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When a Mother-in-Law Put Her Family's Health in Danger | Dr. Oz | S6 | Ep 150 | Full Episode
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Today on Oz, he says his mother-in-law has turned into a monster-in-law, ruining his family's health.
She wants to change the rules, give them unhealthy food.
I don't want to talk about this with you because you're ridiculous.
A battle for control that could tear this family apart.
He has type 1 diabetes.
Why would you give him candy?
Nobody's going to tell me what I can't give my grandchildren.
Dr. Oz has just what this family needs.
Step-by-step plan to resolve any family conflict that could be making you sick.
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Thank you very much.
I want you to meet Lovett and Michael.
They've been happily married for five years.
They've got two beautiful children, Grayson and Ilana.
But Michael says his mother-in-law has become more of a monster-in-law, and their family's locked in a battle for control that could tear the family apart.
The relationship between my mom and my husband is extremely complicated.
My mother-in-law is beyond controlling, let me tell you.
I'm a fabulous grandma.
Hello!
Glamma's here!
My grandbabies are called my glambabies, and they love their grandmother.
Biggest issue we have with her is the debate over food.
Most of the food we give our children is healthy, nutritious food.
As soon as my mom gets here, the battle begins.
Come see what the grandma got.
I bring a suitcase every time I come, and I always have sweets and candy.
She's sneaking things into the suitcase.
The children are trying to eat it really fast.
They don't want to tell on her, because that's their connect.
That's their source.
My son has type 1 diabetes, so with me trying to instill healthy habits for him and for her to come in and give us things that are going against what we are preaching daily to him, I have problems with that.
I say he's getting his insulin, he's doing fine, and he should be able to eat anything he wants in moderation.
My mother views us as health food junkies.
I think they're bordering health freaks.
When I come here, they'll have a written list.
No pizzas, no fast food, no fried chicken, only healthy snacks.
I'm very serious about health.
As a parent, I'm obsessed with it.
So I can't say it's not important to sit back and let my children just eat whatever they want.
It's always water.
You got a problem with the water?
It's ridiculous.
It's ridiculous.
All these kids have water all the time.
Should they have soda?
Should they have soda?
Soda on occasion.
What do you want?
Sugar?
I'm gonna go see the dishes.
I get caught in the middle all the time.
No.
Seriously, guys?
Not in front of the kids.
Listen, I'm not going to let someone come in here, change the rules, and take away all the healthy habits we have going on.
When they're with their parents, that's fine.
If that's how you want to feed your children, that's fine.
But when they're with me, it's going to be Glamar's house, Glamar's rules.
Don't you want a milkshake?
Look at this.
I want a milkshake, too.
You are the bad guy.
I want to make my mom happy.
I want to make my husband happy.
And I'm just at a loss for the whole situation.
Oh my.
I love it.
Michael and mother-in-law, Lovette, are all here today.
Mom, describe, if you don't mind, how you think your kids, your grandkids, are being raised by their parents?
I think they're being raised ridiculously.
They are not allowed to eat or drink anything that all other children are allowed to eat and drink.
They only drink water.
Everything is a health food.
Everything is organic.
No sugars.
It's ridiculous.
It is completely ridiculous.
Michael, when you hear your mother-in-law describe your children's childhood in this way, what does it make you feel?
It makes me very upset.
I'm very passionate about health, first of all.
And then on top of that, my son, he has type 1 diabetes, and we're just trying to give them some habits that they can practice.
Right now, so when they're getting older, they can continue these practices.
So we have her coming in.
You know, I love my mother-in-law, but I just don't like her.
The fact that she comes in, she wants to change the rules, give them unhealthy food.
No, I'm not trying to change the rules.
It's my rules.
I'm saying they cannot have this food.
Okay, those are your rules, and when they're in my house with me, those are my rules in my house.
How are you going to tell me what's right and what's not right?
It's not about what's right.
He has type 1 diabetes.
Why would you want to give him candy and things?
When that kid goes to his doctors, he has never, never, ever have they said that his levels were too high.
I don't want to talk about this with you because you're ridiculous.
You're ridiculous.
How are you going to tell me?
You're ridiculous.
He has type 1 diabetes.
Type 1 diabetes.
And what do I give him?
I give him a little bit of soda.
Do you think I like the fact that he can't enjoy...
Please, please.
Listen to me.
You're ridiculous.
He can't even enjoy Halloween parties at school.
Do you think I like that as a father?
Right, and when they go trick-or-treating, they can never eat their candies.
She sends all that candy to me to give to my students.
I'm feeling exactly like you feel.
Let me, if I can, organize this argument, because it's not unique to you, but I get it.
