Stefan Molyneux joins Joe Rogan to debate anarcho-capitalism, rejecting taxation as "initiation of force" and proposing private infrastructure like toll roads. He argues stateless societies would deter invasions but acknowledges ethical dilemmas with self-defense tools like engineered diseases. Rogan challenges claims that alimony ($600K/year for Williams) or women’s aggression (936 hits/child annually per study) directly cause societal harm, while Molyneux insists moral consistency demands cutting ties with state-supporting relationships. Both agree on maximizing human potential through ambition and physical activity, framing life as a fleeting gift worth boldly seizing. [Automatically generated summary]
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Yeah, smoking and the other thing about smokers is there's a lot of them that don't have any problem with littering.
And I think it has something to do with the fact that they're fucking their body up.
So there's this like cognitive dissonance of like there's something involved in like you have to have a separation of clarity.
If you're willing to, it's your will.
You're lighting the cigarette, you're putting it up to your lips, you're sucking in poison, and they, so many of them throw their cigarettes on the ground.
So many of them.
And I really think there's a connection because it's very rare that you see someone drink a soda and then throw their can on the ground.
But in front of people, you'll see someone take a cigarette, throw it on the ground, step on it, and just walk away.
Like as if it's out of sight, out of mind.
I think it has a direct connection to this connection.
That's like the Freudian cancer because he had like 20 cigars a day and he got, I think, half his cheek eaten away with cancer and stuff like that towards the end of his life.
I was saying, you know, she was getting upset, you know, the things that you had said about what she had said.
And I said, well, you got to, look, there's a weird thing that goes on where people make these sort of call-out videos.
You know, everybody likes to do a call-out video, but nobody likes a call-out video turned on them.
And what Anna did is essentially she listened to Adam Corolla's rant about conservatism, and she made a rant about that, and then you made a rant about her rant, and then she's pissed at your rant about her rant, about Adam's rant.
I'm like, first of all, this is like an incredibly ineffective way to communicate.
You know, when people like, that's one of the things that I don't like about blogs.
I think blog entries are great in some ways because I think it gives someone an opportunity to really expand on their thoughts.
And you put a lot of energy and effort into writing something down.
Whereas I think you might be able to get in a deeper detail than you would in a conversation where you're perhaps searching for words or trying to clarify like a lot of things you need to look up and you can't do that necessarily in a debate.
But it's a massive amount of time involved and it doesn't give the other person the opportunity to respond.
And when you do it, like one person goes on this long rant describing you in very disparaging terms and minimizes you and then you have to respond to that.
And then you go there.
It's way better to just sit down and talk through ideas.
So there's a lot of these ideas that you have said that are very controversial that we're going to give you an opportunity.
The core of the conversation was Adam's position on being a conservative and how the term conservative has become a pejorative.
And then the term conservative has become a negative way of describing a person's behavior and a person's thoughts.
It's more like, it seems that it's become maybe like a badge of callousness or a descriptive term of someone who is insensitive or who does not care about the underclass, who does not care about poverty, does not care about poor people.
And, you know, she had this take on it and then you had a take on her take on it.
Well, I mean, so, and I was a resistant anarchist.
Like, for me, I was 20 years what's called like a minarchist.
It came sort of out of the objectivist Ayn Rand school, where your government is basically law and national defense, maybe a court system, maybe that sort of tiny, tiny government.
It's called the night watchman state, which is, you know, keep other people's mitts off my stuff and keep their shivs out of my kidney kind of thing.
That's the basic function of government.
And I was like, but it always bothered me because that would still have to be funded through taxation, right?
And Taxation, philosophically, morally, is the initiation of force, right?
I mean, it's like, I have a good idea, you have to pay for it.
And if you don't pay for it, you are going to get some letters.
And if you don't pay for it still, we're going to send some people over to your house in blue costumes.
And if you don't pay for it still, they're going to take you off to jail.
And so it is the initiation of force.
And that always bothered me.
And I guess it was about 2006.
I just gave up the ghost as far as that goes.
Nobody wants to go in these particular directions.
It's just principles, right?
You have to sort of hang on to your principles no matter what, right?
So if you're into the non-initiation of force, right?
That self-defense, perfectly morally legitimate, but you can't go around popping people in the head without provocation.
You can't go around stealing people's stuff.
So the non-initiation of force, and if you accept that as a principle, and if you try to get philosophy as close to like the physical sciences, physical sciences, they don't have exceptions.
You know, they say, well, this rock will fall this fast in Kazakhstan and this fast in Philadelphia.
I mean, this is universal, right?
So if you're going to go with the non-aggression principle, then the concept of government is morally illegitimate because the government is that group of people in a geographical area that initiate the use of force against others.
And some people agree with it and some people don't, but those who don't do end up being on the receiving end of force that they don't agree with.
Because I mean, if you could design a future, then everyone should put me in charge of everything.
And that wouldn't make any sense.
People build roads.
Government don't build roads.
And there's no entity called government.
It's like this big amorphous flag that goes around and lays the tarmac.
It's just people who receive money.
So I mean, if you're going to build a bunch of houses, you have to build a road there.
I mean, malls build parking lots, airports build roads.
It's not government.
It's all private.
And, you know, in a GPS, you could charge people.
You know, there's a private highway up in Canada where, you know, they take a photo of your license plate or if you have a transponder, it's even cheaper.
And they just charge you when you go on.
And however, you know, when you go off, then they charge you for that.
Yeah, I mean, technically, it's not good philosophy to have a universal called the non-aggression principle, which you and I and this fine fellow here and the listeners, we all accept, right?
We're all here voluntarily.
You don't force anyone to come to your shows.
I don't force anyone to listen to what I do.
So we all accept that at our personal level.
And that's what we teach our kids, right?
Don't hit, don't take other people's stuff, don't push, you know, all that kind of stuff.
And so if we're going to have these rules, you know, much like science, like how far can we push these rules?
Now, I think that it's kind of wrong to say, well, we have these rules, but right up to here, we'll completely abandon them and go to the opposite.
Or at least we need to acknowledge that is what's going on in society.
So if we say that the non-aggression principle is the way that we should live, well, the government is just people.
How do they get this get out of jail free card where they can do stuff that is specifically illegal for the private citizens, like print money, like take out debts on behalf of other people?
You and I can't do that.
I can't go buy a car and send you the bill.
And they can invade countries.
They can force people to pay for things.
They can incarcerate huge numbers of people, largely on a whim.
They can tell people who are doing things like drugs, which is a purely voluntary form of enjoyment and self-medication, they can throw them in jail.
I can't do that.
You can't do that.
If I want to pay for my kids' education, I don't get to walk up and down the street with a machete saying pay or die.
I mean, but this is the way that we've set up, or the way we've inherited society.
You know, that we have sort of been born into this system that is really not that well engineered and has massive flaws in it.
And it's a very good point when you talk about the reinforce the taxes, like enforcing tax laws, that you can lock people in jail for owing money.
It's one of the only times where someone gets locked in a cage because they owe money, even if you choose to pay that money.
Wesley Snipes is a perfect example, the actor, chose to not pay his taxes based on an erroneous belief.
He had this belief that the Constitution does not force you to pay taxes and that it's a misunderstanding that if you fight it in court, you would win.
He had these terrible advisors.
So he decided to not pay taxes for a long time and he made a really large sum of money.
And that is when they go after you.
When you're one of those people that is already the privileged few making an exorbitant amount of money and then you step up and say you don't have to pay taxes and you do it blatantly.
It didn't even matter if he tried to pay the money back.
They were going to lock him in jail no matter what.
They're like, this is, it's a crime.
And it's the only time it's a crime to owe money.
You know, every other time it's like we have a debt and, you know, well, you have to pay that debt off.
Like, say if I loaned you 100 bucks and we went to court and the court found out that you didn't pay me that 100 bucks, you don't go to jail.
You just have to pay me the 100 bucks.
But if you owe the government 100 bucks, they have the option to lock you in a cage.
And that to me is sort of akin to shitty parenting.
You're a strong believer in not hitting kids and not screaming at them.
And if you're tired and you're dumb and your kid doesn't want to listen, one of the best ways to get them to listen to you is violent force or fear.
Those are the best ways.
And it's been a huge problem throughout, you know, as far as recorded history.
I mean, people have been beating their kids.
People have been yelling at their kids.
People have actually even defended it.
and I think that this lazy use of force is very similar to what the government does.
It's almost like they feel like their hands are tied.
There's 350 million people they have to get money from.
What's the best way to do it?
Scare the fuck out of them.
Lock that actor in jail, that Wesley snipes.
You put him in a cage, make an example out of him.
And anybody else that steps out of line, lock them in cage, too.
Well, you know, if you're pretty intalented, sometimes people don't step up to say.
But the other thing, too, is that there are things that I find extremely morally objectionable.
Like at a skin-crawling, visceral base of the spine electrification kind of feeling.
Like, I hate the imperialism of a lot of the Western countries, particularly in America, right?
The invasions of Iraq and all that.
I find that stuff unbelievably reprehensible.
And as you can see, the entire society has disintegrated now.
I hate the war on drugs.
I really, I mean, at a very visceral, fundamental level, I think it is absolutely abhorrent and destructive.
You know, we saw some of the, I think the shakeout of that in Ferguson, Missouri recently, which I think war on drugs had a lot to do with that stuff.
And the fact that I'm forced to fund this, it goes violently against my conscience.
And I feel very helpless to not support the things that I find incredibly objectionable and incredibly destructive to particularly minorities.
It's unbelievably horrendous.
And I'd like to have the right to say no.
I really would like to have the right to say no to that kind of stuff.
There's lots.
I mean, I do charitable work and I give away my shows for free and I'm very happy to share whatever goodies I've accumulated in life with people who are less fortunate or needy.
But there's so much that goes on in the world that governments do that I find just so horrendous.
And I would really like none of the above as one of the options.
And he's got a new episode, and it's about World War I. And it goes into great detail about the massive losses that were just wrecking the French forces and the German artillery and all this shit that was going on.
And how it was becoming increasingly difficult to get people to sign up for the war, especially with the English folks trying to get them to sign up.
Like it had gotten to the point where they had lost 500,000 people, 500,000 casualties in a short period of time.
And it gets to that point where people aren't buying it anymore.
In the beginning, it was easy to coerce people into doing it by...
Yeah, they would put a white feather on you if you weren't in uniform, if you weren't a military person, you were a coward.
You were considered to be a coward.
And it was so much so that they had to kind of figure out a way to not do it because there were many people that were involved in the war effort that weren't soldiers, the people that were building munitions, the people that were making guns, and people that were involved in all sorts of different levels of government that weren't cowards in their eyes, but they were getting attacked the same way everybody else was.
It was sort of like a feeding frenzy.
And it's interesting to see, especially when you're talking about the early 1900s, essentially 100 years ago, talking about this, the use of manipulation of trying to get people to go along with war, especially back then when there was so much less information available to the average person.
Whereas today, trying to get someone to go along with war is far more difficult, far more problematic.
Well, and there's this terrible power that the government has to create money at will, which the First World War largely engendered.
And the First World War could not have been fought on the gold reserves that the countries had at the time.
It would have been over in six to 12 months.
And so right now, they could just create this money out of thin air, right?
