Why Dating Will Never Be The Same Ft. Coach Greg Adams
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All right.
I think we're live.
And we're live.
What's up, guys?
Welcome.
Live with CGA from Las Vegas.
It's been a minute, hasn't it?
It's Saturday.
So not our on day, but it's our off day.
It's all day.
Yeah, yeah.
We're here, though.
It's been a minute since...
Been a couple years.
21?
22, 22, 23. I think it was around 23 or maybe end of 22. Something like that.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I think it's 21, man.
Hold on.
Look it up.
Fresh and fit.
Coach Greg, hold on.
I'll tell you right now.
But Coach, what's up with you, man?
What's new?
Man, back in...
I'm here in Vegas, man.
Last time I came on your show, I was in California.
So I'm in Vegas now.
So making my home here and doing all the Vegas activity, you know?
We're live on Twitter right now, too.
Awesome.
He's back.
He's back, baby.
We're back on Twitter.
So it was three years ago.
Three years.
Okay, yeah.
Probably 23, 22. After hours with the girls?
No, he came on after that, though.
He came on one time after that.
Really?
Yeah, he did.
Oh, there you go.
It's lost.
You sure?
Three years, bro.
I see three years here.
I know, I know, I know.
It's lost.
Either way, it's been a while.
We here.
Yeah.
So, Coach, you've been traveling the world, man.
Yep.
Doing your thing.
Living a free-age lifestyle.
Yeah.
What's that like, brother?
Because I know most people complain, oh, bro, passport, this or not, but what's that like, bro?
Well, I mean, I'm going to tell you, man, the limitations of the American male, most guys just don't have the experience to go outside.
So, they live in Tupelo, Mississippi.
They live in Jacksonville, Florida, some of these podunk towns.
And they think that's where everything is.
That's the epicenter of everything.
So their fear is to be able to leave the country and go find something a little bit that might be suitable for them.
Instead, they stay here.
They complain.
They don't make a better life for themselves.
So once you start traveling internationally, I wrote about this in the first book.
I'm like, you got to travel internationally.
It's going to open your mind.
The possibilities, yeah.
Also, dating itself here in America has totally changed, I think, from when I got here, obviously from when you've been here.
How would you say it's changed over the years?
Well, I'd say it's monetized.
It's overtly monetized.
Pay to play, huh?
It's pay to play.
They can disguise it for however the ladies want to say it, luxury dating.
They describe it as a whole bunch of things, but they're entitled to this.
They're like, hey, listen, this is how we want to be courted.
This is how we want to be romanticized.
This is how you build us to be more secure.
All of that is monetization.
And they monetize it in a variety of ways.
So it could be money.
It could be the amount of attention you spend.
The amount of time that you spend.
At the end of the day, it's overtly monetized.
So I made a discovery a couple weeks ago, myself, where I saw girls showing purity on Instagram, right?
But it's funny.
You go to their link in bio.
They have a Twitter.
They got a Snapchat.
And I'm like, let me go see what's happening there.
Bro, I kid you not.
I was fooled for a second.
Period.
On Instagram, I was like, okay, cool.
Modest.
Too crazy.
But on Twitter, it was the Wild West.
It was insane, bro.
Bikinis, half naked.
I'm like, what the fuck?
If you didn't click the bio, you would never know.
You would never know.
But I think this conversation has been here for a while.
Myron's even talked about he wants his girl to delete the Instagram, right?
So what was that?
Three, four years ago?
Yeah.
Right?
Now think about how much that's changed.
Or it's got to be private, bare minimum.
It's got to be private.
But think about that now.
These women can't live without it.
And they would rather...
They're not going to delete the Instagram.
They're like, well, forget it.
You know what I mean?
But that was the best possible relationship presented to them.
Or at least have a login.
You've got to be able to control it, is my point.
So you would have to be able to control it.
How many women are going to be able to do that today?
Most girls won't let you control their shit at all.
Exactly.
Why?
Because they get attention from it.
They get to be able to monetize themselves.
And options too.
And options.
It's difficult because when we were doing, like last time I was here, we're talking about millennials having problems with dating.
