I'm going to be co-leading a Bible Study soon, I want to do an amazing job and be a good leader. In the study and else where. What do you think are good qualities in a leader I could emulate?What do you think about the Christian high value of confession, bearing each other’s burdens and encouragement?Stef, u would make a great minister/pastor.How would a privately-funded military handle terrorism?This reminds me of therapy. You've mentioned many times how beneficial therapy was for you. What style was it? Was it Jungian or more like CBT? I've heard you mention you did anima-work and dream analysis.I wonder if people worry about global warming cause they are subconsciously afraid of hellStef is that why people don't seem to want to work anymore? Because they know the system is not sustainable?I think a solution to shyness would be exposure therapy. Just try having a small conversation and take it one step at a timeStef, I believe I found a great, virtuous woman. However, I am still drawn to more physically attractive women. Why am I so focus on the physical appearance of women? I think this will be ny downfall. I don't want to end up being alone and childless.What would you say to peaceful parents of 2 kids who think they won't have time to commit to more kids?Thank you for all you do Stephan. Im grateful for all you do. Any advice for strengthening a marriage as far as communication? As a man who has spent alot of time in my own world, I find I have trouble conveying thoughts and idea to my wife from time to timeDoes lying break UPB?Stef what's your opinion on "over sharing" Could it be a form of compensating for something? Or maybe seeking validation or acceptance?"I'm the best you can get honey, I ain't changing". Sigma energy dripping from attitudeMy gf's sister "saves" money by living with a guy she's not with. She's doing her masters, can't find a partner and is getting desperateSex and the City is a weapon of mass destruction. All the potential baby's that could have beenHi Stef, what is the line between indoctrinating children with a religion and using said religion to provide moral instruction? Can you provide moral instruction in a religious context with it being a form indoctrination?Listening to How to Survive Sin. Amazing show. Unfortunately parallels closely with my life.Livestream 28 May 2023
How is your delightful Sunday afternoon going on this year of our Lord?
No, it can't be.
Is it really that close to the end of the month?
Is it in fact the 28th of May 2023?
Oofy oof!
Oofy oofiness.
Oh wait, I must do my hair!
Wait, there we go.
And there we go.
Fantastic so far, even better now.
Now, from a 1 to 10, what would you say your level of musical expertise is?
1 to 10, are you like a musicologist or are you like some song that I used to know?
We got a 1, 1, 8?
1, 6, 5?
That's a good scattershot.
So, here's my highly appropriate song quiz.
I go off to work on Monday morning.
Tuesdays I go off to honeymoon.
I'll be back again before it's time for sunny-down.
I'll be lazing on a Sunday afternoon.
Bicycling on every Wednesday evening.
Thursdays I go waltzing to the zoo.
I come from London town.
I'm just an ordinary guy.
Fridays I go painting in the Louvre.
I'm bound to be proposing on a Saturday night.
And I'm a-lazing on a Sunday.
Lazing on a Sunday.
Lazing on a Sunday afternoon.
It just made sense because it's Sunday afternoon.
That's all.
That's all I've got.
Mary Poppins.
Mary Poppins.
Oh, that's good.
That's good.
Mary Poppins.
Super Tramp.
Yeah, it could be a Super Tramp song.
It could be a Super Tramp song.
My favorite of theirs is Asylum.
I really like Asylum.
Sounds British.
Well, BritBoy here is in the house.
You've got to give me a title.
Don't just give me an artist.
I'm thinking on a Sunday afternoon.
As I am most Sunday afternoons.
Well, it's such a nice chance to have a chat and sit down with you guys.
How delightful to have a little surprise.
Oh, let me tell you.
Let me tell you.
I have been working with Steph Bot.
I've been working with StaffBot.
Now, for those of you who don't know, StaffBot is AI me.
And I fed StaffBot a whole bunch of text.
And StaffBot actually not doing too bad.
Not doing too badly with the back and forth.
So, having stuffed it to the gills with, I think, over two million words, or two million, yeah, two million words,
of my writing.
It's a little tough to do the spoken stuff, right?
But two million words of my own writing.
It's not bad, actually.
It's not too bad at all.
So I'll release that for a couple of people for playing around with.
And then I'll probably put it out for donors in a while.
But yeah, it's coming along.
It's coming along.
Oh, there's another Supertramp reference.
So yeah, it's not bad at all.
Not bad at all.
Nonfiction only for the staff part.
Yes, we are doing nonfiction.
I don't really see the point of doing fiction.
The themes, like, I mean, as you know, if you've watched my AI presentations, AI is basically just a word guesser.
So I don't want it to, I can't imagine.
I think two million words isn't enough data.
Well, I don't know what you mean by isn't enough data.
A lot of writers have far less than two million words and that can be repeated.
So two million words, not a bad start.
It's not doing badly at all.
So, you know what?
I'll tell you what.
Let's do this.
Let's take it for a spin.
Yes, she keeps them all at a chandon.
All right, let's take it for a spin.
Let me just bring it up here.
Let me bring it up.
Type questions in and let's send it to this DevPod and see what we get.
See how it does.
That way I can be like the Roman Catholic priest interpreting the Latin that you can't speak.
So yeah, let's give it a shot.
Let's give it a shot.
Let me just get to the right place here.
Oh, why on earth do I even bother having bookmarks?
My gosh.
Oh, thanks Big J. Appreciate it.
All right.
Here we go.
Here we go.
Stephbot says, hi.
Hi.
Hi.
What can I help you with?
What can I help you with?
How can I serve philosophy up to you today?
How can I best tickle your thought buds today?
Let's bring that over to its own screen, right?
So I can actually get to see your questions.
What do you think?
All right.
What the heck is that?
Oh yeah, there we go.
This, yes, this is in fact using my microphone.
Yeah, so if you've got a question or two, hit them in here.
And let's, I'm going to put this out as well for other listeners.
We live, baby.
All right.
Hit me up.
Hit me up.
Hit me up.
Hit me up.
I always do this.
Caps lock happens to be on.
So I turn it off.
So I turn it.
I want something caps lock.
Cap lock happened to be on.
I hit shift.
I turn on the caps lock.
I hit shift.
I get lowercase again.
Questions for AI Steph Bot.
I'll post.
Replies below.
Of course, of the two million words that I fed it, about 1,800 is my teenage erotica.
That's basically what's going on.
All right, so yeah, let's do this.
Let's do it.
Let's take it for a spin here and see what we get.
Should be replaced.
Yeah, so if I feed it mostly my topless shows, my OnlyFans content, and my teenage erotica, we'll have to change it from StephBot to, of course, StephThought.
StephThought.
StephThought.
StephThought.
It's a tough call.
It's a tough call.
If it goes completely off the rails, I won't post the response, but I don't think it will do that.
It's been pretty good, pretty good so far.
Like it's pretty good with AR, sorry, it's pretty good with UPB.
It's pretty good with family relations.
It's pretty good with, um, all right, let's see here.
I'm in question paralysis.
All right.
How would you, Steph, how would you know if something is true or false?
That is a fine question.
Let's put it in here.
So he says, how would you know if something is true or false?
So here it goes, it says, the truth value of a statement is measured relative to the objective facts of reality.
This means that the statement must conform to the objective standards of logic and empirical reality.
What do you think?
That's not bad.
How would you know if something is true or false?
The truth value of a statement is measured relative to the objective facts of reality.
This means that the statement must conform to the objective standards of logic and empirical reality.
You know that ain't coming from post-modernism.
All right, somebody says, what are the requirements for moral rule?
All right.
For a moral rule, sorry.
Slightly different question.
What are the requirements for a moral rule?
Let's see what it says.
What does Stefbot say?
Simply put, morals are a set of rules claiming to accurately and consistently identify universally preferable human behaviors, just as physics is a set of rules claiming to accurately and consistently identify the universal behavior of matter.
Moral rules must be consistent for all mankind, and the validity of a moral theory is judged by its consistency.
Boom, baby!
We have given the glowing arc of electric Promethean brain light to mere electrical copper-wired ones and zeros.
There we go.
There we go.
Nice.
What makes a good lifelong partner?
All right.
What makes a good lifelong partner?
I tell you, it's doing pretty well.
Doing pretty well.
All right.
What makes a good lifelong partner?
According to the context, a good lifelong partner requires honesty, courage, integrity, and virtue.
These traits foster predictability and security to intimate relations.
A good partner does not need to be perfect, but they must be honest, particularly in relation to mistakes.
True intimacy is driven by a delight in gaining knowledge about the other person, just as scientific knowledge is driven by a delight in gaining knowledge about the material world.
Intimacy is the natural process and result of pleasurable curiosity.
Damn, son!
You better than me!
You know what you get from Steph bots that you don't get from Steph?
It's kind of concise.
Where's the filler?
Where's the filler?
Where are the ramble tangents?
I just need to train the AI to consistently talk about gold panning up north and having dated women for.
That's just a natural.
It's not bad, right?
Not bad at all.
All right, let's get some more cues here.
Let's get some more cues.
Maybe two million words is enough.
Better than the software at work.
Not bad at all, right?
All right, let's get some here.
Ah, sorry, I had this.
Yeah, so I would say that's pretty good.
And I'm just going to post this one other place.
That is pretty good.
Oh yeah, oh yeah!
All right.
Let's wait for some questions.
Oh yeah, let's also get some questions here.
I forgot how to learn.
Oh yeah.
Also, gratefully accepting tips to ensure prompt service.
Did people put comments on the live stream?
Steph, you could do a 24 hour stream every day.
I guess that's where the Steph bot would come into play.
Yeah, no kidding.
Only if I'm allowed to leave my mic on while I mow my lawn at max volume.
Still would be quieter than the fans running the StephBot.
I stocked up on coins for this stream!
Or the next one, that's fine too.
Okay, good, yeah.
Alright, let's get rid of that.
So I'll just wait for a couple of these questions to come in.
If you have non-StephBot questions, just hammer them in here and we will do our best to answer them as a whole.
What are the greatest risks to society?
That's a good question.
Alright, what are the greatest risks to society?
Hopefully it will not say itself.
Ah, let's see here.
According to the content, there are several risks to society that tend to increase violence rather than decrease it.
These include externalizing military risk, externalizing emotional discomfort, and the principle of risk.
A centralized state creates and exacerbates all such circumstances.
However, it is important to note that this is just one perspective on the risks to society, and there may be other factors that contribute to societal risks as well.
Okay, so it's got a little bit of a hedgy hedge, which is fine with me.
But, uh, let's see.
Severist society.
Externalizing military risk.
Yes, of course.
The people who, um... Well, you know what?
Let me ask this.
What do you mean by externalizing?
What.
Do.
You.
Mean.
By.
Externalizing.
Military.
I mean, I know what I would mean by that, but I want to make sure that this area is pulling us.
What do you mean by externalizing military risk?
Externalizing military risk refers to the practice of shifting the costs and risks of warfare to others, such as taxpayers and soldiers, while retaining the benefits for oneself.
This is a common practice of the state, which has the power to shift the costs and benefits of violence in a way that fundamentally changes the economic equation.
By externalizing military risk, the state can make it profitable to engage in warfare, even if it is not in the best interests of society as a whole.
Boom!
Finally I get to chat with somebody who's brilliant!
I just, I can't ever show this to my wife because she'll get like my quote wisdom but without the emotional hysteria that comes with it.
The constant jokes and tangents.
Let's see here.
So that's a question I assume for me.
Thank you very much for the tip.
I really appreciate that.
If you want to drop some coins here as well.
Just for those of you who've just joined, if you want to type questions
Into the chat, I will ask StephBot.
We have trained an AI on me.
It's good stuff, right Jared?
Yeah, it's really, really good stuff.