What is it about the rules that your son and daughter are making?
It's too restrictive.
It's ridiculous.
No child should be able to never ever go to a fast food restaurant.
Michael, you think this is more than just junk food.
You think there's other motivations for your mother-in-law?
I think it's about control.
She is someone who just likes to control everything.
She's very bossy.
She feels like if it's not her way, it's not going right.
I honestly believe that if I was wanting them to have junk food, she'd probably give them healthy food.
She just wants to go against what I'm doing.
So, LaBette, you're stuck here in between a man you love, passionately, and a mom who did a great job raising you.
And yet, you're witnessing conflict, anger.
It's just too much.
It's too much.
It feels like I'm always stuck in the middle.
I don't know which side to choose.
I don't want to betray my mother.
I don't want to betray my husband.
And the simple fact that it's in front of the kids, that's the worst part.
And it's me and the children stuck in this constant fight and there's no resolution.
Mom, do you respect your daughter?
I do.
I respect my daughter and I respect my son-in-law.
But again, in my house when my grandchildren are with me, they should be able to have some fun and be like children are supposed to be.
Your grandson's a diabetic.
Yes.
You know what that means?
Yes.
There are implications of giving him sugary foods.
Yes, of course.
I understand that.
But I only give him a little.
First of all, they only see me a couple of times a year.
And this guy had the nastiness to say to me when I was here at Christmas time, if you can't follow the rules, then you will be banned.
Nobody, nobody, definitely you or you are going to ban me for my grandchildren.
That's ridiculous.
Nobody's going to ban me and nobody's going to tell me what I can't give my grandchildren.
Do you think those kids will rebel against these rules?
I think they will.
Absolutely.
They'll get to be teenagers and they'll go crazy.
My grandson traded his snack, his healthy snack of carrots with one of his classmates for potato chips because he's never allowed to have potato chips.
That's ridiculous.
You have to stop.
The rebellion comes in because of this.
The children are confused.
They don't know who to listen to.
Do we listen to grandma?
Do we listen to our parents?
But they live with us.
So when she leaves, they're still like, well, what about grandma's rules?
So let's go through this.
Walk us through.
I brought a sample.
I think it's accurate.
What you might get to kids if you took them out.
And then I'm going to have, Michael, if you don't mind, do the same on your side.
So explain what we got here.
When I come to visit, I'll take them to a fast food restaurant.
I don't supersize anything.
I'll get the salt without fries.
I'll get some chicken and maybe a burger.
And I'll get a Coke.
But all of this is in moderation.
I do not do this daily.
I'm not here.
I don't live here.
So I only see my grandchildren maybe four times a year.
Okay.
So, Michael, walk us through what you get.
First of all, that's disgusting.
So what we have here, we have chicken baked.
Non-GMO. We have brown rice and we have organic broccoli here.
Steamed.
This is a healthy meal, well-balanced.
It fits in the food pyramid.
We have the almond milk and we have water.
This is healthy.
Health is a lifestyle.
Health is a practice that's going to get them to a place when they're older, they can continue to have a healthy life.
Health is important.
Education.
But if you don't have health, you have nothing.
Michael Allen, let me say this to you.
Look at me.
I'm 61 years old.
Do I look like I'm eating unhealthy?
Well, I mean, you do look great.
Clearly, you are eating unhealthy.
I eat this on occasion.
On occasion.
I may go to a fast food restaurant once a month.
I do eat that.
Maybe once a month for lunch.
Why can't you get on the program?
I eat this also.
But I am on my program.
I'm not on your program.
In my house, everybody's on my program.
You need to be nice.
Stop it.
I want you to stop it.
Can you look at me?
I want you to look at me.
Yes, look at you.
You're my daughter.
Did I do that?
Did you not go to a fast food restaurant?
We want our children to understand that this is okay, this is good, this is healthy, okay?
Okay.
I want you to understand that you're my mom, and he's my husband, and I love both of you.
And I love both of you.
We've got to all get along.
Not with this fighting.
Not with this fighting.
Mom, you understand diabetes has some very dire consequences.
Yes.
And your grandson is going to battle this for the rest of his life.
For his lifetime.
Which that's upsetting enough as it is.
The most important part.
That is already upsetting.
I understand that.
And you take it seriously.
I do take it seriously.
And the fear that I sense in Grayson's parents is what you ought to be fearing as well.
Okay.
I understand that.
But I still say my grandchildren should be able to have Fast food on occasion or candy or potato chips on occasion?
You know, I actually don't think it's about the junk food on those plates.