Now you've got to remember this.
It's coming back full circle.
So Gen Z, we're talking about 17-year-olds to 25-year-olds, really.
And they're being introduced to all of the stuff we've already talked about over the last few years with the Gen X and millennials.
So these guys are like 22, 23. They were like 17 when we started talking.
So they weren't listening to us.
But they're now experiencing.
What the hell do we do with this beast?
And I said, Gen Z guys will be the first generation that will have to deal with their girls being monetized.
They got a TikTok.
They got an OnlyFans.
And the guys have to date.
They have to consider dating girls with those things.
We never had to do that.
I would argue nowadays with the advent of social media, though, and TikTok itself, you get clues and information about the girl beforehand.
So, for example...
You go to her TikTok, she's talking about her last relationship, why it failed, why she got ghosted.
She's telling you about herself in real time.
So it is a benefit to it as well, but also don't say, as you mentioned earlier.
Yeah, I would say, I agree with that, that the Gen Z guys are going to have to deal with monetized women.
And I would say, like, for us, it was monetized on the low.
Correct.
For them, now it's going to be monetized overtly.
It's gonna be to a point where in the next 10 or 15 years a guy might get with a girl, marry her, whatever.
Then he finds out later on that his girl used to be a sugar baby or she used to be IG thot or she used to self-heat pictures or whatever.
And that's kind of where we're going, where women are overtly sexualizing themselves for modernization.
Whereas before growing up...
Check my strip, but nobody knows.
She might have a sugar daddy, but it was on the low.
Nobody knew.
So they moved a lot more quiet.
But now, with the internet, and also because we have kind of mainstreamed it for girls to be promiscuous and to make money off of men, it's mainstream now.
And OnlyFans has shown that.
You get girls that are wildly successful.
We had Amaranth down.
She made like $70 million on OnlyFans.
So you've got to imagine, if you're a young woman, you see that?
Why wouldn't you take that route?
Exactly.
So they're going, and listen, I know a lot of young ladies, they're now 23, 24, 25. They told me when they were 18, they signed up.
You know what I mean?
So you're right.
A lot of women are going to try it, at least.
Or they're going to sell some feed pictures.
They're going to have a sugar bag.
So now...
The guys have to deal with that in their past, whereas before, I stripped, I had to pay my way through college.
That was the old thing.
I had to pay my way through college, you understand?
But today, the strippers are doing it to make money.
They're not paying no way through college.
I find it funny.
Even Amrath herself said that women shouldn't do this at the very beginning, especially because you're not making any money.
She's a special occasion.
But with them, bro, you may make, what, less than $1,000 if you try?
They're not going to make that much money.
They're doing the most.
The average is like $100 a month.
Yeah.
Something like that.
And they're doing the most.
Smashing on camera, doing everything, and it's like...
That's how you're getting paid?
Yeah.
So is it worth it?
No.
But I'll tell you this, though.
It's even more discreet.
You know what they do as well?
Premium Snapchat.
Right.
So I'm like, hold on.
Okay, no OnlyFans.
This is great.
No X. Awesome.
But Snapchat, they sell videos on the low.
And they make bank.
I'm like, wow.
Yeah, they can sell it on the low.
They can go on Sugar Daddy site.
And so that's all they're going to do is sell pictures to guys that want pictures.
And so they don't want to have that digital footprint.
Because listen.
I'm in Las Vegas.
I mess with some girls.
These girls, if I take their picture and run a reverse image search, it is crazy what pops up.
I mean, I've had girls come up and they did the whole BDSM. You know what I mean?
It's crazy.
I'm not talking about very older women.
These are 18, 19, 20-year-old women.
They already have a digital footprint.
So the problem is they're going to want to be enticed by the money.
I mean, if I play ball, I see somebody sign 70 million.
I'm going to go up there and go shoot.
But they're doing the same thing to that.
The problem is they're going to burn out 2021-22.
Right?
So the majority of them are going to burn out.
They're going to flame out, make $1,000, and get their pussy pop all over the damn country getting flown in.
