The Matt Walsh Show - "Is Owning A Pitbull A Dealbreaker?" - Matt Walsh Gives Advice
Aired: 2023-04-01
Duration: 09:37


=== Pitbulls And Privacy (03:52) ===

[00:00:00]  So, I think I can break my own rules today because there's some ground we've missed.
[00:00:05]  We're going back a day with a lot of, you know, on Wednesdays when we respond to people that are asking for advice for things, and so I'm looking over that.
[00:00:13]  There's some good questions here, and so we're going to do that today instead.
[00:00:16]  This is from Jody.
[00:00:17]  Hi, Matt.
[00:00:18]  All thanks to you and the rest of the Daily Wire crew, I'm writing to you as a former blue-haired feminist who has been saved from leftism.
[00:00:24]  I'm now 30 years old and I wasted my 20s trying to find a career sleeping around and doing the feminist things.
[00:00:30]  Now, more than anything, I want to settle down and have a big family.
[00:00:31]  As I've been dating, there have been several conservative Christian men who have great potential but have one downfall—owning a pit bull.
[00:00:38]  Is it shallow of me to not want to date a guy who has a pit?
[00:00:42]  I have now known of two attacks, one where they almost had to shoot the dog in front of children because it wouldn't let go.
[00:00:47]  I don't feel comfortable or safe raising a family around a pit or being around one myself.
[00:00:51]  I feel so dumb saying that, but I also feel like it's a valid concern.
[00:00:55]  Is this something that I am being too stubborn about and should be willing to budge on or find a compromise?
[00:01:01]  I absolutely would not raise kids around a pit bull.
[00:01:04]  Wouldn't do it.
[00:01:05]  Not worth the risk.
[00:01:06]  Okay, anytime you have a pet, anytime you have a pet, anytime you have a dog, any kind of dog, there's always a chance the dog could bite.
[00:01:11]  You talk about percentages, what's the percentage chance?
[00:01:14]  The chance is much too high that this dog will attack the child.
[00:01:18]  And then the other problem too, it's not just about Will the dog bite the child?
[00:01:23]  If the dog snaps or gets angry or whatever, wakes up on the wrong side of the bed one morning, what is that going to actually mean?
[00:01:28]  How's the dog going to respond to that?
[00:01:30]  Like if a golden retriever bites you, it'll hurt, it'll be painful, maybe you need stitches.
[00:01:34]  But you don't very often hear about golden retrievers mauling people to death.
[00:01:38]  That's what pit bulls do.
[00:01:40]  If they decide to attack you, they will try to kill you.
[00:01:43]  So you're sort of like trusting this dog to not do that.
[00:01:46]  And that's not trust I would have.
[00:01:48]  So it's not that you're not taking it seriously enough.
[00:01:50]  It's that you are taking it seriously.
[00:01:51]  And so I don't think you're being too stubborn.
[00:01:54]  And I do think it's a valid concern.
[00:01:55]  I don't think it's silly at all.
[00:01:57]  If this works out and I marry this man, I want to have kids.
[00:02:00]  I'm not going to have kids with a pitbull now.
[00:02:01]  I'm just not going to.
[00:02:02]  I don't think you have to toss this guy to the side right away, but it is something to
[00:02:06]  bring up.
[00:02:07]  You say, "I think this is really going in a great direction.
[00:02:10]  I really like you."
[00:02:11]  All these kind of things.
[00:02:12]  Talk to them about it, but then also say, "I don't want to be around the pitbull.
[00:02:15]  I can't imagine ever raising kids around a pitbull."
[00:02:17]  And let them decide what's most important to them.
[00:02:19]  We should obviously kill all the pitbulls, right?
[00:02:21]  This is also something that maybe men should keep in mind.
[00:02:24]  You want to make yourself as desirable as possible.
[00:02:29]  You want to give yourself the best chance possible.
[00:02:31]  Is it worth it having a pit bull around?
[00:02:33]  That could literally scare very high quality women away.
[00:02:37]  These would be great women who just, everything about them is great, but they don't want to be around a pit bull.
[00:02:44]  Nothing wrong with that.
[00:02:44]  That's a reasonable concern.
[00:02:45]  So do you want to scare those people away?
[00:02:47]  Is it worth it to have the pitbull?
[00:02:49]  Or do you want to just go get a golden retriever instead?
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=== Adapting to School (06:00) ===

