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Nov. 25, 2024 - Dr. Oz Podcast
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Holiday Survival Guide: Stress-Free, Slim & Budget-Friendly! | Dr. Oz | S7 | Ep 44 | Full Episode
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Okay, wait a minute, Rosie.
Hello, all my loves, all the beautiful men and women across the world.
It is your girl, Monique, and I am so excited because today I am co-hosting The Dr. Oz Show.
Now, I know some of y'all are saying I'm getting tired of watching television and getting the fluff advice, getting the lollipop advice.
Today is going to be that real advice straight from the hip on how we can make us the best us we can be.
And you know what we're calling this show?
Just Do You.
Because when you just do you, you make life so much better.
That's why I love Dr. Oz, because he's just doing him.
So today, meet Dr. Oz.
It's me.
Come on, get the color right.
We are great and healthy!
Oh my!
Well, I don't have to do this morning, you're all the horses and co-hosts today.
Now, to talk a little bit about that personal mantra, just say it again.
I want people to be really clear about this.
It is just do you.
Just do you.
And it's that simple.
Just do you.
Here's the deal.
I love it because right now, right now the holidays are coming and this is the time women always put themselves last on the list without any question, but not this year.
We're changing all that because today we're giving you a survival strategy to get you through the next eight weeks leading up to Thanksgiving and then through the holidays.
And with Monique here, we're going to have some fun doing it.
So tell them what we've got planned for them today.
Okay, your survival strategy to get through the holidays without, and this one is very important, without gaining weight.
Okay?
Without going broke.
And my very own de-stress solution for every woman watching around the world, it will de-stress you through the holidays and it costs you less than one dollar.
No fancy spas.
One dollar, baby.
And you're gonna feel delicious.
Let's just start with weight.
He said, and you're gonna feel delicious.
That's a black woman talking.
Come on.
Let's just start with weight.
Take a look.
People worry the most about packing on the pounds between November and January, the dreaded holiday weight gain.
But most people aren't gaining weight here, here, or here.
It's all these days in between.
But it can be avoided if you strategize now, get ahead of it, and are prepared.
So today, we're showing you simple ways to play defense to get through the next eight weeks without gaining weight.
So Monique has been very open about her struggle with keeping the pounds off over the years.
What's the strategy, especially at holiday time?
You know, I think that for me, the strategy is pick my poison and stay active.
Because I know like two years ago, Thanksgiving, I ate so much, but I relaxed in the eating.
Like I didn't get out and do any exercise, nothing.
So I realized my clothes got a lot tighter.
So I said, I'm not going to stop eating the eggnog cheesecake.
I'm not going to stop eating the macaroni and cheese.
I'm not going to stop eating the fried chicken wings.
And I want you to stop me on the food list that I'm giving, Dr. Adam, okay?
I can't get my words in.
But I said I had to stay active.
So even Thanksgiving morning, Christmas morning, we still get up and walk five miles because we know what we're going to do.
So we just pick out poison.
And if I'm going to have cheesecake, I'm not going to have a cocktail.
Because then I'm overdoing it.
So a lot of us are influenced the way we behave towards food, especially by our parents.
Yes.
And your mom has had her issues with diabetes.
Yes.
You know, now remember as a young girl, she would go to the doctors and they would say to her, Miss Imes, you have to move.
You have to get the circulation going in your body.
If not, it's going to be a problem.
Well, now my mother's a W amputee.
So now she's paying a dear price for simply not listening, and that motivates me.
Because when people say, what's your motivation?
Besides my husband and my children, I get a chance to watch a woman that's 75 years old that can't play with her grandchildren.
I get a chance to watch a woman who can't travel anymore.
So that motivates me to say, Monique, if you want to see that time in your life, and you want to be able to play with your grandbabies, and you still want to be able to make passionate love to your husband...
Which you deserve to make.
Come on now.
He deserves it too.
Yes, indeed.
I still want that to work.
So I have to put in the work right now at 47, so when I'm 74, I'm still healthy, I'm still active.
God bless you for saying that.
I do this show because I face that every day in the hospital.
But even though you watched your mom make those mistakes, it still didn't dawn on you until later in life that you needed to show up in your own life.
It didn't dawn on me, Dr. Oz, because I didn't see it being a problem.
Because as a little girl, I never got no.
Can I have another piece of fried chicken?
Of course.
Can I have a tasty cake?
Yes, you can.
Whatever I wanted in food, which was my comfort, so I never saw it being a problem.
Until my third husband, Sidney, and my last one, I hope Sidney's watching.
Okay.
