Dennis Prager Show - Would You Rather Have a Great Marriage or a Great Career?
Aired: 2021-06-17
Duration: 09:23


=== Why Focus on Daughters (09:23) ===

[00:00:00]  hour on the Dennis Prager show.
[00:00:01]  Every Wednesday, the second hour of the program is devoted to honest talk about men and women.
[00:00:09]  I think it's the most honest talk in the media.
[00:00:13]  Yeah.
[00:00:15]  But if I'm wrong, I'm not unhappy.
[00:00:19]  I'm rooting for more honest talk.
[00:00:22]  And one more point that I make regularly is...
[00:00:27]  That the point of the hour is that men and women understand each other better and I'm sort of a referee or umpire because I am not a fan of either sex.
[00:00:42]  I'm a fan of good people of either sex.
[00:00:47]  Okie doke!
[00:00:48]  Today is about your daughters.
[00:00:54]  That's the subject.
[00:00:57]  So if you are a, even if you're a young person, what would you say to a young woman today?
[00:01:10]  For example, I have the question that I pose to young women wherever I meet them.
[00:01:18]  Airplanes, standing in line, Starbucks, waitresses.
[00:01:25]  I have no shame.
[00:01:28]  I ask people questions.
[00:01:31]  And I've mentioned this in the past.
[00:01:34]  I ask them, first I say, may I ask you a question?
[00:01:37]  Of course, they've never gotten a no.
[00:01:40]  And it is, if you could be given one guarantee of two, doesn't mean you, and I always emphasize, doesn't mean you cannot have the other.
[00:01:53]  Would you want to...
[00:01:54]  Guaranteed great marriage or the guarantee of a great career?
[00:02:01]  And again, it doesn't mean you can't have the other, but only one is guaranteed.
[00:02:05]  And the answers have gone 50-50.
[00:02:09]  How many years have I been doing that?
[00:02:11]  It's a good question.
[00:02:12]  Living martyr, how many years have I been doing it?
[00:02:14]  About five years?
[00:02:16]  I'd say about five years.
[00:02:19]  Yeah.
[00:02:20]  Before that, I would say, can I ask you a question?
[00:02:22]  They go, yeah.
[00:02:23]  So, who do you root for in baseball?
[00:02:26]  That was my question before that.
[00:02:28]  Are you a Cubs fan?
[00:02:32]  It changed about five years ago.
[00:02:36]  So, what would you say to a young woman today?
[00:02:44]  Which guarantee should they have?
[00:02:50]  Should they take?
[00:02:52]  That's what I would ask you to call in on.
[00:02:59]  There's an article in today's New York Times, why American women everywhere are delaying motherhood.
[00:03:06]  So, for example, would you say that to a young woman?
[00:03:10]  Delay motherhood.
[00:03:11]  Delay getting married.
[00:03:14]  Work on a career.
[00:03:16]  Which...
[00:03:22]  Which do you think is the greater route to happiness?
[00:03:25]  And for that matter, a question nobody asks.
[00:03:28]  I take that back.
[00:03:30]  Few people ask.
[00:03:32]  What's better for society?
[00:03:34]  Let me ask you a question that I promise you have not heard in any medium.
[00:03:40]  What would be better for America?
[00:03:46]  If all of its young women said, you know, I was given a good mind and ability.
[00:03:55]  I am going to pursue career.
[00:04:00]  And if a guy comes along, yeah, that's fine.
[00:04:05]  But that's not my priority.
[00:04:08]  Or if all the young women of America said, I'm going to use my abilities to raise wonderful children.
[00:04:23]  I will work on expanding their mind in literature and in music.
[00:04:29]  I will work on making a happy home.
[00:04:32]  That is where I will use my talents first.
[00:04:36]  Which do you think would make a better America?
[00:04:41]  I'm not asking you which would make a happier woman.
[00:04:44]  That's a very fair question.
[00:04:47]  Which would make a better country?
[00:04:52]  Question that is never asked.
[00:04:57]  Yet, that was the pattern until the 1960s.
[00:05:02]  Very talented women.
[00:05:04]  And I am absolutely...
[00:05:07]  I know this as I know mathematical questions like how much is two and two.
[00:05:17]  That the female brain is as good as the male brain.
[00:05:24]  There is no brain differential.
[00:05:27]  Okay?
[00:05:28]  So, the question is, what do you do with it?
[00:05:32]  There are other major differences between men and women, but the brain ability is not one of them.
[00:05:42]  1-8-Prager-776-877-243-7776 So I'm asking you, what?
[00:05:51]  A few questions.
[00:05:52]  What would be better for the country?
[00:05:56]  What would be better for women?
[00:05:59]  And what would you tell, or what do you tell a young woman in this regard?
[00:06:08]  Virtually every woman that I meet, every young woman that I meet, when I say, so are you hoping to get married?
[00:06:15]  It's sort of, the answer is sort of, yeah, no, no, you know.
[00:06:20]  If the right man comes along.
[00:06:24]  And by the way, men say very similar things.
[00:06:29]  But the crisis is because women are not wanting to get married as much.
[00:06:36]  It's a crisis about men.
[00:06:38]  I've talked about men, the issue of men, masculinity, and the like very often.
[00:06:43]  But I'm talking about women today.
[00:06:47]  What the message you would give to a young woman, what you give to your daughter.
[00:06:53]  There's another question related to this.
[00:06:56]  If a talented and bright young woman said to her parents, you know, I eventually would like something in the work arena, but I first and foremost want to make a family.
[00:07:13]  Find a good man and make a family.
[00:07:16]  Would you be happy, or would you think that she had listened to the Dennis Prager show too often?
[00:07:25]  That's a legit question.
[00:07:30]  And would she be happier?
[00:07:31]  So let's say she marries at 25, actually finds a good guy, which is easier at 25 than at 35. As I have often put it, good men do not grow on trees.
[00:07:44]  In fact, It's harder and harder to find them because we have given them no masculine roles in life.
[00:07:56]  In fact, masculinity has been labeled toxic.
[00:08:02]  But women generally would like that in men.
[00:08:06]  They want masculine men.
[00:08:08]  Do you remember years ago I had this liberal left woman on the...
[00:08:13]  She came in studio.
[00:08:15]  She was shocked she fell in love with a conservative man and then described the constant cognitive dissonance in which she was living.
[00:08:26]  Everything I hold is on the left and I fell in love with this conservative man and in part I fell in love with him because he's conservative.
[00:08:32]  I actually liked the strength that he evinced versus these guys on the left.
[00:08:41]  I wonder whatever happened to her.
[00:08:43]  If she's listening, I'd like to have you back.
[00:08:48]  1-8 Prager 776, what do we tell them?
[00:08:53]  But you know, before the break, I just want to repeat, we never ask the question, what's better for society?
[00:09:02]  In the age of narcissism in which we live, that should be a very important consideration.
[00:09:12]  It's better for society if people get married.
[00:09:15]  It's better for society if they make a good home.
[00:09:18]  It's better for society if some parent supervises their upbringing.