Pearl Daily’s The Rise of Situationships dives into modern dating’s gray zone, where callers like Todd (52) and Gary (40) reveal patterns: 75% of women expect commitment immediately, while others exploit "pump-and-dump" dynamics lasting years. Rebirth Pro and James note 80% of women in situationships secretly crave serious relationships but sabotage them—cheating, financial games, or dismissing men as "beta." Sean argues men manipulate ambiguity with phrases like "who’s my girl?" to delay accountability, while women often use situationships to avoid settling. The trend suggests dating now operates on trial periods, with commitment hinging on perceived status and loyalty, reshaping traditional relationship expectations. [Automatically generated summary]
Most answered very quickly, no, because men are useless.
I mean, this headline from the hill, it caught my eye.
Most young men are single.
Most young women are not.
Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.
It's a different world now.
Like, we don't need men the way that they used to.
The future is female.
Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it.
A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.
You've kind of got the TradCon versus Red Pill thing.
This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.
Oh, you need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.
Marriage is a bond and it's a sacred bond.
It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.
Now many of the red-pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.
Hannah Pearl Davis, or just pearly things.
One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.
She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.
Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.
Gee, what could go wrong there?
74% or something of divorces are initiated by women.
Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children.
Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws.
I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.
Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.
You need no evidence.
When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for, and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.
I interview them on the other side.
I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.
How much did you spend trying to get him back?
The legal fees alone was about 200,000.
Before you know it, you're homeless.
You're literally just thrown out into the street.
We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women.
Wives are taught to leave their husbands and then daughters grow up without their fathers.
Family is the foundation of a society.
Every problem in society comes from single mother homes.
A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness.
Feminism's biggest failures is it lies to women.
We tell women to date as many guys as possible.
We tell them to put off family into marriage.
You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.
You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.
Oh, free shreds, have an abortion.
What?
You're evil.
I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.
Like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic, naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.
It's self-sabotage.
And that's the thing.
Like women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy.
This is not about happiness.
The most important thing is the children.
And the problem is we have a modern society where it's me, me, me, my feelings, leave when I feel like it, instead of doing what's best for the kids.
This myth that we live in an age of male privilege.
Where's my male privilege?
They think, well, men have all the rights.
They have all the power.
Privilege patriarchal system that we have.
Why doesn't our society care about men's rights?
I have no friends, no wife, and no social life.
Men are alone in this situation.
Men are homeless.
Men are thinking about eating guns.
I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide and they didn't do anything wrong.
How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?
The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.
Women are helplessly dependent upon men.
The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, or alcohol, three times higher among men than among women.
Culture is telling men, you are no good.
You gotta get your act together.
I think men have failed themselves.
What kind of a man are you?
What kind of a woman are you going to attract?
If men are in trouble, so are women.
Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.
Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man.
500K, 500, 300K, 300K, 200K.
Am I crazy?
Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.
If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them.
So, you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?
Women.
I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.
I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.
I'm overage.
When is it going to be my turn?
Where are we meeting the men that don't?
I can't keep having these same conversations.
And the only simp here is you, Pearl.
You sent for women.
No, I think you sent for women.
She's a provocateur.
She says stupid stuff, but Pearl is right about this.
It's already happening.
It's just not out in the open yet.
Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband.
The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.
Go into population decline and our economy goes into decline.
Civilization will crumble.
The American story does not end well.
This is an existential crisis failing young men.
What's going on, people?
Thank you for tuning in tonight.
You could bring your time and attention anywhere on this planet.
And for some reason, you guys have decided to give it to me.
So thank you guys so much for tuning in, and I appreciate it.
If you can like the video, I want to say, first of all, thank you for the money that we've raised for a divorce documentary.
Our goal is to raise $100,000 to pay a production team to do our divorce documentary.
This would allow us to fly fathers in, maybe even go to them in person and bring a film crew.
Anyways, thank you to the last 24 hours.
We've had anonymous $25 donation, $125 from another anonymous account, and Michael, who donated $100,000.
Thank you guys so much.
It's your donations that make this possible.
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So, okay, so today we're talking about situationships.
Now, this has been a relatively new term.
I don't think situationships are kind of a product of the modern dating market.
And it was tough when I was younger and I went to school.
I didn't know how to describe to my parents the relationships everybody was in.
Because while there was maybe one or two or three boyfriend, girlfriends on the teams, most of my lifetime, I've probably known more people in situationships than I know married or in relationships.
Now, so welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.
Not very long ago, it was required for a man to commit to a woman to be able to have sex.
It was required, at least for most men, for what they knew of, for a man to marry a woman before the woman would bear his children.
But those times are long gone.
For the sexual revolution came a culture where women are empowered to be promiscuous and have casual sex.
This dynamic is praised in modern culture.
Where there was once long-term relationships, now there's nothing but a bunch of situationships.
Now, what is a situationship?
A situationship is a romantic or sexual relationship that lacks clear labels, commitment, or long-term expectations.
It's more than just like a one-time casual hookup, but less than a traditional relationship.
More and more women are getting stuck in situations for months and even years as more and more average and men-women are trying to get commitment from men that are out of their league.
If you ask these women whose fault is it that the situationship is persisting, they will always blame the men instead of taking accountability for the type of man they choose to spend their time with.
Now, I'd like to give a little bit of a caveat.
So, there's a few different types of situationships that I see.
There's a few.
So, there's situationship number one, which is a woman sleeping with a guy that's out of her league.
This can go on for months and even years.
Now, this type of situationship is on and off.
Oftentimes, the woman will go back to this guy throughout her entire life.
So, in between marriages, she'll go back.
In between boyfriends, she'll go back.
This is the ultimate guy that the woman wanted.
This is the jack, you know, of modern women.
Now, there is a different type of situationship that I also see.
And this is a guy that a woman sleeps with but is embarrassed of.
So, oftentimes, you hear from these guys, and you may laugh, but this is a problem for certain men, that the women always want sex and never commitment.
Now, men that have never been in that position can't even fathom this.
But these are the men that are chosen to be side dude material, where the women could not see themselves getting along with the man.
Maybe they're embarrassed to be with that man in public, but they just cannot, for whatever reason, see it long term, but they like the sex or maybe even the comfort of the situationship.
You also see the fat chicks that men bang and you know, they don't really know their place.
But those are really the different types of situationships I see.
And I was thinking about the experience of men and women, and I noticed that you can compare a situationship with an older woman to a young man in the friend zone with an attractive woman.
And I would argue it's up to the man to end a relationship with a woman that he's putting effort into but not getting the sex from.
Just like it's a woman's responsibility to end things with a man that she's not getting commitment from.
Women say all the time that they know right when they meet a man if they would sleep with him or not.
I think it's the same for men.
It won't take long for a man to realize if he want it, he would be in a relationship with a woman, sort of.
Okay, so I did a poll and I was kind of curious about this.
So, I polled men.
What is the longest, or sorry, I polled people, what is the longest situationship you've been in?
So, 30% of situationships, this is over 2,000 people, so this is a decent sample size, under a year, one to three years, 20%, 10% say three to five years, and the majority of situationships are over five years long.
And when I got this poll, I realized that's longer than most marriages.
Many situationships last longer than most marriages.
Now, I also did a poll today asking men if they've ever promoted, let me find it, fellas.
Have you, because me and Doug MPI were talking before the show, and I don't agree that, I don't agree at all that situationships, the women always lose.
And his initial thought was that if a man doesn't know in a year if he's going to marry you, he's never going to.
And I have to, I think it's a generational difference, but that's not what I've seen at all.
Or make you his girlfriend.
And I'm being honest here, that is not at all what I've seen.
I've seen about 50-50.
Half of situationships get left in the dust, and half actually get what they want, even after one to three years.
There's winners and there's losers in this life.
Now, there was a girl in school, and she was dating, I knew in school, and she was dating, let's just call him Chad.
And to be honest, the whole time I would watch her and I would think that she was stupid, right?
And I would think that she was dumb, an idiot.
Chad will never take you seriously.
You know, I recently checked in her profile and she's pregnant with his kid now, so I was wrong.
That girl was in a four-year situationship, four years and one.
But for every winner, there's a loser, right?
And I knew another girl that was in an on-and-off situationship with let's call him Tyrone.
And it was on and off for years.
And no, he never took her seriously.
I would say probably she wasn't good looking enough.
Neither were, right?
Both.
The one guy did bald early, so maybe that helped.
I don't know.
Now, the women that win and the women that lose, I'd like to say there's no guaranteed outcomes.
There's just strategies.
But the women that I saw win, the strategy they would enact is they wouldn't bring up commitment and they would just work to give the man the most positive experience possible.
Now, the women that would nag the man constantly about what are we and da I didn't really see them winning.
So I was curious.
I wanted to pull the people, and this is a smaller poll.
I wanted to poll and see what the people had seen.
Because in my experience, from what I've seen, it's about 50-50.
Maybe 60-40 with 60% of situationships stay that way, 40%.
And I promoted a situationship to my girlfriend or wife.
This is asking men.
32% said they have done that.
30% just wanted to see results.
37% said they'd never done that.
And that's about what I've seen.
I've also seen men on the losing side of a situationship where the girl's just a little hotter than him or has more choice.
And he wants to be in a relationship, you know, and she doesn't.
But my question is for the men, I really want to hear about your situationships.
You know, what is the longest situationship you've been in?
Why was it a situationship?
And why, what made you stay in it for so long?
And did you ever promote her?
Or maybe you were on the end of wanting to be promoted.
Did you get promoted?
So we're going to watch some TikToks on situationships and then you guys can call in.
You know how they say it's always harder to get over someone that you never actually dated?
Well, I would like to add something to that.
Not only is it harder to get over someone that you never dated, it is the hardest to get over.
Someone said, I know a guy who's been in one for 35 years.
Seems like a great story.
Call in.
Or someone that you never dated that you also met in a very serendipitous way.
And I know for a fact that is why it was so hard for me to get over a couple of the men that I was involved with in my 20s.
And mind you, these are men that I never was in a committed relationship, but because of the way that I met them in these crazy, unexpected, out-of-the-blue fairy tale ways.
Yeah, so when they say I met him in a fairy tale way, it just means he has a script.
He's very good at running.
So he's got like a routine that he's good at like putting women in.
It made it near.
Women are the ones in situationships.
Most of the time, they're older women that are desperate for a relationship and get one.
Doug MPA, I've seen it both.
Honestly, these days, I'm being honest, I see a good amount of men in situationships with young women where they want, it's like, it's like they want the situationship to be taken seriously, but the women are young.
They're like, no, just sex.
I've seen it.
