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| So, I think I can break my own rules today because there's some ground we've missed. | |
| We're going back a day with a lot of, you know, on Wednesdays when we respond to people that are asking for advice for things, and so I'm looking over that. | |
| There's some good questions here, and so we're going to do that today instead. | |
| This is from Jody. | |
| Hi, Matt. | |
| All thanks to you and the rest of the Daily Wire crew, I'm writing to you as a former blue-haired feminist who has been saved from leftism. | |
| I'm now 30 years old and I wasted my 20s trying to find a career sleeping around and doing the feminist things. | |
| Now, more than anything, I want to settle down and have a big family. | |
| As I've been dating, there have been several conservative Christian men who have great potential but have one downfall—owning a pit bull. | |
| Is it shallow of me to not want to date a guy who has a pit? | |
| I have now known of two attacks, one where they almost had to shoot the dog in front of children because it wouldn't let go. | |
| I don't feel comfortable or safe raising a family around a pit or being around one myself. | |
| I feel so dumb saying that, but I also feel like it's a valid concern. | |
| Is this something that I am being too stubborn about and should be willing to budge on or find a compromise? | |
| I absolutely would not raise kids around a pit bull. | |
| Wouldn't do it. | |
| Not worth the risk. | |
| Okay, anytime you have a pet, anytime you have a pet, anytime you have a dog, any kind of dog, there's always a chance the dog could bite. | |
| You talk about percentages, what's the percentage chance? | |
| The chance is much too high that this dog will attack the child. | |
| And then the other problem too, it's not just about Will the dog bite the child? | |
| If the dog snaps or gets angry or whatever, wakes up on the wrong side of the bed one morning, what is that going to actually mean? | |
| How's the dog going to respond to that? | |
| Like if a golden retriever bites you, it'll hurt, it'll be painful, maybe you need stitches. | |
| But you don't very often hear about golden retrievers mauling people to death. | |
| That's what pit bulls do. | |
| If they decide to attack you, they will try to kill you. | |
| So you're sort of like trusting this dog to not do that. | |
| And that's not trust I would have. | |
| So it's not that you're not taking it seriously enough. | |
| It's that you are taking it seriously. | |
| And so I don't think you're being too stubborn. | |
| And I do think it's a valid concern. | |
| I don't think it's silly at all. | |
| If this works out and I marry this man, I want to have kids. | |
| I'm not going to have kids with a pitbull now. | |
| I'm just not going to. | |
| I don't think you have to toss this guy to the side right away, but it is something to | |
| bring up. | |
| You say, "I think this is really going in a great direction. | |
| I really like you." | |
| All these kind of things. | |
| Talk to them about it, but then also say, "I don't want to be around the pitbull. | |
| I can't imagine ever raising kids around a pitbull." | |
| And let them decide what's most important to them. | |
| We should obviously kill all the pitbulls, right? | |
| This is also something that maybe men should keep in mind. | |
| You want to make yourself as desirable as possible. | |
| You want to give yourself the best chance possible. | |
| Is it worth it having a pit bull around? | |
| That could literally scare very high quality women away. | |
| These would be great women who just, everything about them is great, but they don't want to be around a pit bull. | |
| Nothing wrong with that. | |
| That's a reasonable concern. | |
| So do you want to scare those people away? | |
| Is it worth it to have the pitbull? | |
| Or do you want to just go get a golden retriever instead? | |
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| Chris says, Dear Matt, my wife and I have an eight-year-old son. | |
| He's an only child and was homeschooled to the age of seven. | |
| My wife and I signed him for MMA, soccer, skating, and t-ball to help socialize him. | |
| This year we enrolled him into a Christian school and he's having a hard time adapting. | |
| I constantly hear how nice my son is or that he's too nice from teachers and coaches. | |
| I'm proud my son is a kind, respectful, and generous kid. | |
| However, it hurts my heart to see him struggling to make friends. | |
| I'm torn because I like that he's independent, but I don't want him to be a loner. | |
| Can a child be too nice? | |
| And should parents be responsible for toughening up their children? | |
| What are they trying to say? | |
| Is he allowing himself to get pushed around? | |
| Is he getting bullied a lot and he's not able to stand up for himself? | |
| Well, that's something you ought to work with him on. | |
| But I would never say that for an eight-year-old child, we should see it as a problem that they're nice. | |
| No, I certainly don't think that you have to worry that an eight-year-old child is too nice and too respectful. | |
| Put some respect on my name. | |
| Or maybe I'll put it this way. | |
| If that's the problem that you have with a kid, if that's your biggest problem is that your child is too respectful and nice, then you're in a really great spot. | |
| That is a great problem to have. | |