I think this is all about the emotions, the stress that's built up that is absolutely destroying this, the family, the greatest in all you guys need.
In fact, the anger you have, that's junk food for the soul.
So we're talking about junk food for the body.
The junk food of the soul is the anger you guys are having towards each other.
So I'm going to put you all in couples therapy.
There are three of you, but you're going to go into couples therapy.
Are you willing to go along with that?
Yes.
Not for the daughter, at least for Grayson.
You're all in this together.
Yes.
This family is not alone.
When we come back, a step-by-step plan to resolve any family conflict that could be making you sick.
Stay here.
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It should not happen to anybody else.
Remembering Joan.
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On an all-new Oz.
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Sometimes people in your life can be toxic and the conflict they bring can affect your health.
Michael says his monster-in-law, that's what he calls her, is putting his family's health at risk, and he's here to take back control, while she argues that he's turning her grandkids into health freaks.
And Lovette, the daughter, was caught in the middle.
Today, we have the plan to resolve any family conflict.
This family needs it, and you might need it as well.
Clinical and family psychologist Dr. Jen Hartstein is here.
How common is this dynamic, this story that we're talking about today?
This is so common, right?
That we're gonna have all this conflict.
I would bet if anybody in this room, anybody watching stops and thinks about it, we've all had major family conflicts at some point.
And very often, the reason for that is because Our relationships are so fueled with emotion.
We love each other, we want to have the right things happen in our lives, and that emotion is pushing the train along.
The problem with that is our emotions have no logic.
They make sense in the situation, but they cause us to act in impulsive ways.
So we say things we don't mean, we act in ways we don't mean, we We dig in our heels like a stubborn mule in ways, and we can't hear anything anybody else has to say.
So the fact is, have all of the emotions, but we have to all be really careful about what we do with those emotions.
So as you were saying before, Lovette, it's about respect, right?
If you're yelling at each other and not talking to each other and just jumping on each other impulsively because you're so emotional and it's firing you up, you're not hearing each other, you're not talking to each other, and you have more to lose in that situation than you do to gain.
Okay, so what is causing this conflict?
It's not what's on the surface, I don't think.
No, it's really not what's on the surface.
Bottom line is, and you guys alluded to this earlier, it's a power struggle.
So we need to stop, slow down, detach from that a little bit, and figure out how you all can find a way to interact that's respectful, kind, and caring, because I think ultimately that is there too, and that's where we have to get back to.
So, we've got some crutches.
Crutches that'll work for you and, frankly, for everybody at home who's having family issues.
The first is, act the opposite to how you're feeling.
Right.
Sounds really strange, right?
It does.
So, what we have to think about when we act opposite to how we're feeling, what do I mean by that?
You guys know you're all gonna get together.
Everybody's walking in, like, shaking and nervous.
LeVette, I bet you're, like, shaking to death.
Of course.
You're in your boots, like, oh my God, what's gonna happen?
So, we're all going in with an expectation of how that's gonna be.
Change the expectation.
Don't go in on the defensive.
Go in hopeful.
Go in feeling good.
Take that time to look at your emotion.
Infuse some logic in that.
Turn it around and start fresh each time.
Set a different expectation.
So you don't walk in angry, because you're like, every time we get together, we're angry.
Walk in going, this time it's going to be a fresh start.
We're going to start something new.
And if we all can do that, act opposite to our initial emotional reaction, you can change it up.
Second big tip, you've got to use why sentences when you're explaining your position.
So you're not accusing, you're...
Asking why.
So thinking about these fears, thinking about the food choices, maybe the first question we can all say is, hey, mom, why are you doing that?
Hey, Michael, can you explain to me why this is so important to you?
So if you ask why, you have to ask it calmly, with no attitude, right?
Because what's our instinct?
To go, why are you doing that with all of that snottiness?
Yeah.
What's going to happen there?
We're going to have conflict.
We're going to fight.
You want to be able to have a conversation.
So if you can ask why without attitude and with just open ears, you'd be surprised what you're going to get.
Let me give you one last little category, which is an important one.
We always have this issue in my family when I was growing up.
It's to fight right, not fight dirty.
Right, and we go down, right?
We talk to our kids about it all the time, be respectful, fight fair.
So there are a couple things we want to think about when we're doing this.
First thing you really want to think about Is set up a time to sit down together and talk about it.
Set it aside.
Maybe it's out of your house, maybe it's at a restaurant, wherever, but that's what you talk about.
But you also have to think about when you're doing that to stay on topic.
I like to call it, don't kitchen sink it.
If we're talking about the food issue, we're talking about the food issue.
We're not talking about, well, you said this yesterday and last year.
