'm playing pickleball or tennis or whatever, I don't make the noises because the ball's hard to hit.
It's just because I'm afraid of my body now.
Been skipping that day?
No, no.
I've told you guys, right?
I'm working on the Peaceful Parenting book while lifting weights.
They've banned the noise at some gyms when lifting.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Because it sounds like the most aggressive sexual acts that you can conceive of in hell, right?
No, no, don't.
I don't want to feel your soul leaving your body.
Don't do that.
I don't want to have to give you a tracheotomy because of the noise you just made.
That would be excellent if we could not.
I don't want to give you the Heimlich maneuver because you swallowed your noise.
Like, that would be excellent.
Doesn't grunting in tennis get you to hit the ball harder?
Oh, I'm way beyond hitting the ball harder.
I mean, I'm just trying to get there and not pass out.
and not have it hurt the next day.
Because that's the other annoying thing about being middle-aged is shit just doesn't hurt at the time.
You know, your body becomes like this really passive-aggressive girlfriend.
You do something and you think your girlfriend might be upset and she's like, no, no, it's fine.
It's fine.
Honestly, it's totally fine.
Go on with that story.
It's fine.
Just go.
Don't worry.
Just go.
It's fine.
Go on, go on.
Right?
And then like the next day, she just won't talk to you.
And then she's slamming all the drawers and finding the loudest cutlery drawer, right?
And that's your body in your in your middle age is like that too.
Because you're like, is this okay?
Can we?
Yeah, it's fine.
Good.
Yeah, go ahead.
Sucker.
Yeah, go ahead.
Have all the mint tea you want.
That's fine.
I'll make you pay later.
Yeah, it's really annoying, because you do stuff.
Hey, I can lunge for this ball.
Hey, I can run over there.
Oh yeah, that's a tough shot to get, but I can get it.
And your body's like, yeah, that's fine.
Yeah, go ahead.
Go ahead.
Yeah, B20.
That's fine.
Absolutely.
No problem.
Go for it.
I'll fuck you up later for it, but you can do it right now.
That's fine.
You can do it now.
Later.
I'll make you pay, and I'm not even going to tell you what you did.
Right, because that's the other thing too.
I thought you were fine with that story I was telling.
It's not that.
Well, what is it?
I'm not going to tell you.
That's your body.
You said you didn't give me any complaints when I lunged.
Is it that?
I'm not telling you.
It's just something.
You did something.
Over the last 24 hours, you did something.
I'm not going to tell you what, so you can't prevent it next time, and I'm not going to tell you next time either.
God.
Passive-aggressive bodies are just the worst.
Like, tell me at the time, or don't tell me at all.
That's all I'm asking.
Tell me at the time, or don't tell me at all.
If I ask you, does it bother you?
Tell me it bothers you, I'll change.
Right?
If you get a twinge, I'll change.
You know, like I was doing once some jump rope game, the thing that spirals around in arcades, this jump rope game, and I was jumping, and I was like, I hurt my calf.
Why?
No reason.
No reason.
Just, you know, machine gunned my calf with time.
That's all that happened, right?
So I do that, but at least at the time it was like, okay, that hurts, and I'm gonna have to stretch this for a couple of days, and that's unpleasant, so I'll stop doing it.
Easy peasy, right?
Done.
Thank you.
Thank you for the biofeedback.
That's exactly how you're supposed to do your goddamn job, which is to tell me that I'm hurting you so I can stop doing it.
But don't tell me it's fine at the time, and then fuck me up later.
That is mean, and I can't even get you back.
I can't even get- What am I gonna do?
Stick a pencil in my knee?
Oh yeah?
If you're gonna get- If you're gonna be passive-aggressive to me, I'm gonna say things are fine, and then I'm just gonna sandpaper my kneecap in the middle of the night.
Oh, that's gonna be fine.
Yeah, see how you like it.
No.
Because it all just bounces back on me anyway, right?
Yeah, it's monstrous.
But hey, it sure beats the alternative, right?
All right.
I'm part of a tech startup that has to downsize.
Do you have any experience that you could share, particularly with how senior management can keep morale up with the remaining employees?
We've already cut some executive level personnel that played a major part in the current situation.
Yes.
So, yeah, there's only one way to keep morale up when you're downsizing is
Well, it's two things.
Two things you have to do.
Number one, I'm sorry we didn't say goodbye to the losers earlier.
And number two, buh-bye losers!
Good riddance.
Deadwood.
Be gone.
Thought.
Demon.
Out of there.
Thank God.
Let's do a victory dance and have some cake.
Right, you just have to celebrate it.
You know, like that time when you were hiking and a log fell on your leg and you got it lifted up and you're like, whoa, fantastic, beautiful.
Oh, I'm so glad to have that log lifted off my chest.
Right.
Oh, you've, you've got some, uh, medical thing.
Like I went and had a colonoscopy a couple of weeks ago and you know, you come to and you know, there's a technician there and you say, how was it?
And he's like, seems fine.
I'm like, you're as passive aggressive as my ass when I'm playing tennis.
What do you mean?
Seems fine.
Did they see anything bad?
Cause you know,
I had cancer and they're doing a colonoscopy.
I want to make sure that there's not some Atlantis City or weird submersible up there.
And you know, you're trying to read the tea leaves at the technician.
He's looking at a screen.
You can't see the screen because it's to one side, right?
I mean, is there a...
Is there something in the shape of a tombstone up my colon?
I just, you know, I just want to know, right?
Do I have a count down here?
Do I need to put my affairs in order?
Do I need to secure my keys?
Like, what do I need?
What's happening?
And he won't say anything.
He won't say anything.
Won't say anything.
Because he's not the actor.
