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June 25, 2022 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux

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The TRUTH About Roe v Wade!

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	Good evening everybody. It's Stefan Molyneux.
	I'm back for Friday Night Live on this year of our Lord 2022.
	It is the 24th of June and Roe v.
	Wade be down. Abortion got aborted.
	It's pretty wild stuff.
	I really never thought I'd live to see the day.
	And there is so much to talk about and so many questions to answer and so many perspectives to bring to bear.
	I'm going to dive right in.
	Okay, so... With a Y in the chat, if you know the history of Roe v.
	Wade, 1973, a decision that supposedly guaranteed some sort of constitutional right to abortion at the federal level, which meant, of course, that no state, no individual state could contradict the federal mandates.
	So, yeah. Some people do.
	Some people do. Yeah, most of you do.
	No, no, some of you don't. All right.
	So let's touch on this really briefly.
	It's really... Surprisingly fascinating, at least for me, it's surprisingly fascinating.
	Prior to the 1973 decision that legalized abortion, there were all these pro-abortion activists.
	Now, when someone calls themselves an activist, what they mean is, I'm a filthy, satanic liar from hell.
	Because activists, and you can see this in environmentalism, you can see this in abortion, you can see this in...
	So an activist says...
	Being an activist means that you are openly stating that the end justifies the means that lying, manipulation, falsehood, blasphemy, slander, doesn't matter.
	Defamation doesn't matter.
	As long as you achieve your end and your goal...
	You don't give a shit about the ethics of the situation.
	That's what activists always meant to me.
	And not just me. I mean, look at the environmentalist movement.
	They openly state, hey, sometimes we have to lie to and scare the shit out of the public just to achieve our goals.
	So when you see activist, end justifies the mean, filthy, satanic liar.
	That's what I see. Can't prove it in every case, but that's what I see.
	There was a big move towards abortion.
	And now this, of course, comes out of the introduction of the birth control pill.
	I remember as a kid just being really confused.
	It's like, why did they call it the pill?
	And it's like I didn't really understand until much later.
	Control over reproduction is...
	I mean, control...
	I mean, there always was control over reproduction.
	I mean, back in the Middle Ages, there were sleep...
	Sheep, bladder, condoms.
	There was the rhythm method and...
	What's that old joke from when I was a kid?
	That the Italian entry into the Eurovision Song Contest called I Can't Get No Contraception has ended after the Pope advised them to pull it out at the last minute.
	So, yeah, there was the rhythm method.
	There was condoms and so on.
	So there were ways of dealing with fertility in the past.
	But... With the pill, you get the breakdown of family structure.
	You have sex just for pleasure.
	And sex just for pleasure, look, sex is pleasurable, no problem with that.
	But sex for pleasure is the equivalent of food for pleasure.
	Yes, food is pleasurable, but you shouldn't eat so much that you get fat.
	It should be, you know, the Aristotelian mean is the way.
	To go. So once you have sex for pleasure, you have a rash of single mothers, you have breakdown in family systems, family structures, breakdown in marriage, and then you get the crying crocodile tears of, oh, the man just left me, he just, you know, what's that old line from the Goldie Hawn comedy from many years ago called Private Benjamin?
	You know, he told me he loved me, he told me he loved me.
	Well, then what happened? Then he came!
	And then he's gone, right? And so, women lie and say, well, I'm just a victim for the most part.
	And I tell you, I get a lot of flack with this, but it's David Attenborough's fault, basically.
	Because if you watch these nature documentaries, it's pretty wild, right?
	You watch these nature documentaries, and...
	What is it always the same?
	Always the same, particularly with the birds, but with frogs, with lizards, you name it.
	It's always the same thing.
	It's like the male has cleared an entire house.
	Acre of the forest.
	He has cleared it out.
	He has brought in flowers and garlands, and he has knit, crochet, wonderful, chest-enhancing vests for himself in the hope that a female will come by, perch on a branch, and see his magnificent outlay of productive energies and decide to mate with him.
	And then not only does he clear an acre of the forest and knit things and create garlands, but the bird also puffs out his chest and Weird things come out of his ass and he beats his wings like a hummingbird on cocaine and he just begs for the female to evaluate him as positive and mate with him.
	So the men are always going through these crazy rituals.
	All over the place. Crazy radio.
	The stags, the deer crashing into each other.
	And, you know, the guy who's got brain damage and is staggering around, the woman is like, hey, you'll do, right?
	The frogs, they fight like crazy with each other and do these head-bobbing things.
	The lizards do the head-bobbing things.
	You've got chameleons will fight to the death to get the tree just for themselves.
	So the men are always putting on these mating displays for women, other females.
	And what are the females doing?
	The females are doing nothing but evaluate, evaluate, evaluate, evaluate.
	That's all the females are doing, top to bottom, back to front, throughout time, across the universe.
	They are evaluating the man's fitness.
	That's all they do. All across nature, they evaluate the man's, is he tough?
	Is he strong? Does he have dominance?
	Does he have territory? Does he have plumage?
	Has he cleared the requisite acre of forests to make himself look fit?
	I mean, you look at the peacocks, right?
	The peacocks got to drag 90 pounds of feathers behind them just so they show, hey, man, we can get by.
	Even with all these feathers, we can still get food.
	I mean, it's truly mad, right?
	So... All of evolution points in the same direction, and that direction is men put on a display, and cold-eyed females evaluate that display and mostly say no.
	Okay, duck's a little bit out of the ordinary, but they mostly say no.
	And the idea that we got to the top of the food chain, we became the apex predators of the universe...
	And yet, women never evaluated the fitness of males in any effective or efficient manner.
	Women have, like all throughout the animal kingdom, I swear to God, the plant kingdom it seems like sometimes, all throughout the animal kingdom, the females, cold-eyed and to a large degree accurately, evaluate the fitness of the males, right? Because we all know women invest a huge amount more into pregnancy than men do.
	For me, you know, it's a tantric day and a half, you know, but for a woman, it's a big, long, big, long, hard time, big, long thing.
	So the idea that we became apex predators and we're the only species in the entire universe whose females are completely unable to figure out the fitness of males or potential sexual partners.
	I mean, come on, right?
	Women have evolved to figure out who is a good male.
	So the differences between males and females are almost entirely because men will mate with just about anything.
	You may have seen that picture that was floating around on social media a couple of years ago about a frog.
	No, it was a toad. A toad was mating with a beheaded female toad.
	The female toad was missing her shoulders and up, and he was like, yep, give it a shot, man.
	Maybe there's still an egg or two in there, but I'm going to mate with the decapitated body of a female toad.
	So, you know, men will mate with apple pies, watermelons, beheaded female toads, you name it.
	So, the differences between men and women, how men have evolved with, you know, differences in IQ, differences 40% greater upper body strength and so on, right?
	Higher testosterone. Women have determined all of these by saying yes or no to men, right?
	So the differences between the sexes is because women have evaluated men and choose men who are taller and stronger and deeper voiced and more bearded and whatever, right?
	So women, females, for literally billions of years, billions of years, says the Sagan, have cold-eyed evaluated whether males are fit or not.
	Women are the gatekeepers, right?
	Men propose, women dispose.
	Men ask, women say yes or no.
	And all throughout the animal kingdom for billions of years, the females have evaluated the males and made the males jump through ridiculous numbers of hoops just to get fertility sexual access, right?
	And so the idea that women were just like, well, he fooled me.
	He fooled me. It's like, if women were easy to fool, we wouldn't even be at the level of bonobos yet if women were easy to fool.
	The fact is that because women invest so much more...
	They have to cold-eyed judge.
	And all women have the ability to cold-eyed judge whether a man is a fit partner to have a child with.
	Guaranteed. Now, with the pill, the need to evaluate a male declined precipitously because pregnancy could then be controlled, right?
	Now, anybody who's into public choice theory knows that And I'll get to the public choice theory in Roe v.
	Wade in a second, but anybody who's into public choice theory, which is, you know, like you say, oh, we only have a few poor people, so we just need a little bit of a welfare state to take a little bit of money from the rich, give it to the poor, and we'll have no more poor people.
	Anybody who understands, I don't know, humanity at the level of not a sociopath or a vampire or a communist...
	Anybody who understands human nature knows that public choice theory means that, okay, let's say you have 5% poor people, so you just need a little bit of money, give it to the 5% of poor people, and you won't have any more poor people.
	Like, no, no, the moment you start giving money to poor people, more and more people will find it profitable to be poor to get free money.
	So you will never solve the problem of poverty.
	Never. Never solve the problem of poverty.
	In fact, you'll make it worse, because you'll end up dipping into debt and money printing to solve this problem, and then, well, you know how it goes.
	Take for the rich and give to the poor.
	It means that everybody ends up poor and you end up running out of money for everyone and everything.
	So when women no longer have to worry automatically about pregnancy, then what they'll do is they'll stop evaluating men as strictly.
	Or rather you'd say they'd evaluate men for hotness rather than the qualities of fatherhood and commitment and provision and so on, right?
	So you get women who just want the pretty boys, right?
	Because they can control their own fertility.
	Now, what happens then, of course, is, well, women still get pregnant.
	Life finds a way, right?
	It's not just about, you know, gay frogs mating with themselves or whatever.
	It's life finds a way.
	So the woman's body wants to make another body.
	The woman's body wants to get pregnant.
	And so, oops! Forgot the pill!
	Whoops! Passion overcame us!
	Blah, blah, blah, right? So, the idea that you're going to solve the problem of abortion by having birth control pills, everybody knows.
	All that happens is that you will increase single motherhood because women will still get pregnant.
	And, of course, the pill is not perfectly effective and women forget to take it and a variety of things, right?
	So... So then you end up with a bunch of kids and no father.
	So then you need a welfare state.
	Now, the welfare state is the second.
	Like the one-two punch, well, there's three.
	One-two-three punch, right? The first is you got the pill, which means women don't have to evaluate the father fitness, but only the sex fitness, right?
	The heartness. And then you get the welfare state, which means that if the woman decides to keep the baby, she can afford to do it because rather than being costs, which is why you need a provider...
	Children become benefits, right?
	So rather than costing you money, they make you money through the welfare state, so you don't need a provider.