So, I mean, the war in Iraq did not come with equivalent, the war on terror did not come with equivalent massive tax increases to pay for it because they just printed all this money.
And this messed up the economy.
It was a significant contributor to the housing crash and all of the mess that's gone on ever since then.
And so for me, it's like, well, wouldn't this make war more difficult if you had sort of privatized defense systems?
The only reason why they don't, the United States doesn't have full power of Iraq is because that was never the objective in the first place and because we abandoned it and pulled out.
I mean, their defense of the military, the United States military, was woefully ineffective.
So like saying that it's inexpensive is kind of silly.
No, no, no, I just mean it's incredibly ineffective.
Well, but the goal, at least the stated goal of the leaders of al-Qaeda was to provoke America into the same kind of war that Russia got into in Afghanistan that broke the Russian economy and collapsed their empire.
It was to get America to start waging war in a way that was much more costly to the Americans.
I mean, human side, I agree with you.
I mean, Iraq is just a complete mess.
And not just physical, but genetic damage from all of these depleted uranium shells.
They've wiped out the genetics of an entire population.
Yeah, since the first one, but even more so, I think, in the second.
But from a pure dollars and cents standpoint, their goal was get America into these unwinnable wars against these insurgents.
Because, I mean, this is what the CIA taught Bin Laden in the 80s with the Mujahideen, was go get the Russians to come in and then just keep pinging them off and pinging them off and pinging them off until they go broke.
But if we were invaded like that in this anarchist version of society, what would you do?
I mean, you obviously couldn't force your version of society on other people.
If you have dictatorships like, say, North Korea or something along those lines that has a strong military power and decided to invade, what do you do in an anarchist society?
Well, okay, so they've located it, and it's like, even if it hasn't been extracted, it's like, we're not going to let anybody else go over and control that area because you're talking about massive, massive amounts of money and resources.
Well, it sort of remains then to be seen because if the argument is, well, they went in for the resources, they've been in there for, what, 12 years now?
And if they still haven't extracted the resources, that argument, I think it's much more around Halliburton and the military-industrial complex making a huge amount of money by basically picking the pockets of the unborn through inflation and debt.
So I think that's much more immediate.
I don't think that's like a 12 or 15-year plan to get the resources.
I think that's maybe something that's in the back pocket, but I think they really make money off the Fed.
Okay, so I mean, Germany would generally invade countries, though, when they invade Czechoslovakia and Austria and France and so on, they invaded and took over the tax base so that they got all the tax money and they got the gold and all that.
So if there's no tax structure, then it's less profitable to invade and take over a country.
It's not a final argument.
That's sort of one thing.
It's sort of like if you've got two areas that you're thinking of taking over, one of them is a farm and the other one is just a forest with nothing there.
You'd want to take over the farm because everyone's already domesticated and there's already a system of production.
So the farm is like the government system where the human livestock, the tax livestock, already domesticated, the whole system of payment is all set up and so on.
So it's more profitable usually if you want to just get money and resources to go into an existing country with a state.
To go into a country without a state, it's tougher.
You can still do it, but you don't have that farm domestication production system all set up for you to take over.
The second thing is that nuclear weapons generally mean you don't get invaded.
I mean, why did Europe suddenly find kumbaya, you know, let's hold hands and be peaceful after 10 billion years of warfare?
Because they got nuclear weapons in the post-Second World War period.
And with nuclear weapons, suddenly it's like, blessed are the peacemakers.
So, of course, you know, if you get a couple of nukes, then you're most likely not going to be able to do that.
I mean, because, and this is what I was making the beef at with Anna as well, something needs to be done going to say, therefore, we need a coercive redistributionistic state, is, to me, sort of similar to saying, well, where do we come from?
Well, God made us.
It's not really much of an answer, right?
So yes, you'll need nukes.
Now, running a nuke for a population of any kind of size, having a couple of nukes, will cost you like five bucks a year, $10 a year, for everyone to chip in.
People will generally do that.
People tip waiters, right?
I mean, you've worked in nightclubs, the waiters start starving and emaciated, right?
So people will generally pay for things that can be shown have value to them.
Well, but whether or not, right, when you have a bunch of people who all have governments invading each other, there's kind of an unwritten rule which says don't target the leaders because they don't want that to happen.
On the other hand, an anarchic society is perfectly comfortable targeting leaders, which would really be the best thing to do.
I would much rather target a leader and disable that person or even kill them if that leader was initiating aggression against a free society.
Well, but that is to not view certain aspects of the state as the bad guys.
So to me, I think there's better ways to protect my property than giving people the right to take half of it away at gunpoint.
That doesn't seem sort of logical.
And I don't know how it's going to go, but let me give you an analogy.
And I've used this before, and I'll keep it brief.
But we've learned how to do without evil and problematic institutions before.
I mean, the institution of slavery, obviously, was central throughout human history, all throughout the world, for all of human history that has ever been known or recorded.
So like 100,000 years, basically, people had slaves.
And then there was a crazy bunch of people who came along and said this stuff is wrong and bad and so on.
And people spent a lot of time and energy and money to end slavery.
And now we have, I think, some fantastic benefits from that.
You know, we have, I mean, obviously a more moral society.
We have better economic efficiency and all that kind of slaves was very inefficient.
So we do end the subjugation of women and things like that.
Like there's things where we've said, or serfdom or bondage for debt.
There's things that we've done away with that haven't created necessarily the same kind of power vacuum.
Like when we get away with things from a moral standpoint, there usually isn't a power vacuum.
If there's some decapitation of power without principles behind it, then people rush in to fix it.
But I think we're not done yet as a species.
I think we have more to go.
And I think the question of the state is one that we really need to examine.
So if you were to say to somebody in like the 17th century, you say, okay, wait a second, almost like basically all agricultural productivity is done by slaves.
So if you get rid of slaves, what's going to happen?
Right?
And if I were to say to you, oh man, I got a great idea.
Here's how it's going to work.
We're going to have these giant robots that go sweeping through the fields, which have the energy of a thousand horses, and they run on the crushed tree juice from the dinosaur era.
And you'd say, what the hell are you talking about?
That's impossible.
It makes no sense.
It could never happen.
But that is what happened.
We get these giant combine harvests that run on gasoline and oil that comes out of crushed trees from hundreds of millions of years ago.
So what happens when you get rid of an immoral institution is unguessable.
We don't know.
It used to be, because you'd say, well, look, 80% of people are involved in farming.
So if you're going to get rid of slaves, first of all, nobody's going to pick the crops because it's unpleasant work or whatever.
And 80% of people will, you know, 40% of them will be out of a job.
But now, like, 2% of people are involved in farming because we got rid of slavery and it became much more efficient to invest in machinery rather than maintain the value of slaves by relying on manual labor.
So what I'm saying Is we focus on the principles.
The non-initiation of force is, I think, a universal principle.
What happens on the other side of that is absolutely unguessable.
It's like saying what a phone's going to be like in 200 years.
So, you're saying that the most important thing is to get rid of what is essentially a corrupt and evil institution, get rid of that, and then figure it out?
I don't feel like it's perfect, but it's more order than chaos.
So I don't think that it's ideal.
No, absolutely not.
But is it some form of an order?
Clearly.
It's flawed.
Clearly.
I don't like the tax scenario.
I mean, the tax situation is grotesque.
I mean, the idea of being forced to pay money for crimes against humanity in other countries, which is essentially what when you see thousands of people that are innocents that got killed by drones, a million innocents killed in Iraq.
If that's not a crime against humanity, what is a crime against humanity?
If millions of people dying isn't a crime against humanity, what's a crime against humanity?
I don't, well, clearly slavery was a crime against humanity.
Taking people, locking them up, making them work against their will, selling them as objects, as property.
Abolishing that is not the same as abolishing any form of government.
It was a foundation for all of human society all the way throughout history, and it was central.
It was central to how the economy worked.
Like, why was there no Industrial Revolution in the ancient Greek and Roman civilizations?
They'd even discovered the steam engine.
They knew all about this stuff.
Why?
Why was there no Industrial Revolution, which was really the basis of all the wealth we have now?
Because they had slaves.
And so when you buy a bunch of slaves, you don't want to invest in labor-saving machinery.
You have to get rid of slavery in order for machinery to do the work of slaves or of human beings, because then it becomes cost-efficient and cost-effective.
So it's central to how societies self-organize.
Slavery was as central, I would argue, to historical societies as government is.
It's how everything was done.
You know, there's an old story about Rome where one guy, one patrician was saying, I don't know, I do some bizarre upper-class Roman accent.
We can't put yellow tags on the slaves, otherwise they'll see how many there are and how few we are.
Right?
So like 70, 80% of the population in some cultures were slaves.
And so it was as central to the ancient world and to a lot of the modern societies up until sort of the 17th, 18th century as government is to now.
And it's as incomprehensible for them to think post-slavery as it is for us to think post-state.
But the moral principles, I think, have to win out rather than consequentialism, like, because we can't possibly guess what will happen in terms of spontaneous self-organization when you get rid of the coercion of the state.
The problem with your analogy, though, is that during the same time that the South had slavery, the North had abolished slavery, and the North was prospering.
So they were coexisting.
So there was not, not only was there a clear example of a profitable, forward-moving society without slavery, it was connected on the same continental mass.
I mean, it was a part of North America.
It was the country.
It was even a part of the actual Union.
They were trying to secede, but they had, I mean, the North had no slavery, and they had excellent cities, and they had buildings, and they were building ships, and it was all done through paid labor.
Whereas at the same time, the South had slavery.
I saw something that I thought was really fascinating that you argued, and you argued that the South should have been allowed to secede, and if the North wanted the slaves to be freed, they should have purchased them from the South.
Yeah, so if the government stops catching the slaves, then it's not cost-efficient to keep them.
You have to socialize that cost.
And of course, the government, in the South, the government forced white people to go on slave patrols all the time, or they'd throw them in jail, right?
Wouldn't it be required that they would agree to that, though?
I mean, what if they didn't want to give up their free labor?
I mean, the whole idea was you're saying that the reason why certain societies did not advance past a certain position was because they relied on slavery.
And if you come along and you say, hey, we're going to buy all the slaves from the South, what if they say no?
We want to keep our free labor.
It's more profitable for us to keep these slaves and make them work.
I mean, didn't they just fly over like giant crates full of $100 bills and basically just throw them into the wind?
I mean, they just, like, huge amounts of cash itself just went there.
But that's the big lesson of history, is that once you let slip the dogs of war, you don't know who they're going to take down.
You don't know how long it's going to last.
You don't know what the blowback's going to be.
That's one of the big lessons is that there's very few examples of contained wars and very few examples of wars that match the expectations of people going in.
Oh, I'd love to be this giant museum of everything that happened.
So the arguments, I think, are pretty strong that it would have been much cheaper to simply buy them.
The other option, of course, is that you let them secede and you let them have their slaves, and then the North gets more and more prosperous, and the South generally stays or becomes less and less prosperous relative to it.
I mean, if there's anything that as a person with morals and ethics, a person that wants the human race to advance and evolve, if there's anything that you would want to stop, it would be slavery.
That's one of the first things.
First, you know, abuse of children, child slavery.
Yeah, and I mean, I would like, I think there's a way, like I never advocate violence with regards to the state.
It's something we outgrow.
It's something we reason about.
It's something we discuss.
It's something we look for alternatives for.