I've seen it both ways.
The older women, the older women, younger man, I mean, that's, that's another one that you see.
Nearly impossible for me to think that it wasn't destiny for me to be with them.
So yeah, granted, they were showing me, they were definitely showing me in the moment who they were as people, even if their actions were not aligning with their words at all.
Even if they were hot and cold and treating me terribly.
Women close to hitting the wall will accept situations.
If I'm being honest, guys, I saw it the most in school.
That was like when I was in college, more women were in situationships than relationships.
And some of them, it was on their terms.
Some of them it wasn't.
But if I'm just being real here, that's what I when I saw it the most.
And I'm not, I'm not trying to like white knight for women, right?
I'm just like, I have to go with what I'm seeing with my eyes.
So, yeah.
I simply just did not care because I was like, well, I met them in this way.
And this is how I've always wanted to meet someone.
So therefore, it's just going to have to work out somehow.
And then I would get stuck in like very on and off situationships with people that sometimes lasted up to two years.
So on top of already being someone who tends to project her daydreamed fantasies onto people in the real world, even if they are showing the complete opposite.
Add to that the fact that since I was a little girl, I've always wanted to meet someone in that like Disney princess way.
Of course, it was hard for me to let go of these men.
Like, why wouldn't it have been hard?
Like, one of the guys that I'm referring to, he actually chased me down as I was pulling out of my parking lot to go to my friend's house.
Like, he waved me down and made me stop my car and then asked for my number.
And then the other person I met while I was on vacation, just hit it off right away.
We got along so well that we ended up spending like every single night together for the rest of the time that I was there.
And then we just happened to either run into each other or see each other for the next two years after that, completely unplanned.
And mind you, this person and I both live in different countries.
Like there's no way that that's a coincidence.
So it was situations like that where I would either keep running into the person or the way that I met them genuinely made me believe that this was going to be how it played out with this person.
Like it was meant to be.
And I think unless you've been through this yourself or unless you are a very imaginative person and you have a very clear idea of like how you want things to play out, which I know you can't even control that, you really won't understand how difficult it is to let go of people that you do meet in these unexpected and serendipitous ways.
Like, I don't know, in my mind, it's just a lot easier for me to get over someone that I meet on a dating app versus someone that I meet like in the wild, completely unplanned and unexpected.
Trust me when I say that I've been through this situation enough times now to know that the way that you meet someone really does not play into the kind of person that they are at all.
Definitely had to learn that one the hard way, but I'm just saying if you are someone that has also found it way more difficult to let go of people that you met in these crazy ways, you are not alone because I stand by the theory that the people that you meet in these kinds of ways are 10 times harder to let go.
Okay, yeah.
And what you get, it's when you meet a guy in a crazy way.
He's practiced that.
So he's got choice.
Oh, I've been in a situation for six fucking years now.
I cannot believe I just said that on camera, but I'm so fucking over it.
I'm so over it.
Basically, this boy and I started dating when we were in high school.
And like, honestly, that shit was so toxic.
Like, we were both stubborn as fuck and we would just argue constantly.
So what happens is women will always go back to the most alpha guy of their past.
So sometimes women find that guy in high school.
Sometimes we find that guy in college.
Sometimes we find that guy in the workforce.
But usually, especially women, I want you guys to know if there's a woman that gives you a really low body count and she's not lying.
There's some ex that has a subscription still.
I'm just letting you know.
But, anyways, he broke up with me.
I was so sad, but then we remained really close friends and eventually just basically.
Because you guys have to think about it.
Women are getting, you know, thrown at us 24-7.
And I want you, when you start looking at sex as a need, women's behavior makes way more sense and it like it humanizes us in a way.
Women, you know, men, it would be like, you know, women, they're going to find a way to take care of that need.
And obviously women, we're going to do it in the most manipulative ways possible.
And exes are a great way to do it.
Continue to date, but without label.
And then we both went to the same fucking college.
So we weren't really dating then either, but we continued this whatever the fuck that was going on.
And that shit fucked with my head because it felt so much like a relationship that when I got upset at things, like which if you're in a relationship, it was totally valid.
But because we weren't, it wasn't justified.
And so I kept feeling all these things that I wasn't technically allowed to feel because we weren't dating.
Like I've always been really shy with like dating and all that.
Like I don't really know how to flirt.
Fuck me.
I'm 23 and I don't, I can't flirt.
And the thing is, it was on off, on, off.
But because for me, I was so scared to like meet other people because I was so comfortable in this little like security blanket.
Yeah, so a lot of times, guys, when you're meeting a woman and she's acting weird, there's someone in the background.
Like if you, if you start thinking, I can tell she likes me, but there's something holding me back or whatever.
I promise to God, either she doesn't like you at all or there's someone in the background.
That is this boy.
And I regret not going on dates and like fucking around in college because now I'm 23.
I work at home now.
So it's not like I can meet people at work.
And like I don't want to do dating ads either because it just feels so forced.
And I've heard too many bad stories from friends that like, I'm not doing that shit.
But anyway, last year of college, we finally dated, which apparently recently I talked to him about it.
And according to him, we weren't even dating back then, but we were doing like the whole flowers, Valentine's Day, all that shit.
So like, I don't know what's wrong with him.
It has come to my attention finally.
I need to move the fuck on.
Yeah, and that's that's who you're competing with.
And remember, this is a six-year situationship.
Situationships oftentimes last longer than marriages.
Think about that.
Think about that.
Stop wasting my time on this boy.
We broke up the last year of college because of long distance, but now we're in the same city in the same fucking friend group and it's so much harder.
But fuck this.
This year I told myself to stop wasting my time and energy on the people who don't return the same energy back.
I'm 23, still have not dated anyone else.
Like at this point, I feel like I'm just going to die alone.
All my friends are in relationships too, and it's so cute.
I'm like, I want one.
Where do people get one?
At this point, I feel like I've lost all of my dating skills because I didn't have to use that muscle for like six years.
For the first time in my life, I finally feel like I'm ready to move on and meet other people.
I'm just fucking terrified too.
I keep saying that I'm only sticking with this boy because of comfort and familiarity.
But like, he's not giving me any of that because he's stressing me out so fucking much.
I just needed to rant today.
Oh my God.
She just went up two points.
Holy shit.
Did you guys see that?
Oh my God.
Makeup works.
We can't deny this.
That's okay.
Hot girl rant.
Wait, I've been loving brushing my hair like this recently.
And just look at that.
Alright, so yeah, she's got the situationship.
Let's see who's next.
Oh, this is the same one.
Okay, let's see who's next.
I just took some new situationship of eight months and said, hey, I love coloring you.
Love coloring you.
But I'm never going to meet my husband if I keep coloring you.
And I think I actually am finally ready for more commitment from someone.
All was great in my head.
Like in my head, he didn't even reply.
Great.
Life lived on.
Why did he reply and say, who's to say that person can't be me?
Now she just got another six months.
He got another six months of subscription.
That wasn't in the script.
So now my brain is frozen.
He's taking notes.
All right.
Let's see who's next.
And this is super common for girls in their early 20s.
Like, it's that.
That's, you know, you guys are saying the older women are in the situationships.
And maybe they are, but I'm telling you, in school, it was like everybody.
Everybody.
Say what you will, but I'm in what they call a long-term situationship.
It's an Aquarius, so you already know.
Anyway, I'm a lever, so it's like two air signs.
And I get on his fucking nerves for sure.
So let's play a game of questions.
How long have we been in a situationship?
I don't know.
I don't really count time like anniversaries.
It's just like time passage.
This guy does not care.
Two and a half years.
Who braided my hair for soul cycle this morning?
I do because I've known how to braid for a long time.
Okay, but who makes me dinner every night?
Not every night, but me because I feed the cats and you around the same time.
How long have I been staying in your apartment?
Um, long enough.
I mean, you have your own.
I don't understand why you can't move the fuck out.
So why are we not in a relationship?
Because I can't even commit to my clothes.
Why the fuck would I commit to like a thing like that?
A thing.
He braids my hair.
He makes me food.
I stay in his apartment.
Bitch.
Every night he makes me food.
Define situationship.
I already did.
What does it mean to you?
He like does not want to be on camera.
This is, he's like, lady, you got a chest tattoo.
I can't do this.
It's there for the time because it means when people just got too much shit going on that they don't have the time to put a label on something, but you know, that something is there all the fucking time.
Asking for food every night.
So like.
Anyway, two and a half years, no commitment.
But he will braid my hair.
He will cook for me.
I can stay in his zoo of too many tattoos and her hair is too short.
Fucking house.
Because you make this shit a zoo.
Fuck.
My house is so much cleaner when you're not around.
Anyway.
There's cereal on the floor.
Why is there cereal?
I don't even eat cereal.
That's it.
Yeah.
Gonzo knows.
Ah, yeah.
See the guy in the background.
He's thinner and he kind of looked better looking at a glance.
Oh, I think.
Oh, this is.
Okay, so I'm in a new situationship, but I need you guys to tell me what base am I on, okay?
Like, how serious is this?
Yeah, we're not official, we're not exclusive, we're not dating, but we are watching Love Island USA together, even though we are currently on opposite sides of the country.
I'm in Chicago right now because I'm home and they're in LA.
And so, what we've been doing is every night we've been like syncing up in how we watch Love Island.
Like, we'll press play at the exact same time and then we'll binge like three or four episodes together.
Our entire text threads have just become like syncing up, pressing play, syncing up time codes.
Because also, I have ads and they don't, so that's become fickle.
Like, we have like 10,000 text messages back and forth over the last few days where we've been binging this show and just live texting it as it's happening.
This is commitment.
So, yeah, guys, let me know.
Do you think it's serious enough for me to propose?
Or, like, there's another one.
All right, let's see.
And we're going to have you call in.
And I just want to hear all about if you guys have been in situationships.
You know, we're going to go.
You know how they say it's always harder to get over someone that you never actually dated.
Well, I would like to add something to that.
Not only is it harder to get over someone that you never dated, it is the hardest to get over someone that you never dated that you also met in a very serendipitous way.
And I know for it.
We did this one already.
All right.
So, guys, I want you to call in and tell me about your situationships.
All right.
So, let's call in.
That one girl had the dreaded long-distance situationship.
Oh, that has to be the worst.
What do you think is the worst kind of situation, Proly Pro?
Well, I don't think hers is long distance.
She was just home.
So she's in.
No, she was in college.
I've followed her before.
She lives in LA, but she's in college.
So she's just home for like Christmas summer, you know.
But go ahead.
Yeah, but still, you know, you've met women who they're holding on to something, a situationship and it's long distance.