Now what's going to happen?
Somebody's going to marry them.
That footprint's going to be there.
That's dangerous.
So, Coach, you're a bit older than us, a bit more experienced and refined.
You're in your 40s, right?
49, man.
I'm about to be in my 50s, bro.
Perfect.
Damn, I nigga old.
Yeah, old.
Old head ass.
I've reached old head status.
But here's the thing.
A lot of wisdom, and I want to ask you this.
Can you kind of go through the decades of how dating has shifted from, let's start maybe the 90s?
Yeah.
Into the 2000s?
The 2010s?
To now.
And to now.
And we could just go through a decade.
Because I don't meet many guys that are red pillow wear that reach your age.
So I really want to know, someone that has that red lens, you can kind of tell me.
Cultural and dating differences each decade.
Let me tell you something, why that's important.
Yeah.
Because people hear, oh, in the 90s it was better, in the 2000s, right?
You hear about that and people romanticize that.
But we all had our issues as well.
Of course.
Now down the line, you got to take Gen Z or a young millennial.
They don't know shit.
This is their reality.
That's all they know.
And they know hyper-feminist women, masculine women.
They know women kind of playing both sides.
They want a guy to take care of them, but then they want to be independent.
We didn't have this thing.
I was born in the mid-70s.
You got the 80s.
They had a song called Ain't Nothing Going On But The Rent.
No romance without finance.
That was in the 80s.
Really?
Yeah, that was in the 80s.
So you're a kid hearing this.
So yeah, you're a kid hearing this.
And it was like, okay, woman's going to take half your money in divorce, right?
That was on Eddie Murphy Raw or Delirious.
So no romance without finance.
Ain't nothing going on but the rent.
So there was a little bit of this conversation going on.
And the ladies would be like, yeah, yeah.
But the problem is women didn't make as much money as men.
Okay.
Like the corporate world wasn't like these boss baits.
There was still that expectation of the man being the breadwinner.
Exactly.
Okay.
So that makes sense.
So there was still, there was, it was like 80-20.
20% of women could go that way.
But the majority of women were like, hey, you know what I mean?
I'm going to need a man to take care of myself financially.
So you, if you were out here single, you were out here struggling.
So this strong independent bullshit wasn't a thing in the 80s?
It wasn't that thing.
Okay.
It was starting to happen.
But the majority of women hadn't latched on.
Gotcha.
The 90s, you start seeing it a little bit.
A lot more, right?
In the 90s, you're old enough to date now, right?
Yeah, in the 90s, I'm dating.
93, I'm 18. Okay, perfect.
93, I'm 18. I'm in college.
What was that like?
So, it still was women were in love.
There was a time where the woman was sprung on you.
You know what I mean?
Like, you were with her.
She was your girl.
You still had BS. You still had cock-blocking ass, dirty macking ass.
You still had the BS, but it was still women were looking to get married.
They wanted to have a family.
R&B times?
What's that?
R&B times?
R&B times, yeah.
You're talking about Jodeci and women would sit around.
You could call a little TV show, the radio show, I dedicate my song to my girl.
There was still that sense of relationships one-on-one were possible.
Now, most guys here, they wanted to be like, Everybody got a girl.
Not really.
Not everybody got a girl.
You still have to introduce yourself.
Cold approach.
Run game.
You can do that.
Would it be fair to say it was a requirement back then?
Yes.
There's no other option.
There was no digital.
You got to walk up and get the phone number.
You had to have the pen and paper or remember the phone number.
And then you had to go back and decipher the phone number if she wrote it.
Is that an 8?
Is that a 9?
And you dial 158 times.
To make sure you get that number.
And then you call her, and then you still have the game.
It's like, okay, I'm going to wait two days to call her back.
Or you hit the answer machine.
I'll put a pin in that one, because I've got to ask you about that one later on.
Yeah.
So you still had to have game, mouthpiece.
But I think the advantage was to the men.
And so when you look at where women are, they don't want to go back to that.
Because you could have a rotation.
You could cheat on her.
You could cheat on her without knowing.
Like that type of stuff.
