Internet is broken. Let's do reframes~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Politics, Reframes, Unprepared Public Presentations, Evergreen News Stories, Water Leaks, Bioshield, Pluvicto, Social Life Reframes, Parenting Reframes, Mistakes Reframe, Acts of Kindness, Scott Adams
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| I have no idea what to expect today. | |
| We got every kind of technical problem you can imagine. | |
| The X platform is down. | |
| I hear Locals is down, but I'm not sure. | |
| Because here it looks like it's working. | |
| Looks like Rumble is working and Locals is working and YouTube. | |
| Is YouTube working? | |
| Hard to know. | |
| So everybody stream in here and we're going to make something of this day, which is not getting off with a best start. | |
| Oh, you know what I have to do? | |
| I've got to print my notes. | |
| Hold on. | |
| Uno minute. | |
| Be right back. | |
| All right. | |
| I'm going to print those notes. | |
| I like it or not. | |
| Today is mostly a rolling disaster, but you're going to like it. | |
| You might even love it. | |
| I'm back. | |
| So what we're going to do today is some reframes. | |
| Because the news is all boring and terrible. | |
| Yeah. | |
| Fighting snakes. | |
| What? | |
| All right. | |
| Here's what we're going to do, people. | |
| I'm going to scoot over there and grab my notes because I do have a few. | |
| And then I'll be right back. | |
| Don't do anything while I'm gone. | |
| I swear I'll be right back. | |
| Another few people. | |
| All right, wait. | |
| All right. | |
| So I think we got enough people here. | |
| We'll make sure something happens. | |
| Something's going to happen. | |
| I don't know what. | |
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| All right, if you're just signing on this morning, we're just going to massive cloud problem that's taking down X. For most of the morning, I thought it was taking down locals. | |
| I tried to do the pre-show, but it glitched me out. | |
| I couldn't get on. | |
| But when I just logged on, it looks like locals might be working. | |
| All right, so here's what I thought I would do. | |
| Something like 100,000 people are going to sign on here expecting to see my regular show. | |
| Do you think they're going to see it? | |
| I had no ability to prepare because I use X as my, you know, 80% of all my preparation goes through X directly or indirectly. | |
| So I decided that what I would do is we'll do some reframes, but I'm also going to demonstrate something just so you can see it live. | |
| And what I'm going to demonstrate is what to do when all of your plans have been destroyed and you have to do something in public. | |
| So I'm now entering the scariest thing that an adult can do. | |
| It's very much like you're going to a test and you forgot to study, or you're going into the last day of school and you forgot your assignment. | |
| So you get to watch while you see if I can navigate this situation. | |
| Will it be easy? | |
| No, it will not be easy. | |
| Can I do it? | |
| Well, I don't know. | |
| We'll see. | |
| But I think it's fair to say that most people would have a nightmare showing up unprepared for a test. | |
| That's what I'm doing right now. | |
| I'm going to show you how to survive it. | |
| Easy, really. | |
| So here's the first trick for surviving when everything goes wrong. | |
| Your audience doesn't know what you were planning to do. | |
| So they can't tell it went wrong. | |
| They just know maybe it's not what you did yesterday. | |
| So if you can pull it off, try to sell it as normal. | |
| I was thinking today how talented the conservative podcast world is. | |
| And I was trying to think: how many people who have podcasts who have conservative audiences, how many of them could just sign on and do an hour of content without preparation? | |
| And the answer is: I bet a lot of them. | |
| I bet a lot of them. | |
| Could Benny Johnson do that? | |
| Probably. | |
| Could Megan Kelly do that? | |
| Definitely. | |
| Could all the people who are the main hosts on Fox News do that? | |
| Yeah, Greg, Jesse, Kennedy. | |
| They could all do that if they had to. | |
| Victor Davis Hansen, sure. | |
| So it does seem like some people are just born to do this. | |
| Maybe I'm in that category because I feel comfortable doing it. | |
| All right. | |
| Is anybody yet horrified? | |
| Because you're thinking to yourself, I'd hate to be him right now because he's going to do a whole show with no preparation. | |
| Oh, I got stories. | |
| I got plans. | |
| Yeah, it's not completely without preparation. | |
| So I've told you many times I took the Dale Carnegie course when I was in my 20s, and it teaches you how to navigate this exact situation. | |