And you can see a lot of these things showing up even in Detroit.
There's private police forces now because the police have basically said, you know, if you call and you get an answering machine, you're lucky, right?
I mean, the police have basically abandoned sections of Detroit.
There are wild dogs going through there.
People have set up their own bus systems where you can have a beer and there's Wi-Fi on them.
I mean, there's lots of things that rush in to take the place of decaying or diminishing state systems.
And it's just something we outgrow over time through a conversation.
And it is a multi-generational change.
It's not going to happen anytime soon.
But I do think that we're still a long way from done as far as a really great society goes.
And I look at the biggest institutions around, and I think that everything's open to question.
I think you do as well.
But I just, I can't sort of say, well, what's on the other side of a truly free society where people are not subject to the initiation of force known as the state?
I like having these conversations in this sort of a form where we're bouncing these ideas back and forth, and we admit we don't know, and there are possibilities.
When you do your videos, however, you're doing these essentially these hour-long pieces, and you're very eloquent.
You're a very good speaker.
And it's very unusual how eloquent you are because you don't use ums or uhs.
They're not, these aren't essentially black and white issues.
And when you state them as if they are black and white issues, that's what opens up all these portals of debate and dissent.
And there's just, there's quite a few places online where people are upset at you and quite a few things that you have said in these hour-long, eloquent pieces that people have vehemently opposed.
I wouldn't say Troll is going to poison the well, right?
There was a fellow out there, I think he's a man, a gentleman of trolley persuasion.
And he, I do these call-in shows, so people call and we talk about sort of philosophy and ideas and whatever, right?
And he had gotten some of those calls, and through means I don't pretend to understand, he had, you know, doxing where you start revealing people's personal information.
And then someone took that slice of our conversation and worked like crazy to try and find everything out about Bob and then published videos with pictures of Bob.
And pretty personal.
So look, everybody uses my stuff and I don't care about it.
And you can do a search on YouTube for my stuff.
And everybody, and everybody who said, I'd really like to reuse your stuff, I'm like, hey, go for it, right?
But we had a number of listeners who called in and said, listen, this guy's doing some pretty creepy stuff with my personal info here.
I'm not comfortable with it.
So we used that mechanism to take that down.
It's got nothing to do with copyright or anything like that.
I just felt that listeners were being acted against in a negative way, significantly negative way.
So that's what we did.
But it's nothing to do with copyright or anything like that.
It's a scare tactic to try and get people to not call into my show.
Like, so we'll target people who try to call into your show, and then we will start trying to find out personal information about them and so on.
And it's only one or two people, and it's only happened once, but that's why we did that.
That's why Mike decided to do that thing on YouTube, which I fully agree with.
I think it's a terrible use of time, and it's a negative thing to do.
And so, no.
But people, I mean, if I was interested in taking down people who use my stuff, then why on earth would there be so many of my videos reposted all over YouTube?
Do you think that maybe part of the problem with your perception, the public perception of you, is that you don't engage in these kind of conversations where you're allowed to elaborate and you're questioned on things and people get to see a more nuanced perspective?
Instead of this hour-long echo chamber where you do these videos, it's your thoughts.
Bang, bang, bang, bang, bang.
Thank you.
Good night.
You know, it's like there's a bit that I've done about on stage where it's amazing that you can get someone to sit down and listen to you talk for an hour.
Because most of the times when people are talking, they're having a conversation.
It's a very unnatural form to have a long rant or a lecture.
It's a fairly recent thing in human history, right?
And that most of the time when people are talking for an hour, you're like, fuck, I got some shit to say too.
Isn't that what's kind of going on with a lot of the criticism against you?
Well, no, but see, I do six to seven hours of call-in shows a week, right?
So I am not like a, it's not like a one-way street in what it is that I do.
Right.
And we've had a standing policy for, I think, three years that if you have a criticism of me, you go to the front of the line.
I mean, we're booking people into the winter now who want to talk on this show on Free Domain Radio.
People are booked up until November.
But if you have a criticism of me, you get to the front.
You bump everyone.
You get to the front of the line.
So as far as people who have issues with me or disagree with things that I say or have better reason and evidence, fantastic.
I mean, I've done entire shows where I've read out somebody's criticisms of me and things that I got wrong and all that.
I am very open to correction.
Lord knows.
I mean, I'm one human being with some researchers and all that.
So yeah, mistakes are made and I've admitted to mistakes that I've made in researching and so on.
But if people want to tell me that I'm doing something wrong or want to debate with me, they get to the very front of the line every time, but they just never really show up.
There's one time in sort of an eight-year show history where I said to someone, I think you need to not have these people in your life, and that's because he was suicidal.
But there is a principle that is, I think, really important, right?
And it is part of a long-term conversation that you have with people.
So let's say that I like to smoke marijuana.
Let's just go out on a limb here.
Say I like to smoke marijuana.
Now, people who support the war on drugs literally do support me being thrown in jail for the peaceful activity of smoking marijuana.
Now, that's a very real thing.
People who support the war on drugs support me being thrown in jail.
And that is a pretty aggressive thing to have around you.
Now, this doesn't mean, oh, you disagree with me.
I'm never going to talk to you again.
I talk all the time to people who disagree with me.
But I will say that in my very personal relationships, in sort of my close friends and family and so on, I really can't, myself, I can't get past this idea that if I have people in my life who say, Steph, if you disagree with me about the welfare state, I think the welfare state is a complete disaster and incredibly destructive to the poor, then you must pay the taxes for the welfare state, or I support you being thrown in jail.
Or if people are pro of the war in Iraq, or say, I mean, I'm Canadian, but let's say I was in America, and if people say to me, Steph, I think you should be thrown in jail for not supporting the war in Iraq.
Well, that would be a pretty aggressive action for somebody to sort of eyeball you and say, yes, people should come and throw you in jail where god-awful things are going to happen to you.
That to me is a very aggressive and very real thing that happens.
And if you are committed to a belief system, then in the long run, again, this is not a short-term scenario, and I've done speeches, full speeches, there's one in Libertopia 2010 where I sort of go into this in more detail.
But if you are committed to something, like let's say you're against racism, which is of course a wonderful thing to be against, at some point, if you've got friends in the KKK, you got to make a choice.
You have to make a choice.
If you say, well, I really want the friends in the KKK, then fine, then you're just not that much of an anti-racist.
I get it, right?
But if you say, well, I want to be a committed anti-racist and I want to maintain my friendships in the KKK, that's kind of a problem.
And so I say, look, if you want to hang around with a bunch of people who want you thrown in jail for following your conscience, do it.
That's completely fine.
But don't say that you're committed to the belief system, then, right?
If you are committed to the belief system, this is going to be a collision at some point.
I mean, that's not something I'm making up.
That seems to me to be pretty true, but that's sort of where people, I think, get upset.
I think what you're saying is very reasonable and makes a lot of sense.
But the video that I saw was you talking about people that support the state saying that if you support the state, you support people that want you dead.
But in the video that I watched, you were going on and on about cutting people out of your life that support the state.
And essentially, this idea of this philosophy that you have about how to live life being the one that these people should espouse and everything else is dangerous and you should cut these people out of your life.
Well, was that at the end of me making the argument?
I mean, if that's sort of, if somebody just takes sort of the tail end, right?
So I sort of gave you the argument here that if you're an anti-racist, at some point, you've got to stop hanging with the KKK people or give up on your anti-racism.
You call up the people you know and you say, I've got a question to ask you.
I know it's going to be uncomfortable.
And you know something about my beliefs.
And I don't mean to put you in the...
I'll put you on the spot, but you kind of got a gun against my temple, so I just wanted to talk about that.
I know we've talked a lot about all the abstract things in the universe, but I want to ask you a question directly, and it's better to talk to people face to face.
It's harder to point a gun at somebody face to face, even in an abstract manner.
And talk to them face to face.
Go sit down with them in a coffee shop and say.
So I just want to understand the basis of our relationship.
So you claim to have some affection for me, some love for me, some respect for me, or whatever.
You assume there's something positive in the relationship.
And you say to them, sitting across from them, you say, excuse me, you say, do you support the use of violence against me?
And they'll, of course, oh, no, of course not.
It's like, oh, okay, so then we're on the same ground.
So you don't support the use of violence just against me, or do you support the use of violence against everyone except me?
It's like, no, I don't support the use of violence against anyone.
It's like, well, then you must be an anarchist or an anarcho-capitalist or voluntarist or whatever the hell.
And they will do whatever they can to disconnect these two things, theory and practice.
So they can get all the emotional comforts of conformity with the theory, but none of the emotional discomforts of actually advocating somebody getting shot, which people are relatively uncomfortable with.
But don't let them have their cake and eat it, too.
That's not because you're mean, it's just reality.
If you support me getting shot, at least have the courage, the balls, to look me in the eye and say, Steph, I support you getting shot.
And then I can get you the fuck out of my life.
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Because how can I have even a shred of self-esteem?
And if we're not willing to do that, like if we're not willing to put our personal relationships to the test, if we're not willing to do that, if we're not willing to do that, that's fine.
Nobody has to do anything.
But don't imagine you have anything to do with libertarianism.
Don't imagine that you have anything to do with virtue.
Are you using these ideas to play the clever card, to play the cool card, to play the alternative card, to play the I'm smarter and know more than you, and I'm out of the matrix, and you're in the matrix, and they play all this nonsense.
Don't try and use philosophy.
Don't try and use philosophy.
Don't try and use ethics for your own personal comfort and to feel superior and avoid the anxiety of asking people that basic central question, which you yourself bring up.
You yourself bring this question up about taxation as violence.
As the initiation of the use of laws, you bring it up.
Other people don't bring this to the conversation.
They want to figure out how to keep schools in order, roads in order, law enforcement in order.
That's what they're trying to do.
They might be doing a really shitty job of it, but the idea that they want you dead, they don't want their population dead.
If everyone was dead, there'd be no money, there'd be no life, there'd be no civilization.
In my opinion, that's not an effective way to phrase that, and it's leading, misleading, in fact, because it's not the goal of the state is to kill you.
You keep saying the state wants you dead.
That's an unfair way of describing their position.
That's how it's different from a restaurant or the Boy Scouts.
I mean, at the bottom of what the state does is a gun that is the initiation of force.
That is the upside-down pyramid that it rests on is a bullet.
And so when people say, I want the government to do this or the government should do that, what they're saying is that violence, the initiation of violence, is how we're going to solve this problem.
And that initiation of violence goes against specific individuals.
And so if you're for the war on drugs and I enjoy using drugs, then you want force to be used against me.
You want people to come and use force against me to prevent me doing my peaceful activity.
And that is, I mean, stripped of all the rhetoric and all of the flag waving and all of the matrix-y stuff that goes on that we're raised with, law is an opinion with a gun.
Do you think that it could be perhaps said in a way that more illuminates that position rather than this continuing use of this phrase, they want you dead.
They want you dead.
And then you separate from the people that support people that want you dead.
Because that's one of the things that people are worried about with you is that they think that you have this main principle that you bring up about cutting people out of your life.
Cutting family members out of your life.
Cutting people out of your life that disagree with your views on the state.
Cutting people out of your life that disagree.
And by doing that, you're separating these folks from their friends.
And that that is the foundation of cults.
