Ep. 1373 - Why The Modern Dating Scene Is A Nightmare
Today on the Matt Walsh Show, the most popular genre of viral video recently has been videos of women complaining that they can't find a good man. Many single men, in turn, have the same complaint going the other direction. The inability of young people to successfully match up and get married has become a full on crisis in our culture. What's the cause of it, and how do we fix it? We'll discuss. Also, illegal immigrants have announced their preference for the 2024 election: they want anyone but Trump. Which is all the more reason why it needs to be Trump. A federal court rules that parents don't have the right to opt their children out of gender ideology indoctrination sessions. And today is the day when I do the unthinkable: defend people who do yoga.
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Today on the Matt Wall Show, the most popular genre of viral video recently has been videos of women complaining that they can't find a good man, and many single men in turn have the same complaint going the other direction.
The inability of young people to successfully match up and get married has become a full-on crisis in our culture.
What's the cause of it?
And how do we fix it?
We'll discuss.
Also, illegal immigrants have announced their preference for the 2024 election.
They want anyone but Trump, which is all the more reason why it needs to be Trump.
The federal court rules that parents don't have the right to opt their children out of gender ideology indoctrination sessions.
And today is the day when I do the unthinkable.
Defend people who do yoga.
All of that and more today on the Matt Wall Show.
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In what has become something of a monthly tradition on social media, two videos have gone viral featuring young women distraught over their inability to find a man who they consider worthy of their time.
A week ago, it was this woman expressing her deep frustrations over this issue.
Listen.
Quick question.
Are you kidding me?
Like, I am so sick and tired of just Everything.
Right now.
I... Everyone is so quick to say, stop doing this, stop thinking like this, stop doing- like, stop telling me I'm wrong!
I have literally convinced myself at this point, based on everything that everyone's telling me, my therapist, my family, my friends, that I'm just doing everything wrong.
Like, I genuinely just want love in my life so badly, It's literally not about anyone else.
It's just about me and what I want and being over the fact that I don't have it.
I feel like I have done so much work on myself.
I have built a beautiful life for myself.
I'm happy with my life where I'm at my job.
I'm successful.
I'm independent.
I'm healthier than I've ever been.
I take such good care of myself.
Truly the only thing I'm missing in my life is someone to enjoy it with.
And I'm so sick of waiting!
Like, when is it going to be my turn?
What more do I have to do to fix myself before I'm just allowed to be happy?
Am I just supposed to be alone?
Like, is that the message?
That this beautiful life I've built for myself, like, it's just supposed to be me in it alone?
Like I know I have my dog and I love him so much but like I need love.
Now even though I may be infamously a Grinch whose heart is three times too small, even I will say
that I truly feel bad for this young lady and the loneliness she's experiencing.
You'd have to be a sociopath to not feel bad for her, and despite popular misconceptions, I am not actually a sociopath.
So it is a sad story, and as this woman discovers that, it is hard to be happy.
It's impossible, really, if you do not have someone to share your happiness with. She says that she's worked on herself,
she's done everything she can to make herself desirable. Part of the problem of course is that
some of the things she highlights will have no effect either way on making her more desirable to
men. For instance, no man cares whether a woman is successful or independent. Like there
has never been a man in the history of the world who has left a first date and said, "Wow, she's
great."
She's so successful and independent.
Those are just not characteristics that a man is looking for.
They certainly won't be at the top of his list.
And I don't point this out to pick on her, there's a point here that we'll return to in a moment.
But first, let's watch a snippet of the next video with the same theme.
And this is a woman named Anya, who is also lonely and looking for love.
And this video also very viral, lots of people sharing it and talking about it.
But she's been unsuccessful so far in her pursuits, and here is her.
I'm not someone that posts or cries or anything on the internet, so this is...
This is a new one for me.
I just, I guess I need, I need girls to rally with me and lift me up because I feel so defeated right now.
I've been trying to meet someone, just anybody worth my time for years.
And like, and dating apps are so awful.
I don't need to explain to you how awful the dating apps are.
So I've been trying to meet people in public.
And they're still trash when I do randomly meet people in public.
But, tonight takes the cake.
I just can't help but feel like, like, I'm gonna turn into this because I'm never gonna meet someone.
And for everybody who's gonna tell me It'll come along when you least expect it.
I've been hearing that for like seven years, okay?
I'm so sick of hearing that.
There's such a thing as people that just don't find their person and don't get married so like I'm a realist and the realist in me is starting to think like that's gonna be me.
And I'm depressed now over it.
So that's the beginning and the end of the video.
In the middle, she tells a truly mortifying story about showing up to an event, apparently that same night when she recorded this, at a comedy club where there was supposed to be some sort of singles event, like other singles were supposed to be there that she could meet.
And she sits all the way in the front row where the other singles are supposed to be, but to her horror, nobody else shows up.
The rest of the crowd is made up of groups and couples all sitting several rows back, so now she's alone in the front.
With every comic who comes on stage, she says, pointing out that she's alone and in the front.
And the event ends with the MC handing her a gift bag to congratulate her for being brave, and then the audience claps.
So really the worst-case scenario when you show up to a place like that by yourself.
I mean, I can remember once, when I was single many years ago, going to see a movie by myself, And part of me worried that the theater manager or someone would come into the room, stop the film, point to me, and say, attention everyone, this guy here's alone, look at this alone guy, please, and feel sorry for him.
Now that didn't happen, probably was not very likely to happen, but something like that really did happen to this poor woman, and for that she has all of our sympathy, doubly so in this case, because she's actually trying to meet someone outside of the dating app, she's attempting to form a connection out in the real physical world, and this is how it worked out.