Don't judge it, baby.
Y'all got some stuff in your closet, okay?
But he asked me how much I weighed.
I knew it was 300 pounds, Dr. Oz, but I couldn't say it.
I could not bring myself to saying I'm 300 pounds because then I have to ask myself, what have you done to allow yourself to get to this place?
And when Sidney said, Mama, how much do you weigh?
I said, 262 pounds.
I left some pounds off.
And he said, that's too much.
And I want you for a lifetime.
Well, no one had ever loved me that way.
God bless you, Sydney.
And no one had ever said they wanted me for a lifetime.
So in that moment, And though, sisters, my feelings was hurt, I was embarrassed, I felt ashamed, because now I have to look at this naked body in the mirror at 300 pounds, and I have to really focus in on me.
And though I felt those emotions, I never felt an unconditional love that way.
So if this man wants me for a lifetime, I want him for a lifetime.
So I gotta work at that.
It does not come sitting on the couch.
It does not come watching you, hearing you give the advice, but then when I turn you off, I go back to what I was doing.
So understanding that you gotta be willing to put the work in, and that's where the change came for me.
Is it still a struggle?
Yes.
You know, there's someone right this second who's hearing your voice, with beautiful eyes, and saying, this is my moment.
I'm going to show up in my life the way Monique did.
And that's why I love having you here.
And we're going to make it happen.
So let's get started.
The survival strategies to get through the next eight weeks, come on over.
Now, we're going to be real concrete, real solid.
Monique put a lot of work into this effort.
First of all, let's be clear, nobody Nobody is going to lose weight over the holidays.
We're not asking to do that.
It's not going to happen.
That long laundry list you gave me of foods you love.
We all love those foods.
It's okay.
What we've got is a strategy about just breaking even.
Straightforward.
So our first holiday survival strategy is to alternate the high-calorie foods with the low-fat-calorie foods.
Over the next eight weeks, very straightforward.
Alternating high and low calories.
For example, you take 2,000 calories into your body, this beautiful...
Oh, apple pie.
So good.
Yeah.
Why you got that side?
Well, you get to have the apples.
1200 calories for the next day.
Yeah.
So what would you put on this side?
What would you put over here if you could?
The thing you love the most.
If I could put on that side, Dr. Oz, I would put crab cake funnel bowls.
Talk about it.
Funnel bowls with crab cakes?
You heard me say that.
Crab cake funnel balls.
Okay?
I said that here on the Dr. I show.
So if y'all see it at the fair, that was my invention.
Okay?
Crab cake funnel balls.
Yes, you just dip it.
Let me show you how you do it real quick.
You take the, you make the crab ball, right?
Then you dip it in some Anja Mama pancake flour.
Because you got to get the drive.
You guys know what this is?
Oh my goodness, they know what you're talking about.
All right, Aunt Jemima.
This the black woman that's scared to come out of heaven, okay?
Because we don't know Aunt Jemima.
Let me talk to Bertha.
Bertha, come on out.
It's Aunt Jemima.
And you dip it in the dry, then you dip it in the wet, and then you put it in the fryer.
And it comes out to this golden, delicious funnel cake crab ball.
That's what would be on my side.
I'm scared.
Burton in here is scared.
Alright.
Now the next strategy has to do with fiber.
Yes.
So in order to do this little thing, we just can't just show up and hope it happens.
You have a strategy.
So we're going to increase your fiber content to 30 grams a day, which you could all do starting right now.
The reason fiber is important, not just because your poop is getting regular.
How's your poop, by the way?
My poop is very good, Dr. Oz.
I want to tell you right now, and I know you like the thoughts of poop, right?
Yeah, I am into the poop.
And with the fiber, when you go to the bathroom with the poop, sisters, here's a way that you can really poop without going through all this extra hurt.
Just do this.
I know.
That sounds weird, right?
You're tapping your knees?
You're hitting your knees.
Because my sister, who is from Guatemala, she says, when you do this, you then turn on the senses, and you get everything moving.
Now, I thought she was joking, and I thought it was an old myth.
Till one day, Dr. Oz, I went in the bathroom, sugar.
It came right out?
It came right out!
You get the poop going, but you also get your hunger gone as well.
Your hunger goes out with the poop, and you won't feel like you have to eat this entire pie.
What do they call the crab cake?
Funnel balls.
Funnel balls.
Yes.
Now let me ask you something, though, Dr. Oz.
One apple, right?
How much pie could I have?
A couple crumbs.
Not much.
Plus, there's no fiber in the apple pie, so you're not going to feel it.