| And by exact, I mean you had to do some kind of public presentation, podcast or anything else, and things went wrong. | |
| You're actually trained to do that. | |
| So I'm doing what I'm trained to do. | |
| So if it looks easy to me, that's not natural skill training. | |
| I'm just used to it. | |
| I also don't have any normal sense of embarrassment. | |
| So I'm not worried about things going wrong at all because I don't have any sense of embarrassment. | |
| And most of you would understand. | |
| I mean, if everything went terribly wrong, you'd all understand, right? | |
| It wouldn't be a big deal. | |
| And we'll see. | |
| Here's another trick for public presentations. | |
| You may have heard me say this one before, but it applies really well right now. | |
| That in order to be interesting in a public sense, you have to create the, well, you don't have to, but it's really handy. | |
| If you can create the illusion that you're in danger or somebody's in danger. | |
| So danger is what gets people's attention because it's a busy world. | |
| You know, we have stuff to look at. | |
| Can't look at everything all at the same time. | |
| So what I'm doing is creating a sense of danger. | |
| A small danger. | |
| The danger is that I would embarrass myself or humiliate myself by not being prepared. | |
| Nope. | |
| No problem yet. | |
| So yesterday, interesting thing happened. | |
| You probably want to know about it. | |
| So Carrie Lake was nice enough to put a very nice message on X, wishing me well, you know, with my health challenges. | |
| And then Elon Musk, and then she said something like, we love you to me, meaning the audience loves me. | |
| And then one of the people in the comments was Elon Musk. | |
| And he said, we do. | |
| What? | |
| So basically, I woke up to Elon Musk telling me he loves me. | |
| Now I love him too. | |
| So the feeling is quite mutual. | |
| But what you're wondering is, does it feel better when the most successful and richest man in the world tells you he loves you versus the average person? | |
| And the answer is, oh yeah, it's way better. | |
| Yeah, it's just so much better. | |
| Way, way better. | |
| It's funny because I'm joking, but not really. | |
| I mean, if you had a choice of being, if somebody telling you they love you, wouldn't it be cool if they were an awesome person? | |
| Yeah, it'd be a little bit better. | |
| I mean, it would be great no matter who it was. | |
| But it's a little bit better. | |
| Anyway, so I enjoyed that today. | |
| Thank you, Elon. | |
| All right. | |
| See what else is going on. | |
| You know, some of you are waking up and saying, Scott, I have OCD and you're ruining my routine. | |
| I come here to find out the news. | |
| Well, luckily for you, I have prepared the, what I call it, the evergreen news. | |
| So this is the news that just never changes. | |
| In science news, eating makes you gain weight. | |
| Psychedelic mushrooms make you less depressed, according to the scientist who came up with the idea of getting themselves psychedelic mushrooms and getting paid for it. | |
| Smartest scientists ever. | |
| Also, in the news, AI is still not able to do advanced general intelligence. | |
| Still can't do it. | |
| Advanced general intelligence. | |
| And we don't know how to make it do it. | |
| We don't know how to get there. | |
| In other news, some new group of rich people just pulled together a trillion dollars to invest in AI. | |
| That is still not able to do advanced general intelligence, and we don't know how to make it do that. | |
| Okay, maybe tomorrow. | |
| Meanwhile, American kids, American kids are getting fatter and stupider. | |
| No one has a plan for healthcare that would work. | |
| The Epstein files probably won't ever be released. | |
| Hamas doesn't want to disarm. | |
| Fentanyl is still coming in from China. | |
| The federal budget's still out of control. | |
| Trump thinks there's too much crime in cities. | |
| And Trump said something or did something authoritarian. | |
| Yeah. | |
| You did not see that coming. | |
| And other surprises in the news, Adam Schiff is accused of lying. | |
| There's a new photo of a UAP, but we couldn't get a clear photo of it. | |
| So that catches you up on all the news. | |
| Did I leave anything out? | |
| No. | |
| Well, here's an update on the simulation. | |
| One of the ways I know we live in a simulation, or at least I do, I don't know about you, is that I clearly have themes that would make no sense if it were random. | |
| One of the themes is I have continuous water leaks in my life. | |
| Now, those of you who have been following me for a long time are laughing because you know that is true. | |
| And I even predict them. | |
| I tell you, well, I got this one fixed. | |
