Pearl dissects why men remarry more than women—35% vs. lower rates—using Robert’s divorce at 35 as a case study, where financial drain and emotional shifts still led to remarriage despite 90% second-marriage failure odds. She argues first marriages carry deeper commitment weight, while women often prioritize freedom over marriage due to cultural pressures, like OnlyFans models targeting Christian men or mothers discouraging traditional vows. Caller Slim Jim’s legal nightmare—two years of custody battles, felony charges, and lost contact with his kids—exposes systemic bias against fathers, even military veterans, while Pearl promotes Audacity Network’s uncensored dating/relationship courses, pending audience support. [Automatically generated summary]
Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily here and the Audacity Network.
Today, we are going to be talking about why do men, why are men more likely to remarry than women?
But before we get into today's episode, I want to talk about a little pre-story that's going on on Twitter.
Now, normally I try to stick to one topic, but this was too good to not cover.
Now, as you guys know, women have a tendency to die on the hill of being naked.
Now, this doesn't, this isn't just liberal women, it's also conservative women.
They love getting naked and they also love shaming you for calling them a whore.
So, there's a tweet yesterday that was going viral from Danielle Franz, and she had this trad lady.
Well, trad LARP.
You guys know how I feel about this, but you know, it's a LARP.
It's a LARP.
Versus our favorite crazy lady character on this show, the red-headed libertarian who likes to thirst trap with a Jesus cross in the background.
Now, what women that are thirst-trapping, but they want to pretend they're not thirst-trapping, have a tendency to do, is they have a tendency to do a couple things.
They shame the male sex drive.
So, she'll put on some high heels, put on a tiny dress, and then say, you guys are disgusting for even thinking about sex.
So, she said, portification of conservatism is so icky.
The crime isn't wanting to make art, of course.
The crime is making art that's so on the nose it becomes vulgar and desperate.
This desperation for sex appeal results is cheap, cartoonish product void of meaning.
Both of these images communicate trad values with beautiful women, but only one of them is giving fetish content.
Spoiler, it's the one being sold under the conservative dads brand.
Now, as you guys know, personally, I have seen too much.
I'm not really going to be offended by a woman in a short dress.
I'm not going to pretend to be a Puritan out here.
If I saw that on the street, I really wouldn't look twice.
However, what I don't like is women doing something and pretending they don't know what they're doing.
It drives me crazy.
If you're going to thirst trap, then thirst trap.
But don't thirst trap one in front of a Jesus cross.
Leave Jesus out of this, okay?
If you're going to thirst trap, there's Instagram for a reason, okay?
You can just put your boobs out, put your legs out, but go on Instagram.
Why do you have to bring God into this?
It's so, but they want the attention and the being a good person, the looking bad part of thirst trapping.
And when I saw this, I just knew, now I'm fairly certain, and I got a lot of heat for this take, this woman has to be mentally ill.
I see no other way about it because the way she reacts and patterns, trends, there are very few that react as insane as she does.
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So, you know, back to this crazy lady.
When I did reply, and I said, and I was very excited for this yesterday.
I said, I can't wait to watch the red-headed libertarian have a mental breakdown over there.
Now, Danielle says, I posted one time, didn't name her, didn't tag her, didn't even, even called her a beautiful woman.
And that's my next problem here, but we're going to get to this.
She quote, tweeted, replied, and posted several times to her audience of nearly a million, shared photos from my personal Instagram, then accused me of putting a target on her back, despite the fact that her own followers spent the day harassing me.
Now, again, Danielle, I'm sorry, I got no sympathy for you either.
If you poke the bear on a crazy woman, expect crazy results, okay?
You know, this woman's crazy.
And so do I, but I don't care.
She can keep going, bitch.
You know, and the reason I like bringing her up is because she's just such a perfect example of what happens with these trad influencers.
Now, guys, look, most of my life I've known I'm a normal looking woman.
And most people think of that as an insult.
I don't really see it that way.
I think most men, most women are average.
And if you don't think you're average, I expect you to have above average results.
I expect you to have done some high-end modeling.
Maybe you're a UFC ring girl.
You know, one time I went to, my whole team got invited to, it was like the weekend, their concert.
And they allowed us all to go backstage.
And when I was backstage, sponsor it was in the future.
I'm going to, I'm going to use, it's too late.
It's live.
You know, in the future, I might just say A-level celebrities.
But anyways, it was backstage before the show.
And I'm like, duh.
I might shoot myself in the foot in the future, but it's okay.
So anyways, there were women there that were literally paid to be hot.
Now, these are women that they just, I'm following, if you saw her, this is a blue-pilled guy would meet a woman like this at a coffee shop and think, wow, she's got no Instagram following.
Green flag.
She's got like nothing on there.
No, these women know the game.
They are predators.
They are apex predators.
They will, until in their 20s, get invited to all the high-level parties and know you got to leave zero digital footprint so I can marry a doctor at 35.
They know they know this game.
So, but because they're so beautiful, high-level men will find them.
You know, there's people that work for these high-level men that their job.
I have a friend, and her job was she was friends with like a billionaire who had a private jet.
And her job was to fill that private jet with hot women.
And she knew where to find them.
She knew what age they had to be under.
She knew how attractive they had to be.
And it doesn't even, they're so good looking, guys.
They live in such a different world.
They don't even have to sleep with the guys.
Now, don't get me wrong.
These women get offers.
But, you know, I talked to a private investigator and he said that mids have a tendency to they can't get as much resources for free with their beauty.
They got to put out more.
You know what I mean?
So he said that mids do prostitution more than beautiful women.
Kind of makes sense.
If you can like sell a nude and get 100K, why, you know, why?
I mean, why wouldn't you?
I mean, I know you guys are thinking morals, but on this show, we deal in reality, what people are probably going to do.
We don't deal in how I wish the world's going to be.
But when I met these women, I had a chance to see the high level of beauty that men in the country, men in the suburbs, are completely, they don't even see it.
And the way it works is there are A-level cities.
Now, A-level cities are where rich men are, or there is an industry where the women can monetize their beauty, like modeling, modeling, I don't know, acting, you know, some sort of media, right, or modeling.
Now, I know you're thinking conservative commentators, we're going to wait.
We're going to get there.
Now, I know what an eight plus looks like, ballpark.
And the problem we have is in conservative media, there's a little bit of a bubble.
Now, remember, Christian conservative men tend to be the countrymen.
And the hottest women, even if they're from the country, generally have a tendency to go to the city, the most popping part of town.
It's like if you go downtown Miami, there are so many attractive women.
You go 30 minutes out.
It's single mothers and fat women.
And usually these women go to the cities, make bad decisions, get a little uglier, and they make it out to the country.
The country guys often don't even know the level of beauty or they've rarely seen the level of beauty that's in the city.
Because in all honesty, guys, I mean, sure, there might be one pretty girl at a small high school, but usually they go to an A-level city pretty quick.
But what happens in these conservative spaces is the women have a tendency to think they're hotter than they are.
Now, I've done casting.
So when I used to recruit for the shows, I would literally think that woman could go on my thumbnail.
She's going to get me an increase of a 2% click rate.
I would see another woman and think she's got a great body.
We need to do a full, like you start to think a little bit more practically.
And the way I divide women is mids, which is like four to six.
That's a mid.
Like a four, I'd put as a cute face, but chubby.
That's a four.
Five is like normal, not fat, just normal looking.
Six is cute.
Seven, I don't like giving, I'm kind of like Kevin Samuels, right?
I mean, I took this, um, I'd like to give credit where it's due.
I took this rating from Kevin Samuels, but it's a great way to like divide people.
The eight pluses live a life that mids could not dream.
This is, she could not dream.
So, what happened?
She wants to do a thirst trap, but it's a little bit sad because she's a mid, right?
She's a mid, she's trying to get above mid results.
But the conservative simps and conservative commentators tend to be women that couldn't make it in Hollywood or whatever big city they went to.
They can't get the attention there.
They go to conservative because, again, it's more country guys, country guys tend to have lower standards of beauty because they don't see the top talent.
Now, I said, I can't wait to watch the red-headed libertarian have a meltdown over this.
So funny.
Now, the first thing she does is, you know, I say, please, please, please tell the trad wives to stop thirst trapping on X and watch their kids.
Now, there's a certain level of tweeting.
Now, disclaimer: I know everyone runs me through the coals for this.
I know, I know, I don't have kids, I don't.
But I expect, you know, kids take a lot of time.
So, if I see a woman that's constantly tweeting and has the time to like, how many times have I talked about Candace Owens on the show?
That woman probably ish watches her kids-ish.
I mean, her level of production is a little too high to be.
I know what it takes to do media, right?
I could, I could ball talk park how much time you're spending away.
If you have the time to do a whole rant after I say something, I get it, I say something.