And it seems even more delusional when the guy's like a thousand miles away and the guy's keeping them spellbound.
I think it's actually great.
It's great for women because, you know, we can't get along with anyone unless they're a thousand miles away.
So you can just whisper sweet nothings and get a subscription every other weekend.
That's great.
You are wise beyond your years, my friend.
So it's kind of a win-win.
Go ahead.
I can tell you, my longest situationship lasted longer than my marriage.
How long was it?
So I was married for four years and my longest situation was seven years.
Oh, wow.
Yeah.
Yep.
And it just, the woman in the situation just never graduated to the next part.
Never got bumped up to relationship.
What made you not want to do it?
Or was it her?
Like, who was it?
It was her for sure.
There's certain things that it was just never going to happen.
She had certain things with her personality, certain things with her mindset that just weren't conducive to actually making her a part of my life.
And did she ever ask you for commitment?
Of course.
Oh, yeah.
And she, and you just would say, what would you let me, let's, let's role play here.
Show me.
Just so the guys know how they could string this along seven years or six years.
Okay.
Okay.
Doug MPA, I really just want to be with you and just us together.
I would say I would say, I just don't have the bandwidth for that right now.
I'm giving you, I'm giving you all that I can give right now.
And if that's not enough, you need to let me know.
But, but I see you dating, you're dating that other girl, and you've been hanging out with her more.
Then I would say, I would just keep reiterating the point.
I'd say, um, we have what we have, and that's separate from what's going on there.
I'd say, I, you know, I compartmentalize certain things in my life, and I only have a certain amount to give to certain things, and this is all that I can give.
And I would literally tell her, like, you know, this is all that I can give you.
That's it.
No more, no less.
And you just keep putting it on, keep putting it on them and saying, look, like, if you want more and I can't give it to you, well, then you have a decision to make.
Yep, that'll do it.
That'll keep her.
Yep, yep, yeah.
Yeah, the longer.
And then you also, so, guys, to keep a situationship going, you got to give a little bit.
So, like, this, I would take this person on, you know, a trip.
You know, we would go to Florida.
You got to do nice enough things to keep the illusion of a relationship going, but you don't do, never do like Thanksgiving together or dinner together.
Maybe do New Year's, but never do Thanksgiving, never do Christmas, never do major holidays, but you know, do a trip or something like that.
You know, take him out to dinner and stuff like that, but don't do anything like, you know, big time.
So, yeah, that's that's the longest situationship I've ever seen, probably 10 years.
They've seen someone in a situationship for a decade.
So, do you just real fast?
So, I said that just like, okay, if a man is young and he is dating a woman and he's not getting sex, he it's his responsibility to end a relationship with a woman where he's not getting sex.
Because what's the point?
And he can't get mad at the girl because the girl doesn't want to sleep with him.
It's his responsibility to not deal with that woman in the first place.
And that's what I would say about older women in these situationships.
Because a lot of women past the age of 30 end up in situationships with guys because they want to rush to try to get married or have a serious relationship.
And these women can't get mad at a guy that won't commit to them.
She needs to be have the wherewithal to cut it off if she's not giving the commitment, right?
Yeah, no, I agree.
It's interesting.
You say, I saw the most situationships in college.
Like, that was like the top.
Like, did you not see that when you were in school or no?
No, I've seen the most relationships.
I've seen the most.
I've seen the most situationships in my 30s.
In fact, I've been the person not committing to the most women in my 30s.
Have you ever been close to promoting a girl or no?
Yes, I have.
And look, the only thing about it is, is you kind of change the social contract a little bit and see how they react.
Okay.
And a lot of women in a situation ship, if they're looking for those small little indicators that they're going to get promoted, they don't understand that if a man isn't committal and he starts showing signs that he's about to commit, ladies, don't try to take his ability to be able to promote you away.
Because a lot of women, they'll see the change and they'll be like, so are we in a relationship now?
Is it finally, finally, finally?
And that'll make the guy not want to promote you.
Ladies, you have to make sure it's his decision and his decision only.
Do you know what?
That's the women because I've seen it like 50-50.
When I think of like the people I knew in school, like which girls got like pumped and dumped and which girls got into the actually one.
One commitment has to be on the table for him eventually.
There's some guys that like they're not gonna, if they settle down, they're gonna be old when they do it.
Like, so one of the girls I'm thinking of, like, he just was never gonna settle down.
Like, if he does, he'll be 40 or 50.
He's just that type of guy.
Do you know what I mean?
Yeah, I agree.
Because some of the guys, they just wanted to mess around in college and then they might go find a girl.
So like when they graduated, they would kind of look at the girl that'd been there all four years and they're like, fine.
You know, fine, bitch, you've worn me down.
Like, you're still here after all these years.
So might as well reward you.
Yeah, like, yeah, the girl.
And I would say it was like 50-50.
For the ones that were long-term, if it's like, I don't really count a situation, like, I'm thinking like long-term situationships.
Go ahead.
Yeah.
See, I was in a weird situation in college because my first girlfriend I was with for four and a half years, five years, and then I went off to college and I wasn't even thinking about a relationship.
So I was putting women in situationships in college, but everyone else around me was getting together.
So a bunch of my friends from college got married out of college, but I was one of the only people where I had gotten out of a relationship.
I moved away from my serious relationship to go to college.
Generational difference.
It was all situationships by the time I got to school.
Not all.
I would say like maybe 20% were in relationships, but the rest, no.
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Hey, Todd, how's it going?
Pretty good, you.
Good.
So tell me about your situationship.
How old were you?
Where did you guys meet?
How long were you together-ish?
Right.
Yeah.
First of all, you can hear me, right?
Yeah, I can hear you.
Yeah, I can hear you.
Okay, good to go.
Good to go.
Okay, I was active duty military, which was a no-no to begin with.
I was, God, this was back in the mid-2000s, and I was down in South Texas.
Okay.
And the bar I was going to, this was after my divorce.
The bar I was going to, it was obvious.
At the time, it wasn't so obvious.
Now that I've been red-pilled, it is very obvious that there's quite a few people, you know, doing what they do, and they're married at the same time.
My situationship happened to be where a specific woman, no names, obviously, but she would come in there at the same time I would.
And we would get, you know, we would, we would have drinks, shoot darts, play pool, et cetera, et cetera.
And it was the kind of thing where if you didn't go home with anybody at the end of the night, she got a hold of me.
Okay.
So I would get home, you know, I'm, you know, I'm sitting there eating whatever.
You know, you know what you do after you get home from a bar.
You go get your bar food and you're, you're watching a movie.
Well, I would get it, you know, I'd get text messages saying, hey, hey, are you home alone?
I want to come do, you know, come do the thing.
And the bad part about it is in, I've come to terms with it.
She was married and she didn't care.
I mean, that's what I found.
Most of these, most, most women, if you're in a situation like that, they do not care.
You're just giving them what they're missing from their current relationship.
And did you want to, like, or would, I guess, was there a part of you that wanted commitment or that she wanted commitment or was it purely physical on both ends?
At the time, I guess I might have, I would have committed had she, had she gotten divorced, but now looking back on it, no way.
No way.
It was a pump and dump for sure.
And how long did it last?
Oh, God.
I'm going to say two and a half, three years.
Okay.
Wow.
So a lot of pump and dumps.
Now, was that the only situationship you've been in?
Not, no, actually, no.
How many would you say?
How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?
I'm 52.
52.
So how many situationships have you been in, would you say?
I'd say two.
Two.
And the other one, how old was, how old are both of the women?
The one was, I think she's three years younger than I am, and the other one was 15 years younger than I am.
I'm actually at the time, I meant.
Yeah, yeah.
At the time, no, she's, they were both three years younger than I am, I think.
If I remember correctly.
No, I'm saying how old were they when they were doing it?
Oh, God.
30s, 20s.
Yeah, I'd say mid-30s, mid-30s.
So the other woman, did she want commitment from you or no?
Hell no.
Oh, so she didn't.
It was a situation where she found me attractive.
I found her attractive.
And, you know, we were both in the same place at the same time at the bar at the same time.
And she's like, hey, you want to do this?
And I'm like, let's do it.
And we did it.
Yeah.
No, that's what, because a lot of times people have this idea that only women, like sometimes women are the ones that want, like, they don't want commitment.
They just want the sex.
Well, that's what happened with my ex-wife.
I'll tell you that right now.
Okay.
Doug MP, you got any other questions for him?
No.
Great story.
Cool.
Great story.
Thanks for calling in.
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Gary C, you're up next.
Hey, how are you guys doing?
Gary, how's it going?
I'm doing good.
How are you guys doing?
Good.
Are you in the Midwest?
I am in the Southwest.
Cool.
And how old are you?
I'm 39.
39.
Okay.
How many situationships have you been in in your life?
If I had to guess, maybe like around 10.
10.
I've been single most of my adult life.
I've had like three longer term relationships, which are like between two and three years each.
And pretty much any relationship outside of that has been a situationship.
I think it's kind of the natural course of things nowadays is that you find if I meet a girl, I like her, we hit it off and we have good dates and eventually sleep together, then I've never wanted to push for a relationship period.
So I'm still continuing to vet even while we like once we get past the point of things getting physical.
And then it's just always the case that something will come up that will red flag her and make me realize, okay, well, she's not somebody I want to have a long-term relationship with.
And then it just becomes a game of how long can I keep her around while like not, you know, not tipping my hand and letting her know that I don't have any intentions of making this last very long.
What percent of the women would you say didn't?
What percent wanted something serious and what percent didn't?
I'd say probably like 70% wanted something serious and 30% they were either in the same headspace as me or kind of like you said, they were probably even more serious about it where they never had any intention of being serious with anybody.
And that kind of became clear at the beginning.
Okay.
So how long would you say, how long did your longest one last and the shortest one?
And what were some of the things that came up in the time when you guys were dating?
Okay.
So the longest one was about two years.
And then I think Doug said it earlier and a couple other, whoever else came on before.
What would come up is just that, I mean, the fact is that if the longer that something goes on, more often than not, you're going to have to do things that are relationship type things in order to keep the interest going.
Because again, it's like you are, you said it yourself that it's kind of like you're running a script.
You're doing a sales pitch basically over a long period of time.
So what would happen is that there would be discussions that would come up after you did some of those relationship type stuff.
And those would always be like, the, what are we?
Does this mean that something has changed?
Yeah.
And like Doug said, that honestly, those conversations would immediately kind of, for me, bring up a situation where it's like, okay, is it time to just end this?
Because those conversations are just the worst.
And it does sometimes also kind of play on my conscience because it's like, okay, well, clearly this girl's getting more invested.