I can't do anything about all of that.
This is the topic today.
We also wanna make sure we don't label things.
We don't wanna point fingers, place blame, do all that stuff, where we're gonna make the other person get defensive, and then they're not gonna hear us anymore.
And lastly, and maybe most importantly, use I feel statements.
Things like, when you do fill in the blank, I feel fill in the blank.
And it sounds a little weird when you first have it come out of your mouth, but the fact is it's so important because now I'm not saying, well, you made me feel angry.
Well, truth is, I can't make you feel anything.
What I did made you feel angry, and if you tell me what I did, I can change it.
And now we're having a conversation and decreasing the conflict.
And that's really what you guys all want to do.
So if we can start there, you might see some major changes.
Let's apply this a little bit.
Mom.
I think you do sense how serious this diabetes is.
I do.
But I want Michael to hear from you.
He needs to feel in his heart that you get it.
I understand how serious the diabetes is.
I do understand that.
I do understand that he needs to grow up eating correctly because of his diabetes.
I do understand that 100%.
Would you do whatever it took?
To help him through his diabetes?
Absolutely.
I would.
See, the thing is, and I'll speak as a grandfather now, just by showing up, you're a glam mommy.
Totally.
I see those little kids jumping up and down on you.
I mean, just by coming into town, no matter what happens, they're going to love the heck out of you.
I don't know if you need to go any further than that.
Melette and Michael, I want to hear from you guys now.
What would it mean to you, your dynamic, to your relationships with each other if this was dealt with?
I mean, for me personally, it would mean everything because I can't be in the middle of the two of them anymore.
It's not successful for our relationship.
It's not successful for my relationship with my mother.
And I want you to respect my mother because at the same time, you're respecting me.
I want you to respect my husband so we can all coexist as a family.
Mike, I'm going to leave you the last word.
I do know that she loves her grandchildren.
Say it to mom.
I'm not going to be at home with you.
Maybe if you invite me over I'll come.
We can't mediate for you so it's on you.
I know you love them.
I know you have their best interests in mind.
I think now I'm just paranoid.
It's hard as a father.
I don't always know what I'm doing.
I don't have all the answers.
So I'm just scared to death.
And I do want us to get to a point where we all can see eye to eye, even if we don't always agree, for the benefit of our family, for the children, and for our relationship.
Did you hear that, Grandma?
I did.
You processed it?
Yes.
And it may need a little time to sit, you know, let it marinate.
He's afraid he needs your help.
You've got to be there for him, too.
That's the best way to help those beautiful grandchildren of yours.
So thank you for bringing the story here.
You're going to help a lot of people.
Thank you.
Jan, you're going to walk with them backstage.
I know we're not solving this in 15 minutes on the show here, but this is the beginning, and this is how a lot of people at home can make sense of this as well.
Thank you very much.
You can get the plan to resolving any family conflict on DrRoz.com.
Be right back.
Coming up, the always funny, everybody loves Raymond star Brad Garrett.
How he embraces aging with laughter.
I sit down to pee.
My testicles are wet.
They've descended into the toilet drawer.
Congratulations to you and all your great staff over there, Dr. Oz.
Congratulations on your thousandth episode.
And did you ever imagine when we were in medical school or residencies, we'd end up here and we're on TV. Brad Garrett kept us all laughing for nine years.
He's one of the stars of the hilarious show Everybody Loves Raymond.
Now he's talking about aging in a way we've never done before.
Please welcome the always funny Brad Garrett. - You know, I would hug him, but how tall are you? - Oh, God. I would hug him, but how tall are you? - I'm over six feet tall.
How tall are you?
Well, you feel a little petite, don't you?
Yeah, I do.
I miniature in every way.
Oh, my gosh.
I hope those are your keys.
Nice to see you.
Good to see you.
Come on, sit down a little while.
It is unbelievable to have you here.
Let's talk about your size.
You want to talk about my size?
The size, yeah.
Not that size.
I'm not in proportion, so don't get excited.
It's not always a positive.
It's a mixed blessing for a lot of people.
By the way, I have a picture of you as a child.
May I show this?
Okay, sure.
Is it actual size?
Actual size.
Oh, there you go.
Isn't that cute?
Yeah, yeah.
That was actually my mom's sonogram.
That's how big I was.
That was done in vitro, as you would say.
That's a correct term, right?
It is.
Yes, it is.
Because I know you get crazy about the medical terms.
I'm very meticulous.
But, yeah, yeah, big kid, 10'3".
How about growing up?
Was it awkward for you to be bigger than everybody else?