But that was the 90s.
You still could get a girl, and the girl would want to be with you.
But of course, if she was good-looking, extremely good-looking, monetized, they were looked upon as them girls over there.
Them hoes over there.
They're kind of out there.
There were girls still with the...
I lived in Los Angeles, so Southern Cal.
I had the Lakers, the Raiders, the Rams.
Everybody was out there.
At the end of the day, it was only a small percentage of girls that were doing that type of lifestyle.
Got it.
Most women by 24, they was packing it in.
They're packing it in.
They're like, okay, I had my fun, but now I'm trying to pack it in.
24, 25. So it was odd to run into single women at 25 years old?
If they were, they was going to be single for a long time.
They still had single mothers.
It wasn't every woman, but...
Would it be fair to say 25 in the 90s is the equivalent to maybe a 38-year-old today?
Correct.
That's how society looked at her.
Yes.
Like you're a spinster now, basically, at 25. At 24, 25. Like, if you're not trying to get serious and get a relationship, you're going to miss the window.
Gotcha.
What about men's income?
Was that a big factor back then as well?
In terms of?
Like, for example, average income, 50K. Oh, yeah.
Nobody was making 100K out there.
I mean, 100K is equivalent to 300, 400,000 today.
Yeah.
Got it.
So if you were making 100K in the 80s or 90s.
That's Dr. Money.
That's Dr. Money.
Yeah, you doctor lawyer.
Six papers in the 90s is Dr. Money.
Yeah, not many dudes were doing that.
And if you were, you had a wife.
You know, the women was going to not mess around with you.
You had a wife and you had a family and kids.
They used to call them yuppies.
Okay.
Yuppies had the BMW. Wow, yeah, that's a very, yeah.
1980. So you made 100K. You were a yuppie, especially if you were young.
But I would say, I'm going to tell you, man, boomers, they didn't make 100K until they were in their 50s or 60s.
So they grinded it out, making 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, right?
But then you go to the 2000s, right?
So you get to the 2000s.
Well, before we get to the 2000s, because I have some more questions on the 90s.
Yeah, because I want to really break this down by decade, because this is rare where you get someone that lived through all these decades that has a red pill lens.
So would you say that the...
The game, the dating marketplace back then, since men had to approach, did women actually value those approaches more than they do now?
I think they appreciated them more because if you weren't approaching, the woman gets nothing.
If she didn't accept an approach, she was cooked.
Now, you still would get shouted down and you ain't-ish, that type of thing.
But I think if you said something to a woman, like, we used to stand on a bridge in college, you know what I mean?
And we used to stand there, you know what I mean?
And the girls would just walk by all day, and everybody getting, you getting something.
You know, all the comments were flowing.
And so the women knew it.
They was going to cross that bridge.
So if they didn't cross that bridge, they wasn't going to be seen.
But at the same time, did they like it?
They might not have liked it, but you still wasn't going to get seen.
See, in the 90s, there was no way for the woman to get anything outside a social circle or approaching her.
Nightclub.
The woman had to be seen.
If she was sitting at the house in rollers...
Nobody would know.
Nobody sees her.
So you want a husband, you want a boyfriend, you want to be seen, you got to go outside.
Got it.
So there was a bit of impetus on the women, because they get a bunch of attention today.
So, they don't need to leave the house.
They don't need.
Right?
They get all the validation they need.
So, they had to actually step outside to get attention back then in the 90s.
And you're saying that they would appreciate that approach a bit more.
It was appreciated.
Versus now.
Approaching them was the expectation.
Yeah.
Versus nowadays, you know, a lot of the times if you're not a Chad, she's annoyed.
Right.
I've always said that I think modern women look at men as mosquitoes.
Like, what the fuck, man?
Get off.
Like, I've got my attention for the day.
I'm tired of you.
Exactly.
They're annoyed by it because I think 80...
As they say, 80% of men are invisible to them.
Whereas we would probably have sex with 80% of the women.
Absolutely.
I would argue it's now 90-95% of men are invisible now, I would say.
Correct.
Some women either know that and don't care or they don't realize it.