I don't really like, it's not my intention to like waste anybody's time to the point where they're going to miss out on like a more meaningful opportunity.
Although, honestly, there's some times where I feel like I'm actually doing other men a service by kind of keeping a girl off the market.
Yeah, let's go.
That's one of the funniest things I've had a caller say.
You did what I mean, honestly, because I feel like the way that I approach things, like I, I, I always come at like from the first date when I try to have conversations, like I've never asked a girl about her body count.
I think that's really stupid to do something like that.
But I do always try to make assessments right from the beginning.
And it will always be like in a way where I'll do things like ask her, like, oh, like, what's the craziest thing you've ever done?
Or like the craziest hookup you've ever had.
And then I'll always make it like a flowing conversation where I'm sharing stuff, she's sharing stuff.
But at the end of the day, I'm like taking notes in the back of my head.
And like, I've been so shocked sometimes at the amount of things that have been revealed to me that in my mind, I'm like, somebody else would totally wipe this chick up and she would destroy them.
What's been admitted to you?
Honestly, just like group activities, just like, again, no numbers, but just kind of like through like gathering through conversation, the sheer number of people that they've been with was just way more than I would have guessed from just like the first couple of encounters that I had with them.
And just if I just, again, I think I'm a pretty good judge of character.
And like, if I just had like a one-time sit-down and it was just like that coffee date or whatever, I would have never guessed that they were that like active and had that many different partners.
Well, here's the thing: pillow talk, you know, you know, after sex talk with a situation ship who's trying to get upgraded to a relationship, they'll say anything.
They'll say all sorts of crazy stuff.
And did you ever think about upgrading any of them?
Honestly, I have not.
And I think that I just, okay, let me put it this way.
I personally have only seen other people.
So I, like you, I have seen people upgrade their situationship.
First of all, actually, I'm about to say this at the beginning.
I don't know any guys that actually use the term situationship unironically.
Like, we don't say that.
What do you guys, what do you guys say?
Like, a side chick or like or somebody that, like, if they're like, is that your girl?
And you're like, no, I'm just hitting it.
That's like, that's what the situation should be.
Yeah, we make up all these terms to make us feel better.
Yeah.
Like, if I heard one of my buddies say situationship, I would really have to check his man card.
That's funny.
You got to.
I could have come up with a better title.
My bad.
No, no, no.
I mean, it's like, like, we need terms to be able to discuss stuff, right?
So I think situationship makes a ton of sense.
And women are already using it.
So like, it does describe what we're talking about.
Like I said, I just never heard.
It's almost like the word inappropriate.
I've never heard one of my friends say inappropriate.
I think some of these words are really like female words.
Yeah, they are.
Yeah.
Gary, I'm going to give you a piece of advice to ease your conscience.
Like I said to Pearl in the conversation, you got to make sure she's aware that she's choosing to be there.
Oh, no, absolutely.
Yeah, because then that'll ease up on your conscience.
Yeah.
And to be honest, I like, my conscience is clear all the time because I'm always honest.
Like, again, at the beginning, I do give enough hope for them to stick around.
But the fact is, is that for the most part, especially on the onset, I am actually giving them a shot.
Like, I am open to somebody surprising me.
And every single one of my serious relationships have been girls that otherwise would have been a situationship.
But it was like, as I continue to get to know them better, they surprise me at having more character than I assume people to have.
So eventually I was like, okay.
So I guess technically all my relationships were upgraded situationships, but it's almost like once I've really decided that it's not going to be serious, I've never really like.
Saying once she's in the non-serious box, then she's never clawed her way out.
Hello?
Yeah, are you there?
Well, we got the gist from him.
Okay.
Can just move.
All right.
Next up, we have Spencer.
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Cool.
I thought this would be a good topic.
People would call in.
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You're on mute.
Dash?
Or ladies, you can call in and tell me about your biggest L situationship.
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See, you guys are lucky.
You can just be anonymous.
If I tell you about an L, the internet holds it over my head for till I die.
I want to.
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There he is.
Hey, how's it going, guys?
Hey, Spencer.
Florida.
Hey, what's up?
Yeah, I've been listening to you for a while.
I'm bound to connect.
You know, this week has been kind of interesting.
I'm in a bunch of situationships at any given time.
You know, the whole dating scene to me is just, it's just chaotic, convoluted.
The expectations are high.
You know, what I have to offer is low.
You know, these girls who are twos and threes expect what a 10 would expect.
You know, we're just living in.
So how many situationships would you say you've been in?
Oh, hundreds.
I'm in like three or four right now.
Okay.
And what percent do they want commitment out of like the 100, let's say?
I would say a good 75% kind of are expecting it from like just day one.
It's like they kind of put it out there, like, yeah, I'm looking for something serious from day one.
That would be like me saying, Hey, I want a baby on the first date.
You know, it's like it's kind of scary, you know, who puts that out there, you know, like let's feel it out a little bit.
So, and then the other quarter don't want anything serious, yeah.
You know, I'm kind of like the last guy, like, you know, I'll put one foot in and then they get a little overly committed, and I just might stick around until they, you know, eject, and then I'll just kind of move on from there.
It's just, you know, high expectations, low offerings, you know, especially where I live.
Where are you at?
That's where I'm at now.
I live in North Carolina.
Okay.
What age are most of the women that are in the situationships?
Like, have you noticed any patterns or is it all over?
Yeah, so I'm 40 and I seem to attract sort of a lot of women in their early 50s and like women in their 30s.
Okay.
I seem to go towards the older women because I think they are more feminine in a lot of ways.
They just kind of try harder and maybe put a little bit more effort in, like old, call me old-fashioned, I guess, femininity.
The younger women, they just don't really try that hard, or you know, they don't shave their legs or their armpits or they got a chest tattoo or some, you know, something that's maybe a turn off.
You know, what's the average length of a situationship?
I don't know, a couple years, maybe.
Just depending on, you know, they kind of start, they all kind of start off very similar.
But, you know, some might, you know, I guess if it feels good, it might kind of go up a little notch and hang on a little bit longer, but it kind of fizzles in the long term.
You know, a lot of women are on those dating apps.
Even if we're talking, you know, I might pop in every now and then here and there, and I'll be like, oh, she's still on there anyway, still looking, you know.
So what are you going to do?
Have you ever promoted a woman who you didn't initially think you were going to take seriously, but then you gave her girlfriend or wife status?
Yeah, you know, I've put like a little bit of the second foot in and kind of regretted it.
Okay.
Got a little possessive, too quick, you know, or you kind of fizzle out of that honeymoon phase and it can, they flip the switch on you, you know, that, you know, all of a sudden it's not so casual, that they're not as the lens zooms in and it's not as you know, zooms in a little bit more.
You know, it's funny.
I have a friend.
He's very liberal and he does open relationships.
And that's why, because he said, whenever I make a girl my girlfriend, she sucks.
He's like, I'll just be open.
Sometimes he's just pragmatic.
Go ahead.
Yeah.
You know, I'm pretty open-minded when it comes to, but like the whole open relationship stuff, I think that's where I draw the line.
You know, I've had three songs.
Isn't that kind of what you're in, though, if you're in a situationship?
Like, she's probably banging other dudes.
Yeah, but I think what you don't know does, I don't, I don't know.
I don't ask the questions I don't want to know the answers to, I guess.
Yeah.
You know, I think start asking how many guys you fucked.
I think I don't know how much that turns me on.
Maybe some of those weird dudes like knowing how many dudes have came in this girl, you're about to fuck, but I don't want to know.
Yeah, so that's kind of Doug MPA.
You got any other questions for him?
Yeah.
What's happening?
I mean, not really.
It's just balancing all these situations, man.
How do you do it?
Why do you balance for all these situations?
You know, isn't it?
You know, but so is one relationship, too.
You know?
Yeah, you gotta be aware.
Never mind.
No, I.
And I just, I guess it just depends.
Because I am mouse-tracting my equal, I think, a lot of times is why I am on a lot of situationships.
I think if I was out west where I'm originally from, you know, California, I used to live in Las Vegas.
That's where all the beautiful women go.
And you come out here kind of a little more sheltered from reality and it's slim pickings.
And it's could be a little sad existence if you like beautiful women, I guess.
Yeah, I hear you.
All right, well.
Hey, I'll call back.
Thanks for your time.
I've been listening to you for a while now.
Thanks for taking my call.
Thanks for calling in.
Hi, I'm from North Carolina.
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Chad, all right.
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Chaddy there.
Hello, can you hear me?
Chad, how are you?
Hey, what's up, Pearl?
What's up, Doug?
Chad, Chad.
Would you mind turning off the YouTube in the background?
Yeah, I know.
I'm trying to get it situated.
Sorry about that.
Okay, there we go.
Is that better?
Yeah, that's better.
All right.
So, how old are you, Chad?
48.
Okay.
How many situationships have you been in in your life?
Oh, God.
We didn't call them situationships back then.
How many side checks?
You know what I mean?
Oh, my God.
Side chicks that never got promoted.
Well, you know, I haven't called in in a while.
So, you know, I have a prolific, you know.
Oh, you.
I think I remember you.
You had a lot of girlfriends, right?
Didn't you date a lot of them?
185 to 190.
I had names written down and everything.
You just rounded up to 200.
Okay, but I can give percentage.
Wait, wait, but some of them, you, if I remember from last time, you dated a lot of them.
Like, they were your girlfriend, right?
I've had some long-term relationships with quite a few of them.
Yeah.
Okay.
So I'm only asking about the ones that you would not, you're not trying to be seen in public.
Do you know what I mean?
Oh, gotcha.
Yeah, like, or maybe like, but you, like, someone you would never take, like, you would never call her your girlfriend.
Okay.
So.
Okay.
I was in a 15-year situationship.
Holy shit.
That is long.
In fact, I had a three-year long-term relationship with one woman while I was in the 15-year relationship and another four-year long-term relationship with another woman while I was in the 15-year situationship.
Wow.
What time of day did she come over?
Did she have like a 2 a.m. slot?
Well, no, we lived in two different states.
So we would only see each other when I would visit her or she would visit me.
What made you know I'm a promoter?
What was her problem?
Actually, it's not really.
You see, I'm not looking at it as a negative thing.
Like you said, it's not like a moped, someone you want to ride, but no one sees you in public type of thing.
It's a situationship where you know just the situation isn't right, but the chemistry is just off the charts.
The conversation, too, we got along.
So what was the, this sounds great.
What was the, like, what was the situation?
She had a kid or something?
Nope, nope.
Age difference was 15 years apart.
She was 15 years older.