You know, it was because I was like 6 feet at 13, and I think that's what kind of got me into this business of, you know, I was very awkward, and so I think comedy kind of made me, that was my niche to where I could go.
It's coping mechanisms.
Speaking of comedy.
Coping mechanism.
Yes, coping.
A medical term.
Yeah, you're not going to do that with everything, right?
No, of course not.
The picture of him, you can notice on the cover here.
Look carefully there.
And then notice the title of the book, When the Ball Drops.
Yeah.
Plural.
Balls.
Plural.
Plural.
When the balls drop.
Now, hold on.
If you're a doctor, you should know I have two.
Yes.
Well, I wasn't sure what I was referring to.
I very innocently and naively assumed it was singular.
Now I understand the reference.
Yeah, but people can have one.
They can.
They can have one.
But most don't write about them.
Well, listen, I'm very honest about my middle age, and the book was the title of something that happened to me.
It happened to you?
What happened?
Okay.
About three weeks after my 52nd birthday, I got up to take my third pee of the night, as we do.
And I sit down to pee.
I'm at the age where I just want to cut my losses.
This is literally after my 52nd birthday.
And I sit down to pee.
And I notice...
Please bear with me.
For the first time in my life that my testicles are wet.
And not from the urine.
Not from the urine.
Not from doing a snow angel.
They've descended into the toilet box.
And I'm like, this is not in the AARP brochure.
And that's what I said.
You're not there yet, are you?
Not quite.
I have thought about it, though.
There are other things that happen to me that I don't like.
But I must say, women have operations when things sag.
Guys don't have operations when things sag.
That's true.
So we're condemned to have this scenario when the balls drop happen in all of our lives.
Yes.
Yes.
And it's, maybe you could invent the first surgery where we could get, you know, little Jim and the twins resituated.
So are you generally a healthy guy?
Do you eat well?
Do you exercise?
I don't eat well.
I don't exercise.
I don't eat well.
I never have exercised.
I have a perfect heart rate.
Though, yes, yes, please.
Please.
I'm trying to find it.
Now, I must warn you, I took three Cialis.
Yeah.
Yeah, I can see.
I can see.
Good blood pressure.
I believe a lot of things are hereditary.
I also believe, yeah, I mean, I'm a foodie.
I love food.
It's one of my last vices.
You know, my doctor said to me, he said, Every piece of bacon you have, and I'm sure you'll call him out on this, because it sounds good.
Every piece of bacon takes 90 seconds off your life.
I said, perfect.
Perfect.
Because from what I hear, the last 10 years are pretty crappy anyway.
You know, I mean, you never, right?
You never hear anybody go, oh, if I could relive my 70s.
I love the fact that folks can get everything out of life, which is what you're doing.
Sure.
A lot of it starts with things we do do when we're younger, and you have done something very wise.
Yep.
Brad talks about this in the book.
Sure.
Your sobriety.
Yep.
How long have you been sober?
18 years.
18 years.
Thank you.
And I love...
Walk our audience through...
Sure.
Why all that partying?
Why it was such a big part of your life?
Sure.
What finally was rock bottom?
Well, you know, we all hit different bottoms, hopefully.
And mine was, everywhere I went, they ran out of booze.
You gotta go home, eventually.
But I got to the point in my life where I said, you know...
And I know this sounds a little corny, but I always wanted to be a father.
And I said, I can't be one of those guys that puts my kids to bed at night with booze on my breath.
And I'm not talking...
I'm not talking about...
I'm not talking about one or two cocktails.
I'm talking about a guy that, you know, at my height, I was, you know, doing a fifth a night.
And I was a high-functioning alcoholic.
Things were going great.
And I was like, well, things are going so well for me, and I'm binge drinking.
What shot do I have?
And I knew that I wanted to, you know, now that I have two teenagers, I should have kept drinking.
Um...
So that was my path.
How's your life different and better now that you're not drinking?
Well, it's totally better that I'm not drinking.
I feel better physically.
I remember where my shoes are, things like that.
And I'm going to be around, but I am not going to stop baking.
I'm eating bacon.
Enjoy the baking.
You hold back on the alcohol.
Everybody loves Raymond, a child actor, Sawyer Sweeney.
He committed suicide recently.
I don't know if you had any inclination, any insights into what was going there.
Were you surprised?
Well, we were all devastated.
I mean, needless to say, there is...
You can't imagine as a parent or as a child going through this kind of pain where something like this ends up happening.
You know, the Sweeten family was our family, and we were all...
It was brutal news.
We had no idea, and nor do you really have an idea.
When a show is over, you keep in touch, but you are out of most people's lives.
We spent nine years together, and we're very, very close.