| There's going to be another water leak problem. | |
| There always is. | |
| So yesterday, for example, I was in my lazy boy chair and I reclined the lazy boy, which was a bad move because it got my catheter bag stuck in the lazy boy. | |
| And it yanked a full bag of urine off the hose and started just draining it. | |
| Now, the good news is, caught it before it got to the chair, because the chair had cushions on it, because don't ask, because I've got a leg that's oozing. | |
| So it already had waterproofing on it from my leg in general. | |
| So we cleaned that up, got that all cleaned up. | |
| And this is one of those situations where you like being the disabled guy. | |
| Because I just got to sit there and say, you know, you might have missed some over there. | |
| I think you missed some over there. | |
| So it turns out if you're not the one cleaning it up, not that big a deal. | |
| Not that big a deal. | |
| Then later that night, I fell asleep, also in the lazy boy. | |
| And Gary the cat, I woke up maybe 2.30 in the morning, and Gary the cat had found a nice little nest in my arm. | |
| And oh, it was so cute. | |
| Gary was just soft and fuzzy, and he loved me, and he was just right in that crook of the arm. | |
| And then I thought, you know what would be good is I feel a little purged, so I'd like to take a sip of water. | |
| So I reached over carefully so as not to disturb Gary, took my water, and then very carefully tried to unscrew the cap. | |
| But apparently the unscrewing of the cap made some kind of a noise. | |
| Couldn't have been that loud, maybe something like this. | |
| And that was just enough to send Gary into a full cattywampus blizzard of arms and legs and tail. | |
| And I'm like, oh, God, no, it's a hurricane of cat parts. | |
| And when it settled down, when it settled down, I had a bottle of water all over me and no cat. | |
| So I don't know how you are doing. | |
| How are you doing? | |
| Anyway, you probably want an update. | |
| I'm going to read some reframes when we get to it. | |
| So today will be special. | |
| Change your lives. | |
| Anyway, some of you want my cancer updates. | |
| Here are some words that you might want to know if you're talking to somebody else about what's what, at least in cancer treatment. | |
| In my case, so Dr. Pat Sun Xiong is, he's got these, well, he's got something called the BioShield technology, which I already have in me. | |
| There will be more of it coming. | |
| Maybe you'll get some NKNT cells. | |
| Those would be helping my immunity. | |
| But then separately, there's this thing called Pluvicto that I have one of the upcoming, what will be a total of six, six doses over six weeks. | |
| So that's just in the process. | |
| At the moment, I'm weirdly pain-free. | |
| And I don't want to trust that yet. | |
| Because, you know, the whole goal is to get pain-free. | |
| So at the moment, no pain, I have no pain relievers. | |
| Well, actually, I do, but not very strongly. | |
| And it never made a difference before. | |
| So I'm pretty sure that's not making a big difference. | |
| Anyway, but I do have some terrible wounds on my legs for some cancer-y reason. | |
| I don't know. | |
| But those are pretty bad. | |
| But those are being treated. | |
| No problem at all. | |
| All right, so let's go to my book, Reframe Your Brain. | |
| I decided what I would do is I'd read some reframes out of this section on social life. | |
| Does anybody here need a better social life? | |
| You want me to reframe it for you? | |
| So I've got a whole bunch of reframes that will help your social life. | |
| All right, let's do these. | |
| Some of these you've heard, but they're all worth hearing more than once because it'll just really pack it in there. | |
| So the usual frame is people who tell you to be yourself. | |
| Do you ever hear that? | |
| Do you ever have somebody in your life who will say, well, Scott, the secret to success is you should be yourself. | |
| To which I say, shouldn't I be a better version of myself? | |
| If I'm just myself, am I not going to be a little bit suboptimal? | |
| Are you telling me that doing whatever I feel like is somehow going to be giving me a good life? | |
| I don't think it works like that at all. | |
| No, you should not try to be yourself. | |
| You should always strive to be some improved, better version of whatever you think is the best you can be. | |
| And you should be shooting for that. | |
| Gives you something to do, much better system to continuously be chasing the better version of you. | |
| And you never get there. | |
| That's the key. | |
| You never get there. | |
| All right. | |
| YouTube is live streaming. | |
| Yes, it is. | |
| All right, here's another one. | |