Oh, okay.
Right.
And the biggest thing that kept us in the situationship was she wouldn't move out of her state and I wouldn't move out of my state.
Oh, I see.
Okay.
So it was a location thing.
But here's the funny thing.
About two years ago, I ended up moving to her state and we started to get close.
And then she was like acting really funny.
After 15 years, you kind of know someone.
I mean, especially when you got good conversation, good everything.
You just know something's up.
And I figured it out.
It was she was dating several guys in town and she didn't want me to mess up her rotation.
Oh, man.
Yeah.
So we continued the situationship for a little bit longer.
But after 15 years, I finally just had enough and said, no, no more.
So she probably had a rotation the whole time.
Oh, well, so did I.
And we both actually knew it.
We were both honest and open with one another.
Yeah.
Go ahead.
But I think her rotation, when I moved too closer to her, I think her rotation involved a doctor and lawyers and people with money.
And, you know, I don't know what else to say.
I've had a lot of other situations, shorter-term situationships over my vast career.
So what would you say is the average length of one before the women?
Let's say the women that wanted commitment and you weren't going to give it to them, how long do they stick around till they bounce usually?
Oh, God, they'll stick around until I put a restraining order.
Oh, I ain't lying, man.
One, straight up was.
Here's the other thing.
I learned in my 30s going through, you know, I went through some crazy times in between long-term relationships, and that's how I got the numbers I did.
Plus, I was in a small town where everyone knew each other.
And when you're in a small town like that, you know, women talk, and they were my best salespeople.
I mean, I would literally be at a bar and then all of a sudden one of my situationships at the time, she was in another situation shape.
So she would tell her friend, oh, well, Chase is over there.
I bet you if you go there tonight and blah, blah, blah.
That happened so many times.
I was just like, oh, whatever.
So I was single.
They were single.
It wasn't like we were, you know, I'm not into breaking up marriages.
I don't, you know, I really don't even want to date someone if they have a serious person or anything like that.
I'm more of a, you know, we're both single.
We're both adults and we both know each other.
Hey, all's fair in love and war, you know?
Average situationship, I'd say between six months to a year and a half, maybe two, you know, if it's that good.
But the majority of them wanted something more after about six months, you know, and I'd say half of them, they just weren't, they either weren't the caliber of person I would think about taking to the next level.
Not too many were, you know, they don't look good and I don't want to be seen with you because again, we were in a small town, so people knew.
But the one thing I've been watching, I wanted to call in a few times, but my phone wasn't working right and everything for Zoom.
But it's like, I tried to call in for the T video the other night because I had a couple things to add to that and it kind of relates to situationships.
It's like in my 30s, I discovered when you're brutally honest and you act like a mild jerk, you cannot beat the women off of you.
I mean, seriously, it's like if I'm upfront and truthful with them and kind of neglect them a little bit, oh my God, that got, I'm not a jerk, but being a little bit of a jerk got me more ass than I could ever do any which way, you know.
So it's an example of a time that got you laid that like you wouldn't have thought.
Go ahead.
Okay.
So it sounds like there's a good story there.
It sounds like there's a good story.
No, not gory.
I know this is, you know, sort of public airways, semi-family.
Okay.
But yeah, in the bar, we're playing trivia.
I'm with one girl playing trivia that I've been, you know, again, I know these people because we're in the same town, so they know of me.
But I was with this one for about a month or two, and it was just a situation.
We were just having fun, nothing serious.
Well, her other friend comes sits next to me and their friends.
I was with her like less than two weeks ago.
And then the third friend comes up and I was with her like the night before.
Yet I'm kind of on a makeshift date with their friend.
All three of us literally sat at the bar just all night, smoking, joking, drinking, playing games and everything like that.
And there was several people, including the bartenders, that knew the story.
And a couple of them would just look at me and just shake their head.
It's just like, they can't even get one woman.
And here I am trying to fight all, try to keep three at bay type of thing, you know.
So what happened?
Did you take them all home or how did that happen?
So I ended up going home with the one I came with that night.
But within the same week, both their friends were over at my house.
So it just, it amazed me because in my 20s, even though I got a lot of tail and everything, I did it more wholesomely and respectfully.
Once I hit 30 and started just, hey, this is who I am.
This is what I'm going to do.
This is blah, blah, blah.
Take it or leave it.
And then just walk away.
Oh, my God.
It's like crack to them.
It just blew my mind that being a jerk and being totally upfront and honest got me more tail than anything I've ever done in my life.
So what age, what age did you find women were most open to situationships?
Oh, God.
Well, I'd have to say the majority of women I've been with were older women.
So from, let's say, from 30 to 50, when I was in my mid-20s to mid-30s.
Cool.
So half of them.
Younger guy older.
Yeah, if I make sense.
Yeah, well, I found that the older women, it was more no nonsense.
You know, it just is what it is.
They've already been through the role.
I've already been chewed up and spit out by divorce.
And we were just kind of on the same playing field.
Like, hey, you're a clean, single adult, and you're friendly.
And I know you in town.
Hey, you're a clean, single adult, and I know you in town.
Let's get together and have fun.
Okay.
Some of them, I mean, I'm still friends with a lot of women I've slept with.
So to this day, you know, not that I call them up and everything, but we could actually just meet and have a conversation in a coffee.
And it's pretty that I'm sorry, go back to the question you asked about the.
I just was curious if there was an age you noticed that women are more willing to be in situationships.
No, no, because yes, I used to date older, and they were more than 50% of them were down for a situationship.
But the younger ones I did date, I'd say there was more of a majority of the younger ones were okay with a situationship with me, where maybe like 75% of the younger ones and 50% of the older ones.
Cool.
Cool.
Well, thanks for calling in.
You got any other questions, Doug MPA?
Nope.
I was good talking to you, Ted.
Have a good one.
Bye.
Calling in.
Hey, y'all have a good night, guys.
Take care.
I'll see you.
Peace.
See ya.
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We have Rebirth Pro coming in.
Rebirth Pro.
Rebirth Pro.
Probably listening to the YouTube.
You're on mute.
We can see you, Rebirth Pro.
Rebirth Pro, are you there?
You're on mute.
Yo, yo, what's up?
Can you hear me?
I can hear you.
Tell me about your situationships, Rebirth Pro.
Is it echoing on your end?
Not echoing here.
Okay.
I think, yeah, situationships.
You probably have the YouTube open in a different window or something.
Yeah.
All right.
Well, situations I have right now.
I mean, that's kind of the normal thing.
That's what I pretty much go for.
Okay.
So, how many situationships would you say you've been in in your life?
I may be a little bit above average.
I guess I don't even know what average would be, but just throwing a random number out there because I can't count them.
Say 20.
Okay.
And out of the 20, what percent wanted something serious?
And what percent were just okay as it was?
I'd say about 80%.
80%.
Okay.
They always want a relationship usually.
And so, was there ever a girl that you initially did not want to take seriously that you did you ever promote a situationship?
And if so, why, if not, why?
I did.
The most recent one I did was about three weeks ago.
And of course, I regretted it.
Okay, go ahead.
Because I had, I had a, I hate to use these terms, but I had a roster.
I didn't really call it that, but everybody knows what that means.
I had a roster at the time.
So I was casually dating multiple girls and there weren't relationships.
The woman that I gave the relationship, she was actually the one that put me on the, hey, you can't smash for 30 days rule.
And she was a self-proclaimed feminist of stuff that you would expect.
And so when I went over her house, I visited her.
She'd do intimate things with me, everything except we wouldn't sleep together.
And so before 30 days came up, she couldn't help herself.
She jumped on top of me and things happened.
And then, of course, right after that day, you get the typical, so what are we?
Almost immediately.
I told her that, hey, look, I already, I was on a Twitter.
I said, look, I already have other people that I hang out with.
And she was shocked.
She thought I was just waiting 30 days for her.
And I said, no, I do see other people and I don't know yet.
I'm going to think about it.
And she said, okay, I understand.
I can't help you make a decision, but she kept seeing me.
And after that, she started trying to flood me with the box.
She kept flooding it, flooding it onto me.
Then she kept throwing it on me.
And then I just gave in.
I said, maybe I should cut them off because she's being real consistent now.
So I made the typical state most guys do, even though I've had plenty of experience.
And then eventually I just woke up like two, two months into the relationship, and I realized, yeah, I'd rather go back to a roster.
And then so I just told her that I was going to go my own way.
What made her different than the other girls you were dating?
Was she better looking?
She didn't better looking.
She didn't cause me a lot of stress.
She was easy to get along with.
It was basically just whatever I wanted.
I hate to say it.
That's the type of woman I like to date.
Like I hear people talk about they want to get a submissive woman.
And she called herself a feminist, but to me, she didn't act like one once we were in a relationship.
She was just very submissive.
Everything was about whatever I wanted to do, wherever I wanted to go, whatever I wanted to eat for dinner.
Sometimes I would do nice things for her.
I would cook her dinner and take her places.
But she just kind of let me lead the whole thing.
So that's what I look for.
And that switched after what switched after that?
Like after you gave her the title?
Well, I was aware that you can't, I can never invest too much.
So her birthday came around and an ex-boyfriend and a guy that was pursuing her both sent birthday gifts to her home on her birthday.
And so I didn't want to check her phone or nothing.
I'm done with that stage of checking phones.
But I just thought it was very suspicious because I was like, why would they randomly send you these gifts if you haven't been contacting them?
And I was like, I've been talking to you for a few months now.
Something's still probably going on there.
And then I thought about it.
I cut off all of my girls, but obviously there's something still there.
So I felt a little dumb.
Yeah.
I didn't actually find anything, but I was just like, it's still better for me.
I'd rather just have multiple.
Yeah, got it.
Doug MPA, you got any other questions for him?
The guy said earlier, you know, you're going to deal with it either way.
There are a lot of instances where you deal with more from one woman being all up in your business than multiple women.
Yeah.
She was at a point, she was actually about to agree to let me have it open on my end.
But I could tell that she didn't really want to do it.
It looked like it hurt her feelings when we had the conversation.
So I said, I'll just go ahead and do my own thing.
We're still cool, though.
I hung out with her like last week.
She's got a boyfriend now.
And she's still hanging out with you.
Yeah, that was a few years ago.
And she texted me like two weeks ago.
She said she missed me.
So I went over to her house.
I went over to her house.
And at the time that we were laying down together, that's when she said, oh, well, I'm still in my relationship with my boyfriend.
And she said, nothing's going wrong.
Everything's going well.
I just didn't say anything about it.
Wow.
Scandalous.
Well, I've seen that multiple times for many women, though.