	And so, yeah, you got the pill, the welfare state, and then you need abortion.
	Because you've got so many kids being produced without fathers, and the state, what does the state prefer?
	If there's all these kids being produced without fathers, then the state is spending a lot of money.
	Spending a lot of money, right? Because welfare state is crazy, right?
	And then there's a lot of crime because the kids are single mothers end up with very negative statistics, as you know.
	So what does the state do?
	It says, okay, well now we've got to allow abortion because we want to try and convince women not to have as many kids because...
	Costs and all of that, right?
	So if you have a family, a traditional family, right?
	Husband, wife, kids, then the woman having kids causes the man to work harder, become more productive, adds to the economy and so on, right?
	But with a single mother and with nobody to take care of the kids, then it's just way up in terms of welfare state.
	And it's not just the welfare state in terms of here's the money for the kid, but it's the welfare state in terms of, oh, your kid needs dental care and your kid needs health care and your kid needs braces and your kid needs whatever, right?
	And so you end up having with the state having to provide all of this stuff.
	And so kids which were formerly an investment now become a cost for the state just as they were formerly a cost for the family.
	Now they become an investment for the single mother.
	And so you end up having to limit this kind of stuff.
	So it's not an accident that you go from birth control pill to welfare state to abortion.
	This is not an accident.
	Everybody has material interests in all of this.
	So I just kind of wanted to point that out so that Yowl can understand this.
	So when a woman says, he just fooled me and she cries, that's just completely against all kind of evolution.
	Evolution is entirely predicated on the females being selective in their choice of mates and choosing the best mates.
	So whenever you hear this, I don't believe it.
	I've never believed it in my entire life, where the woman says...
	Oh, I just didn't know.
	He just fooled me. He was very convincing.
	It's like, no, no, he didn't. The entire evolution is you being able to choose good fathers, right?
	So, okay, so...
	Pro-abortion activists. Remember, activists are, in my view, people who lie for the cause and justifies the means.
	So activists told the media that there were 5,000 to 10,000 deaths a year owing to abortion.
	The coat hanger abortions, back alley abortions.
	So 5,000 to 10,000 deaths a year owing to abortion.
	Now, does anybody know?
	Does anybody know?
	How many deaths there actually were?
	5,000 to 10,000.
	How many deaths were there because of abortion prior to Roe v.
	Wade? A year. Going once.
	I know, it takes a little while to catch up.
	So, we've got a guess of 28.
	We've got a guess of 32.
	We've got a guess of 69, 254.
	Okay, so you guys are bang on, and it certainly was not the number I was expecting.
	So the year before Roe v.
	Wade, the number of women who died of an abortion was 39.
	That's a figure published by the CDC. But it's back when the CDC had a bit more credibility, at least for me.
	So yes, not 5,000 to 10,000 deaths a year, but in fact 39.
	So that's important.
	Now... The man who broadcasted about this 5,000 to 10,000 deaths a year, his name was Dr.
	Bernard Nathanson. He was a practicing abortionist and activist.
	He later admitted that he lied.
	He's a fascinating guy. Raised Jewish, became agnostic, was pro-abortion, became anti-abortion, converted to Catholicism.
	Really interesting life story because, of course, in some aspects of Judaism, it's birth where life begins.
	Of course, for Catholicism, it's conception, which is where the DNA is created.
	Yes, from 5,000 to 10,000 deaths a year.
	I talked about, it turned out it was 39.
	And it's a funny thing too, right?
	So the CDC is saying 39, but everybody repeats his 5,000 to 10,000 because activism, right?
	And I mean, you look at this, all the stuff that was said about Trump that I was going into, gosh, back in 2015, you know, make up stuff.
	Okay, so the pro-abortion industry, also very keen on saying that so many women were persecuted all over the country for having an abortion.
	Okay, let's say entire history of the United States.
	No, this is just in the U.S. So entire history of the United States, how many women were prosecuted, persecuted for having an abortion?
	Because, you know, this was this massive plague that you needed a huge constitutional made-up right to defend.
	So how many women were prosecuted for having an abortion?
	Throughout the entire history of the United States, somebody's got 50, 0, 4, 2, 10.
	Okay, so there are only two cases in any state in the United States where a woman was charged for having an abortion.
	1911, Pennsylvania.
	You may remember Pennsylvania as where Dracula is from.
	And Texas in 1922.
	Okay, so since 1922, there have been zero documented cases in which a woman has been charged in an abortion case.
	Zero. Yeah, Omar, you got it.
	Bang on, man. Bang on.
	So two. All right.
	The woman in Roe, Jane Roe, I thought it was Jane Doe, because John Doe, Jane Doe.
	Anyway, Jane Roe. Her actual name is, or maybe was now, Norma McCorvey.
	She was 21 when she became pregnant for the witch time.
	She was 21 when she became pregnant for the witch time.
	Hit me up with a number. We are slow.
	We are slow. Sorry, I'll have to...
	Fifth, fourth, hundredth, third.
	Yes, Omar, you are.
	Bang on. So, she was 21 when she became pregnant for the third time.
	She wanted to get an abortion in Texas, but Texas did not allow four abortions except if the mother's life was endangered.
	And self-defense, right?
	So, on the advice of her female lawyers...
	Norma lied. She said she was raped.
	Now, she was supposed to have signed an affidavit to all of this.
	Apparently, the affidavit was never signed.
	Lots of hinky stuff going on with that.
	So she lied and she said she was raped.
	Now, Supreme Court Justice Harry Blackmun.
	Blackmun. Sounds like black mum, which is like black being the color of death.
	It's like a funeral for motherhood, right?
	Yeah. So he wrote the decision in Roe v.
	Wade, and he argued that, quote, we need not resolve the difficult question of when life begins.
	I'm no lawyer. I'm not even a legal scholar, neither do I play one on television, but I will tell you this.
	When it comes as to whether abortion should be allowed or not, we need not resolve the difficult question of when life begins.
	The most honorable Harry, that's exactly the question you have to resolve.
	There's no other question that matters or is relevant than the question of when life begins.
	Because if it's a human life, it's protected.
	Murder, right? I mean, if you kill a pregnant woman, you're often charged with a double homicide, right?
	So, baby's not born. So, saying, well, we don't have to resolve the difficult question of when life begins...
	No, no. That's like a defamation case where the judge says, well, we don't need to resolve the difficult question of whether or not this is defamation.
	It's like, no, that's actually the only question you have to answer.
	It's pretty wild. So, I don't know what that means.
	And let's say that we accept Hank Blackmun's contention that, well, it's a really difficult question where life begins.
	I don't know about you.
	I'm on the measure three times cut once school of carpentry, so for me, maybe I'm a little crazy this way, but for me, if I don't know the answer to something, I tend to err on the side of caution.
	So, for instance, I don't know how long I'm going to live.
	Now that I'm 55, I have a pretty fair idea of how long I'm not going to live, which is double my age, but I don't know how long I'm going to live, so I err on the side of caution and have life insurance.
	I don't know whether I'm going to get incapacitated from illness, so I err on the side of caution and I tend to have disability insurance and things like that, right?
	You ever have this thing where you're, you know, when you're a kid, you're walking through the woods, and you come across some animal, you know, a trash panda, like a raccoon or something like that, and you don't know if it's alive or not, right?
	What do you do? Do you err on the side of caution and poke it with a stick a couple of times, you know, so you don't end up picking something or grabbing something that's either A, diseased, or B, alive and bitey?
	If you are walking across a pond and there are stepping stones that are, you know, just kind of there.
	But this happened just the other day.
	I was with my daughter and we were looking for gigging frogs and we were looking for, I don't know what gigging frogs is.
	I just remember that from some old song.
	But we were looking for minnows and tadpoles and frogs.
	And... I walked across some stones on a stream and I got a little overeager and of course I stepped on one and it wobbled and I tripped and got wet and it was kind of funny.
	Anyway, so... When you're crossing across a stream, don't you err on the side of caution and generally test the weight of the rock?
	You err on the side of caution.
	So if Hank Blackmun says, well, we don't have to resolve the difficult question of when life begins, okay, how about erring on the side of caution then?
	I don't know. You go to an oncologist and say, well, we don't need to resolve the difficult question of whether you have cancer or not.
	It's like, you're an oncologist.
	That's your entire job!
	It's just bizarre to me. Just very strange.
	So, I mean, the science?
	Yeah, life kind of begins at conception.
	I read the... I think it was James Watson who wrote the autobiography of his discovery of DNA with Francis Crick.
	And basically, I just remember he played a lot of ping pong.
	But anyway... The structure of DNA is present at fertilization.
	It doesn't suddenly pop into being when you pop out of the being called mom.
	And, I mean, of course, if you've seen these horrendous, just truly awful videos, right, of the fetus attempting to avoid the knife, avoid the, you know, I mean, they're trapped and trapped in a womb, right?
	So, it's crazy.
	So, even people who are pro-abortion have said that there's no constitutional foundation for Roe v.
	Wade, right? Harvard Law Professor Archibald Cox, Lawrence Tribe, Alan Dershowitz have said the decision was fatally flawed.
	Ruth Bader Ginsburg said it should be lawmakers, not judges, who should decide this issue, which is why pushing it back to the States is closer to the idea behind the more perfect union and so on.
	Inventing a right to privacy, the right to privacy was irresponsible.
	I mean, it's not a matter of privacy, right?
	So it is pretty wild to see all of the falsehoods around this as a whole.
	I mean, to me, if you're going to bring suit to say I should be allowed to get an abortion in Texas and you lie and say, I was raped when you're not, it's the only time that's ever happened with women, of course.
	That would seem to me fairly important.
	So there is a possibility you could live to 110.
	I would not put any money on that myself.
	Let me just pause here.
	And when will Bitcoin hit 100k?
	Well, you know, Bitcoin maximalists create good times.
	Good times create shitcoiners.
	Shitcoiners create bad times.
	And then bad times create Bitcoin maximalists.
	So hang tight, in my humble opinion.
	No investment advice coming from me.
	So, I mean, if you look at...
	You know, we're a moral crew, right?
	We like morality.
	We reason things out morally.
