The Matt Walsh Show - Matt Walsh Reacts To Stay At Home Husband TikToks
Aired: 2023-09-16
Duration: 12:37


=== Homebound Dreams (11:31) ===

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[00:00:20]  Alright, so today we're gonna- Let's just head back over to TikTok, where we know all of the most compelling content can be found.
[00:00:28]  The thing on TikTok, there are a lot of different subcultures, different groups of people that have found community.
[00:00:35]  They've found a place where they can express themselves.
[00:00:39]  And often this is a very bad thing, because these are groups of people that we should not hear from.
[00:00:43]  We shouldn't even know they exist.
[00:00:46]  And unfortunately, the internet gives them a megaphone to announce their existence to the world.
[00:00:52]  And so today we're going to look at the group who call themselves stay-at-home husbands, or even apparently some of them refer to themselves as house husbands.
[00:01:03]  So these are the men who are defying gender norms by staying home while their wives work.
[00:01:10]  And so these are basically, this is like if you want to be a eunuch but you don't want to go through the surgery.
[00:01:16]  This is a non-surgical Strategy to become a eunuch is what all these guys are.
[00:01:22]  So, we'll start with... I'm told this is like the... This is the original.
[00:01:26]  This is one of the original househusbands on TikTok who got this whole trend going.
[00:01:31]  I like the original much better.
[00:01:33]  Oh, my God!
[00:01:34]  He didn't start the trend of being a househusband, but he started the trend of them all talking about what they do during the day or don't do during the day, because they don't do much of anything.
[00:01:41]  But anyway, let's watch the first video.
[00:01:43]  Sorry, tough guys.
[00:01:44]  It's part two of a day in the life of a stay-at-home husband.
[00:01:47]  When I say check your misogyny at the door, I mean it.
[00:01:50]  It's the weekend, so you know I gotta let my queen sleep in, so I make her some pancakes.
[00:01:54]  She likes them with chocolate chippies in them.
[00:02:00]  On Sundays, we strip.
[00:02:01]  The sheets.
[00:02:01]  And then I load the dishwasher.
[00:02:03]  Next, I borrow my wife's credit card and I go get some groceries.
[00:02:05]  I check those eggs.
[00:02:07]  Check out, make my way home, and put the groceries away.
[00:02:09]  The fridge organized with all her favorite drinks and snacks.
[00:02:12]  And then I take the trash out to where the men go.
[00:02:14]  Don't strain yourself, Queen.
[00:02:15]  You work too hard.
[00:02:16]  You know the drill.
[00:02:16]  Follow to end the patriarchy.
[00:02:19]  So that video was, this video I think is a couple years old now.
[00:02:24]  So they're probably already divorced.
[00:02:26]  But if they're not, they will be soon.
[00:02:28]  Because that's the thing about the, your wives, your wife needs to be able to respect you.
[00:02:36]  And in a marriage, they need that more than they need someone making pancakes for them in the morning.
[00:02:43]  So, from the wife's perspective, she might enjoy that.
[00:02:47]  She wakes up to pancakes.
[00:02:49]  She doesn't enjoy the fact that she has a husband who uses the phrase chocolate chippies.
[00:02:55]  But she likes the pancakes, she likes all that.
[00:02:58]  This is someone who's like her little manservant going around and doing all these things.
[00:03:02]  It's about time you got here!
[00:03:04]  And so on the surface level, she might enjoy that she has that.
[00:03:09]  But underneath that surface is bubbling resentment and a total lack of respect.
[00:03:16]  The fact is that she doesn't respect you.
[00:03:17]  Because there might be women who are selfish and materialistic and all that, and so they like the idea of just having a servant rather than an actual husband and a leader in the home.
[00:03:27]  So they try to talk themselves out of that, but they can't.
[00:03:32]  Because it's an innate biological impulse, and they might not even be fully conscious of the fact that respect and admiration for your spouse, these things are necessary.
[00:03:42]  But it still is a need that is not being fulfilled by that guy.
[00:03:46]  So if you're not doing that, she won't respect you, and that's when the marriage will fall apart.
[00:03:50]  And I suspect, I haven't seen these other videos, but I suspect that that's going to be a theme that we find in a lot of these.
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[00:04:50]  Let's go to the next one.
[00:04:52]  Day one of being a stay-at-home husband.
[00:04:55]  Made us some tea and cuddled on the couch.
[00:04:58]  And then I started to pack her lunch before she went to work with all her favorite foods.
[00:05:03]  Snuck in a love note.
[00:05:05]  Drove her to work.
[00:05:07]  Came back to a mess.
[00:05:08]  Proof of me cleaning the mess.
[00:05:10]  Juice break.