Also, nowadays, you know what it can do beforehand?
Research.
Oh, who's this guy?
That's true.
What's he about?
Look at Instagram.
Look at his social media.
Oh, he's popping.
I'll respond to his DM. Exactly.
In person, it's like, who's this nigga?
Yeah, exactly.
Exactly.
So you would have to demonstrate something of quality for her to be like, okay, maybe a car, maybe a lifestyle.
So I always tell guys, you know, I'm not a big cold approach guy, especially today because of those.
However, if I'm at the top floor or, you know, an area of Caesar's Palace that she knows you have to be somebody to be there, then she's going to probably be more recipient or better recipient of a cold approach.
Of course.
Or if I'm at the valet.
If I'm at the valet, she's probably going to be because when my car grows up in a valet, now all of a sudden they open.
But of course, without that knowledge, you're just a regular guy.
Especially for young black men, they all put us in the same category.
So you ain't shit from the start until they see something.
So the 90s, that's a very interesting dynamic.
So the main takeaway, 24-year-old woman is basically the equivalent of a 38-year-old woman today.
Women actually valued Approach more, and they had to go outside to get anything.
And they appreciated it more.
Guys, by the way, like the video, we got almost like 4K watching pretty much on YouTube.
And Coach, where can I find you as well?
Yeah, you can find me.
Coach Greg Adams is the big main channel, and Free Agent Lifestyle is the other channel.
So that's the one.
Let me add one more thing on the line.
So church was a big deal.
So women went to church.
Hallelujah.
So they went to church.
So you can find a woman.
You can find a God-fearing woman.
In church.
So, you know, it was like, you know, women had, like today, women will be hoes and go to church.
Pardon Saturday?
Now, they did have that back then, but you could still find a woman.
If a woman's in church, she might be intentional.
So the church was a more viable way to meet a chick?
Yes.
Matchmaker.
Okay, really?
They would match you up.
Versus nowadays, it's a joke, but back then, you're saying it was viable.
Oh, it was expected that people more went to church back then.
If you didn't, they'd call you a heathen.
So you could find a woman in church, and a woman wasn't pretty much done.
Like, if she was a single mother...
And under 30, she could find a guy.
Okay.
Whereas today, guys ain't trying to mess with it.
Let me ask you this.
Okay.
How did they look at single motherhood back then in the 90s?
It was like, oh, you poor girl.
You princess warrior.
You do it all by yourself.
That guy wasn't shit.
Also, they still were championing that shit.
Well, they would be like, you got taken advantage of.
Some guy did something to you to that point where he left.
And left you out there hanging.
So I'm going to come in and fix that for you.
Was that only in the church or outside as well?
Outside.
Yeah, outside.
Single mothers didn't have a negative reputation like they have today.
And the only reason I ask that is, this is a weird connection, but I'll never forget.
forget ted bundy's mom when she was raising him yeah she raised him in a home for women that don't have that basically bastard children right because it was like something that was very shameful like you couldn't be out in society as as a as a woman uh with without a dad that wasn't the 90s though so by 90s that's all that's kind of not stigmatized anymore it it It had less stigma that she was out here doing something.
Yeah, because the 50s and the 60s, bro, it was a problem.
They didn't want them outside.
You don't have a husband and you have a kid, they had shelters for them.
Let me tell you what.
They used to shun that shit, bro.
Shame was real.
So we don't have shame anymore.
So by the 90s, the shame had evaporated.
It was starting to evaporate.
Where guys could look at a woman and say, she got two kids.
That's a good woman still.
She's in church.
You know, she's focused.
Okay.
I think I can make something out of that.
So dudes will make families out of that.
Okay.
Yeah.
Scary.
Shit.
The other thing I was going to...
Oh!
Promiscuity.
How was it viewed in the 90s?
Listen.
This is what people have to understand.
Promiscuities have always been viewed bad, poorly.
Just like today.
We were like, these 304s.
But promiscuity, the reason why it hurt women back in the 90s was because women didn't have a reach.
Like they have today.
So, a woman had a 10-12 mile radius.