Now it's not just women having these problems, obviously.
In fact, one guy replied to this last video with his own story.
He posted, quote, "My app experience.
I'm 6'2", 205 pounds, all my hair and teeth fit, decently okay looking, retired veteran with full benefits,
my own place at the beach, my own business.
In three years on dating apps, I matched with tons of chicks,
maybe three willing to meet in person, never went anywhere."
I loved doing outdoor activities, mountains, oceans, wasn't into texting endlessly.
I'd match and say hello and ask if they want to grab a drink.
90% of the time, I'd never even hear back, including the ones who liked me first.
So, financially stable man in good physical shape.
Yet, he's meeting on average, he says, one woman a year.
And none of those connections have led to anything.
On paper, there's no reason why he should struggle this much to find a woman.
Just as on paper, there's no reason that the women in those videos should struggle to find men.
But here they are.
And here are so many other young people, and not-so-young people, in similar situations.
Now, by now we're all familiar with the statistics, which we've talked about on the show many times.
Fewer young adults are in relationships.
Fewer are getting married.
Fewer are having kids.
More of them are remaining single than ever before.
While people of all ages report record levels of loneliness, people of all ages are also struggling to meet romantic partners.
A Pew analysis published in 2021 found that nearly 40% of adults between the ages of 25 and 54 are quote-unquote unpartnered.
And by that they mean these are people that are living without a spouse or a live-in boyfriend or girlfriend.
And that's a 10% increase just from 1990.
And the trend has only continued over the past three years.
We're at the point now where a quarter of Americans have never been married by the time they reach the age of 40.
Many other statistics, which we've discussed many times on the show, bear all this out.
These are not just the anecdotal experiences of random people on TikTok.
This is a real culture-wide phenomenon that those people have found themselves caught up in.
So, what's going on?
There are several major factors, some of them I've discussed before, but let's lay them out again in one list.
First, of course, many people are just waiting too long to get serious about getting married.
The lie that my generation was sold and that the next generation after mine was also sold
is that your 20s, the first decade of adulthood, is a time to be aimless and lazy and selfish
and focus primarily on recreation and pleasure.
This is totally backwards because that stage of life, the kind of aimless, do what you
want, have fun stage.
If that comes at all, that's supposed to be on the back end of life, not the front.
That's what your 70s can be about, not your 20s.
Now, it's never good to live a selfish life at any age, but if you work hard and you have success and you manage to retire comfortably, what few people in my generation will pull that off, then in your 70s and 80s, you can live a life of leisure where every day is basically focused on recreation.
Young adulthood should not be that, though.
It should be a time where your youthful energy is directed towards building the foundations of a happy and successful life.
And for most people, marriage should be a part of that foundation.
It should be the cornerstone, not the capstone, of adulthood.
But most people waste that time and they reject During that time, anything that reeks of responsibility, and then they get into their 30s and they start to look around and they realize that they haven't even begun to build a life for themselves yet.
And meanwhile, the younger people who actually want to get married and start families have trouble finding someone their age willing and suited for it because most of their peers have bought into the idea that young adulthood is not a time for that sort of thing.
There are too many choices.
For the people struggling to find someone, it feels like the problem is the opposite of that.
They certainly don't feel like they have a surplus of options, but the truth is that you can go on a dating app and potentially connect with thousands of different people.
Everyone is swimming in this pool where the options, in theory anyway, are basically infinite.
And this lowers the value of any one particular individual and creates a sort of paralysis by analysis.
Potential suitors are weeded out quickly, without much thought, and for often frivolous reasons.
On the dating app, you're just one face, a name, and profile in an endless stream of very similar profiles.
And third, at a much deeper level, people are very confused and we've lost the basic understanding of what dating is for in the first place.
Worse, we've lost any understanding of what men and women are for and what our roles are supposed to be.
If we even talk about roles as it relates to men and women, it's considered outrageous and offensive somehow.
A man and a woman then pair up and they go on a date.
But they don't have any idea of what the goal of dating is supposed to be, or why they're doing it, or how they're supposed to interact with each other, or what the other is looking for.
I mean, think again about that woman in the first video highlighting her professional achievements.
If she understood what men wanted, she would instead highlight herself as a kind and caring and affectionate woman who knows how to cook and take care of her man.
Now, if that's what she was presenting, Along with being an attractive woman, if she was presenting that, there would be men lining up for miles to present themselves as suitors to a woman who looks like how she looks and has that kind of attitude.
But many single people can't be expected to understand what the other is looking for because they barely understand what they themselves are looking for.
And this is all a very new problem.
For most of human history, and in most cultures, a young man and a young woman went through some sort of courtship process while knowing exactly what the goal of the courtship was, and exactly what the rules and parameters were, and exactly what role the man is supposed to play and what role the woman is supposed to play.
There was very little confusion about any of these basic concepts, and now there is nothing but confusion about all of it, all the time.
Fourth, this may be the biggest factor, but the institutions that once facilitated matchmaking have completely broken down, have been mostly abandoned, or have simply stopped performing those functions.
How were people matched up in the past?
Well, for most of history, families would arrange the matches.
That's no longer the case, at least not in the West.
And so, if the family's not doing it, well, churches used to play a major role in connecting young people with each other, but most young people don't even go to church regularly, so that no longer happens.
And if you don't have the family or the church, you've cut out the two institutions that used to be primarily in charge of this kind of thing, you've thrown them out, then who's helping single people find each other?