Oh, you think so?
That's really good, especially because it's got all of these definitions, right?
I'm gonna say, what do you mean by externalizing emotional discomfort?
Because that increases violence, it says.
Oh, it's a threat.
By externalizing emotional discomfort, question mark.
Come back!
It's thinking.
Do I need to refresh?
It's always been very fast.
Let me just try refreshing.
Let's try that again.
I'll just copy and paste the question.
What do you mean by externalizing emotional discomfort?
Maybe it doesn't know what it means, but it should come back, but they can't figure it out, right?
Ah, here we go.
Externalizing emotional discomfort refers to the practice of shifting the emotional costs and risks of destructive behavior to others, while retaining the benefits for oneself.
Okay.
In the context provided, the state is seen as externalizing almost all the risks and costs of destruction, which can be a positive motivation for those who would use the power of state violence for their own ends.
This can lead to a situation where wars are started and led by those who do not bear the emotional costs of such violence, but rather shift those costs for others.
Not bad.
Not bad.
That's not bad.
This question could be for you and StephBot.
I prefer the real Steph though, for sure.
Yeah.
Can you program it to add dad jokes within its responses, not without making it suicidal?
Uh, what are the best strategies for mitigating risks to society?
Okay.
So I'm just going to rephrase it a little bit because those risks, I don't know if it keeps track of the whole conversation.
Um, the, what are the best strategies to mitigate the greatest risks to society?
Let's see what it comes up with.
What are the best strategies to mitigate the greatest risks to society?
Let's see what it gets.
All right.
According to the context, there are several strategies that can be used to mitigate the greatest risks to society.
These include minimizing the risks of victimization by avoiding situations where crime is more probable, choosing moral companions, refraining from substance abuse, and so on.
Additionally, it is suggested that dissolving the central state can help to minimize the risks of violence, as the state tends to create and exacerbate circumstances that lead to violence.
However, it is important to note that this is just one perspective, blah blah blah.
Very interesting.
Very interesting.
Okay, let's keep going with these questions.
Will we ever reach a society free of government?
Let's see here.
Hmm, I'm not sure.
While some people believe that it is possible to create a society without government, it is difficult to predict the future with certainty.
The idea of a society without government is a complex and controversial topic, and there are many different opinions on whether it is possible or desirable.
Some argue that government is necessary to provide essential services and maintain order, while others believe that government is inherently corrupt and oppressive.
Ultimately, whether or not we will ever reach a society free of government will depend on a variety of factors, including social, economic, blah blah blah.
Okay, so I think that's more generic.
That's more generic.
All right, let's ask it about what is the most effective way.
Okay, let's see this.
Let's see here.
According to the context, the question is, sorry, the question is, what is the most effective way to minimize criminality in society?
According to the context provided, the most effective way to minimize criminality in society is to create a system of incentives that reduces the profits of criminal behavior while increasing the profits of honest labor.
This can be achieved by creating a society where voluntary interactions are not criminalized and where property is privately owned and protected by Dispute Resolution Organizations, DROs.
In such a society, DROs would handle policing as well as restitution, and their motive for preventing theft or rendering stolen property
Useless would be far higher than it is now.
Additionally, individuals can minimize their own risk of victimization by avoiding situations where crime is more probable, choosing moral companions, refraining from substance abuse, and so on.
And then there's, right, general stuff, right?
All right.
Very interesting.
I would say it's doing pretty good.
Uh, can I, I'm going to just ask it, what is the best place on earth?
Uh, if you could choose anywhere to live on earth, where would it be?
I don't know that it could answer that because it would really depend on what it is you're looking for and what your standard for life is, your status of life and so on.
Very interesting.
Let me just make sure I didn't questions.
All right.
Sorry, I'm just going to check other places in case people have any other, if they've pinged any other questions.
My girlfriend is 22, an ex-ballerina, reads Dostoevsky, and thinks modern feminism is mind control.
She cooks and cleans, etc.
What are the chances of finding a better woman than her?
Let's ask the Steph-bot.
Why not?
Why not?
I can't really answer that question, it says.
All right, gives me a bit of finger wagging.
It would have to, I mean, generally you're going to get generic stuff unless it's specific to my, to the way that I've talked about philosophy, I would assume.
So that's pretty funny though.
I'm going to post the answers though.
It says, I'm sorry but I cannot provide an answer to that question.
It is not appropriate to compare individuals in such a manner and it is important to recognize that every person is unique and has their own strengths and weaknesses.
Additionally, it is not productive or healthy to view relationships as a competition or to constantly seek out someone better than your current partner.
Instead, it is important to focus on building a strong and healthy relationship
With the person you are currently with and to appreciate the unique qualities and contributions to the relationship Yeah, that's that's a generic a generic thing So that's that's the answer.
Yeah, I think it's doing pretty well.
I think it's doing pretty well All right.
Well, let's get to your questions because it's not like I'm getting juicy tips from the staff bot But yeah, I say it's pretty good pretty good
Have you thought of training dictation software on your voice and then feeding it?
Yes, I have tried, and we've got some of that going on in terms of transcribing shows.
Here's the problem, though.
With some of my shows, I play devil's advocate position.
One of my books, The Handbook of Human Ownership, is a satirical piece where it's not my voice, and so it's tough to tell the computer.
And of course, in some of my non-fiction work,
I have mock debates, or debates, and so you'd have to tell the computer, this is me, this is not my position, and so on, right?
Who will be the next president?
There's not really anything, you could just get a generic, that would be a generic AI answer, that wouldn't be particular to me.
All right, so let's get to the questions.
Thank you for your tip, I appreciate that.
So somebody says, I'm going to be co-leading a Bible study soon.
I want to do an amazing job and be a good leader in the study and elsewhere.
What do you think are good qualities in a leader I could emulate?
Right.
So there's two kinds of leaders in the world and one type of leader
is called dominant, and one type of leader is called encouraging, for me.
So the dominant leader is the person that you look at and you are filled with envy, and you don't think you can get there.
That's the kind of leader.
And you're full of envy, you admire them, you look up to them, but you don't see any path from where you are to who they are.
And they can kind of control you because you can't become them but you worship them.
So gaining access to them is how you gain value.
And this is sometimes cults or other kinds of things.
So that is the dominant kind of leader.
The aspirational type of leader is where
You see somebody that you admire and there's a path to get from you to them.
There's a path to get from you to them.
And obviously you want to be the aspirational leader.
You want to be the aspirational leader.
So models are dominance leaders, right?
Because you can't look like the model.
Like you can't look like the model.
Because, you know, they're born that way.
They're photoshopped.
They do, you know, four hours at the gym every day.
They eat virtually nothing.
They drink virtually nothing, particularly before photo shoots.
And, you know, it's the kind of cheesy thing where you're in the eyeglass place and you see all these beautiful people with eyeglasses and it's like the glasses aren't making them beautiful.
It's not like, oh, I put on those glasses, I look just like this person.
So there are politicians are dominance leaders because you may admire them but you can't be them and you really can't influence them for the most part.
Some religious leaders tend to be dominance rather than aspirational.
So you want to be an aspirational leader.
So you want to have carved the path from less to more and then show people how to get there.
You've got to give them that GPS on how to get to where you are.
You shouldn't be a leader unless there's something aspirational about you.
Something.
You shouldn't be a fitness coach unless people have some desire to have a physique like yours, right?
As a whole.
So, whatever you have that you're bringing to the Bible study, whatever you have achieved, you have to figure out how you've achieved it.
You have to figure out how you've achieved it.
Now, if you can figure out how you've achieved whatever people want to repeat within you or within your life, if you can figure out how to achieve it and you can communicate to people how to get there, thank you very much for that tip, I appreciate that, then you have a GPS, right?
You have a GPS on here's how to get where I am.
But if leadership is about your vanity, then you'll remain dominant because you need people looking up to you.
If your leadership is about empowering others and getting them to where you are, certainly that's the quote leadership that I aspire to, where I give you roadmaps on how to get to anything in my life which you might consider aspirational.
You know, good parenting, good husband,
moral public figure, whatever you want to say, or just a moral person.
I really have worked very hard to try and give you guys a map there.
So it's not magic, right?
Like with the Socrates, it's you got to be the wisest guy and go to the Oracle at Delphi and blah, blah, blah, right?
He doesn't give you much reproducibility as far as all of that goes.
So whatever you have that other people could aspire to, figure out, and it can be very hard to do, but figure out how you got there and reproduce those steps for people so that they can reach where you are.
All right.
What do you think about the Christian high value of confession, bearing each other's burdens and encouragement?
Rights.
Rights.
Well let me ask you this, when, like I just published a show for donors about a guy who feels pretty bad because he went to a dozen prostitutes over the course of his 20s, and do you, let me ask you this, hit me with a why if you view
People calling into this show, like the call-in shows, do you view those as somewhat confessional?
Do you view those as somewhat confessional or not?
I just wanted to know.
Hit me with a Y if you think they're somewhat confessional.
Hit me with an N if you don't think that they are, just so I can sort of understand where you're coming from.
Thank you, Steph.
That was great.
Oh, glad to hear it.
Steph, you would make a great minister slash pastor.
Well, my life is yet young.
Who knows?
I don't have any clue where I'm going to end up at the moment.
Hopefully not a gulag.
All right.
Yes.
So you do view it as, yes, confessional, right?
I don't view them as confessional, and that doesn't mean I'm right at all.
I'm just telling you my view, so this is not a, well, you guys got it wrong.
In the confessional, the confession is the solution.
To confess is the solution, right?
So you confess, you looked twice at your neighbor's wife in lust, with lust in your heart or whatever, right?
So that confessing and then you, you know, say ten Hail Marys or pray or whatever it is.
So the confession is
Confessing is solving the problem.
I mean, I know it's not just that you also have to repent and restitution and so on, but confession is the solution.
In the call-in shows, confession is not the solution.
It's not just tell me, I don't know, terrible things you've done.
Tell me, tell me terrible things that have happened to you.
And then good.
Okay.
Feel better.
And then I hang up.
Right.
So it's, it's more around gathering information about what the issues are in order to try and get to the root cause of those issues.
Right.
And figure out why, like, why, why are you going, why are you going to prostitutes?
Right.
That would be the question for the guy.
It was like a wild show, like over three hours.
Right.
It's a great, great caller and very brave, very brave.
And so.
The Christian answer, why are you going to prostitutes, is like, well, you fell prey to the sin of lust, and everybody sins, and the devil tempted you, and so on, right?
And so don't do it again, white knuckle it, restitution, prayer, and so on, right?
Whereas I had to get right to the bottom, right to the bottom of why he was going to prostitutes.
What were the theories in his mind that led him towards accepting prostitution as an option, like an option on the table, right?
Let's see here.
So, I do think it's different.
So, let me just get to your... A few of them are asking for help and advice.
Yeah, I mean, certainly that's the case, but there are these
Giant levers down at the bottom of her mind.
Our gut, really.
There's giant levers at the bottom of her mind and our gut.
And those principles are embedded in us through language and experience, when we're very little.
You form certain ideas at the very bottom of your soul, so to speak.
And they're very hard to see, and they're very hard to understand.
And somebody who's pretty good at pattern recognition, right?
So somebody who's good at pattern recognition can look at the disparate events of your life
And use them to sort of triangulate.
Like you need three things, three pings, like three places to triangulate somebody's location.
Three pings on cell phone towers or whatever, right?
And so if somebody's really good at pattern recognition, they can look at disparate scattered things in your life and they can triangulate down to the essential sentences.
At the bottom of your mind.
So this listener, I mean, it'll probably go out to non-donors at some point, but just a little bit of a spoiler, I suppose, but it's not like it's a story.