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[00:03:49]  Chris says, Dear Matt, my wife and I have an eight-year-old son.
[00:03:52]  He's an only child and was homeschooled to the age of seven.
[00:03:55]  My wife and I signed him for MMA, soccer, skating, and t-ball to help socialize him.
[00:04:00]  This year we enrolled him into a Christian school and he's having a hard time adapting.
[00:04:04]  I constantly hear how nice my son is or that he's too nice from teachers and coaches.
[00:04:08]  I'm proud my son is a kind, respectful, and generous kid.
[00:04:11]  However, it hurts my heart to see him struggling to make friends.
[00:04:13]  I'm torn because I like that he's independent, but I don't want him to be a loner.
[00:04:17]  Can a child be too nice?
[00:04:18]  And should parents be responsible for toughening up their children?
[00:04:21]  What are they trying to say?
[00:04:22]  Is he allowing himself to get pushed around?
[00:04:24]  Is he getting bullied a lot and he's not able to stand up for himself?
[00:04:27]  Well, that's something you ought to work with him on.
[00:04:29]  But I would never say that for an eight-year-old child, we should see it as a problem that they're nice.
[00:04:36]  No, I certainly don't think that you have to worry that an eight-year-old child is too nice and too respectful.
[00:04:42]  Put some respect on my name.
[00:04:43]  Or maybe I'll put it this way.
[00:04:44]  If that's the problem that you have with a kid, if that's your biggest problem is that your child is too respectful and nice, then you're in a really great spot.
[00:04:51]  That is a great problem to have.
[00:04:54]  Very often, especially these days, the problem goes in the other direction.
[00:05:00]  As far as him not making friends the way that you would like, I also wouldn't worry about that.
[00:05:04]  I'm biased a little bit because my oldest son's nine years old, and it's kind of a similar sort of situation in that he's a very outgoing kid.
[00:05:14]  You know, he loves playing with other kids.
[00:05:16]  We haven't evolved in activities, and he's very athletic and creative and all that.
[00:05:21]  But he's also extremely independent.
[00:05:24]  He can go up to the woods for four hours and by himself and just work on building a fort, and he loves doing that.
[00:05:29]  So he doesn't make friends as easily as some kids do, and I know that there are parents who see that with certain kids.
[00:05:35]  They're very independent, they can entertain themselves easily, and you start to see it as a problem and you worry, they'll be friendless their whole life.
[00:05:41]  I don't see it that way.
[00:05:42]  I think that a kid who's 8 or 9 years old, still really young, nothing is set in stone.
[00:05:48]  Yeah, you want to put them in situations where they can meet other kids, and you push them a little bit to socialize, but I wouldn't go too far with that.
[00:05:56]  There's nothing wrong with being independent.
[00:05:58]  And again, being able to entertain yourself as a child is a really important skill to have.
[00:06:02]  A lot of kids don't have that.
[00:06:04]  These are positive qualities in your child that maybe present some challenges, but it's not worth trying to kind of mitigate those positive qualities.
[00:06:15]  I would just kind of let it play out.
[00:06:17]  All right, finally, From Anonymous says, "Yeah, all that about marriage is well and good,
[00:06:22]  and your head is no doubt in the right place, Matt.
[00:06:24]  But you offer no actionable solutions other than throwing ourselves into the thing
[00:06:28]  that you just canceled.
[00:06:30]  I suggest that you never get married in the system, and you instead try your best to sincerely get married
[00:06:35]  with regard for being seen by God only."
[00:06:38]  This argument obviously boils down to whether or not this country is going to hell sooner rather than later.
[00:06:43]  Us despised Gen Z conservatives are trying to tell you that it's sooner, and in light of that, we will need a little bit more advice.
[00:06:49]  I find it hard to believe that you don't see that, especially with the brain-dead comments you've brought up on the show so far.
[00:06:54]  It seems you're trying to avoid this, and it does scare me a little to see you shill for America on this particular topic.
[00:07:00]  Shill for America.
[00:07:02]  You don't want me to be concerned about the country?
[00:07:05]  You see that as a negative?
[00:07:06]  Am I shilling for America?
[00:07:08]  I don't think shilling would be the word I would use.
[00:07:13]  Maybe advocating.
[00:07:14]  I'm advocating for the future of the country.
[00:07:16]  I'm not advocating for the government or for the regime that controls our country.
[00:07:21]  But I am advocating for the country, yes.
[00:07:23]  I love the country.
[00:07:24]  And I want to see the country have a future.
[00:07:27]  It's not going to have a future if people don't get married and start families.
[00:07:31]  Everything falls apart and is destroyed in that case.
[00:07:34]  And nobody benefits from that.
[00:07:36]  You cannot have a country, you cannot have a civilization where young people are not getting married and having families.
[00:07:44]  You cut that out and it is the death of civilization, is what it is.
[00:07:48]  And my position is that that would be bad.
[00:07:51]  I don't want civilization to die.
[00:07:53]  And if we're just going to embrace that and accept it, then what are we even talking about?
[00:07:56]  Like, what's the point of anything?
[00:07:58]  Why bother?
[00:07:59]  Why are you watching this show if you're willing to just give up on civilization?
[00:08:03]  I understand what the problems are.
[00:08:04]  I understand how severe they are.
[00:08:06]  But I want to fight to save civilization, not simply give up on it.
[00:08:09]  Again, if we're going to do that, then there's no point in any of us talking about any of this.
[00:08:12]  Just give up, go home, and wait for it to all fall apart.
[00:08:15]  And you could do that, and some people have done that.
[00:08:17]  But don't tell me that that's the respectable, certainly don't tell me it's the masculine, manly response.
[00:08:25]  Uttering complete surrender?
[00:08:27]  Being passive?
[00:08:29]  Is that what being a man is now?
[00:08:31]  No.
[00:08:31]  The problems in the system with marriage, I've talked about that extensively, and I have advocated what many of those solutions are, including, for example, Getting rid of no-fault divorce.
[00:08:43]  Incentivizing people to get married and stay married.
[00:08:48]  Strengthening that marriage covenant as much as we can.
[00:08:51]  Certainly reforming a lot of the alimony laws and so forth that put men at a severe disadvantage.
[00:08:58]  But it's just a question of, yeah, those are long-term goals.
[00:09:02]  Those are systemic changes that we're advocating for, fighting for, promoting.
[00:09:07]  But what are you going to do in the meantime?
[00:09:10]  What is society gonna do?
[00:09:12]  Are you just gonna give up completely?
[00:09:14]  You're gonna consign yourself to the death of your own bloodline?
[00:09:18]  That is not a strategy for dealing with the problem.
[00:09:21]  That is a refusal to deal with it.
[00:09:23]  That is surrender.
[00:09:25]  And so if what you're really saying is we should surrender, then fine, but I strongly disagree with you.
[00:09:31]  That's my pep talk.
[00:09:32]  And that'll do it for us today.
[00:09:34]  We'll talk to you tomorrow on Friday.
[00:09:36]  Have a great day.