You know, people, like the cars that we have today, we could just be like, we're going to drive 400 miles.
Like, we didn't do that in the 90s, you know what I mean?
I was like a Trek.
So, especially for a romantic relationship in the 80s and 90s, nobody's driving.
300 miles going, flying out here and there.
An airline flight was like, you know, 500, 600. It was expensive.
So dudes weren't flying girls in.
You weren't going to just fly out on a whim to go meet somebody.
So your radius is right here.
Your high school and the five rival high schools.
Your college, your college campus, maybe the rival college if it's close.
And that was your circle.
Friendships matter.
People would set people up.
Hey, my friend Tony want to talk to you.
That's how people got together so that if she was a 304 with that group of people, she cooked.
Cooked.
So then if I date her, the odds that somebody dated her in that radius is high.
Where today, the woman could go boom.
She all over here and come back to you and you don't know nothing.
To your point, nowadays, Coach, women can travel from China?
Yeah.
To America.
Easy.
With no type of background.
And try some bullshit.
Yeah, you know this, right?
The area courts have changed.
So you're right, 100%.
So yeah, it's just they had a limited market.
And they had a limited time.
Because they only have these people right here.
So basically, women were more reluctant to engage sexually because they understood that there would be serious social consequence due to a more constrained environment.
When I was in college.
I started dating this girl.
My homeboy was like, oh, I banged her in the bushes.
That fast.
She was cooked.
You might have thought maybe because she went to the high school over here, nobody knew about her.
They don't enjoy the same anonymity.
Now they can move in a little bit of a different space and come out here and say, hey, I'm holier than now.
Let me ask this then, and then we'll go to the 2000s.
Obviously, early 90s, you're 18, 1993. At this point, Hip-hop has gone mainstream, right?
Obviously, and you're on the West Coast.
Snoop Dogg, Tupac, etc.
Violent gangster music as well as, you know, they're talking about women as well.
And, you know, having sex and all this other stuff.
How did that plant the culture?
Did it affect the black community more?
Were white people listening to it too and also engaging in the bullshit?
How did that affect?
Because they didn't look at hip-hop as music back then.
Hip-hop didn't become what we know of it today until about 92. Right?
Now, it was a thing in the late 70s and 80s.
It was a thing, but it wasn't respected.
It was kind of like, that's going to be phased out.
Nobody's going to listen to that in the future.
But right when gangster rap came in, which I called the time bomb of the black community, that was the time bomb.
It was almost worse than the crack era.
Where, let me tell you, in the 90s, you start hearing women say they wanted to openly date guys like Dr. Dre, Snoop, Tupac.
Like, they were their boyfriends.
Like, before that, they didn't want guys like this.
These guys were off limits.
Like, gangbangers were a small group of people.
Today, everybody a gangbanger.
Or a drug dealer or a pimp.
Like, these guys were the lowest of the low.
Holy shit.
So, are you saying the early 90s kind of ushered in this era of girls getting with crooks?
Yes.
Let me tell you where.
I'm going to tell you where.
There were a couple of songs that changed the trajectory of how women dated.
Now, women have always liked bad boys.
Always.
Yeah, of course.
Always liked bad boys, but they had a reputation to protect, so they can't just be out here with bad boys like that.
Not openly.
They can't just be out here with a rapper.
That was immediately a stain on her.
So what'll happen is they had songs.
They had a song by MC Light, Roughneck.
All right?
For the young people, go look it up.
Once Roughneck hit, game changer.
And the song was, I gotta have a roughneck.
He gotta be rough.
He gotta be, you know, Timberland boots, baggy jeans.
Before that, women weren't openly dating roughnecks, but that image started to become popular.
Wu-Tang Clan, you know, dude with the one pants leg up, I'm trying to bring some shit back.
So those guys became the ideal guy because rap became mainstream.
And white people were part of it too.
Without white people, there's no rap.
There's no hip-hop.
They're the ones that actually buy it.
Niggas are bootlegging, bro.
They're bootlegging.
Come on, man.
LimeWire, all that shit.
Niggas are giving you...
