Dennis Prager Show - Male/Female Hour Valentines Edition
Aired: 2020-02-13
Duration: 07:39


=== Romance Myths Debunked (02:16) ===

[00:00:00]  I'm not a Halloween fan, but I don't care.
[00:00:02]  People enjoy it.
[00:00:03]  Let them enjoy themselves.
[00:00:06]  But I think they're good things.
[00:00:08]  I think that romance is a good thing.
[00:00:11]  I think expressions of romantic love are good things.
[00:00:15]  What could be bad about it, right?
[00:00:17]  And I mean it.
[00:00:21]  So, there are two studies.
[00:00:24]  I mean, probably 400, but there were two that I, the one that I saw, which is what engendered this topic.
[00:00:30]  This was in the Daily Mail.
[00:00:33]  Big headline.
[00:00:34]  Relationship expert busts the biggest myths about romance.
[00:00:40]  And one of, so they, in the Daily Mail, which is in England, it's a very interesting website.
[00:00:48]  And they have bullet points.
[00:00:53]  And one of the bullet points is, men prefer sex to gifts, while women care more about thought than extravagance.
[00:01:05]  Perth, I guess Australia, Perth dating coach Luann Ward clarified common misconceptions.
[00:01:16]  And this was one of them.
[00:01:21]  90%.
[00:01:22]  A resounding 90% of men surveyed by illicit encounters said sex was their number one wish for Valentine's Day.
[00:01:34]  That's a very good point from the Triple G and any other day.
[00:01:46]  And in a leap year, that adds a day.
[00:01:50]  Just for the record.
[00:01:53]  Now, let me make something clear.
[00:01:55]  I know this.
[00:01:56]  I'm going to get emails where the relationship is inverted.
[00:02:00]  Where the woman wants it more than the man does.

=== Why Love Includes Intimacy (03:44) ===

[00:02:03]  And I know that happens.
[00:02:05]  And life is filled with frustration.
[00:02:09]  But I'm talking about the normal problem.
[00:02:14]  And if it's a problem at all.
[00:02:17]  But it's...
[00:02:20]  It's a significant thing.
[00:02:24]  And I must admit, this has been somewhat of a puzzle to me.
[00:02:30]  If you love your husband, and that's a big if, and that'll give you more ifs.
[00:02:35]  If you love your husband, and he's a good man, those are the two ifs, okay?
[00:02:41]  The two big ifs.
[00:02:44]  Why wouldn't you have sex with him?
[00:02:48]  Perhaps more often.
[00:02:49]  And I'm not pushing for daily.
[00:02:54]  But when I get emails, I got an email this week from a man who loves his wife.
[00:02:59]  I mean, he wrote, he was emphatic.
[00:03:01]  I love her.
[00:03:01]  She's a great mother.
[00:03:02]  She's a great wife, even.
[00:03:04]  But we haven't had sex in five years.
[00:03:07]  So he asked me for advice.
[00:03:09]  By the way, advice is spelled with a C, not an S. S is advise.
[00:03:14]  C is advice.
[00:03:17]  There's another word.
[00:03:18]  That's another word that's commonly misspelled, as is lose.
[00:03:23]  It's amazing how many people spell lose.
[00:03:25]  L-O-O-S-E. It can only be a function of people not reading.
[00:03:33]  But anyway, I get those.
[00:03:38]  By the way, he says advice.
[00:03:41]  And my heart goes out to this guy, but I said, you know the answer.
[00:03:47]  Here are your choices.
[00:03:49]  Make peace with it.
[00:03:53]  Improve the situation.
[00:03:55]  Or divorce.
[00:03:57]  I mean, he knows.
[00:03:59]  There's no such thing as it.
[00:04:00]  What am I going to give advice?
[00:04:02]  I'd like to give her advice.
[00:04:04]  I wish I could speak to her.
[00:04:08]  You know, I rather speak to the wife of that man who wrote me that than I would any person in the world.
[00:04:17]  Any president, any prime minister.
[00:04:19]  Do you know that?
[00:04:20]  And you know I'm telling the truth.
[00:04:23]  Because I have very little interest in famous people.
[00:04:27]  Even as a kid, they didn't interest me.
[00:04:31]  I always prefer to be with friends for dinner.
[00:04:34]  I still do.
[00:04:35]  But I mean it.
[00:04:36]  Maybe this man is listening.
[00:04:38]  Sir, I would rather talk to your wife in private so that she doesn't have you around for where tension might arise than anyone that I could think of in the world.
[00:04:54]  How's that?
[00:04:56]  Because I would love to know what, given the importance to your husband, whom you Do you love him?
[00:05:07]  I assume she'd say yes.
[00:05:09]  Do you feel he's a good man?
[00:05:10]  I think she'd say yes.
[00:05:12]  So what would she say?
[00:05:14]  Maybe you could help me.
[00:05:15]  Do you know what this woman might say if she loves him and he's a good man?
[00:05:21]  Don't call up and tell me, well, you know, of course she's angry at him.
[00:05:25]  If she's angry at him, then okay.
[00:05:27]  So then she doesn't think he's a good man.
[00:05:29]  Are you angry at a good man?

=== YouGov's Valentine's Day Survey (02:08) ===

[00:05:32]  Or at least...
[00:05:34]  Would you acknowledge that you're angry at a good man?
[00:05:37]  So Valentine's Day is coming up.
[00:05:39]  So this is the study, the Daily Mail, from this Australian advisor to couples.
[00:05:47]  And she said 90% of the men would prefer, for Valentine's Day, sex over a gift.
[00:05:57]  Okay.
[00:05:59]  So next, YouGov.
[00:06:01]  What's YouGov?
[00:06:03]  It's not a government thing, is it?
[00:06:05]  No, it's like you determine.
[00:06:07]  You determine?
[00:06:09]  Oh, not government.
[00:06:11]  You govern, as it were.
[00:06:13]  Yeah, it's a famous site.
[00:06:15]  Yeah, okay, so this is their listing.
[00:06:22]  The thing men most want for Valentine's Day, sexual acts slash favors.
[00:06:30]  Second a card.
[00:06:32]  Third, chocolates and candy.
[00:06:36]  Fourth, wine, liquor.
[00:06:38]  And sixth, electronics.
[00:06:41]  It's a strange survey.
[00:06:45]  I mean, in first place, honey, would you like sex or a card?
[00:06:54]  The guy would think you're joking.
[00:06:59]  That's his only possible reaction.
[00:07:02]  Sex or chocolate?
[00:07:05]  Hmm.
[00:07:07]  Let me think about that and I'll get back to you next Valentine's Day.
[00:07:10]  Women.
[00:07:11]  This is awesome.
[00:07:13]  Women's preferences.
[00:07:14]  This is on YouGov.
[00:07:16]  Number one.
[00:07:18]  Chocolates and candy.
[00:07:21]  Number two.
[00:07:22]  A card.
[00:07:23]  Number three.
[00:07:24]  Flowers.
[00:07:25]  Number four.
[00:07:26]  Jewelry.
[00:07:27]  Number five, certificate for massage slash spa day.
[00:07:34]  Did you notice that something's not on that list that's on the men's list?
[00:07:39]  Electronics!