Dennis Prager Show - Dennis Takes Calls on the Male / Female Hour
Aired: 2021-07-16
Duration: 06:42


=== Loving More Than Being Right (04:27) ===

[00:00:00]  Penny in Greenwood, South Carolina.
[00:00:03]  Hi, Penny.
[00:00:06]  Dennis Prager, it's a pleasure to talk to you.
[00:00:09]  Thank you for taking my call.
[00:00:10]  Thank you.
[00:00:13]  What I told you, the lovely woman that answers the phone, is my father-in-law, I'm a widow now, and my father-in-law told me, Penny, you've got to love your husband more than you love being right.
[00:00:26]  More than you love getting your way.
[00:00:28]  In this instance, more than you love having pizza.
[00:00:31]  And it was the simplest yet.
[00:00:34]  It saved me from a lot because I'm very vocal.
[00:00:37]  Sometimes I don't think before I speak.
[00:00:40]  It put it into perspective and it made my marriage better.
[00:00:43]  So that's what I do.
[00:00:45]  That's a beautiful approach.
[00:00:48]  Love your spouse more than you love being right.
[00:00:52]  Correct.
[00:00:53]  You know what that reminds me?
[00:00:54]  One of the great lessons of my life I got from driver's ed in high school.
[00:01:02]  Don't be dead right.
[00:01:06]  It changed my life.
[00:01:09]  You may have the green light and you're right, but if the guy's speeding through a red light, it's best not to move the car.
[00:01:17]  Wow, that should have caught on, because that could save a lot of people.
[00:01:20]  That's right.
[00:01:21]  Don't be dead right.
[00:01:22]  That's what you're saying.
[00:01:24]  By the way, may I ask, because you're only in your 50s, at least that's what I have here, at what age did your husband die?
[00:01:32]  He died at 59. He's been gone for three years now.
[00:01:35]  How did he die?
[00:01:37]  He died of congestive heart failure.
[00:01:40]  It was, well, I guess it was his time.
[00:01:42]  I don't think it was.
[00:01:45]  He just got into poor health.
[00:01:47]  He had a heart attack or two, and I think he gave up, to be honest with you.
[00:01:51]  He was much a man.
[00:01:54]  My heart goes out to you.
[00:01:56]  Thank you.
[00:01:57]  I miss him every day, but I'll always remember him big and strong the way he was.
[00:02:01]  He got his way a lot, but it didn't bother me a bit.
[00:02:04]  What gives you joy?
[00:02:08]  Oh, what doesn't give me joy?
[00:02:11]  Okay, that answered it.
[00:02:12]  Wait a minute.
[00:02:13]  You answered it.
[00:02:15]  You are precious.
[00:02:17]  Penny is precious.
[00:02:22]  That was one of the great answers of my radio career.
[00:02:28]  That's why I stopped the call.
[00:02:32]  What doesn't give me joy?
[00:02:35]  That's powerful.
[00:02:40]  How many people could say that?
[00:02:43]  I can, actually.
[00:02:45]  I'm very blessed.
[00:02:48]  Penny.
[00:02:50]  I want you to know something if you're still there.
[00:02:53]  I'm still here.
[00:02:54]  You are a precious woman.
[00:02:58]  Thank you, Dennis Prager.
[00:03:00]  Thank you.
[00:03:03]  I choked her up.
[00:03:06]  It was a worthy choking up.
[00:03:12]  That's really, that was moving.
[00:03:16]  She had a real blast.
[00:03:19]  The bad stuff.
[00:03:20]  Lose her husband in her 50s.
[00:03:23]  She loved the guy.
[00:03:26]  It's terrible, that loss.
[00:03:27]  But what doesn't give her joy?
[00:03:36]  I've got to remember that on the Happiness Hour.
[00:03:40]  My way of putting it was until now, until Penny.
[00:03:44]  I will now date my views as BP and AP. Before Penny and after Penny.
[00:03:54]  That I've always said, the more things that bring you joy, the happier you will be.
[00:04:00]  Why do you think I say, you think it's a joke when I say on the, not the happiness hour, the third hour on Fridays, call in on anything, especially classical music, audio equipment, photography equipment, cigars.

=== Eight Children Dinner Dilemma (02:24) ===

[00:04:17]  And fountain pens.
[00:04:19]  That's my way of saying how many things bring me joy.
[00:04:25]  It's a big part of my happiness.
[00:04:30]  That's why I love my job.
[00:04:34]  Yes, indeed.
[00:04:37]  All right.
[00:04:38]  So the question began with, you want Chinese or Italian or whatever food?
[00:04:46]  Your spouse wants the other.
[00:04:49]  How do you resolve it?
[00:04:52]  Arlington, Texas.
[00:04:53]  Christy.
[00:04:54]  Hello, Christy.
[00:04:56]  Yes, sir.
[00:04:57]  Hello.
[00:04:57]  Hello.
[00:05:00]  I told your screener, I said, we have eight children.
[00:05:02]  If we can go on a date, just the two of us, I don't care what we're eating.
[00:05:05]  I love it.
[00:05:07]  You know what I mean?
[00:05:08]  This is awesome.
[00:05:10]  I'm like moderating geniuses today.
[00:05:13]  This is great.
[00:05:15]  That is so funny.
[00:05:16]  That's great.
[00:05:17]  Yeah, they're 27 to 5. Let's get the hell out of here.
[00:05:24]  So he says, you want to go out to dinner?
[00:05:26]  I'm like, yes, I don't care.
[00:05:28]  How often do you take the eight kids to dinner?
[00:05:31]  Never.
[00:05:33]  Oh, God, am I happy I am.
[00:05:34]  Seriously, never.
[00:05:35]  I mean, what does it cost?
[00:05:37]  $300.
[00:05:38]  Yes.
[00:05:39]  That's why I asked.
[00:05:41]  They come every Sunday night to my house and we feed all of them.
[00:05:44]  So total, there are now 14 of us with spouses and grandchildren.
[00:05:50]  Yeah, wait.
[00:05:51]  You don't have any kids living at home?
[00:05:53]  You're a young woman.
[00:05:54]  No, I have six still at home.
[00:05:56]  Oh, that's what I thought.
[00:05:57]  So you don't take the six to the restaurant either?
[00:06:02]  No.
[00:06:03]  No, you know what happens?
[00:06:04]  If somebody...
[00:06:05]  Somebody's at camp or somebody's working or whatever.
[00:06:07]  We have two or three at home.
[00:06:08]  We're like, let's go out to dinner.
[00:06:10]  There's just five of us.
[00:06:12]  All right.
[00:06:13]  So are you Catholic, Mormon, or Evangelical?
[00:06:18]  Southern Baptist.
[00:06:20]  There we go.

=== Reciprocal Enjoyment Rule (00:20) ===

[00:06:21]  Is there a secular family in America with eight children?
[00:06:28]  I enjoy you, folks.
[00:06:33]  Part of the reason you enjoy me.
[00:06:35]  It's always reciprocal.
[00:06:37]  You enjoy X, X enjoys you.
[00:06:40]  That's pretty much a rule of life.