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June 14, 2018 - Real Coffe - Scott Adams
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Episode 82 - Using Persuasion to Prevent Police From Beating Your Ass
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Well, that's the theme song, and you know it comes after the theme song, don't you?
You do. You know it's coming.
I call it A Little Thing Called The Simultaneous Sip.
Now, if you are prepared or lucky, you have your beverage with you and it's time for the simultaneous sip.
Oh, extra good today.
I don't know why. Why is it extra good?
Is it because North Korea is starting to talk nice?
Is it because it's a sunny day, at least in California?
It's all of those things.
But today, I'm going to give you a persuasion lesson I'm gonna wrap it around the issue of how to avoid getting your ass kicked by the police.
Now, the bigger picture is I'm gonna teach you a number of techniques.
These are things you've seen before, but I'm gonna bring them together into one useful presentation.
But it might also keep somebody from getting their ass kicked by the police.
Now after I tweeted that I was going to talk about this topic, or that I might, folks retweeted to me that this idea has already been done by Chris Rock.
And so I looked at a YouTube video of Chris Rock who did a very funny, I recommend it, it's very funny, send up of people doing the wrong things during a traffic stop and then getting their ass kicked by police.
So Chris Rock's take on it was both hilarious and weirdly useful because it was just saying don't do stuff like disobey the police, don't run, don't resist arrest, don't have a crazy friend with you in the car who can't shut up.
So it's hilarious and useful, but I'm going to take it to another level.
I'm going to take it to the subtle level, where the person who gets their ass beat is not doing terrible things, but they're doing things that are suboptimal, things that get them in trouble.
Now I'm going to use the Sterling Brown example.
If you haven't seen the police cam video, of a police officer stopping NBA star Sterling Brown for a parking violation and then it turns into he gets tased I want to break that down a little bit.
You don't need to watch it while we're doing this.
If you've seen it before, it would help.
If you watch it after, it would help more.
But I'll tell you the important parts.
So the setup here is that Sterling Brown, and it matters what he looks like for this story.
So the physicality of the people involved does matter for persuasion.
So he's a 6'6", 23-year-old African-American male.
I think he had his hood up initially.
And he had a high-end sports car, or not a sports car, but a high-end car.
And I believe that the initial problem was that he parked across either one or two handicap zones.
to walk into a convenience store, I think, and he was only going to be there for a minute and comes out.
When he comes out, a police officer is there and already the police officer has an attitude.
Now the first thing I want to tell you is that I just watched a police training expert look at the video and even the police expert said this police officer made mistakes that did lead to the tasing.
That was also my take.
When I watched it, I thought, whoa, this police officer rolled up with an attitude.
If you roll up with an attitude, you influence the other person toward your attitude.
This is a universal truth, and you should learn this.
People don't independently have feelings.
Sometimes they do. If they're just sitting in a room thinking about something, they can have an independent feeling.
But most of our feelings are somewhat viral.
I can make you feel differently by changing my own feeling.
I can directly influence your reaction by what my emotional state is, because people pick up on other people's emotional state.
So this cop had an attitude and rolled up with an attitude.
The moment he expressed his attitude, what did 23-year-old...
Remember, this is very young, 23-year-old.
Some people say your brain isn't even done until you're 25, right?
Or at least fully formed.
So the police officer rolls up with an attitude.
Police officer should not have had the attitude.
He created a situation in which the person he was talking to would absorb some of the attitude and maybe reflect it back, which is exactly what happened.
Now, let's back up one level.
Sterling Brown Did a very small infraction.
If you're looking at the history of the world, he parked across either one or two handicap zones in a place where there was plenty of space, and he was just there for a minute.
He probably just didn't want his car to be dinged, or it was just convenient.
It was a little careless, it was thoughtless, but as crimes go, tiny, tiny little traffic infraction.
But... What did he do seriously wrong on a persuasion level?
Like really, really wrong?
He parked across handicap parking with a high-end car.
What are the odds that when this police officer rolled up that the police officer himself either has a family member who needs handicap parking Or knows somebody or cares about people who have disabilities.
So even though the crime itself is tiny, tiny, tiny, practically insignificant, the emotional feeling that it triggers in anybody who sees you do it with a high-end car, because that's what makes it worse, it's the high-end car, right? That is going to trigger people.
All right, so Sterling Brown, terrible mistake on the persuasion level.
He did something that is almost guaranteed to cause an emotional, irrational reaction, even in a trained police officer.
Big mistake, okay?