The workplace was sort of the third option and never the best place to facilitate romantic relationships.
But now it's even worse.
HR regulations make it a risky proposition for a man to try to initiate any kind of romantic relationship with a co-worker.
And with more and more people working at home, your co-workers may be thousands of miles away in any case.
So is it any wonder that single people are feeling stuck?
They have no help.
They have no direction.
They have no reliable guidance.
They don't know what the rules and boundaries are, and they have nowhere to go to find any of this.
So, how do we solve this problem?
Well, we can start by actually acknowledging that this is the problem.
It's going to take a massive societal and cultural shift to change this very grim picture, but there's no hope of that shift happening until a critical mass of people admit that it should happen.
And in the meantime, on an individual level, I would recommend that single people simplify their standards.
Now, I don't say lower them, necessarily, but clarify and simplify them.
The woman in the second video says that she just wants to find a man who is worth her time.
Now, and that's fair.
You want someone who's worth your time.
However, a lot is contained in those three words, worth her time.
And I suspect, and I don't know this, I suspect that part of the problem is the way she judges what her time is worth and who is worth it.
I would also suspect that she has found men worth her time, but she didn't recognize them as such.
Or she did, but the relationship treaded water for too long and fell apart for basically frivolous reasons.
So, this is what your standard should be.
And it really is as simple as this.
In the early going anyway.
You want a person that you're physically attracted to, who you trust, and who shares your fundamental values.
Now if you find that, then you've passed the first big test.
Or they have.
You have together.
And now you can move on to the next phase of your relationship, which is the phase that we used to call courtship.
And we don't really have a name for it anymore, which is a big part of the problem here.
We don't even know what to call any of these phases or what they are or anything.
But that's the next phase.
And now you can start looking for more specific qualities, and the desirable qualities will be different at this point.
For men and women.
If you're a woman, you want to know if the man is a good provider and a good protector.
And if you're a man, you want to know if the woman is caring and kind and has maternal qualities.
Even if you're a woman and you think you want to work outside the home when you're married, you still want a man with the qualities of a provider and protector.
That is the kind of man that you want, no matter how much money you have.
And if you're a man and you don't think you want kids right away, You still want a woman with maternal qualities.
That's still the kind of woman you want.
As a man, if you look at a woman and say, well, I'm attracted to her and I like her, but she would make a terrible mother, then that speaks to deep defects in the woman that should disqualify her from consideration.
And if you're a woman and you look at a man and say, he's nice, he's attractive, but if we ever had to depend on this guy financially, we'd be screwed.
Then again, there are profound defects that should cross him off the list.
If you don't notice those kinds of defects and you find that you're both attracted to each other and share the same basic fundamental values, then that's all you need to know.
You have all the raw material to build a life together.
The only logical next step is marriage.
And the rest of the details you figure out as you go.
Now, I don't mean to imply that finding someone who meets these basic qualifications is easy.
It isn't easy, especially these days.
Or often it's not easy.
But it is simple, or at least much simpler than our culture makes it seem.
If you know what you're looking for and what matters, then at least if you're still single, it won't be because of your own indecision and confusion.
Which will automatically put you far ahead of the competition.
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Daily Wire has this report.
Illegal immigrants are rushing to cross the U.S.
southern border ahead of the November presidential election to take advantage of President Joe Biden's policies while fearing another term of Donald Trump in the White House.
After illegally crossing the Arizona border last week, two migrants from Colombia told New York Post reporter Jennifer Thayer that they were concerned about the outcome of the upcoming 2020 presidential election.
20-year-old Ricardo said, according to the Post, we think with the elections it will be harder.
Ricardo's brother Sebastian, at 18, added, we don't want Trump.
The Colombian brothers claimed asylum after illegally crossing the border and were sheltered at the Yuma Regional Center for Border Health.
Ricardo and Sebastian then reportedly were bused to the Phoenix Airport where they caught a flight to New Jersey to join their mother.
According to the Post, Customs and Border Protection agents gave the illegal immigrants a court date for an asylum hearing in October.
Which I'm sure that they will diligently make sure they attend.
So you've got illegal immigrants, let them into the country, and then say, several months from now, here's a court date, please show up.
Please pinky promise that you'll show up.
So this is all the campaign ads you need right there.
You have illegal immigrants saying, we don't want Trump.
I mean, that's all you really need to know.
And it also demonstrates One of the most important facets of the immigration issue, and one that probably isn't talked about enough, and that's the issue of disincentives.
Yes, we should enforce the border.
Yes, we should deport the criminal aliens who come here illegally.
No, we aren't really doing any of that right now, certainly not on the scale and with the effectiveness that we should be.
But the most effective way to enforce the border and curb illegal immigration is to make it so that they don't want to come here in the first place.
Once you have millions of illegal immigrants flooding the border, there is not a wall high enough or a deportation program aggressive enough to catch them all.
You should still try, but you're not going to be able to do it perfectly, which is why you need disincentives.
And right now, of course, we have the opposite.
The immigrants are incentivized to come.
They know they'll get free housing.
They know they get free food.
They know that this is the way that it's going to go.
They'll come through, they'll claim asylum, they'll be put on an airplane.
Of course, with a flight that they don't pay for.
So they'll be escorted by air to, you know, deeper into the country.
That's a taxpayer dime.
They'll be set up with a house, they'll be given food, they'll be given everything.
And they know that.
You can shut off the valve, or at least reduce it to a trickle, if you make it clear that illegal immigrants who come here will get nothing.