So, of course, my love and thoughts goes out to the Sweetens.
It's tragic.
It's very tragic.
One last bit of advice, all the wisdom you've been able to share with us.
Teach us what you have learned about aging that we should never forget.
Well, it's inevitable, I think.
And there's nothing...
I think.
Right?
We're all going to age.
I mean, you look unbelievable.
Of course.
You know, you...
I mean...
It's...
You know, and you'll be 75 in May.
Am I right?
I don't know where your balls are, but they're perfect.
The thing is, you know, I went through my midlife crisis, still going through a little of it.
I'm very transparent about that.
You know, my girlfriend is a little younger, and, you know, she's just waiting for me to die, and she's just going to sell the Emmys and just move on with her life.
But I think it's important, don't hold on to your youth with a death grip.
You know, don't get an earring or a tattoo if you're over 40. I mean, it's pathetic.
You know what I'm saying?
Because, look, here's the thing.
A lot of beautiful women, like I have a comedy club in Vegas.
I'm not plugging myself.
MGM, I have my own comedy club.
MGM? Was it MGM you said?
MGM. MGM. But one of the waitresses who works there, a beautiful girl, she's 23, and she got a little scorpion on her boobie.
Sexy and cute, but, you know, when you get to be 60, that becomes a lobster.
And there's nothing scarier about having to get Nana's lobster out of the mashed potatoes during Thanksgiving.
Brad, wonderful job.
The name of the book, When the Balls, plural, When the Balls Drop.
It's available now.
And we'll be right back.
Coming up.
Impossible to find the right foundation for your skin type?
You've tried every shade and nothing works out.
We're facing the facts.
A simple cheat sheet anyone can follow to discover the best face for any face and look flawless.
Coming up.
For the first time, Melissa Rivers speaks out.
This happened to my mother.
It should not happen to anybody else.
Remembering Joan.
She didn't have to tell me she loved me.
I knew.
On an all new Oz.
That's coming up tomorrow.
Today we are tackling one of the biggest frustrations, finding the right foundation for your skin.
Lois and Luanna are here.
Why is it so difficult to find the right combination of colors to make your foundation work?
Dr. Oz, Finding the right foundation is so difficult because there's just so many options out there.
There's just so many companies making makeup.
Everybody's trying to make makeup.
Everybody has a line of makeup.
When was the last time you took your daughter shopping for makeup?
Very dangerous.
It's just too much.
And as an African-American woman, it's just so hard.
It's just too much to choose.
Lowest foundation problems.
I have a lot of problems.
First of all, I have little nooks and crannies here.
And I have, my complexion is olive.
And I'm also, when I go to put my foundation on, it tends to cake.
So I give up.
I give up with it.
Come on over.
I got a little surprise for you.
I'm no expert in this area, but I know someone who is.
I've invited Jill Hertzig.
She's the editor-in-chief of my magazine, The Good Life.
And what we did was to create a very simple cheat sheet guaranteed to help you find just the right foundation.
So, Jill, what's this plan all about?
Okay, so I feel your pain, ladies.
It is very hard to find a foundation.
That is why we created this cheat sheet, and it begins with a series of simple questions.
Start with, what kind of skin type do you have?
What's your skin type?
All right, so one second, you go to the very top of the question.
I'm going to make it real simple today, but of course it's all laid out in the magazine article, so start up there.
What kind of skin do you have?
Do you have wrinkles or sunspots?
Right, that's the first question you ask yourself.
So ladies, do you have wrinkles or sunspots?
You both look beautiful to me, by the way, but pick your answer here.
So we got a yes here, as Lois predicted, and Loana's going over there to the no's.
No.
Okay.
So Lois, what you're going to look for, the reason you ask yourself this question, is it determines the level of coverage you need.
You need full coverage.
You look in the mirror, you see some imperfections, you actually want to cover those up.
So look for full.
So now if you don't have those issues, then you can get the shear.
That's right.
Okay, so Luana, you don't have that.
Now watch as I put my hand behind this great demo here.
You can actually see the skin through it because you don't really have spots, you don't really have wrinkles, so you're going to look for something that says it's a light formulation or a sheer formulation.
So that's the first question.
Once you break from there, the next thing you're going to do is ask yourself, what's your skin type?
You've got three options.
They are...
Oily, dry, or combination.
So please walk up and pick what you think is right.
Are you a dry person?
Let me see that skin.
Do you look dry?
I guess so.
A little bit on the dry side.
And you also said your skin is sometimes dull.
Yes.
So dryness and dullness, you're going to want to pick something like a liquid formulation that is illuminating or luminizing.