Small crime, big mistake.
So he starts talking to him, and I guess the first thing that the police officer asked him to do was to back up a little bit.
Because Sterling is 6'6", I don't know how big the cop is, probably much less big.
Not only is Sterling Brown 6'6", but he's a world-class athlete, and he's 23.
You could even forget about the African-American part and whatever bias that might bring with it for the police officer.
We don't even have to know if there is any.
Just being 6'6", 23, and strapped like just a big athletic guy puts a police officer immediately on the defensive because there's a physical potential for danger just by the size.
So police officer asks them to back up, and he backs up like an inch or three inches or something, and then that becomes a thing.
So immediately Sterling starts cooperating, but not fully.
And at one point he wouldn't take his hands out of his pockets, and that was the part that got him taken to the ground and ultimately tased.
So he didn't back up.
He argued with the The police officer, he did not ever agree with the police officer about the infraction being something that mattered.
He kept playing it off like, oh, I was just going to be there for a minute.
Complete mistake. The first thing you do is you agree with the police officer even if he's wrong.
Yeah, you show respect.
So I'll give you the fuller solution in a moment.
So this was a case with two people doing everything wrong.
So if you're trying to figure out who was wrong, I've watched the tape several times and I agree with the police training expert who says the cop definitely rolled up with the wrong attitude and certainly created a situation that was more dangerous than it needed to.
The next thing that happened was a little bit accidental, but made things much worse.
And this is what happened. So the police officer, fairly early on, calls for backup, presuming he's just going to need one extra car.
Now, I don't know if it just happened by coincidence that there were a lot of cars in the area, but several police officers roll up.
Now, if you're a police officer, And you roll up and there's only one other person there talking to one person.
It looks peaceful.
You say to yourself, I don't have much to do.
I'm just sort of the backup guy in case things go down wrong.
But if you're the third car there and you see all of this police presence, what are you persuaded to think?
Suddenly, this thing that was sort of a nothing looks to you like it's a big deal simply because there were so many police cars there.
So everybody takes what was the small deal and in their mind they inflate it up just because there's so many cops there.
So many guns, so many people, so much testosterone.
And so everything about this situation led to exactly what happened.
Everybody did the wrong thing.
The extra police officers who rolled up You know, the last two cars could have turned around and done something else once they checked to see that things were under control.
I'm not sure that that makes sense police-wise, but the point is that that big police presence caused people's minds to think there's a big problem when there wasn't.
Not yet, anyway. Alright, so I promised you that I would tell you one sentence that would keep people from having their ass kicked by the police.
And here's the important part.
Even if the police officer is not doing his or her job correctly.
Now, I want to talk to you about what I call loser think.
There are a set of beliefs that people have that cause them to think in a way that just is very unproductive.
I saw one of them on Twitter just moments ago.
I saw a journalist criticizing Elon Musk saying, Let me read the exact quote.
He said...
Elon, I'm asking you a question.
When was the last time you were in a newsroom with a reporter who was reporting on something other than you or your companies?
Just like Rocky Ships, first-hand knowledge is critical in knowing how to fix things.
So first-hand knowledge is critical in knowing how to fix things.
This comes from the reporter who has a reporter's job.
He's talking to Elon frickin' Musk.
Who is world famous for creating huge successful companies, maybe not as profitable as they should be, but successful by most of our metrics, in businesses that he didn't know anything about.
He was part of PayPal without being a banker.
He started an electric car company when all the electric car companies said they couldn't do it.
He's got a boring company that makes tunnels.
What the hell did he know about tunnels?
Now he's got literally a rocket ship in space, maybe going to Mars someday.
And I don't think he was an expert in any of those things.
So I tweeted back that this advice, that you have to have first-hand knowledge before you weigh in on something, that's the sort of thing that would have prevented Steve Jobs from creating Apple, would have prevented Bill Gates from creating Microsoft, would have created Elon Musk from doing any of his businesses, would have stopped me from creating Dilbert.
The number of people who have done things in areas which are not their detailed knowledge is pretty long.
And so I said maybe I would upgrade that to thinking to say that first-hand knowledge can be, doesn't always have to be, but first-hand knowledge can be a mental prison.
Look how many times the people who have the detailed knowledge can't see a way out because the detailed knowledge does form a little bit of a prison.
The person who doesn't know anything doesn't have that prison.
Here's the best example you're ever going to get.
The founder of Uber.
I once talked to him and said, how did you know That you could create Uber when everybody else thought that was impossible because the law didn't allow it.
