Dennis Prager Show - Happiness Hour: Why Aren't You Transparent?
Aired: 2020-07-27
Duration: 08:07


=== Why Aren't You Transparent? (06:49) ===

[00:00:01]  That's my subject.
[00:00:05]  Why aren't you transparent?
[00:00:08]  I, right before this, discussed the topic with the living martyr.
[00:00:13]  Now, you might think because he's the living martyr and he presents an Easter Island, what are they called again?
[00:00:21]  Easter Island what?
[00:00:24]  Statue?
[00:00:25]  That you would think, oh, if he's an Easter Island statue, He must not be transparent, but he is as transparent as I am.
[00:00:36]  I see right through him, he sees right through me.
[00:00:44]  My mom and an Easter Island head in terms of gregariousness and encouragement.
[00:00:50]  That was really priceless.
[00:00:53]  Only Adam Carolla on Earth could come up with that.
[00:00:57]  That is my belief.
[00:01:00]  1-8 Prager 776-877-243-7776 So why aren't you transparent?
[00:01:09]  That's my question to those of you who are not.
[00:01:13]  What are you afraid of?
[00:01:17]  You robbed a bank 8 years ago?
[00:01:24]  I understand that.
[00:01:27]  But I'm very serious.
[00:01:29]  I don't relate to the lack of transparency that people aim for.
[00:01:40]  My view, I guess, is, look, this is who I am.
[00:01:45]  If you reject me, then fine.
[00:01:49]  So I'll move on to somebody who will accept me.
[00:01:54]  Why would you want to be accepted by people whom you hide from?
[00:02:00]  Then you're not being accepted, correct?
[00:02:03]  If you're closed, the people who like you, you are almost afraid of.
[00:02:14]  Right?
[00:02:15]  If I really showed them who I was, then they wouldn't be in my life.
[00:02:22]  1-8 Prager-776-877-243-7776.
[00:02:30]  This is a very important subject.
[00:02:34]  I don't know how you have close friendships if you're not transparent.
[00:02:38]  I don't know how you have a good marital relationship if you're not transparent.
[00:02:47]  A beautiful trait worthy of of developing.
[00:02:58]  it's something that I have realized my whole life and it's it's a powerful thing when I pray your seven seven six I hope our lines are working here because I don't see anything coming up so I will just continue
[00:03:25]  On the happiness hour, it never happens, so I don't know if we have a breakdown of our system.
[00:03:33]  this is the these are the two most important arrows for the phone lines to work it's it is what it is right Thank you.
[00:03:51]  Why would you want to live like that?
[00:03:56]  Is it something that you felt as a child?
[00:04:01]  When do people develop?
[00:04:03]  Are children transparent?
[00:04:06]  So you have to really develop.
[00:04:08]  You say yes.
[00:04:10]  You have to develop being closed.
[00:04:14]  It's sort of a conscious decision.
[00:04:17]  I mean, there may be children where...
[00:04:21]  That's not true, but I don't know how that would be.
[00:04:27]  This is truly a significant subject.
[00:04:33]  There is no gain in non-transparency because it's sort of like you know you're faking it.
[00:04:42]  Really, when you think about it, what is it, This is one of the great values to me, personally, of doing the radio show.
[00:04:58]  Getting to hear from so many people is almost unique.
[00:05:05]  I mean, very few people have this opportunity.
[00:05:08]  I mean, ironically, every one of you has the opportunity just listening to the show.
[00:05:12]  It's the same opportunity I do.
[00:05:14]  You really do learn a lot about human beings.
[00:05:20]  Ideally, I would like to know what is it you hide and why?
[00:05:27]  Who do you think will reject you?
[00:05:32]  I have to believe that that's what it is.
[00:05:36]  You know, I'll give you a tiny example.
[00:05:39]  When I started radio, I decided if I were interviewing a guest and they said something, And I didn't understand it.
[00:05:52]  I just didn't, you know, it was a new subject or something I just didn't understand, or they used a word I didn't understand.
[00:05:59]  Would I go, uh-huh, to give the impression to the listeners that I knew exactly what the person was saying?
[00:06:06]  Or do I say, I'm sorry, could you explain that to me?
[00:06:13]  I mean, that was a conscious decision to be transparent.
[00:06:18]  I was not going to hold back from listeners that I was ignorant about something.
[00:06:28]  And by the way, that way I learned.
[00:06:30]  I've told you this, and it's made of an impact on you.

=== The Easily Embarrassed Does Not Learn (01:31) ===

[00:06:36]  It's an amazing thing, the aphorisms in Hebrew that I learned in my religious education from elementary school through high school.
[00:06:46]  They were...
[00:06:47]  Must have been a hundred aphorisms, every one of which changed my life.
[00:06:51]  There's a very famous one, thousands of years old, a Jewish saying in Hebrew, I'll just tell it to you in English, the easily embarrassed does not learn.
[00:07:05]  And I thought, wow, that is brilliant.
[00:07:09]  Do you know that is one of the ways I learned the languages that I learned?
[00:07:12]  Because I was never afraid to make mistakes in the countries that spoke those languages.
[00:07:18]  If people laughed at me, I could handle it.
[00:07:21]  But they never laughed at me.
[00:07:23]  They laughed with me.
[00:07:24]  Do you ever laugh at anybody from a foreign country who speaks English with a mistake?
[00:07:29]  Of course not.
[00:07:31]  You're just dazzled that they could speak English at all.
[00:07:33]  I'm dazzled by that.
[00:07:37]  I made a mistake in Hebrew once, which I speak pretty...
[00:07:41]  Close to fluently.
[00:07:44]  In Hebrew, the word for taxi service and the word for bathroom is the same, or very close.
[00:07:56]  They're the same, basically.
[00:07:57]  So I walked around the Tel Aviv bus terminal asking, hey, where are the toilets to Jerusalem?