So the listener who went to prostitutes, his father worked close to half the time away from home in another country to just provide money.
And that was totally fine with the mom and so on.
So, and the dad was like, well, I provide the money, I give the money, right?
So his basic
Understanding was that the only value that men bring to a relationship with a woman is money.
Right?
The only value that men bring to a relationship with a woman is money.
So then he pays a prostitute for sex, right?
The only value that a man brings to a relationship is money.
So you've got to triangulate in on these, boom, these sort of core
statements that are going on which show up in myriad different ways and you have to make sure you're not like you know how you have a bunch of stars in the night sky and people sketch together these constellations and these pictures like Orion's belt and Cassiopeia and so on.
Orion as a whole.
And the big dipper, the little dipper.
Like, you don't want to imagine these things, right?
You have to really get a lot of... Like sometimes for a two-hour show, I'll spend an hour to an hour and a half listening just to try and figure out, okay, what is the shape of these events, these choices, and how do they triangulate down to these core sentences right at the bottom?
Because if you can't get to those core sentences, you're just managing effects, not course.
You're just managing effects, not course.
All right.
Let me just get back to the questions, because there's a lot of good questions up here.
And thank you guys so much for dropping by this afternoon.
Such a pleasure to have these great questions.
All right.
I'm not sure I understand these other questions.
Yeah, I do think confession is important.
You shouldn't keep wrongdoing or things that you're ashamed of are bad things.
You shouldn't keep them entirely in isolation within your own mind.
You shouldn't do that, I believe, because it does isolate you.
Okay, this reminds me of therapy.
You've mentioned many times how beneficial therapy was for you.
What style was it?
Was it Jungian or more like CBT?
I did animal work, I did dream analysis.
I think it was probably more Jungian, because when it comes to CBT as cognitive behavioral therapy, and I'm no expert on this, but my understanding is it just looks for contradictions in your thinking and attempts to unravel them.
And it looks for empirical evidence for your fears and tries to put them in perspective and so on, right?
So I was definitely more on the Jungian side, which is kind of what I needed.
I needed to connect with an analogous, metaphorical, essential, passionate self, because that's where my self-protection was.
Because I wasn't able to get it out of reason alone.
If the caller thought their value to a relationship is providing money, I don't think a prostitute can be considered a relationship.
Yes, while the prostitute is a relationship, it's just an economic relationship.
An economic and sexual relationship, but it's not a romantic or love relationship for sure.
How would a privately funded military handle terrorism?
Well, a stateless society, there's no such thing as terrorism really.
I mean, you know what the definition of terrorism is, right?
What's the definition of terrorism?
I'll wait.
I'll wait.
I mean, not mine, just technical.
What is the technical definition of terrorism?
Yeah, you're right, exactly right, DP.
The definition of terrorism is violence in the pursuit of political ends.
Now, if there's no state, there's no politics.
If there's no politics, there's nothing that you can affect politically through violence.
So, it's like saying, how does living in a desert help you from drowning in the sea?
Well, you're in the desert, there's no sea, right?
Yes, the use of violence to achieve political ends.
And I did a show on this many, many years ago.
It was one of my first true news shows where there was a massive consortium of countries around the world tried to come up with a definition of violence that didn't include their own foreign policy.
They just couldn't do it.
I also, it's funny too, I remember reading about, I did a show on environmental hypocrisy.
From celebrities like Sheryl Crow saying, use one ply toilet paper.
And then like she uses private jets and that kind of stuff.
Harrison Ford with his stuff.
And then he's got all these private planes.
And I mean, I think the new one is, um, Taylor Swift, like one flight of her private jet, which she uses a lot.
One flight of a private jet puts out more CO2 than your car over the course of your entire lifetime.
It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter.
It's almost like a weird dare.
Like all these guys who fly their stretch limos in giant airplanes to conferences about the dangers of CO2.
I mean, I don't know how anybody takes this stuff seriously.
It's pretty wild.
It's pretty wild.
I mean environmentalism has a lot to do with the society spoils children and so when you're born pure and healthy and holy and happy and reasonable and then you get twisted and corrupted Gollum style by the ring of sophistry inflicted on you by society then what happens is you grow up with a sense that what is natural has been polluted like what is natural has been despoiled and corrupted and you think it's about
Forest you think it's about the lake you think it's about like it's not it's about your own soul your own soul has been blackened twisted corrupted and rusted by propaganda and and propaganda as a whole Propaganda as a whole it has one goal and one goal only which is to
teach you who to hate and how to feel moral doing it.
So they teach you who to hate and then how to feel moral by doing it, right?
Steph, would you consider getting your peaceful parent friends with seven kids to do an interview about having large families?
I think that's an interesting idea.
I will mull it over.
I will put that in the list.
It's the bucket list.
The bucket list, not the effort list.
The effortless is effortless.
All right.
Thank you for the tip.
I appreciate that as well.
And again, you know, if you were, even if you're on the iOS version, you can hit me with a tip.
You can of course hit me with coins as well, which I appreciate that.
I wonder if people worry about global warming because they're subconsciously afraid of hell.
I think there is that aspect of it as well, which is probably why global warming took over from global cooling.
I mean, I'm not going to get into politics, but if you've been following this debt ceiling nonsense in the States, I mean, it's just complete madness, right?
They've just basically said you can spend as much as you want for a year and a half or whatever it is.
Intelligent people, and it doesn't even take a super amount of intelligence, don't you get a gut sense for whether something is sustainable or not?
Just deep down, don't you just get a gut sense of whether something is sustainable or not?
I mean, I used to be a long-distance runner.
Oh, the loneliness of the long-distance runner.
I used to be a long-distance runner.
And pacing yourself is essential, right?
And with all long distance running, and I would do like 20 miles plus sometimes, so with all long distance running...
There's a bit where you start and you're like, I'm going to die.
I can't possibly make this.
And then you get into this groove and then it feels like you could just run forever and you really can.
Right.
And I did a lot of this when I worked up North.
Um, I would just find some lonely road and just pound pavement for hours and hours.
And you know, if you're running too fast to sustain it, because the last thing you want to do is get like 10 miles out.
And run out of steam.
Because then it's hard to even walk back, right?
And that's a couple of hours of walking back.
So you really have to pace yourself in a way that's totally different if you're running in a city and you can jump on a bus or you're running around a track.
You're just running straight down a road for 10 miles and then straight back 10 miles, right?
It's completely useless to say, but I just remember seeing these sights of loneliness up in the middle.
You would be running past and there'd be some old cottage that was all sagging.
And obviously had been abandoned, and the driveway was all overgrown and so on, and occasionally there'd be some crap out front, like rusted old swings and so on.
And you know it would have been abandoned like 50 years ago, and what would flash into my mind is the history of that cottage.
You know, it was put up at some point, people were excited, they opened it, it was fresh, it was new.
And I always got this, even back then I was sort of thinking about falling birth rates and depopulation, and like I remember,
At a friend of mine's cottage, there was a lake in the woods, behind the cottage, a fair ways.
We were poking around the outside of the lake and we came across these old changing rooms.
And he's like, Oh yeah, you know, there used to be this family here.
They had like six, seven kids and the kids would come out here swimming and this was their changing rooms and so on.
But you know, their kids have all moved away.
Their kids haven't really had kids.
And I was like, gosh, you know, all of these change rooms just kind of rotting away.
So I would see these things and I, I put this in my novel.
The future in the train.
You see these little flashes of things going by.
And so you would see...
I also ran past, there was a rusted, I think it was a giant plow, just off to the side of the road.
And of course, again, just abandoned, which means that the land had been abandoned or something like that, and you just wonder, when was this made, and when was it last used, and who used it, and does anybody even remember it?
I have little obsessive thoughts that go on this way, trying to dig into every nook and cranny of everything I've ever seen.
I also remember running past,
And again, in the middle of nowhere, just set back from the road, is a fenced off area with a light and a low building.
What is it?
Generator or something like that?
I couldn't really find out because it was kind of swampy to get there, but you just... What the hell's that doing there?
I was these little slices of life.
You just want to... Yeah, yeah.
All right, so let's see here.
So, sorry, sorry, let me get back to the point I was striving to make.
See, that's what StaffBot will actually give you an answer without any tangents.
But I suppose that's the value I add, maybe?
So everybody knows deep down whether something is sustainable or not.
Now when society is unsustainable because of financial stuff, right, because of government control of the currency, government control of money printing, government control of interest rates, society is unsustainable.
Now people get a great deal of anxiety about society being unsustainable.
Now what is the purpose of anxiety?
The purpose of anxiety is to get you to fix problems!
The purpose of anxiety is to get you to fix problems, right?
So you think of your ancestors, if you're sort of from Siberia in East Asia or Northeast Asia or you're European or whatever, then your ancestors had to, they felt pretty damn uneasy if they suspected that they might not, just might not have enough food to get through the winter.
It's pretty damn terrifying.
Because if you don't have that level of unease about the unsustainability of your resources, if you don't have that level of unease, you starve to death.
And then you're hungry and you go knock on your neighbor's door and they tell you to get the hell back or they'll split you open with an axe because they only have just enough and they can't take you on and brutal stuff, right?
So, smart people or even just reasonable people look and have an instinctive sense of what is sustainable or not.
Like in the same way that I could go run for 20 miles, I'd come back and I'd just be out of energy when I was done.
Like done.
Like I just can't run anymore.
Everybody knows our society is not sustainable.
Everybody knows our society is absolutely not sustainable, and it could have been fixed in the past relatively easily.
Now fixing it is virtually impossible, because fixing it requires cutting spending, and when government departments are told to cut spending, they cut the greatest spending for the most vulnerable people, which ends up with riots and fire in the streets and so on.
You know, and then the government has to spend even more money putting it down, and then the reputation of the government goes down because all these bloody shots of hungry people rioting and being, you know, whatever, arrested, then it goes viral, and then, oh, look, what's happening under this bridge?
Nobody.
You can't fix a system.
Mostly because people are addicted to lies, and the media is largely addicted to lying.
So you can't, you can't fix it.
So people deep down, they know it's not sustainable.
They absolutely know it's not sustainable.
I mean here's the funny thing when I was a little kid I used to when I was going to sleep I used to rub my fingers along the edge of the sheet and I would absolutely know when the end of the sheet was coming just instinctively I have no idea how I knew this it's not psychic or anything because you get used to but I'd run my like this is literally how this sort of
Scarce resource ancestor stuff goes along like, oh, here comes the end.
You know when the end of stuff is.
If you grow up in farming, you know what is needed to sustain you over the winter.
And in particular for, think of seaside or lakeside communities, right?
How much can they fish?
How much can they fish?
I was telling my daughter just the other day, I wrote an article, I think it was 2006, called So Long and Thanks for All the Fish, fish from the great Douglas Adams book.
about the cod industry in Eastern Canada, off Newfoundland in particular.
When the guy first landed, was it Talbot?
The guy who first landed there, who first saw this, said that there's so many cod, it literally feels like you could walk from the ship to the shore.
You could walk on this.
There's so many cod, it's insane.
And this, 400 years, 400 years, they kept this cod going because they self-restrained themselves.
And then what happened was the government funded a whole bunch of extra fishing, they raised the limits, and within a year or two,
I mean, everybody made a bunch of extra money and now it's just gone.
Man, these cards are just gone.
They're never coming back.
It's now been 15 years or 20 years or something like that.
Never coming back.
A resource that had existed for millions of years, destroyed in a couple years by perverse incentives from the state.
So everybody knows when things are going to run out.
Everybody knows what's unsustainable, for the most part.
And what do you do with people's anxiety about the system being unsustainable?
Well, you tell them that the system is unsustainable, but in a totally different context.