The law gave special rights to taxi cab owners.
You can't just start your own taxi service just because you want to.
The law doesn't allow it.
How did you know that this impossible barrier, that the company you're starting is illegal, how did you know you could get past that?
And you know what he said to me?
We didn't know that.
Right? They didn't know it was illegal.
Uber didn't know that Uber was illegal when they started the company.
Now I'm talking about the very first days.
I'm not talking about, you know, it must have been very soon that they realized they had this big problem with the law, but it didn't stop them.
They'd already started the company.
Now, if they had not already started the company when they found out there was this legal problem, would they have started the company?
I don't believe so.
I believe that somebody who had detailed knowledge of the cab business would not have started Uber because they would have known too much.
See the problem? They would have been in a mental prison.
Here's another mental prison, getting back to my main point today, about How to keep yourself from being beat up by the police.
Alright? Just finishing up on that point.
One of the things I talk about all the time is that one of the loser think biggest problems in the world is to think that the source of the problem also has to be the solution.
Let's say you believe that the source of police brutality is that the police do things wrong or that they're biased.
Or they're racist.
Let's say you believe that.
You don't need to say that's true for our purposes today.
Just let's say you believe that.
If you also believe that because the problem is the police are doing things wrong, therefore the solution is that the police must do something differently, that's loser think.
It would be great if the police did something differently and that fixed the problem.
That's my first choice.
I would love the people who cause problems to also be the people who fix them.
But that's a loser perspective.
It's a loser perspective.
You fix problems you can fix.
Period. Doesn't matter who caused them.
You fix problems you can fix for you, or for whoever you're trying to help, independent of who caused the problem.
This is critical if you're stopped by the police and the police officer is a gigantic asshole to you.
And you say to yourself, well, the problem here, as this police officer, is being a gigantic asshole to me.
He needs to do something differently.
Alright? You're going to get your ass kicked.
You're stupid. You have not developed a good strategy for staying alive.
Alright, so the first thing you do is you say, what can I do to use persuasion to keep myself safe, even if the police officer is not doing the right stuff?
That's how to look at this.
That's the winner perspective.
Winner perspective is, what can I do?
How can I control this situation?
I don't care if other people are doing stuff wrong.
What can I do to make this good?
And I'm going to teach you one persuasive method that uses a whole crap ton of persuasion technique in seven words.
Yeah, seven words.
Why did I choose seven words, you ask yourself?
Kanye West. I'll talk about this in a moment.
Do you remember when Kanye did the tweet that just broke the world?
And I believe it was, I like the way Candace Owens thinks.
I like the way Candace Owens thinks.
Seven words. Does that matter?
Does it matter that it was seven words?
Yeah, it does.
Yeah, it does. Here's why.
If it were longer, it would be harder to repeat, harder to remember, a little less viral.
So nine words would have been too long.
Here's another trick.
If you're a creative person in a lot of different realms, there is something that people's minds prefer about odd numbers.
We prefer one, three, five, and seven.
Over 2, 4, 6, and 8.
Why? Why do we prefer that?
Why is there some creative preference to that?
Don't know. Doesn't matter.
It's just one of those things that people observe, that people like odd numbers.
If you're going to put some trees in your backyard, and you're saying to yourself, should I put two trees here or three?
The answer is three.
Trust me, three will look better than two because we like odd numbers.
Our minds are just wired that way.
Now, if Kanye had taken his seven perfect words and reduced it to, say, three or one or something, it might not have been enough.
So you need enough, but not too many.
Now, why do I look to people like Kanye for this sort of creative...
You know, guidance is frickin' Kanye West.
He is a bona fide, you know, legitimate, creative genius with words.
If somebody who does something super viral is also a genius in doing things like that, which is writing lyrics, writing things to people, the things that stick in your mind, things that can move you, if you see somebody do that, it pays to stop and say, all right, what's he doing? Why does this work?
Why doesn't it? And one of the reasons it works is because it's just about the right length, and it's an odd number.
So I actually crafted this to put it into seven words.
Partly as a, you know, sort of a, let's call it a poetic repayment.
Maybe an homage to Kanye's work.
So, here's a statement that I propose to you.
No one would ever Get in trouble with the police if they use this as the first thing they say to the police officer.
Now, you don't need to remember the exact words.
You could get there with other ways.
But I'll explain to you why this is so powerful.
And the sentence is, how can we stay safe today, officer?
Imagine saying that the first thing that happens when the officer rolls up to you.
Now, let me tell you why that's so powerful.
