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Tension Between Sexes
00:02:05
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| Let me just make very briefly the case that I started with, that men and women are basically different and why this is so important. | |
| Ladies and gentlemen, I know this sounds odd to you. | |
| This will sound odd to you, but I mean it from my heart. | |
| I have, as any thinking, sensitive person has, I believe, my problems with God. | |
| Life is tough. | |
| God made an unfair world. | |
| There's too much unjust suffering, etc., etc. | |
| I have my problems. | |
| And God did not make his existence obvious and incontrovertible. | |
| There is a tension for any thinking person with regard to God, and I understand it. | |
| Ironically, one of the arguments I posit on behalf of God's existence is male-female differences. | |
| While it is true that male-female differences lead to inevitable tensions between the sexes, this is without question. | |
| And by the way, it is very important to know that, and I'll talk about that later, tension between the sexes. | |
| It is so interestingly constructed, male-female difference, that I am convinced it is not simply evolutionary. | |
| It is a matter of design. | |
| That men were designed in one way and women designed in another. | |
| And while it is cause for problems, it is really the tension and the chemistry that make the other one necessary. | |
| I am of the school that a man is not fully human without a woman, and a woman is not fully human without a man. | |
| That is a deep belief of mine. | |
| It does not run against the following. | |
| Does that mean if you are widowed or could not find a mate or choose not to ever marry, that I think you are an inferior human being? | |
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Opposite Sex Void
00:03:43
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| No, I would never make such an audacious comment. | |
| Saddam Hussein is married. | |
| Okay? | |
| Do I think the world of Saddam Hussein? | |
| Obviously not. | |
| And one of my dearest friends in life, two of my dearest friends in life, are single men whom I adore both as men and in their characters. | |
| I understand that. | |
| And having said all of that, I still believe that the opposite sex fills the human void that exists when the opposite sex is not in one's life. | |
| But it doesn't mean that it's easy, and it doesn't mean that every marriage is made in heaven. | |
| At least a fair number seem to be made in the other area. | |
| All right? | |
| This is also true, and it must be recognized. | |
| And there is, while there is nothing as good as a good marriage, there is nothing quite as miserable as a bad marriage. | |
| All right. | |
| All that being said, why is it so important to recognize that men and women are basically different? | |
| In the 60s, for those of you who are products, no, I take that back. | |
| Those of you who were raised during the 60s, I hope you're not products of the 60s, but for those of you like me who were raised in the 60s, you will recall that there was a massive effort made to deny that men and women are basically different. | |
| My challenge always to that claim, aside from common sense, but I had a different challenge. | |
| If men and women aren't basically different, then what could they ever get from each other outside of sex? | |
| One of the reasons that the 60s generation was known for its sexual profligacy, I am convinced, is as a result of the denial that men and women had anything other that was different. | |
| The only thing that she had that I didn't have was a different body. | |
| The only thing I had that her girlfriends didn't have was my different body. | |
| Then clearly the only thing that you could get from the opposite sex that you couldn't get from your own was sex, or at least sex with the opposite sex. | |
| That's the only thing. | |
| I hope this is clear to you. | |
| The moment you deny that men and women are basically different, then clearly the only difference they have is physical. | |
| Well then, if that's the case, why not have the following arrangement? | |
| Men should have men friends for everything and women just for sex. | |
| And women should have women friends for everything and men just for sex. | |
| And that's, by the way, to a certain extent, what is exactly what happened in the 60s. | |
| Do you understand how the belief that men and women are not basically different undermines the desire to be with the other sex? | |
| I have nothing to gain from a woman. | |
| What do I need one for? | |
| Outside of satisfying sexual needs for a woman, what does she have to give me that my dear male friends can't give me? | |
| Nothing. | |
| But it's only when you argue that there is something a female has that a male doesn't have outside of sexual organs, and there is something a man has that women don't have outside of his sexual organs, that you can begin to say we need each other. | |
| We have something to give to the other. | |
| Ironically, it was in the name of progress and love and humanism that people denied men and women's basic differences. | |
| Ironically, I say, and yet it was the most dehumanizing anti-male-female relating idea that men and women are the same. | |