But there are apples in that apple pie, right?
The apples walk through the pie.
They walk through it.
They walk through it.
They don't stay very long because you've got mostly crustier and sugar and all the other good things they have in there.
So I wanted you to explain it because I know some of my sisters at home are saying, well, apples are in the pie.
That's my fiber right there.
It's not in the pie, ladies.
I want you to help some of the sisters at home figure out the game plan for staying safe because we need a diet defense.
Come back over here.
I want you to take us through this play.
I want you to point out the places where we tend to trip up.
So first off, let's say you're in a mall.
The mall is a very dangerous place during the holidays and food.
Because do you see all of these people?
They're all hungry.
All of them.
They're all hungry because when you're in the mall and you're walking around during holiday time, there's things you're facing.
The lines, the long lines.
There's the food court.
The baby wanna take a picture with Santa.
And then that thing in your stomach is saying, what's going on?
Put something in here.
So what do we have to do to feed that?
Those are danger zones.
Then you have the office parties.
Oh, my.
Now, let me tell you something about these office parties.
And you cannot be scared to tell Miss Pam, stop bringing that half-eaten banana cake because no one wants to eat that, Miss Pam.
That's been through your whole family.
That's dangerous.
Those are places that are dangerous.
So what can we do to stop those cravings when we're at the mall or we're at the office parties to do it the healthy way?
And the way to do it healthy, again, an important strategy is to use snacks.
That's your go-to when you've got cravings.
So my favorites, and I brought some of them for you, they're chickpeas.
I love chickpeas because you can make them salty, you can make them sweet, you can make them spicy, any way you want.
Here, I got sour cream ones here with onions.
I got buffalo here.
Let me put one of these in your mouth.
I don't play that, Dr. Oz.
Now, wait a minute.
What flavor are you?
Okay, this is where culturally we may differ.
Culturally we may differ, I guess.
I love it.
Every black person right now watching this show is saying, what the hell are chickpeas?
And I know that's what they're saying.
I know it.
Because I'm saying it.
Okay, Dr. Oz.
Now, I'm going to take your word.
Explain to us exactly what chickpeas are.
What is that?
They're garbanzo beans.
They're like peas.
They dry them up.
They get a little bit crunchy when you do it the right way.
Okay.
They don't have any real taste to them.
Okay, so...
Hummus is made from...
You have hummus?
I love hummus.
Now, I'm gonna tell you something.
Not a lot of black people eat hummus.
And I was one of those black people that didn't because I didn't understand it.
It looked like mashed potatoes that was cold.
Okay?
Because I didn't understand it.
But I actually love hummus.
But this right here, I'm a little skeptical, but I'm gonna try it, Dr. Oz, because you said to try it.
I just gotta figure out, for your personality, are you a salty person, a spicy person, or a sweet person?
What do you got going on in there?
It depends on what day it is, baby.
Okay?
I like spicy.
I love spice.
Let's try spice.
Let's see what you think about this.
Could that work for you?
Mmm.
Scintillating.
Mmm.
For the mind readers at home across the world, read my mind.
Mm-hmm.
We're going to put all these recipes at DrOz.com.
Oh, honey.
Oh, come on.
I don't grow on you.
Okay.
Up next is survival strategy to get through the holidays without going broke.
And there's a secret trick to getting a discount when online shopping that you don't want to miss.
Coming up next, don't let the holiday madness wreak havoc on your health or your wealth. don't let the holiday madness wreak havoc on your health Budget is kind of like the B word.
We've got the financial advice you've been looking for.
A budget plan to keep you out of the holiday debt zone.
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We are back at Monique is my co-host today.
We're giving you a survival guide to get through the next eight weeks without going broke so you don't let holiday madness wreak havoc on your health or your wealth.
And it's all about doing you.
As my co-host Monique says, putting yourself first.
Did I get it right, Monique?
Did I get it right?
There it is.
Just do you.
So, here's the thing.
No one would have thought this.
Monique's up in the audience taking questions because I want women to get this money advice.
But I'm here with money coach and a member of my core team of experts, Lynette.
Yay!
Calfani Cox, but Lynette's middle name, believe it or not, is Monique.
It's true.
That's true.
Monique, Monique.
We got two Moniques on here.
Two black women, 47 years old, Monique.
We didn't plan that.
So the first strategy is to create a calendar, not a budget.
What does that mean?
That's right.
Well, you know, if you think about it, kind of for a lot of people, budget is kind of like the B word.
They don't want to hear that.
So it's really all about planning and strategizing for everything.
Not just the gifts that you have to buy, but some of everything.