	I mean, I'm a moral philosopher first and fundamentally foremost, so I look at things from a moral lens, but that's not the case for most things.
	For most people, for most things, it's cost-benefit analysis, right?
	Cost-benefit. It's consequentialism, cost-benefit analysis, pragmatism, utilitarianism, whatever you want to call it, but it's just straight-up cost-benefit analysis.
	So, for instance, you've got all of these corporations, what is it, Disney and was it Google and Dick's Sporting Goods and other whatever, right?
	And they're saying, oh man, you know, if you're an employee, we'll pay for you to go and get an abortion in a different state.
	It's like, well, of course they will. Is it some big moral thing?
	Well, no. What's cheaper for a corporation?
	Paying for an abortion or paying for maternity leave?
	It's not fucking complicated, people.
	It's just a whole lot cheaper to pay for an abortion than it is to pay for maternity leave.
	So, uh, mat leave is, is really tough, right?
	I mean, I was a manager in a software corporation.
	I co-founded and had a bunch of employees and that's pretty tough.
	You, you try getting, you don't even know if the woman's coming back, of course, and you try getting, you know, some senior project manager with a complicated systems approach, try replacing that person for a year.
	Who's going to want that job if they're, no, they could only be there for a year.
	It's really not the most quality people in average.
	So yeah, it's really, really tough.
	So, let's see here.
	I'm just catching up on the comments and questions.
	18th of July, unvaccinated teachers allowed to teach again in Australia.
	Steph, I'm having difficulty understanding how people can consciously deal with this.
	I can't empathize. Can you shed some light on this?
	I don't know what you're referring to.
	My apologies. Let me just go back up here and see if I can catch it.
	I can't. I'm sorry.
	I have not.
	So, have you...
	You know, it's really tough.
	It's really...
	Oh, yeah, of course, ultrasounds have made it much more difficult to keep this abortion stuff going, but...
	You know, I'll just do a little sideline here.
	So, I have fond memories of the very first Jurassic Park movie, so I'm afraid I went to go and see the latest one.
	Oh dear. Oh dear.
	Oh dear. Oh dear. It's wretchedly, terribly bad.
	But it's really fascinating to me how abstracted Things need to get these days in ours to actually discuss certain topics, right? So to me, the newest, the latest, I think it's the last Jurassic Park, God help us, and it's just about COVID. It's just about COVID. Of course it is.
	It's just about COVID. But here's how much they have to abstract it, right?
	So in the Jurassic Park series, Movie, there's this really creepy organization that creates, oh, airborne genetically manipulated pathogens.
	Now, of course, this ends up being called crickets or whatever they are, but, you know, it's an airborne pathogen that creates a huge amount of hunger.
	Well, that's COVID, right?
	However, there's an antidote to this airborne pathogen also sold by the same company.
	And it's called, I don't know, some seed or whatever it is, right?
	Some seed that the crickets, the giant crickets, leave alone.
	So, you see, there's a company that creates an issue, an airborne pathogen, and then will sell you the cure.
	I mean, it's just, I don't know, this is the level that we're at.
	You can't say anything directly on social media anymore, and you can only deal with these pathogens.
	So... Is this why you brought up the life we'll find a way?
	Yeah, I'm afraid so. All right, so...
	Why is there zero awareness that abortion is a eugenics program?
	Well, I mean, any time the government touches upon birth, right, by taking your money, by giving you money, particularly for kids, yeah, there's eugenics aspects to all of that, which is all just...
	Nasty and horrible.
	So, okay, so let's just talk a little bit more.
	I'm happy to take your questions in a sec.
	Now, I don't believe that there will be this summer of rage stuff, right?
	Because they've already tried the rage stuff, right?
	By, as far as I understand it, again, I'm no legal expert, but it's illegal to pressure a judge to change their ruling, right?
	I mean, that's intimidation, judicial intimidation's Severely illegal, as is, I think, leaking from the Supreme Court, although I think a new bill's been introduced to talk about.
	That's amazing. Like, nobody's talking about who this leaker was.
	From Clarence Thomas, I think, is saying that this was coming up.
	And, you know, kudos to the Supreme Court justices for...
	Hanging in there when you've got all these crazy activists, like at their houses.
	And somebody just tweeted, I think it was Kavanaugh's home address and so on, because this is where things are.
	It's just doxing and violence.
	Doxing, defamation, and violence is the holy trinity of leftism these days.
	And so... It's illegal to do what they're doing, to intimidate the justice into changing their ruling.
	I assume that's what the at-home protests are all about.
	Of course, no one's getting arrested, right?
	And you've got Ocasio-Cortez out there screaming, it's illegitimate, right?
	Because, you see, democracy to a lot of people means...
	Getting what you want. And when you don't get what you want, democracy is illegitimate.
	Which is, I mean, creepy as hell, right?
	It's creepy as hell.
	So, but when it comes to all of these women, and it's mostly women, there's some man buns out there too, but it's mostly women.
	They're out there, you know, threatening violence and demanding the right to kill babies in the womb and so on.
	And I, for one...
	I'm a big one for, like, turn the lights on, let's see what we're dealing with.
	Like, turn the lights on, let's see what we're dealing with.
	You know, like, if you hear rattling sounds in the kitchen, turn the light on and see how many cockroaches are there, right?
	You've got to know what you're dealing with.
	I'm a big one for that. Now, something that I have been talking about since the very first time I picked up a microphone and chatted with the planet, lo, though, 16 years ago, is female evil.
	Female evil. We need to get a handle on to understand a process.
	Female evil.
	Female evil has different characteristics.
	I mean, there's lots of overlap, right?
	But there's some mildly different characteristics, depending on the women, on average, right?
	And I've got whole shows about that.
	Just do a search for female evil.
	You go to fdrpodcast.com.
	You can type the search term in and you'll get all that stuff out.
	So, whether you're pro or anti-abortion...
	Whether you're pro-choice or pro-life, you gotta at least understand that abortion is a bad thing.
	Abortion is a bad thing.
	And it's an eminently preventable bad thing.
	It's like diabetes.
	Yeah, diabetes is really bad.
	I mean... The stats, what is it?
	73% of Americans are overweight and close to 50% are obese.
	20% have diabetes or prediabetes, although I think they're still second to Mexico.
	So diabetes is bad and it's almost, almost, right?
	This is a type 2, the one that's based on lifestyle.
	Preventable. Why is healthcare so expensive?
	Because 5% of people consume 50% of healthcare costs, right?
	So, yeah, diabetes is terrible, and again, I think it's a type 2, it's eminently preventable.
	Obesity is terrible, eminently preventable.
	Abortion is terrible, eminently preventable.
	There's one woman in human history who had no choice about conception.
	And so, I mean, other than, of course, victims of rape and so on, right?
	So, it is a terrible thing that we should want to minimize.
	I mean, there's reports that it's harmful for women's health to have an abortion.
	And so this, you know, cheer your abortion, shout out your abortion, I'm proud, it's a basic human right and all this kind of stuff.
	It's like, I don't know, activists always attach the word right to everything.
	Oh, they've taken away a fundamental constitutional right.
	No. The Supreme Court has ruled that that constitutional right, if you can even call it that, never existed in the first place.
	That this was a 50-year mistake that cost 60 million babies' lives, give or take, right?
	But here's the other thing that's interesting, right?
	Again, public choice theory.
	There were about a million abortions a year pre-Roe v.
	Wade, and there were about a million abortions a year post-Roe v.
	Wade. It didn't actually change things an enormous amount because, of course, the law wasn't enforced anyway.
	You've got two women throughout all of American history being prosecuted for any of this stuff.
	So... When you see, you know, it's like that meme where the woman says, you know...
	I've had five abortions.
	I'll have kids when I'm damn well ready.
	My body, my choice.
	My body is a temple. And the other woman is like, yeah, an Aztec temple.
	Because child sacrifice is a pretty powerful mechanism for social control.
	And when you have this level of, you know, 60 million, that's 10 times the Holocaust, you've got that level of, or that number of bodies.
	That's a lot of bodies.
	It's a lot of bodies. So when you see women who are, you know, what is it, French feminists, all they ever do is lift their top and show their boobs for everything.
	Well, they're French, not many boobs.
	But it's wild.
	Like men in particular, you need to look at this.
	Look at this directly in the eye.
	These are women who are out there.
	They're not saying, like, I can really sympathize with and understand the position where someone says, you know, abortion is a terrible thing.
	We should really, really work to minimize it.
	But in, you know, I can understand why a woman would really want to have that choice and, you know, it could happen in situations, you know, incest, rape and so on.
	And, you know, or just a woman who's just made really bad decisions.
	She happened to be drunk. She, like...
	Okay, I don't necessarily agree, but I can respect that perspective.
	As opposed to, like, it's a foundational human right for mothers to kill their fetuses, or mothers-to-be to kill their fetuses, and anybody who disagrees with that is a hateful misogynist.
	The idea that you're a misogynist for opposing abortion when half the babies who are aborted are female, it's just so bizarre to me.
	It's so bizarre. It's so bizarre to me.
	So, no, this is the hydra of female evil breaking.
	Like the periscope on Dust Boat, breaking the surface so that people can see it.
	A lot of women are wonderful.
	A lot of women are perfectly, profoundly moral.
	A lot of women oppose abortion and so on.
	But these Moloch harlots out there beating their chests and celebrating this horrifying situation...
	No, no, no. You've got to, you know, prop your eyes open, Roddy McDowell style, and just see it for what it is.
	That this is just straight up female evil.
	To celebrate something this awful.
	You know, if you're pro-death penalty against the death penalty, we all understand that the death penalty is not something that we should celebrate.
	And so if you're out there saying, I celebrate, you know, I celebrate the death penalty, like that is, that's weird, right?
	It's a horrible situation that any society ends it in, where they have to, or they feel they have to, or it's legal to kill someone, not in self-defense, but retroactively.
	You don't celebrate that.
	It's a tragic situation as a whole.
	So the celebration of this horrible situation where a fetus loses its life and its future Out there celebrating it?
	No, no, no. You've got to prop your eyes open and look directly at that stuff.
	That is really, really important.
	It's really important to just look at that, that there are women.
	And I have some sympathy.
	A lot of corruption, a lot of propaganda, and so on.