[00:05:12]  Put away some leftovers from the night before.
[00:05:14]  Starting to unpack.
[00:05:16]  All right, okay, stop.
[00:05:18]  Of course, this is the kind of guy who takes a juice break and drinks it with a straw in his own house.
[00:05:25]  Sensors indicate that you are indeed a weenie.
[00:05:29]  That's already enough of a problem.
[00:05:30]  You know what?
[00:05:31]  I didn't need to see any of the rest.
[00:05:32]  You could have just shown me that part.
[00:05:34]  You could have shown me juice break and he's sitting there in his own house by himself drinking with a straw.
[00:05:39]  Who pulls out a straw?
[00:05:40]  What kind of man pulls out a straw?
[00:05:43]  What, do you have like a stash of straws somewhere in your pantry?
[00:05:47]  And you want to drink some juice, so you go and you take a straw?
[00:05:50]  You could have just showed me that, and I would have known the rest of this already.
[00:05:54]  The fact that he's a house husband would not, I would have already known that.
[00:05:57]  He says that he does pack her all of her favorite foods for lunch when she goes to work.
[00:06:02]  And I'm not trying to be rude when I say this, but maybe he, like maybe don't pack her all of her favorite foods.
[00:06:09]  You know, maybe only a couple of them, maybe one, maybe none.
[00:06:13]  Might help her out.
[00:06:14]  But, you know, there's, I'm already noticing a trend in just these first two.
[00:06:20]  Let's watch one more and we'll see how, before I say what the trend is.
[00:06:23]  It's very subtle.
[00:06:24]  Welcome to a day in my life as a stay-at-home husband.
[00:06:26]  Because Lucy booked an off-Broadway show, she's currently working two full-time jobs.
[00:06:30]  I think it's time to start pulling my weight around here.
[00:06:32]  I started off the morning by making my wife's favorite breakfast, a chocolate smoothie with plenty of spinach and a bagel with butter and honey.
[00:06:38]  After breakfast, I took out the trash, changed our flights for Christmas, and headed to the grocery store.
[00:06:42]  I got plenty of groceries for the week, and our grand total from TJ's was $143.19.
[00:06:46]  After putting the food away and getting some work done on my computer, I headed to the gym.
[00:06:52]  After the gym, I grabbed some coffee with a friend.
[00:06:54]  And wow, where has the day gone, because the sun's already going down.
[00:06:57]  Once I got home, I meal prepped for Lucy's lunches for the next couple of days.
[00:07:00]  I made salmon bowls with rice, broccoli, and sriracha mayo.
[00:07:03]  After meal prepping, I cleaned our whole apartment, scrubbing our bathroom.
[00:07:06]  Vacuuming the floors and mopping as well.
[00:07:09]  Once Lucy got home, I had a little surprise for her.
[00:07:11]  Fresh flowers, her favorite sweet treat, and a little handwritten note too.
[00:07:15]  I'm so proud of this girl and all that she's accomplishing right now.
[00:07:18]  So anything I can do to support her living her dreams makes me so happy.
[00:07:24]  She is so not into this guy at all, you can tell.
[00:07:29]  Here's the trend, though.
[00:07:30]  Here's the common thread.
[00:07:31]  You notice something?
[00:07:32]  There are no kids.
[00:07:34]  There are no kids in the picture.
[00:07:35]  So these are not even stay-at-home dads.
[00:07:37]  These are stay-at-home husbands.
[00:07:40]  Why can't you go work also?
[00:07:44]  Even if you were to decide that, well, we want to bring down the patriarchy, and so we don't want to have the wife stay home with the kids.
[00:07:52]  God forbid, you know, you fulfill that need that children have to be around their mothers.
[00:07:56]  We don't want to do that.
[00:07:57]  Well, there are no children!
[00:07:58]  So what are you doing all day?
[00:08:02]  Here's the thing, if this was like flipped around, I would still have an issue, actually.
[00:08:07]  If it was the wife who was stay-at-home doing nothing all day, when there are no kids in the picture.
[00:08:14]  Now, I fully believe being a stay-at-home mom, when you're taking care of kids, my wife's a stay-at-home mom.
[00:08:20]  And there's more than enough to do during the day, and that is a very important... It's not a job, okay?
[00:08:25]  It's not a job.
[00:08:26]  A job is like a 9-to-5.
[00:08:27]  You punch in, you punch out, you get a paycheck.
[00:08:29]  It is work, though, okay?
[00:08:31]  Not all work is a job.
[00:08:34]  And so that's very important work, to be a stay-at-home mom.
[00:08:37]  There are no kids, though.
[00:08:39]  You should be doing something else with it.
[00:08:40]  Like, yeah, you might as well go out.
