Dennis Prager Show - Why Progressive Women Want to Date Men Who Act Like Conservatives
Aired: 2021-07-27
Duration: 08:52


=== Why Progressive Women Date Conservatives (07:12) ===

[00:00:00]  Article in the New York Post.
[00:00:02]  I actually read excerpts last hour, even though it wasn't the male-female hour.
[00:00:08]  Why progressive women want to date men who act like conservatives.
[00:00:13]  How do you react to that?
[00:00:15]  You can call in now.
[00:00:16]  You agree with that?
[00:00:19]  I agree with it.
[00:00:21]  1-8 Prager 776-877-243-7776.
[00:00:28]  The title of the piece is Why Progressive Women Want to Date Men Who Act Like Conservatives.
[00:00:39]  That's a good question.
[00:00:40]  Act like conservatives or are conservative?
[00:00:44]  I think in the final analysis, a lot of the time, are.
[00:00:50]  Because it's hard to act like a conservative if you're a progressive.
[00:00:56]  Because it violates everything you have been told about yourself as a male.
[00:01:01]  You will be a doormat.
[00:01:04]  And if you're not a doormat, then you are a chauvinist.
[00:01:10]  That's it.
[00:01:11]  That's the way men are taught.
[00:01:12]  I started reading another related article about what college does to men.
[00:01:19]  Written by a professor at a university, at Bucknell University.
[00:01:26]  How it teaches men that if they act like men, think like men, they are awful human beings.
[00:01:40]  So she writes, a woman named Melanie Nutkin is the author of this.
[00:01:49]  She's talking about a friend who's a quote-unquote a real catch.
[00:01:53]  I told Mark...
[00:01:55]  That despite his best intentions, his egalitarian dating style could be the problem that's holding him back.
[00:02:01]  While some women balk at any hint of traditional male gender behavior, more of them lament the loss of chivalry.
[00:02:10]  I'm one of them, she writes.
[00:02:13]  I find it attractive when a man plans our first few dates, and knowingly walks curbside when we're together.
[00:02:21]  It signals he wants to protect me from passing traffic.
[00:02:25]  Or errant puddle splashes.
[00:02:29]  When I was a kid, my mom told me to always walk curbside, but I assumed my generation of women would think it's too old-fashioned, Mark told me.
[00:02:38]  Now I'm really confused.
[00:02:39]  So let me tell you as a man why this is such a non-masculine statement.
[00:02:45]  Masculinity doesn't care what, quote, women tell him.
[00:02:50]  That's the whole point.
[00:02:52]  Doesn't mean you disrespect women.
[00:02:54]  There's nothing masculine about disrespecting a woman.
[00:02:58]  But there's nothing masculine about listening to what they say and altering your behavior as a result of what the New York Times writers who are female are telling you to do.
[00:03:11]  Or your teachers at college.
[00:03:14]  I've had this since I began broadcasting.
[00:03:17]  I'll never forget the guy who called my show.
[00:03:20]  I mean, I was in my 30s.
[00:03:21]  He was in his 30s.
[00:03:24]  And the guy said to me, I don't know what to do.
[00:03:29]  Should I hold the door open for a woman or not on a date?
[00:03:34]  And I said, the very fact that you're asking is a bad sign.
[00:03:38]  Of course you hold it open.
[00:03:40]  If she doesn't like it, then you know this is not the woman for me.
[00:03:44]  She saved you money.
[00:03:46]  You should thank her.
[00:03:49]  You're a feminist.
[00:03:49]  I have no interest in dating you.
[00:03:51]  Have a great day.
[00:03:53]  That's it.
[00:03:55]  And call a cab.
[00:03:57]  In those days, there was no Uber.
[00:04:00]  A woman offended if you hold the door is an idiot.
[00:04:03]  Why would you want to date an idiot?
[00:04:08]  He's really confused, this guy.
[00:04:11]  What a riot.
[00:04:13]  The New York dating scene, she's in New York.
[00:04:15]  This is in the New York Post.
[00:04:19]  Is swimming with progressive women, and many of them want men who will pick up the check.
[00:04:26]  The female desire to feel protected and looked after is built into our DNA, says evolutionary psychologist Jeffrey Miller, a professor at the University of New Mexico.
[00:04:37]  It's a mismatch between what progressive women say they want and what they actually respond to.
[00:04:46]  Women's instinctive mate preferences have evolved for hundreds of thousands of years for guys who are competent, strong, good providers, good protectors, and happy with the sexual division of labor.
[00:04:58]  Women want decisive men who are also compassionate and thoughtful.
[00:05:03]  That's a catch.
[00:05:09]  That's exactly right.
[00:05:10]  By the way, just for the record, I don't care if you use evolution to explain it, I happen to think God made men and women the way they are, and that when done right, they're a perfect fit.
[00:05:22]  But it's very hard to do right.
[00:05:24]  That's why we have a male-female hour.
[00:05:27]  If all men and women did it right, there would be no reason to have the hour, would there?
[00:05:33]  A 2018 study from Iowa State University backs this up, reporting that progressive women prefer men to demonstrate more traditional dating behaviors.
[00:05:41]  The women found these men to be, quote, more attractive.
[00:05:46]  Unquote.
[00:05:46]  Because they signal a willingness, quote, to invest by being protective, committed, and by providing resources.
[00:05:54]  Then she goes on to write about Gwen Stefani and whom she chose for her husband.
[00:06:02]  When asked what she loves about her betrothed, Stefani gushed he's full of love and generosity so you feel safe.
[00:06:08]  You can lean on him and trust him.
[00:06:12]  By the way, that's what children want from parents.
[00:06:16]  More than love, they want security.
[00:06:20]  And for two or three generations, parents have not given their kids security.
[00:06:26]  When your child's equal, your child is insecure.
[00:06:34]  Their friends are their equals.
[00:06:36]  Their parents are not.
[00:06:41]  Carrie, K-A-R-I, 45, is a fundraising executive with data demand in 2018 with left-leaning values and beliefs, but before long his egalitarian dating attitude and lack of initiative to plan dates led to a breakup.
[00:06:56]  Quote, At work, I'm the boss.