	And, you know, bottomless levels of selfishness.
	You know, I am so glad I was not a pretty woman.
	Like, I was a pretty young man.
	But I'm so glad I was not a pretty young woman.
	Because, you know, as men in particular, I know women listen to the show, and thank you for that.
	You know, man to man, we have no idea what that kind of power is like.
	We have no idea. To be a pretty young woman with guys circling around you like sharks around chum, we have no idea what kind of power that's like.
	When I was younger, maybe 75% of the women I asked out would go out with me.
	So I was doing okay, but I still have like 5% of the power of your average pretty woman.
	Now, I could not have handled the power of a pretty woman when I was a teenager.
	I simply could not have handled being an attractive woman when I was younger.
	Because as a fairly attractive young man, I was even scouted for modeling once.
	So as a fairly attractive young man, I could, but I still had to be proactive.
	Women weren't lining up to ask me out.
	It happened a couple of times, but women weren't lining up to ask me out.
	Everywhere I turned, it's like, oh, here's some free stuff.
	Oh, let me buy you a coffee.
	Oh, let me buy you a drink. There was none of that, really.
	I remember one woman from a big radio station offering to get one of my plays produced on the radio, basically, if I were to go out with her.
	Another woman offered to get my book published if I would go out with her.
	And, I mean, I said no to both because that's not the way I play.
	Staff Pod Aim for Sale. I think that we kind of recognize that from the last couple of years of endless deplatforming.
	But I could not have handled the power of being an attractive young woman when I was that young.
	Now, when men get their high sexual market value, we're in our 30s, usually late 30s, early 40s or whatever, when we've got some coin, we've got some stability, we've got a career.
	The woman doesn't have to roll the dice and hope we'll be successful.
	We've got something under our belt to show for it.
	But by that time...
	You've matured. I mean, you're 20 years past a woman's peak sexual market value, so you've had some time to mature and learn how to handle your power and all of that.
	So it's a, you know, the problem of youthful female high sexual market value power is a massive Gordian knot that many societies have taken many different approaches to try and control.
	Mostly it's been monogamy, right?
	That the woman has to choose a guy and then be monogamous, and the longer she waits, the fewer good guys are available, so she's got to cash in quick.
	Because the time of peak sexual market value for women is supposed to be no more than 6 to 12 months.
	So let's say the woman can marry historically at the age of 18, so she's got to start looking a little earlier, but she's got to make her mind up within 6 to 12 months of turning 18.
	And then peak sexual market value doesn't matter as much because she's now monogamously married, she's pregnant, she's having kids, so...
	It's really only supposed to be a 6-12 month massive bonus lottery ticket that you've got to cash in because the value is going down pretty quickly.
	Not necessarily in terms of the woman aging out of being attractive but because the good guys are all being taken.
	So you've got this short, short window.
	It's supposed to be a flash in the pan.
	It's supposed to be 1% of your life and yet women trying to stretch this out into their 50s and it's like using bizarre creams made from circumcision.
	It's very strange stuff. So yeah, we're looking at, you know, a kind of female corruption that happens for some women.
	You've got to look at this straight in the eye.
	So the fact that there are women out there, you know, threatening violence, enacting violence, you know, trying to celebrate this pretty demonic mess, it's pretty interesting.
	Two other things that I think are important as to sort of why now, well, obviously Trump, Trump said he was going to get the Supreme Court Justice has appointed an overturn Roe v.
	Wade, so he managed to do that.
	And that's an interesting question, right?
	That's an interesting question.
	So for those who had some effect in getting Trump elected and who got deplatformed perhaps as a result, looking at those people, I can think of a few.
	It's like, okay, but that's probably worth it, wasn't it?
	I mean, if this reduces the number of abortions, which it might, I'm not sure that it will because I think that all that will happen is that when abortions become harder to obtain, women will simply switch to more effective forms of birth control.
	I think that's what will happen and I don't think it'll...
	I think it will change behaviors that lead to abortion in the same way that when you give poor people money, you change the behaviors that lead to poverty because you've changed the incentives.
	An incentive that changes this fundamentally is going to have an effect on On how seriously men and women take birth control.
	So I think it'll just go around preventing stuff and so on, right?
	But let's say that a certain number of babies will be saved.
	Okay, well, so let's say people got deplatformed or whatever, but in return, you know, they gave up their social media presence, but in return, they got...
	Well, they save the lives of, I don't know, a couple hundred thousand babies per year, maybe?
	Seems like a pretty good deal to me.
	Mostly courage is not really a thing.
	Courage isn't really a thing. What is a thing, though, is perspective, right?
	If you have the right perspective, give a man a why, he can bear almost any how.
	If you have the right perspective, you can do just about anything.
	So for those people who lost social media platforms, sometimes built up over many years because of...
	Being somewhat pro-Trump or at least anti-Hillary, it's a pretty good deal, isn't it?
	I mean, it's a pretty good deal.
	To give up eyeballs and clickbait and clicks for actual human lives, it's pretty good.
	I mean, it's pretty good, right?
	So, I think sort of two things kind of came about that changed this as well, other than, you know, Trump and so on.
	The left for sure lost the moral high ground of My Body, My Choice with the Rex Mandates.
	Let's be completely clear about that.
	These things have a big effect on people.
	A big effect on people.
	So... When you say you have to be vaccinated with the COVID vaccines in order to participate in society, to have a job in some places, to travel, to whatever, right? Then my body, my choice out the window, completely out the window, completely out the window, and say, oh, well, the pregnancy is not transmissible.
	It's like, yeah, the principle remains the same.
	So, the moral high ground of my body, my choice, right?
	So, for the people who were pro-vax mandates, and this is a lot of the left, most of the left, really.
	If you're pro-vax mandates, and you'll notice that the my body, my choice stuff, it's totally out the window.
	I have not seen much of it, if any.
	I haven't obviously read exhaustively, but I haven't seen much of that stuff.
	My body, my choice has not been kicking in.
	because it's so easy to counter, right?
	So all that happens is someone posts my body, my choice, and then somebody goes and finds some Facebook or Twitter thing where they posted that everybody has to get a vax mandate.
	And then it's like, well, shut the fuck up about my body, my choice.
	Just give me a, don't be ridiculous.
	Don't be a ridiculous human being.
	It's way, so people are just, so this is the price, right?
	This is the price of the vax mandates, right?
	And this is the blowback that's always pretty wild when it comes to these things.
	And then when it went from...
	So Roe v. Wade was supposed to originally protect babies until they're viable outside the womb, right?
	And that was changed in a variety of places and so on.
	And also in Roe v. Wade, there's something like about the mental health of the mother, and that got really ridiculous, right?
	You had doctors.
	So whatever you could get a doctor to sign, oh, I think I'm going to be depressed if I have a baby.
	So then they sign off on the abortion and all that.
	And in fact, there have been some instances where a doctor would literally sign off on a woman saying, you can get an abortion because you want to go to a rock concert, and you'll be really unhappy if you don't get to go, right?
	So, somebody says, if my body, my choice, then why not baby's body, baby's choice?
	It always seems like the worst argument for abortion, in my opinion.
	No, but you see, slogans are not arguments.
	You know, my body, my choice, I'm pro-choice, and so on.
	Well, if you're pro-choice, well, the baby doesn't want to be killed.
	So, I mean, it's like the, you know, 2, 4, 6, 8, who do we, blah, blah, blah.
	Like, it's just... Right?
	I mean, just chanting stuff is just a weird...
	putting yourself into a semi-satanic trance, right?
	It's just about the cessation of neofrontal cortex activity.
	It's not about any rational process of reasoning.
	But the idea that the left is my body, my choice, totally went out the window with the VAX mandate.
	It's like there's nobody who can maintain that.
	I mean, and, you know, quibbling about what's transmissible and what's not and so on.
	It's like, so...
	That's so my body, my choice out the window.
	That's one thing. And so as Roe v.
	Wade was in the process of kind of eating itself, right?
	Because it's about protecting babies until they're viable.
	And of course, babies now getting viable earlier and earlier and earlier and so on, right?
	And the focus on partial birth abortions, oh my God.
	Like, yeah, I think here in Canada, you can have an abortion up until the birth.
	I mean, it's really wild.
	And I don't know if it passed or not, but there was some...
	I think it was in California, there was some, you know, well, maybe you can have an abortion even after the baby's born for a certain period of time.
	Like, just really, really crazy stuff.
	And the failure of...
	The revolution to know when to end, right?
	So if you have a privately funded revolution, right?
	This is the problem with government money, one of the many problems with government money, right?
	So if you have a privately funded goal, right?
	So our goal is X, then you go around, people who want X will give you money for it, right?
	But then when X has been achieved, they start giving you money for it.
	But when you have a government program that funds, we want X... People don't sit there and say, oh, well, we achieved X, so we'll just fire ourselves, disband all our funding and go get jobs elsewhere.
	No, they just invent a new X, a new thing.
	So when you have particular government funding of activism, the activism never ends.
	It always escalates, right? And you can see this with a wide variety of agendas, environmentalism and so on, right?
	So, somebody says, saw someone say opposition to vax mandates should be pro-abortion law since you can't force people to get vaxed and you can't force them to give birth.
	Right, right.
	Right, but sexual activity carries with it.
	I mean, sexual activity is designed for birth.
	That's why we like it so much, right?
	So... All the left has to do is pass an amendment which defines the right to abortion.
	It can't be passed currently. No, no, that's right.
	That's right. That's right. The fact that it's going to devolve to the states and there's like two dozen states that are pretty close or have already worked on bills that are banning abortion is pretty wild.
	It's pretty wild. No, but it's the kind of thing where...
	The Roe v.
	Wade thing as well has to be looked in the context of immigration and demographic change, right?
	So Roe v.
	Wade, it's easier to make the case for immigration when birth rates are low.
	So if you look at, you know, 60 million...
	Aborted babies and about 60 million immigrants, right?
	She said, well, we have to have the immigrants to replace the population that's not having enough babies, right?
	Now the average median age for moms in America is now 30, right?
	So that's going to cut you down to two kids at best, usually.
	That is, I think, fairly important that if you want mass immigration for whatever reason, then you kind of need to get abortion going so that you can make a stronger case, as you see, for mass immigration.