The decorations, the travel, the food, all of that good stuff.
So, Annick, before you won your Oscar and all those awards, you didn't have what you have now.
How'd you manage your budget?
Well, you know, Lynette, the one thing that I did before fame came into play, and I was working at MCL, I was working a job, I was working at Popeyes, when the holiday time comes, I would buy Gina Tay.
Do y'all remember Gina Tay?
Okay?
And do y'all remember the gift pack of Gina Tay where you can get the lotion, the soap, and the powder?
Baby, that's three gifts right there.
Bundling.
We call it the bundling strategy.
You buy something that has multiple, you separate it, and then you have one, two, three.
That's what I did.
I got you on that one.
Everybody got a gift from Monique, baby.
All right, come over here.
Show them to explain how this works.
So let's say you get your paycheck on a Friday, right?
Right, that's right.
So take it away.
Walk us through this calendar.
Here we go.
The idea is you want to create a calendar to look at your actual spending over time.
And you want to do this now, you know, not wait till Black Friday.
You got about eight weeks to go.
Look at your payday.
Maybe you get paid once a week or once every two weeks.
You want to mark on the calendar your payday.
And then you want to think about what you're going to be buying.
For a lot of us, it's going to start with things like gifts.
So for everybody to have to buy presents for, don't wait to the last minute.
Space it out a little bit.
Depending on how many people are on your gift list, buy one, maybe two items per week.
Don't just wait to the end again.
Same thing with groceries.
If you're going to have a big Thanksgiving Day celebration or maybe something for Christmas or Hanukkah or Kwanzaa, buy some of the groceries that you need right now.
Especially those non-perishables, maybe the canned good items.
The whole strategy here is that you want to do a little bit and not wait to the very end because you don't want to wind up putting all this stuff on your credit cards or going into debt.
That takes the real joy out of the holidays.
Yes.
Effectively.
Your presence is the fact that you're there.
Your presence.
Right.
I always tell people that.
Your presence.
And people who care about you and love you, they want to spend time with you more than they want some fancy little gift with a name brag tag on it.
That's what matters most.
Is that true, Monique?
That is true.
The presence is the present.
And I appreciate that, Lynette.
Being one together.
And that's what I'm giving this year.
There you go.
Say, I'm with you.
I've shown up.
Here you go.
So who are you pulling into this quag bar today?
I am standing here with Sweet Christian, and she is really stressed out because the holidays are coming.
Why are you so stressed?
Because I want to get my kids all the gifts that they want because, you know, they did get all the A's and the passings.
So I, you know, have to keep mine in the bargain and give them the gifts that they want.
So...
I'm stumped.
What gift do you want to get?
What's a gift that's expensive you want to get them but you know you probably can't get around to?
The hoverboard.
I mean, that's the big it thing.
And it's basically a mortgage payment.
Give us a strategy here.
And these are these price comparison apps that people don't know about.
Have you heard about these things?
Right, yes.
So one of the big things that you should do, anybody should do who's trying to buy something for holidays or all year long, is use a price comparison app.
Price blink is one of those price comparison web browser add-ons save you money every single time because it does the comparison shopping for you without you having to go to each individual website and to check out the prices.
So let's do this.
I don't know what they got.
They got some kind of a thing.
So let's say you're out shopping and you want to get, I don't know, something like this.
Hoverboard!
I'm getting this for my kids, so I brought it in here today.
Hoverboard.
Now, what did the price match app that you used tell you about this?
Okay, so I was online to do this.
Okay.
Via price blank.
I saw this for $600.
Really?
It is a mortgage.
This is one of the hot gifts, like you said, of the season.
But, using the Price Blink app, I was able to save $200, or 33%.
So, it was $3.99.
Get out!
It was $3.99.
But you found it just online.
Yeah.
So, Monique, I want to thank you.
Here, one second.
Here you go, baby.
Monique, I want...
Here, you just take that.
That's yours.
Thank you, my love.
You can take that back to Atlanta.
What do you think?
I think this is absolutely beautiful because my kids have been asking for the hoverboard.
And I'm not going to pay $600 for the hoverboard.
But what I would say to you, my sweet sister, because you're putting in the work and you're trying to give your babies all that you can, take this home and give it to you.
Thank you!
Up next, if you get stretched out this time of year by memorating to-do list, Monique and I are giving you three things to cross off right now.
You guys keep celebrating.
We'll be right back.
- Let's try. - That's so cool.
- Come on down, get on it now.
Come on.
One foot, one foot, one foot. - I got it. - One foot, one foot. - Next, do you find it hard to say no?