You know it's bullshit because they give you the CD and it's all thin and it has a little paper thing.
It's bootlegging.
Yeah, they call that bootleg.
We would say dub this.
So my homeboy get the DJ quick.
Hey, dub that.
I give him a tape, and he just copies it.
So, you know, the rap industry is overwhelmingly consumed.
White people are overwhelmingly consumed.
Yeah, they're the actual ones paying for it.
Yeah, so when a guy went platinum in the 90s, a rapper, it was white people.
Of course.
White people.
It wasn't black people supporting him.
You ain't gonna platinum off niggas, bro.
Yeah, yeah.
Fuck no.
Yeah, and the manager is proof of that, too.
You can't go big without that.
You gotta have a crossover.
But what I will say is, in the black culture, when they sport something heavily, what I've been saying is, white people say, oh, that's cool now.
Right.
And then they go by after.
So the black community has to.
Yes.
Yeah, they have to support it.
So you need the base of black people, 100%.
Exactly.
Yeah, but that's just to give it the credentials.
But then the white people are the ones that actually buy.
They're going to take it, like N.W.A., Straight Outta Compton.
They're going to pay for the concerts of the white people.
Yeah.
Overwhelmingly, it was white people who bought that album.
But they don't think it's cool until we think it's cool.
Correct.
So you need to have...
Straight Outta Compton?
Yeah, white people.
Oh, yeah.
Overwhelmingly.
That was the first.
I believe it was the first album that went platinum.
All right.
Oh, yeah.
Went straight out of Compton because I lived in the city and moved to the suburbs.
White people love NWA. They love Public Enemy.
They love these fringe, rebellious bands.
And those bands were on labels.
I ain't gonna get Myron started.
You guys know the sound effect.
Those bands were promoted.
They weren't underground type bands.
So they got pushed forward.
Run DMC. These were all white people.
Supporting groups, Beastie Boys.
So that's the only way you would go platinum.
But back then, so Roughneck came out.
Then after that, there was another song that I tell my audience that came out in the 90s that changed the way women can openly date the bad boy.
But what happened was, what happened to the men, the men started to adopt this bad boy characteristic.
They started to dress like gangbangers and thugs.
Bandanas.
Bandanas, you know what I mean?
They started to wear the Timberland boots, the baggy pants.
So the men said, oh, the women are going to date those girls.
Those guys that I'm going to date, I'm going to become that guy.
And a lot of dudes probably in jail right now, overthugging to try to get some girls.
So that's when dating started to change in terms of women openly dating guys like that.
So that's mid-90s going into the late 90s.
I'm trying to think if there's anything else I need for the 90s.
Oh, so basically, the last thing I'll say is, so you would say...
Early gangster rap was what created this ideology of dating thugs and made it okay, socially acceptable.
Made it okay.
Girls, it used to be, you have a thug boyfriend, you kept it from everybody, you didn't tell them.
But now, after NWA, Snoop Dogg, Dr. Dre, Tupac, etc., now it's sort of date a thug.
And publicly do it.
Publicly, they're walking down the street with him, and everybody's like, you know he ain't gonna be no good for you.
So this is the whole conversation about...
Who's the victim in single motherhood?
Is it the woman or the man?
Well, the woman openly chose these type of guys.
So they want to blame the guys.
Well, he didn't take care of the kids.
But I'm like, those women openly dated those guys.
Okay.
You just said something really profound.
So two things happened in the 90s from what I'm hearing from you.
The commercialization and acceptance of dating.
Hoodlums.
That's what I call them.
Hoodlums.
Basically hoodlums, right?
Like guys that, quite frankly, are not going to be able to be good providers.
Correct.
Then, due to them accepting this, the acceptance of single motherhood from dating those motherfuckers.
Exactly, because they can still be the victim at that point.
Oh, these guys don't take care of their kids, but they openly dated those type of guys or guys that became those guys.
So it's a two-part situation.
Now it's acceptable to date thugs.
But on the other end, we're also going to accept the fact that they might get you pregnant and leave you.
And we're going to support you.
And we're going to support you.