That's not nothing out of the norm for me.
Yeah.
Sounds about right.
Did you find at a certain age, women are more willing to be in situationships than others?
Have you noticed any patterns with that?
For me, yeah, younger.
Younger seems like they don't care as much, like the women in the 20s.
So I do like that.
But they also, they're just very free and fun to be around sometimes.
The older women always try to lock you down.
They're more desperate, in my opinion.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Cool.
Well, thanks for calling in.
Doug MPA, you got anything else?
Nope.
Thanks.
Calling anytime.
All right.
We have another new person I've never seen before.
And I'll let Greg in.
Greg, you're on mute.
Greg is probably listening to the YouTube.
Guys.
Hey, Greg.
Thanks for calling in.
Calling anytime.
Make sure you turn off the YouTube in the background, okay?
Yep.
I just shut it off.
Okay, cool.
So tell me about your situationships.
Have you ever had a really long-term one?
Yeah, I've had a lot of long-term ones.
As a matter of fact, I'm in a long-term situationship right now.
How long has it been?
Like, what's the longest?
Nine years.
Holy shit.
Nine and 15.
Okay, so how did you guys meet the nine-year one?
How did we meet?
Oh, a friend of mine that I was with just knew her and she needed a ride home from a party.
And that was it.
And what made you not want to date her seriously?
Well, on that ride home from the party, she did whatever I asked her to do.
So I figured that's kind of how it goes for every guy.
And she just isn't committable.
You know, it's like, you know, if you're, I'm in the car with you for five minutes and you're already.
I don't know.
Maybe you were, maybe you were special.
Yeah, she keeps telling me that.
She tells me that still, but I don't know about all that.
Okay, so was it it wasn't just that though?
I'm guessing she had other like signs that you weren't special, like based on her like behaviors.
Yeah, no, I mean, she she definitely treats me like I'm special, but there's like many other things, like she's just not attractive enough, but um she don't have her life together either.
And so there's there's variable things that go on there, but the first thing was that turned me off.
It was like, no, it was the first night, you know?
Yeah.
But I've had many situationships that have lasted for quite a while.
I mean, that's like the I've had very few actual relationships just because that's just kind of how it goes.
It just seems to be the way it goes.
I don't know why.
And wait, hold on.
Sorry.
So have you ever noticed a certain age that women are more open to situationships or have you noticed no difference?
No, not really no difference.
I was, I've been in situationships.
I'm 36 and I was with a girl that's 54 now or a lady that's 54, whatever you want to call her.
But I was off and on with her for two years, no commitment.
And then I've been with people my age, not anybody much younger.
Cool.
What percent of situationships would you say want commitment?
Are you close to what the other guys have been saying, like 70, 80 percent?
I mean, last more.
They all claim that they would be with me, you know, and want to be with me, but they say these things, but their reactions don't show it.
It's like they have other people on the side too that they're talking to.
And there's been a few that I have talked to about getting serious with, and then they just won't make that commitment.
Or I won't make that commitment for like, you know, certain ones.
It just depends.
It's kind of like I was watching your show yesterday or something.
You were talking about people that can be different to different people.
You know, it's like you might be the right person.
You might treat somebody right.
And then somebody else might treat them wrong or whatever.
It's kind of like that situation goes on back and forth.
It's like, if you're not the right person for me, I'm not going to commit to you type of deal.
It's kind of back and forth.
And what was the average length of a situationship in your experience?
A couple years.
Like two, three?
Yeah.
Two and a half, probably.
Two and a half.
Okay.
Quite a while.
Now, is there ever a moment in a situationship where like maybe you were thinking about taking a girl seriously, but then she said or did XYZ and you thought naski, Nada, never?
If that's happened, what happened?
What did she say?
Oh, yeah, that's happened.
Oh, my.
So there was this one girl I was with, and I was like, we talked about getting serious, and she knew that I had girls on the side.
And I said, listen, I'll drop all those girls if you will do the same.
And we'll be serious.
But she committed to that.
But then she had her ex over at her house And was making a breakfast, claiming that the ex was now dating her roommate, but her roommate wasn't there.
So, how would you find Delta?
I showed up.
Oh, shit.
Okay.
Yeah.
That'll do it.
I pulled up and was like, hey, I'm outside.
I got something for you.
And she was like, uh, uh, well, hold on.
I'll don't come in.
I'll come out.
I'll come out.
And I'm like, yeah, that's what I just said.
Come out.
I got to get, I'm going to give you something.
And yeah, it was just real weird.
So she did that.
So obviously I got out of my car and went inside and saw him.
And I'm like, what's up?
Big party here.
So did you guys become pals then or what?
Me and him?
Yeah.
Some guys, sometimes Eskimo brothers bring men together.
I've seen it.
No, I mean, I didn't have no hate.
He didn't even know about me, really.
I don't think.
I mean, really, I don't hate on guys whenever that situation happens, unless they know me.
Yeah.
Like, unless it's like one of my buddies.
But normally I'm just like, it's, you know, whatever.
I would do the same thing in their shoes, probably.
So cool.
Cool.
Well, thanks for calling in, Doug MPA.
You got any other questions?
Thanks for sharing, man.
I really appreciate it.
Come on, Doug NPA.
I want a question from you.
Come on, man.
You laid it out pretty well.
All right.
You guys have a great night.
Have a good day.
Thanks.
Thanks, guys, for calling in.
These shows would be awful if we didn't have any callers.
So I really do appreciate you guys calling in and telling your stories.
I find it really interesting.
Everyone's saying herpes, STD.
Guys, you realize that people are sexually active and catch nothing.
Some people catch something, but some people make it out alive.
Yeah.
If you wear protection as a guy, most guys won't catch anything.
You guys have it easier in that regard.
Women, you can women, we just are easier to catch stuff.
Doug MPA, go ahead.
Yeah, and we all have that friend that, you know, should have been burned a bunch of times.
It should be a walking, talking cesspool of disease, but they made it out okay.
You know, or and then women have that friend that started whoring herself around after a major breakup or something and made it out unscathed and didn't get pregnant, anything like that.
So yeah, you never know.
But that makes the case that you have to protect yourself even more because for everyone, like you said earlier, for every winner, there's a bunch of losers.
Yeah, there's winner.
Look, there's winners and losers in life.
But the only way to successfully avoid have a hundred percent STD avoidance rate is to literally stay celibate for life because half the guys I interviews viewed that get STDs got them from their wife.
So I would say the guys that get burned the most are naive men.
That's like that's who gets burned in my opinion.
The most it's either a guy that's irresponsible and just bangs women without condoms and gets and he's like close to Chad level or a guy that's super naive.
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James?
Hey, James.
Jane's going once.
Hey, can uh can you hear me now?
I can hear you.
Are you from the south?
You have a nice voice, James.
Oh, thank you.
I'm actually from New York, but my whole family's from the south.
All right, you got it right.
I like the accent.
Um, so tell me, have you ever been in a situationship?
Oh my god, that seems like everything I've dated since I've been about 23, and I'm 30 now.
So, the exception really is a relationship.
The standard nowadays is a situationship, huh?
That's true.
I'll be straight up.
Like, I've when I was 18, I would say, like, looking back at it now, I got really lucky.
Like, I dated a girl, we were both 17 and 18, and we had never dated anyone before.
And we were just so career-driven people that a lot of our stuff just lined up.
And I knew that she wasn't doing anything crazy because she was just spending all her time with me, like working and studying.
And I was working and studying.
But, you know, I'm going to say this: like, girls in this generation, they get like flashy object syndrome because then they see something that they don't have.
And now they're like, okay, I could have that on top of what I already have.
And sometimes it's like, it doesn't, the world does not work like, at least in my opinion.
It just does not seem like it does.
And, you know, now with like situationships, I just feel like, like the guy said earlier, he's like, all you got to do is be a little bit of a dick and just be honest.
And you can get these girls to do like anything.
Like, I would approach girls in the past after that relationship, like very honest, straightforward, and like, you know, kind of like a nice guy.
But then once I started being like a little bit of a dick, oh, it's like night and day.
Like, sometimes I go out and I just try it out just to see if it'll work.
And yeah, it does.
Like, just, I kind of hate that it does almost.
How old are you?
30.
So how many situationships would you say you've been in in the last like when did you get out of that?
Like five years.
I got out of that relationship when I was like 23.
She was a great girl.
I'll be honest, very intelligent, but like she had a very big drinking problem.
And I just was, yeah, I was like, I would drink too, obviously, but it's a little different when your girlfriend's on the ground drunk every weekend, like face down, like plastered.
You're like, that's, you know, a lot of things can be worked through, but in my opinion, for men or women, to be honest, drugs and alcohol, it's just not something you want to deal with.
Yeah.
Personally.
Yeah.
Even if you smokes weed, marijuana, and stuff, like it's just a no-go, guys.
It's fun for a little bit.
You know, I know a lot of guys were, you know, it's fun, woo-hoo, but when you want to get serious and you're trying to make plans, the person, there's no urgency, they can't keep it together.
You end up babysitting them a lot of the time.
Guys, don't do it.
It's terrible.
Oh, yeah.
I had to babysit my ex.
Some days she'd be, some nights she'd be drunk on the floor, like almost incapacitated.
And I'd be like taking care of her like a baby, like literally picking her up, putting her over my shoulder and putting her back in bed and making sure she's.
And I'd be like, yeah, this is too much.
You know, doing that odd weeks in a row after a while, you're like, yeah, no.
So what's been the average?
What's been your longest situationship?
Probably, probably, let's see.
Probably like five years.
Is this still going?
Yeah, like okay, so I played like semi-pro hockey, so I would travel across the country, right?
So there'd be women I'd meet, like you know, in some towns, and you know, you just go to a bar, you just meet them up for a night, and then you just, you know, anytime you're in town, you just hit them up, and it's like, okay.
And I remember I was living in the town for about like six months, and like, I didn't know she was married, like, had no clue, never had an inkling, right?
Like, nothing ever beat it off in my head, like, just ever, right?
And I only found out because I moved to the town, and like, I'd be like, yeah, come hang out with me here.
And she'd be like, oh, I can't go there.
And I'm like, why not?
And then I kind of pieced it together after a while.
Dang.
Okay.
But you're still seeing her now.
Are you ever like afraid you're going to get shot or something?
Or doesn't cross your mind?
I mean, I mean, it's kind of a win-win.
She is still married, but like, he, okay, this is this is even crazier.
He knows about me and doesn't care.
Is he doing his own thing too, or what?
Bro, it's like it's like a swinger type thing.
It's kind of weird.
It's not kind of weird, honestly.