Always trying to please everyone else during the holiday season?
Find out how saying it can actually improve your health.
Everyone say it again.
No, no.
You gotta put two no's on that one.
No, no.
Coming up.
What is it called?
China.
It's called China in Trinidad.
Yes, and you curry it and you fry it.
I knew it wasn't called no damn chickpea.
They steal everything.
This was ours first.
Okay.
Y'all want some?
Today's show is all about having the courage to just do you.
And a big step towards doing that is learning to say the word no.
Everyone practice, say the word no.
No.
Why is it so hard for us to do that this time of year?
Because I think we've been conditioned to say yes.
We've been trained that this is the time of the year where you go all out, you really show people how much you love them, and if you don't get them what they want, they may think you don't love them as much.
So that's why we have such a hard time around this time, especially, saying no.
It's the most powerful word in the English language.
No.
Yeah, it changes our health.
For November, remember, no, we're going to get into that.
I pulled some of the busiest women I know, and here are two things they agree you can cross off your to-do list right now.
So listen up.
First off, they say it's okay to say no, this is important, to holiday parties, even if you like the people.
Even if you adore them, it's still okay.
It is okay because what you have to learn how to do is set up what you have to do and what you want to do.
And when people say, I have to go to this holiday party, no, you don't.
Don't go if you don't have to and do what you want to and that alleviates a lot of stress.
And don't take it personally when folks don't show up.
It's okay.
It's not about them.
It's about you, how you feel.
This is a big one.
It's okay to say no to people about lending money.
Everyone say it again.
No, no.
You got to put two no's on that one.
No, no.
And even when it's as small as $20 or $50, and I'm not saying we all don't need help sometimes, but don't you get irritated when you have that girlfriend or that family member that says, hey, you got $20, but you know they just went and bought a pocketbook or some shoes?
Or got their hair done, and they're starting to do that every month, and then you look up and you've given this person over a thousand dollars with just $20, $50, but now you can't get your hair done.
And now you can't pay for ice skating for your baby, or whatever that thing is.
So get comfortable in your no, because if you notice, people never question your yes.
They never say, why would you say yes?
So don't question my no.
Why would you say no?
Because I wanted to.
It's your choice.
Yes!
All right, you want to take us out to commercial?
Can you throw the commercial?
No, baby, this is your show.
Okay?
Oh, please!
Please!
Oh, please!
Okay, since you asking like that.
All right, y'all, up next is your survival guide to get through the holidays without stressing out, including my own tip, which is better than any fancy spa, and it costs you less than $1.
Get up off your knees, sugar.
Don't look up.
That's a fun.
Next, between the tense family get-togethers, the traffic, and the lines, don't let the pressures of the holidays ruin your day.
Find out how to curb your stress and give yourself the best gift of the season.
Yes, tap that!
Tap that!
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Every hug that y'all give me, and y'all tell me about the inspiration and the motivation, what I want to say to y'all, without y'all, baby, I don't exist.
Today out there, we're calling the show Just Do You.
Just.
Do.
- You.
- Give it to you! - Yeah! - Yeah! - You won it, you won it, you won it! - I'm back with my co-host of the day, Monique, and this whole show is your survival guide for the next eight weeks.
And babies, we are giving you a survival strategy to get you through the holidays without stressing out.
Between the tense family get-togethers, the traffic, and the lines, it is enough to push you to your breaking point.
Does your family comfort get you down in the holidays?
Well, in the Hicks residence, there's no family conflict.
The only conflict is who's going to get that last bit of macaroni and cheese.
That's the only conflict between myself and my baby Jonathan.
Who's going to chew the last bit of macaroni and cheese?
I don't know.
I bet you nudged him a little bit.
I can't see that not happening.
I do get it.
Because I'm mommy.
And I'm bigger.
Okay, but I let him think he has a little challenge going on.
All right, come on over.
So we got a strategy that Monique loves.
Yes.
It's something she can use to deal with all the stress in her life.
It's Monique's very own homemade milk bath.
And Sol is enjoying the bath.
Are you okay in there?
I'm good, actually.
Very comfortable.
Now, how does it feel though?
Because actually, this is powdered milk and baking soda.
Now, how does that feel on your skin?
Do you feel any tingling going on?
It feels very good, very smooth, and I do feel the tingling.
It's quite relaxing.
Because what happens is, Dr. Oz, the baking soda pulls off the toxins, so it's going to make you sweat.
Now, what the powdered milk does, the powdered milk eats off the dead skin.