I don't mind having fun poked at Pearl, whatever, I don't care.
I know you're not, I know you're not an involved parent, right?
You know, so I did tweet this.
Now, maybe this wasn't maybe this was a little too honest.
I said, I think she's mentally ill.
And the next thing she did was call me a pedophile again.
Now, I want to reiterate, and I want to be honest with you guys.
I got to go through some of my former controversies, even though I don't, I don't like bringing attention to them.
There was a time where these women were tweeting at me, they're selfies, right?
So, I had a tweet: 25-year-old women are hotter than 35-year-old women.
And I thought it would be funny.
I was in England at the time.
I googled the age of consent in England or like wherever the hell I was at the time, and it was 16.
So, I tweet that 16-year-old women are hotter than 26.
Now, I'm not even attracted to women, I'm straight.
It was a straight troll, right?
And anyone that's watched my show, anyone knows they know I'm just trolling.
It was because the women were sending me the selfies, and I want them to enrage, right?
But what women have a tendency to do is they have a tendency to take anything, even a joke, a troll, something.
You could say, Pearl, that was a bad joke.
Fine, fine.
It could be a bad joke.
We can agree.
But, you know, there's no police report.
There's no evidence of me going after these underage girls that they seem to be trying to pin on me, right?
And that's when I realized when women don't like someone, what they want to do is call him a creep or a pedophile.
And the way that women react to me is exactly how they will react to the men in their lives that they are done with.
So now, what was interesting is then, so the tendencies that crazy women tend to do, there's a couple like copes they do.
One, you're obsessed.
Ma'am, I'm obsessed with the ring girl from the Jake Paul fight.
Okay, like I'm jealous of her.
If you guys, like, I think they get off on thinking people are obsessed or stalking them because that's their first line of attack.
You're, and this is what these women do.
They say, I want to be worshipped and get easy internet money, but if anybody criticizes me, they're obsessed.
And again, this is an example of women going into a man's world and saying, treat me like a woman, bitch.
Now, she also thinks that my shows are about her.
You haven't even made a thumbnail yet.
One, because you're not good looking enough.
We'll start there.
If I'm going to use a conservative commentator, one, you need to be more famous than you are and you need to be better looking.
Neither.
You could get a little segment though, like Catfish of the Year.
But, you know, I've talked about Lily Phillips like 10 times, too.
You guys keep me employed.
Thank you.
And then she also thinks, you know, men know when they come on the internet.
Have you guys ever done a Call of Duty?
Or I don't know, my brother would play these games, right?
And when my brother would play these games, I would hear him say racist things, homophobic things, not him, but like his friend, like they attack each other, right?
Because they know this is the internet.
You don't get kid gloves on the internet.
So I don't know, maybe next time I'll do a full end.
Maybe I'll do a.
And the other thing I get annoyed with is she keeps replying to me.
She blocked me, right?
Which is totally fine.
I don't mind getting blocked.
That's totally great.
But you can't reply to me.
And then I can't.
This is my plea to Elon.
Elon, if people that blocked me reply to my tweets, I should be able to reply back.
Anyways, but I wanted to show that she does falsely accuse you as a way to attack you.
And then, yeah, I think that's all I got on that today.
But, you know, I'll follow up with that later.
Now, I'm going to read the website, guys.
Remember, we are demonetized.
So every membership signup counts, which I do want to do a couple thank yous in the chat for the people that signed up in the last 24 hours.
I'm not going to read last names because I want to keep people's privacy, but thank you to Van.
Oh, shoot.
Oh, wait, I did the wrong thing.
Thank you to Van.
Thank you to Charlene.
Thank you to Doug.
You did a yearly membership.
Thank you so much.
George, thank you.
I really couldn't do it without you guys.
You know, women like her, what she's going to do when she does this is reputation destruction.
So what they do is they lie about me.
You know, they'll take things out of content, like the pedophile thing.
Zero evidence, no police report, just one tweet a year ago.
Pearl's a pedo.
And they think it's perfectly okay.
What they also do is they flag your account.
Because I reveal their crazy behavior.
They try to make my life hell.
They really, this is like the third time I've been called a pedo for no reason.
They just throw that.
They know how bad that insult is and how that can ruin someone's career.
So they throw it at anyone they can.
Jesse, thank you so much.
Yearly membership.
Brian, thank you so much, yearly membership.
Tom, thank you so much.
Yearly membership.
Appreciate you.
Rob, thank you.
I literally, I couldn't do it without you guys.
And, you know, one day I'll tell you guys the story of how these crazy ladies got me demonetized.
Sort of.
I'll go an in-depth demonetization story.
Hey, Pearl, when are we going to see the new uncensored content on your site?
Which one are you looking for?
Pearl, that takes money to get a show like that produced.
The other creators, sometimes the random guests often charge an appearance fees.
It looks casual and organic, but it all costs.
Yeah, I used to pay recruiters to get the women, but they would get a bonus if they were better looking.
Look.
And I said, I don't care if you pay the girls to come.
You know, do what you want.
This is the fee.
You get them.
Pearl, this is why she's trying to promote website membership so much.
She could also use some direct advertisement like her testosterone supplement advertisers.
You can help by sharing the show, promoting the Audacity Network, then gift memberships available.
You can buy gifts.
I don't know much about women's attire.
How I can tell that your shirt is off as hell.
What's wrong with my shirt?
What the?
All right.
All right.
You win.
You win.
I'll even read the ones roasting me.
Okay.
Oh, I see what you mean.
It's up.
You know, sometimes that happens.
Sorry, guys.
Okay.
So today we're going to be talking about divorce.
Now, on my channel, I say that it's not in a man's best interest to get married.
As you guys know, I went into the red pill thinking that marriage was a good deal for men.
I didn't really understand why men, you know, I would hear like marriage is a bad deal.
I would hear, I would hear all these things.
And the red pill is kind of interesting because before you see it, you kind of, some of the stuff sounds far off or weird, but then you get older and you live a little more and you realize the red pill's right.
It is 100% correct.
And most of the people that criticize the red pill actually are representations of why, you know, like destiny right now.
He said the red pill was wrong and then his wife left him for a streamer who was like very skinny.
Like he wasn't even good looking.
Now, the divorce rate in the United States is standing at just over 50%.
This means you have a coin flip chance of staying married.
If the coin lands on heads, you stay married and you're probably going to end up staying with a woman that bosses you around and refuses to sleep with you.
Your chance of your wife gaining 20 pounds or more in the first five years of marriage are 80%.
And remember, that's only five years.
It goes up as they get older.
If the coin lands on tails, you're getting divorced because you will end up in divorce court.
Your kids get taken away.
You pay child support and in some cases, you'll pay alimony.
You'll have to start all over.
Now let's paint the picture.
We have Robert.
He's a plumber.
He graduated high school, chose to go into the trades, and started his career as an apprentice plumber.
Worked his way up to a journeyman and meets a woman right around the age of 25.
He marries a girl at 27 and has two kids with her.
The marriage slowly deteriorates.
Over the course of seven to eight years, his wife gained weight.
He doesn't get sex.
There's no food on the table for him to eat and he's forced to do things he doesn't want to do on the weekends to make some woman happy that doesn't even love him anymore.
So 35 comes around and Robert comes home from a long day of work to get divorce paper shoved in his face.
The wife decides to leave and take the kids.
There's nothing he can do about paternity court.
Divorce court rips Robert's life apart and he has to get alimony and child support.
But despite all this, Robert wants to get married again.
35% of men will remarry after getting divorced.
That's right, after getting screwed in a divorce court and paternity court by their wife, who decided to leave to go find herself or sleep with Gavin, the bartender, Tyrone, the personal trainer.
One out of three men will choose to get married again.
Now, let's look at the stats when it comes to second marriage.
Women initiate two-thirds of divorce and first and second marriages.
90% is the risk of getting divorced in a second marriage compared if it had been the first marriage for that couple.
Two out of three marriages will make it, two out of three marriages will make it to their 10th anniversary, but only one out of three marriages will make it to their 25th anniversary.
After a first marriage, it generally takes someone four years to get married a second time.
And after five years, if a sibling goes through a second marriage and divorce, then the person is 22% more likely to get divorced themselves.
For a second marriage, the average age for a woman is 37.
For men in a second marriage, it's 39.3 years old.
About 6% of American couples divorce, marry, and then remarry each other.
Half of all Americans' kids will see their parents divorce, and half of those kids will see their parents get a second divorce.
Now, let's look at the reasons that men get married again.
In this blog post, we will explore the various reasons why men opt for second marriages.
While second marriages are stigmatized in society, it is important to understand the different perspectives and circumstances that lead men to make this choice.
One of the reasons why some men choose to get married for a second time is financial stability.
Many men believe that marrying a wealthy woman can improve their financial status and provide them a comfortable lifestyle.