You will get absolutely nothing.
You should announce that.
If you come here, we will give you nothing.
You will get nothing.
You will not get a house.
You will not get food.
You will be hungry, and you'll be on the street, and you'll be cold, and you'll be exposed to the elements.
And you might die.
Because you're not going to be provided for.
Because we can't.
You're not a citizen.
We cannot do that to our citizens.
We cannot steal from them to give to you.
We're not going to do that.
And so if you choose to come here, you're gonna be out on the street.
Don't do it.
And you make that clear, then it disincentivizes and, you know, this is why it's not just a smart policy, but it's also a moral thing.
It is moral.
It is an act of mercy.
It is moral and an act of...
Christian mercy to refuse to provide any luxuries or necessities to illegal immigrants.
That is the merciful right moral thing.
That's how we should talk about it.
Rather than, as we so often do, or as the right so often does, sort of surrendering the moral argument of immigration to the left.
So they're making the moral argument, oh, we want to help everybody.
And we're making the practical argument, well, we can't.
We are making a practical argument, but we're also making the moral argument.
It is moral and good to enforce our laws.
It is moral and good to protect our sovereignty.
It is moral and good to not steal from American citizens to give to people who are not citizens.
And it's also moral and good for their own sake to do everything you can to dissuade them From making the very dangerous journey, coming here, coming all this way.
Many die along the way.
We're always told this.
Well, the moral and good thing for their own sake is to do everything you can and say everything you can say to dissuade them from risking their lives and their children's lives in the process.
All right, here is Julia Fox, who is apparently a model And actress, I think she's an actress, I don't know, but she's talking about why she has chosen to remain celibate and there's more and more women and even celebrity women who are talking about this.
Let's listen to this clip.
Julia, Rachel A texted, what's your reasoning behind being celibate and in what ways do you believe it has improved your life?
Well, I just think nothing good comes from having sex, including children.
No, I'm just kidding.
But, you know, I think with the overturning of Roe v. Wade and, you know, our rights being stripped away from us, this is a way that I can take back the control.
And it just sucks that it has to be in that way.
But I just don't feel comfortable until things change.
Wow.
Do you have an end date to this?
Honestly, it was like six months and it was a year and now I'm like, oh my god, it's almost two and a half years and it's still going and I don't know.
Do you miss it?
Do you miss it?
In the beginning, yes, but I think it's just like getting over anything, smoking, drugs, whatever it may be.
First of all, she appears to be wearing plastic wrap, and I'm not sure what exactly is going on there.
She couldn't find a dress she likes, so she went to the kitchen cabinet and grabbed cling wrap.
Interesting aesthetic choice there.
Not sure if it really pays off.
In any case, she says that she's remaining celibate because Roe was overturned.
Never mind the fact that she, I'm assuming, almost certainly lives in a place where abortion is still completely legal.
I don't know if she understands how this works.
Apparently she doesn't.
The overturning of Roe v. Wade did not make abortion illegal nationwide, unfortunately.
And so if she lives in California or New York, which presumably she does, then she still can get all the abortions that she wants.
Not that I'm trying to dissuade her from her celibate course of action.
She should definitely stay on that course.
That's great.
It is, without a doubt, much better for these women to remain sexless than to have a bunch of sex and kill a bunch of babies also.
But it is funny to me that women like this, and again, she's not the only one, far from the only one who's claimed to go celibate in response to the Roe decision.
It's funny that they seem to think they've discovered something that we have been saying all along.
Pro-lifers have been saying this all along.
This has been our point.
That sex is an inherently procreative act.
That doesn't mean that a baby is always conceived in the process.
But it does mean that sexual intercourse always carries the potential for producing new life.
That is its primary biological function, after all.
From a biological, purely scientific perspective, that is why the sexual act exists.
If you don't want to create a child with a man who you're not prepared to start a family with, or if you're not at a point in your life where you feel that you're ready to have kids or whatever, you know, there is another option instead of abortion.
In fact, you don't need abortion to avoid these possibilities at all.
You can instead exercise just the slightest modicum of self-control.
That is also an option.
You don't have to go have sex with some guy who you would never in a million years want to have a baby with.
You don't have to do that.
You could just not do that.
It's not only an option.
It's the best all around.
It's better for you.
It has so many other benefits.
It'll make you a happier person in the long run.
Just do that.
And it is possible.
It is possible to not have sex with everyone you meet.
It is possible to not have sex every time the mood strikes you.
It is possible to be physically attracted to someone and to want to do that with them, but then not.
Like, it's possible.
You can direct and channel your behavior.
You can exercise discernment.
It is possible.
It's not only possible, but it's actually not that hard to do.
It's really not that difficult.
It really isn't.
And, now, that doesn't mean that you need to be celibate, though.
Like, she's gone all the way to the other end of this, saying, well, I'm not having sex with anybody.
Proving, you know, that even that is possible.
But celibacy is not necessary.
It just means that you should have sex with a person that you're prepared to start a family with.
So, you know, find someone and get married and then be intimate with each other without fear.
There doesn't need to be so much fear surrounding human sexuality.
Now, of course, the left would accuse someone like me, they would accuse people on our side, on the pro-life side of the discussion.
They would accuse us, they would and do accuse us of being the prudes, you know, they say that we're the ones afraid of sex or whatever.
But that couldn't be more backwards.
Because the people who make sex into a scary thing are the ones who claim You know, the people making it scary are the ones who claim that you need to be able to murder your offspring in order to have sex in the first place.