That is a big part of cults, is that cults separate you from your friends that might disagree with the cult, separate you from your loved ones, separate you from your family that may have some sort of a control and bond over you, so that the cult can have more control over you.
It's not, there's no sort of effect or intent in that particular thing.
It is a true statement.
If people are concerned about being separated from families, they should be a hell of a lot more concerned about the war on drugs than anything some internet podcaster is saying.
You know, as well as I do, how many families are smashed up by the war on drugs.
So if somebody is for the war on drugs, then they are for people getting ripped out of their homes, separated from their children, thrown in prison.
That smashes up families.
If people are for family cohesion, which, you know, I'm married, I have a child and love it.
If they're for family cohesion, they should be against the military-industrial complex, which separates people from their families, sends them overseas, gets them traumatized, has them come back, dumps them back in with very little support into society as a whole.
If people are very much into family cohesion, then forcing parents to pay for government schools where parents and children are separated from each other for seven or eight hours a day, that is a significant issue.
So I'm sort of a little baffled sometimes when people say, when I say, look, if you're going to take a committed stand on a moral issue, at some point your personal relationships are going to have to become part of that equation.
Now, if you don't want to take a committed stand on a moral issue, that's perfectly fine.
And I said that right there in the video.
Then give up this philosophy if you want to keep your relationships.
That's perfectly fine.
But if you do want to take a moral stand on an issue, then at some point your personal relationships are going to be part of the equation.
Otherwise, you're kind of a hypocrite, right?
You're saying, well, this is a non-aggression principle that's really important to me.
But all the people who want me thrown in jail for following my conscience, well, that's okay.
Well, no, but you see, again, in this clip that you played, I said, when you sit down with that person, you say, I've talked about this for years, right?
So, at some point, people do have to get down to the essence of what's being talked about when we talk about the state.
And what is being talked about fundamentally, in essence, is the initiation of force.
It is the only agency in society that is able to initiate the use of force and do that which is illegal for private citizens to do.
And that is a great and deep, and I argue, terrible power in the world.
It gets, like...
If I was...
I don't mean to pull the J-card, but let's just say Jewish, right?
But let's say that somebody was talking about Holocaust is not a big deal, or who cares, right?
And this is an extreme example, and obviously it's contentious.
But at some point, if somebody was a Holocaust denier, and I would at some point have to say, look, I mean, this is really not acceptable.
I mean, we can't, right?
Or I can say, well, I'm not, you know, for reality or truth or Judaism or anything like that anymore.
That is the reality of having a committed moral principle.
If you are in the 18th century and you are for the end of slavery and everyone around you is like, I think slavery is a necessary immoral institution.
And you had years of conversation with them about the moral reality and you've shown them the pictures.
In the 20th century alone, Joe, governments murdered a quarter of a billion human beings, not including war.
A quarter of a billion human beings, 250 million human beings were murdered by governments in the 20th century.
That is some serious shit that goes down.
That is like, I don't even know how many holocausts, right?
And so people who support the state, and I'm talking about after years of conversation, right?
Because it takes a long time to change these paradigms.
But at some point, if you are committed to a moral goal, then people who are happy or comfortable or positive or pro the initiation of force against you in pursuit of that moral goal, I think that I cannot have people in my life who are going to, after I have explained it and after they have agreed with the general principles, as I said in the clip that you just played, I can't have those people in my life.
I can't have people in my life who want me thrown in jail for following my conscience.
Yeah, again, we're back to this question of support.
I don't think that enforced compliance could be support.
Otherwise, you know, rape, there's no such thing as rape, because if the woman's not fighting back, right, obviously it's, you know, a terrible situation.
So no, I just, all I require is for people to say it is coercion, and I think it's wrong.
That's all.
I mean, nobody has to do anything, because I think that once everybody gets that, then evil is a very tough thing to fight because most people, like once someone identifies something as evil, it's usually done.
Like once immorality is clear to people, it's usually over and done with.
Like that's why nobody says, let's bring back slavery, because everybody recognizes what a social immorality it is.
So it has no power, which had huge power throughout most of history.
Slavery now has no power.
Or let's say, let's take away the rights of women.
Nobody suggests that, because it would be wrong.
But it was throughout a lot of history that was how a lot of societies functioned.
So once people see immorality for what it is, It loses all of its power and society fundamentally changes.
That's why all I want is for people to see what I call the gun in the room.
That when people are talking about the state, they are at the bottom talking about the use of violence, in the initiation of violence.
If people see that, then that is, I think, that and peaceful parenting is the very best way to bring about a peaceful change.
Revolutions suck.
I mean, I think maybe three times in human history, they ended up with something better.
Most times, it's just terrible.
And of course, most people who do follow the state follow the state just as I did and approve of and appraise the state because that's how they're raised.
And that's, you know, so it takes years of conversations to change people's minds.
But at some point, you know, again, committed to all people have to say is they reject the use of force against me.
Yeah, I think that the issue that people have with it is this stern stance of cutting folks out of your life.
I mean, that seems to come up over and over again in the criticisms of you, is this idea of cutting family members out of your life, cutting your parents out of your life, and that, you know, even people that have thought that they had happy relationships with their family, you don't believe they're happy relationships, and you don't believe that these people, you essentially have talked about childhood in a lot of folks as being like a prison Well, I mean, technically it kind of is.
Yeah, I don't think I would ever describe it as a prison.
I think I would more describe it as someone developing and more of like, you know, a scenario where you're mentoring and raising them and protecting them and then slowly nurturing them to the point where they're independent.
No, and I can't remember if and where and when I've said anything like that, but I mean, I obviously am a parent and I've been a stay-at-home parent for five and a half years now.
So essentially what you're saying is that your idealistic view, your utopian view must be and somehow acted upon.
And that if you have this idea of what is correct, what is morally correct, what is ethically correct, what is the best way to live your life, if there are any impediments to that that you are enforcing or even nurturing, you need to remove them from your life.
Impediments to progress.
I think there's a certain amount of real momentum that we are raised with.
I think many of us, I can give you my own personal example.
We were raised by people who were raised by people who really didn't know much.
And a lot of how we developed and a lot of how we were taught around the home was by people that really didn't, they weren't aware of the consequences of their actions.
They were essentially acting on the momentum of how they were raised and also what is convenient.
They're working all day.
They're tired.
They want you to shut the fuck up.
And so they yell at you to shut the fuck up.
And is it that they're evil or is it that they didn't really know what the fuck they were doing?
And I think that taking a stand to do things differently is incredibly important.
And if you have grandparents or parents or whatever that are destructive to your children or they give your children, put bad thoughts in their heads or teach them that what you're saying is incorrect and that these ethics and morals that you're teaching them that you feel so strongly about are in fact against the Bible.
I could see cutting those types of folks out of your life.
I honestly can see that.
But I think people have a problem with you saying it because you're so charismatic, because you're so eloquent, because when I hear someone talk that talks better than me, I assume that person's smarter than me.
I want to listen to that person more than I want to listen to my own mind because most people's minds are filled with doubt and insecurity.
And it's one of the reasons why cults get formed in the first place.
If someone can talk clearly and confidently, and I say this with all knowledge that I've been accused of fucking starting my own cult, all right?
I'm not any sort of a leader whatsoever.
What I am is entirely a person who's curious and who asks questions, and I give advice based on what I have learned about myself.
And I try to be as open and honest about all my flaws and all the mistakes that I've made, totally in the interest of disclosure so that other people can learn from the mistakes that I've made without having to make them yourself.
But I think that when people hear that, this idea of cutting people off, defooing, as you call it, cutting people off, it makes them nervous.
And furthermore, I strongly suggest, and I've been to therapy myself and I think it's a wonderful discipline.
If you get a great therapist, I have consistently said: if you have problems with your parents, sit down with them and talk about them.
Screw the philosophy.
Screw this, you know, all this other stuff we've been talking about, the state and so on, right?
If you have issues with your parents, like if they beat you up or if they never paid any attention to you, sit down and talk with them and air your grievances.
Because you have to be honest in relationships if you're going to have a relationship.
And have conversations with them and talk with them.
If the abuse escalates, if it gets worse, try and continue to have the conversation until you just can't take it anymore.
If you're considering family separation, talk to a therapist.
And don't do it without a therapist.
It's been my consistent mantra for eight years.
Go talk to a therapist and make sure a therapist reviews the whole situation with you, goes with you through the whole process.
Now, that's a heck of a lot more than women who are being abused by their husbands usually get in terms of advice, right?
But as far as I know it, the people who have left their families have done so under the care of a therapist, which, you know, I think is really essential and important because it is a challenging thing to do.
And as I said at the beginning of the show, Joe, I mean, it's all about principles.
It's all about the extension of principles.
Women who were abused by their husbands chose those relationships for bad reasons, obviously, and probably for own personal histories of abuses, children, and so on.
Women who chose their husbands are in those relationships voluntarily and can leave at any time and have massive support systems around in the world to leave.
Now, when you're a child, you really can't leave your parents.
I mean, that's why I think I've jokingly referred to it as like a prison because you can't leave.
You can't get out.
Now, if you were abused by your parents when you're a child, you couldn't leave.
You couldn't get out.
I mean, where are you going to go?
And so then if you become an adult and the behavior has not reformed and the parents are still negative or difficult or abusive, absolutely sit down and air your grievances with them.
If they continue to be abusive, you don't have to stay.
Fdrurl.com slash BIB is my presentation on the Bomb in the Brain, where I go through what's called the Adverse Childhood Experiences, which is a test developed by Dr. Vincent Folidi, who's also been on my show.
And I think it's a nine or 11-part questionnaire about things that you experienced as a child that are considered to be abusive.
So being beaten, not receiving proper medical care or food or shelter, and living with a family member who is incarcerated or mentally ill or addicted to various substances and so on.
So there is pretty objective questions out there.
You know, how comprehensive?
I didn't develop them.
I haven't obviously vetted them compared to what I don't, excuse me, I don't know.
But there are sort of standards out there by which people can sort of find out to some degree whether or not they have experienced abuse as a child.
They had some questions about the podcast, and at the end of it, they said, listen, we thought that maybe you had been given advice without giving a full psychological question or workup.
The quote that I had written down was that she had been told her statements in support of defoing are not supported by current professional or consistent with… The final result was that defooing is perfectly consistent with best psychological practices.
It's not the adult children who are complaining about this.
It's the parents.
What would you expect?
I mean, if you promote voluntarism in relationships and then people go to a therapist and, you know, like I was, I think, I don't know, 2000 and whatever it was, years and years ago, there was some write-up in the newspapers about some guy who left his family.
He was, a therapist was helping him through the whole process.
And the therapist was recommending it.
And the therapist was the one who was helping him through the process.
But somehow, it's the podcast in Canada that is the sole cause of all this stuff.
Well, I certainly think there's arguments for cutting people out of your life.
Whether it's a sister or a brother or a mother or a father, there are abusive people that you are unfortunately just given a relationship with.
You don't choose them, they are just a part of your life.
And I think it certainly can be argued that an engineered life where you choose the people in your life and you choose the positive influences that you have can be more rewarding, more satisfying, more beneficial than being committed to this blood is thicker than water bullshit where you have a bunch of people in your life that are fucking assholes.
I think that in illuminating it like this and speaking about it in this sort of a form where you get a chance to go back and forth with someone, people will get a better idea of your point of view and your perspective on it.