And they say, well, you know, the 12% of CO2 that human beings have added
over the past 500 years.
Well, that's driving this rampant global warming.
The fact that, what was it, Mount Etna or something like that erupted and put out more CO2 than all of human beings all throughout history.
But hey, it doesn't matter.
China produces a third of the world's CO2 and they're not doing anything to stop their only increasing.
But if you can, people's unease about the unsustainability of the system, if you can redirect that, if you can redirect that into something else,
Well, you're harnessing a great power.
And people, of course, would rather, like, everybody desperately wants to act on an unsustainable situation.
Because that's what the whole purpose of the emotion is about, the unsustainability.
That's what the whole purpose of these emotions is, is to get you to act.
If you don't have enough food to get through the winter, you better set some traps, you better hunt, you better whatever, right?
I would have an instinct when I was running, because you know, the second half is, you're more tired than the first half, second 10 miles, you're more tired than the first.
When I was out long distance running, I would get to a point where I like, I have to turn back now.
And it always, it was always right.
I always got back with nothing left in the tank, right?
Everybody, we're only alive because our ancestors were able to figure out what was sustainable and what was not.
How much can we hunt before we destroy the herd, right?
How much can we farm before we destroy the land?
How much can we fish before we destroy all the fish?
So, yeah, they're just redirecting that anxiety for an unsustainable system into something that gives them more power, right?
Because the reason the system is unsustainable is the government has way too much power, but the power of money is the power of everything, right?
Everything stems from the power of money.
And so it's an excess of government power that makes the system unsustainable.
And then what people do is the government can redirect that to global warming and says, well, we need more power to deal with that.
And it's like, well, what can you say, right?
You can only say the same thing so many times before you accept the gravity well of people's ignorance.
It hits you after the first mile.
The first mile sucks, then the adrenaline kicks in and the next few miles fly by.
Amen.
If we were meant to run miles, we'd be horses.
No, my friend.
My good friend.
No, human beings are fantastic runners.
We are some of the best runners in all of nature.
Because we can just outrun our prey.
We just keep running and keep running.
We're just ridiculous as far as all of that goes.
We are running machines.
And one of the reasons we developed that is so that we could outrun.
Like, if you wound a prey, you just have to outrun it.
If you're just chasing a prey, they can run faster, but we can run further, right?
Somebody says, I know that my being too quiet serves my dear food parents, yet I seem unable to adopt more talkative ways.
Any advice?
I seem to be unable to adopt more talkative ways.
Any advice?
Well, let's say that shyness is a way of characterizing what you have, and I've overcome shyness.
Believe it or not, I was shy as a kid.
So, shyness comes from a pretty savage self-attack, a self-judgment.
Am I being interesting?
Am I engaging?
Do I look weird?
Do I sound weird?
Do I have good topics?
Do I have something between my teeth?
It's this ferocious self-consciousness
that you are trying to be yourself and horribly, critically observe yourself at the same time.
Now, there's nothing wrong with that in this, like, hysterical, woke, witch-hunting atmosphere.
We do need to speak spontaneously and also be aware of our environment, and we have to be guarded to some degree, particularly in society.
So I get all of that, but it's gotten to a really pathological degree, in my opinion, with really chronic shyness, is that
You're like, I don't have anything to say.
I'm going to sound dumb.
Oh, I'm not going to get people's jokes.
I'm going to make a joke and people aren't going to laugh.
Just boom, boom, boom.
You're just beating the shit out of yourself whenever you open your mouth.
So then you can't be spontaneous.
And people don't want to talk to you.
I'm sorry.
Like they will when you get over it, but they don't want to talk to you.
Because when you're shy, you are treating people as if they're abusive.
If you're shy, you're treating people around you as if they're abusive.
You're taking the hypercritical, whoever it was in your past, parents I assume.
You're taking your hypercritical parents and you're projecting those hypercritical parents onto the people who are around you that you are interacting with.
And you're saying, in your heart, you're saying, you guys are just like my abusive parents.
You're going to attack me like they did.
You're going to criticize me like they did.
You're going to shoot me down.
You're going to ghost me.
You're going to whatever, right?
So you people are just like my abusive parents.
Now, if you are a nice person, if you're a reasonable person, do you want to be confused with an evildoer who abused children?
Of course you don't.
Of course you don't.
So, you have to confront, in my view, you have to confront the language down at the bottom, and if you want to do a call-in show, I'm happy to do this, right?
Call in at freedomain.com.
C-A-L-L-I-N.
Call in at freedomain.com.
Happy to do it.
Totally free.
So, you have to look, what are the foundational
statements at the root of your self-criticism, because that shyness is not cute.
Shyness is not cute.
Unless it's manipulative, in which case it's kind of gross, right?
But shyness is like watching somebody punch themselves whenever they open their mouth.
Shyness is a savage crushing of a sense of self-worth in the face of other people, which again comes from trauma in history, and I sympathize with that enormously.
But if you go around treating everyone in your life in the future like they're your parents, then good people won't want to be around you, right?
You know, like if you just reach up to sort of scratch your ear and somebody curls into a fetal position and says, don't beat me!
Like, I'm just scratching my ear.
Like, you know, you have some sympathy for all of that, but you can't, you know, you have to deal with that.
I think that, sorry, that's not real.
Just deal with it.
Just deal, man.
You know, like a blackjack dealer.
There's a nod to Jared.
Don't rob the world by prejudging the value you can offer.
Don't rob the world.
Don't rob the world.
And also shyness is a form of trying to control others.
Because if you feel terribly awkward, then maybe people will avoid you.
They won't provoke your anxieties.
They'll also get kind of screwed up because talking to somebody who's really shy, it's like talking to someone who's got what do they call cocktail eyes where they're just, you know, we're at a party and someone's looking around and every time you say, ask them a question, they say, what?
You know, like everybody who floats around Holden Caulfield.
So.
You're trying to dislodge other people from their own sense of self comfort as well by being really tense and all of that.
And I find it actually, sorry, like I'm just being frank.
I'm not saying this is objective or right or anything like that.
I find that shit really annoying at this point in my life.
Like if I'm around, I'm not really around really shy people, but if I'm around a really shy person, I just get really annoyed.
I get really annoyed.
Cause like, don't treat me like I'm about to scream at you for getting something wrong or, you know, snarl at you for not making a good joke or humiliate.
I'm not that, I'm not that guy.
Don't treat me like your parents, for heaven's sakes.
That's unfair.
And I'm just like, look, if you're going to treat me like your parents, I don't want to hang.
Like, I just don't want to hang.
If you're going to graft your mean, destructive parents onto me in a conversation, like I'm not, I don't like, sorry, 56 man.
I got 20, 30 years left.
I, I'm not, uh, I'm not spending it in that way.
So.
All right, sorry.
Let's get up to your... Let's get up to your call.
Your current questions.
All right.
All right.
Steph, is that why people don't seem to want to work anymore?
Because they know the system is not sustainable?
Well, it's more than that, right?
It's more than that.
But, I mean, why would you... How much do you worry about the calorie content of your last meal?
Oh, sorry, that's got a bit too... carb content's a bit too high.
It's your last meal.
What do you care, right?
So why would you defer gratification if the future is black?
Why?
If your plane is going down and you have sex with your wife, does she need to be on birth control?
Nope!
Because you're about to die in a fiery wreckage, right?
Work is about deferring gratification.
And why would you defer gratification if there are no rewards down the line?
Because the system can't survive, right?
From what I've seen, a lot of people don't want to work because they don't have to.
They know someone will take care of them, be it their parents or the government.
Right.
Right.
Right.
And, and, you know, work, I read these stories about what's going on, you know, woke HR departments and lawsuits and like, good Lord, it's all just getting horrible to work.
I think for a lot of people, especially in big corporations and so on, it's just, it's horrible.
It's stressful.
You, you know, you don't know who's going to accuse you of what you don't know what, you know, when you're going to be dragged down to HR and have to defend yourself against vague nonsense.
Ugh.
Central Bank balance sheet went from 8% of GDP in 2000 to 47% of GDP in 2022.
That's sustainable, right?
Is that right?
Yeah, I think that's right.
Alright, running is why my knees are shot.
Yes, I stopped running, gosh, when did I?
I was on cross-country team in high school.
But I also, and this just happened to be good luck, I didn't really know anything about the physiology of it at the time, but I did...
swim team in water polo and water polo in particular because you're constantly treading water you're doing the the circle thing with your legs so because i happen to be constantly treading water in water polo team i ended up with a lot of strength around my knees and that i think helped me to some degree boom boom boom uh when it came to running so i only ran i'm trying to think i really only ran for a couple of years and
I don't know how much you have to run to screw up your knees, but I think I managed to just pull short of that.
So I was kind of lucky that way.
Now, I mean, I'll play racquet sports and so on, but I do a lot of knee exercises.
I do a lot of knee exercises and calf exercises.
Because I really, really want to keep my knees stable and strong.
And as far as cardio goes, I do, I mean, I'll swim sometimes, but I do a couple of times a week, a bike machine and a bike machine is not impactful on the knees.
That's helpful as well.
Being able to not care what other people think seems to be a key characteristic that men need to learn.
Well, you know, I hear what you're saying, but again, it's, it's a different world.
If you're an older guy in particular, like it's a different world.
It's a different world.
So in the past, when people lied about you, a lot of people would just not believe it.
Right now, again, that's still the case, but enough people believe lies about you now that you, unfortunately you do have to care a little bit what other people think.
Cause it can be so, uh, so difficult or so dangerous.
I think a solution to shyness would be exposure therapy.
Just try having a small conversation and take it one step at a time.
Yeah, I'm sure that would help, but you have to understand that shyness is a form of injustice because you're treating people who haven't abused you as if they're abusers.
It's a form of injustice.
You're charging the wrong people with the crime and convicting the wrong people of a crime, right?
You're throwing people in the jail
of your fear when they have not attacked you.
So, the problem is shy people feel very sensitive, they feel very vulnerable, and it's like, no, no, if you're shy, you're kind of a jerk in a lot of ways.
Not totally, right?
And I say this with my own experience, right?
So, you know, this is my particular theory.
Because you feel, you know, so sensitive, so scared, and so on, that you feel vulnerable, and it's like, no, no, no, but you are treating other people as if they're child abusers when they're not.
And that's being a jerk, right?
Accusing someone of a crime they haven't committed as being a jerk.
So you just have to get off the, I'm so shy, I'm so sensitive.
It's like, no, you're being horribly unjust for the most part.
And again, I sympathize with why it happened and all of that, so.
Uh, let's see here.
Muscled my way through shyness for years and it was hell.
It prevents people from liking you as well.
Okay, okay, so why is it that abusive parents inflict shyness on their children?
Why is it that abusive parents inflict shyness on their children?
Why?
Why do they do it?
Wow, that's a very interesting take on shyness.
St.
Effin.
That's st.effin.
Stephen, keep up the good work.
Loved your faith journey video.
I'm certainly embarking that journey as well after destructive teen atheism.
Thank you, appreciate that.
Yeah, to isolate them.
So, if you are an abusive parent, then you want to keep your child isolated so that your child doesn't talk about the abuse with outsiders.
And so what you do is you pathologically attack them every time they're in society, you infect them with this, you said the wrong thing, you embarrass me, you're just embarrassing yourself, you're a disgrace, and you just hammer people to the point where they can't have conversations in an unguarded way with other people so that they keep the secrets of family abuse.
So.
All right, let's get to your...
Questions here... Ah, Shia... Steph, I believe I have found a great virtuous woman.
However, I'm still more drawn to more physically attractive women.
Why am I so focused on the physical appearance of women?
I think this would be my downfall.
I don't want to end up being alone and childless.
