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Fascinating Turmoil Insights
00:02:08
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| When I experience, which is not often, I work avidly to avoid it, but turmoil is the antithesis of happiness. | |
| And a lot of people's lives are in turmoil. | |
| None of them are happy. | |
| Is that fair to say? | |
| Like, you know, our friend, you know, Peter. | |
| His life is constantly in turmoil and he's never happy. | |
| Peter Turmoil. | |
| That's how he got his last name. | |
| The whole family is in turmoil. | |
| That's the opposite, right? | |
| You can't be happy if your life is in turmoil. | |
| If you're in a life, in particular, There could be turmoil in your outer life and somehow you have figured out how to weather that storm because everybody has challenges to their peace. | |
| But I'm going to give you two examples of how significant peace is to at least the healthy person. | |
| This one you'll find, you'll find both fascinating. | |
| Number one, I have actually asked on the male-female hour, I've asked men, for whom in general, there are always exceptions, but that doesn't matter. | |
| In general, it matters. | |
| In general, men are more interested in sex than women. | |
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Peace Over Passion
00:04:10
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| Okay? | |
| Only if you have a graduate degree do you disagree with that. | |
| Because reality is rebelled against at our university. | |
| So I have asked men, would you prefer a peaceful home or a non-peaceful home but more sex? | |
| In other words, less sex in a peaceful home or more sex. | |
| In a non-peaceful home. | |
| Right? | |
| The old happy wife, happy life concept. | |
| Every man I have addressed this to has said, less sex, more peace. | |
| That's how important for most men. | |
| Again, every generalization has exceptions. | |
| If you dwell on the exceptions, you can't understand life. | |
| Right? | |
| Okay. | |
| Just about everybody has five fingers. | |
| Ah, but there are people who are born with four fingers. | |
| Yes, but it's irrelevant to the point. | |
| Okay, next example. | |
| Most of you will not be familiar with this concept, but 99% of Jews are. | |
| It's an unbelievably common phrase. | |
| Religious, not religious, it's irrelevant. | |
| And people will say, they would wish a fellow Jew, may you have nachas from your children. | |
| And it is always that word, which is Yiddish from Hebrew, that nachat, it is always translated as, may you have pride and joy from your children. | |
| Right? | |
| Oh, I have nachas from my child. | |
| He got into Yale. | |
| Alright? | |
| That would be an example. | |
| Wow, wat nachas. | |
| That's an interesting thing. | |
| As I know Hebrew very well, that's not what it means. | |
| It doesn't mean pride and joy. | |
| It means rest. | |
| May you have rest from your children. | |
| Not pride and joy. | |
| May your children give you peace and rest. | |
| That's what the literal word means. | |
| And that, in fact, is really what you want. | |
| Because if your kid goes to Yale and then makes $500,000 a year in some law firm, but it is alienated from you, do you have happiness? | |
| No, because there's no peace from your child. | |
| You may have pride. | |
| But not peace. | |
| Peace over sex. | |
| Peace over pride. | |
| Would you rather have an alienated child who went to an Ivy League school and got a PhD or doctorate in medicine, but who had contempt for your values, or an electrician? | |
| For a child who shared your values and treated you with respect. | |
| Everyone has the same answer to that. | |
| That's why it's so stupid to work for. | |
| I want pride from my child. | |
| No, you want rest. | |
| You want peace. | |
| That's today's happiness hour. | |
| The healthy, I can't speak for the unhealthy. | |
| There are people who love turmoil. | |
| Okay, I can't address that. | |
| But most people want peace. | |
| That's the closest you get to happiness. | |
| At least the definition of it. | |
| 1-8 Prager 776. Inner peace. | |