Yes, this one right here.
And that's going to have, if you turn the bottle around, it's going to have as an ingredient mica.
That's a light reflecting particle that will take care of the dullness in your skin.
I like the mica tip.
So it's actually, it reflects the light.
It does.
Over the Wano over here, you pick oily.
Definitely.
Okay, but you don't have any breakouts, which is great.
So what we're going to...
Is that true?
You do have breakouts.
I do have breakouts.
It comes from just the pores being clogged from the skin being so oily.
Got it.
Okay.
Well, you want to make sure to cleanse really thoroughly at night.
And for a foundation, if you're going to wear foundation and you've got oily skin with breakouts, you're going to look for something that has salicylic acid in it.
Okay.
And you broke that down so people can find that easily?
You can find it if you follow our cheat sheet.
It takes you directly to the one that's right for you.
Alright, the last question.
Yes.
Color.
I've sort of heard it indirectly from both our guests, Lois and Luana, both said color is sometimes a challenge.
Sure.
So how do you pick the right color and how do you apply it to avoid the headaches?
Okay, there's a little trial and error that's going to go on here.
So if you're at a department store or a place like Sephora, they will actually let you try on the foundations.
Do not be shy.
Try on the foundations.
Have them try a few different ones on you.
If you're buying at the drugstore, which is honestly where I buy mine, You can't, you feel like you can't try it there, obviously.
But here's something most people don't know.
Makeup that is opened is, at most places, returnable.
It is?
It is.
Shut the front door.
I'm telling you, honestly.
So before you put down your hard-earned cash, ask them.
My five unopened bottles?
No, your five opened ones.
If you ask ahead, make sure they do this, but the policy at most drugstores is that you can bring back open makeup, narrow it down as much as you can, then take it home, try it on in front of a mirror, and the bottles that don't work for you go back to the store.
Gotcha.
Lois and Luana, now you have the perfect foundation.
Go ahead and take it home with you before you forget what it is.
Everybody else can find the full cheat sheet in the May edition of my magazine, The Good Life.
It's on shelves right now.
You can find the best foundation no matter who you are.
We'll be right back.
Coming up next.
Whether you're gluten-free, paleo, or just trying to cut the carbs, there's no reason to give up sandwiches.
We have bread-free options taking the internet by storm.
Some of the best food bloggers show you how to make delicious sandwich alternatives.
Next.
A daytime television event.
Emmy award-winning Dr. Oz celebrates his 1,000th show with Hugh Jackman.
Thursday, May 7th.
That's coming up on Thursday.
Whether you are gluten-free, paleo, or just trying to cut the carbs, there's no reason to give up the sandwiches.
Luckily, bread-free options are taking the web by storm, even making BuzzFeed's lists.
So today, some of the web's best food bloggers and YouTube stars are showing you how to make your own.
Joining me are some of the members of the audience here at my table.
Thank you for joining me.
You're welcome.
And they brought their voracious appetites with them.
And for the very first time on the show, we have a virtual audience joining us from their kitchens all around the country to help taste test the different viral creations.
Aisha's here in Atlanta.
Meredith is joining from Virginia Beach.
And Sharon in California.
Welcome to the show, everybody.
Let's get to our first sandwich from one of YouTube's biggest food stars.
This is Wheelicious' Catherine McCord. - Hi, Dr. Oz.
It's Catherine McCord from Wheelicious.com.
My no bread sandwich is this really fun cauliflower crust grilled cheese.
What you're going to do is take a whole head of cauliflower, break it into florets, put it into a food processor, pulse pulse pulse until it becomes like rice.
Then you're going to put it into a microwave safe bowl and cook it for 8 minutes.
Squeeze that cauliflower until all of the liquid is gone.
You want it to be dry.
Then you're going to mix it with one large egg and some mozzarella cheese, salt and pepper.
And then you're going to form it on a parchment lined baking sheet into these little squares.
Bake it for 16 minutes until it comes out nice and golden like that.
Put some cheddar cheese right on top.
And you're going to cook it for about three to four minutes on each side to look at that gorgeousness.
That is what you call a no bread grilled cheese.
For the cauliflower crust.
I gotta say, they look pretty good.
Lindsay, what do you think about this?
This is amazing.
You know, I've never had cauliflower, so this is...
You've never had cauliflower?
I've never had it, no.
I've never had cauliflower.
This is amazing.
This is something, like, easy.
I can make at home, and it's healthy.
This is wonderful.
Wonderful.
One of the most surprising things I've had on this show.
Let's go down to Atlantisia.
What do you think about this?
This was really, really good.