Well, my friend... Do you want hotness or do you want sex?
Let me put it to you in terms that your balls will listen.
I'm talking to you.
Twigs and berries, castanets of the future.
So, do you want a hot woman or do you want to have a great sex life?
I know this sounds like a contradiction.
Well, if she's hot...
Okay, and look, if you find the hot woman, fantastic, and all of that.
But if you're with a woman because she's hot, and you don't find her virtuous, then you have to lie to her.
And because you lie to her, you can't connect with her, which means you might get some desperation sex, some compulsive sex, some I'm-not-worth-it sex, but then it's going to get high maintenance, and you're going to end up in an unfuckable desert of sterility.
So, whereas if you're with a woman because you genuinely like her, she's funny, she's warm, she's smart, she's virtuous, she's caring, she's supportive, you support her.
If you're with her because of that, then you don't have to lie to her.
And therefore, your sex life is a celebration of genuinely loving each other and it just gets better and better every year.
So you understand, physical beauty alone is satanic.
Physical beauty alone.
Again, nothing wrong with physical beauty.
It's a wonderful thing.
I happen to love the way that I look, so there's nothing wrong with it.
If that's fine.
But physical beauty alone is satanic because it causes you to lie.
It's a sin of lust.
You're bearing false witness.
You're manipulating.
And you know, if you, if you have sex with a woman,
By telling her you really care for her, there's a future, you love her, whatever, and you're lying.
If you have sex with a woman and lie about it, you are setting yourself up for an emotional, financial, and possibly legal disaster.
Do not lie.
Don't sleep with women or men that you don't find really attractive from a standpoint of virtue.
Because you can't love someone just for being hot.
You can only love someone for being virtuous.
So I love you is you are virtuous and I am virtuous too.
I love you is we are virtuous.
That's it.
I love you.
I, you.
The love is the recognition of virtue.
I love you is we are virtuous.
And if you've got to lie about that to a woman, then she's going to hate your guts.
And she's going to get you back, man.
And if she doesn't get you back, your conscience will.
Because you lied your way into a woman's pants, which is gross.
Biking and swimming are knee savers.
Yeah, it's quite true, right?
Stretch for an hour for every hour of running?
Oh, God.
But stretching doesn't solve the impact thing, does it?
It just solves the ligament thing.
All right.
Let's get to your questions.
You know, you get married, you have kids.
Like, I hate to break it to you guys, you're going to spend a whole lot of time not banging together like coconuts in a tumble dryer.
You're just not going to be spending a lot of time making the beats with two backs.
The honeymoon is the honeymoon, right?
And you can have a great sex life and all of that, but you're going to spend a whole lot of time
Stand up with your kid because he's sick and doing taxes and cleaning the house and, you know, going shopping for things and getting groceries and cooking.
You're going to spend a whole lot of time not having sex.
I'm sorry to put it to you that way.
But if your main focus is on having sex and getting to a woman's pants or a man's pants slightly easier, you just have to remember it.
You're going to spend a whole lot of time not having sex.
And, you know, satin sheets are very romantic.
What happens when you're not in bed, right?
It's an important thing.
All right.
Trying to have sex with small kids banging on the door to get in is challenging.
Yeah, I wouldn't... I couldn't.
I couldn't.
All right.
Let's get to... I'm just going to remind you, first of all, thank you for the tips.
I'm very, very grateful for them and...
I would appreciate more as always.
I know there's a cap, there's a cap, but we haven't hit it yet.
So let's see if we can hit the cap.
So if you, for those of you who joined here a little later, if you want to pump in some questions, I have running right over here, AI StaffBot, who has been programmed with 2 million of my words, which I think is the length of my average tangent, probably something like that.
In fact, when I was looking for stuff to feed it with, I came across a book.
I can't even... I don't even remember writing it, called How to Achieve Freedom.
What would you say to peaceful parents of two kids who think they won't have time to commit to more kids?
Well, each kid is diminishing time investment, right?
Each kid is diminishing time investment.
Of course, if you have one kid, then you have a lot of time.
In fact, it's more than double having two kids.
Having one kid, because two kids will play with each other and cancel it out.
But when you have one kid, and I know this, I have one kid, right?
So if you have one kid, your kid has no one to play with except you, the parent.
Especially if you're homeschooled, right?
So if you have one kid,
You spend a lot of time.
If you have two kids, they can play with each other, and there's a little bit of cancelling out, especially when they get older, especially if they get along well and so on, right?
A good friend of mine has three sons and a daughter, and the sons all get along super well, and they play together, they encourage each other, they do all this great stuff.
So more kids is a little more work when they're younger, but a whole lot less work as they get older because they have built-in playmates.
I mean, we used to have built-in playmates when I was a kid because you just go outside and play with your kids.
For the AI, explain UPB in a way that a 10-year-old could understand.
Let's try that.
Let's see.
I won't even type out UPB.
Explain UPB in a way that a 10-year-old could understand.
Here we go.
All right, I will paste it back in here so we can get it for all time.
Oh, sorry, only 500 characters at a time?
Really?
Really?
All right, we'll do it in two.
Two chunky chunks.
I think people have complained about that before.
But now it's affecting me, so that's different.
All right.
Hello, welcome to Narcissism 101.
It says here, sure, I'd be happy to explain UPB in a way that a 10-year-old could understand.
UPB stands for University Preferable Behavior, which means that it's a way of figuring out what is right and wrong for everyone, no matter where they live or what they believe.
It's like a set of rules that everyone can agree on, kind of like how we all agree it's not okay to steal or hurt other people.
UPB helps us figure out what those rules should be, and it helps us make sure that we're treating other people the way we would want to be treated.
Does that make sense?
I think that's not bad.
I'm glad I could help you understand UPB.
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
That's not bad.
It's not bad.
What's right and wrong for everyone, no matter where they live or what they believe.
So that's definitely valid.
I think that's describing UPB rather than explaining.
Okay.
I'm gonna put in here, according to UPB, Y is stealing
Wrong.
According to you, why is stealing wrong?
Select all images with, okay, all right.
All right.
Okay, according to UPB, stealing is wrong because it violates the property rights of others.
Property rights are important because they allow individuals to have control over their own bodies and the things they create or acquire through voluntary exchange.
If someone takes something that belongs to someone else,
Without their consent, they are violating that person's property rights and treating them in a way that they would not want to be treated themselves.
UPP helps us understand that treating others with respect and recognizing their property rights is a fundamental aspect of moral behavior.
I would only give that a C. I would only give that a C as a response.
Uh, thank you for the tip.
I really appreciate it.
Thank you, Steph, for everything you have done and continue to do.
I hope we can have a call-in show to explore my shout letters.
I would absolutely love to have a call-in show.
Appreciate that.
Uh, let's see here.
No, I don't think AI knows about my Taylor Swift tweet.
I don't know, actually, that's interesting.
That is interesting.
Ooh, let me just make a note of this.
Cause, uh, I could get my, uh, I could get my Twitter stuff, right?
Can we?
Yeah, we could, right?
It's tough because sometimes I'm playing devil's advocate position and all that kind of stuff.
So it's it's tricky, right?
It's tricky.
All right.
All right, let's see here.
Let's get to your comments.
Thank you for all you do, Steph.
I'm grateful for all you do.
Any advice for strengthening a marriage as far as communication goes?
As a man who spent a lot of time in my own world, I find I have trouble conveying thoughts and ideas to my wife from time to time.
Well, do you have male friends that you talk to?
Let me just see here, do you have, I'm just gonna make sure, do you have male friends you talk to?
That's important.
It's important to have male friends that you talk to so that it doesn't put the entire burden of communication on your wife.
A lot of guys, they have friends, they get married, and their wife becomes their only friend, and that puts, I think, quite a bit of burden on your wife to replicate an entire tribe of social interactions on her own, it seems like.
Michelle, my belle, these are words that go together well.
All right.
Why have I lost my messages?
I've lost all my messages!
There are no messages.
Appreciate that.
Here we go, are they back?
I do, okay.
Yeah, so if you talk to your friends at work, I'll tell you something interesting just in case you don't have the three hours and 25 minutes or whatever to listen to the latest call-in show.
So, one of the questions, I guess one of the things that the guy told me, do you vet Izzy's friends' parents for their stance on mandates?
I'll let you guys, of course I do, right?
Sorry, I don't mean to be, of course I do, it's obvious, but yeah, I mean, I wouldn't, you know, I don't really have statists around because, against me, argument.
So, so here we go.
Let me, let me ask you this.
Wait, let me just go back up here.
Makes sense, makes sense, makes sense.
So the guy I was talking to who had, he's been with 12 prostitutes, he went on his first date, he talked to her a couple of times before, he went on his first date with a woman and do you know what he said on his first date with the woman?
Do you know what he said?
He said, oh yeah, by the way, I've been with 12 prostitutes.
Yeah.
Yeah.
A good idea, yes or no?
No, no.
So you're telling people to lie, to bear false witness?
What's the matter with you?
He's being honest.
He's being honest.
Shouldn't he tell her the truth?
Maybe the second date?
I wouldn't go with that either.
I wouldn't go with that either.
Yeah, so this... Too much too soon?
I mean, honestly, if I were that guy with regards to dating, I know it's hard to put myself in that mindset, but if I were that guy, I think I would just take that with me to the grave.
Honestly, like, I don't think I would tell anyone.
Now, I would make sure I've worked out the issues.
But the born again thing, the confess your sins and find redemption, go forward and sin no more, means you get a bit of a blank slate, don't you?
And I wouldn't, if I had actually, if I genuinely had worked through something, then, you know, when I was a teenager, I was dating one girl, I kissed another girl.
It wasn't a huge, big, serious thing.
But am I going to say on the very first date, yeah, I'm a, I'm just, I'm a cheater, man.
I'm a cheater.
I cheat.
I mean, is that relevant to what I did when I was 16 or 17?
Well, so here's the thing, right?
The commitment to honesty doesn't mean that anyone can get anything out of you.
Right, so this is an important layer to the question of honesty, right?
So if I have something I don't want to talk about, right?
Let's say I'm this guy, right?
And as this guy, he slept with 12 prostitutes, and the woman asks him about his prior sexual history.
Well, his perception of honesty, what does that have to tell her?
That's not my perception of honesty.
And how can that be justified?
Am I saying lie?
Nope.
If genuinely worked it out, why would your future partner have a problem with it?
They should be impressed on the progress you made.
Well, except that if you've genuinely worked through it, then it's in the past, it's not part of the present, but she's still going to judge you by it.
She's still going to judge you by it.
Of course she is, right?
So here's the thing.
If someone asks you about prior sexual history and you don't want to talk about it, what's the most honest thing you can say?
What's the most honest thing you can say?
I don't want to talk about it.
No, I don't want to talk about my sexual history.
It's not relevant to our conversation.
I can tell you I don't have any STDs.
I've been tested.
I've never got anyone pregnant.
I have had dates in the past.
I've gone out.
But I don't want to talk about... I don't want to know about your sexual history.
I don't want to talk about my sexual history.
It's not relevant to our relationship.
And you know, we go forward.
I'm committed.
I'm monogamous.
Uh, you know, we get married.
I'm never going to look at another woman, so to speak.
So, uh, no, I would just, it's, you're perfectly have boundaries.
Boundaries are like, not like you're a computer.
I wish this output.
Oh, well, I have to be honest and give you this output.
Right?
No.
If somebody asks you something and you don't want to tell them, you're perfectly, you're not a machine, like a vending machine that anyone can just put a quarter in and get whatever they want.
Right?
If you don't want to talk about it, you know, like I said to the guy, uh, if, if, uh, if I'm on a first date with someone and I say, you know, I, uh, I crapped my pants.