They see second marriage as an opportunity to elevate their social status and gain access to a higher circle.
On the other hand, some men are financially stable, but still opt for second marriages.
For them, it is often a marriage or a matter of personal preference or habit.
These men may have a desire to experience the thrill of a new relationship or simply enjoy the companionship of multiple partners.
Emotional connection and romance.
Another reason why men pursue second marriages is the need for emotional connection and romance.
Some men feel that their first marriages lack the passion and excitement that they desire, and they believe that a second marriage can fulfill their emotional needs.
These men can find themselves attracted to women who are more expressive and romantic.
They appreciate the affection and attention they receive from their second wives, which they may not have experienced from a previous partner.
For many men, second marriages come later in life when they have achieved personal growth and success.
These men have focused on their careers or other priorities during their first marriage and now seek a partner who can match their level of achievement.
As these men become more successful, they often attract women who are equally accomplished.
They appreciate the intellectual stimulation and shared goals that come from being in a relationship with someone who's on their level.
This has to be written by a woman.
I see no other.
Okay, but I'll go with it.
In some cases, men opt for a second marriage due to unfulfilled expectations or compatibility issues in their first marriage.
They may believe that their first wife does not meet their emotional and physical needs, and they believe finding a new partner will provide them with the satisfaction they seek.
The conclusion is that while second marriages are often met with judgment and skepticism, it is important to recognize each individual's circumstances and motivations are unique.
The reasons behind why men provide or the reasons behind men choosing to pursue second marriages vary widely from financial stability to personal growth to emotional fulfillment.
Now, this woman is talking about first and second marriage problems.
Has everybody seen that clip of the divorce lawyer talking about second marriage divorces and how he's actually observed moms getting sick of doing everything and divorcing?
He just kind of skirts the second marriage question.
Typically, first and second marriages have different requirements to them.
First marriages usually happen a little bit younger.
They're to establish a family home and a family, usually often to have children, which increases the overall responsibilities, the load, all of that kind of stuff.
Second marriages, however, a lot of the child kind of rearing is mostly done, if not all the way done.
Second marriages, a lot of times, the children are already out of the home.
And in here, the second marriages that come in to see me, the goal or desire, I guess, of having a partner for one another.
They want someone to travel with, go out with, and yeah, have a lot of really hot schmetzy time with.
The first marriages I see, yeah, we'll spend time on the couch debating who's doing what in the household.
But the second marriages I see, we don't do that.
We spend time trying to figure out why we aren't enjoying each other as much as we want to.
Okay, so the first marriage was for children and the second marriage is for fun.
Okay.
A woman talks about the pros and cons of second marriage.
Marriage is hard, but you know what's even harder?
Marriages.
The odds are stacked against you.
There's the negative stereotypes, the non-traditional family structure and holidays, the scars it leaves behind and the emotional triggers.
A lot of times the second spouse is guilty until proven innocent, where the first spouse didn't really have that problem.
They were the ones who whittled away the trust, hence the divorce.
But there are some distinct advantages.
It's a chance to start over, to start fresh.
It's finding love again.
You're more aware of the pitfalls.
You're more willing to work harder on your marriage and avoid complacency.
You're really determined to do it right this time.
And you usually have more in common.
You share a lot more of the same goals in the bigger picture.
You value your time together more.
Generally, you learn to compromise better and you're more self-aware.
And studies show you have more and better sex.
You can't deny your past hurts or your triggers.
The key is to learn to work on them together to improve in your marriage as a team.
What you really don't want to do, and this can be hard, is you don't want to show up less than you did the first time.
You shouldn't trust less.
You shouldn't give less.
You try not to repeat the same habits.
The communication is fucking key.
You have to be determined.
Has talking to women more made them argue with you less?
Or does it just give them more things to pick apart?
Guys, women that say that communication is key, men, okay, men that say communication is key.
They're men that listen to women and what they say.
And women that say that communication is key either A, have no emotional control and need to tell the guy every single emotion, or B, they like to fight.
Determined to communicate so that you can work past all that stuff.
And then your bond is even stronger.
And it's scary, but you have to be vulnerable.
You have to have realistic expectations.
You got to catch yourself and check yourself when you might be treating somebody differently because of something that has nothing to do with them.
And that's not easy.
But acknowledging it, that's the first step.
Dealing with it, that's the next step.
But it's this kind of growth that really makes that second marriage so special and so much more fulfilling.
The Gottman Institute talks a lot about this stuff, about trust and intimate relationships, and one of their famous quotes from their research and interviewing people, writing books, blogs, you name it.
Life gets better for those who have the courage to trust.
Okay.
Women talking about second marriage like it's a joke.
Listen, I'm second marriage material.
Go have your starter marriage, learn all the lessons, and then come and see me.
And we will live like sexy, responsible adults who split bills, communicate, and leave each other alone most of the time.
Fellas, who's going to do it?
I know it's one of you.
Who's going to do it?
Put a one in the chat if you do it.
Just be honest, guys.
They say barf cap.
I would.
You're telling me there's 600 people in here right now.
Imagine if I had a room full of 600, mostly men, watching.
And you expect me to believe that none of you are going to do it.
I'd hit.
Thank you for being honest, David.
That's all I have.
Fernando.
Fernando says no.
Not even on a slow Tuesday.
Get out of here.
Don't believe you.
Okay, DM on the website says theaudacitynetwork.com.
We've been demonetized.
Feel free.
Yearly and monthly memberships, 80 bucks a year.
One yearly membership sponsors the show if we get one yearly membership show.
I love your commentary.
I'd love to see you debate again.
You know, DM, I was traumatized a little bit.
I know women, we use traumatized for everything, but I am a modern woman.
So I, you know, it is what it is.
But when I've argued with enough crazy people, the lengths they're willing to go is just incredible to me.
So, but you know, you might, there might be some coming soon.
I'm not, I'm not opposed.
Elliot says, do what, Pearl.
Elliot, I'm saying somebody would do her.
I don't know who, but it's one of you.
Pearl, are you calling out Samsung?
Yeah, they said, they said Fernando's capping in the chat.
I know, Fernanda.
I know he is.
He is capping.
He is.
I don't need the cap.
You know what we should do?
We should do a cap of the year on this channel.
Like, whoever a woman is that everyone says they wouldn't, but everyone knows they would.
Now, here's another one: is a woman who has remarried and husband adopted her two kids says has a big wedding.
So, if you followed me for a bit, you know that I am married again.
This is my second marriage.
And I came into our marriage with two kids.
My husband came in with three.
So, we have five together.
He actually has adopted my kids.
So, I have two kids and three stepkids, and he has five kids.
So, anyhow, I want to say this.
Shout out to Renald Rodolfo for the 10th, for the monthly membership on the website.
Thank you so much.
He says, I don't understand how women want communication, but then tone police, double talk, change word definitions, etc.
Women just, we like to fight.
That's it.
They want, they say communicate so we can fight and then be entertained for the day.
Guys, if we get seven more memberships this show, and there is an app, we are on the app store, so you can download it.
And I have some ideas.
Maybe I'll go with where I'd like to see the app go.
I got to get the memberships to a certain point, but I really have some really good ideas of what I want to put on there.
Maybe, maybe I'll throw them at you later.
Third time, whatever your situation is.
If you want to have a big blitz of a wedding and party, do it.
This might not be your first.
If you want to see if a girl likes you, if she says she wants to get married, courthouse.
Let's go to the courthouse.
If she hesitates and argues with you, hate to break it to you.
The wedding is attention-central for women.
Remember, we get off on attention.
So, if women want a big wedding, usually they want the wedding, the attention of the wedding.
They don't really want the man.
The best men really have is to take away more of the things that they get and see if they stick around.
First wedding, your first marriage, but it's your first marriage to each other.
So, why shouldn't you celebrate?
Why do we often think like, oh, well, it's your second marriage or your third, whatever it is, that you shouldn't have, that you should only have the big celebration for your, if it's your first marriage.
Because when we do that, we immediately downgrade that subsequent marriage.
And we should be lifting up and celebrating every marriage.
So, whether you want to elope, just get married, just the two of you, or have a big extravaganza, do it because every marriage is one to be celebrated.
Start off your marriage knowing that this is huge, it's big, it's important, and it's definitely a lot less important than your first marriage.
My opinion is second marriages are less important than your first marriage.
Look, first marriage, you at least sort of have a clean track record where we can say they might promise and mean it.
Second marriage, I mean, at that point, you already broke your first promise.
Why am I supposed to believe your second promise?
Like, what does your word mean?
Spoiler alert, true Christians don't remarry.
So there's no biblical justification for doing so.
Well, okay, what else do we got next?
Woman saying her second marriage is a great thing.
Neh.
Neh.