=== Babe and Femininity (01:55) ===

[00:06:58]  I have to run the show.
[00:06:59]  Be the cheerleader.
[00:07:00]  Have tough conversations, she told me.
[00:07:02]  I make decisions all day long.
[00:07:04]  At the end of the day, I want my guy to say, Babe, I got this.
[00:07:08]  First of all, the fact that she wants him to say babe.
[00:07:12]  Whoa!
[00:07:16]  Isn't that an infantilization of a progressive woman?
[00:07:19]  Babe?
[00:07:24]  I appreciate a man who opens the door for me and picks up the check.
[00:07:27]  This makes me feel safe.
[00:07:28]  Like I can count on him for other things, Carrie said.
[00:07:31]  Adding, I'm grateful when a man steps up and acts like a man.
[00:07:35]  It makes me feel more feminine.
[00:07:38]  But the whole purpose of feminism was to have you not feel feminine.
[00:07:43]  That was its great goal.
[00:07:46]  Men should not feel masculine, and women should not feel feminine.
[00:07:52]  Masculinity is toxic masculinity, and femininity is weakness.
[00:07:57]  That's what they've been told.
[00:08:00]  That's what your kids are told when you send them foolishly to college.
[00:08:05]  Get it?
[00:08:06]  Femininity is weakness and masculinity is toxic.
[00:08:11]  Other than that, feminism had a great message.
[00:08:18]  While Carrie and her boyfriend broke up, she remains a feminist who will only date conservative men.
[00:08:25]  That's funny.
[00:08:28]  Well, at least she has the wisdom to know that.
[00:08:32]  Although she draws the line at, quote, far-right conspiracy theorists.
[00:08:37]  Who's a far-right conspiracy theorist?
[00:08:39]  These people.
[00:08:40]  It's like saying, except a white supremacist.
[00:08:43]  Who are these people?
[00:08:47]  1-8 Prager 776. You agree with the thesis?
[00:08:50]  You have a daughter?
[00:08:51]  Does it apply to you?