| These are social life reframes from my book, Reframe Your Brain. | |
| Changing lives everywhere. | |
| This one's similar, but you can pick which one you like. | |
| The usual frame would be, you should learn to love yourself as you are. | |
| Should you do that? | |
| Should you really love yourself as you are? | |
| Well, if it's unchangeable, then yes, why not? | |
| You know, something that can't be changed. | |
| But you should be glad your brain is pestering you to improve. | |
| So if you have a brain that keeps saying you should be doing more, a lot of people complain about that because they think, oh, man, I'm always feeling inadequate. | |
| I'm feeling like I'm not doing enough. | |
| Well, maybe you're not. | |
| And maybe this is exactly what should be happening. | |
| Maybe. | |
| Maybe your brain should be telling you, why don't you do a little more? | |
| Try a little harder. | |
| That might be the healthiest situation you could be in. | |
| So don't be mad if your brain is pestering you to improve. | |
| You should thank it. | |
| Do you ever see somebody who needs your advice? | |
| It's really hard to give advice, isn't it? | |
| Have you ever noticed that? | |
| You almost can't give advice. | |
| And the reason is nobody wants to feel like you know more than they do, especially a peer. | |
| They never want to say, you know, if you just do what I tell you to do, then your life will be good. | |
| That's not really. | |
| People aren't comfortable with that. | |
| Not at all. | |
| So instead of giving people advice, which they will just automatically reject, you give them information or maybe empathy. | |
| Or maybe there's something specifically they need help organizing their thoughts. | |
| But don't ever put it in the form of, you know, if I were you, my advice. | |
| It's better to just give them information that they don't have, you know, such as, you know, did you know this website has this information? | |
| That's not really advice. | |
| That's just telling them something. | |
| Telling people something works. | |
| That's good. | |
| All right. | |
| How about this one? | |
| Here's what I learned. | |
| Many years ago when I worked at a resort, people would come in and they would complain. | |
| And we were taught to take in a work order, like a physical piece of paper, a work order, and write down the complaint right in front of them. | |
| Because that would make them feel like they're doing more. | |
| So we take off the work, the work order, write down what they said. | |
| And then we were actually told this by our boss. | |
| I'm not making this up. | |
| That depending on the complaint, it might not be something you could fix. | |
| Some people, you know, guests at the hotel would complain about things like they need a certain different mattress or something. | |
| And there's just basically there was no way to make that happen. | |
| So instead of making it happen, we were taught to write it down as if we were going to make it happen and then throw it away after they leave. | |
| And the thinking behind this is that what people really wanted was to be heard. | |
| Now, they would also like their little complaint to be fixed. | |
| But even bigger than that, they want to make sure they complained, you heard it, and they felt powerful because some action happened as far as I know. | |
| So yeah. | |
| So it was purely a theatrical situation. | |
| All right. | |
| People who complain don't want solutions. | |
| Sometimes they just like complaining. | |
| That's the reframe. | |
| Do you ever meet somebody who had a strong personality? | |
| Do you ever hear anybody described that way? | |
| Oh, I'm going to introduce you to Beth. | |
| Beth has a, well, Beth has a, how do I say this? A strong personality. | |
| Run. | |
| Run from Beth. | |
| You do not want to be around people with strong personalities because that's just a way to hide the fact that somebody's hard to deal with. | |
| Somebody might be a little bit toxic, if you know what I mean. | |
| Strong personality. | |
| Indeed. | |
| You're toxic. | |
| I've told you before that if you have a compliment in mind, that's almost immoral to withhold it. | |
| So that's sort of a reframe. | |
| You've heard this one before, but it's worth doing again. | |
| Giving somebody a compliment just automatically puts them on your side till the end of time. | |
| So it's good for them if it's a sincere compliment and it's good for you. | |
| So why wouldn't you do it as much as you could? | |
| Well, you don't want to be like a weirdo over complimenter. | |
| But it's hard to get there, to be an over-complimenter, because when somebody is receiving the compliment, they never feel like it's too much. | |
| So just pour it on. | |
| Just pour on the compliments. | |