[00:08:42]  You should have a job if there are no kids.
[00:08:44]  You should be contributing to the household that way.
[00:08:46]  Because there's just no kids in the house?
[00:08:49]  How much cleaning could there possibly be?
[00:08:50]  You have nothing to do all day, every single day.
[00:08:57]  That's not really acceptable for a woman or a man.
[00:09:03]  You should have work to do.
[00:09:05]  Everyone should be doing some kind of work during the day.
[00:09:10]  So that's what makes us all the worse.
[00:09:12]  There's not even any kids.
[00:09:14]  When I was first... See, I thought we were going to see a bunch of stay-at-home dads.
[00:09:18]  We don't even have that.
[00:09:19]  They don't even have dads.
[00:09:20]  Alright, let's watch one more.
[00:09:24]  Welcome to a day in my life as a 26-year-old breadwinner.
[00:09:27]  You may have seen my stay-at-home husbands videos, so this is my day.
[00:09:30]  I'm an actress in New York City and I also work remotely full-time as an executive assistant.
[00:09:35]  I woke up at 6 30 and I made my ice latte the night before because I knew that future Lucy would be so grateful.
[00:09:40]  I promise this isn't a hickey, it's just a curling iron burn.
[00:09:43]  I finished getting ready, I grabbed my little bagel and an apple, then I headed down to the Actors' Equity building for the audition at 7 a.m.
[00:09:50]  I signed in and was shockingly number two on the list.
[00:09:52]  This was my outfit.
[00:09:53]  I still had a good hour or so to have some devotional time.
[00:09:56]  I worked for about three hours in the waiting room and then at noon they called my name and put me in the next group.
[00:10:01]  The audition went great!
[00:10:01]  I headed home and got an exciting self-tape request for an absolute dream role.
[00:10:05]  Chandler made me some lunch.
[00:10:06]  What's the guy's name?
[00:10:08]  Chandler?
[00:10:08]  To take a musical theater dance class with one of my best friends.
[00:10:11]  While I answered a few work emails Chandler made this delicious cookie skillet.
[00:10:14]  Of course his name is Chandler.
[00:10:16]  Of course.
[00:10:16]  And we headed to see a movie with our friend.
[00:10:18]  I knew that, too.
[00:10:18]  I wish I predicted that.
[00:10:20]  I knew that guy was Chandler before she even said it.
[00:10:22]  Chandler is the stupidest name I've ever heard in my life.
[00:10:26]  It's not even a name.
[00:10:27]  It's barely even a word.
[00:10:29]  Here's what I'm trying... What's going on in this?
[00:10:30]  So, she's an actress, and he's a house husband.
[00:10:35]  No one's working in this family, and they live... How are they doing this?
[00:10:39]  No one has a job between the two of them.
[00:10:42]  And they live... Where do they live?
[00:10:43]  In New York?
[00:10:47]  And somehow they're not living in a box under a bridge.
[00:10:52]  I can only assume that they have a friend who lets them record their TikToks in their apartment and most of the time they actually live under a bridge because I don't know how... She's an actress and he's a house husband.
[00:11:05]  Oh, she's also a remote executive assistant.
[00:11:11]  So there's a lot of questions to be asked there, but I also enjoyed how she clarified it's not a hickey because she wanted to make sure.

=== Respect in Marriage (01:21) ===

[00:11:21]  It's like, I'm not actually sleeping with this guy.
[00:11:23]  She wanted to make that clear.
[00:11:25]  As I said at the beginning, I don't think we need to watch anymore.
[00:11:28]  I think we get the point.
[00:11:29]  So we understand.
[00:11:30]  It doesn't work.
[00:11:32]  It just doesn't work because, as I said at the top, respect, you know, we talked about this in the past, the need for respect in a marriage.
[00:11:42]  For the man, you know.
[00:11:44]  And of course, as a husband, you should respect your wife, obviously.
[00:11:48]  But the needs are a little bit different, and it manifests itself in different ways.
[00:11:53]  But often we talk about how the man needs to be respected in the marriage.
[00:11:58]  And that's true.
[00:11:58]  That's a need that the man needs to receive, that respect.
[00:12:01]  But it's also a need for the woman.
[00:12:06]  She needs to be able to feel that respect for her own husband.
[00:12:10]  You are hairy like animal!
[00:12:12]  And if she doesn't, then the whole thing falls apart because the respect is what is kind of the gasoline in the engine of the marriage that keeps it going.
[00:12:22]  And there's just no way you can't respect that.
[00:12:25]  A man who does not Not only does he not provide, he doesn't even contribute to providing for the family.
[00:12:32]  There's no respect there.
[00:12:33]  So, they're all going to be divorced soon enough, but they're going to get their TikTok.