And it's really easy to look at what you've said and say, oh, this guy's fucking starting a cult.
This guy's telling people, cut everybody out.
If you support the state, cut them out of your life.
Cut everybody out.
If your mom yelled at you to do your homework and called you a loser, cut her out of your life.
Everybody, cut out.
Come to me, send me your money.
Get in my inner circle.
I need about 50 bucks a month.
Come to my house.
We're going to have powwows.
We're going to sit around the campfire and I'll wax eloquently while you all stare and amaze me.
Every philosopher throughout history, and I'm not trying to put myself in such illustrious company, but every philosopher throughout history has been accused of corrupting the young.
I mean, if you're not accused of that, you're just not even in the remotely right now.
There is, without a doubt, there's problems with the society at large, and many of the problems are because it has not been engineered in a very ethical or moral way.
It's been engineered out of convenience, it's been engineered out of momentum, it's been engineered by the ignorance of the past.
Plus, we've got this brain that's like, you know, it's like the lizard bit, and then there's like a bit above the lizard, there's an amphibian, and then we've got this monkey, and now we're trying to operate on this like post-monkey beta expansion pack of the frontal cortex, which is all layered on crap, and it's, you know, it's kind of unwieldy.
We evolved from some pretty primitive life forms, and it's not like that stuff's all vanished, which is actually quite a good thing.
Well, all these discussions and these conversations and these heated debates, what they essentially do is they bring up very important points and they allow people to give opinions and bounce ideas back and forth.
And that's very important.
And that's one of the major things that society benefits from when it comes to philosophy.
Why do you think there's been this blowback against you then?
Why do you think people take these clips out of context, put them up and make it look like...
But people love to take someone's jokes, take the words in quotes and put them down in text form completely out of context.
And some of the things that people say look absolutely horrible because of that.
And that that's not exactly what they're doing with you, but they're doing they're trying to label you in a certain way and trying to label you as a destructive influence.
The reason why the culinary union is against the UFC is the UFC is owned by Zufa.
Zufa, the parent company of the UFC, also owns station casinos.
Station casinos, there's 20-plus station casinos, and they are non-union.
So the culinary union does not control them.
They don't reap benefits and rewards and money from them.
It would be worth upwards of, according to many sources, more than $15 million a year.
So they spend exorbitant amounts of money to make the UFC look terrible, to highlight anything that any fighter says that's politically incorrect and harp upon it and pay off politicians to keep it out of New York State.
That's the last place where it's illegal.
But it's also just New York is a deeply rooted corrupt institution.
I mean, it's showing it.
I mean, some of the people that have commented on the UFC, they've done so with complete disregard to the truth, to the facts of the competition itself, to the laws and the regulations and the safety record of the UFC.
I mean, their distorted perceptions or the distorted depictions, rather, of the mixed martial arts have been just grossly inaccurate and willfully.
And they've done so because they were being paid to do that.
Yeah, so something the UFC is doing is to their perception negative to their interests, and therefore they become very hostile towards The UFC.
Now, this doesn't mean that everyone who's upset with me is in this category.
I'm sure there's many legitimate reasons to have a negative opinion of me, but I think that the people who are the most upset are the people who, their adult children, listen to my show, and I said, just as everyone has been telling women for 50 years, I said, you don't have to put up with abuse.
But you should sit down, talk to your parents, and you should get a therapist if you're going to think about separating.
So you think it's just people that are like the parents of these people that are separating that are pissed off at you because you're challenging the rule that they have over their children?
And so it's not a huge mystery to me as to what their identity is.
Now, the other thing to remember is that I don't have a lot of shows about this.
I've done 3,000 shows, of which three or four have been me talking about this topic.
So this is not any kind of central focus of what it is.
It's just if people ask me where the principles apply, I have to say where I think the principles apply, and I have to provide my arguments.
So this is not a big topic for me.
I understand, of course, it's a big topic for other people.
And so if you have, if you are a parent and your child has had significant issues with you, that child has grown up, that child has listened to me, and they have sat down and like if I have any influence over someone, then what they should do, let's say, is do what I say, which is sit down, talk with your parents, try and work things out, remember that adult relationships are voluntary, and engage with a therapist if you're thinking of separating.
If people listen to me, then that's what they'll do.
Like if somebody just says, well, I listen to three podcasts and I walked right out of my family, then that's not me because they're not doing what I recommend then, right?
So if I have influence, by definition, then the onus shifts to the parents and the therapist, right?
Because that's what I'm saying.
Go talk to your parents and engage with the therapist if you're thinking of family separation.
It's what I did.
And so if I have influence, then it shifts to the parents because people are, quote, doing what I tell them to do and going to talk to their parents.
And then the onus shifts to the therapist because I say, go and don't do this.
Don't even think of doing any of this without a therapist.
I'd recommend that in divorce and stuff like that too.
I think it's beneficial in those situations.
So the people who have hate-ons, well, I mean, they, if they have- Is that like a hard-on with hate?
So, I don't know, but I assume it involves fly-high leather boots and lacks on the nipples and stuff like that.
But yeah, so if your kids came to you when they're adults and they say, listen, I had all these problems, and you didn't listen, and you got angry, and you escalate, and they went to a therapist, and the therapist said, wow, this is a really toxic relationship.
You should try and get out.
Well, is it easier?
They can't even find the therapist probably, right?
Who's the easiest person to target?
And by definition, if they're just pouring hate and vitriol on me, is it really that surprising as to why their kids might not want to be in their lives?
Like, if this is what they do in response to a challenge, is they just create hate sites and pour all this venom and scour around and manipulate and cut things out of context.
And like, then maybe this is something to do with why their kids aren't in their lives.
Well, I think as this thing went down with Adam Corolla, and then Adam was criticized by Anna, and Anna was criticized by you, I think part of the issue is when people communicate in essentially an echo chamber, there's one person talking for long periods of time, and you could take any one of those chunks and decide this is something you want to highlight, and out of the context of the entire conversation, you might be able to manipulate it and make it look in a way that it's entirely negative.
Your position, however, what you're saying now on this podcast, obviously I haven't listened to all your shows.
I've seen many of your things online, but I haven't listened to...
Quite honestly, I don't think I've ever listened to any of your positions on defooing with your family.
Everything I've gotten from is just communicating with you and then reading the criticisms of it.
But your position on this podcast, I think, is very difficult to argue.
I'm glad we're talking about it because I think it's important sometimes to give people an opportunity.
Like, I've had people email me, like, why are you friends with Stefan Molyneux?
That guy's a dick.
And I'm like, like, Peter Joseph, fucking very upset at you.
Peter Joseph, the P. Joe.
I like that guy.
I think he's got some great ideas, but he was very upset with you as well.
But whatever.
That's not important.
I think that it's important to have these kind of conversations.
I think I need to have them, too, with people, too, where I go over my own ideas.
You know, when you have someone disagree with you, where you get a chance to look at your position from a different angle as well and look at the perceptions of your positions.
One of your positions that get criticized, or one of the other things that gets tossed at you, is the term misogynist.
And I'm sure that's upsetting to you as well, right?
I don't even, if people could define to me what that, if it means general hatred of all women, then I made a really bad choice of who to get married to.
Isn't it interesting, though, that that's what a misogynist means?
It's like if you criticize anyone who's gay, you're a homophobe.
If you have issue with someone who's black who does something stupid like Al Sharpton, you're a racist.
You know, it's a cute way of dismembering your argument or dismembering your position right away.
But you said some stuff about women that I have even disagreed with.
And one of them, you did this thing recently where you're talking about how the way to get assholes out of society, it's women's responsibility because women are breeding with these assholes and they're making assholes.
That expression, though, or that sentence is really critical.
It's not only women's responsibility.
And what I saw, the thing that you went off on, you were talking, I think it was the Elliott Rogers thing.
Is that what it was?
Where you're talking about that fucking crazy kid up in Santa Barbara that killed everybody?
By the way, he killed more men than he did women.
It's one of the things that I found fascinating, that this whole yes all women, hashtag yes all women thing, came out after four men were murdered and two women.
That guy was a piece of shit, regardless of gender.
Gender had very little to do.
He was mad at the men that women found attractive.
This is not a, it's not an even game, this life.
You know, there's people that were born and they look like Beyonce.
And then there's people that are born that look like Bridget the Midget.
And this Elliot Rodger guy was a, you know, he was socially awkward and probably mentally, there was something wrong with him.
Asperger's, whatever the fuck it was.
I don't know what was wrong with him, but if you watch his videos where he's talking, there's clearly some sort of a weird social disconnect.
He had a really hard time connecting with people and couldn't get a woman to like him for various reasons.
Blame them for his hate and his feelings.
That's when people see, when they look around, they see all these people that are attractive.
They see all these people that are, that are attracted to each other.
And then they're left out of that.
They're frustrated.
They're angry.
It drives them fucking crazy.
And I think that's where this Elliot Rodgers guy fit in.
And when this yes, all women thing came about, on one hand, I agree with it.
it's gotta be way more difficult to be a woman, way more difficult to constantly worry about your own physical safety, worry about men wanting to sexually assault you, which is very rare for a man to fear.
I mean, maybe in prison, yeah, but in real life, it's very rare for men to worry about other men physically, sexually abusing them or wanting to get them somewhere, roofie them up and sexually abuse them.
But for women, it's a super common occurrence.
So women in bars are always worried about covering their drink.
I've talked to at least five women over the course of my life that believe or were definitely roofied or were definitely drugged by someone, you know, unknown drug.
They woke up in someone's hotel room.
It's disgusting and evil and creepy.
And it's something that men don't have to worry about, but women do.
But when a guy like that comes along, I think it's not a matter of, it's not a matter of, it's a matter of a mental illness is what it is.
I mean, that guy was a mentally ill person.
I don't know what causes a person like that to be mentally ill, but I don't think that women can prevent that by not breeding.
I don't think that women can prevent a guy like that from being born.
I mean, I don't think his parents were abusive.
I've never read anything that said that his parents did anything evil to him.
So how does an evil guy like that come about?
He's mentally ill.
Something happened during his childhood.
And I don't think anybody could have prevented that by being a woman, not allowing him to have sex with them or whatever you were talking about.
I think, especially in this particular example, that guy was sick.
There was something wrong with him.
There's sick people all the time.
You can go down the street and there's a guy who pushes his car to talk to himself.
And I don't think it's because no one fucked him.
I think that guy's got something wrong.
There's an issue there.
And I think that was what this Elliot Rodger guy, there's an issue with him.
So the idea that women are not part of the cycle of violence to me seems...
And again, this doesn't explain Elliot Rodger.
Of course, but the reality is that women...
And men too.
Like again, and not all women, right?
My wife is an incredible mom.
But there is a lot of aggression coming from women towards children.
Now, it's funny because when people talk about...
When I talk about this kind of stuff, people will say, well, what about men?
It's like, but we know about men.
We need to look at the stuff that's not seen, right?
Because right now, it's like, you know, like it's just men are nasty and men need to change.
Yes, men need to change.
Absolutely.
Of course, men need to change.
But saying that women are not part of the cycle of violence is not correct with the data.