| Now, I do that in my personal life, but the rule is it has to be real. | |
| Like you actually have to mean it. | |
| It doesn't count if you're just, oh, what would be a good compliment? | |
| That doesn't count. | |
| It should be something you're thinking, and then you just say it. | |
| That really counts. | |
| All right, how about this? | |
| No one seems to find me attractive, or no one wants to date me, or nobody wants to marry me. | |
| The reframe of that is you just haven't met enough people. | |
| You could take anyone in the world and just introduce them to people over and over again, and eventually they'd find somebody they fell in love with. | |
| It's just sort of a numbers game. | |
| So there's no such thing as not being able to find somebody who likes you. | |
| There's only such a thing as I've not yet met enough people. | |
| Because if you meet enough people, the numbers are on your side. | |
| Sooner or later, you're going to meet somebody you like, and vice versa. | |
| Here's one. | |
| I need to, this would be the usual frame. | |
| I need to go find someone to be my romantic partner. | |
| Have you ever had that thought that you need to go out and find yourself a romantic partner? | |
| And you're actually thinking of it that way. | |
| You're not just thinking, oh, whatever happens, happens. | |
| But you're thinking, I'm going to go find myself a romantic partner. | |
| That's what I need. | |
| Well, that's the old way of thinking of it. | |
| It would be better to say you need to signal your genetic advantage to attract a romantic partner. | |
| What I mean by that is if you can somehow signal that you're better than most people at some task, some skill, could be mental, could be physical. | |
| You're either the best at a sport, you're the best at chess, you're the best at making money, you're the best at just knowing things. | |
| So there are a million things you could be the best at, or just one of the best wherever you are. | |
| And instead of trying to turn somebody into your romantic partner, which is weird and creepy, all you do is you just live your life. | |
| But you make sure that other people notice that as you're living your life, you're doing something really well. | |
| Then people will want to mate with you. | |
| You have to look like you have at least one genetic, some kind of oddity or advantage. | |
| It doesn't matter what it is. | |
| Could be mental, could be physical, could be attractiveness. | |
| You got to have at least one thing that people look at and go, oh, that's kind of special. | |
| And if you do not have even one thing in your life, not even one thing, that you do better than other people, nothing? | |
| Well, then you develop that. | |
| Usually all you need to be to do, all you need to do to be one of the best at anything. | |
| Now, this is an exaggeration, of course, but you get the point. | |
| Is to do it more than other people. | |
| You can be the best tennis player you know by playing more tennis than the people you know. | |
| You just do it for a long time, and then pretty soon you're the best tennis player you know. | |
| So look for something where you can be the impressive one, no matter what that is. | |
| All right. | |
| Here is one. | |
| Sometimes your partner or your mate, let's say your romantic partner, will ask you to share in the decision. | |
| And what are you thinking when that happens? | |
| Oh no. | |
| No. | |
| My partner wants to blame me when we pick the wrong restaurant or something. | |
| No, I don't want to share in these decisions. | |
| But instead of saying that you need the decision, say you need a co-pilot to share the blame. | |
| I think it's funnier if you just say, hey, I need somebody to share the blame. | |
| So what restaurant you want to go to? | |
| Now, I think that would be funny. | |
| Now, this was just for fun. | |
| All right. | |
| A lot of people used to think that marriage was about finding your soulmate. | |
| How many of you think that? | |
| Well, some of you think you did find your soulmate, and so you would say, yes, that's exactly what it is. | |
| And if you were as awesome as me, you would have found yours too. | |
| But I would say that marriage is not about finding a soulmate. | |
| I think marriage is about finding love. | |
| with someone who values promises. | |
| That's one you have to think about. | |
| You might have to play that one back. | |
| There's like a book worth of thinking in that one thought. | |
| So marriage is not about finding your soulmate. | |
| The reframe is marriage is about finding love with someone who values promises. | |
| It's not obvious why that works, is it? | |
| I'm going to leave that one there and that'll be your homework. | |
| Just think about it. | |
