I wasn’t planning to comment on the tragic Ray Rice/Janay Palmer domestic violence situation, but the hypocrisy of the media - specifically the recent monologue of CBS Sports announcer James Brown - has changed my mind.
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| So I wasn't planning to comment on the tragic Ray Rice-Janae Palmer domestic violence situation. | |
| Ooh, but the hypocrisy of the media, specifically the recent monologue of CBS sports announcer James Brown, has changed my mind. | |
| In February, Ray Rice was involved in a domestic violence situation with then-fiancée, now-wife, Janae Palmer, which resulted in her being punched and left unconscious in an Atlantic City casino elevator. | |
| At the time, video of Rice dragging his unconscious fiancée quickly surfaced, and people were justifiably outraged. | |
| At the time, the National Football League decided to suspend Rice for only two games. | |
| Rice and Palmer blamed their consumption of alcohol for the altercation. | |
| They were married in March, a mere month after the incident which left her unconscious. | |
| This week the story resurfaced after TMZ published video from inside the elevator which displayed Rice punching and knocking out Palmer in graphic and disturbing detail. | |
| Besieged by this negative publicity, his team, the Baltimore Ravens, decided to terminate Rice's contract, and the NFL suspended him indefinitely. | |
| The majority of the media commentary has been focused on the NFL's original decision to suspend Rice for only two games, and rightly so. | |
| But there are things far more important than football which are being left out of the mainstream discussion. | |
| The aforementioned and for domestic violence unfortunately named James Brown gave a monologue on domestic violence which has been heralded as powerful and remarkable in news reports. | |
| I'd have instead called it deplorable and sexist, but hey, that's why I'm not writing for the New York Times. | |
| Brown commented, I challenge the NFL community and all men to seriously confront the problem of domestic violence. | |
| Wait, what? | |
| Wouldn't it be productive if this collective outrage, as my colleagues have said, could be channeled to truly hear and address the long-suffering cries for help by so many women and, as they said, do something about it? | |
| Like an ongoing, comprehensive education of men about what healthy, respectful manhood is all about. | |
| Long-suffering cries of so many women? | |
| Education of men about what healthy, respectful manhood is all about? | |
| So this is yet another call to men to stand up and take responsibility for their thoughts, their words, their deeds, and as Dion says, to give help or to get help, because our silence is deafening and deadly. | |
| Oh, so domestic violence is all men's fault. | |
| Men Actually, a large part of the problem is people like James Brown and their incredibly disrespectful treatment of women in stripping them of personal responsibility. | |
| What do I mean? | |
| Well, domestic violence is not a men's problem, and that information is easily available to anybody who cares about actually addressing the subject. | |
| As I detailed in my recent Free Domain Radio presentation, The Truth About Domestic Violence, studies generally indicate that women initiate partner violence 25% of the time, men 25% of the time, and mutual violence occurs 50% of the time. | |
| Our silence is deafening and deadly. | |
| Dating studies reveal that women initiated violence at significantly higher rates than men. | |
| Our silence is deafening and deadly. | |
| It's a myth that when females aggress against male partners, it's always in the form of self-defense. | |
| Studies reveal that in half the cases it is impossible to tell who initiated violence, and in the other half, the initiation of aggression is about equal between the genders. | |
| Our silence is deafening and deadly. | |
| A 2006 study on physical and psychological aggression found that the common reason for male aggression was female physical aggression, while the common reason for female aggression was male verbal aggression. | |
| Our silence is deafening and deadly. | |
| Another study found that when weapons were employed in domestic violence encounters, men used weapons 25% of the time, and women used weapons 86% of the time. | |
| Our silence is deafening and deadly. | |
| A 2002 study found that male victims of domestic violence were subject to punishment and humiliation, as police and courts tend to disbelieve male victims. | |
| And that men learn to endure pain and not complain, which may account for their reluctance to report physical discomfort, pain, or injury. | |
| Hey, wait a minute, that reminds me of a certain sports league with a serious concussion problem. | |
| Our silence is deafening and deadly. | |
| In 1978, Susan Steinmetz identified battered husband syndrome and suggested that the incidence of husband beating was similar to wife beating. | |
| She received death threats for reporting this fact. | |
| Our silence is deafening and deadly. | |
| Is James Brown or anybody in the mainstream media talking about the rate of female domestic violence against males? | |
| No. | |
| And their silence is deafening and deadly. | |
| For more information on domestic violence and how we can fight such aggression, please check out the Freedom Aid radio presentation, The Truth About Domestic Violence. | |
| Domestic violence is terrible, disgusting, and immoral in all circumstances. | |
| If you really want to do something to combat it, take an objective look at the facts. | |
| Dismiss this men-or-evil propaganda-laden brainwashing and acknowledge that domestic violence is not a men's problem. | |
| It is a human problem. |