Aug. 9, 2024 - Dennis Prager Show
07:50
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| Time | Text |
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| Katie in San Antonio. | |
| Hello. | |
| Hi, Katie. | |
| Hi. | |
| How are you? | |
| Good. | |
| Thank you. | |
| So, I immediately had to call because, yes, I'm in San Antonio, but I'm also a CU grad, and I came out of it ironically very conservative and faithful in my religion and contrary to all pre-indicated. | |
| That would be an interesting discussion, how you survived it. | |
| I would be curious, actually. | |
| But go on about the dating issue. | |
| Yes. | |
| Well, so I never, when I was young, really dated very much. | |
| I got married very young and didn't do it very well, unfortunately. | |
| How old are you now? | |
| Sorry. | |
| How old are you now? | |
| I'm 49. Okay. | |
| Yes. | |
| So, and then married again and didn't do it well again. | |
| So I stopped and said to myself, okay, I could be upset about the circumstances or realize that I was the common denominator and stop and take a few years and figure out why was I picking the wrong person. | |
| Once I did that, I decided, okay, I'm going to get out there and get online. | |
| And at that point, I was in my, you know, early 40s, and I decided to do that part. | |
| I dated... | |
| And it was the best thing that I ever did because it gave me the chance to lead people well. | |
| And as you previously mentioned, yes, you don't have the distractions of physical proclamation. | |
| Proximity. | |
| Proximity, thank you, with one another, unless you choose that. | |
| But I think the thing that a lot of people are hesitant about is the fact that people put out a certain persona online and then they meet them, and that's not the reality. | |
| Well, I get that, but that's true whether you meet someone in the wild, as they say, or online. | |
| People can put out all sorts of friends about who they are, and it's really about you learning how to discern. | |
| All right, stay on with me. | |
| I am actually interested in your experience. | |
| So I'm talking to Katie in San Antonio. | |
| She's 49. You're married now, right? | |
| Yes, sir. | |
| And you met your husband online. | |
| Actually, I didn't. | |
| Oh. | |
| I didn't. | |
| Well, you can understand why I thought you did. | |
| You called up to make the case for dating online. | |
| Indeed. | |
| What I would say about that is that the time that I spent dating online prepared me to have my heart open, my mind open, and when I met my now husband in the wild... | |
| I was very ready for who he was and what he was because I had taken the time to learn what I did want and didn't want, in large part because online dating affords you the ability to learn about other people, sight unseen sometimes, sometimes meeting. | |
| And by the time I met him, it was just very clear that we were a good match. | |
| So it was a really beneficial chapter for me, even though that's not ultimately how I met him. | |
| That's fascinating. | |
| So that, it sort of, it was the minor leagues preparing you for the major leagues, to use a baseball analogy. | |
| Is that right? | |
| Exactly. | |
| Okay. | |
| All right. | |
| This is going to be helpful to people, I hope. | |
| This is the reason for doing this. | |
| Mike in Chicago, hello. | |
| Hello, Dennis. | |
| Thank you for taking my call. | |
| I met my wife online. | |
| We conversed for a couple of months without having met. | |
| And then that fateful day came and we met. | |
| And eight years later, next week will be eight years. | |
| We've been together ever since. | |
| And we got married. | |
| And everything that Forbes article... | |
| Listed as reasons people have successful online dating events, I can agree with because I experienced all three of them. | |
| But also to include, when you're online dating, you get to, I don't want to say weed out, but you get to pick and choose through attributes and different philosophies that people may have that they post on there before you even start to converse with them. | |
| So you kind of get to... | |
| Get a feel for a person before you get a feel for them, and it really gives you the opportunity to find, hopefully, the perfect partner, and I know I did. | |
| Just a quick aside, after our first in-person meeting, I deleted my profile because I realized that she was somebody worth getting to know well, and it was wonderful. | |
| What website were you on? | |
| We met on OkCupid. | |
| And why did you choose that? | |
| I didn't want a hookup site, if you will. | |
| I didn't want a hookup culture. | |
| I was looking or wanting to find somebody that was going to be good to me after an unfortunate sale. | |
| Okay. | |
| I'm sorry I interrupted you. | |
| I got that, though. | |
| So, I... I want to walk through this just for a moment. | |
| The first contact was email. | |
| How does it work? | |
| It's through the site. | |
| It's been a while, so I actually sometimes forget we met online because it's such an amazing relationship, and it's so easy. | |
| But yeah, it's through the website at first until we decided to exchange numbers, and then we texted for a while, and then we talked on the phone a little bit. | |
| And then we finally, after a couple of months, back and forth, we met. | |
| And it was a wonderful first date. | |
| And the early communications, to the extent that you remember them, were they superficial, which is very common on first dates in person, or were they deeper? | |
| The first couple of interactions online were slightly superficial, but we both, not looking back, we both wanted to meet somebody deeper. | |
| And so we quickly got into the meat and potatoes of what's important in life. | |
| And I can remember at that first date, there was such a familiarity and a knowing of somebody without ever having met them physically that it made that first date that much easier. | |
| And I have been going through quite a bit at that time and I had some physical disabilities that have since been corrected that she was aware of and had no problem with and it was wonderful. | |
| Wow. | |
| And how old are you? | |
| I'm 47 and she's 45 and like I said eight years ago next week we met for the first time and I thank God every morning for putting her in my path and giving, I don't think about OkCupid anymore but I do know that that's the reason that she was allowed to be put in my path. | |
| Well it's a beautiful, beautiful story. | |
| Thank you. |
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