Now, right here, this doesn't look very attractive, and this doesn't.
It doesn't look sexy.
It doesn't look like your man want to come in the bathroom and help you out.
But if you sit that down and you have this...
Okay, this is the mixture of powdered milk and baking soda.
Now, this looks really pretty, right?
Now, let's say your husband comes home, your mate, your spouse, and you say, darling, would you put a little more in here for me?
Okay?
How you do it?
Yes?
Yes?
Yes, tap that.
Tap that.
Tap that.
Tap it.
It's a whole different show.
I'm going a whole different way.
No, because the tapping was done very nice, okay?
The tapping, you just tap that like that.
Whenever you tap, watch your leg.
Watch your leg on the tap.
Look at that.
You see that leg?
It moves.
Yes.
This is actually really good, sisters, and this costs less money.
Then a dollar a bath.
It costs less than one dollar.
Now, I've been a girl that's paid all the expensive money at the fancy spas and got all of those chemicals that was poison.
But when I discovered this, it really does the trick.
And don't take our word for it, please.
Look it up for yourself and find out what powdered milk and baking soda does to the body.
I love it.
I love it.
Awesome.
We got lots of tips like that.
Whenever you feel stressed during the holidays, those tips and tricks and strategies are on my holiday survival hub at DrRoz.com.
We'll be right back. - Next, nobody can give straight talk and real advice like Monique.
Her inspiring words of wisdom.
Stay eye to eye with me, okay?
You know how you do it?
You keep doing it.
Coming up.
So my name is Kim, and I'm having, like, the biggest issue, and I know that you can help me because you have something I want.
What do I have that you want?
A man!
Okay.
Not mine, though, right?
Okay.
I don't even have a brother or cousin.
So if you met a really nice man, right, and y'all exchange numbers, now let's say y'all talk maybe for three or four days before you said, what do you do?
Right.
And then he says, oh, I'm a garbage man.
Okay.
At Burger King.
Because, you know, at Burger King, you can have it your way, right?
See there?
He's waiting for you, baby.
And he's a king!
He's a king!
That was Monique with Kim, a member of our studio audience who wanted some advice about dating and finding a man that she got all that information in the commercial break.
Now, nobody can give straight talk and real advice like Monique, so I know a lot of you have questions, so I'm getting out of the way.
Take it away.
And I know the first question is coming from someone who's named Atiyah.
Is that right?
Come on over, Atiyah.
Join us.
What's your question?
Okay.
What's your question, sis?
All right.
Well, good morning.
I recently applied at my job for a promotion.
I'm an administrator, and I am trying...
I'm a single mom.
I have three kids.
My oldest is 13. His birthday was yesterday.
My middle baby is 11. My daughter is 9. I am trying to pull us out of poverty.
I'm trying to change my life.
Yes, ma'am.
And because I'm trying to do that, I had to make a very quick decision within the past five weeks.
My children have always lived with me, and I recently allowed them to go and live with my ex-husband in Oklahoma.
It's okay.
It's all right.
It's okay.
It's been really difficult dealing with the fact that they're gone.
How do I deal with this?
I've never left my children before, but I want to get us out of poverty.
I want this promotion.
I'm trying really hard to learn everything I have to in order to be a better woman, in order to be a better mom, and in order to be able to provide for my family the right way.
How do I do this, honey?
Let me say this to you, sis.
And while I'm talking to you for as much as you can, stay eye to eye with me, okay?
You know how you do it?
You keep doing it.
You keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Because what you said was, I'm trying...
I'm trying to get my babies out of poverty.
I am trying to make it different for my babies.
And when you're doing that, do you know how honorable that is?
That for a mother to say, listen, I've got to make a sacrifice.
And right now, y'all have to be the sacrifice.
So when tomorrow comes, we all live better.
So with your tears, let those tears be of joy knowing that I'm comfortable in my decision because I know it's going to be better for my children.
And when you say, see, I'm a big believer in a woman can't raise a man.
We are not equipped to give him what a man can.
You have two boys who are going to become men.
There are things at this moment, my sweet sister, that you can't give them.
So you sending them to their daddy, who is a good daddy, because a good mommy won't send them to a man who's not good.
Right?
So you sink into a good man who you know they're gonna be okay.
Here's where you start feeling guilty, because I wore your shoes too.
So I have a son, 26, and then I have Michael's 12, and David and Jonathan are 10. Now there was a time that I had to send Shalom with his father because I was in the business of Hollywood.
Now where the guilt came in for me was I wasn't nurturing as a mother.
I was too busy being famous.
So I shipped him off.