| All right, some other soulmates ones. | |
| Oh, here's one that I heard from a friend. | |
| I'm not sure where it came from. | |
| Oh, I think it came from Dr. Seuss. | |
| But it's a good one. | |
| If you're in a relationship that ends, instead of crying about your relationship ending, wouldn't it be better to smile because it happened? | |
| So don't cry about it ending. | |
| Be happy that it ever happened. | |
| That one I use all the time. | |
| I think you can convince yourself to be happy that something happened. | |
| Let's see. | |
| Here's one for dealing with your teen that I've never seen work. | |
| So maybe this one's a bad idea, but you could try it at home. | |
| If you try it at home and it doesn't work, or it does work, let me know. | |
| But here's the idea. | |
| So this would be for a teen. | |
| So the usual frame is you tell your teen they can't understand the reason for what you're telling them. | |
| Do you ever tell your kid because I said so? | |
| And that's considered good parenting, right? | |
| Because I said so. | |
| Why do I have to go to bed at midnight? | |
| Because I said so. | |
| That's fine. | |
| But if you've got one of those teens who's ultra rational to the point of being a pain in the ass, and some of you do, and they want to debate you, here's the ultimate teenager debate kill shot. | |
| It goes like this. | |
| A parent is able to guide a young brain that are not capable of understanding adult reasons. | |
| Now, you'd want to put that in your own words. | |
| But the idea is that the teenage brain is incomplete. | |
| So no adult over the age of 25 should have a debate with somebody who's under 25 because the under 25 don't even have a developed brain. | |
| What would be the point of that? | |
| So the point of the adult guiding the younger person is the adult has a mature brain. | |
| So if I disagree with a teen, I don't say, you're wrong, I'm right, because that's just a fight. | |
| You say, ah, that's probably what I would have thought before my brain was mature. | |
| You see the difference? | |
| Yeah, that's probably what I would have thought before my brain was mature. | |
| Oh, I thought that when I was your age too. | |
| But my job as the adult is to navigate you through a place where your brain is not yet developed enough to handle the situation. | |
| So whenever you and I disagree about what you should be doing next, the smart play is to listen to me because I've been there before. | |
| The worst play is to listen to yourself because we don't know about you. | |
| But I've done all those things. | |
| You? | |
| You haven't. | |
| So listen to the more mature brain. | |
| Try that more, the more mature brain approach. | |
| See how that works. | |
| It won't work. | |
| I'm still waiting for the one person that works with. | |
| Mostly other ones will work with everybody, but that one's pretty specific. | |
| All right. | |
| Oh, here's one. | |
| What if people treat you poorly and you find out there's not much you can do about it? | |
| What do you do about that? | |
| People treat you poorly and you're thinking there's not much you can do about it. | |
| Well, here's the reframe. | |
| The reframe is that you cause people to treat you the way they do. | |
| People don't treat you the way they do for their own reasons. | |
| There's something you project. | |
| Could be your look, could be your mannerism, could be the situation that you appeared in. | |
| But you largely cause people to treat you the way they treat you. | |
| And this is something you don't notice until you reach a certain age. | |
| Because when you're young, it's really hard to get anybody to treat you well. | |
| Because adults just don't care. | |
| And other teenagers, they have no special respect for you. | |
| You're just another kid. | |
| So anyway, just assume that the way you act causes people to see you the way they see you. | |
| And when they see you the way they see you, that's how they decide how to act. | |
| So you can basically hypnotize them just by who you are and how you act. | |
| All right. | |
| How about this one? | |
| Oh, this one I used the other day. | |
| This is a brilliant one. | |
| The old reframe is that the boss is in charge. | |
| Obviously, right? | |
| The boss by definition of being a boss is clearly in charge. | |
| But if you think that, it leaves some opportunities on the table. | |
| So I prefer a reframe. | |
| Instead of the bosses in charge, it's more true to say the person with the best ideas is always in charge. | |
| Because if the boss doesn't have any good ideas, where are they going to get one? | |
| From somebody else. | |
| If you're the person who has a good idea, people are going to do what you want them to do because you're the only one with a good idea. | |