They are the ones introducing death and murder and bloodshed into the equation.
They've done it.
There's no need for that.
You can put yourself in a position where there's nothing to be afraid of.
You don't have to worry about these things.
You know, it's very possible.
You could put yourself in a position where you can have sex and you don't have to worry about STDs.
You don't have to worry about pregnancy.
It might happen, but you don't have to worry about it.
It doesn't have to be a source of deep anxiety.
It doesn't have to be something that feels like it destroys your life if it happens.
It is possible.
Just get to a stable point in your life and get married, and then, and you're fine.
There's nothing to worry about.
And I appreciate people like, what's her name again?
Julia Fox, proving that for us.
Okay, Daily Wire headline, federal court rules that Maryland parents can't opt kids out of classes with LGBT content.
So the courts say that you can't opt out of it.
The 4th U.S.
Circuit Court of Appeals has ruled 2-1 against Maryland parents who sued their local school board for not letting their children in grades K-5 opt out of reading books supporting transgender ideology and gender transitioning.
The Montgomery County Public School Board denied the parents their request to be notified when their books would be read to their children and the opportunity to opt out.
The board is violating the parent's inalienable and constitutionally protected right to control the religious upbringing of their children, especially on sensitive issues concerning family life and human sexuality, according to the Beckett Fund for Religious Liberty that litigated the lawsuit.
They explain, quote, in fall 2022, the Montgomery County Board of Education announced over 20 new inclusivity books for its pre-K through eighth grade classrooms.
Rather than focusing on basic civility and kindness, these books champion pride parades, gender transitioning, and pronoun preferences for children.
For example, one book tasks three and four year olds to search for images from a word list that includes intersex flag, drag queen, underwear, leather, and the name of a celebrated LGBTQ activist and sex worker.
Then other books talk about non-binary and gender transitioning and all the rest of it.
A district court ruled against the parents, prompting them to appeal to the fourth U.S.
Circuit Court of Appeals, which denied the parents' request for a preliminary injunction,
but allowed the possibility of changing its position once the classes have already been taught.
We take no view on whether the parents will be able to present evidence sufficient to support
any of their various theories once they have the opportunity to develop a record
as to the circumstances surrounding the board's decision and how the challenged texts are
actually being used in schools.
At this early stage, however, given the parents' broad claims, the very high burden required to obtain a preliminary injunction, and the scant record before us, we are constrained to affirm the district court's order denying a preliminary injunction.
Okay, so let me see if I understand this decision clearly.
They're saying that the parents can't opt out of the left-wing LGBT indoctrination sessions, but maybe they will be able to opt out once they can prove their legal case after the sessions have already happened.
So, what they're saying is, what they appear to be saying is that they must allow their kids to be indoctrinated.
And then after they've been indoctrinated, then they have proof that the indoctrination happened, and so then they can opt out of it.
Which, of course, at that point is too late.
So this is an insane decision, obviously.
Completely bonkers.
It's clearly a violation of a child's basic human rights to expose him to this kind of content in the context of a public school class.
And it's a violation of the parent's basic human rights.
And we know that's true, because all we have to do is imagine what the court would say, and what it would do, and what the media would say and do, and what the left would say, if the school was using in its curriculum instead of these LGBT books, what if they were using books that teach the kids that Jesus Christ is their Lord and Savior?
Even if there was just one book, the purpose of which was to instruct the children that Jesus loved them and died for their sins, the court would put a stop to that without hesitation.
They'd make the decision in 30 seconds.
We all know that.
It would be considered religious indoctrination and a violation of the First Amendment.
And as soon as anyone caught wind of that book existing in the classroom and being given to kids, it's over.
Well, this is the same thing.
I mean, it's not the same thing.
It's actually not at all the same thing, because Jesus Christ really is our Lord and Savior, and Christianity is true, whereas gender ideology is not true.
Children are harmed by exposure to gender ideology, but they are certainly not harmed by exposure to Christianity.
So it's not the same on the merits.
But it's the same sort of thing only in the sense that Christianity is a religion and gender ideology is also a religion.
And sometimes I hesitate to make this kind of argument because it sounds like we're using religion as a pejorative when that's not how I mean it.
It's just a matter of classifying it.
It's putting it in the right, like, what is this thing that we're talking about?
This gender ideology that teaches all these things, what is this?
What is this system of beliefs?
And to me, it is clearly a religion.
Not all religions are created equal.
Not all are good.
Not all are true.
But that is the category that this ideology belongs to.
It makes doctrinal and supernatural claims about the nature of the human person and about the nature of reality.
It has its own moral code, it has its own sacraments, its own moral obligations, and so on.
So, yes, that's what it is.
And no, it should not be taught in schools.
Okay, I want to play this for you.
In the opening, we discussed a couple of videos featuring women crying on camera.
And this has become a whole genre on social media.
It's perhaps the most popular genre.
And while I did feel sympathy for the women in the videos that we opened with, There's one more that went viral this week that I kind of wanted to put in a separate category and talk about separately.
And this is one that does not cause me to feel very much sympathy or any sympathy at all, in the slightest actually.
This is a woman who says in the caption that she's a single mom and she has to bake her own birthday cake for herself because it's her birthday and no one is there to celebrate.
And so she has to bake it herself, and she decided to film herself making her cake while crying.
Let's watch.
[Music]
[Music]
♪ and promises ♪ ♪ How to be brave ♪
♪ How can I love when I'm afraid to fall ♪ ♪ Watching you stand alone ♪
♪ All of my doubt suddenly goes away, somehow ♪ (knocking)
Okay.