I couldn't, I couldn't help myself.
I crapped my pants.
She's going to be a little shocked, right?
Until I say, well, I mean, I was obviously, I was in diapers.
I was a baby, right?
I mean, there's context.
I'm, I'm, I'm beyond it.
It's not an issue now.
So.
Yeah, I wouldn't share all my dreams with anyone.
People make bad assumptions.
Listen, everybody filters all the time because when you say virtue, this is why honesty is not UPB.
Because you can't achieve it.
You can't be honest.
I hear the secrets that you keep when you're talking in your sleep.
So you can't be honest with everyone all the time.
What would that possibly mean?
I had dreams last night.
I don't tell people.
I don't even tell my wife sometimes, unless they're really important or really vivid or wake me up screaming, which they don't do.
But you know what I mean?
Like if it was something really, really powerful, really important.
I mean, everyone has thoughts of various flickering shades of good, evil, and everything in between.
Everyone has these thoughts that you wouldn't share.
Does lying break UPB?
Well, lying can't be UPB.
Lying can't be UPB.
Honesty can't be UPB either.
Honesty might be aesthetically preferable behavior, but honesty can't pass the coma test.
If someone's asleep, can they be honest?
No.
And lying can't be UPB because if you want someone to lie to you, they're not lying.
I mean, you know who lies to you?
Actors.
All they do is lie.
They pretend.
They make things up.
Actors are doing that all the time.
I don't apply any filter on the thoughts I share with my girlfriend.
Is that bad?
No, it's not true.
Of course you apply a filter.
Of course you apply a filter, because you can't possibly share everything that you're thinking.
Because the moment you're sharing it, you're no longer thinking it.
You've interrupted that flow.
It's absolutely impossible for you to share everything that you're thinking, because thoughts and language are not the same thing.
Language is an approximation of thought, and it's an often imprecise approximation of thought.
We can't plug each other into each other's brains, Borg-like, and share every thought, image, feeling, sensation, inspiration, analogy, burp.
You know, we just can't do it.
Uh, somebody says, I've done disturbing things in my past.
I've been going to therapy and I know there are some things I'll never do again.
I don't want to hide these things from a future wife or girlfriend of mine.
Why not?
What do you mean?
See hide?
Yeah.
The Bible uses the phrase bear false witness, which is an image of legal testimony.
Yeah.
And the important things.
Yeah.
You, you tell the truth.
Yeah, honesty is not a UPB thing.
I mean, I believe honesty is very important, of course, right?
But you can't make honesty UPB.
There's no positive obligation can be UPB.
Because it doesn't pass the coma test and it can't be universally applied all the time.
So if you want someone to lie to you, they're not lying to you.
So lying can't be UPB, but honesty with yourself is UPB?
Nope.
No, because honesty with yourself is not a behavior.
UPB, the B is behavior.
It's not universally preferable thoughts, because I don't even know what that would mean.
Most thoughts do not rely upon UPB.
Oh, I got to go get some milk.
Oh, I need some eggs.
Oh, I got to get out.
It's been a long winter.
I've got to get out into the sunshine.
Why is that?
You do not owe the unpacking of all the ghastly details of your history.
You don't owe that.
I mean, can you imagine on a first date, you got pictures of all the girls you've ever dated, right?
All the girls you've ever been attracted to, all the girls you've ever asked out.
And on the first date, you're like, oh, here's number one, here's number two, here's number three.
And you go up however high you go.
Not even sleeping.
Isn't a behavior anything you do?
Yeah, but thinking is not doing.
Doing is a measurable action in the empirical world, measurable by someone else.
So murder is something that you can measure by somebody else.
Theft is something you can measure by someone else.
So behavior is something empirically measurable in the external world, which is where philosophy is.
Philosophy is not self-policing.
Um, all right.
So let's see here.
I mean, I once wanted an old girlfriend back many years, like when I was in my early twenties, I wanted an old girlfriend back.
Wrote a tons of letters and poems and stuff like that.
You know, I wasn't, I was remote, so I wasn't stalking her or anything like that, but I worked really hard to try and get her back.
Right.
I'm not going to talk about that.
I mean, like on an early date, I don't think I've ever even talked about that with my wife.
It doesn't matter because it was like, you know, 35 years ago or whatever.
Right.
Can one demand 100% honesty from anyone?
No.
You can't demand, I mean, you can demand anything you want, but it's just, you're never going to get it.
What is 100% honesty?
What does that mean?
What does that mean?
What does that mean?
Every single thought you have, you communicate to your partner.
Well, if all you're doing is communicating your thoughts, you run out of thoughts very quickly, right?
Because when you're communicating, you're not thinking as much.
I mean, this is something I remember reading many years ago.
Honesty is the best policy, but if your girlfriend says, what are you thinking about, and you're thinking about Scarlett Johansson taking a petroleum shower, you're probably not going to say that, right?
It's not necessary and it's not productive.
And right.
In the same way that you probably wouldn't want her to tell you about, she's thinking about Ryan Gosling wrapped in nothing but a garden hose, whatever.
Right.
Yeah, I mean, there's a I can't remember the movie with Jennifer Garner and oh gosh, that slightly tubby British comedian Ricky Gervais.
There's a movie The Invention of Lying.
It's not a great movie, but there's some funny bits about it about like, what does it mean to be perfectly honest, right?
Did it work?
Did you get her back?
It did not work.
It was close, but it did not work.
Plus, it was long distance, so it worked out.
Anything that led me to my current marriage, I'm perfectly happy about.
I wouldn't spam a partner with other women I was attracted to, but if she asks, I'll tell her.
Why?
Well, I want to be honest.
But again, you're not a machine to just be programmed.
The movie Liar Liar, it's a very funny movie actually.
How's it hanging?
Short, shriveled and almost slightly to the left.
Yeah, let sleeping dogs lie.
Absolutely.
Yeah, absolutely.
You know, I mean, do you come into work around the water cooler?
How was your morning?
Oh man, I had a really painful dump this morning.
It was like barbed wire kanji coming out sideways.
Like, no, I don't, I don't want to know that stuff.
I don't want to know.
Like, no, no.
Have some boundaries, have some dignity, have some reserve.
Only God knows this objectively.
Only God knows why.
What is your opinion on oversharing?
Could it be a form of compensating for something or maybe seeking validation or acceptance?
People who can't stand themselves dump on others a lot of times.
It's a form of aggression.
It's a form of erasing the other person.
It's a form of bullying.
Particularly parent to child, my mother was an unbelievable tsunami of shit over Shara.
Like literally corner me and talk endlessly.
Oh, she'd go to these dances and there was some guy there.
I even remember his name like 45 years later.
And she just cornered me around the room, smoking endlessly, and just telling me about, well, he did this, and then he said this, but then he got up and he went over there, and then he talked to this person, but I think it was just to make me jealous, and just, it doesn't stop.
It's vomiting.
It's using you as an emotional garbage pail, because they're sick in the head.
It's horrendous.
So, she was being honest, I guess, but I didn't like it.
All right.
I don't know why behavior has to be measurable in the external world.
I know my thoughts objectively happen because I can sense them.
So thinking is something I objectively do but just can't prove to others.
Right.
So universally means objective.
Universally means objective.
Universally preferable behavior.
Behavior.
Something that can be measured.
So thoughts cannot be measured.
They cannot be proven.
And therefore thoughts are not the province of philosophy.
Thoughts matter, of course, right?
But thoughts are not the province of moral philosophy.
It is actions.
Thoughts are the province of psychology, of self-knowledge, all these good things.
But as far as UPB, as far as moral philosophy goes, it is actions alone that you can measure.
What are your thoughts on Ricky Gervais?
I mean, he's just a fairly tubby basic bitch, isn't he?
Ooh, it's so edgy.
I'm an atheist.
Like, I watched one of his shows.
I watched a couple where, oh, his wife died and he's just this cynical atheist guy in an office.
And, you know, of all of the issues that are facing England, he just picks the least important, least interesting, least relevant.
And he's really savage on his own culture, never criticizes anybody else.
And yeah, he goes he goes a bit for Hollywood celebrities.
Pretty easy, easy pickings and so on.
So he just he's like very unedgy as a comedian.
And I like comedians who have a bit more of a jugular that they gravitate towards.
And I just find him
You know, he can be very funny.
I remember seeing him on the Graham Norton Show, and they bring up a picture of him when he was young, and he had all this, like, 80s hair and makeup and all of that, and he says, you think I'm embarrassed of that?
I'm not embarrassed of that, I'm embarrassed of this, like, where he is right now.
So he's, you know, he's a funny guy, and he's witty and all of that, but he's just very handled and very controlled, and, ooh, he's going for Christians, ooh, you know, it's just like, it's just so, it's just so basic.
It's just so basic.
All right.
Steph, I don't mean to be a nag, but I don't think my question about strengthening communication in a marriage was answered unless I missed it.
Thank you.
You are not a nag.
I really appreciate the reminder.
Thank you for bringing it up.
Thank you for bringing it up.
Strengthening communication in a marriage.
It's an open-ended question.
And again, call in at freedomain.com.
I'm happy to get your more detailed thoughts.
We can do a call in on it.
Strengthening communication in a marriage.
That sounds like a complaint your wife has that neither of us understand, to be honest.
It sounds like, well you just don't communicate, or you're not communicating enough, or you're not communicating in the right way.
Women have to understand that men communicate to get things done and women communicate to strengthen relationships.
Men communicate to get things done.
Right?
Don't we?
You go left.
I'll go right.
You throw the spear at the boar.
I'll dig the trench.
You get the shovel.
Men communicate to get things done.
Women communicate to strengthen relationships.
For male and female relationships to work, men have to respect that women need that level of communication, and women have to respect that men need that level of communication.
Because for a woman, when she's looking at two men communicate, a lot of times it's just talking about politics, or sports, or stuff in the world, or what they're fixing, or what they're working on.
I remember having a conversation with a friend of mine, he's a doctor of economics now, and we were just really talking about philosophy and economics and so on.
And, you know, we talked for like an hour.
It was great.
And my girlfriend was like, but you didn't ask him anything about his marriage.
If there was an issue with his marriage, he would have brought it up.
I'd have been happy to, you know, but she was just, it was incomprehensible to her.
Right?
Now, I love that about women.
I love that they strengthen these bonds, these relationships.
I think it's great.
Women are delightfully incomprehensible to men, and men are delightfully incomprehensible, I hope, to women.
Like, we don't have time to massage each other's ovaries because we've got a civilization to run.
And you should respect that, right?
I'm not going to communicate to you
Like your girlfriend.
I mean, I get up.
I had a woman, she's like, I want to talk about this.
I want to, and you know, I'll put a bit of time in for sure.
But you know, at some point your ass gets itchy.
You want to get up and get something done, right?
Like I can't spend hours just talking about what somebody else might be thinking or what happened with this relationship.
I can do that for a certain amount.
I just can't do it for that long, right?
I can, like, I can hold my breath underwater.
It doesn't make me a fish.
So strengthening communication in a marriage.
Is this a complaint that your wife has that you don't understand?
Now, if it is, then just ask her for more clarity.
What does that mean?
Well, I just want to know more about what you're thinking.
Here's the thing, man.
Your wife.
Your wife.
Here's the thing.
You guys ready for a purple pill?
You ready for a purple pill?
This is the both.
This is the both, right?
You ready for a purple pill?
All right.
Here's your purple pill.
11 words to liberate you in all of your relationships, in your marriage in particular.
You will never be nagged again.
You will never be asked to change again.
Are you ready?
Are you ready?
Are you ready?
You chose me, I don't change.
You chose me.
I don't change.
If you wanted me to be somebody else, you should have chosen somebody else.