Like, he knows, but like, I've never met him and never like talked to him.
Like, she's been like, oh, yeah, he's like seen your messages in my phone and he just doesn't care.
I'm like, that's so weird, man.
All right.
I'm like, yo, I'm not trying to date you.
You just like throwing it back.
That's all I think.
Like, before I have a very before you knew, would you have taken, did you like like her before you knew?
Like, did you ever think he could go somewhere or no?
Okay, I have me personally because I've been with it.
I don't say this to sound crazy, but I've been with like damn near hundreds of women.
And I've like documented it with like an Excel spreadsheet.
So like, yeah, no, me and my friends, we were pretty weird.
We used to sit there in college and just, I don't know, we were dumb.
We used to try to just get our numbers up and shit.
And we had like an Excel spreadsheet that we put all the girls into.
So we just kept track.
So I just kept track after like years.
And, you know, but yeah, like it is kind of weird because I'm like, I would be mad if someone was seeing my girl.
Like even, even just talking to my girl, like I'd be, I'd be mad about it.
But I haven't dated someone that serious where I'm like, yeah, I would consider marrying you since that first girl I dated.
What's the what's been the average length of the situationships?
About about a year to like two years.
Yeah, that's I would say that's the average would have been told.
And have you ever thought about promoting a situationship?
Yeah.
Oh yeah.
Okay.
And what stopped you?
Did you do it?
How did it turn out?
Okay.
I did it.
I did it probably two times because I know I definitely did it once.
And I was, it was a good decision.
But like, okay, so family is like very important to me.
Like my family's huge.
Like I come from a very big, like well-off family.
So like my thing is your family got to be like cool.
And the one girl I was going to like, because I'll say this, I'm African-American and German, right?
And the girl I was dating was Indian.
And I'm just going to be real.
Some Indians can be very, very, very like non-apropos to that.
And I knew that.
And her fan, her dad wasn't, and her mom was.
But then, like, her little brother was racist and like all this other stuff.
And I was just like, you know, I don't know if I could do this, but she was a great girl.
Like, what did she, what did they say to you?
Like, what did they, did they say something directly to you?
Oh, okay.
So this is crazy.
We were, because we were in, we were living in New Jersey at the time.
We were like, I was going to college in New York.
And we were at dinner at this one, like, pretty nice club that I know.
And it was like, it wasn't dinner.
It was the middle of the day.
It was like lunch, but it was at that club.
And we're sitting there eating.
And the Indian population in Jersey is gigantic.
It's huge.
Like, from Edison up to Newark, it's huge.
So she's pretty like well known in the Indian community because she does like a lot of charity work.
She works a really well job, like very like public.
So at the time, so a lot of people in the Indian community knew who she was.
So we're sitting at lunch and she gets a text message from her dad, like straight up says, why are you out to dinner with some N-word?
Right.
And I was just like, yo, what?
That's crazy.
And I was like looking around.
Apparently, there was someone that worked there at the restaurant that knew her dad and knew that she was there, saw her and told her dad.
So I had to sneak her home and like not get her caught.
So yeah, that was one reason why that didn't like evolve because it was just like, yeah.
Has there ever been a girl that's like, you were, she was on track to be in a relationship, but then she did something crazy.
Not her parents, her family, but she did something.
Oh, yeah.
Oh, yeah.
There was another girl.
She was like, she was like, in my mind, I thought was perfect.
But then like we went to DC.
Like she paid for the trip to go to DC.
Like we saw one of my like favorite like DJs in person.
I had no idea.
Like she surprised me with it, like paid for the whole trip and everything.
So I'm sitting there like, okay, I, you know, I like her family.
I like her.
She's a good girl.
But I'm going to be real.
We're in the hotel.
I think the night, yeah, the night after, like the night of like us going to the concert.
And she leaves her phone.
Like she's really drunk.
So she leaves her phone like on the counter and goes into the shower.
And I'm going to be real.
I just grabbed the motherfucker.
I just grabbed.
And I was like, I just grabbed it.
Cause like for a couple of weeks, we were dating for like maybe like four months.
But it was like, I had met her family.
I had like really thought about it.
And this was like after me being in like a lot of different situationships for like five, six years at that point.
So I was like, okay, maybe I want to slow down.
Right.
So I see that she's still texting her ex and I had told her to dead that like maybe a month before.
Like I told her, I am out.
If I see one more thing with you talking, I'm out.
And literally, I like, she was drunk.
So I was, I did not bring it up in the moment.
I waited till we were driving back from DC to New York.
And I say something in the car.
Oh my God.
It was such an argument on the way back.
But yeah, she was real close.
Like I was legitimately thinking about marrying her until I saw that message.
And then I was like, well, I'm completely done.
She fumbled.
She can't even respect me enough to like not talk to this dude anymore.
Like that's crazy.
Have you noticed what percent of women want commitment that you've been in situationships with?
I think they all do.
So you've had a hundred.
You know what's interesting?
I get guys that either say like none of them do or all of them do.
Like that seems to be like I took, I polled like guys on Twitter, like where I had them send me their stats, like what percent want commitment.
And like the most common thing is like 70 to 80% do or 70 to 80% don't.
It's like one way or the other.
Yeah, I could see that.
Cause like some girls, oh, I know some girls don't want commitment.
Like I could ask them a hundred times.
I know that.
Some of them, I'm going to be real.
Some of them just like cheating.
If I'm being honest, like, so like, I don't know.
Like, I hate saying that because I'm a very relationship.
Like, I love like trying to have a relationship with a woman where I can have kids and actually trust her.
But then it's like, I see the dark side of like psychologically how they act.
And I'm like, yo.
It's kind of, it's kind of hard to make that decision logically.
Like once it's like once you open your mind to that, you're just like, because the only way to the only way to not lose that game is just to not play, dude.
Honestly.
Oh, yeah.
That's why I don't play in games anymore.
I just tell them what I want.
And if they don't, if they don't want to do it, okay, I know where to put you now.
Like I can mess around with you and have fun with you and like go to the bar with you.
You ain't going to be my shorty.
Like I'm not going to take you.
Like I would just never.
Like why?
Like you're not anything I want and you're probably not going to change into that.
So I'm going to read some super chats.
I'm digital money marcus.
Being a jerk with Riz is the best way to keep a situationship going.
No Riz, guys.
Go find the married chicks on dating app and hold that over them.
Eric Perez, women invented the talking stage.
Just basically made everything start up as a situationship.
They created this fake sophisticated dating ritual based on sex in the city modern dating BS.
I mean, I think it's just, you know, we'll take less from a guy we like more.
So do you have to look at feminism?
It's just a strategy for women to not be with betas or like women, men we deem as betas.
100%.
I fucked Katie to Mang.
And we're winning, to be honest.
Like, I'm just, I'm being honest here.
All the guys are calling in and saying that's the norm.
So feminism won.
Congrats, ladies.
Yeah.
Thanks for calling.
Thanks for calling in.
On to the next caller, okay?
Yeah, no problem, guys.
Bye.
Thanks, buddy.
Okay.
I'm going to let up Glenn and then Sean is going to be last.
And that's going to be everybody because Glenn is coming in.
Here he is.
What's going on, Glenn?
Yo, it says, I got a story for you.
All right.
So I'm streaming right now on my channel.
I got this guy named Vlad, and Vlad is going through it.
He is being kept away from both of his kids.
He has a son and two daughters.
And Canada, Canadia, is keeping him from his kids.
Yeah.
So, Glenn, I don't mind going over that story, but right now we're going to have a topic.
Oh, situationships.
Yeah, today we're talking.
Yeah, so a different day we could do that.
But today we're talking about situationships.
So what's been your longest situationship on average?
How long have they lasted?
And have you ever promoted a situationship?
Go ahead.
Damn, this is a confession hour.
Yeah.
So my situation.
I'm always in a situationship.
There's always a situation I'm in.
You ever fallen in love with a situationship?
It's always my fault.
What am I going to say?
Like, I find myself in these situations.
Doug, help me out, man.
Not my fault, so.
So tell me what percent of the situationships you've been in wanted to commit to you, like wanted to be in a relationship.
Well, they all did.
That was my problem.
I fell for the situationship and then yeah, really.
So out of a hundred, let's say, a hundred wanted to be in a relationship with you.
None just wanted the sex and went, oh no, you're talking about okay okay so, so go ahead.
The ones that, the ones that would call me at like 10 o'clock, 11 o'clock at night though, they never wanted anything more than just okay.
So what percent out of out of 10 women?
Oh, probably about like a quarter, a quarter.
They just want the sex and to go yeah, yeah.
And what was their reasoning?
Do you think it was because they're were they, they were richer than me oh okay so yeah, they just wanted to.
Okay yeah, that's what I did, buy them dinner actually.
Yeah, that's what I was saying where there's situationships where the women don't want it because you're like the bartender, you're the whatever like.
They don't see the you being a serious thing, and then there's situations where the men don't want it for you're either crazy or not hot enough, would you say.
That's accurate.
I don't know why.
It wasn't that I wasn't hot enough, it was.
It was that I was just too poor.
I don't understand why a guy would want to, would be in a situationship with a woman who made a lot more money than him but would want to commit to that woman because she's gonna treat him like garbage.
Want to get serious?
You got to turn off this someone's.
Oh yeah, my bad, I don't know.
I think I think it depends on the dynamic.
Like like look, some of those I was some of those pookies get the women to pay rent and and some of the pookies get the women to pay rent and they get submissive behavior.
You know what I mean.
Like like, the great thing about those situationships is like, because I was just the late night, like I was just the late night call.
You know what i'm saying.
I was nothing more than that and um, that made it a lot easier because, like that, I didn't have to do the whining and dining, everything else that these other guys are doing.
They were doing the whining and dining.
I didn't do the whining and dining, I did the, you know, the stalking, and I can't say that on youtube.
They were used to me spending and I wasn't spending.
Would they ever bring you?
Um, would they ever bring you food from their date?
That the guy yo this, this one went to the steakhouse.
I was like hey, make sure you bring me a t-bone back.
I was joking, there was a t-bone.
You know, that's the game.
Um, how long do the situationships stick around till they they realize you're not going to commit or they are done with the fun?
Did you see a difference in how long?
How long the rich women?
About three months okay, three months on average.
Okay, what about the wealthy, the women that made more, that just wanted you for fun?
How do they stick around?
Wanted me to be like a little pet, like you know what i'm saying like they just want to be able to call me up and like hey, come on over like and like like like, this is not a service.
Okay, I got a life woman.
Yeah, it's like.
Treat me like a human being.
Like I got feelings too.
I'm not just a piece of meat.