(laughs)
There's just something funny about the sight of somebody crying while making cupcakes.
It's just, there's something very, it's not very congruous.
There's something odd about the sight.
Okay, first of all, and look, if you're just going to make cupcakes from a pre-packaged mix, then you might as well go out and buy already made cupcakes at the store.
Like if making cupcakes is a sorrowful activity for you, then just go buy them.
If you're so traumatized by throwing some mix into a bowl and an egg or whatever and stirring it, then go buy some cake for yourself.
Or just don't have cake at all.
You know, I went through several birthdays when I lived alone, and I didn't make myself a cake.
I didn't go out and buy one either.
No, you're an adult.
Like, what are you doing?
You don't need to have a cake on your birthday.
Making yourself a birthday cake.
And also, by the way, I got news for you.
Hate to tell you this, but even if you were married, lady, you're still making your own cake.
If you want a cake, if you want a homemade cake, you're going to be making it yourself, even if you're married.
So anyway, yeah, just go buy it if you want.
And don't tell me that you can't afford to buy a homemade or a store-bought cupcakes or cake because we can all see your kitchen.
And if you're a single mom with that kitchen, You're obviously in pretty good financial state.
I don't know how you're in that state.
I don't know where you're getting your money, but you're getting it from somewhere, and you're doing pretty well.
But more to the point, I want you to think about the process that goes into a video like this.
Think about the step-by-step process.
Okay?
If you're a fly on the wall, There are no flies in that spotless, beautiful kitchen.
But if you were, what would you see?
Well, first, she cleans her kitchen so that it will look nice on camera.
So it's all very premeditated.
This is a premeditated—well, I've got to back it up.
Because first, the idea sparks.
She has an idea where she wants a video of herself crying while making a cake.
This is a content idea that she came up with.
And she wants to do this on her birthday.
Maybe she's had this idea for months.
This would be a great video on my birthday.
Me crying and making cupcakes.
This is good content.
So she comes up with the idea.
Then she goes and cleans her kitchen.
Sets up her phone on a tripod.
Sets up all the baking supplies.
Presses record.
Conjures up the tears to cry on camera.
Stops the video.
Watches it back.
Edits it, puts sad music in the background, and then posts it.
And here I'm actually doing her a favor because I'm just going to assume that she didn't do multiple takes.
I'm assuming that she didn't watch it back and think that she wasn't crying visibly enough or want another crack at it and then do it again and again and again.
I'm assuming that.
Probably not a safe assumption, by the way.
In either case, this kind of behavior, I mean, it is truly sick.
It really is.
And yet it is very common.
It is disturbingly common.
This level of totally performative sadness, this kind of emotionally manipulative behavior, it's all over social media.
And the content works.
They get what they want out of it.
They get thousands and thousands of comments telling them how brave and wonderful they are.
And the video I just played, okay?
Just guess.
Guess how many views that video.
It's a woman making cupcakes out of a mix and crying.
Guess how many views it has on TikTok.
26 million.
26 million views for a woman making cupcakes out of a mix and crying.
And what does that mean?
It means that she's going to post a whole lot more videos of herself crying.
We're going to get her... This is a whole series now.
This is a franchise of content.
We're going to get her crying while doing the laundry.
We're going to get her crying while making breakfast.
We're going to get her crying while doing the dishes.
Crying while feeding her cat.
Crying while, you know, vacuuming the carpet.
Like... She probably doesn't have carpet.
Beautiful house.
She probably just has wood floors.
Crying while sweeping.
Like, everything.
She'll be crying while she's doing everything.
This is how the incentive structure on the internet works now.
People are incentivized to present themselves in the most pathetic, helpless, pitiable light possible.
Whatever benefit there could possibly be in putting a video out into the world of you in that kind of emotional state, and there really is no benefit.
It's only downside.
But if there was anything, if there was any redeeming quality to this kind of content, the sad woman genre of video, if there was any redeeming quality to it, that is negated by the fact that it's not real, it's not authentic.
You have these women performing their emotions for an audience.
They're doing it so much and so often that after a while they lose the ability to actually have any authentic human emotions at all.
Robots!
It's turning into artificial intelligence.
Because now, for this woman, anytime she actually does feel authentically sad or upset, she's going to think to herself, oh, this is great content.
I can get 10 million views on this!
And the moment that that thought pops into your head, the emotion isn't real anymore.
You know, it's not real.
Nothing is real.
Everything is performance.
And, you know, that's a real sort of danger for everybody on social media now that you no longer live any kind, like you don't have a real existence anymore.
You barely exist as a real person.
Everything is just so fake.
Everything is harvested.
For content, it's so unbelievably unhealthy.
It's unhealthy in ways that we can't even understand right now.
This is messing with people on a level that is truly unprecedented.
There's never been anything quite like this in the history of the world, so we don't really... What does this look like?
What does this person... 50 years from now, what kind of person is this that has lived this way for half a century?
It's quite pathetic.
So then in the end, it actually is really sad.
You start by kind of laughing at how silly it is, but then you end up actually really sad yourself, but just not sad for the same reasons or for the reasons that are intended.
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Well, if you've listened to this show for a while, you probably know that I am not exactly the greatest fan of yoga.
My relationship with yoga over the years has been quite contentious.
And yet, today, in a plot twist that nobody saw coming, I'm going to be assuming the role of yoga defender.
Because there is someone out there, a group of people, who are even more anti-yoga than me.