	So that could be an aspect to it as well.
	Alright, that's most of what I wanted to get across with regards to Roe v.
	Wade. I think it's pretty wild.
	Oh, there's one last thing I just mentioned.
	I did a whole show on this not too long ago, so I'll just touch on it really briefly.
	So why is it that women are so messed up with some women?
	Some women, obviously, to be real specific about it.
	Most women oppose abortion on demand.
	Why is it some women are so upset?
	Again, we don't have...
	You know, when I was a young man, there weren't women lining up for a sample of my sexual prowess, right?
	I mean, we don't really know what it's like if you're on the male side of things, that if there's a possibility of sexual access...
	How much attention, how many resources, how many clicks, how many likes, how many thirsty people are in the comments and so on?
	As men, we can't fathom that level of power.
	I mean, maybe some rock stars or Wilt Chamberlain, whatever, but pretty much all men, and even they would probably still have to initiate.
	We don't know what it's like to have this endless conveyor belt of men who want to just take us out and spend money on us.
	We just don't know what that's like.
	Now, here's the problem.
	If sexual access gets inhibited, then women lose attention.
	And listen, it's real easy to get addicted to stuff.
	Oh, so easy to get addicted.
	At least I never got addicted to controversy.
	That would have been crazy.
	But no, it's real easy to get addicted to stuff and to get addicted to male attention, to get addicted to the dopamine hit of likes and thirst and you're so pretty and you're so beautiful and you're so hot and let's go out and I want to...
	I get it. I would find it quite exhausting and pretty tiring and annoying after a while, which is what marriage is designed to prevent.
	You get that ring on your finger and...
	Sorry, I just held up the wrong finger.
	If you get the ring on your finger, then you're off the market and you get the darts on your forehead and India, you're off the market.
	That's what it's supposed to be so that women don't get bothered by men from here to eternity.
	And, you know, the fact that women get bothered by male...
	Romantic attention until they pass 40 and then they get upset that they don't get as much, if any, male romantic attention and so on.
	So we don't know what kind of power that is.
	Abortion restrictions raise the potential cost of promiscuity enormously.
	Enormously. A woman can get high-value men.
	For single moms, it's a whole lot tougher.
	If it's possible at all. I mean...
	When my mom was young...
	You know, and slender and...
	I think it's fair to say beautiful.
	When my mom was young, she got my dad, who was an up-and-coming...
	You know, he was working on his doctorate in geology, gold exploration in South Africa.
	I mean, the man had a future. The men that floated around...
	My childhood? Honestly, kind of trashy.
	Honestly, kind of trashy.
	And this is one of the reasons why my mom resented me.
	And she was right.
	I understand this.
	Like, I really do. I'm not saying I sympathize.
	I'm saying I understand it. I understand that my mom looked at me and was like, you stand between me and the high-value man.
	Hard to argue. I'm not saying it's my fault or anything.
	I'm just saying it's hard to argue.
	Now, maybe she had this fantasy of, I don't know, Cary Grant or, you know, red carpets or flashbulbs everywhere.
	Well, she wasn't that pretty. But...
	She looked at me and it's like, well, if it wasn't for you, kid, I'd be able to get guys way better.
	And again, hard to argue.
	So any restriction on promiscuity or the potential for sexual access begins to strip women of the dopamine addiction of male attention.
	Because men are going to be more careful.
	And my brothers out there, my brothers and sisters out there, my God, please, please be careful out there in this new sexual marketplace of chaos.
	Like, please, God, it's Valhalla out there.
	It's Valhalla out there.
	So what's going to happen is if for a man and for a woman the potential costs and consequences of promiscuity go up, then the requirement, if not the demand for equality, goes up.
	So the more it costs you, the more benefit there needs to be.
	So with promiscuity, if there's virtually no cost for promiscuity, then you don't need a very high benefit.
	But if the potential cost for promiscuity is a baby that you can't easily get aborted, then your requirement for quality is going to go up.
	And all that women will do is they will resurrect.
	And now some of this knowledge has been lost, but they will simply resurrect.
	Maybe we should do a show on this.
	They will just resurrect and The female genius in filtering out unsuitable mates.
	All females throughout all the animal kingdom are complete and total geniuses when it comes to figuring out quality mates.
	We could not have evolved if that was not the case at all.
	Alright, let's see here. Well, and of course the other issue too is that if you get rid of – it's like the war on drugs, right?
	If you get rid of Roe v. Wade, which has happened, and opportunities for abortion goes down, but the welfare state is still in place, then you have an issue which is then overspending on the welfare state.
	So it's a challenge.
	All right. Let's see here.
	I was addicted to coffee for a while to stay sane in the day job.
	Well, no. I would argue that you used your coffee addiction to prevent you from getting a better job.
	A single mother can only attract a quality man if she radically ups her virtues.
	My argument for that would be that if she is upping her virtues to attract a higher quality man, she's not upping her virtues.
	Okay.
	Right? If she's upping her virtues in order to attract a higher quality man, then it's not really the same as upping her virtues, so to speak.
	I still can't believe this day has come.
	Yeah. Yeah, for sure.
	Absolutely. Absolutely. I have never been awarded the status of quality mate.
	I'm sorry about that. Lots more betas with blue balls.
	Right, so, you know, it's...
	My particular approach, I think this is most men's approach.
	Hit me with a Y if this was your approach.
	My approach as a male, when I started dating in my teens, start at the very top, the very top alpha female, and work your way down until the woman says yes.
	Start at the very top.
	Work your way down until the woman says yes.
	Or the girl says yes. To a date.
	To a date. That's all I'm talking about.
	And that's what we do. Right?
	That's what we do. Now, for women...
	In the flush of their most youthful fertility and attractiveness when they're young women, they have to attract what's tough.
	It's tough for women because you have to be pretty enough to attract the alpha male, but when you are that pretty, you attract just about every man who's going to take his shot, right?
	Take a shot at asking you out.
	And... Again, this is supposed to be a 6-12 month phase and 12 months is really pushing it, right?
	12 months is really pushing it.
	It's like the auction, right?
	Where the most popular goods get auctioned off first and if you arrive at the auction late, all the good stuff is already gone.
	And when I used to go and get my clothes by the pound of goodwill, there was no point going at the end of the day because all the good stuff would be gone and all you're left with is verdure pants with ridges so wide they look like World War I trenches combined with French plowman's ditches.
	So you really have to go kind of early to get the good stuff.
	The early bird gets the worm.
	So a woman who's the most attractive, yes, she can attract the alpha guy.
	He's going to have to commit to her and then she's off the market and then her beauty is ornamental for sure.
	There's nothing wrong with it. It's great, but it's not there to attract men.
	But women kind of want to push this stuff from 18 to 40 and it's like, she's 22 years for something that's only supposed to be 6 to 12 months.
	Crazy. Crazy.
	What does a supportive love relationship look like to you?
	What does a supportive love relationship look like to you?
	Well, you take delight in the other person's success.
	You take delight in the other person's happiness.
	You can't imagine your life without them.
	You support them.
	You'll take bullets for them.
	You'll stay up all night to help them with a particular issue.
	Your loyalty is unquestioned.
	And fundamentally, it's like you have to just really, really understand that you can't do better than what you've got.
	So, for the betas, here's the problem.
	So, the betas in the West, and I hate these terms in a way, but just use them for shorthand, right?
	So, the men who...
	Are five or below, right?
	Five or below in terms of attractiveness.
	And that's not just physical, but just as a whole, right?
	And you can always up yourself.
	Like if you're a man, take care of your teeth, take care of your skin, you know, moisturize, exercise, stretch, read, get good conversational topics.
	Don't let yourself be crushed into self-effacing shyness, which is really just a kind of vanity.
	Like, oh, you're so special that you've got to hide.
	And it's like... So, you can always do a lot to up yourself and who you are, right?
	So, you know, being bald may have saved my life, right?
	Because being bald, I worked extra hard on fitness and because I worked extra hard on fitness when I got cancer, I think it helped me beat it pretty easily and so on.
	So, you never know.
	So, let's say, but five or below on average, five or below men would never have access to To nine or ten women.
	They'd see them at a distance and then those nine or ten women would be snapped up.
	Right? So we all want the nine or tens.
	Everybody. I get that. Everybody wants the nine or tens.
	So five or below men would never get access in terms of marriage and settling down to the nine or ten women.
	So then what would happen is they'd say, okay, if I'm a five, I'm a guy, I'm a five, the best I can get is maybe a six.
	Now, if I wait too long, the sixes will all be taken by the other fives who say, yes, then I've got to get a five, and if I wait too long for that, I get a four, three, two, and right, then we're really scraping the bottom of the barrel, so to speak.
	And again, we're not just talking looks, but personality appeal and good sense of humor and conversationalist and all the values and so on.
	So, because of the intranet in particular...
	The guys who are fives can sign up for the only fans of women who are nines or tens.
	And here we are just talking looks.
	And they can interact with those women and they can give those women money and those women will accept that money.
	Now, for a man, giving a gift to a woman is an act of romantic interest.
	For a woman to accept a gift from a man is an act of romantic acceptance.
	I mean, there's this old Friends episode where Ross gives some brooch to Rachel that Rachel had talked about months before that she saw in a store that reminded her of her grandmother's brooch or something like that.
	So that's an act of romantic interest.
	So if you buy a present for a woman, you're saying, I'm romantically interested in you.
	And if the woman accepts the present...
	She's saying, I'm romantically interested.
	So this crossed over wiring, because again, the base of our brain, the lizard brain doesn't have any clue about the internet.
	It's like, oh, there's this unbelievably attractive woman.
	I've given her a gift and she's accepted that gift.
	I've given her a gift and she's accepted that gift.
	Now your brain doesn't know that it's 50 bucks over Venmo or however the hell it works.
	All your brain knows is that this really hot woman who's half naked has accepted your gift.
	And so she is reciprocating your romantic interest.
	That's the way it works in the lizard brain.
	That's just fact. I say fact like I've proven it or something, but that's my understanding of how it works.
	So the fives get their whys all crossed because they're giving gifts to the tens and the tens are accepting the gifts and saying, oh, thank you.
