Dennis Prager Show - He Will Love Me For Who I Am... Will He?
Aired: 2020-11-26
Duration: 04:30


=== Men Must Earn Love (04:29) ===

[00:00:00]  On earth, the way God or nature has made us, that is not insignificant.
[00:00:07]  And all he cares about is who I am.
[00:00:13]  Well, then my parallel is a man saying, she doesn't care if I'm ambitious or work hard, if I play video games much of the day, but...
[00:00:29]  She'll love me for who I am.
[00:00:32]  But nobody says that.
[00:00:35]  As I said, no man would say something that stupid.
[00:00:39]  Do you work hard?
[00:00:40]  Are you responsible?
[00:00:43]  So, it doesn't have a parallel in the male world.
[00:00:52]  Men know, by and large, they have to earn a woman's love.
[00:00:56]  Which is a wonderful thing, by the way.
[00:00:59]  It is one of the things that has propelled men all through history to achievement, wanting to earn a woman's love.
[00:01:09]  And keep her love, I might add.
[00:01:13]  I believe that people have to earn love continuously.
[00:01:19]  Obviously, if one of the partners falls ill, then clearly...
[00:01:27]  The love should stay there and the person cannot continue to earn it the way they did prior to the disease.
[00:01:40]  That's why I believe in moral bank accounts.
[00:01:43]  If before you got ill, you were a wonderful spouse, then that certainly will help.
[00:01:52]  You got that moral bank account with your spouse.
[00:01:56]  But putting that aside, this notion of he will love me for who I am is very naive and is not helpful to young women in finding somebody.
[00:02:11]  How do you react to what I just said?
[00:02:14]  Is it offensive?
[00:02:15]  Is it just common sense?
[00:02:17]  I think it's just common sense.
[00:02:20]  But how many young women are told this?
[00:02:25]  1-8 Prager 776-877-243-7776 The same holds true once married.
[00:02:36]  since I believe that you continue to earn the love of your spouse, why would you let yourself go now that you have him?
[00:02:49]  These are tough questions, almost never addressed in our society, because it's a society that wants to deny, number one, any differences between male and number one, any differences between male and female, Wants to deny any significance to women's looks.
[00:03:12]  It's called sexist.
[00:03:15]  To emphasize that that has importance.
[00:03:19]  And anything that emphasizes it is...
[00:03:24]  Just bigoted and misogynistic and sexist.
[00:03:31]  So you can't have honest conversations.
[00:03:35]  Because when honesty is actually engaged in, you are smeared for doing so.
[00:03:47]  I wrote a two-part column many years ago about The issue of when a wife is not in the mood for physical intimacy, mood should not alone be the determinant.
[00:04:03]  If you love your husband and he's a good man, mood alone should not be determinant.
[00:04:09]  On many occasions it might be, but it shouldn't always.
[00:04:14]  And in Huffington Post, somebody wrote that I was advocating marital rape.
[00:04:20]  So what they do is they inhibit honest discussion of male-female relations.
[00:04:27]  Subject today, he will love me for who I am.