And I am committed against all calumny,
insults against all hates and trolls i am committed to doing everything i can to maximize peace in the world i know that sounds like crappy and deluded and all that but that is my commitment you know in life and if we can get women to stop hitting children the world will become a much more peaceful place if we can get men to stop hitting children absolutely but we the male aggression has already been focused on so much that there is this blind spot,
which is the degree to which women use aggression in the raising of children.
80% of British mothers spank their child before the child is one year old.
I'll retweet that study because that's incredibly disturbing.
And when kids, the issue, of course, is that when kids are hit by their loved ones, they are way more likely to hit their loved ones.
They're way more likely to accept violence.
Some of the scariest kids ever are kids that were abused at home.
I remember growing up with this kid that was abused at home, and he was so quick to violence.
And it's super common.
We find it in the UFC as well.
Some of the best fighters were bullied when they were younger.
They were beaten up by their brothers.
Some of the scariest guys are guys who had older brothers who used to kick their asses because they get used to having that from their family and their loved ones, and they have a certain tolerance to violence and a certain tolerance to aggression that other folks don't have.
They have a peace with it.
So they're not as afraid of fighting.
They're not as afraid of competition as the other folks are.
And yeah, that's a terrible cycle to be a part of.
And those numbers are absolutely incredibly disturbing.
But that's not exactly what I had read.
What I had read where you were essentially talking about women's attraction to assholes and that this was the cause of their being more assholes.
And if women just stood up and said they're not going to be with assholes anymore, we wouldn't have any assholes in the world.
Well, look, I mean, when it's stated as a complete and isolated absolute, I get that it sounds deranged, right?
And I've certainly held men's feet to the fire as far as aggression and violence goes as well.
And I've talked to dads not to hit their kids and all that.
So I'm not saying, well, no, I don't need to talk to you.
You're the dad.
Let me talk to the only person who is ever aggressive to children, which must be the woman.
But the reality is, I think, and I think this is somewhat debatable.
I think it's fairly well established that in general, men ask women out and women say yes or no.
That's generally how it works.
And there are exceptions and all that, right?
But in studies I've read, about 90% of dates are initiated by men.
And so women are doing the choosing.
And I'm saying to women, one of the ways that women can incredibly contribute to reducing the cycle of violence is to choose better men.
Because there's a part of women, and again, this is fairly well established, at least as well as these things can be established, there's a part of women that likes the alpha guy, right?
The guy who's kind of cold and efficient.
And I mean, I'm plowing my way through 50 Shades of Gray, God help me.
She's not a midget porn star, but I guess this is all I got, right?
And I get that.
I mean, men are attracted to particular physical things which indicate fertility.
And women are attracted to particular male traits that indicate good provider.
And again, there's nothing wrong with any of that.
That's perfectly natural.
But the reality is that we do need to be wise in who we choose to raise our kids with and who we choose to have kids with.
And I berate men all the time for choosing looks over virtue.
I mean, on my show, I'm horrendous on men for choosing looks over virtue.
And we've all been there, we've all done it, and we all know what a mistake that is, right?
What is it that someone says, I don't care how good looking she is, there's some guy out there who's tired of screwing her, right?
And so I talk to men about don't just, you know, go for virtue.
You know, virtue is the big tits of philosophy, right?
I mean, that's what you want to go for when you're going to get married.
And for women, I say the same thing, go for virtue.
But I think men's tendency to choose on shallow standards is fairly well known.
And again, I'm just trying to sort of shine the light on that other side and say, look, if like you need to sort of cross your legs and grit your teeth and say, he may be sexy, but he's not a good guy.
I'm not going to have kids with him.
And I think that will help a lot.
I mean, I want to empower women to be like, not to be victims alone, right?
I mean, I'm trying to empower.
Once you give people, like if you say, look, women are part of the cycle of violence, then women aren't helpless and just need to sit on their knees and beg men not to be violent.
Women can actually talk amongst themselves and be empowered to do things to help reduce the prevalence of violence in society.
Choose better men.
Don't punish your kids.
Don't yell at them.
Don't hit at them.
Reason with them.
That gives women something to do rather than cross their fingers and hope that men get better.
You also did this thing on Robin Williams, and you do a lot of these the truth about people, and you do these one-hour-long pieces where you stare at the camera and explain various lizards.
I think people should get mad at Dr. Phil just for his fucking mustache.
How about that?
All right, sorry, back to Bobby W. Yeah, back to Robin Williams.
These videos that you do, I think they're very interesting, but to do a biography on someone requires an extensive amount of preparation and massive amounts of research.
So when you do the truth and the word the truth is a very tricky thing because there's many truths, there's many versions.
Like I've had conversations with people.
They'll say, oh, you know, I heard that this person met this person and that person was an asshole.
And I'm like, well, actually, I was there and that's not what happened at all.
That person was annoying as fuck and the other person was trying to get away from them and that's why, you know, they looked like an asshole.
You did this, the truth thing about Robin Williams, and your conclusion was that Robin Williams died because of women's addiction to free stuff, and that he essentially killed himself because of the fact that he owed money, because the fact that he spent a lot of money in his alimony.
I think that's an irresponsible statement because I think, first of all, it may have been a factor.
It certainly was a factor in his unhappiness, but we're not even aware of what kind of behavior he had in those relationships.
It was probably also a factor in the breakup of the relationship, also a factor in the antagonism that he shared with his ex-wives, if and when, whether or not that did take place.
But also his alcoholism, his drug dependency, his medical state, the state of just the natural body and brain chemistry after years and years of abusing drugs and then going back into it, and then depression itself.
Then on top of that, Parkinson's disease.
Then on top of that, whatever medication that he was taking for Parkinson's disease, disease, which many have been proven to cause depression in people.
So to boil it all down to Robin Williams died because of women's addiction to free stuff, I think that's irresponsible.
But he also made 200 and something million over the course of his career.
He made an insane amount of money.
The fact that he's broke, even if he did have to pay out $30 million, it can't be totally attributed to the fact that his ex-wives took an incredible amount of money.
It has to be attributed also to poor management of his finances.
It has to be attributed to just the overall recklessness that he exhibited in his life.
He was a very impulsive guy, as many great comics are.
It's an attribute that many great comics share is this wild, impulsive behavior.
I've struggled with it myself.
Most of my friends have struggled with it or aren't struggling.
They just fucking embrace it.
It's a part of what makes someone a comic in the first place.
And that is as much of Robin's problem, his poor financial management as the divorce settlements.
Because if he had been prudent with his finances and had been really good at managing his career, he would still have a shit fuck ton of money even after giving away 30 million bucks.
And one of the reasons why it failed had nothing to do with his ex-wife.
People said that he looked like he was sad.
Like, people watched the sitcom and said that he looked tired.
He looked sad.
He didn't have the energetic persona that everybody...
He was...
And it was a downsizing professionally in a way that's embarrassing to many film actors.
When film actors go from film to television, it's a loss.
And it's so hilarious.
It's like, my God, you're on a fucking television show, but the hierarchy of stars is, no, if Jack Nicholson all of a sudden started doing a sitcom, everybody would be like, oh, Jack.
To be fair, I also talked a lot about the stuff that happened in his childhood, right?
That he himself had talked about that he felt that he had to be what I called the me plus.
You know, like in order to get people's attention, in order to get their positive response, I can't just be me.
I have to be me with a show.
I have to be me with money.
I have to be me with good looks.
I have whatever it's going to be, right?
And I think that stuff comes out of, I think that stuff came out of his childhood.
Now, you can't be definitive about that stuff.
I would love to have chatted with him, but sadly that never will happen.
But I think that stuff came out of a lot of his childhood issues.
And I think that's really tragic.
And I really wanted to, you know, there is no external solution to the problem of insecurity, to the problems of feeling unlovable, to the problems of feeling not enough.
People will try, I think until the end of time, it seems like, people will try to stuff the holes in their heart with whatever they can grab from talent or money or looks or fame or whatever it is.
But I really try to urge people, you have to look inside and deal with that stuff in a very proactive way.
Because the idea that you can just basically glue eyeballs of attention to yourself and become whole, I think is a very dangerous myth.
It is a very dangerous myth, but it's also what propels great comics to become great.
And that's where it's ironic that a guy like Robin Williams, his horrific childhood, wasn't horrific, just wasn't good.
But that childhood, I mean, he was wealthy.
He was just ignored.
But the lack that he had in his childhood was what led him to be this magnanimous, just energetic, explosive, like, look at me, look at me.
And he was this look at me guy because no one was looking at him.
You know, I know this from my own personal experience of becoming a stand-up comedian.
My parents were, they broke up when I was five years old.
My father was very physically abusive, violent, very terrifying.
And then, you know, my stepfather was very young when my parents got together.
And it was like, I was ignored a lot, you know, and that's what led me to become a fighter.
Part of it was being bullied.
I was small.
And the other part was what led me to become a comic was this lack of attention.
And I figured out a way to manage it.
And I figured out a way with, you know, constant objective analysis of myself, constantly pushing myself towards new goals, constant research in terms of like psychology, in terms of philosophy, in terms of meditation, in terms of psychedelic experiences, and all sorts of different things that I've done to try to manage my own particular insanity.
But my particular insanity was more manageable than someone who's a drug addict.
The people that are drug addicts with that particular insanity, the real problem is you're also creating this massive chemical imbalance in your main.
And I could be argued that I'm a drug addict.
Some people have said I'm a drug addict because I like pot.
But I disagree because I don't smoke it every day and I have quit for weeks on end and it doesn't bother me.
I like pot.
I think it's like saying I'm a coffee addict or I'm addicted to my steak.
I think it's a beautiful, calming, insightful, introspective drug.
I think it makes food taste better.
I think there's a lot of benefits to it as far as the way you deal with people.
It makes you more compassionate.
I believe it makes you more creative.
I think it's a tool that Mother Nature has given human beings.
But it's not physically addictive in terms of what it does to your neurochemistry and what it does to your body's actual need for it, where you have to go in a fucking rehab.
If you go into rehab for weed, you're either some sort of a weird case, like one of those people that's allergic to sweat or something like that.
Or, you know, there are people that are allergic to their wives who are allergic to their husband's sperm.
I can recommend your listeners to check out his book.
His name is Gabar Mate, M-A-T-E, and he's written a book called In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts.
And he specializes in treating people with significant drug addictions.
He's a doctor in Vancouver's drug area, drug district, and so on.
And he sort of noticed this pattern, that particularly the women who were heroin addicts had all been sexually abused as children.
And he noticed this relationship between childhood trauma and adult addiction.
And this book, I won't obviously do any kind of justice summarizing it here, but it goes into, and I've had him on the show too, but it goes into a significant amount of detail about the biochemistry of addiction, that generally, if people have gone through these very hard childhoods, and neglect is underrated as far as how harmful it can be for someone, which is why children act out in order to get hit.
They'd rather get hit than be neglected in many ways.
And his basic idea is that when you have a neglected or abused childhood, your brain is missing particular receptors for certain chemicals.
And then when you take drugs, you begin normal.
You feel normal because you finally feel what it's like, what everyone else feels who didn't have those kinds of childhoods.
And that's why the addiction is so strongly there.
You know, a person of regular happiness, like just make up a number, happiness 100, they take Coke, they go to 150, they go back down to 95, and then they settle around that.
But somebody who's got a happiness of 30, they go to 110, they feel like normal happiness and what everyone else feels for the first time.
And then when they crash back down, their life, which formerly was just normal, now feels unbearable.