Marriage isn't as special the second time around.
Wrongo.
Let me tell you why that is absolutely not true for me.
I was married from 2014 to the end of 2016, divorced over the course of the end.
Look, your second marriage, by definition, cannot be as special the second time around.
It literally cannot.
Like, what I'm going to put the, what is the definition?
I know what it means, sometimes I can't say.
Definition of special.
Different than usual.
Better, greater, other, otherwise different than usual.
Unusual.
So if marriage is something you're doing over and over again in divorcing, that's kind of usual.
So in my opinion, the only thing men can get in 2024 is genuine desire from women.
And the red pill talks about this because, so I have a friend and he's a total player.
And his experience is he's the type that as women approach him.
But to his surprise, he took a couple women's virginities and he said he couldn't believe how little it meant to them.
They did not care.
They were ready to go off into the world and be a whore.
And I thought about it and I thought, okay, so if now women, and that kind of matches with what the stats say and, you know, what I've seen in life, because if women really thought their virginity was something special and marriage was special, they wouldn't leave, right?
They would treat it as if they're special.
The only thing I really see that men can get is genuine desire from a woman.
So, you know, those women that completely destroy their families for like one guy, that's what you want to get.
I mean, that's pretty special.
If you're the guy, now I know you're thinking, now I'm not saying take her seriously.
Clearly, a woman that does that's mentally ill, but that's the most unique thing you're going to get.
A woman that destroyed her family to be with, like, imagine you hook up with a girl, a woman, maybe you knew she was married, you don't care.
You find out she left her whole family to be with you.
That's pretty unique.
That's honestly more special than most marriages these days.
That dynamic?
Now, anyways, don't clip that and put that on Twitter.
I'm going to be very annoyed.
I'm going to be annoyed because I'm still flushing out that idea.
And I like to do them a little bit more.
The ideas.
Okay, let me continue this.
Why can't I hear it?
Is this Soundton?
To my soulmate in 2016.
Divorced over the course of the end of 2016, 2017, and I got remarried to my soulmate in 2022.
Let me tell you why it was so much more special the second time around.
The first time around, I was young.
I had gut feelings telling me that it was the wrong thing, and I didn't listen to them because I listened to all the people around me telling me that it was wedding jitters.
Was normal, blah, blah, blah.
The second time around, I was as confident as I've ever been in my entire life.
Not only that, but I had the knowledge of all of the things that I did in my first wedding that I knew that I either did or did not want to do again.
My first wedding day went by so fast.
In my opinion, second marriage is courthouse only.
There's no point.
Her other video says healing is never done.
Lord help the man that signed up for that.
And so on my second wedding day, I was able to be fully present all day.
I took the time to stop throughout the day, recognize what was going on around me, and attempt to slow down time.
In doing this, I have way more long-term memories of my wedding day the second time around than I did the first time around.
I also learned that all of the things I regretted from my first wedding were the things that I did to appease other people.
So the second time around, I didn't do that.
And he and I eloped on the beach with 30 people, the closest 30 people.
I did everything the way that we wanted to for us.
The way we wanted to, or she wanted to.
What's your guess?
What is your guess?
Also, guys, you know, if you want, feel free.
Website, theaudacitynetwork.com.
On Monday, I'm going to make it easier for you guys to search your favorite old show guests.
So like Chesska was a well-known one.
If there's any that you want to search just because they're really funny, I'm going to put tags for each of the like Denalva, all the Denalva videos.
Feel free to put them in the comments and I'm going to put tags next Monday or on Monday.
I didn't do anything for looks or appearances.
I did everything to honor our relationship and our love story.
You want to know another reason why it was more special?
Everyone around us knew it was right.
Our speeches were better because they were genuine.
And when people were speaking from the heart, saying how happy they were, they meant it.
Versus the first time around when my entire family didn't actually agree with the marriage and they gave speeches because they needed to, not because they wanted to.
Not only that, but I cannot tell you how different it is to walk down an aisle towards your soulmate than it is to walk down the aisle towards someone who isn't right for you.
Of course, during my first marriage, I didn't know that.
I didn't know I was walking down the aisle to the wrong person and I loved my first wedding.
But then there's hindsight.
And then I learned.
And then I met my soulmate and felt how different it is.
Walking down the aisle to him was worlds different and so, so special.
More special.
And more me, more him, more us, more sentimental, more joyous, more carefree, more at ease.
Literally, it was just more.
So maybe if you've married multiple times, it wasn't as special for you, but it sure as fuck was for me.
Okay.
Soulmate equals simp.
That's true, actually.
Yeah, anxiety comes from alphas.
Simps offer security.
Who would in the chat?
Come on, be honest.
Divorce lawyer talking.
New partner.
Not her.
Nah.
Who would?
Chat, be honest.
I want you to be honest.
One night.
Thank you, Naf said, for at least being honest.
Trog says nope.
Fernando again.
Again in the chat saying never.
Right.
Carla, what is it?
Is it the Hispanics that are like, that are the cap police, that are like the kings of cap?
Because for Fernando and Carlos, they're the ones saying no, never.
Ben sounds like a white name.
Ben saying hit and quit maybe.
That's honest.
But you know, I know the stats, guys.
I know the numbers.
So men tend to over-exaggerate how much they get laid.
Women tend to under-exaggerate.
So if I'm looking at stats that says 30, I think it's 40% of men and you thought no one would know.
You would please.
Please don't believe you.
And Guy Fox says, true.
JC says, nah, whatever, guys, whatever.
I'm going back to the Audacity chat.
They cap less on the website.
They're a little more honest.
They're a little more honest.
Okay.
Joe will say, well, there's a guy.
Well, while she is talking, there's a guy in the background playing a video game, just happy he's not being bothered.
I think that's why women get so many TikTok accounts because the men just want their wives to leave them alone.
And so what they do is they're like, go play, yeah, you want, you'll leave me alone for four hours a day and do TikTok.
And they're like, fine.
And they're not really on social media.
So they're not really looking, right?
And so they're thinking things are good.
And their wife is telling all of the family's most intimate secrets on TikTok.
Oh, too funny.
There are no soulmates in Christianity.
Crazy Kyle says this whole thing sounded so genuine until the ending when she said, at least we had fun and she took it as a game.
I'm married, so screw that crazy lady.
Not my wife, but all the girls you've shown.
DM, it's a numbers game.
If a man is willing to ask, he will get laid.
That's true.
Okay.
Attorney warns stepmoms about putting their name on the deed in case their new husbands pass away.
Rod Adolfo says, Pearl, stop spoiling the game.
Men want to be left alone, but not be lonely.
No.
Why do you think I'm here?
I spilled the game on both genders.
You know, you know, I talk to, to get really good insights on what I talk about, I talk to guys that coach men on this stuff.
And really, you're not going to get a better insight into what's going on.
There's people you can talk to that will give you more information than ever.
One is people that live in the front of apartment complexes.
The women can lie, but your doorman will not.
They see everything.
That's one.
So, you know, my old door lady, she would tell me, she would tell me like, oh, that woman saw this many guys that week or that.
Anyways, that's one.
Another one to get really good information is men that coach men in dating.
Because they deal with men that are married, having problems, men that are young and just don't know.
Like, I talked to one coach.
He gets guys laid within three weeks from virgins.
That's what he does.
Like, that's literally less than a year.
Depends how stubborn the guy is.
Now, they like, and I ask very specific questions.
So I'll ask like, okay, a guy that's getting laid, how many are in his harem on average?
A guy that's just a relationship guy.
I ask very specific questions to figure out the frequency of things and like who they're fought.
Anyways, all I'm saying is, yes, I'm going to keep spilling the tea.
I'm sorry you bought my membership.
I won't listen to that.
Okay.
Pearl, do a poll.
Who's married?
LOL.
The singles are mad.
A Kardashian viewer.
Thano says, Husband, bedtime is my favorite time of day.
Wife, it's because of the cuddles.
Husband, no, it's the only time you go to sleep and stop nagging me.
Fazelle, as a divorced individual, I want to have kids without getting married again.
I'd be happy to pay child support as long as it's 5K.
I just don't want to end up like Ross Geller.
Okay, let's keep going.
This has just got to be said because I can't take it anymore.
Imagine being your second marriage and you've been married for 30 years and y'all have had a loving relationship and you have children from another marriage and he has children from another marriage.
And for God's sake, what happens next is just traumatic.
Your husband passes away.
But the house that you are living in is in his name.
And your name was never put on a deed.
And the children make you leave the house as soon as that funeral is over.
This is real life stuff.
This really, really happens.
Change the deed.
It is very important that in your lifetime, if you're in a second marriage and y'all have been together for a long time, you change the deed.
Joint tenant with writer survivorship with both names on it.
And that way, if something were to happen to him, the house automatically goes to you.