Boom!
Don't ever, ever subject yourself to radical revision in a relationship.
Don't do it, man.
Don't do it.
It's an endless project.
It's humiliating.
It's degrading.
It's a shit test.
You will lose the relationship.
You will lose your self-respect.
You will lose your identity.
You're fucked if you ever, ever kneel down before that false god of fundamental change.
Don't do it, man.
Don't do it.
You chose me for who I am.
Don't be a project for somebody else's emotional tinkering.
Don't say, I can be reassembled.
You want to take my arm and stick it on my forehead?
You want to take my nipple and put it on my ass?
Nope!
No!
I am who I am.
You chose me for who I am.
You were a reasonably attractive woman.
You're an attractive woman.
You could have chosen anyone.
You chose me.
You get me.
Don't choose me and want me to change.
I mean, you can do anything you want, but I'm telling you right now, I'm not going to change.
Now, I'll grow and I'm curious, but no, self-improve.
Self-improve.
I find that I have trouble conveying thoughts and ideas to my wife, which may be the source of the lackluster communication.
Okay, when you talk to your wife, is she very interested?
Is she asking you questions?
Does she stop what she's doing?
Or does she keep playing Peggle 2?
Do you, does she really interested in what you're saying?
Because there's no better way to shut down communication than to have somebody not really listen to you.
Have you ever tried?
You ever tried?
I mean, everyone's had that experience where you're trying to convey something to someone and they're like, yeah.
I mean, the whole thing just deflates in your hands.
Right.
One tried to get me to wear skinny jeans, some woman literally trying to strangle my balls.
I saw through that one.
Testicular management is the PhD that every man has to learn.
It's no fun, man.
I'm sorry.
I'm just going to have to sit down three times.
Once on the top, once on the side, and finally released.
Hallelujah!
Free ball!
Yeah, no, just don't.
Don't do it.
Don't do it.
No.
You don't take a job and then immediately want a different job.
You don't buy a car and then want a boat.
You don't buy a computer and then want a pair of eyeglasses.
Right?
That doesn't make any sense.
A woman who's with you, and this is true for the other way around, but this question asked by a man.
A woman who's with you, you're the best she can do.
And if you're with the woman, she's the best you can do.
And the best you can do is the best.
There is no better than the best you can do.
There is nothing better than the best.
There's no abstract platonic best out there that you compare the best that you can achieve.
There's no perfect show out there that I'm always falling short of.
The shows I commit to, the shows I communicate on, these are the best shows that I can do.
I can't do better.
I can always aim to do better, but I can't do better.
Other than, commit to do the best I can.
There's no abstract perfection out there.
So, you look at your wife and you say, if this issue is coming up, that she's dissatisfied, she needs you to change, she needs you to do this, she needs you to do that, you've got to, she's got to be, you've got to be more emotionally available, you've got to be more gentle, you've got to be more curious about her friends, you've got to support her in this, you've got to do this, like, no, no, no.
Am I the best you can do?
Am I the best you can do?
If I'm not the best you can do, go get someone better.
Because I don't want you to be with me and be dissatisfied and think you can do better.
Like, am I the best you can do?
And it doesn't have to be hard, it's a genuine question.
And for God's sakes, hopefully you don't wait until you're married, right?
Am I the best you can do?
My wife, best I can do.
Can't upgrade her, can't improve her.
She's perfect the way she is.
Can't do better.
My daughter, I mean, not that I chose her, but I guess I chose the mom.
I wouldn't want my daughter Biddy any different than who she is.
She's perfect the way she is.
Can't do better.
Am I the best you can do?
Now, of course, if you have a wife and you have kids with her, then the best she can do has just gone way down.
Because if she divorces your ass and goes out there in the marketplace tugging along two kids from another man, the best she can do is going to be pretty damn crappy and probably quite dangerous for her children, statistically.
So am I the best you can do?
Now, if she says, no, I can do better when you're still dating, let her go.
Cause she's going to divorce your ass anyway.
Now, if you're married, that's another issue, right?
But if, if she looks you in the eye and she says, I can do better.
Hey man, don't let me, don't let me be in your way of this perfect world and perfect life that you want.
If you think you can do better than me, go for it.
Go for it.
Honestly.
Door, handle, legs, off you go.
Go do better.
And you can say this without hostility.
And if you care about the woman, you want her to do, to get the very best that she can get, right?
So, am I the best you can do?
Now if she says, yes, you're the best I can do,
Then honey, you ready to get your mind blown logically?
Are you ready to get your mind blown logically?
Hit me with a why.
I don't know.
Is this going to be too much?
I don't know.
Is it going to be too much?
Probably going to be too much.
I don't know.
Can you handle it?
Can you handle the circuitry?
All right.
Okay.
So, all right.
You asked for it, man.
You're going to get it.
This is what you wanted.
This is what you're going to get.
You asked for it.
You begged for it.
You asked her, am I the best you can do?
If she says, yes, you're the best that I can do, then you say back to her, then you better not improve me.
Why should she not improve you if you're the best she can do?
Why should she not improve you?
What if she makes you better?
If she makes you better, then you can do better.
And you'll dump her.
What if I married someone whom I know is not the best I could have done?
Well, you've got to go with the flow and with the time.
So, DP, how long have you been married?
Just give me the number of years you've been married.
Two years?
Do you have kids?
Yes or no?
Okay, so you can't do any better now because you're a single dad.
If you divorce her, I'm not saying you should obviously, but if you divorce her, what have you got?
You know, like all these women who are like, I want to go get a master's.
It's like, okay, go get a master's.
Are you going to date a plumber?
No.
I need somebody who at least has a master's, if not a PhD.
Okay.
So you as a woman want a guy who's got a master's.
Which is what percentage of the population?
10% maybe?
So you've just eliminated 90% of men by getting your higher education, right?
Okay.
I mean, fine, but that's the reality.
So if she thinks that you're the best, if she knows that you're the best she can do, then if you improve, won't you be able to do better than her?
Don't let anybody make you an improvement project.
Don't.
I mean, you can have those internal standards.
I think that's wonderful.
Don't let anybody tell you that you need to be fundamentally different.
Seems kind of hopeless?
Well, give me a call, man.
If we haven't talked before, call into freedomain.com.
But clearly at some point, at some point, you thought she was the best you could do.
Right?
At some point my friend, this is to DP, at some point you thought your wife was the best you could do.
My girlfriend's sister saves money by living with guys she's not with.
She's doing her master's, can't find a partner and is getting desperate.
Yep!
Yep, see here's the thing ladies.
You can go get your master's or your mistress, whatever you want.
You go get your master's.
You've got no problem with that.
More female empowerment.
But just understand what you're doing is you are now confining yourself to only 10% of men.
And if you want a guy with a master's who makes money, you're talking about maybe 2 or 3%.
So you're eliminating
97, 98% of men.
Now, that's fine.
You can aim for the top, you can aim for the top 2 or 3% of men if you want.
You can aim for the top 2 or 3% of men.
Absolutely.
But then you better be the top 2 or 3% of women.
Plus, here's the problem.
A man with any brains, a man who's smart enough to make money, to make his way in the world, to end up in a good place financially, career-wise, economically, a man who's smart, what does he do when he looks at a woman who has a mastress?
Well, this is a woman who's going to want to work.
Okay.
So you get your undergraduate at 22.
Maybe you take a year off.
You get your master's in your mid twenties, and then you start looking for work and you start working 26, 27 years old.
And let's say that somehow you've managed to get a guy in there.
So you've got a guy 27, 28.
He's doing okay with his career.
He's getting himself really going.
You're just starting your career.
What if he wants to have kids?
What if he wants to have kids?
A master's is almost always the abandonment of motherhood.
Of being a mother, of staying home, of breastfeeding, of raising your children, of transmitting the man's values and your values to the next generation.
A man looks at you and he sees a worker bee, not a mother.
He sees a woman strapped and trapped on the hamster wheel of money and success.
Money, money, money, financial success, career.
Because if he says to you, you got a master's degree, right?
And he says to you, no, I want you to stay home with the kids.
Well, I didn't get a master's degree just to sit at home like some 1950s housewife.
Okay.
So you want a guy who can afford to have a mom stay home, a guy who's got some wisdom, who doesn't want to sit there rushing around with daycare and this and that, knowing that he knows you're not going to make much money because you're going to put the kids in daycare.
So kids aren't going to get raised well.
You're going to be dissatisfied.
You're not going to make any more money.
Like, you want a smart man who can't figure out that you're probably going to make a bad mom.
Probably.
Not certainly.
Probably gonna make it.
And you won't be as good a mom if you're working as if you stay home.
It's physically impossible.
Now, again, all other things being equal, you can't be as good a mother if you're working as if you're staying home.
It's not possible.
Absolutely impossible.
I mean, okay, well, what if the woman who's working is really nice, but the woman who's staying home is really, really abusive?
Yeah, yeah, you can stack that shit any way you want.
Don't give me that crap.
All other things being equal.
So you get your master's.
You want the top 2 or 3% of guys.
And are you the top 2 or 3% of women?
And remember, man doesn't care if you have a master's.
We all know this.
We all know this as men.
Some woman can have a PhD.
We find her completely indifferent to her.
Also, PhD women tend to be pear-shaped in comfortable shoes.
So we don't care that you have a PhD.
I mean, literally, come on, tell me, hit me with a why if you've ever really wanted to ask out a cashier in a grocery store.
Come on.
Everyone's had that experience.
Everyone, you have it in the drive-thrus, you have it in the movie theaters, you have it at the grocery store, you have it at the driving range, you have it when you pick up your tennis racket from the sports store, you have it yesterday, today, of course!
Of course!
One of the fundamental errors that women have made is they believe that if they possess the characteristics they find attractive in men, that men will be attracted to them.
Hear me out on this.
Women think if they possess the characteristics they find attractive in men, that men will be attracted to them.
It's madness.
It's madness.
Well, if I had a penis, men would really be attracted to me.
Well, gay men, yes, but right?
So it is, it's wild.
It's wild.
Cashiers are often more attractive than models.
Well, yeah, because models these days, Photoshop and makeup, they look inhumane.
They're part of the uncanny valley, right?
And so, a woman who gathers characteristics she would find attractive in a man doesn't understand men, doesn't understand herself, and is kind of narcissistic.
Like, by definition, if... I mean, if I said, well, I think a stubble can be attractive, so I want to find a woman with stubble, that would be kind of deranged, right?
And so, a woman who says, I manifest characteristics, I've spent years gathering together characteristics that I would find attractive in a man, therefore I'm attractive to men, is narcissistic because she can't understand that men are different.
That men are looking for different things.
She's just like, I would find it attractive, therefore men do.
Which means she won't understand what it is to be a man and she'll just fight you the whole time.
Thanks, but.
Not even remotely tempting, is it?
It means she hasn't thought about it at all, which means she's fake smart.
Yeah, hashtag girlboss?
What's a girlboss?
The girlboss thing is like, well, women like really dominant, successful and economically aggressive men, therefore men will like that trait in women.
I don't think any man with decaps will be very attractive.
Moobs!
Yeah, it's wild.
Yeah, I was at some Kevin Samuels show, late, great, Paul went out, right?
Kevin Samuels show, he's like, this woman was like, yeah, I want a man I can build an empire with.
It's like, what?
Yeah, it's, it's wild.
Yeah, it's like the whole sex in the city thing, right?
Like, apparently what men want women to be is gay men.
It's just wild.
I'm a strong independent woman.
Excellent.
I don't want to depend on no man.
Okay.
Yeah.
All right.
So you're just saying that you won't pair bond.
Okay.
I won't pair bond.
I won't pair bond.
I'm independent.