You're thinking to yourself, Scott, this is kind of obvious.
Being polite to a police officer, obvious.
Well, yeah, that part is obvious.
Doing what the police officer tells you, obvious.
Yeah, that's obvious. But I'm going to take you to another level.
So you're doing all the obvious stuff, being polite, doing what you're told, keeping your hands where they're shown, don't make any aggressive movements.
You're doing all that stuff right.
But beyond that, there's a whole other level of persuasion.
So here's what they are.
One of the strongest levels of persuasion is saying what somebody's thinking as they're thinking it.
This works in all kinds of realms.
If you know, because of the situation, that somebody is probably thinking a very specific thought and then you call it out at the moment they think it, it's a very bonding thing.
So what is the police officer thinking when he rolls up?
How do I stay safe?
So you're saying what the police officer is thinking at the exact moment he's thinking it.
Boom! Immediate bonding.
Okay? Now you and the police officer, you just immediately got on the same page.
That's just one of the parts of persuasion that's here.
That's just one. It's pacing and leading.
Pacing and leading. You can influence another person by first matching what they are doing or caring about until they get trust with you and then you can start leading them and they'll follow you because we're on the same page.
Controlling attention is very important in persuasion.
It doesn't matter that you've got a great argument if nobody's paying attention to it.
Our brains are irrational.
The things we focus on the most, the things we pay attention to, are the things that become important to us.
They're the things we act on.
Focus and attention is important.
What does this sentence do?
It focuses you on safety.
Boom! First impression, safety.
When a police officer walks up to a situation which could be dangerous, and the very first thing that comes out of your mouth is safety, boom, focus.
That's the top priority, and you're both thinking about it at the same time.
Thinking past the sale.
I've talked about this one. You want somebody to think past the part you're trying to persuade them.
What are you trying to persuade them?
Safety. Safety is the sale.
We're going to be safe today.
How do you make them think past that?
How do we do it?
You've already decided you're going to be safe.
Safety is a given. You've already talked past it.
How do we become safe today?
Because it's, you know, how to do it today, right?
So you're making you think past the sale.
First impression in persuasion.
The first impression is really hard to get out of somebody's head.
What was the first impression that the police officer gave?
That he was an asshole. That was the first impression that the police officer gave.
That he was going to be a jerk.
Now, did that police officer have a pretty good reason to be tweaked?
Yeah, he saw a high-end car, in other words, somebody who's in a good situation in life, parking across a handicapped spot.
Your job is to protect the weak against the powerful, in a way, as a police officer.
And you see this and it probably really tweaked him.
I can imagine a lot of people would have had exactly the same reaction as the police officer.
So he didn't manage his first impression and it cost him.
Because the police officer is not having a good day from this either.
There were no winners in this.
The police officer didn't win.
His career takes a hit too.
And then what was the first impression that Sterling Brown gave back to the police officer?
Resistance. A little bit of resistance.
It wasn't a lot.
It wasn't really terribly important.
But that was the first impression.
Once that's in his head, hard to get it out.
Compared to first impression, talking about safety.
Pattern persuasion.
The pattern doesn't appear the first time you use it.
The pattern appears if lots of people use this.
Imagine if you're a police officer and you start to hear this.
You've stopped a number of people and let's say three or four of them have said this.
And then that three or four people who have said this, you have a totally good interaction with them.
What happens the next time the police officer hears this and they start talking about it?
They go, oh, I'm probably a lot safer with this person, because people who say that, my pattern recognition says things go well.
Now, you're probably saying to yourself, hey, but what about if the bad guys figure this out?
And then they say that to the police officer to take his suspicions down, and then they pull out their gun.
Well, I think you should trust the police to follow their own procedures for safety.
They, of course, know that people lie.
They know that people cheat. So they're going to be ready.
They're going to have the hand on the gun on the right situations.
They're going to have enough space under the right situations, etc.
So trust the police to know that there's always a risk that somebody's tricking them.
But if you create this pattern of persuasion over time, this just gets more powerful.
Let's talk about ego as a tool.
I've told you that the greatest persuaders, and President Trump I put in this category, use their egos as a tool.
When they need a lot of ego, such as running for President of the United States, campaigning, you ramp up your ego and you say, I'm the greatest, I'm the best, I can do things, I'm amazing.
It's good to ramp up your ego in that situation.
But if you're having a sensitive conversation with Kim Jong-un about meeting to denuclearize the planet, then you dial back your ego a little bit.
You say, I'd like to be your friend.
