Dennis Prager Show - Turmoil Prevents Inner-Peace | The Happiness Hour
Aired: 2020-09-28
Duration: 06:04


=== Fascinating Turmoil Insights (02:08) ===

[00:00:00]  When I experience, which is not often, I work avidly to avoid it, but turmoil is the antithesis of happiness.
[00:00:16]  And a lot of people's lives are in turmoil.
[00:00:19]  None of them are happy.
[00:00:21]  Is that fair to say?
[00:00:24]  Like, you know, our friend, you know, Peter.
[00:00:30]  His life is constantly in turmoil and he's never happy.
[00:00:37]  Peter Turmoil.
[00:00:41]  That's how he got his last name.
[00:00:43]  The whole family is in turmoil.
[00:00:49]  That's the opposite, right?
[00:00:51]  You can't be happy if your life is in turmoil.
[00:00:53]  If you're in a life, in particular, There could be turmoil in your outer life and somehow you have figured out how to weather that storm because everybody has challenges to their peace.
[00:01:11]  But I'm going to give you two examples of how significant peace is to at least the healthy person.
[00:01:23]  This one you'll find, you'll find both fascinating.
[00:01:28]  Number one, I have actually asked on the male-female hour, I've asked men, for whom in general, there are always exceptions, but that doesn't matter.
[00:01:45]  In general, it matters.
[00:01:48]  In general, men are more interested in sex than women.

=== Peace Over Passion (04:10) ===

[00:01:54]  Okay?
[00:01:57]  Only if you have a graduate degree do you disagree with that.
[00:02:02]  Because reality is rebelled against at our university.
[00:02:09]  So I have asked men, would you prefer a peaceful home or a non-peaceful home but more sex?
[00:02:23]  In other words, less sex in a peaceful home or more sex.
[00:02:27]  In a non-peaceful home.
[00:02:31]  Right?
[00:02:32]  The old happy wife, happy life concept.
[00:02:36]  Every man I have addressed this to has said, less sex, more peace.
[00:02:42]  That's how important for most men.
[00:02:45]  Again, every generalization has exceptions.
[00:02:48]  If you dwell on the exceptions, you can't understand life.
[00:02:53]  Right?
[00:02:54]  Okay.
[00:02:55]  Just about everybody has five fingers.
[00:02:58]  Ah, but there are people who are born with four fingers.
[00:03:01]  Yes, but it's irrelevant to the point.
[00:03:04]  Okay, next example.
[00:03:09]  Most of you will not be familiar with this concept, but 99% of Jews are.
[00:03:17]  It's an unbelievably common phrase.
[00:03:23]  Religious, not religious, it's irrelevant.
[00:03:26]  And people will say, they would wish a fellow Jew, may you have nachas from your children.
[00:03:33]  And it is always that word, which is Yiddish from Hebrew, that nachat, it is always translated as, may you have pride and joy from your children.
[00:03:46]  Right?
[00:03:47]  Oh, I have nachas from my child.
[00:03:49]  He got into Yale.
[00:03:51]  Alright?
[00:03:52]  That would be an example.
[00:03:54]  Wow, wat nachas.
[00:03:57]  That's an interesting thing.
[00:03:59]  As I know Hebrew very well, that's not what it means.
[00:04:04]  It doesn't mean pride and joy.
[00:04:06]  It means rest.
[00:04:11]  May you have rest from your children.
[00:04:15]  Not pride and joy.
[00:04:18]  May your children give you peace and rest.
[00:04:22]  That's what the literal word means.
[00:04:25]  And that, in fact, is really what you want.
[00:04:29]  Because if your kid goes to Yale and then makes $500,000 a year in some law firm, but it is alienated from you, do you have happiness?
[00:04:43]  No, because there's no peace from your child.
[00:04:48]  You may have pride.
[00:04:50]  But not peace.
[00:04:53]  Peace over sex.
[00:04:55]  Peace over pride.
[00:05:00]  Would you rather have an alienated child who went to an Ivy League school and got a PhD or doctorate in medicine, but who had contempt for your values, or an electrician?
[00:05:18]  For a child who shared your values and treated you with respect.
[00:05:27]  Everyone has the same answer to that.
[00:05:30]  That's why it's so stupid to work for.
[00:05:33]  I want pride from my child.
[00:05:35]  No, you want rest.
[00:05:36]  You want peace.
[00:05:40]  That's today's happiness hour.
[00:05:43]  The healthy, I can't speak for the unhealthy.
[00:05:46]  There are people who love turmoil.
[00:05:48]  Okay, I can't address that.
[00:05:52]  But most people want peace.
[00:05:55]  That's the closest you get to happiness.
[00:05:59]  At least the definition of it.
[00:06:01]  1-8 Prager 776. Inner peace.