| Very often, especially these days, the problem goes in the other direction. | |
| As far as him not making friends the way that you would like, I also wouldn't worry about that. | |
| I'm biased a little bit because my oldest son's nine years old, and it's kind of a similar sort of situation in that he's a very outgoing kid. | |
| You know, he loves playing with other kids. | |
| We haven't evolved in activities, and he's very athletic and creative and all that. | |
| But he's also extremely independent. | |
| He can go up to the woods for four hours and by himself and just work on building a fort, and he loves doing that. | |
| So he doesn't make friends as easily as some kids do, and I know that there are parents who see that with certain kids. | |
| They're very independent, they can entertain themselves easily, and you start to see it as a problem and you worry, they'll be friendless their whole life. | |
| I don't see it that way. | |
| I think that a kid who's 8 or 9 years old, still really young, nothing is set in stone. | |
| Yeah, you want to put them in situations where they can meet other kids, and you push them a little bit to socialize, but I wouldn't go too far with that. | |
| There's nothing wrong with being independent. | |
| And again, being able to entertain yourself as a child is a really important skill to have. | |
| A lot of kids don't have that. | |
| These are positive qualities in your child that maybe present some challenges, but it's not worth trying to kind of mitigate those positive qualities. | |
| I would just kind of let it play out. | |
| All right, finally, From Anonymous says, "Yeah, all that about marriage is well and good, | |
| and your head is no doubt in the right place, Matt. | |
| But you offer no actionable solutions other than throwing ourselves into the thing | |
| that you just canceled. | |
| I suggest that you never get married in the system, and you instead try your best to sincerely get married | |
| with regard for being seen by God only." | |
| This argument obviously boils down to whether or not this country is going to hell sooner rather than later. | |
| Us despised Gen Z conservatives are trying to tell you that it's sooner, and in light of that, we will need a little bit more advice. | |
| I find it hard to believe that you don't see that, especially with the brain-dead comments you've brought up on the show so far. | |
| It seems you're trying to avoid this, and it does scare me a little to see you shill for America on this particular topic. | |
| Shill for America. | |
| You don't want me to be concerned about the country? | |
| You see that as a negative? | |
| Am I shilling for America? | |
| I don't think shilling would be the word I would use. | |
| Maybe advocating. | |
| I'm advocating for the future of the country. | |
| I'm not advocating for the government or for the regime that controls our country. | |
| But I am advocating for the country, yes. | |
| I love the country. | |
| And I want to see the country have a future. | |
| It's not going to have a future if people don't get married and start families. | |
| Everything falls apart and is destroyed in that case. | |
| And nobody benefits from that. | |
| You cannot have a country, you cannot have a civilization where young people are not getting married and having families. | |
| You cut that out and it is the death of civilization, is what it is. | |
| And my position is that that would be bad. | |
| I don't want civilization to die. | |
| And if we're just going to embrace that and accept it, then what are we even talking about? | |
| Like, what's the point of anything? | |
| Why bother? | |
| Why are you watching this show if you're willing to just give up on civilization? | |
| I understand what the problems are. | |
| I understand how severe they are. | |
| But I want to fight to save civilization, not simply give up on it. | |
| Again, if we're going to do that, then there's no point in any of us talking about any of this. | |
| Just give up, go home, and wait for it to all fall apart. | |
| And you could do that, and some people have done that. | |
| But don't tell me that that's the respectable, certainly don't tell me it's the masculine, manly response. | |
| Uttering complete surrender? | |
| Being passive? | |
| Is that what being a man is now? | |
| No. | |
| The problems in the system with marriage, I've talked about that extensively, and I have advocated what many of those solutions are, including, for example, Getting rid of no-fault divorce. | |
| Incentivizing people to get married and stay married. | |
| Strengthening that marriage covenant as much as we can. | |
| Certainly reforming a lot of the alimony laws and so forth that put men at a severe disadvantage. | |
| But it's just a question of, yeah, those are long-term goals. | |
| Those are systemic changes that we're advocating for, fighting for, promoting. | |
| But what are you going to do in the meantime? | |
| What is society gonna do? | |
| Are you just gonna give up completely? | |
| You're gonna consign yourself to the death of your own bloodline? | |
| That is not a strategy for dealing with the problem. | |
| That is a refusal to deal with it. | |
| That is surrender. | |
| And so if what you're really saying is we should surrender, then fine, but I strongly disagree with you. | |
| That's my pep talk. | |
| And that'll do it for us today. | |
| We'll talk to you tomorrow on Friday. | |
| Have a great day. |