If something happens to you, it automatically goes to him.
Because I always tell people, the worst comes out of individuals at weddings and deaths.
Change those deeds.
Okay.
Women talking about second wife advantage.
So this woman, I liked her.
Men actually learn from relationships.
And they get better every time.
Women, we get worse every time, unfortunately.
As someone who has dated men that come from divorce, despite the stigma attached to people having failed marriages, I can honestly testify to the fact that there are advantages to being a second wife.
In the few cases that I can recall, there was one in particular where the man was the one to initiate his divorce.
And as I've mentioned on my channel before, 69% of divorces are initiated by women.
So I was really intrigued to see what made him want to walk away from his marriage.
The marriage that he described to me was one where his partner was not very supportive.
She wasn't very friendly.
She was very unkind to him.
And she really was not affectionate.
And they did not have sex as much as he felt they needed to in order to foster that intimacy.
There were a host of other issues, but based on what he told me, I really did understand why he felt compelled to walk away and why he felt like it was unsalvageable.
In the other instance I can think of, it was the opposite.
This couple had been together for a really long time and she felt like she didn't have her own identity in their marriage.
Everything kind of revolved around the kids and he was very emotionally and physically unavailable and didn't really make a lot of time for her and to foster their own form of intimacy mentally and physically.
And again, it's the same kind of feeling as, you know, the first one where you can understand why someone would feel the need to walk away from something after enduring years and years of that.
In both cases, though, I did find both men to be incredibly self-aware, incredibly reflective about how they contributed to the demise of their marriage and things that they wish that their partner did differently.
Ultimately, I felt like these men had a perspective that you can really only have if you've gone through a really monumental breakup or in their cases, a divorce.
I think the biggest advantage of being a second wife or of dating someone who comes from a failed marriage is the perspective that they have, is their ability to look back at something and say, okay, well, here's what we did wrong.
For a lot of people, not just men and not just divorcees, but women and people at any stage of their life, there are certain lessons that are learned with time and with retrospect.
And there are a lot of things that as we go through, we don't really know what is happening until we've had time to kind of stop and assess everything.
For me personally, I don't want to be with a man who is learning lessons that I feel should be very obvious.
Like not being physically or emotionally unavailable for me just sounds like absolute hell.
And so if this person really did not understand how important that is until his wife ended his marriage, and that is now a lesson that he has, one that I will benefit directly from, yeah, sign me up.
I mean, it makes a lot of sense if you think about it, right?
Like think about the first couple people that you, that you dated when you first got into the dating scene.
You don't really have the best idea of what you're looking for, what you want, or of who you are.
And I think it's the same thing in marriage.
Despite it being such a massive commitment, there are so many people that have given me anecdotal stories about the circumstances under which they married.
Well, we were together for a couple years.
Well, I was pregnant.
All my parents were pushing me to pop the question.
It's not uncommon for people to marry because they feel like they have to, which leads me to my next point.
If a man is dating you intentionally, despite coming from a failed marriage, especially if he is expressing interest in marrying again, know that he is going to devote so much more of himself to that second marriage than he did the first time around.
Why?
Because he's experienced the heartbreak of a divorce.
Men and women experience heartbreak totally different.
Yeah, totally, but they still experience heartbreak.
In both of the relationships that I cited, even the man that initiated the divorce had his own heartbreak in having to walk away from his marriage.
So the chances of him going into something else all willy-nilly and wanting to experience that all over again are slim to none.
So all of this is to say, if you are dating and you come across men that have, you know, a failed marriage or they're coming from a divorce, don't be so quick to write them off.
Sit down with them, get to know them, and try and find out what happened in that relationship that caused it to fail.
And if you find that this man is reflective and analytical and open and honest and more importantly, determined to be different in the relationship that you are building with him than he was in his marriage, you might want to just hold on tight because he was in his marriage, wasn't his marriage.
You might want to just hold on tight because he's looking for a happy ending too.
Right now, she's just teaching women how to manipulate their second marriage.
All right, guys.
Pearl, if women had to pay for weddings and marriages like men, they would not think about second marriages as so cool and trendy.
Well, I want to know what you guys think.
You could put the link, the Colin link in the chat.
I want to hear, do you think men should get remarried after they divorce?
If you had a friend going through a terrible divorce and said to you they wanted to get remarried, would you say do it?
What do you guys think?
Oh, we got another subscriber.
Welcome to the Audacity Gang.
Welcome.
Thank you so much.
Let me.
Rob, appreciate you.
Okay, we have the Zoom link going in the chat.
We'll pin it.
So if you had a friend that went through a terrible, terrible divorce, would you tell them to remarry?
While we're waiting for people to call in, I'm going to give you guys a second.
I'm going to go through our rules for calling in.
One, I do ask personal questions if you come on the show.
If you don't want to talk about your personal stories, I mean, then don't call in.
Like, it's just annoying.
Like, don't call into the show where we talk about what's going on in society based on people's stories.
And then, anyways, you can opt out of the camera.
So, we'll bring you up first and you can say, don't want to be on camera, but I need to see that you're a person.
So, my producer knows that not, we're not going to bring you guys up right away.
But make sure that's the first thing you say if you don't want to be on camera.
Okay.
Please bring a statement or story.
So, if I, the question of today is, would you recommend a friend remarry?
Tell me why.
What is the personal stories or what's the reason you think that?
And get to the point.
Don't make it a monologue.
Sometimes, you know, sometimes people do bring in pretty cool stories.
So I'll let them go a little longer, but at times I will have to cut you off.
It's not to be rude.
I just got to run the show.
Don't over talk me.
Stay on topic.
That's pretty much it.
That's what we got today.
Now, I wanted to talk about a couple ideas I have for the Audacity Network while we're waiting.
While we're waiting, give me a thumbs up when somebody's on the line.
But a couple ideas I have.
So, on the website, I was thinking about.
So, as you guys know, the red pill started in the blogs and forums.
So, there are people that have been in the red pill for like 10, 20 years.
And it was men coming together to solve their problems.
The great thing about RP content is it does have solutions for men.
There have been men that created solutions to potentially fix your marriage.
If your wife never liked you in the first place, it won't help.
But if maybe it was just frame that you lost, they made it.
You know, Donovan made a course on how to what women say versus what they mean.
It's legit.
Like, there's courses that I found that are really legit.
And I was thinking about getting some sort of group membership if I put them all on the website.
If you guys are interested, the ones I would co-sign, and I know from people that have worked with these guys that are good, where you guys could pay, I don't know, a lot of these courses are like a couple hundred bucks each, but maybe you could pay like 200 bucks and get access to like 10 courses.
There's courses on how to like make six figures as a power lineman.
There's really a lot of good information.
And the thing is, most of these guys, yes, they're in it.
I mean, obviously, they want to make money, but they initially got into this to fix their problems.
And, you know, like one has a fashion course that's really good.
Anyways, if you guys like that idea, it's something I was thinking of including.
Another thing is we do do channel management.
So I like to take people that are already successful, but they don't really, you know, like let's say you're a doctor.
Do you have time to be worried about learning equipment?
Like, I just think there aren't enough smart people on the internet.
Like, I think I want to raise the overall IQ of people online.
And so what I do is I come in and we take a, we have a couple.
All they do is upload the video into a drive and then, you know, we do the rest, posting titles, thumbnails.
I was thinking of doing an Audacity Academy where we can teach you guys how to do all the stuff if you want.
If you don't, you know, we can do it for you.
Just an idea I had.
You could take it or leave it.
So we're going to get back to the topic.
You know, I was just waiting for people to come in, but we have a caller.
We have Brad.
Hello, Brad.
How are you?
Hi, Pearl.
I'm good.
How are you?
Good.
Where are you calling out of?
OYCIDO.
And are you good to be on camera?
Yeah, if you don't mind me driving, it's just kind of post-it up.
That's fine.
Just don't crash.
No, I definitely won't.
Okay.
So what do you think of the topic?
Would you recommend a man that's been through a terrible divorce marry again?
I wouldn't recommend it because I feel as though it's kind of a green flag for the women because they know that he's been manipulated once before.
So it just kind of gives them that green flag to do it again.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah.
And have you seen any men that you were friends with or like knew marry twice?
Yes, actually a coworker I'm working with at the moment.
We actually had a conversation about it today.
It was pretty interesting.
What's the job?
Like, what's the field?
Electricians.
Okay.
And why is he marrying again?
So he actually did already marry again.
So, what it was, is he had first marriage, 14 years married, two kids, and you know, nasty divorce, didn't even see it coming.
Uh, so he got with this new girl, uh, got her pregnant, and that was kind of the reason that they decided to get married again.
And uh, what he's telling me is basically the conversation today was she's taking a trip to Disneyland with a female friend of hers, they're like 44 years old.