Not so much because, oh, I just can't do it, because I was busy being famous.
That's not your story.
Your story is I'm busy trying to get us up out of poverty.
So right now you say, baby, mommy had to make a decision that right now you may not agree with.
But when you have your children and your babies are not in poverty because a decision mommy had to make, you'll hold on to me tighter.
Thank you.
So don't let your chin touch your chest and keep on going.
And you're gonna be okay.
and you're gonna get that promotion. - Keep going. - You okay? - Keep going, baby.
Keep going. - You okay?
You're getting it all out there.
I love it.
Because I understand that.
I do.
I understand that.
I really do.
Because there are sacrifices that we have to make.
And it does make a difference culturally.
It makes a difference culturally with white women, black women, Persian women.
It makes a difference of the struggle.
It makes a difference.
So when I say to you, I'm so proud because it's the first time I've heard a sister say, I'm fighting to get him out of poverty.
Not I'm fighting for some new shoes.
Not I'm fighting to get my hair done.
I'm fighting to get him out of poverty.
Keep fighting.
Keep fighting.
We'll take our earrings and our shoes off to fight another woman, but we have a hard time fighting for our babies.
Keep fighting for our babies.
You know, the other thing is, they're going to treat themselves the way you treat yourself.
Come on.
Not the way you treat them.
And they're going to be very proud of their mother, and they should be.
God bless you.
Thank you very much.
All right.
We'll be right back.
Coming up next, the three things no one ever tells you about shaving your legs.
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That's coming up tomorrow. -Boothing is co-hosting with me.
Are you having a good time?
I am having a ball.
I'm loving every bit of you.
Thank you for having me, brother.
All right, so I gotta say, there's so many things we all know about you, the Oscars, the Golden Globes, but if you do a quick Google search, one of the top things we learned is that you have not shaved your legs for a long time.
No way.
You know that's true.
No way!
You're famous for not shaving those legs.
Can you believe that made world news, though?
Can y'all believe that made world news that Monique does not shave her legs?
I'm famous.
You're fantastic.
So what's going on now?
Hey, look down.
Okay.
Oh, they're smooth.
Okay, watch yourself, Dr. Oz.
Watch yourself.
Now...
Okay, so I started shaving, but out of force.
It wasn't like I woke up one morning and said I'm going to shave.
One day Sid and I was standing in the closet, and he said, Look at your legs.
And I said, what's wrong with them?
He said, they have patches in them where the hair had begun to fall out in different places.
So I looked like I had the mangy on my legs.
Baby, I looked like the mange had bitten off.
So I shaved them that night.
That was the first time I'd ever shave.
And when I felt my legs, they felt so good.
And that night when Sidney felt them, they felt so good to him and to me.
So it was one of those things.
I said, I will never stop doing this.
So I've been shaving since then, really because of the mangy, but now I really like it.
Well, in honor of your shaving habits, I actually did some studying, called a bunch of experts, and we got a couple tips about how to shave the right way.
So that's a proper way to do it?
There's a proper way to do it.
Well, tell us.
First, let's observe this for a second over here.
You notice all these beautiful legs?
Yes.
Everyone is shaving their legs from the bottom up.
That's how I do it.
You do it that way, too?
Yeah, I shave from the bottom up.
Well, dear, that is wrong.
What?
Is that wrong?
You're not supposed to shave from your ankles to your knees.
Look at how shocked they are.
Well, what are you supposed to shave?
Does that surprise you all?
Yeah, it does.
I always shave like that, all the time.
How many women do that, bottom up?
Oh, I love this!
I love this!
Now, a couple men wanted to raise their hand, too, but they put them down real fast.
I want you to know I saw you go up and come back down real fast.
Guys learn this on our face.
Okay.
Because when you shave from the bottom up, you actually cause ingrown hairs a lot more, because you rip the skin and the hair, so you're supposed to go from the top down in the beginning.
In the beginning, once the legs are all warmed up.
Here, show me.
Show us how to do this here.
Go up and shave your legs.
My legs are shaved, baby.
I did mine this morning.
I don't need to shave mine no more today.
Monica, what's yours look like?
Come on, come on and shave my legs.
What's your legs look like, Dr. Hobbs?
All right, we're gonna look at my legs here.
My legs are like a forest, there's a forest down there.
I got a forest going on there.
All right, I'll take the hit for the team.
Go ahead and do it here.
Okay, so Dr. Oz is going to take the hit for the team so we can show the world how you're supposed to shave your legs, right?
Now, what do I got to do first?
You have to wet it.