I won't pair bond.
Kind of a sociopath, because I don't need people.
I'm a cat, not a dog.
I don't pair bond.
You can't subject me to any external standards.
Vanity, narcissism, megalomania.
I'm a strong independent male, said no male ever.
Yeah.
I don't need no man.
That show ruined an entire generation of women.
Kind of.
I remember being once, uh, just by coincidence at a place where they were having a Sex and the City theme big party and, uh, went in there and just to check it out.
And, oh man, the women in there were just shattered, man.
Like, like fucking sea anemones dropped from a helicopter.
Just crazy.
But no, see, here's the thing.
If a woman says to you, or a man for that matter, if a woman says to you, like she just mouths a bunch of empty-headed propaganda, she's doing you a huge favor.
Oh, look at that Bitcoin run.
Isn't that nice?
But yeah, she's doing you a huge favor.
Doing you a huge favor, man.
You don't have to waste your time.
You get life advice from a TV show, my God.
My mom loved that show.
She is a single mom.
Yep.
Yeah, that show is animal rutting levels of self-knowledge.
Just animal rutting levels of the avoidance of self-knowledge.
And in that show, the women were like, I mean, the men were half pedophiles because the women were more than half children, especially the Carrie woman.
You know, it's like, I can't afford a condo.
And this other woman said, you've got 40 shoes.
You've got 400 shoes at $200 a pair.
You've got 40 pairs of shoes at $200 a pair, right?
There's your $80,000 down payment for a condo right there.
Samantha was clearly written by gay men.
Yeah, for sure.
I mean, this is an old Ann Coulter theory that sex in the city is just about gay men.
Yeah, it's very true.
Sex in the city is a weapon of mass destruction.
All the potential babies that could have been.
No.
No.
Don't strip people of their last point I'll make.
Please don't strip people of their free will.
Please don't do it, man.
You will end up so cynical and so bitter.
Viewing people as sheeple they can't think for themselves.
No.
Here's the thing, man.
Saxon the City, all it did was this.
That's all it did.
All it did was give you a little come here.
Hey, come here.
Come here.
Come here.
Hey.
You don't have to grow up.
You don't have to be responsible.
You can talk about sex, you can obsess about sex, you can pursue sex, you can live the life of a simian rutter.
Never have to grow up, never have to be mature, never have to be charitable, never have to surrender your sexual power.
You can just live as a perpetual late teen girl until the end of time.
It's just an offer.
It's not possession.
It doesn't take you over.
It doesn't erase your free will.
It's just an offer.
Right?
It's just an offer.
You know, when I saw, is it a great old Jack Nicholson film called Five Easy Pieces?
About a guy who's totally brilliant and all he just wants to do is waste his life working on oil rigs, right?
And
I didn't sit there and say, well, that's it.
I'm going to go work on an oil rig, to hell with reading and learning and doing good things in the world.
Or, you know, Holden Caulfield, right?
He's demonically luring you into this world.
I mean, to me, the whole Catcher in the Rye book is just about the effects of two things.
One, sexual abuse, and two, psychotropics, right?
The author himself was institutionalized in a hospital after the Second World War, in a mental hospital, and God knows what bizarre shit they shot into his brain, but that's just a brain fried from psychotropics, in my view.
But there's that look, I could just get enraged at the world and everyone's a phony!
And everyone's shallow!
Yeah, it's tempting.
Just go and hate everyone and feel superior to everyone.
There are always going to be these devils in the world.
So what?
Don't blame
Don't blame the devil.
The devil is... Well, no, because they also have their responsibility as well.
But when it comes to... Like, the devil is a fact of nature.
People will always tempt you to give up responsibility for the sake of stimuli, to give up maturity for the sake of fun, to give up long-term gains for the sake of short-term gains.
That will always happen.
There will always be people out there saying,
Don't be such a square!
Have a drink!
Smoke up!
And people want something for free.
Of course they want something for free.
That's human nature.
And because there's a human nature called people want something for free, there will always be assholes offering you something for free.
You can have value by being pretty.
You can have value by being sexy.
You can have value by having money.
You can have value by having a Bugatti and having a billion followers on Twitter.
You can have value
The offer will always be there to seduce you into accepting something for free, which then costs you your soul.
The state is Satan, as far as that goes.
Like the concept of the state is the same as the concept of Satan.
It offers you things for free and then steals your freedoms.
It offers you things for free and then steals your soul.
That's a constant.
It's a constant.
The devil will always be there cocking his finger at you.
Hey Steph, love all the live streams you've been doing recently.
I see we are getting lots more viewers too.
Thanks for all you do.
I'm a supporter and would tip now too, but tight with recent car repairs and maintenance.
No problem, man.
I really appreciate the support.
You know, I was deplatformed because I couldn't be bought or controlled, right?
You know that.
You know that.
Yeah, everybody knows that.
The collapse will be brutal for these smart, single, independent, don't-need-no-man women.
That's my whole story.
That's my whole book.
It's called The Present.
You can get it at freedomain.locals.com.
It's pinned right up there at the top.
Do you enjoy yard work?
Mowing, lawn gardening, etc.
Not gardening so much, but yeah, I do.
I mean, chopping wood?
Absolutely.
Mowing the lawn?
Very satisfying, especially if it's high and uneven.
Dan, why are you doing spoilers, man?
Why are you doing spoilers?
Why?
So rude.
What is the line between indoctrinating children with a religion and using said religion to provide moral instruction?
If you're teaching people what to think rather than how to think, then you're indoctrinating them.
How's your new book, The Present Plus?
Ah, it's a little slow.
It's a little slow.
Mowing the lawn now.
Got big ear covers so I can still hear you.
Mowing the lawn.
Hey, I don't want to hear about your manscaping, man.
Oh, actually, no, maybe I do.
Maybe I do.
Maybe I do.
All right.
Any last questions, comments, or donations?
Come on, look me in the eyes and tell me I haven't given you maximum value over these last two hours.
You know, it's been a lot of value.
Little tip, if it's been a while, little tip here and there.
Have me float off in a sea of glorious joy.
And are there going to be more parts to my AI series?
Yes.
When will we get the Black Pill you promised Friday?
Some of it was today.
Some of it was today.
But yeah, so there are more parts to the AI series.
We're creating videos and all of that about how we're setting up the AI so that you'll know everything that went into it.
It's been like two weeks almost that we've been working on it.
So it's a lot of work.
So we will get there.
Steph, because of you, I started a YouTube channel and now have a thousand subs.
Thank you.
I think that's great.
Do you want to, do you want to throw your channel in?
In case people are interested.
I think that's great.
Good for you.
Just, uh, there can be, there can be a tiny bit censorious, I've heard.
I've heard.
Not sure.
Not sure.
Tiny bit censorious.
Oh, well, we just have to wait for Elon Musk to buy everything in the known universe.
Alright, oh my.
Okay, I'll just, I'll leave you with one thought.
I'll leave you with one thought here.
So, an experiment was done not too long ago.
Women had scars put on their faces through makeup, right?
They put makeup, put scars on women's faces and the goal of the experiment, the women were told, was to find out about discrimination.
Were people with scars discriminated against in job interviews?
So,
The women were supposed to go for these job interviews with these scars on their faces.
And then they were to record all of the instances of discrimination that they faced.
Now, just as the women were leaving the makeup room, they said, oh, sorry, it's a little loose.
We just have to touch it up.
And what they did was they got rid of the scars.
They just pulled the scars right off.
So the women didn't know that they didn't have the scars.
The women went into the job interviews thinking that they had these scars on their face when they in fact had no scars on their face.
What did the women say when asked about discrimination after the interview?
What did the women say when they were asked about their experience of being discriminated against for the non-existent scars they thought they had?
What did they say?
I totally got discriminated against.
Like, he looked at me funny and he asked all these questions that I knew had everything to do with the discrimination about the scarring.
And I could just tell the way he made his notes that he was totally writing down about my scars.
And I just felt so cringe and it was overwhelming.
It totally poisoned the air in the entire room.
The discrimination was, I couldn't even breathe.
I can't even!
Right.
So they perceived massive amounts of discrimination because they thought they had scars when they did not in fact have scars.
This is the danger of the victim mentality.
That is the danger of the victim mentality.
The victim mentality will have you
Bury yourself alive in confirmation bias.
You will bury your future and your hopes in confirmation bias.
It's brutal.
And this is why, oh, that show, Sex and the City, destroyed a whole generation of women.
Nope!
No, it didn't.
No, it did not.
The people were assholes for making it, and the people were ridiculous for watching it.
Yeah.
Somebody says, come here, you don't have to go.
Somebody says, come here man, I'll give you something for nothing.
You can just use your sex appeal for the rest of your life.
No problem, man.
Even the woman who wrote it, what's that, Candace Bushnell or whatever, even the woman who wrote, originally who wrote Sex and the City, ended up in her 60s with no kids, no family, miserable, as all get out.
She's just miserable.
I mean, honestly, when I would go out there back in the days on Twitter, when I would go out there and I would talk about the value of children and family and husbands and wives, people, women in particular, went insane.
Like, it was unbelievable.
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All right.
I'll just give a moment or two for anything last thing.
Who does the cooking in your family, Steph?
My daughter and my wife.
I will do a little bit here and there, but not too much.
I'm not much of a cook.
I don't particularly enjoy it.
And here's the thing too, because my wife does most of the groceries, she has this whole conveyor belt going on in her brain about what's in the fridge, what's in the freezer, what's coming, what's needed.
She's got the whole thing.
It's like watching somebody float plates on sticks of pool cues or something like that.
And so she's got this whole thing going about how all the food works in the household.
And it's truly a thing of beauty and sublime.
Hardcover book of the future?
Yeah, not a huge priority, but it's out there.
Do religions teach people how to think rather than what to think?
Well, it depends.
If you just look at the conclusions and say those are facts, that is truth, that is reality, like the Ten Commandments with no cause, or if, like the way that I did, I said, well, okay, God gives us reason, God gives us a rational universe and a thirst for things to be consistent and rational, therefore morality has to be rational.
Alright.
People are still typing.
I hate cutting it off when people are typing.
I feel like I'm just ghosting people or slamming the door in their face when they're just in the middle of saying something.
I'll wait.
I'll wait.
Is there a paperback version of Essential Philosophy?
I just bought the Kindle version.
I can't remember.
Can't remember.
I'm hiring somebody else this year because I need to, I need a better interface for the books and I need to see if there are physical stuff.
I think, I don't know, paperback?
I don't think there was a paperback version of Essential Philosophy.
Maybe there should be.
I know that people like that, but you can just, you know, if you want it real bad, you can just print it out, right?
Great steam.
Great steam.
Great stream.
Thank you.
Thank you very much, Matt.
I appreciate that.
That's super kind.
Wonderful to see you guys all tonight.
Like every other stream.
Keep typing, guys!
Not all good things have to come to an end.
Am I right?
Steph is the... Steph is the goat.
Well, thank you.
I appreciate that.
That's very kind.
Now I'm gonna have to go eat a tin can.
All right.
My daughter and I played some Goat Simulator 3.
It was actually quite a lot of fun.
All right.
Well, thanks everyone so much for a wonderful... Man, it's hot in here.
Am I sweating here?
You won't believe how much brain calories I expend in these shows.
It's like, for me, it just feels like a supernova in this orange skull of mine.
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I thought you were in snowy Canada.
Well, it's not snowy anymore, but I'm not doing this outside and I got these lights on.
And I'm telling you, I'm like a blues singer sweating through a suit like Otis Clay back in the day.
No AC in Canada?
Nope, I can't have AC in here, because you'd hear it.
Even though I've tried to minimize the noise, I just have to sweat through it.
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