Uh, she's taking a trip to Disneyland, not taking his kids, not taking her kids, just kind of like a girl's trip, and uh, of course, at his expense.
And uh, he's just kind of going off about how he feels as though he's just getting uh, what do you call it, drained wallet-wise.
And uh, I was like, Why, why did you even if the first one's so bad, why'd you get married a second time?
And he kind of like what you were talking about before, he felt obligated because he they were gonna have a kid, so I'm not sure where that expectation came from or why that preyed so heavily on him.
But um, just saying from personal uh witness, it seems to just be worse the second time around.
Yeah, women really use men's morality against them.
Like, you guys, I would, I would, I would also say simps do too.
Like, simps uh just really don't know, they just throw each other through, I don't know, they just throw they just expect men to just throw themselves on the on the pyre, you know.
Yeah, they totally do.
Well, thank you so much, Brad, for calling in.
Of course, no, big fan.
I appreciate it, Pearl.
Thank you so much.
Thank you.
Have a good one, you too.
Pregnant.
No, that's the that's okay, guys.
That's the way.
Again, a lot of people think I'm hating on religion when I say that Christians are Christian men are the targets, but they literally are.
And I know this because I've talked to OnlyFans models about this.
They market to Christian men, that is what they do.
Married Christian, like because again, they use men's sense of morality against them.
The Simpson, as he said, the Simps do too.
What they'll do is they'll say, You're a bad person if you have sex or have a kid outside of marriage.
Even if the state is putting a gun to your head, you still have to do it.
You're immoral.
Even if the women like being baby mothers, it's still your fault.
Anyways, sorry, guys.
Headphone.
Is there anyone else on or no?
No?
Okay.
Yeah, she is going to ride Space Mountain.
That'll be awesome.
Pearl, me and my friend are trying to make a podcast called Father's Day.
It's just to support fathers.
And yes, sometimes we're going to talk about ex-girlfriends.
Now, look, guys, I do for the outsourcing of the clips and like that and the YouTube outsourcing.
I do have a smaller package, but in general, this is for people that want to go all in.
I want, I don't have the capacity to take on like 10 clients.
I just don't have it.
I really can max out at like five, four or five.
I'm just being honest.
This isn't even a sales gimmick.
So, yes, you can message me about the outsourcing, but I'm telling you, if you don't have a decent budget, just don't waste your time in the most respectful way.
I just, we only have the capacity for maybe Four, five.
Okay.
Um, how can you support this idea?
Jesus said that remarriage is adultery, except if you're a widow.
I think Buddhist men are not the target.
I don't know enough Buddhist men to look at generalities from it.
Um, welcome to the show, Sean.
Are you okay to be on camera?
Yes, ma'am.
Welcome to the show.
Um, what is your thought on the topic?
Should men that have gone through a bad divorce remarry negative negative all day, every day.
I mean, uh, it's just a complicated thing, yeah.
And marriage kind of is a little bit outdated.
And so, NetNet, I mean, you were on point, just like usual, nothing new there, right?
When it comes down to just diving deep into the details and figuring out, like, hey, what's going on?
What's the causes of these things?
But, you know, people are hopeless romantics.
And so they just continue to move in the same destructive manner without actually sitting back and just saying, hey, should I get married again or not?
And so I think it's a global thing also.
It's not like, you know, as we had a conversation last time I was on about just even in Asia, how things were going.
So it's not Christian and Buddhist.
I know you just said that recently.
It's really about people got options and people are like, look, I want to do whatever I want to do when I want to do it.
And that's it.
Oh my gosh.
I didn't even recognize you with the hat on and the glasses this time.
I didn't realize you're the one that was dating in Japan and like Asia, right?
Yeah, Um, so have you seen anyone go through a second marriage?
And how did it turn out for them?
Of course, right?
But we already know the statistics, right?
It turns out worse, right?
Like, I mean, of course, they say they learn things and it will change, but it doesn't matter.
You're not dating or marrying the same person.
You're marrying a completely different person.
And then, of course, they have a completely different timetable about the development and how they see the world.
And so, again, you'll marry somebody else and be like, yeah, you know, the first one.
I wasn't developed enough.
And then you go into the second one and the other person cannot be developed enough.
Or maybe they just decide to change their mind.
You know, I don't think people would want to get married that much if it was like, you can't get divorced.
You have to stay.
Guys would, but not the girls.
They'll be like, oh, heck no.
We've been praying for that.
Yeah, good luck.
Well, I don't understand why people don't just live together the second time.
You can, you can live together.
You can have a kid.
Why would you take an extra layer of insecurity?
Like an extra way the state can F you when you can have the same exact outcome.
You can even do a ceremony.
I have like, I have friends that are common law married and they did a ceremony.
Like everyone knows they're together, but they're just the state doesn't.
It ain't good enough.
You know, they want the ring.
And then I guess it's just, you know, culture, culture impacts them a little bit too much.
But yeah, and it's funny.
It was working longer when they were just a couple than it was when they got married, right?
Like when they got married, it got worse.
When they were a couple, we were together eight years.
And then it's like, dang.
And then y'all got married for three and y'all were divorced.
And so it's just kind of funny, but I just think it changes the power dynamics.
So at the end of the day, the guys like to think they're in charge.
Like, I'm in charge of my household.
And it's like, really, bro, I will call the cops and they will let you know real quick.
We all know what it is.
Like, you know, it's so funny, man.
It's the most craziest thing.
The only power you men have is not getting married.
I swear it beans.
Like, it's the only power you have.
Or other women.
Like other women.
Yeah.
That's really, but if you get married, you can't do it underneath that.
You get what I'm saying?
Yeah.
Like, if you're even if you are in some countries, they give you rules.
Like, everybody got to get a house, everybody got to get a car.
It's like crazy.
It's like, oh my gosh.
So, yeah, no, it's ridiculous.
But that's what they do.
Every power that men have, the Christians will come in and say they're immoral for using.
So, like, if a guy dates around, like, that gives him power because then he has options.
Like, if he's sleeping with multiple women, if one woman takes away his supply of sex with marriage, like that gives my men saying, No, I'm not going to marry you.
That gives them power.
And then the Christians say you're a bad person for doing it.
Yeah, exactly.
Especially, you go ham on that.
And it's so funny too, because I forgot what the guy's name was.
He was like, Man, you're actually really cool if you're a virgin.
You're the best out.
You're the strongest male.
I was like, look, you can think that in your head, but other people don't have to like hit me.
Like, people just won't acknowledge it and just cast you as a weirdo or incel.
And you're like, well, I have the moral ground.
And yeah, you will never have a partner in a mate.
But at the end of the day, because even the girls who are Christian don't prefer that.
So it's just, it's funny.
And as you said, they use the moral argument and they act like they stand on morality with that position.
But definitely you're leading people astray with that type of advice.
Like, yeah.
I've met women that I believe are virgins.
And it's like, I mean, some of them are just waiting to get it over with and then they can go be whores.
Like, you know what I mean?
Like, because guys will think they're like immune if they find like a virgin homeschooled girl.
And I'm like, I've literally met those that are on OnlyFans.
Like that, that's what they say.
Yeah, that's like.
And as we said last time, you know, people swear down.
It's like, oh man, it's got to be, you know, feminism.
It's like, nah, bro, moms was telling them, like, you know, your daddy never made me, you know, what.
So go out there and live your life.
And so it's just really bad.
And I'm telling you, I'm overseas sometimes.
I'll be dating, you know, I'm with my girl and we're walking down the street and some older Thai ladies looking like, man, I wish we had that back in my days.
Like the girl would tell me she even says that.
She's like, man, you're lucky to live in these times.
And these are like old Thai women.
You get like past their primes, but they're just like, man, I didn't live in a time with GI soldiers and Americanos coming through.
Like, man, you know, I was born in the wrong era.
You get so.
No, that's the other thing.
Like, that would be the most common thing I'd hear from women from more traditional countries is that their moms told them to go be whores, essentially.
I mean, they didn't use those words, but they like, yeah, yeah.
You might as well.
You know, subtle.
And I'm like, that's why, like, when the like when the guys think they're in control, like, oh my gosh, I was talking to this Christian guy the other day.
And he's like, if you just lead them to God, like, your daughter won't end up on OnlyFans.
And I'm like, I'm sorry, you have two daughters, but you have no control.
None.
If that woman gets in the wrong friend group at school, gets in the wrong content, or even the mother, your trad mom gets in her ear the wrong way, done, cooked.
You can't stop it.
Your mom.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Like, you gotta worry about your wife telling you these things.
Like, forget everybody else because she's gonna be an accomplice, right?
She's gonna be the one who's like, your dad's the tough one.
You know, me, girl, I got you.
Like, it's gonna be that type of stuff going on in the background.