The cream is going to wet it first.
I'm an expert at this.
Let me wet it first, then, since they talking about wet it first.
Now, this is how you got to do it, Dr. Oz, because this is a friendly shave.
Look at this.
Watch this.
Bow, bow, bow.
You see that?
That's a friendly thing.
Then you have to rub it in, right?
You gotta rub it in like this.
Now, Daddy, I know you're watching, but this is just for the show, okay?
This is just for the show.
Now, Dr. I said we gotta shave down first, right?
Okay, what am I supposed to do with all this cream?
Hey, let me borrow your shirt.
Okay, here we go.
Down first, with a pink razor.
Listen, these razors, I'm gonna just tell you, these girly razors don't work.
They are too girly.
Don't use those.
I use the men's razors.
I use my husband's razor.
Come on, baby.
Aren't they the best?
Now, let me show you how to do this.
That's called the pink tax, you know.
This is called a pink tax?
No, these pink things, it's called the pink tax.
They charge more for these babies.
Those are more expensive?
They're more expensive.
And they don't do this.
Come on, man.
They don't do the job.
So, let me show y'all.
Now, listen, ladies.
This is a tip, not only on how to shave, Pay attention, Kim, because this is also how you take care of your man.
You see that?
See?
So you got to do it.
Play on back.
Play on back.
Get yourself together.
Now, here we go.
Here we go.
Okay?
Ladies, the first go down is nice and smooth.
You see that?
Oh, it feels nice.
You see that?
Oh, that is nice.
Well, wait a minute.
I'm stuck.
Now, Dr. Oz, this looks like it's just pushing the head down.
It don't look like it's taking it off.
Well, you made some progress.
Look how much hair you got off there.
Oh, my.
Now, do you want me to...
Now, we're going to just take...
Let's just take down one patch, okay?
So you're going to look funny for your grandbaby.
And everybody's like, granddaddy got a stripe in his leg.
Now, at what point do I come up?
So once you warm the skin up a little bit, you moisturize it, and you got some of the big stuff off, then you can start coming from the bottom up.
Oh.
Let's go from the top down to the beginning.
Yeah.
You're making some progress.
You got a little stripe.
You got a racer stripe right there.
Listen, Dr. I has got different hair.
Okay?
Because it's not doing what it's going to do.
It's going to take you all day.
But y'all know, shave going down.
Up next is scientifically proven de-stressor you're going to want to do to keep around your house for the next eight weeks.
The best part is it costs less than 50 cents.
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This November, we're taking your health to the next level.
I don't think anything is possible.
It's a month of game changers.
Take your health to the next level.
Watch "The Dr. Oz Show." Hey, everyone.
This is Brian here at the Good Life Beauty Closet.
Now I'm going to show you a beauty trick that may literally change the way you face the day.
When you have a pimple that is red and inflamed and you need it to go away, try using an ibuprofen capsule which should take away some of that inflammation and redness.
Just pierce it with a sewing needle and then drip some of the liquid onto your hand and dab it right onto your blemish so you can get back to living the good life.
You like that idea?
Yes!
Yes!
Someone put in that!
Just a little dab will do you.
I love it.
Your show is so informative, just so you know.
Well, God bless you.
Yes.
Because you made it a lot more fun for me.
Here's what's the deal.
All month long, we're doing fix or fail, right?
We're testing 30 ideas in 30 days, bringing you the very best next-level fixes.
And that one was from Brian Underwood.
He's the beauty director at The Good Life Magazine.
Now, tomorrow, it's important, you'll be talking about this fix.
It is a scientifically proven de-stressor to keep around the house for the next eight weeks as you try to survive the holidays.
And the best part?
It costs?
50 cents.
50 cents.
And what is it?
You know what?
I want to say this to y'all.
Forget about smelling the roses.
Oranges should be your new centerpiece.
Yeah.
If y'all could scratch and sniff your TV right now, it smells so good.
Now, can you just smell that?
Yeah.
And you know, they actually stock their study of this stuff.
A little scent of orange just relaxes you at a very deep level.
And see the clothes you put in there?
Yes.
You can spell anything you want with them, by the way.
Notice how what I spelled here.
I don't see a Monique orange.
Yeah, this is...
It's a gift.
I'm giving you a gift.
Why would I give you a gift with your name on it?
Thank you, sugar.
Let me...
Oh, I'm so relaxed.
I have adored every second of the show with you.
God bless you for all you do.
Thank you so much for having me.
And all the wonderful wisdom.
Monique!
Thank you, baby.
Remember, happy and healthy starts at home.
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