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| Hi everybody, Stefan Molyneux. | |
| I hope you're doing well. Welcome to today's Daily Argument. | |
| This may be an admittedly hopelessly naive invitation to the trolls out there who, you know, will occasionally drop past this channel. | |
| And one of the recent, I guess, pushbacks or trollish statements that has been made repeatedly is that recently I put out a request for donations at freedomainradio.com slash donate to Help out the show and to commit to freedom and the spread of reason and evidence and arguments and all those kinds of good civilized things. | |
| Now, thank you to a lot of you who helped out. | |
| Very, very much appreciate it. | |
| It warms my heart and puts fire in my belly. | |
| So thank you very much to those of you who saw and who consume and who aren't supporting so much. | |
| Well, you know, it's your conscience. | |
| You've got to live with it, not me. But there was an interesting... | |
| And it shows up from time to time when I put out a request like this. | |
| There was an interesting kind of pushback, which is e-begging. | |
| Oh, it's so pitiful. | |
| Steph, you're begging. | |
| You're e-begging. Right? | |
| Well, that's interesting. | |
| And I can't even really imagine... | |
| What it would be like to live inside the torture device of a personality where asking for what you want, being assertive, being confident, asking the world for what you want, which we all have to do in order to get what we want. | |
| It's not like the world wakes up every day and stretches and brushes its teeth, washes its face and says, hey... | |
| How can we all help Steph achieve everything he wants in his life forever? | |
| That's not the way the world works. | |
| It's not the way you work. It's not the way I work. | |
| And no one is going to wake up and deliver unto you what you want for no particular reason. | |
| That stuff that should have happened when you were a baby, when you were a toddler, when you were a kid... | |
| But, you know, for a lot of us, sometimes it feels like most of us, it didn't even come close to happening that way. | |
| And so maybe we go around the world waiting for the world to give us something, waiting for the world to wake up and realize just how wonderful we are without us having to show particular talents or woo the world in any particular kind of way or anything like that, that... To ask the world for something is the same as begging, you know, what, begging for your life or, you know, begging for something. | |
| Now that's interesting because when you think about it, I mean, asking and begging or not, The same thing. | |
| Begging is an act of desperation, and begging is when you don't have anything of value to offer. | |
| Like a beggar on the street, whatever life circumstances, bad choices, mental illness, whatever has resulted in that person being on the street, they have the tin cup, to use a cliche, they have a tin cup in front of them, and they are begging, which means that they're asking for something Without being able to offer any specific value in return, right? | |
| So if you give to someone like that, maybe you feel better about yourself and so on. | |
| Maybe you feel like a good person and so on. | |
| Maybe that's the right thing to do. | |
| But it's not like they are offering you something in return. | |
| So begging is when you don't have anything to offer, but you're asking for consideration, you know, out of the goodness of someone's heart. | |
| It's throwing yourself prone on the floor and supplicating for a value, to get a value without offering anything in return. | |
| So that's interesting. | |
| So the question of begging, to me, comes down to this, is asking, begging. | |
| Now, if you conflate these two in your mind, if you say, well, if I ask for something, that is the same as begging, then to ask is a humiliating admission of providing no value, to ask for something. | |
| So, if you ask a woman for a date... | |
| Are you begging? | |
| If you ask for a job, are you begging? | |
| If you ask for a loan to buy a house or a car, are you begging? | |
| If every ask is a beg, that can only come from a place wherein no value can be provided in reciprocity to the asking. | |
| So, for instance, you understand, if you ask a woman out on a date, Then you are hoping, of course, that she wants to go out with you on a date, that she finds you attractive, stimulating, funny, engaging, whatever it is that's going to turn her crank. | |
| Prime her pump, so to speak. | |
| So if you ask a woman out on a date, it is with the assumption, of course, that you have something of value to offer her, which is going out on a date with you. | |
| Begging a woman for a date is the implicit admission that you have no value to offer the woman. | |
| Begging for a job is I know I don't have anything to offer you, but I'd really, really like it if you gave me a job. | |
| I need a job. | |
| I have no value. | |
| I can't bring anything to the table. | |
| I have no skills, no ambition, no talent, no drive, no motivation. | |
| Just sit me in a corner and pay me, you know, like I'm some disgraced teacher in the New York school board. | |
| Look up rubber rooms. It's crazy stuff. | |
| So, if I am out there in the world asking for what I want, support for the show to allow me to do what I'm doing and expand what it is that I'm doing, a lot of stuff in the works. | |
| If I am out there in the world asking and people perceive it as begging, that is a confession that they view all interactions as win-lose. | |
| At least the beggar is going to say, thank you. | |
| God bless you. Good for you. | |
| Now I'm going to go and get some food. | |
| I'm so hungry. He's going to give you the dopamine hit of appreciating what it is that you've done when you give him some money. | |
| But this is the sort of pure altruistic, what Ayn Rand criticized so heavily about altruism, that it's the surrender of a higher value for a lower value or no value. | |
| Now what kind of person thinks they have so little to offer the world that they genuinely mush up together asking and begging? | |
| Asking and begging. | |
| And the funny thing is, I genuinely think, I mean, this is how crazy people's minds can get, and I say this with sympathy, you know, if you're someone out there who has this perception, I'm telling you, my heart goes out for you. | |
| What kind of history must you have had? | |
| I mean, it's astonishing. | |
| Because I think people genuinely have the idea that if they refer to me as an e-beggar, This is somehow humiliating to me that I'm going to view myself, by being called a beggar, I'm going to view myself as someone who has nothing to offer the world and therefore must beg or manipulate or pretend to be something I'm not, whatever it is, right, to fool people. | |
| I have no value to offer. | |
| And so, like, if you're the kind of guy, like, you go, want to pick up a girl and take her home or whatever, and you have to lie about who you are, you have to pretend that you're rich, or you have to pretend you're accomplished, or you have to pretend that you are doing something for a living that you're not doing, if I'm a pilot or whatever it is, right? Well, clearly that's a confession that you are not enough as who you are, and therefore you must pretend to be someone else. | |
| You must, in a sense, fill in the creator of Of a lack of self-regard, a lack of self-worth, with the fantasy of I have X or Y accomplishment or X or Y value to make up for what I don't actually have. | |
| So it's funny, when people say this e-begging thing, I think they're genuinely trying to make me feel like I have nothing to offer. | |
| They're trying to humiliate me. | |
| But the reality is, all they're saying is that Their self-worth, the value that they could possibly offer to any interaction is so low or negative that they genuinely deep down confuse two opposite things, which is asking and begging. | |
| What a confession! | |
| And trawling is a confession. | |
| It is an attempt to transfer a pretty horrifying worldview to other people. | |
| And this worldview ends up in combat. | |
| Now some combat needs to be pretty rough and tumble, and I think some combat can be, you know, at least sort of hands across the water kind of stuff. | |
| So if you are a person in the world, and you genuinely think that asking for something, which is asking for reciprocity, In the face or with the history of having produced great value to the world. | |
| I mean, I have millions and millions of listeners. | |
| We've got, you know, I guess coming up for 200 million views and downloads. | |
| It's a huge amount of value to add to the world. | |
| People have voluntarily partaken deep of the cup I have proffered to the world. | |
| The cup runneth over, so to speak, given all the shows that there are. | |
| So I know that I've offered value to the world, so asking for reciprocity is fair. | |
| Genuinely don't know the difference between asking and begging. | |
| You are confessing that you don't have anything of value to offer the world. | |
| And you resent someone who does. | |
| And you wish to bring them down to your level of shame and self-loathing. | |
| And the first thing you want to do is stop doing that, please. |