	Oh, that means so much. Oh, that's so special.
	Here's a private picture, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
	Now, this is even before my time, but if a woman gave a picture of herself to you, it's because she was really romantically interested in you or your wife or whatever, right?
	So I think one of the things on OnlyFans or other places is the woman will send you a picture of her, I guess, naked or whatever, or semi-naked.
	And that, again, is a sign of romantic interest.
	Obviously, sending a nude of yourself to some guy is a sign of significant romantic interest.
	So the fives are getting all their wires crossed because they're getting all of these...
	It's biological cues of reciprocal romantic interest.
	And so they fantasize that they're not a 5, that they're a 10.
	Why? Because the woman who's a 10 is sending them nude pictures and taking their money, which is wires into sort of massive signs that I guess maybe enhances the masturbatory experience.
	I don't know. What do I know, right? But, so the fives keep thinking that they're at the level 10 because their lizard brain is assuming that all of this interaction is occurring in real time and there's a real woman out there who's gorgeous who's sending you nude pictures and taking your money.
	Right? Which is a sign of massive romantic sexual interest in the past.
	So the fives are just aiming themselves...
	At the tens. Now, it works the other way for women.
	For women, what happens is the fives might be able to get an eight to sleep with her, but not to commit to her.
	In memory of the late, great Kevin Samuels, women control access to sex, but men control access to relationships, to marriage.
	So a woman who's a five might be able to get...
	An 8 or a 9, maybe even a 10, to sleep with her, but not to commit to her now.
	In the past, a man who slept with you was going to marry you.
	So they think they can wrap their legs around a guy and squeeze his man meat into producing a ring.
	Boy, there's a pivot image for you.
	I believe that's also, you can reproduce this with a pretzel and a piece of salt.
	So... So the women are like, well, he's willing to sleep with me.
	And in the past, if you slept with a woman, the shotgun marriage and so on, that was a path, pretty certain path, to marrying her.
	So for the men, it's giving money and receiving sexual imagery.
	For women, it's just sleeping with a guy.
	I call this the alpha widows, right?
	The alpha widows. The alpha widows are the women who've slept with a guy and therefore believe that because they slept with a guy who's an eight, then they can get married to an eight.
	And it's like, no, no, no, that's not how it works.
	Not how it works. So, we've got all of these crossed-wire signals.
	Now, it's hugely profitable and ego-enhancing for the top 10% to 15% of attractiveness for males and females.
	Hugely. I mean, they're having the time of their lives.
	They're like the super-rich people during the pandemic.
	Man, they're just making bank.
	They're making out like crazy.
	But everyone else, because their hopes get raised to the point where it feels like settling.
	It feels like settling.
	I Could Do Better is going to undermine any relationship.
	There's an old Seinfeld where George says to some woman who's a doctor who married some guy who's a car salesman or something, I guess you settled or whatever, right?
	And then ends up breaking up the whole marriage.
	And he's like, ah, just being folksy, just being folksy.
	But when you say to a man or a woman, you can do better, that kicks their brain in too, right?
	And our brain is always trying to climb up the ladder, climb up the ladder.
	That's why the ladder exists, the 1 to 10 or whatever.
	That's why the ladder exists so we can climb up it.
	We're a conquering species, the men and the women in terms of higher sexual market value.
	You start at the top and you work your way down until someone says yes.
	Now the yes used to be marriage.
	But now the yes is send me money, I'll send you nudes, or I'll have sex with you and never call you again or whatever, right?
	So the fact is that we're just getting all our signals crossed because of the internet.
	And again, the people at the top are making out.
	Like bank, literally like bank sometimes, there's women who make a million dollars a month on OnlyFans, by far the exception.
	Most women just destroy their lives through, I think, that kind of stuff.
	But the blue balls beta thing is because you're not willing to be realistic about the kind of woman you can get to marry you, to stay with you, to be the mother of your children, right?
	Could be wonderful women, right?
	Maybe they're not super attractive, but they could be wonderful women.
	And, you know, there's the old thing, too, that if you marry a beautiful woman, yeah, you'll be higher status, but you're always looking over your shoulder for some other guy slithering in to, you know, get his way and all that.
	I don't have as much sympathy for a lot of people with this alpha beta stuff.
	You know, if you're a five, get married to a five.
	You'll have a great life. A great life.
	Do you think now is a bad time to become a lawyer?
	Well, I don't know. It depends on the kind of school you're going to.
	There are a lot of law schools that are unbelievably super woke nightmares.
	And I think you'd really, really want to check out the curriculum and make sure you're not going to have to self-flagellate if you're a white male in order to stay in the course.
	What do you think? Who do you think has it worse in the dating field today?
	Women or men? And I'm talking about women who want alpha masculine men.
	Well, I don't like to measure the suffering of the sexes because it's different.
	It's apples and oranges in a way.
	But if I had to guess or had to put 51-49, I'd say it's worse for women because they have it better.
	So the people who have it better in an unsustainable situation actually have it worse.
	So, a man has a long time to make up for youthful screw-ups, right?
	Because a man can wait until he's in his late 30s, early 40s to settle down.
	He gets a woman, you know, 10 years younger or whatever, and he can do it, right?
	But a woman in her late 30s, early 40s is, you know, if you're able to get one kid, you're a miracle worker, right?
	So... Women get much more of a high earlier on, gets very addictive, very hard to give up, right?
	This is why women find it impossible to settle with a guy because there's always some new guy pinging them.
	And again, we don't know what it's like.
	It's really, really important to understand that.
	I don't know what the male equivalent is, maybe being a basketball star, rock star or whatever, right?
	But this is just most women when they're young, right?
	Yeah. So because women have such a high when they're young and such a short runway to establish a family in, I think that they end up with more negative consequences as a whole.
	As a whole. And men who want traditional submissive women.
	No, I don't believe in this traditional submissive women thing.
	I don't believe that a woman should submit to a man.
	I don't think a man should submit to a woman.
	Both parties should submit to reason, otherwise it just becomes dominance hierarchy, right?
	And, you know, a woman who's just going to, what, submit to you is a woman who lacks security, self-esteem, and reasoning capacity, so you don't want that for sure.
	Technology has ruined us.
	No, I think that's bullshit.
	I don't believe in blaming technology for personal failings.
	I don't believe in blaming technology for personal failings.
	Look, do you think that modern man is the only, like, there's a pornography or whatever?
	I mean, there's pornographic novels in ancient Rome.
	There's pornography that's been around since the dawn.
	Look at, in China and Japan, was it Netsuki or something like that?
	The pornography's been around forever.
	I mean, I get it, yeah, it's more prevalent, blah, blah.
	But... The feeling of having to gamble to get the highest possible rung of partners for your children, right?
	Male, husband, wife, partners for your children.
	That's been around since before there were even people.
	That's nature. That's nature as a whole.
	So technology has ruined us?
	No, I don't believe that's the case.
	Don't blame technology for propaganda.
	Propaganda is a function of the state, right?
	When you have a government school system, a government curriculum, you have one neck that the radicals can use to squeeze the reason out of people's veins.
	So it's not technology.
	It's not the issue. The issue is the violations of the non-aggression principle in hierarchical organizations.
	Ah, let's see here.
	I never understood this gift-giving shit.
	I'd rather set my balls on fire than pay only for these women.
	Well, yeah, of course.
	I mean, you're really wrecking the women.
	I mean, you understand that giving a woman money over the internet is a form of beta vengeance against a woman you can't have because you're completely corrupting her.
	You're corrupting and messing her up, giving her entirely the wrong signals.
	It's a form of vengeance. Dating apps make women be picky with the top 20% while making moves on a woman in person is way better odds for a man to get a date.
	Yeah, I would generally...
	I mean, I was off the dating market before apps really became a thing, but I don't think I'd use apps.
	If I was single, I would just be...
	Talk to women.
	Just go talk to women. I mean, I would go chat with women in restaurants and coffee shops and stuff.
	Never bars. I never really wanted to talk to women in bars.
	I can't do that screaming in the ear thing and can't have any kind of conversation, so...
	My grandparents only had to compete with the other marriage-age people in their community.
	Yes, that's true. That's true.
	And your grandparents lived in a state of appalling ignorance.
	Not their fault. I'm sure they were very smart.
	But your grandparents lived in a state of absolutely appalling ignorance because they didn't have any alternative media or internet or conversations like this where you could share information.
	It's hard when more women are stone-faced and ignore you sometimes.
	Yeah, it's called the resting bitch face.
	And it's what women who are very attractive have to do to be unfriendly to ward off men from attracting them, for sure.
	If a woman laughs at my jokes, she goes up one number.
	Yeah, for sure. And listen, being able to make a woman laugh is really, really important.
	Women are drawn to, what do they say, cute and funny, right?
	Because, you know, women can, I mean, women score higher in trait neuroticism.
	They tend to worry more. And a man who can lighten their load with a good joke or something that's funny is a godsend to a woman.
	So, I don't recall the source, but apparently the overwhelming majority of marriages are at most one point apart in the out-of-ten scale.
	Yeah, of course, a relentless filtering.
	It happens all the time. It happens all the time in nature, and it happens all the time with human beings.
	Everybody wants the 10, but you settle for what you can get.
	I do, you do, and if you're a 10, then you go for the 10.
	And if you're the 3, you go for the 3.
	Or maybe you'll go for a 4, but, you know, aim too high and you end up with a 0.
	0 is the people who don't reproduce, and then their sexual market value doesn't matter because they don't reproduce, so they just filtered themselves out of the 3 billion year march of gene pooling.
	What about the effects of abortion on crime?
	Yeah, I won't go into the details of that, but...
	So the general theory is, you know, sort of 16, 18, 19 years after the introduction of Roe v.
	Wade, crime went down considerably, and this is the result of women not having babies that they don't want and so on.
	So the answer to that is not Roe v.
	Wade. The answer to that is to make abortion...
	Sorry.
	The answer to that is to make adoption much easier.
	If adoption becomes easier, and it can be a multi-year process, lots of paperwork, crazy delays and uncertain outcomes, if If adoption becomes much easier, then the crime issue is not the case.
	I think that the crime issue had a lot more to do with better policing methods.