Apparently someone high up in San Diego's government has a burning disdain for yoga that exceeds even my own.
And that's my assumption today, after San Diego decided, effective immediately, to outlaw yoga classes on the beach.
Practice yoga in defiance of this new mandate, and you can look forward to a ticket and a court date.
Even free yoga classes are prohibited.
No organized group is allowed to participate in any yoga on the beach anymore.
And there are rows of police cruisers enforcing the ban on beach yoga every day.
Which, of course, isn't going over very well with the locals.
They've killed the vibe on the beach.
Everyone's chakras are all messed up or whatever.
This is martial law for people who like to bend their bodies in unnatural ways while looking at the waves and muttering Namaste.
Here's the local ABC affiliate talking about it.
The city of San Diego is cracking down on beach yoga.
A group of instructors say park rangers shut down their classes earlier this week.
Thank you for joining us tonight.
I'm Nia Watson.
ABC 10 News reporter Spencer Schorcher explains why the city's recently updated code is getting pushback from the wellness community.
It's very peaceful.
They came here to unwind, do some yoga by the cliffs.
It's an incredible space.
I think it is one of the most unique spots in all of San Diego.
Instead, just as they got to Sunset Cliffs, these yogis are rolling up their mats and heading home.
We've all tried to spread the word that class has been cancelled.
These four women teach yoga at Sunset Cliffs.
At least, they used to.
When I came here to teach my class at 6 o'clock, there were three park ranger trucks all positioned on the cliffs that prevented us from starting our class.
The city of San Diego is enforcing an ordinance it revised in March, the one that aimed to crack down on sidewalk bending.
In it, the city restricts where fitness classes can be held, like here at the Cliffs, and requires a permit.
I keep saying I thought it was hot dog vendors, and all of a sudden it's yoga teachers, too.
My God, I'm agreeing with the wellness community.
What is happening to me?
So these women were under the impression that only hot dog vendors were banned, but to their horror, they quickly discovered that it's not just hot dogs, but downward-facing dogs that are prohibited as well.
In other words, the government has suddenly assumed a lot more power than anyone originally anticipated.
Cue the shock and indignation.
This is surely the first time anything like that has ever happened in California.
Now, you're probably thinking that this is something that I would be celebrating.
After all, a bunch of women who wanted to perform yoga aren't able to do so anymore, at least not in public.
And, you know, on the beach, like, I don't want to have to see that when I'm at the beach.
It's annoying.
They won't ruin those beautiful beach views anymore with their weird poses.
But I'm not celebrating this.
Quite the opposite.
The city of San Diego has actually done the impossible here, which is make me sympathize with people who practice yoga in public.
And if not sympathize, at least, like, agree with their argument.
I am fully on the side of the yoga practitioners, as much as it pains me to say so.
You know, when the government starts banning people from doing something and enforcing that ban, sending three trucks to the place to enforce something, Well, they should have a clear justification for doing so, but in this case, they don't have one.
The city of San Diego isn't really implementing a new law here.
Instead, they say that they're simply clarifying an existing ordinance.
Quoting from the city, "The City of San Diego's Municipal Code prohibits groups consisting of four or more people
engaged in commercial or recreational activities like yoga, fitness classes, and dog training from gathering in parks
without a permit and can only operate in certain designated areas."
So you have to get a yoga permit. You have to get your yoga license to show people.
So if you're doing a stretch on the beach and the cop shows up and says, excuse me, do you have a license to be doing that with your body?
Here it is.
Here's my license.
The applicable municipal code has been in effect since 1993 and recent updates to the policy have clarified the activities for which necessary permitting applies.
These updates went into effect March 29th and are in effect to ensure that these public spaces remain safe and accessible to all users at all times.
This is one of those scenarios where safe and accessible to all users at all times means that if you want to do some yoga, you'll get a court date.
And this is the kind of contradiction that makes it completely impossible to defend what the government's doing here.
Their own logic is arbitrary and self-defeating.
And again, these aren't even commercial yoga classes.
They're free in many cases.
As I watch more and more footage of those yoga bus that the cops are pulling off, I'm not sure how anyone could disagree with the position here.
Here, for example, is a report from the local Fox affiliate covering another yoga raid on Ocean Boulevard.
This is the reason that people live in this city, is spaces like this.
So for these spaces to be monitored in such a heavy, unnecessary manner, it just is very confusing to me.
Jackie Kowalik is a yoga instructor.
One of her donation-based classes was shut down last week at Sunset Cliff, so she wanted to stop by PB, where she knew another class was happening Saturday.
And when I got here, the street was lined with park ranger trucks.
There were three rangers standing in the grass overlooking a class full of people doing yoga.
After the class, the park rangers moved in to give the teacher a ticket.
She recorded the interaction.
It's ridiculous.
We've been here for 17 years and now they're shutting us down.
Koalik says she asked park rangers for clarification on the do's and don'ts.
Can I ask a follow-up question?
What if it's a completely free class?
The answer was no.
Okay, well what if a group of friends comes down here and wants to do a yoga class?
Are you gonna stop and interrupt them?
The answer was yes.
We'll find out if it's an organized group.
She then asked about summer camps.
If I give a summer camp money and say, here, take care of my child, and they take a group of kids down to the beach and don't have a permit, can they get kicked off the beach?
And deer in headlights.
They couldn't answer me.
And to me, that tells me it's not just yoga that's at risk.
Now, watching this is all very reminiscent of the COVID lockdowns, when the police chased surfers down and threw them in jail.
That was the precedent.