I hope this works out.
So if you use your ego as a tool, you can stay safe.
If you believe your ego is who you are, then you get offended.
By things that are going to get your ass kicked.
The police officer in the case was Sterling Brown.
His ego, I think...
Was sort of in play.
Sterling Brown, I think his ego was in play.
We can't read minds, but if you looked at the actions of the people, you have to at least suspect the ego was not being used as a tool.
Had Sterling Brown used ego as a tool instead of thinking who he was, he would have said to himself, oh darn, this police officer's got an attitude.
I better dial back my ego.
Stay safe. He didn't do that.
He probably didn't think of it as a tool, but that's something you need to learn.
The high ground.
I've told you that the most powerful, probably, most powerful persuasion beyond fear.
Fear is always the best motivator if it's enough fear.
But if you want to persuade somebody, take them to the high ground where even they agree that's where you should be having the conversation.
That's what makes it work.
A good high ground move It makes the other person impossible to stay where they were.
So the low ground here is, what did I do wrong?
Am I going to get a ticket?
Maybe I shouldn't have done this, but I was only in there for a minute.
That's the low ground.
So, Sterling Brown started right off in the weeds.
The weeds are, he said, oh, I thought I was only going to be in the store for a minute.
I came right back out. Weeds, weeds, weeds.
Do you ever win in the weeds?
No, you do not. Because the other person just argues weeds.
He's like, no, you know, you were there more than a minute.
That could be the least important conversation of all time is the exact amount of minutes he was in that store.
Was it one or four minutes?
All right, that's leads.
This sentence takes you out of the weeds.
Boom! What is the top priority for a police officer?
Safety. What do both of those people want in the situation where the police officer stops you?
Safety. Who argues with safety?
No one. Who wants to talk about whether it was one minute or four minutes that you were in the store once you've taken them to the high ground of safety?
Nobody. Nobody wants to be the idiot who's arguing in the weeds.
Because if you take somebody up here, the police officer's going with you.
Every freaking time.
This will never not work.
You say safety to a police officer whose job, their entire being is wrapped around this concept.
They're going there.
They're going there immediately.
And that's where you're safe.
Alright, here's another one.
You become what you say.
This is a well-demonstrated technique.
Robert Cialdini talks about this in his book Influence, I believe.
There was a study in which people were randomly asked to write a paragraph on a political belief that was opposite of their own belief.
So, for example, if they were against abortion, they'd be asked to write something in favor of abortion.
And then they would check back with these people in a year or whatever it was, and they would just say, what's your opinion on these topics?
And they found that the people who wrote an opinion that was opposite of their own opinion To a large extent, many of them had actually adopted the opinion they wrote, even though they knew when they were writing it, it was just an experiment in which they were writing an opinion opposite of what they believed.
The point is, and I think Tony Robbins would back this up as well, the things you tell yourself, you become.
That's a very important point.
What you tell yourself, the way you use your words, is who you become, and it happens really quickly.
That's the part people don't get.
The moment you start talking in a certain way, you adopt it, and it happens just right then, in the moment.
You become what you say.
Let's say you're a person who, in an ordinary situation, might be a little hot-headed.
And you get stopped by the police.
The last thing you want is to be that guy.
You don't want to be the hot-headed person who got stopped by the police.
So, if the first sentence you make yourself say, just as a system, you know, it's like maybe you even have it written out and put on your dashboard so you can say the exact words, you know, under stress, you don't have to remember them.
If you start with this, the mere fact that this comes out of your mouth puts you, the person stopped by the police, into the safety mode.
Not because you thought about it before you said it, But because saying it changes who you are instantly.
It just puts you in that mode.
So once you're in that mode, you're going to make all the little reflexive decisions that are consistent with the mode you just put yourself in.
And the police officer already followed you to that mode.
He followed you to the high ground right away.
You want to use visual persuasion where you can.
We're very visual creatures.
So a couple things that happened was...
So when Terrell walked up, when Sterling walked up on the police officer, he got close and he was big.
Six was six. Police officer asked him to back up.
But Sterling should have known that his size is a big visual persuasion, and he had his hoodie up, I believe, in the beginning.
The first thing he should have done is show his hands, take his hoodie down, keep his hands out of his pockets, and keep a good distance from the police officer.
That's the visual persuasion.
Next thing he should have done is agree with the police officer about the police officer's complaint.
So the police officer said something along the lines of, you don't see what's wrong here?
You don't see what you did?
And instead of saying, oh God, you caught me.