And here you are, Bible thump and hitting the gym thinking that that's gonna stop it.
And it's not.
So it's hard, man.
I tell most guys I talk to to humanize women, but they just don't want to do it.
They want to, you know, see them as sweet spice, everything nice.
And I say they're just humans, just like you, man.
I think that the final stage of red pill is when guys realize they have no control and they're like, yeah, that stay.
Shout out to my homie, CGA.
Is that what he says?
Yeah, I love the pill because he just like shows you like there's life after this, guys.
But I talk to guys and guys talk to me and it's like doomsday, Pearl.
If they don't get what they thought it was supposed to be, they're like, bro, what's the point of life?
The last time we talked after that, the volleyball game?
Oh, I don't know.
I play every week.
The last game I played, we lost.
Okay.
But I think that week I probably won.
I've been on a losing streak lately.
Oh, no, at least you're winning on YouTube.
Just make sure Pearl keeps winning.
Okay.
Thank you, Sean.
See you.
Salute.
See the chat.
Peace.
Peace.
Okay.
No one got control over nothing.
Look.
And neither do the women to some extent, right?
Like, I mean, how many women okay?
Women have way more control than men.
So I'm not going to, I'm not going to make it into a false equivalency.
It's not the same.
But there are women that were good wives to a man who changed his mind and said, you know what?
I wasted your youth.
Don't really want to be married.
I mean, usually it's their own fault.
They stuck around long enough.
But, you know, like sometimes you can't control everything.
We got next on the line.
We got Slim Jim.
Are you cool to be on camera, Slim Jim?
I'd prefer not, but if you'd like, I'm okay with that.
That's okay.
We can keep you off.
That's no problem.
I appreciate that.
Thank you.
So what do you think of the topic?
Should men remarry?
Well, I would say to each their own, me personally, I've been married twice, divorced twice.
The first one was quite difficult.
The second one was much less difficult.
So interesting.
I don't necessarily want to say for or against what women and men should do.
I think ultimately you should find who you can have a good say.
Peace is a major part of life.
You know, you should be able to have peace and happiness and forgiveness when there is transgressions in any relationship.
You should learn how to forgive.
Small transgressions, obviously easier to forgive.
Larger transgressions, much more difficult.
But as you go on in life, you realize that, I mean, those are things you're going to have regardless, things that can't be taken from you.
In divorce, you know, men can lose most everything.
And I've been in positions where I've essentially lost nearly everything.
I'm a retired active duty military with more than two decades military service, honorable discharge, and retired under honorable conditions as well.
And, you know, I mean, it doesn't really matter how long you're here on this planet.
You know, I'm 47.
If I live seven more decades, that's 117.
Pretty small amount of time when you figure same between two eternities.
The eternity exists before you get here and the eternity after you're gone.
And so invariably everybody's got difficulties in life, whether it's men or women.
Both can have it difficult.
You know, it's on the individual, but in the end, you're not going to be taking much with you anyhow.
So it's pretty important to forgive and love.
And I would say those are very important.
Being in the military for over two decades, being involved in a lot of war and the whole planet could do with a lot more love and forgiveness, I would say.
I don't really have all the answers for everything.
I am just a man.
You know, I'm 47.
I just retired last year, 46.
So I want peace.
I want peace.
So first off, I wanted to say thank you for your service.
Thank you.
And second question, what made you get married the second time?
And why was it different?
Why was it less contentious?
So what made me get married the second time is I truly felt I could have, I had a very peaceful relationship and I had, it just, it just worked well.
And I didn't expect to get married.
I wasn't going to.
And then it just kind of happened.
She was open to the idea of getting married.
And I was like, at just some point, I was like, hey, would you like to get married?
I was still active duty military at the time.
And we were married for, I want to say, about seven years.
And I didn't expect it to end.
It just ended.
And when a relationship is essentially over, I think it's best to know that, hey, when one person is called, it quits, you can't try to make it work because it won't.
If one person has decided they're done, you just have to accept that and move on.
And so that's essentially what I did my best to do.
I hope I answered that question or your question.
I just meant, I'm assuming she didn't, like, I'm assuming the first wife went for more of your assets.
The second wife didn't.
Yeah, the first one has been, it's been quite difficult.
As a matter of fact, it's been quite difficult.
Are you still on child support or like alimony from the first one?
So, yeah, actually, it's very, it's very interesting.
So yeah, I'm on child support.
And just recently, I've just, it's just been very difficult just to maintain contact with my children.
I love my children profoundly.
I've told them many times actually that I love them more than anybody else on the planet.
And just having it, having daily communication with them has been very difficult.
And from the year from, I want to say, what, September, September 2022 to August 2023 was a very trying time for me just to be able to maintain daily contact because I was essentially informed like, hey, there's going to be two or three days a week that you're not going to be able to talk to your kids because, you know, I talk to them and they're just going to be too busy just scheduling me out of their lives.
And I essentially tried to reason with her and said, well, I've been talking to him daily for years.
Surely there's at least one minute in a day where I can talk to our children.
And it was just respond, you know, with I just got another communication back via email saying like, no, that's not going to happen.
And thank you for understanding.
It was just like no communication about it.
It's just like, no deal with it.
But I pressed on hard to try and maintain my daily contact with my children.
And well, long story short, 28 August 2023, she didn't come to pick up the children last summer and instead used, I would say, tactics to make a state believe that I would have withheld the children from her.
And so while I was active duty, I was actually arrested and incarcerated for a small period of time before being released and having to drive hundreds of miles, over a thousand miles around trip every week to another state to show that I was going to be there.
It's just, it's laughable.
Like one of the statements that was given by the Office of District Attorney, the attorney represent the district attorney saying like, well, you know.
Let's believe that you'll secure a weapon and seek vengeance.
And now it's going on two years that this court has been going on.
And I haven't been to trial yet.
It's been rescheduled once.
I had to get a different attorney because the person was just like, well, if they believe it, you know, if they believe, I was like, well, what am I paying you for?
If it's just like, if it just matters what the woman believes, what's the point of me doing here?
So I just don't understand.
So the thing is, I couldn't pay child support for, I want to say what was like, it was like July, September, October, November, December, January, February.
I think it was seven months I couldn't pay.
And so I was being taken to court at family court as well in this other state.
And so now I'm being taken to criminal court and family court at the same time.
And I asked the judge, I was like, judge, in family court, I was like, judge, I talked to my attorney, you know, how do I pay child support?
You know, I was paying to the mother, but she was, she refused the mail.
So I couldn't pay child support how I had been doing prior to that.
I don't know what happened, but the bank account was de-linked.
So I couldn't do that.
She wouldn't link it up.
It was on her end.
There was nothing I could do.
I had to report the conversation to Wallace Fargo just to have it documented.
Sent her the child support via check via overnight mail wouldn't accept it.
So then I said I'm sending it again.
And so I sent it again.
Of course, I was incarcerated in August of last of 2023.
And so I asked the judge, I'm like, so, you know, I asked my attorney, how do I pay child support?
And they're like, well, contact the child support service there.
So I did for the state.
And they're like, we can't, we couldn't, we can't do it for you, sir, because we don't have you in our records here.
Like, what if I just come there and give you money?
Like, sir, we couldn't even take your money if you came and got it.
So I asked the judge, I'm like, well, how do I pay my child support?
Well, you don't have to send her the money.
We can draft up an order and he drafts.
I was like, so this will take effect in March.
I'm like, well, since it's going to be a whole nother month, why don't I just go ahead and pay that one too?
And then her attorney was like, we're not going to deny that.
So I've had paid like eight months of child support or something like that, right in one go because I was blocked from doing it because of the no contact what I have to my children and the mother of my children.
So how old are the kids?
Oh my goodness.
So when this happened, I want to say my son was 10 years old.
My daughter was 12.
And so my daughter is soon to be 14.
And, you know, I haven't talked to my children in close to two years.
And we're going on two years.
I just, I do my best to have forgiveness and peace.
And many times when people ask if there's anything they can do, I say, pray for my children and the mother of my children because I don't believe I'm going to see them again in this life.
And I just have to accept that.
And it's been painful, but I've done my best to endure.
I would say it's very interesting.
I don't understand what's going on here because I mean, in the military, there's no such thing as a plea deal.
You know, you're bound by the Uniform Code of Military Justice.
If you're guilty, they're getting you.
And if, and if there was any evidence, if the military believed that I was actually guilty, there was no way that the military would have been okay with me getting out of an incarceration facility.
They would have incarcerated me themselves.
And I wouldn't have had a colonel bail me out of the incarceration facility in the state and finish out my last eight months where I could get my retirement.
You know, like I said, I was in the federal service in the military for 241 months.
There wasn't one of those months where I was ever punished for any crime.
And there's a much lower burden of proof for the military when it comes to punishment.
So I just don't understand.