	It had a lot more to do with the elimination of lead in gasoline than lead in paint and so on.
	I talked about this with Freddie Gray years ago.
	So I think that there's a lot of pushback on the abortions leading to lower criminality.
	And you should look up, and for everything you do, for everything you do, If you have a particular position, look up blah blah blah rebuttal.
	So look up abortion crime rebuttal and just read the arguments and there's some really good solid arguments that abortion was not the key factor in reducing crime rates.
	Let's see here. How can I positively support the non-romantic women in my life to set themselves up for success?
	Well, just relentlessly remind them that they need to look for virtue in a man.
	They need to look for virtue in a man.
	And to get a virtuous man, they themselves must be virtuous, must be honest, they must be loyal, they must be dedicated, they must fight evil, but not to the point of self-destruction.
	They must support the good.
	And to get a quality man is the ideal because sex, romance, marriage is not about you.
	It's not about you. It's about your kids.
	Now I get that if you can't have kids, yes, enjoy getting married.
	If you're a bike, you can drive on a road.
	It doesn't mean the road's built for you, it just means you can use it.
	But the whole reason why we have monogamy, why we have marriage, is for the children.
	It has evolved as the best and safest and most positive environment for children.
	Children. So it's about the children.
	It's not about your ego.
	It's not about your vanity.
	It's not about your dopamine.
	It's not about how special and precious and princessy or princey you feel.
	It's about what's best for the kids.
	Focus on that and then you're using the bike in the right way.
	You ever try and bike up, like if your bike gets stuck in a bad gear and you go up some grinding gear and you're trying to go up a hill in some Some gear that's designed for free fall.
	You've got to use the thing in the right way.
	Use the thing in the right way.
	It works out well. Like I saw this meme the other day, this little video, where a guy's like, he's got a saw and he's trying to cut wood.
	And he's like, oh, there's got to be a better way.
	And then he goes out and he gets a chainsaw and he gases it up and he oils it up.
	And then he just uses the chainsaw to cut the wood like it was a saw.
	Use things in the right way and things go well.
	If you use your body in the right way, Right?
	Then if you've ever had, you know, you play tennis, you've got to learn how to not push the tennis but let it sort of swing organically and that way you won't injure yourself.
	If you weight lift, you've got to do it with the correct posture so that you don't injure yourself.
	Use things in the right way and they're your friend.
	Use things in the wrong way and they will destroy you or you will destroy them.
	And if you try to use sexual desire, sexuality, attractiveness and the thrill of being found attractive...
	For your own personal vanity, your own personal gratification, it will wreck your life and wreck your society.
	But if you use it in the right way to attract a virtuous mate who's going to be a great parent, co-parent to your children, boom, you are set.
	There were prostitutes in all ages.
	Yeah, there were prostitutes in all ages as well.
	Ah, I just heard from an interview that most women feel terrible to be on a dating site to find a date.
	Yeah, probably is, right?
	I have a sister-in-law who is just manipulating everyone around her, her parents particularly.
	Well, sit down and have a conversation with her about...
	So, if somebody's manipulative, they will only respond to consequences.
	A manipulative person...
	I mean, you can make the case of virtue.
	Maybe she'll find a way to make it happen.
	But a manipulative person will only respond to consequences.
	So, if you have a sister-in-law who's relentlessly manipulative and destructive and so on, sit down, have the conversation with her about virtue.
	Have a consequence. Conversations without consequences...
	For manipulative people, they're meaningless.
	In fact, you've just shown a weakness, which is that you want them to behave better, which means they'll stop manipulating you based on that.
	You show a weakness or a need to a manipulative person.
	You're just saying to a sadist, oh, here's where it hurts the most.
	And the sadist says, oh, great, I'll put my thumb there, right?
	So consequences. What are the consequences?
	Well, keep manipulating, and I'm not going to spend any time with you.
	I'm not going to socialize with you if you don't get help, get therapy, read books, do journaling, whatever you need to do to deal with this manipulative side.
	Hey man, I got a whole book out there about the power of ostracism called The Future.
	FreeDomain.locals.com.
	Sign up for a couple of bucks a month and you get the audiobook reading, you get the EPUB, you get the MOBI, the whole thing.
	It's a fantastic book.
	And oh yeah, so I did get some feedback that the beginning of the book is a little confusing and baffling, which I like.
	I like books that are confusing and baffling because I like the mystery, figuring out what's going on.
	But I think I will write an introduction to the book within the world, within the fiction.
	All right. Let's see here.
	My wife for 12 years did this classic thing of getting fat.
	How does a man tell his wife to look better or stop bitching about not having sex?
	I don't know if you mean you're not having sex or she's bitching about not having sex.
	So if your wife is getting fat...
	My guess is that there's something in her childhood that gave her some sort of body stability issue, something that happened.
	I mean, to me, it's just my opinion.
	I think there's some science behind it, but I can't say that I can prove this.
	But to me, if you look at the prevalence of obesity, I look at the prevalence of obesity as directly mirroring the prevalence of childhood sexual abuse.
	So if you have more single mothers, again, not blaming single mothers, just the way it is.
	As you have more single mothers, you get more childhood sexual abuse.
	I've said this a million times on the show.
	Children of single mothers are over 30 times more likely to be abused.
	I don't just mean sexual abuse, but to be abused if there is an adult male who's not related to them living in the household.
	30 times, right?
	So if you look at the prevalence, the increased levels of obesity, and everyone's like, oh, it's soda.
	Oh, it's high-fructose corn syrup.
	Oh, it's additional fat. Yeah, additional sugars.
	Yeah, yeah, I think these things are all important.
	But it's not like food temptations haven't been around since the dawn of time, but we are facing an obesity epidemic, which to me equals...
	A sexual abuse epidemic.
	Because when you're sexually abused as a child, then you have a difficult relationship with your own body.
	And do you want to be...
	Are you sexually attractive to men when you grow up if you were raped as a child by a man?
	Probably not. So this blue-haired stuff and shaving the side of your head and purposefully being as unattractive as possible and obesity and so on, I just look at that and it's like, I'm sorry, I just see the shadow of some pedophile over you as a child.
	That's just what I see. Again, I could be right, I could be wrong.
	And again, I've had conversations enough with people to know that this is kind of a pattern.
	But when I look at...
	Look, I'm not saying your wife was sexually abused as a kid.
	I'm just saying that that... Ask her about her childhood.
	Ask her more about her childhood. Ask her about her relationship with food and her body image and so on, right?
	So... And to me, a lot of the body positivity movement, you know, fit at any fatness, fit at any weight or whatever, a lot of that's just covering up because we have this big question, why are people getting so fat?
	And again, the first place that I would look is prevalence of childhood sexual abuse, which I think has been going up enormously.
	Okay, so then if we start to look at prevalence of childhood sexual abuse, we can start to look at ways to protect children better, which down the road will end up with less obesity.
	That's my particular approach.
	Of course, if you were a creep who preyed on children, you'd want to Let's see here...
	My husband and I met on a dating app, happily married with a baby and a home with plans to grow our family.
	Been together six years so far.
	Fantastic. Wonderful to hear.
	It certainly can happen.
	It certainly can happen.
	If you're listening to this, then you're a 10.
	Well, I think you're pretty high up there.
	You have to view your sexual attractiveness as only the factors under your control.
	I never felt less attractive for being bald.
	It's not under my control, right?
	I can't control whether I'm bald or not.
	So the things I can control, okay, I can take care of my skin, I can take care of my teeth, I can exercise, I can whatever, right?
	Not gain weight or whatever.
	I mean, I weigh less now than I did when I was 18.
	Well, that's partly because of the virus and all.
	Not the COVID one, but the one before that, because apparently I'm just falling over disease, these guys.
	So... Only focus on the things under your control.
	So if you're a woman, let's say you want different sized breasts or whatever, forget that.
	Focus only on the stuff that you can change.
	Focus only on the stuff that you can control.
	If you're a guy and you don't have a strong chin, okay, maybe you didn't chew enough gum when you were younger, I don't know, right?
	But if you're a guy and you don't have a strong chin, forget about it.
	It's not under your control.
	If your ears stick out, you know, I've seen some actors, some actor on the Sherlock Holmes, it's just like, it's complete, like, you'd hear a sonic boom if you broke a 20-mile run.
	Fantastic. Good frame. He's got these ears sticking out.
	He can't do much about that.
	Maybe you can pin him back or whatever, right?
	Forget about the stuff you can't do anything about.
	Focus on the stuff you can do something about.
	Work to improve that. That is the very best thing that you can do.
	All right. The abortion crime link was explored in Super Freakonomics, but I think recent research has made the authors rethink it.
	Yes, I think that's very true.
	All right. Yeah, let's not do a super, super long show tonight.
	Let's see. Yeah, I appreciate that.
	I'm not really doing other people's shows at the moment.
	I'm really loving the work that I'm doing solo.
	I'm loving the work that I'm doing call-ins.
	I'm loving the fiction that I've written lately and...
	I just don't feel a big draw to be on other people's shows, so I appreciate that.
	It's very nice. And to everyone who's emailing me, sorry, but it's not on my list at the moment.
	This is just what I'm really...
	You kind of have to follow your instincts with this kind of stuff, and my instincts are solo, call-ins, that kind of stuff at the moment.
	So I've navigated some pretty tricky shoals over the course of my career, such as it is, and I really do trust my instincts with regards to this stuff.
	Let's see here. When I see these beautiful women that I would have had a chance with, but going back to what you said a while, high maintenance equals self-loathing.
	Well, look, not every beautiful woman is high maintenance or whatever it is, but you have to look for qualities of character.
	Think of it from your baby's perspective.
	You really do. Does your baby care how hot the mom is?
	No. Baby cares how emotionally available the mom is, how dedicated to taking care of her the mom is, how patient the mom is when the baby wakes up for the third time in the night, right?
	How solid and secure the mom is.
	And the baby also cares how much the mom loves the dad and how much the dad loves the mom.
	We don't learn how to love by being loved.
	That's like saying we learn how to be a chef by being fed.
	No. We don't learn how to love by being loved.
	We learn how to love by watching our parents love each other.
	The best thing you can do for your kids is to love.