Of course, at the time, we were told that there was some emergency justifying it, but there's no emergency now, and police are still doing that kind of thing anyway.
Because, you know, once the government gains power like that, they don't surrender it under any circumstances.
We should all understand that by now.
Although that's probably news to a lot of these yoga people.
And a lot of these people, by the way, probably cheered on when the cops were like throwing surfers in jail and kicking off the beach because of COVID.
They probably were on board with that.
But somehow the total arbitrariness of this crackdown isn't the worst part.
It would be one thing if police in San Diego had simply run out of crimes to investigate.
So they're going after yoga to sort of keep busy.
And they've solved all the other problems.
They're enforcing all the other laws.
Everything's fine.
Everything's great.
And now they've narrowed it down, and they're like, well, what else can we do here?
Well, let's get the yoga people.
They're annoying.
Let's get rid of them.
That would be one thing.
I still probably wouldn't be on board with it, but, like, I could hear you out on that.
It would at least be somewhat understandable from their perspective.
That would mean that crime has been solved in San Diego, which would obviously be a net positive.
But as you've probably guessed, that's not the case.
The city of San Diego has much bigger problems on its hands.
That includes problems happening on the beaches off San Diego, where these yoga classes are taking place.
Just a couple months ago, for example, a journalist says he captured this footage of illegal immigrants arriving on a speedboat and jumping on shore.
for it. Watch.
[WATER BUBBLING]
So this journalist was, like, in the water.
Was he scuba diving or something?
I don't know.
But anyway, this is the kind of thing you'd hope that swarms of police officers assigned to the beach might prevent.
Like, if you're going to send trucks to the beach to, you know, stop anything from happening, it might be this sort of thing.
Foreigners, people that no one knows anything about, are apparently just storming the beaches.
But as you can see from that clip, there were no rows of police officers and cruisers lined up waiting to greet these people.
There just wasn't much of a response at all.
And that footage is from January, but this keeps happening on San Diego area beaches.
Just last month, dozens of illegal migrants stormed past beachgoers at a Carlsbad beach after disembarking from a speedboat.
Watch.
Well, Phil, in the last week alone, there have been nearly 7000 encounters at the San Diego sector of the border.
I mean, this is the highest in the country and data all backed by CBP.
And now we got video showcasing a maritime incident right here in Carlsbad.
And like you said, this is just one out of several incidents we've seen up and down the San Diego coast within the last year.
This viral video now surfacing nationwide shows a boat carrying over a dozen undocumented migrants racing ashore at a high speed just along the Carlsbad coast.
They're not afraid.
Blatantly coming in at noon on a Saturday to a crowded beach.
In the video you could spot surfers looking to catch a wave dodging its path just before the vessel reached the sand as more than 16 people soon hopped out one by one.
You can see the group piling into this black GMC, some even seen struggling aboard as the car begins to drive away just along this suburban neighborhood near Ocean Street.
Senate Bill 54, our state legislators decided that our local police may not, they're prohibited from interfering with any kind of immigration.
They must just call Border Patrol.
So, more than a dozen illegal migrants arrive on a speedboat, storm the beach, pile into an SUV, and there are no cops in sight.
You hear from the mayor that the law prevents the cops from interfering with illegal migration, which is insane.
But it's also not true in this case.
As you just saw, they nearly killed a surfer by crashing their boat into him.
That's a crime that has nothing to do with immigration enforcement.
It's reckless endangerment, at a minimum.
But San Diego's leaders don't care.
So, instead of announcing a grand plan to prevent incursions like this, maybe by reversing that law, the best the San Diego government can do, apparently, is round up the yoga ladies.
Which means that if the illegals arrive on the beach and then do some yoga, before leaving and fleeing away, then you can arrest them.
Meanwhile, the permanent encampments of homeless drug addicts that line the beaches of San Diego are completely fine also, because they're not doing yoga.
Instead, they're injecting heroin and creating a mess, so people don't bother them.
Watch.
Tonight, you're looking at the trash and debris from homeless encampments creating safety issues for cyclists along the OB bike path.
Good evening, thanks so much for joining us.
I'm Marcella Lee.
Tonight, our Brian White is working for you and found out for himself what's being done about it.
Brian?
The bike path has been a mess for months, if not years.
Encampments, other people using it to do drugs.
It's become a public toilet.
I rode the Ocean Beach bike path with Wesley Hill today.
He's been living in OB for 25 years.
We dodged a number of encampments and people's belongings along the way.
You have to negotiate around people sleeping, dogs, and drug paraphernalia in the middle of the path.
Frequently, I often dismount my bike because I'm afraid I will run over somebody or something.
So just to review, you can set up a camp in the middle of a bike path and sleep there and do drugs there and defecate there.
And nobody will stop you, but if you do yoga, then that's when the cops show up.
They turn the bike path into skid row, and the police won't take any of them.
Why bother?
They wouldn't pay.
So the government targets people with a lot of disposable income instead, and women taking daytime yoga classes obviously fit the bill, which is really why they're going after the yoga.
I could go on and on about all the serious problems San Diego has right now.
These are actual security risks, major quality of life issues that no one's doing anything about.
Meanwhile, the government's going after the least threatening people on the entire planet, even if, you know, they are sort of weird and annoying.
It's hard to think of a better illustration of the wildly discombobulated priorities of our leaders.
This country is plagued by bureaucrats who are focusing on the exact opposite of what they should be focusing on.
And that is why As much as it pains me to defend yoga and its practitioners, the city of San Diego and its completely unjustified yoga ban are today cancelled.