| So don't think in terms of power all the time. | |
| Sometimes you have to. | |
| Think in terms of having the best idea, having the most useful solution, being the person that they want to invite to be on the projects. | |
| Think in those terms. | |
| Then there's the basket case theory. | |
| The theory that most people look like they have their act together. | |
| And you think to yourself, I wish I were like that person. | |
| They have their act together. | |
| But they don't know that I don't. | |
| No, that's not what's happened. | |
| I can almost guarantee you that other people do not have their act together. | |
| They might act like they do, but that is just an act. | |
| So the basket case theory is that everyone's a basket case once you get to know them. | |
| The only people who are not basket cases are people you just don't know well enough. | |
| But if you did, you'd know. | |
| Basket case. | |
| All right. | |
| Here's a really important one that I try to live by. | |
| I try not to judge people by their mistakes. | |
| Have you heard me say that before? | |
| Don't judge people by their mistakes. | |
| And boy, is that hard not to do. | |
| Instead, judge them by how they respond to their mistake. | |
| Do they crack something? | |
| Do they change something? | |
| Do they apologize? | |
| Do they make it right? | |
| Because that's the person I want. | |
| If you're looking for people who don't make mistakes, well, good luck. | |
| You're not going to do too well with that. | |
| But what if you find people who do make mistakes like everybody, but they're really good at dealing with their mistake? | |
| Well, that's gold. | |
| That is what you want. | |
| all right two more um i'm gonna skip that one Ooh, here's one. | |
| The usual frame, you've heard this before, it's an old saying, that small acts of kindness can go a long way. | |
| Small acts of kindness. | |
| I would reframe this to say that there are no small acts of kindness. | |
| Any act of kindness will seem huge to the recipient. | |
| It only seems small to you. | |
| And that, ladies and gentlemen, is most of, but not all, the reframes in the social life chapter of Reframe Your Brain. | |
| Now, if you're just checking in, you may have found that X wasn't working today or maybe something else wasn't working. | |
| I don't know what else is working. | |
| But a few things are working. | |
| Looks like Rumble's working. | |
| And I don't know, did locals disappear? | |
| Locals looks like it might be working. | |
| And YouTube is working the best, 4.5,000. | |
| All right. | |
| So if you're just joining, we're doing an experiment in which I see if I can do a show without any preparation because the internet was broken, so I didn't get to prepare. | |
| And so I learned from my Dale Carnegie course how to always have something ready. | |
| You notice how I always had something ready? | |
| In this case, the reframes were just sort of a natural thing you could do. | |
| But I could have taken questions. | |
| I could have said, oh, today we're only going to talk about all the things in the Epstein file, except that's boring. | |
| So, but in general, you should always have a backup presentation. | |
| So if your regular presentation gets lost, the digital file gets lost, whatever happens, you can just stand up in front of a bunch of people and do a presentation. | |
| So, but you see how easily I can do it? | |
| Yeah. | |
| Yeah. | |
| You see how effortless this is. | |
| And it's only because of practice. | |
| It's not effortless because I have some natural skill. | |
| It's effortless because I've done it most of my adult life. | |
| And the more you practice, the easier it is. | |
| All right, ladies and gentlemen, it's 7.40. | |
| And I'm going to assume that longer is not better in this particular case. | |
| So we're going to wind down. | |
| We'll see you tomorrow when we figure out who cares about the Epstein files and all those other things. | |
| And I hope this was at least a little bit entertaining to you. | |
| I hope you learned that no matter how scary it is, you can figure out how to make it work. | |
| You can always figure out how to make it work. | |
| You don't need to be that prepared. | |
| You can make most things work if you just jump in and make it work. | |
| That's just what I'm doing right here. | |
| So I'm trying to model it as I do it. | |
| And I will see you all tomorrow. | |
| I don't think I can go private on locals. | |
| Let me see. | |
| I'll try to go private at locals, but I might just disappear. | |
| Oh, no, that didn't work. | |
| Wow. | |
| Okay, I don't know what happened when I clicked that. | |
| So it doesn't look like I can go private. | |
| So I guess I'll just see you all tomorrow. | |
| Tomorrow. |