It's like this, and the state came out with, well, they don't want to take it that hard on you.
They want you to sign this plea to him.
I'm like, I don't admit to crimes I've never committed under any circumstance.
You know, I'm facing two criminal accounts, two felony counts of custody beyond visitation with intent to withhold.
So, so they're saying, Oh, you know, take some, plead guilty, take classes, and you'll be fine.
I'm like, no, that's never going to happen.
Because let's just say I was stupid enough to go ahead and admit guilt to a crime, admit that I would have done a crime had I given me the opportunity, which, of course, you know, they can't do that because I would have committed a crime.
So, like I said, it was two counts of custody beyond visitation with intent to withhold, but I've never withholded from the mother, as can be shown.
Just the belief that I would have withhold them from the mother is enough to have me incarcerated or even executed in their presence because there was like a half dozen officers that came to where I was at, you know, to come and get me.
And I just remember saying, He's going for something.
I'm like, Well, this might be it right here.
I'm going to get shot with my shot right here in front of my children because the mother is, or you know, whatever is going on.
It's all just a ruse to maintain power control and authority, in which I have not.
And so, okay, so if I pled guilty to these crimes that I had not and would not commit, then I would just be tried by the federal government because, due to my service, my lengthy service, I will be subject to the uniform code of military justice for the rest of my natural life.
So, then they would just reactivate me and then I'll go to a federal incarceration facility for the federal government for admitting to a crime that I never committed and never would commit.
So, it's just laughable.
So, I'm like, who is this benefiting?
Are the benefits in the state so powerful and amazing that they just are better than anything I could ever provide as a father?
Because clearly, at that point, I mean, what's going to happen next?
I suppose my retirement pay will have to be retrievedly canceled because, well, you know, the federal government shouldn't be in the practice of providing retirements to known felons.
That doesn't make any sense.
I wouldn't have been able to retire.
But here it's going on two years, and I'm just waiting to see what happens.
Your ex-wife said that you were withholding the kids, essentially.
Yes, and then, right, well, that the charges that were filed by the district attorney were two counts of felony, custody beyond visitation with intent to withhold.
So, she never came to pick up the children as she's due to, as per court order.
And the other laughable thing I don't get is that what's been submitted for evidence was a court order that was thrown out in 2016 from where I was taken to court without my knowledge.
And it was in 2014 and it was thrown out in 2016.
Well, that's what was submitted to the district attorney.
I'm like, How has the district attorney not found not done any research to find out that this is a fraudulent document?
I just don't understand it.
One, two, I just don't understand.
How is this in the best interest of children?
Either so, like, I'm not afraid.
I'm not afraid of going forward.
Do you know Terrence Popp's channel?
Terrence Pops.
Yeah, he might be someone worth reaching out to.
He might be able to help you.
He knows a lot about the military court stuff.
So, I don't know if you've seen his stuff, but he has.
I don't know what you've done already.
At your stage, some guys have done everything.
But if there's someone that knows a solution, I recommend Googling Terrence Popp.
Okay.
Well, at this point, it's not military stuff.
It's just civilian courts, but it's just a laughable situation, is what I think about in my mind.
It's like, I just don't understand because how's this benefiting the children?
You know, so it's like, okay, so You at this point, you know, I wouldn't.
I'm not going to take a plea deal because, again, I don't admit to crimes that I had never would ever commit.
So that's not going to happen.
So, and there's like, oh, just take these classes.
And since I won't do that, so then what?
Now I'm just now an uneducatable beast as well.
It's just like an uneducated beast, a liar that can't be trusted, and a net lost grant in society.
But also, somehow, miraculously, I was a federal officer with a career spanning more than two decades, which makes sense if you don't think about it.
I just don't understand your second marriage, but she didn't like, did you have kids in your second marriage or no?
No, no kids in the second marriage.
Like I said, that one ended much more peacefully.
And she didn't go for any of your assets or anything.
It was just like done.
No, it was, it was, I would say, quite amicable, quite peaceful by any metric.
I mean, if it, if I had any inkling that it would have been anything like the first marriage, there it would have been a hands-down no.
Like, I just, and at this point in my life, it's just, I'd just rather have peace.
You know, it's just not in the cards.
And if it was, it would only be for the fact I had children.
But the last time I even remember speaking with my children, I know I'd even talked to my children about it before.
Like, how would you feel if I were to at least have more children?
I think I did say to remarry and have children.
I asked them because I'm like, if I'm going to have point, I suppose it'll be after they're emancipated and if necessary, out of the continental United States or not in the United States.
And at that point, what bearing does a court in a state that my children were taken to without approval of the court and without my approval?
Because I had shared legal custody at the time.
You know, if I take the children to another state and move them there without petitioning the court and without the approval of the other parent, well, that's Amber Alert, right?
I mean, I'm getting the cops on me and I'm done.
Well, it wouldn't even be that.
Someone would just contact the military and be like, hey, this guy just abducted these children.
But because I mean, if it was me, but it's the other way around.
And it's like, so nothing I say or do really seems to make any effects.
It's like I have no power, no authority, no control.
I just have to accept what's happening and just be okay with it.
And the way I've even told myself before any of this went down, I just had a sneaking suspicion things were going to get bad this year and that I might not see my children again.
And if I do, it's going to be a long time.
And I just kind of told myself, well, you know, shoot, Nelson Mandela was sentenced to life in prison and he did, I think, 27 years.
He could send and receive one letter every six months and could have one visitor once a year for one hour.
And he made it.
He was unbroken.
I was like, if I can have just a little bit of that, I think I'll be all right.
You said your oldest, is your ex-wife noticeably crazy?
Like, is she, or is it more sneaky stuff?
Well, she's got a master's degree in social therapy with a license to practice independently.
I'd say she's pretty well aware of what she's doing.
No, I just met usually the kids kind of start to wake up around 14, 13 to the mom being nuts.
You know, if they ever do, some never do.
It kind of depends how sneaky the mom is.
Yeah, I, you know, whatever's going on, I believe they're well aware of what's going on.
And, you know, I really don't know what's going to happen.
I pray that everything's going to be okay.
And I believe in the end, everything's going to be okay.
I really do truly miss my children so much.
It's been quite difficult not talking to them, especially like I said, I've had daily contact with them for years.
And now it's going on two years that I haven't contacted them.
And I shouldn't expect to contact them before they're emancipated because I'm dealing with a state that flat out believes everything that she says.
And even in the military, the viewpoint of the military at the time, victims are to be heard and their cases referred to trial.
Well, right there, if you identify as a victim, right?
Yeah.
Then you're expected to be hurt in your case referred to trial, and there's nothing the other person can do about it, really.
Yeah, I really would recommend contacting Terrence Pop.
He's gonna, he's gonna know if there's a way around it.
He would know the answer.
But I do have to get on to the next caller, Jim.
No, thank you.
Terrence Pop.
Is it Terrence like T-E-R-T-E-R-T-E-R-R-A-N-C-E P-O-P-P?
It's like Redonculus is his channel.
And he teaches guys how to use the justice system like against the wives.
He says it's immoral, but not illegal.
So thank you very much, Bro, for having me on.
Greatly appreciated.
Love your channel.
Keep doing good things.
Thank you.
Google.
Make sure you Google him.
I'm going to tell him you're coming.
Thank you.
I appreciate that.
Thank you so much.
Okay.
I think the next person, I saw someone come in.
Yeah, they left.
Oh, they left.
Sorry, Redonculus.
I'm going to text Redonculus now.
Terrence, there was a guy on live today.
I sent your way.
Look, I mean, I'm not a lawyer.
I'm a commentator.
I mean, I could tell you that, you know, my opinion.
But all I can do is give you, this is what I try to do.
I try to get the best resources where I've gotten positive feedback from the people.
Okay.
Let me, there's no other callers.
I saw one for a second.
Okay, guys.
Well, good talk today.
It's these headphones are just sometimes my hair gets weird.
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Oh, sorry.
I wanted to add in one more thing before I end of my ideas for the website.
I want to add in the most practical resources for men when it comes to improving their money, their sex lives, and their divorce resources.
So what I'm trying to do is I'm trying to strike some sort of partnership with other content creators where I can put them all in one place for you guys and I can refer to you.
So when guys like that come on, I can say this is this is where to go.
Just based off, because you know, over the years, I get feedback from guys where they say that course wasn't worth the money.
That one was.
Example, you know, Sterling Cooper's course, if you want to improve your sex life, it's kind of, it's like raunchy stuff, but he does know what he's talking about.
I've heard from the guys, stuff like that.
And it's something I could develop in the website, but I don't want, I'm not going to do it if you guys don't want me to do it.
You know what I mean?
It has to, it has to come from you.
I'm not going to go through all this work to build this part of the site just to have you guys not do it.