This was really rude.
Sterling said something like, "It was just going to be in there a minute." Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong!
This is as wrong as you could be.
Agree with the police officer even, here's the key, this is the important part, you agree with the police officer even if you're 100% positive, they're wrong.
That's the hard part, right?
And that's the part about making your ego a tool.
If you say, no, I'm not going to admit I'm wrong, if I'm not wrong, That's not the way to play it, that you get your ass kicked.
Now, you don't want to agree to a crime that you didn't commit, because that could guarantee you get a ticket.
But you also don't want to disagree with the police officer.
So here's a way to do it.
You can always ask legitimate questions, as long as they're not jerk questions.
So you could say to the police officer, in this case, you could say, I'm sorry, officer.
You're totally right to come after me on this.
I wasn't thinking.
I see how this looks, and I get it.
I totally get it.
I shouldn't have done this.
Now, you might be thinking to yourself, I totally should have done this.
There's all this parking out here.
Even the people who have disabilities, they have plenty of places to park right next to the door.
I was only here for a minute.
Keep those thoughts to yourself.
What you say to the police officer is, I agree with you, sir, I agree with you.
Now, if he accuses you, let's say, of doing something you didn't do, you say, oh, okay, I see why you would say that.
That's not disagreeing.
You say, oh, you're accusing me of this crime.
Did you see a black car pulling away from that crime scene?
And the police officer says, yes, I did.
Then you say, was it my model?
And the police officer says, well, I don't know, but I saw a black car leaving the crime scene, and here you are.
And he goes, oh, I certainly see why you're stopping me.
Is there anything else I can answer for you to show you that I wasn't here?
See that? That's not disagreeing with the officer.
That's agreeing with his observation.
Then you ask questions, and you very gently get him to make his case, and you find out where the hole is.
So use questions where you can, but not jerk questions.
Don't go with the jerk questions, but legitimate questions.
Officer, why is it that you thought it was me?
I'm wondering, and then he tells you, and you go, oh, well, did you think that this was happening when you saw that?
And so you get them to come out a little bit, you have a conversation, you bond with them a little bit, you show respect, you do all those things, and with seven words, you can maybe keep yourself from getting beaten up.
I would argue that if a control group, I don't see this happening exactly, but if a control group Tried doing this for a year against another group that didn't do this.
I'll bet the people who did this for a year would have no problems with police stops.
Oh, somebody said, did I cut?
Yeah, I see in the comments.
Apparently somebody cut off a police officer and the police officer pulled them over.
And I saw in your comment that the way you approached it was instead of saying, here's what the mistake would be.
Oh, I didn't cut you off.
You had plenty of room.
Or I didn't have much room, so I had to cut you off.
You know, I thought you could get out of the way.
Those would be all the mistakes.
And the correct answer was, you saw in the comments, somebody said, oh, I'm sorry, did I cut you off?
And then the police officer says yes.
And you say, you know, I didn't realize it was that close.
I'm sorry, officer.
And then you have a whole different situation.
All right.
Somebody says that Brown knows all this.
He wanted a confrontation.
That sounds like the mind reader hallucination.
My assessment is, if you've ever been 23 years old, and most of you have, the assumption that a 23 year old knows as much as you do at whatever age you are, that's a tough assumption.
My guess is that ego was in play and he simply was not familiar with all of the elements of persuasion in a way that would be useful to him.
I doubt he knew it at this level, that's for sure.
He absolutely knew that not cooperating was more risk than cooperating.
So he certainly knew enough to not get in trouble, but he didn't know it at a deeper level.
One assumes just because he's 23.
All right.
I'm just looking at your comments here.
Alright, was this useful to you?
Let me tell you the way you should judge this.
I don't think it's likely that people will start using a method like this.
And there was somebody who wrote, a few people actually, wrote on Twitter when I said I was going to talk about this topic.
They said, well, this isn't complicated.
If you just say, yes, officer, you're in good shape.
You know, just agree with the officer, yes, officer, yes, officer.
That's pretty good. If you don't remember the seven words, and you can't work safety into it, which is a far more powerful frame, yes officer, that's going to get you 80% there.
This will get you 100%, and I wouldn't take any chances with getting beaten up, so I think I'd go for 100%.
Did I watch the Chris Rock video?
I did. So I mentioned that at the beginning.
Chris Rock, if you Google something like Chris Rock, how to avoid getting your ass kicked by the police, it is hilarious and weirdly useful because it's just telling people not to resist and do stupid things.
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