It's a struggle sometimes trying to find something that's good for you and good to your taste buds, but this is hidden.
This is awesome sauce here.
Enjoy it down there.
Let's get to our next sandwich.
This is food blogger Bev Winders, Eggplant Steak Creation.
Hey, Dr. Oz.
I have a crazy good sandwich that uses grilled eggplant in place of bread.
Let me show you how to put this together.
You start with a grilled eggplant round and let's top it with some grilled steak.
You can use flat iron, sirloin, plank, anything you want.
Then we're going to top it with some provolone cheese because that's just the right decision.
And how about we add some fresh red onion.
You can saute it if you want, you can leave it raw if you want.
And for pop of color and delicious roasted flavor, some roasted red peppers.
Finally, let's end with some fresh cilantro leaves on top.
You're good to go.
One more eggplant round and enjoy!
I never thought this would work.
Tiffany, what do you think?
This was amazing.
I've never had eggplant before, but this I would definitely eat.
Well, let me go to our next one.
These are ones better than the next.
Our next sandwich uses portobello mushrooms instead of bread, but Nicole Naird of Brown Sugar Blog says the best stuff is between the shrooms.
Hi Dr. Eyes!
This is Nicole and my no bread sandwich is a chicken club sandwich on portobello mushrooms.
So we'll start with the mushrooms.
You take two portobello caps like this.
Make sure you remove the middle and also the shingles so you can get more of the meaty flavor of the mushroom.
And you're going to sear it on both sides for two minutes using coconut oil.
Once you have that, assemble your burger.
So we have some guacamole that will spread on our portobello that's already cooked by the way.
Some tomato.
Spinach, turkey breaking for extra flavor and also your chicken breast and then you top it off with your last portobello cap and look at it.
Isn't that awesome?
I gotta say, I think one's better than the next.
Vita, what do you think?
I want more.
You want more?
Yeah, this is really good.
It's a little bit moister than the other ones.
It drips a little bit.
Fork and knife, you're all good.
Let me go to Virginia Beach.
Hey Meredith, is it beach weather yet, Meredith?
It is today.
Yeah, about 75. Oh, I like that.
Did you make the sandwich?
I did.
I made it, and I agree with you.
It was a little moist, so I was thinking maybe if I roasted it in the oven, it might take away some of the moisture and make it a little bit more like bread.
Yeah, I think, I gotta say, the taste is fantastic, just a little messy of your trousers.
So, Janelle, I'm gonna give you the final vote here.
Which was your favorite?
Um, my favorite was the grilled cheese.
I didn't feel like I was missing the bread at all.
It was really good.
I guess I want to thank all of our bloggers.
They're all fantastic.
The virtual audience, sandwich stations, and my real ladies here.
Thanks.
Eat up.
Enjoy yourselves.
You can get all the recipes at DrOz.com.
We'll be right back.
Make your next meal Oz approved.
Try a new recipe tonight and see how simple and tasty healthy cooking can be.
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All new Oz.
Eight months after Joan Rivers' tragic death.
Do you remember the moment you realized she wasn't coming back?
An exclusive at-home interview with Melissa Rivers.
This happened to my mother.
It should not happen to anybody else.
A revealing look inside a life lived in the spotlight.
My mother was actually very, very shy.
Going to events was terrifying for her.
Terrifying from the person who knew her best.
Remembering Joan.
That's coming up tomorrow on Dr. Oz.
Human beings aren't the only ones with inspiring success stories.
I want you to meet Dennis, a six-year-old dachshund who lost a whopping 44 pounds.
See the before and after?
Look at those eyes.
His new owner helped him shed almost 80% of his body weight by cutting out the pizza and burgers.
That's a diet he'd become accustomed to at his former home.
Now it's time for, in case you missed it, first, we met a family torn apart by conflict.
Michael and his wife, Lovette, confronted his monster-in-law on her controlling habits in their home and sneaking the grandchildren with all these unhealthy foods.
But what we found out is that the unhealthiest part of this family's conflict wasn't found on a plate.
It's the anger and the power struggles that seep into relationships, like the ones that might be in your life.
That's the junk food for our souls, and it can make you real sick.
So today, we gave you all a plan to help you get rid of any unresolved family conflicts.
So listen up.
If you're in an argument, here's a foolproof formula to get through it the healthy way.
First off, pick a time and a place to talk.
Stick to the subject at hand.
Don't go give a big history lesson about what used to happen.
Subject at hand matters.
And don't label.
It actually doesn't help.
This way, you'll have a conversation and not a conflict.
Finally, please be careful of dubious people online that make it seem like I'm endorsing their products, because I don't.
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