And that's one of the reasons why there's this drive for addiction.
And I did a whole speech of this at a college in Canada recently, so I won't go into the details.
But I think there is a lot of ways in which you can see really difficult childhoods producing brains that are very susceptible to getting the reups from external substances that should be naturally occurring but didn't develop as a result of childhood trauma.
And we're learning more, not just we, they are learning, the people that study that are learning more about that every day.
And it's a fairly new science.
Over the last X amount of decades, they've just sort of delve into these responses and then understanding genes and understanding how you could actually pass on depression and pass on these sorts of behavior patterns to your children.
And a guy like Robin Williams clearly had demons.
And there was many, many, many, many issues.
The divorce part was something.
It was definitely something.
But it bothered me listening to you talk about that because I've had friends that were depressed.
I know that it's going very clearly against the current of modern medical thinking and which recognizes depression as a disease to say that this guy was killed because of divorce.
You know, when he died, he still had millions of dollars.
You think you just got worked up over this idea of alimony, this idea, which I agree with you that it's a very strange thing.
And the way you put it, I think, was a good way, that you said that if people get fired from a job, you know, you don't get fired and say, well, I still want money.
I want you to continue to pay me, even though I've been fired.
But if someone is married, I have a friend who is married, and I talked about this yesterday, but briefly.
His wife, not only did she divorce him, but she planned it out for several months and went to all the best divorce attorneys and consulted with them so that he couldn't consult with them because it would be a conflict of interest.
And they don't have any children, but they were married for a while and she will never get married again because if she did, she wouldn't receive these payments.
So she has her boyfriend living in his old house.
And when they send inspectors over there, the guy moves out.
He gets his shit out, like waits around the corner with a U-Haul.
She calls them.
The inspector's gone.
He turns around.
And, you know, my friend knows about it.
And it drives him fucking crazy because he worked 12 hours a day while she was at home doing jack shit.
She never had a kid, had a little dog, you know, the whole deal, you know, got her nails done every day.
And he's just a fucking workaholic maniac.
And she benefited from it greatly.
And to this day, his lifestyle is impaired because he has to send her money.
And he's not Robin Williams.
He's not making that kind of money.
He did very well for himself, but the guy earned every fucking penny with labor.
I mean, he's a hard worker, and he's got this fucking ex-wife that's an anchor tied to his neck.
And he can't get free of it no matter what he does.
There's something Norman Malay, an American writer, he said.
He said, you never know your wife till you meet her in court.
And I think that's pretty cynical for all wives.
But I think he's the guy who stabbed his wife and he said, as long as you're still using a knife, there's still some love there.
It's only a knife.
But no, I think the alimony thing, it's funny because it actually is pretty not that common throughout history.
It really came out of the Catholic Church.
Until death to us part, you can't, right?
The reason that the alimony thing basically got its root in Western common law was because the Catholic Church didn't allow divorce.
And so people would just kind of separate.
The way it used to work is you take a dowry for marrying a woman.
If you divorced it, you had to give the dowry back, but that was about it.
But then this idea of until death do us part kind of came out of the Catholic Church, and that's sort of where it came from.
And it is brutal.
Some people got upset and say, well, are you saying that being a wife is only a job?
Well, kind of.
And being a husband is kind of a job too, right?
I mean, there is a financial aspect to marriage that it's foolish to ignore.
And I think it is pretty terrible.
I think that's also something that breaks up a lot of families too, because more than half of people who are considering divorce, if they stick it out five years later, they say, I'm really glad I did.
You know, there's a lot of people who go through challenges, rough spots, tough spots, transitions.
You never know.
You get sick or you lose some money or you lose your job.
I mean, things can happen that are really tough.
People have affairs.
But the majority of people who stick out their marriages, and again, it's not like 99%, but certainly more than 50.
Majority of people who stick out their marriages, Joe, are very happy that they did.
I hate saying the majority of when you're dealing with individual relationships because they vary so widely that I don't think that you can really narrow them down to statistics.
I think every individual interaction between two unique people is unique in and of itself.
And that person, I'm different with my wife than I've been with anybody I've ever dated.
And I think that that's how it is with most people.
Sometimes you find someone who's compatible and it works great for you, but there's other times where you're thinking about getting away from them where that's probably the best fucking decision you can ever make.
And I know people that say, why does divorce cost so much?
Because it's fucking worth it.
You know, there's a lot of people that think that too.
I agree with you, though, that there are some ridiculous alimony settlements that are just unreasonable and don't make any fucking sense whatsoever.
Like, if you're a woman and you are used to being a waitress and you're used to living in an apartment, there's nothing wrong with that.
And then all of a sudden you meet some guy who's some real estate mogul who's worth a billion dollars and he puts you up in his Beverly Hills mansion and you live with him for a year and you get married.
Should you discount the 30 years of your life that you lived as a waitress?
Should there be an average?
You know, like one of the things that we talked about the last time we were here was we were talking about poverty and we were talking about how people in poverty work a shockingly small amount.
And you were saying that people that live below the poverty line work an average of 16 hours a week.
My argument with that is also, of course, that you're dealing with people that mostly are unemployed.
So if you have one person works 80 hours a week, one person works zero, you meet those two in the middle and then you find out what the average is.
So it's not like most people are just saying, oh, I'm going to work one day a week.
Most of them are unemployed.
And when you're dealing with something when it comes to like alimony, when you want someone in the style that they've been accustomed to, you should take into account their whole fucking life.
You know, you shouldn't take into account the style they've been accustomed to over the last 12 months living with this crazy rich guy.
That's preposterous.
The idea that somehow or another, this man that you married who's worth a billion dollars, that you helped earn him, you know, half of what he made during the year that you were together, where's the evidence that you've ever been successful at making that kind of money in the past?
Why should you be entitled to that kind of money?
And I think the same is true with men.
When Kevin Federline was married to Britney Spears, that motherfucker never made a nickel, okay?
And I've seen him drive a Ferrari.
And that fat bitch didn't earn that Ferrari on his own.
Well, I don't think of it in terms of achievement.
I think of it in terms of interests.
What things fascinate me?
You know, I'm fascinated by martial arts.
I'm fascinated by comedy.
I'm fascinated by many, many different things.
I don't understand when people say they're bored because if I had the time to live 100 lives, I'd be speaking different languages.
I'd be living in different countries.
I would try a number of different careers because I think there's a lot of unbelievably fascinating, puzzling, complex things that you could study in this world.
That's just me and my personality.
But that's a personality also that I've cultivated over years of culture.
Honestly, I'm more of a workaholic than I should be, probably.
If the balance was, I probably should relax more than I do, but I never feel like I earned it.
But that's part of the reason why when I do feel like I earned it, I can enjoy it.
It's because I am more connected to the idea that I need to accomplish things.
And it's not like for anybody else's benefit other than my own or anybody else's approval other than my own.
I just, when I have a task, whether it's today I'm going to write a thousand words, you know, or 2,000 or whatever the number is.
If I don't do that, I write things down.
Like I'll write down a list of things that get accomplished that day.
And if I don't accomplish that, I'll get sick.
Like it'll drive me fucking crazy.
If I can't fill out that list, that drives me nuts, you know, but that's what led me to be a championship level martial artist.
That's what led me to achieve.
It's like that.
It's the reinforcement of those goals.
Like understanding that you can achieve those goals.
It's going to be difficult.
You're going to push through the difficulty.
And then you're going to understand what difficulty truly is and how much of it is just mental, how much of it is just in your mind, this adversity to difficult task or to struggle.
And a lot of people have that.
They're scared.
They're scared of complications.
They're scared of failure.
Failure is a big one that people are afraid of.
But failure is one of the most important things you could ever have as far as the motivation to do things differently.
One of the reasons why I think that I'm good at friendships and relationships is because I've failed at them in the past.
One of the things that I'm good at comedy is because I've bombed on stage.
One of the reasons why I'm good at work is because I've been a shitty worker in the past.
And I know the feeling of failure, the feeling of shame of being like a weak, non-motivated, lazy person.
It's a weak feeling.
You don't respect yourself.
And I have this phrase that I use all the time to people to try to motivate people.
I say that be the hero in your own movie.
Pretend that if your life was a movie and your life started now, what would the hero do?
What would the person that you respect do?
What would the person that you admire?
A person that inspires you?
What would they do?
Well, do that shit.
And if you do that, you slowly build momentum.
You like, today I did what I wanted to do.
Today I started a class in yoga.
I did this.
I did all these things that I was saying I wasn't going to do.
And now I feel momentum.
And momentum is a very important point in people's lives.
That's why some folks don't like to take days off because they feel like they're losing momentum and they sort of have to restart the wheel up again after a vacation.
There's certain people that I know that just are lazy as fuck and they can never get anything done.
You're like, did you do that thing?
No, I just didn't get to it.
Like, what are you talking about?
You didn't get to it.
What did you do?
You were out Instagramming pictures of you at a strip club two days ago.
Like, how the fuck did you not get that done?
Like, you had all the time to do all these other things, but you don't have the time to do the thing that's going to enhance your life, that's going to benefit you, that's going to move forward your career, your life, your prospects, your art, whatever it is you're working on.
You know, I think that it's hard for people because we operate on the momentum of the past.
And a lot of times our past has been just a graveyard, just a wreck of disasters, one after the other.
And you look at that and you go, well, that's who I am.
There's a great, Richard Feynman was this physicist, a fantastic guy.
And he told about his father, that he was pulling some wagon and he had balls in the wagon.
He said, you notice when you pull the wagon, the balls stay for a bit and then they bump up and then you stop the wagon, they keep going.
So he was talking about momentum and physics and all that.
And so, like all kids, he said, Well, why, why, why?
And then he got to a point with his father where he said, Well, why?
And his father said, That nobody knows.
Like, why is there gravity?
I mean, that nobody knows.
And I think those kinds of questions where you really stimulate your mind, I think is a great idea.
I was telling my daughter a couple of, I mean, maybe two months ago about, there's an old Spanish proverb that says, habits begin as cobwebs and end up as chains.
Way easier to break in the beginning than later off, right?
That's why I've run into people that all of a sudden they just, you look at them and they look great.
They've lost all this weight.
Like, what'd you do?
I just started every day doing this.
I started walking.
I started eating, you know, healthy vegetables and all this different shit.
Now, look at me, 90 days later, I'm all healthy.
You know, it can be done.
It's just very difficult.
And it sort of flies in the face of a lot of people like to harp on free will and determinism and there is no free will and these sort of, you know, I think those can be fascinating philosophical debates.
But I think as far as like your own life, it could be a massive distraction.
This idea, this concept that there is no free will, yeah, throw that shit out the window and just fucking get off your lazy ass and get shit done.
Because that's like this pontificating of whether or not free will is a real thing.
I mean, the argument one way or the other that can be proven in each, well, Because apparently they can determine that you make decisions before you make decisions.
Deep down in the amygdala, like the base of the brain, top of the spine, that impulse is there, and then people make the decision, and they experience the decision up here, but the decision is happening down here.
I don't think that means that's inevitable for everyone.
That's part of self-knowledge, is learning what your emotional triggers are so that you can make decisions, right?
You're not just ex post facto rationalizing stuff that you want to do anyway.
You learn about yourself.
And I think that you can expand free will through self-knowledge.
It's what Socrates said at the very beginning of philosophy.