I remember once in Canada, I had a full body scan and the nurse handed me the results and wandered off and I'm flipping through like, what the hell does this mean?
I got a cyst here?
I had to have some pretty sharp words with the doctor about that.
Like how about you don't hand someone's body scan to them when they're facing a deadly disease and just have them puzzle the fuck out of that themselves?
You know, I don't mean to be Mr. Complaint here, but this is a little bit more than my past is a little fucking cold.
So.
I want to be woken up in the hospital after the colonoscopy and on the ceiling I want it to say, thumbs up or thumbs down.
That's all I want it to say.
Thumbs up or thumbs down.
And then, the doctor took a long time to come to me, right?
Doctor took a long time to come.
And then you're thinking, like, how much does he have to review?
I mean, do you have a forest of polyps up there?
Like, what the hell's going on?
And you do get a little worried, a little nervous, right?
And anyway, it's all fine, but yeah, that little span of time is not super fun, right?
We found the worst, a semicolon.
Well, as long as it doesn't mean I get a period, then it's fine.
Ooh, there's a nice dad joke for you right there.
So yeah, you have to, with layoffs, you just have to be like, yes, this is the best news ever and I'm sorry we didn't
Yeah, cut the fat.
No, cut the losers.
Cut the parasites.
Get the deadwood out.
Get the people dragging down our productivity.
I'm so sorry that we didn't do this earlier.
My God.
I can't believe there are any productive people left.
No, we're liberating.
You're liberating.
Yeah, do no harm should include ready and clear communications.
Yeah, that's right.
That's right.
No, you gotta celebrate.
I mean, if you want morale to be up, right?
You gotta celebrate and you gotta
Apologize for not doing it sooner.
Yeah, relentless enthusiasm.
That's right.
And you also have to make a commitment to the people about how it's not going to happen again.
All right.
Sorry, one person had an RTR question that was a ways back, and I wanted to make sure I got to that in between all of the random sit-down stand-up and other things.
I do see stand-up comedians sometimes doing their thing, and I'm like, I could probably do that with enough practice.
I don't mean like I could just stand up and do it, it's a skill and all of that, but I'm like, I could probably get around to that.
What do you guys think?
Not that I'm ever going to change careers or anything like that, but hit me with a Y. Hit me with an N if you think it's just self-delusional, like my singing, or do you think that I could do... I think, yeah, a fairly decent sense of humor and all of that, right?
I just, my problem is that the specials would never end.
Like, the stories would just go on and on and on.
Eventually, there'd be some guy with some sort of elephant tranquilizer blow dart that would just shoot me in the left gonad.
Has to be the left, because the right one I can survive.
The left one, and then I just start tilting like Titanic and slowly spiral down, and then the audience is like, thank God, and they dance on my comatose body on their way out of the auditorium, because it's like, I felt it was rude to leave, but, I mean, he was offering us mint tea, I was trapped.
All right.
Hey Steph, can you help me explain RTR emotional honesty and avoiding story time?
My wife is struggling to see the band a bit as she says, but I know my mother treated me badly.
And why should I not attach that onto my emotions when talking to her?
She does not understand why you would use the RTR method with her parents because she says she knows her emotions are because of her parents' actions.
But I know my mother treated me badly, and why should I not attach that onto my emotions when talking to her?
I'm sorry, you're going to have to email me at that one.
I don't really fully understand.
Or just call in at freedomain.com.
Call in at freedomain.com.
C-A-L-L-I-N.
And we can do a call about that if your wife wants to join us.
Boy, that sounds kind of creepy, right?
Hey, if your wife wants to join us, so much the better.
Going to make another sound like I'm getting up from the... Alright.
Just standing up.
Just standing up.
Like, is there an old tree outside the window in the breeze?
Nope.
Just bent my leg.
Just what's happening.
Are you okay?
No?
No?
Just turned a little funny.
I'm just fine.
And then what happens is you end up with, like, I could never understand why old guys would run in that weird shuffle where they're trying not to move their heads like an owl when you move its body around.
I could never understand.
Like, just run!
I'm like, no, no, no, I get it now.
I get it.
Because if your knee just happens to twinge and you go down, this could be six months of your life, right?
So I get that now.
And I couldn't understand, like, why would you bother being careful?
Everyone thinks that old age is going to pass them by.
It's okay, I work out, so.
I'm sexy and I know it, right?
So I thought that I was just gonna, you know, get a little older and maybe a little slower, all that.
But it's like, you kind of have to move a little bit like a robot because you've got all these little various twinges.
Like, you know what it's like?
It's like the caller that I had who has the Haishin voodoo mother.
It's like she got a hold of one of my last remaining hairs and she just randomly, this is what age is, turns you into a voodoo doll where she just pins you.
Oh, I'm sorry, Shanika.
Right, so it's just a funny thing, like time just winds along and then you end up with all of these, it's like involuntary acupuncture.
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I mean, I think there's some funny stuff in here.
Just hit me with an N if you are strongly against this going out to the main stream.
It was nice to have some of the more advanced topics here.
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Thank you for today's show.
I enjoyed the discussion of collapse, dangerous normies, and mandates.
Have you thought about joining Nostra?
Is that the sub from 20,000 leagues under the sea?
No, I'm just kidding.
I have a guy joining me next month who's a tech expert, who's like guy three, and we will get that.
Do your subscriber streams ever go out to the public?
I wanted to share the one where you answered my question two weeks ago.
Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
It really depends on what people want who are in fact paying for the stream.
But I'll put this one out.
I think it was worthwhile.
Maybe I'll slice and dice it up a little in case people want to show off my goofier side a little bit to others.
All right.
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Thank you so much for everyone.
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