Dennis Prager Show - The Joy of Intimacy
Aired: 2020-01-23
Duration: 04:41


=== Why Not Marriage? (04:41) ===

[00:00:00]  So, okay, so people will feel alone.
[00:00:03]  Does the aloneness grow over time, or do you think that within like a month of the marriage, a lot of people already have it?
[00:00:14]  I think it's there all the time.
[00:00:16]  You can get distracted, you can be excited about the marriage, but in every quiet moment, you realize you're alone in the world.
[00:00:29]  And the only cure is marriage, by the way.
[00:00:33]  I mean, God said, therefore should a man leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife.
[00:00:40]  Why can't you be close with your mother and father and be one with them?
[00:00:45]  Good, go on.
[00:00:46]  Because to them you're number three.
[00:00:49]  Hopefully they have each other.
[00:00:51]  That's right.
[00:00:52]  So the only relationship in which you are really one is a marriage.
[00:00:56]  Where you truly become one.
[00:00:59]  Right, not with children either.
[00:01:01]  Not with parents, not with children.
[00:01:05]  I subscribe to that 100%.
[00:01:08]  I know that.
[00:01:10]  There's very little we disagree on on this subject.
[00:01:13]  There may be little we disagree on on a lot of subjects.
[00:01:16]  Other subjects may be.
[00:01:18]  But anyway, whatever it is, I'm glad that you know that.
[00:01:26]  I told you I don't talk about the topic with guests during the breaks because I want to always reserve it for the listeners.
[00:01:33]  But I did mention one of my favorite lines in the Bible where God said, it's not good for man to be alone.
[00:01:40]  You said you had thoughts on that subject, on that verse.
[00:01:43]  Yeah.
[00:01:44]  And I'd only realized this recently, even though I've read it so many times.
[00:01:49]  God is creating the world.
[00:01:51]  On the first day, he created light.
[00:01:53]  And on the second day, he created the heaven.
[00:01:55]  On the third day, he created grass and trees.
[00:01:58]  And then all of a sudden, God says, I created man, but it's not good with man alone, so I'm going to create a woman.
[00:02:06]  Why the statement?
[00:02:09]  You're doing great.
[00:02:10]  You're creating.
[00:02:10]  You know, you're on a roll.
[00:02:12]  Just create what you need to create.
[00:02:14]  What's with the statement?
[00:02:16]  It's almost like he's justifying himself or something.
[00:02:19]  Not good with man alone, I'll create a woman.
[00:02:22]  Just go ahead and do it.
[00:02:24]  Right, like everything else.
[00:02:25]  Like everything else.
[00:02:26]  He didn't say it's not good for there not to be light.
[00:02:28]  Right.
[00:02:29]  Or only a sun without a moon.
[00:02:31]  Yeah, right.
[00:02:31]  Exactly.
[00:02:32]  Okay, so go on.
[00:02:35]  It is an absolutely divine instinct to not want to be alone.
[00:02:43]  It's not human.
[00:02:45]  Because as far as humans are concerned...
[00:02:47]  All you ever hear is, leave me alone.
[00:02:51]  So is it good to be alone or is it not good to be alone?
[00:02:55]  If a human being were perfectly capable, totally self-sufficient, anything wrong with that?
[00:03:04]  Be alone.
[00:03:05]  Don't depend on anybody.
[00:03:07]  Don't need anybody.
[00:03:08]  Well, that's the goal in modern life.
[00:03:09]  But go on.
[00:03:10]  I don't want to distract you.
[00:03:11]  Go on.
[00:03:12]  So when God said it is not good, he actually created that.
[00:03:17]  He created loneliness.
[00:03:18]  He created the fact that being just you is not good.
[00:03:23]  Wow.
[00:03:23]  Even when you're perfect.
[00:03:25]  Like him.
[00:03:28]  Well, that's great.
[00:03:29]  That is a great line.
[00:03:31]  If I could, for my second edition of my Genesis commentary, I will cite you.
[00:03:37]  The Mishnator.
[00:03:38]  That's right.
[00:03:39]  The second one.
[00:03:40]  Right, exactly.
[00:03:43]  You will love this then.
[00:03:45]  I wrote in my commentary something I had heard from a Protestant minister.
[00:03:48]  I never heard it from him.
[00:03:50]  Someone told me.
[00:03:51]  So I couldn't cite who it is.
[00:03:53]  And I never found out the source.
[00:03:56]  But this I would love your reaction to.
[00:03:59]  This minister, this pastor said God was saying something else as well.
[00:04:06]  Adam, after all, related to God.
[00:04:09]  So even God and you.
[00:04:17]  In a sense, God is saying, I'm creating you in my image.
[00:04:25]  For no particular reason, I don't want to be alone.
[00:04:30]  And I'm giving you that same instinct.
[00:04:33]  So that even on a human level, besides your relationship with God, which is mystical...