The first commandment is know thyself.
And that way you can figure out your own cognitive biases and you can figure out what blocks you and what your prejudices are.
And then I think you get choices.
But I don't think you get choices just for having a brain.
You really have to explore it.
Like you don't know a country just by falling into it, right?
You jump out of a plane, land somewhere.
You have to explore it.
You have to map it.
You have to know the terrain.
And then you're competent at the country.
And I think that free will is pursued through self-knowledge, and that gives you the choice.
But so, yeah, if you think you can, you think you can't, you're right.
I mean, if you think you have free will or you think you can't, you're kind of right.
Yeah, and that impulse, I would love to know if there's been any studies done on whether or not people ignored that impulse, because there's a lot of impulses that you have that you never act on.
Now, but what about the days when, do you have the days where you just like the elephant of inertia sits on your chest and just flats up your nose and you just don't want to get anything done?
And she's a neuroscientist as well, and she's had issues.
The 25th, that's when she's coming on.
And she's had issues herself with depression.
She's pretty open about it.
And she understands it much more from a chemical standpoint, from what's going on inside the mind.
And there's a lot going on there that keeps people on that fucking couch.
And What's interesting is it doesn't exist in all cultures, and that it may be also the society that we live in, that this is a very unnatural way to live your life, and that the human body is not essentially not designed for sitting in cubicles, sitting in cars, no motion.
And they've also shown that exercise has been as effective at mitigating depression as have antidepressants, as have SSRIs.
And you know, I mean, we're not the strongest species, and we don't have the biggest teeth, but you know one thing that human beings have is like ridiculous physical endurance.
Like what I've read is that the ancient hunters, do you know how they used to get their substance hunting?
You chase that animal until its heart just fucking explodes in its chest, and then you're like, I win, and you drag it back to camp.
Like 20 miles of running, and then the zebra's heart just dies and you get it.
I mean, I think I read somewhere that one of the ways that we were able to get our most expensive organ is the brain, right?
But one of the reasons we're able to have the brain is because when we were on all fours, more of our back was exposed to sunlight, and so we had to spend more of the water and energy cooling ourselves off.
Once we went bipedal, much less sun is hitting the body, so you have more water available to grow the brain because the brain requires a lot of energy and water.
Just really cool things.
I love that biological development stuff, I think, is really, really fascinating.
Yeah, I think there's a huge amount of human potential that's locked up in people's insecurities and inertia.
And I really would love to find a way and just get people to understand how much fun being in motion is and how much fun exploring and challenging yourself and challenging the world, how much fun it is.
But I think that there's just a lot of, I don't know, negativity, hostility, of course, on the internet, as we were talking about earlier.
It's kind of not all over the place, but it's definitely there.
And I just wish people could understand that there is very little to be afraid of in life.
I mean, other than death, which is going to happen whether you're busy or not.
What's interesting, we're talking about essentially like if we could talk to Robin Williams, if we could pull Robin Williams aside before he committed suicide and have these conversations with him.
If you look at that guy, he is in a way a great example of someone who on paper should be unbelievably happy.
He's been insanely successful.
He is loved by millions and yet still not happy.
And one of the reasons is you look at his life and it's this series of things that went wrong, series of Coke binges and alcoholism and breakups of the marriage and regret for the way he was raised by his parents and all these different things that you carry around with you like weight.
And it's very difficult to shed that weight.
I don't know what he did besides counseling.
I don't know if he was an exercise guy or if he did yoga or what his diet was like, but there's a lot of people out there that are dragged down by their past.
That right now, their heart's beating, they're breathing out of their mouth, their fucking brain is functioning, but they're just burdened.
They're burdened by their past.
And it's a huge issue with folks.
Like getting a fresh start, like getting a reset, getting this, you know, this escaping all the bullshit of their past.
When I was 20, yeah, by 20, I was at the National Theatre School studying acting and playwriting.
And I was in the play King Lear.
And we had this delightfully insane director who was...
And we were all method actors, you know, all grew up on Brando and stuff like that.
So it was all internal, and we were just...
And he said, why isn't anyone reacting?
And we said, we all said, well, but I felt it inside.
And he's like, this is theater, right?
Nobody has a window into your head.
You've got to do something.
And he got himself, he actually ended up throwing chairs.
He's like, just do something.
Do anything.
I don't care.
Do a somersault.
Produce a dove from inside your cloak.
But do something so the audience knows that something is happening.
Don't just stand there and expect them to be mind readers.
And I think that that had a big impact on me just in terms of life as a whole.
You have to be out there doing stuff.
I mean, what goes on in our heads is great, but if it's not out there in the world, we'll take it with us when we die and nobody will ever know anything about it.
And I just never really wanted to have a life where I sort of go through life and into death like a spear into a still lake, you know, barely leaving a ripple.
And I think that the challenges of an active and challenging life where you're, you know, messing with society's perceptions and trying to Advance the moral cause that you are passionate about is so worth it.
I wish people could just live one day on the other side of that fear.
I wish that people could live one day in motion and then they would never be satisfied with the inertia of their lives.
But until you get there, I think it's really half, really tough for people to picture what it's like.
I mean, you know, we were talking before the show.
I mean, you've got a special coming up.
I mean, you're doing this.
I mean, you're ferociously busy.
And I think if people who are inert could live a day in your shoes and recognize just how much fun it is and what a great challenge it is and how wonderful it is to be testing yourself on the edges of your capacities for significant periods of time, I think that they would go back and say, oh, I can't do this anymore.
But I think until you've experienced it, that's the tough thing.
Until you've experienced it, I think the inertia feels safer and better, if that makes any sense.
So there's a negative aspect to them being around, but there's certainly not the positive aspect of being around ambitious people.
If you're around happy, fun people that are full of energy, you feel happy and fun, and you're full of energy as well.
With stand-up comedians, that's a really important factor.
We grow the most when we're around others like us.
Like the best comedy communities, it's not one comic that stands out.
I started out in Boston and there was like 10, 12 great comics where I was.
And one of the things about that place is you would see all these great comics and they would inspire you.
And there's other towns where there are no great comics and there's no great comics coming up.
And you'll see like the local guys and they're dog shit.
Their acts are terrible.
And the reason why is they have no one to emulate.
There's no one around to build them up.
There's no community.
And stand-up comedy, it's very important to have a community.
I did all my growing as a comic in the communities of Boston, then New York, and then LA, the two, or three rather, strongest communities in the country.
Boston, not so much anymore, but at the time, huge.
And now New York is still just as giant and LA is giant.
And being in those clubs and being around those guys and seeing those other people that are out there writing new jokes and constantly expanding and creating and growing and getting better at the art form inspires people.
And that's, it cannot be underestimated.
Surround yourself with positive people and you'll be positive.
Surround yourself with shitheads and you'll be a shithead.
Or at least you'll be fighting against being a shithead.
Yeah, I mean, nobody expects to become a great tennis player if they play people who can't play.
I mean, you have to match yourself against the best.
And this is another thing, last random promise of the day.
But the people who have low expectations and low ambitions, I also find a little frustrating at times.
I mean, I think aim your sights as high as humanly possible.
I mean, there's no Schwarzenegger films unless that crazy bastard from Austria comes and says, I barely speak the language, but I'm going to go marry a Kennedy, run California, and make some great movies.
But the people who, I mean, again, I sort of feel like, you know, I was sick last year and confronting mortality and all that.
And it's sort of how I've lived as a whole is whether you're great or not, whether your ambitions are high or low, death's going to take you either way.
And I think that it adds to the human capital of the world to strive to communicate passion, power, magic, creativity, virtue, whatever it is that you're good at.
It adds to the human capital of the world.
We all inherit this great stuff that comes rolling down the mountain of history from all the great people who've come before us.
Add a little bit, anything that you can, to that human momentum of energy and positivity.
I think that's so important.
And the people who want to do a little or get by, I just wish, it's the biggest regret that people have when they're old is that they played it small and they didn't take the risks that they wanted to.
Because there's this disaster on the other side of risk that never seems to materialize.
And really, it's like you're in some fight to the battle with your own hand puppets, you know, a fight to the death with your own hand puppets.
I think that people just take those gloves off and go and take life and have high ambitions and forget everybody who ridicules you for high ambitions and great things.
They don't matter.
And that's that great speech that Robin Williams has.
Forget them, forget them, he says to the man who's talking about the sweaty tooth madman, the boy who's got the poetic imagination.
He said, forget them, forget them.
Focus on your creativity and what is making you great.
And I would really, I think that human potential is the great untapped resource of the planet.
And I wish that there was ways to communicate.
I try to do this, of course, as best I can, but ways to communicate to people just how amazing a life can be, which is active, enthusiastic, passionate, and challenging.
And we get this incredibly brief opportunity.
I said recently in a podcast, the universe has repulsively fucked itself senseless to give you life.
I mean, in order for us to be here, like one single-celled organisms had to mate with each other.
I mean, that's gross.
I don't even know where they put what, but it's really disgusting stuff that goes on in a magnifying glass.
That's like the worst porn ever.
But we're all here because of this incredible striving for billions of years of this life.
And to not embrace that gift of existence in this brief time that we have, it just seems to me such a waste and such a disrespect to the incredible odds of us actually being here.
And being in this relatively free country and being in this incredible time of communication, technology, and human opportunity.
I really want people to try and grab that as much as possible.
You do not save up points that you get to redeem after you're dead.
Spend everything, leave nothing on the table.
And that's what I hope people can find a way to do.
Well, I think by living your life like that, you set an example that people can be inspired by.
And I think that having these conversations and having something that someone can listen to and they hear this and they go, you know what, I'm going to go fucking run Up a hill.
I'm going to go do something.
And people do do that.
I get messages from people that do hear these conversations.
It enhances their life.
And I've had so many people come up to me after the show and say that the podcast changed their life because they become motivated, because they never had anybody around them that was inspiring in any way.
And then all of a sudden, they get to hear conversations with inspirational people and they take these conversations and it fuels them.
And we need that.
You know, if you can't have that community in your neighborhood, you can have that community online now.
You can have that community by having access to these kind of conversations, by listening to songs that fire you up, by reading a book that gets you going, by hearing a conversation.
There's many, many, many methods.
And it's all about just having the access to these influences, by having the access to these positive things.
What one man can do and what one woman can do, another man and woman can do.
And nobody needs to be denied a great life.
But it will not come to you.
You have to at least go and meet it halfway.
And I hope that people, I know that your show gets a lot of people roused and gets a lot of people energetic.
And that I hugely applaud you for.
I think it's a fantastic contribution to the world to be able to inspire people, certainly in your comedy, which is fantastic.
I mean, by the way, if you haven't seen Joe, go see Joe.
But I think that that energy is incredibly positive.
And I think people who grew up around negative people or neutral people, they don't even know what it's like to have any kind of incandescence around them.
And if they see that, then it awakens in them a possibility that probably was not possible even within their own imaginations before.
And I think that social media and the internet and YouTube, it's giving people access to conversations that they probably have been sealed off from for who knows how many generations.
Certain sectors of society have not had access to enthusiasm, positivity, competence, efficiency, energy.
And now there's this amazing cross-pollination of energetic, enthusiastic people.
We can pollinate people who otherwise would never have had access to it.
I think what an amazing opportunity that is to unleash more human potential.