	The mom to love the dad.
	It's the best thing you can do for your kids.
	Plenty of pretty women out there.
	Just talk to them in person at venues, bookstores, coffee shops, gym.
	Not a place like a bar or a club.
	Yeah, you can talk to women.
	Look, you can talk to women and if they're not interested, sorry, didn't mean to bother you.
	Move on, right? Just be polite. There's nothing wrong with, you know, talking to two women.
	I mean, if they've got a wedding ring on, leave them alone.
	And, you know, if they're with a boyfriend, some guy, leave them alone.
	But if they're, you know, nothing wrong with taking 20 seconds out of someone's day and saying, oh, I read that book.
	What did you think? And if they're like, I'm sorry, I don't really feel like chatting.
	No problem. Hey, thanks. Have a great day.
	Just move on. And remember, see...
	Pretty women often don't feel as pretty as you think they do.
	Because for you, you're looking at them like, oh, they look fantastic.
	But pretty women are comparing themselves to like Kate Moss or, I don't know, Emily Rajowski.
	The pretty women are just looking up.
	They're looking up too, right? So the woman who's an iron is looking up and saying, oh my, the tens are really beautiful.
	I'm just not, right? So...
	You know, there's a lot of people who look great on the outside who don't enjoy their own company on the inside.
	And maybe you can give a woman some leadership that way.
	Is it okay if a woman doesn't want you to get more fit?
	No. See, if the woman doesn't want you to get more fit, that's because she thinks you'll do better than her over time.
	And what she should want to do is keep up with you in your sexual market value so she'd both get fit together.
	I think I'm a simple man.
	All I look for is someone to enjoy each moment of life with and have some stillness in learned love.
	You think that's simple?
	I think I'm a simple man.
	I'm an uneducated man.
	All I want is a PhD in rocket science.
	It's simple. No.
	What you're talking about to enjoy each moment of life with...
	First of all, you can't enjoy each moment of life.
	It's a completely unrealistic standard.
	There's a lot of suffering in life.
	Come on, let's be frank.
	Whoever you love...
	You're going to watch die. If you're lucky.
	Unless you both die together in some fiery crash.
	Whoever loves you is going to watch you die at some point.
	A lot of suffering in life.
	You try to do good and Evil people lie about you and gullible people believe them, right?
	So there's a lot of suffering in life.
	And it's really just the robustness to get through it that is really the only definition of your chance for happiness.
	Trying to find some way to enjoy each moment of life.
	I don't even know what that means.
	You know, if you've eaten weird and you've got some dinosaur bone-sized piece of shit coming out sideways, I don't know how you enjoy that moment in life.
	So you get a hemorrhoid.
	I don't know. Anyway, so... He's saying, I'm a simple man.
	I just want to enjoy every moment of my life and have some stillness in learned love.
	It's like, none of that is simple.
	And if you don't accept the fact that there is a significant amount of suffering in life, then you are going to be forever not just unhappy from the suffering but frustrated because somehow you think it shouldn't be happening or it's your fault that it is happening.
	Well, I should be enjoying every moment of my life.
	I'm not enjoying this week at all.
	It's my attitude that's wrong.
	It's like, no, no, there's just a lot of suffering in life.
	It can happen, right? I gave up soda pop.
	I figured if Joe Walsh can give up drinking, I can give up Coca-Cola.
	Yes, soda, sugared sodas are Satan's semen sweat.
	I mean, just please, God, if there's only one thing that you get from me tonight, stay off sodas.
	I like a carbonated drink myself.
	I get a little bit of lemon, throw it in a carbonated drink.
	I think that's fine. And I'm a little bit of a sucker for kombucha.
	A nice spicy flavored kombucha is really nice.
	But yeah, pop, sugared pop.
	I was reading some, I was reading some, oh God, you know, it hurts.
	Sometimes it's stupid as burns, right?
	I was reading some guy's story and he was like, oh yeah, I went from 200, 300 pounds.
	I couldn't figure it out. You know, I mean, I'd walk a lot.
	I didn't eat too much.
	I couldn't figure it out. Couldn't figure it out.
	And then, you know, someone after, you know, I passed 300 pounds, somebody's pointing out that, you know, the two to three liters of Mountain Dew I drink a day might be having an effect.
	I'm like, oh my God.
	The last time I had a sugared soda, 20 years ago, I don't know.
	I mean, every now and then I'll break down for a couple of sips of Diet Coke, which has always been a nice ambrosia for me, but not great.
	It's not great for me. All right.
	My wife was not abused but has a terrible relationship with food, and her father was controlling and verbally aggressive.
	Okay, so if your wife grew up with a verbally aggressive, controlling father, then he controlled her diet.
	You can't eat this. You shouldn't eat that.
	You will eat that. You won't eat that.
	You'll eat what I damn well put in front of your face.
	And so now she's just going to overeat to defy her father because apparently diabetes is rebellion.
	All right.
	If you see a woman with bad form in the gym, then that's an opportunity to offer suggestions while making small talk.
	It can be for sure.
	And you then will find out if there's a woman who's coachable, right?
	You have to be coachable in a relationship.
	You have to be able to give feedback, have the person listen, take feedback, let the other person talk.
	Oh, Steph, you got a fictional book?
	Why, yes, funny you should ask.
	You can go to freedomain.locals.com.
	I just released, I think it's 19 hours, audiobook reading.
	Great. I'm still listening to it obsessively, like I listen to it every day while I'm doing other stuff.
	And it's just fantastic.
	When is show 5,000?
	Come and gone, my friend.
	It's come and gone. I just published it yesterday.
	Let's see here. What's the lead time on the bathwater?
	It's long, man, because I don't bathe much.
	Just kidding. I bathe every day.
	Let's see here. I'm a casual teacher.
	I haven't taught a single word in four years.
	Students are on their phones.
	I watch locals and Jesse Lee Peterson videos.
	Safest way. What can you do if you never saw a loving relationship growing up?
	Well, you have a perfect example of what not to do, right?
	So I just talked about the guy who drank Mountain Dew, so don't drink Mountain Dew.
	Don't want to get fat, right?
	At least don't drink too much. So I grew up, I didn't see loving relationships, so I know exactly what not to do.
	Don't blame other people. Don't project.
	Don't be defensive. Don't refuse to listen.
	Don't escalate. Don't raise your voice.
	Don't call names. All these things.
	You take away all the bad stuff, you're mostly left with the good stuff.
	Do you do call-in shows for 17-year-olds?
	I do not. Sorry, you've got to be an adult.
	No sugar at all in Diet Coke?
	Yeah, I've just got aspartame, which is not super good for you, so...
	Let's see here.
	Stevia is a solid replacement sugar.
	I don't know about you, my stomach can't handle stevia that much, so...
	My mother-in-law wants to make amends for the past, but my father-in-law...
	Stevia mixed with erythrol.
	However, it is spelled as okay.
	I don't know. All right. Any last questions or comments?
	I think I will. I mean, an hour and three quarters because we just burn through stuff in this way.
	Yeah, just don't have much.
	Sorry, these questions or comments are too sketchy for me to be able to answer.
	Okay, so I've got a new show coming out over the next day or two.
	I had an amazing conversation with a guy who genuinely wanted to know if he had killed his entire family or wondered if he had.
	It's a pretty wild call.
	Please check out the woman, this Jamaican woman who ended up trapped as an escort in Japan.
	It's show 4999.
	Please check that one out.
	It's an amazing conversation, and kudos to her bravery and courage in the conversation.
	It's really, really well worth checking out.
	Sorry, someone says, Steph, wait.
	I meant to say, how do I deal with this?
	How do I deal with...
	Okay, sorry. Wants to make amends for the past, but my father-in-law doesn't give a crap.
	Let me just see if there's anything else.
	How did you handle vacations when you had a software team, being able to separate yourself from the work?
	Well, you're just in it for the long haul, right?
	You're just in it for the long haul.
	And you also want to model taking breaks.
	Because otherwise, buy and burn.
	You just burn people out and they'll quit.
	And I wanted to keep employees around.
	Somebody who's embedded themselves, like I wrote, I don't know, hundreds of thousands of lines of code.
	And when people learned my coding environment, having them stick around was essential.
	You don't want to burn them out.
	You want to make sure they still have lives.
	It's like exercise. You don't want to exercise so hard that you injure yourself and then can't exercise.
	All right. Oh, how do I handle this instead of PIA? It was supposed to say this?
	No, you mistyped. It wasn't.
	It was. I heard the Jamaican woman's story.
	Very sad. I thought the Jamaican conversation was handled with kid gloves.
	Well, that's a completely useless statement.
	There's nothing specific in that about it all.
	And a woman who's been incredibly traumatized by an abusive history that went on for close to 20 years when she was sexually abused as well.
	What, was I too nice to her?
	That's your statement. Any chance you will do a show on entrepreneurship?
	Could be interesting. Could be interesting.
	I certainly have been doing it now for 25 odd years.
	Okay. So if you've got, let's say it's your father-in-law, your mother-in-law and your father.
	Okay. All right. So if you've got one family member who wants to make amends with the past and another one who doesn't care, you talk to the one who wants to make amends with the past, in my opinion.
	And give them the benefit, the reward.
	They say virtue is its own reward.
	Sure. Virtue is its own reward, but also freedomain.com forward slash donate.
	If you could help out the show, that would be excellent.
	Taking a lot of bullets for the cause over the last couple of years, trying to rebuild things.
	So freedomain.com forward slash donate.
	If you could, I'd really appreciate it.
	And the people who are good in your life...
	Throw them a bone, give them a reward, give them extra affection, however you feel, give them extra attention, spend time on the phone with them.
	The people who are bad, who mistreat you, don't reward them.
	At least don't reward them.
	You know, maybe stay away from them, but at least don't reward them.
	And you'd be amazed at how people will start to change based upon incentives.
	I mean, people respond to incentives, the basic principle of economics.
	All right, let's see here.
	Good, good. Thanks a lot for sharing your wisdom, Steph.
	You are awesome. Thank you guys so much.
	I appreciate that. Have a wonderful, wonderful night.
	Thanks for continuing great work.
	Some of your best work slash conversations have been in the last year.
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