Was that tough for you, being treated like a piece of meat?
No no, not at all, but still, you know, have you, have you ever been in that, in that role where you've been the piece of meat.
Uh I, Oh, here we go.
Mandingo.
So when I met this woman in college, she, you know, I worked two jobs in college.
I went to school full-time and I was on a lifting team.
And this girl, she worked at a casino and she worked at the high-stakes blackjack room as a cocktail waitress.
So she was like 25 and she had like a bin in her own house and stuff like that.
And I met her in college and I'm like, why are you going to school?
You make so much money at your job.
She said, I hate my job because I have to walk around in this little outfit and all this, whatever.
So, and I was, anyway, whatever.
So I only saw her a couple of days out of the week because I had to work school full-time.
And she literally said, look, I don't see you enough.
I said, I know, but I have to go to work and I have to go to school.
She's like, quit your job and I'll pay your bills.
Yo, you could have had it made.
What did you do?
Do you tell her no?
I told her, no.
I'm not going to do that.
No way.
You would have been a hired cock.
Yeah, no thanks.
Nope.
I will never be a kept man.
No way.
She said, I want to buy you a phone so you can have your phone, but you're going to have another.
You're going to have the bat call.
And when the back phone rings, I'm going to be the only person with the number.
So when I call it, you have to pick up.
I was like, nope, sorry.
Hey, did she have a Doug MPA signal she would like put out her window?
That was the plan.
That was like blank man.
You remember blank man?
I remember blank man, yep.
But yeah, I had to say no.
I said, nope, I'm not that guy.
Nope.
Never be a kept man.
No way.
Hey, so bro, I'm going to dip, but I'm going to give this guy, Vlad, your email.
Like, you want to do an interview with him.
Trust me.
Okay.
All right.
Thanks for calling in, Glenn.
All right, you guys.
Peace.
We got Sean coming in.
Is that Sean from overseas?
I forgot what Asian countries in.
That Sean or the other Sean.
Hello.
Can you guys hear me?
Okay, go ahead, Pro.
It dropped you out for a second.
Wow, what the heck?
I asked what Sean called what Sean is calling in.
Oh, Eeyore, Sean.
Okay, cool.
Hey, that's my spirit animal.
Hey, Sean, welcome to the show.
Hey, guys.
So tell me about your situationships.
Yeah, I mean, I had a situationship in college for about a few years, so freshman and sophomore year.
And then my other situationships, the girls were like 22, 25, and then 31, 33.
And they last about, I would say, on average, those ones lasted about six months post-college.
So, I mean, that's kind of what I've seen.
I would say age range-wise, girls are accepting of a situationship from like 18 to like maybe 27 max.
And then you start to see a break from like 28, 29.
And then it starts up against in the 30s, like when they get a little bit more desperate.
So like, you know, I think you can kind of bucket them into age groups if that makes sense.
Like young girls, they're not looking to settle down, right?
Like most of these girls are running through multiple dicks a year.
Like they, they don't care unless they get like an unbelievable option in their mind that's worth settling down for.
For the most part, they'd rather just chase fun and excitement with attractive guys, whatever excites their emotions, right?
But like once they get to their late, late 20s, and I'm here in Texas, so things are a little bit more conservative.
People usually tend to settle a little bit early relative to the rest of the nation.
But if they get to their late, late 20s and they have any sexual capital, then like they usually start looking for more of a quote unquote reliable guy, someone who they know they can easily get commitment for from.
And you got about six months to make it official with them or they're going to bounce.
And then I would say the majority of the girls that are like 30 plus that are ending up in situationships are usually because they just lack sexual capital relative to the guys who they want.
And so that's usually what really pushes things off.
Or they start saying things that are just very unattractive and the guy just thinks, do I really want to put up this for another 40, 50 years?
And that's what kind of makes them get it pushed to the side, if that makes sense.
Did you ever take a woman seriously who you initially didn't think you would?
Yeah, I actually did.
And I kept putting it off.
So I gave her commitment after six months.
And the reason was she was just very traditional.
She's very feminine.
She had a very attractive body.
She didn't have any debt.
She had good habits.
She put out frequently and she was loyal to a fault, I would say, and just very helpful.
She didn't cause any problems, kind of made my life easy and trouble-free.
So when a guy recognizes, you know, a girl has these qualities and she's, you know, doing it consistently, no, you have about six months to give her that commitment because eventually some guy else will come along and take her.
And you know, you're not going to see that every so often.
So, you know, if you do like her, I would say it's worth promoting her.
Absolutely.
What was your longest situationship?
Longest one was in college.
So that was the one that lasted about two years, freshman and sophomore year.
And did she want commitment or did she?
I would say she wanted commitment.
Pretty much all the situationships I've been with, the girls want commitment.
I'm just the type to never ask for commitment.
In my opinion, like I'm not seeking a relationship.
If the girl wants it, she should be asking me.
And that was always sort of my mindset is like, you shouldn't be like, the girl should be begging you for one.
And then you determine if she's worth giving it to her, not the other way around.
But I know guys who have been put in a situationship and it's usually because they're not attractive in the girl's eyes of what she wants to be viewed as on Instagram.
Or like basically he lacks kind of like, you know what I mean?
Like, like I've seen a guy who has a high income and has a very prestigious job, but he's not attractive.
And the girl has a very high salary and doesn't want to date down.
And, but she has a lot of sexual capital.
And she's like, yeah, he has a lot of money, but I don't want to post him online because none of my friends are going to like, you know, like the photos or they're not going to give me the kind of praise compared to if I had a much more attractive guy.
So like those kind of girls will always stay on the dating apps, making an excuse why they don't want to, you know, give the guy commitment.
That's what I feel.
Or the other way around, it's like the bartender.
Like he doesn't have the other status, right?
Yeah, there's that, you know, like he's very attractive and, you know, he's like her Mr. Thursday dick, but like he's not like the kind of guy she wants to get married to.
So she kind of keeps that fun and excitement going while she kind of looks, you know, around the corner for something that makes her look better public facing.
Yeah.
So yeah.
I mean, and it's similar to like, yeah, it's similar to how guys that, you know, put girls in situationships or, you know, what I think we used to call it the F zone, right?
Instead of, you know, it was just the opposite of the wife zone.
It's just because, you know, they're good enough for sex, but not really a lifetime of what you want to project publicly.
Yeah.
Yeah, because marriage and relationships are more about image than who you're like most attracted to or even want to be with, I would say.
Absolutely.
And then, you know, for guys who want to know how to keep it going, like you kind of have to sell, like, you can't tell them I'm never going to give you commitment because a lot of those girls will leave.
Right.
So you kind of have to almost like mental judo them that like you're willing to settle down, quote unquote, if the right girl comes along or like start saying things like, you know, oh, I was hurt in my past relationship.
So I want to move slowly.
So I'm sure you are the one.
But you got to convince them that, you know, if they suck a little harder, if they look a little, You might just give them that relationship.
So you got to sell them on that.
And there are things you can say to kind of, you know, stimulate their emotions because it's all about exciting their emotions, right?
So you got to be like, you can't say, you're my girlfriend, but you got to say, who's my girl?
And you got to want, you got to get her to go along with it and be like, I am, I am, right?
Or like, you got to be like, smile for me.
Or like.
Like I said earlier, you got to make sure that she, you got to put the onus on her and say, look, you know, I'm giving you all I can right now.
And, you know, you, you got to take it or leave it.
Just make sure where she knows that she's making the choice to be here because then she can't get upset.
That's what I want to do.
But you also got to be like, you know, I really care about you.
Don't you care about me?
Like, you kind of have to make them believe you really do want a relationship with them and you're really all in without giving them that official title.
That way, like, you can just walk away and be like, I don't know this girl.
You know what I mean?
Okay.
Okay.
That's so funny.
Well, thanks, thanks for calling in.
Doug MPA, you got any other comments, questions?
Always good talking to you, Sean.
Have a good night, buddy.
Absolutely.
Thanks, guys.
Thanks.
That is everybody.
All right.
So my final thoughts are: this is the way forward.
So, ladies, if you want to be in a relationship in 2025, that's step one: situationship.
Unfortunately, I don't say this in a happy way, but we've made this dating marketplace so terrible that you got to give free trials.
Yeah, and I started my position, like Pearl said, we were talking about, I said, if say to the ladies, if a man hasn't committed to you in a year or two, you should leave.
But Pearl's got me to change my mind.
Ladies, hold on for as long as you can, especially in this dating market.
You find a good one, he's not good.
I think you're better off trying for a good one for five years and then freaking getting banged by Nug Nug, Gavin, Tyrone, and all those guys.
I really think it's situational.
I can't say it's like you got a 50-50 shot, my opinion.
It's, you know, because there's some girls that waste years and then he marries someone else.
You got it.
Let me see your picture in his picture and ask, would it make sense?
That's actually step one.
Is because this tea app, we've seen the difference in looks.
Oh, yeah.
That's step one.
Do you guys have a similar body fat percentage?
And if you don't, that's step one.
Yeah.
A bunch of whales and dogs on that thing, man.
Straight up.
Woof, woof.
Jesus.
I think it's like, anyways.
Thanks for your input, Doug MPA.
I appreciate it.
I'm sorry I interrupted you.
You got anything else?
Oh, no, it's okay.
That's it.
You know, just be five years, you're better off being in a situation with a decent guy for five years than out here banging and clanging.
So that's all I can say.
I say it's 50-50.
It's situational.
You got to ask yourself a couple things.
The first thing I would ask yourself is: is this a guy?
And be honest, is this a guy that could commit anytime soon?
That's again, you're going to have to make the final choice.
So that's a question.
There's some men, they're not going to do it till they're old.
There's some men that are going to do it never.
And there's some men where they could do it in a few years if you give them space.
That's the choice.
Number two, how hot are you?
And does it make sense?
I don't think you need to be as hot as him, but if you're less good looking facially, you need to at least come with a good body.
So a lot of times we're in the fuck zone because of our body fat percentage.
I'd work on that.
And if it's not that, I'd look at your personality.
What was you saying?
About 20 pounds.
A lot of women are 20 pounds away from a relationship.
Yeah, I mean, you know, do you mind if I reference a story you told me?
I won't say who it was.
Yeah, go ahead.
You said you knew somebody that the weight was the reason he broke up with a girl.
And then he ended up sticking it out, but like later, but it would have been like the road would have been shorter if she just lost the weight.
Yeah.
Like she would have got a bunch of guys like that.
Yeah, like she would have got what she wanted sooner if she lost the weight.
Yeah.
Yep.
100% true.
Yeah.
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