You poor lady.
You know these guys ain't shit.
What about TLC? No Scrubs.
There you go.
So No Scrubs goes into...
That was the 90s.
So that was the other song.
So you had No Scrubs and Roughneck.
That was the 90s.
So women can openly say...
Can I take it back for a second?
Yeah, please, man.
Check this out.
We got time.
There was a time where...
For women, like today they listen to rap.
They be in the club, to the window, to the wall.
They be in the club rapping.
To the window!
Yeah, they be rapping in all races of women.
They be out here rapping the worst lyrics.
And they'll dance and shake to it.
Let me tell you, man, that's new.
Women didn't listen to rap like that.
They didn't sing the raunchy-ish stuff in the early 90s.
They weren't like, hey, we like this raunchy-ass rap.
They were like, this disrespects women.
This makes us look bad.
Y'all talking about your mama.
I'm not a hoe.
Where today, these women at future concert, they doing the raunchiest shit.
And then they want you to be a gentleman.
Or they'll date those guys openly.
So women didn't listen to rap like that.
But I think TLC was a more hip-hop R&B group.
Like, the rapper was Left Eyes.
You started seeing groups mix hip-hop and rap.
Yeah, she was rapping.
Yep, she was.
Before, R&B was distinct.
Because she couldn't sing.
Yeah, she couldn't sing.
So they started to mix hip-hop and rap so that then they could put out this No Scrubs and the women and men could hear it.
You know what's funny?
When I hear Chris Brown, these hoes ain't loyal, and they sing along, and I'm like...
But that's you, though.
Right.
That's you!
Exactly.
Right.
They sing along to that.
Yeah.
But they'll do that.
They'll sing along to the music now, but say, well, that's different.
Right?
They'll twerk to it.
They'll dance all that.
But that all transpired in the 90s.
Once you start the 90s, you started to see more.
Listen, Coach.
I know you're Coach Greg.
I know you're Chef Greg.
Cooking right now.
Cooking.
Cooking, bro.
So, all right.
We just covered the 90s.
Okay, so now we're going into the 2000s.
2000s.
So R&B started to kind of make a comeback.
I credit Diddy for this, unfortunately.
So he started to bring rap and R&B merger.
R&B was dying.
All these Luther Vandross and all these Patti LaBelle, they phased out.
But then you started seeing 112, Jagged Edge.
You started seeing more of these groups come back with a hip-hop flavor.
So they started to come back with a hip-hop flavor.
R&B came back.
Diddy was behind a lot of these bands.
So was Jermaine Dupree and ish like that.
So now what happened is there was still the emphasis on getting married.
Like I got married in the 2000s, right?
There's still an emphasis on getting married.
So what you would see is people more or less.
Still go out there and want to do the club thing, but still women wanted to get married overwhelmingly, but you're kind of seeing more strong and independent stuff coming.
Because Destiny's Child, if I'm not mistaken, that's 2000s.
Independent women.
Independent women came out.
Pay my bills.
Alright, so pay my bills.
You're still seeing this kind of a monetized thing and the women's strength.
This is when you've seen women empowerment.
We're women.
Survivor was the big one.
Survival.
You're seeing that, but you're still seeing women play both sides.
I want to get married.
But they're putting more restrictions or requirements on the guy.
Alright, I've got no one else.
No, because we're monitoring the different chats.
Oh, different chats.
Yeah, different things.
So you're seeing women play both sides a little bit more than it was in the 90s and the 80s.
I'm going to be a boss babe.
I'm going to go out there and have a career.
I'm going to get my career started.
I'm going to go to school, be educated.
And you guys got to accept this new form of woman.
So would it be fair to say that we're starting to see the rise of the independent woman in the 2000s now?
This is when it's getting hardcore, yeah.
Okay.
Now they're like...
In the 80s, 20% of the women were doing it.
In the 90s, what would you say?
90s, I would say 30, 40, 30, 30. Increases slightly.
And then now in the 2000s, now they're starting to stand on it.
50, 60, 70, yeah.
Now it's like, I'm gonna, like, alright.
Are we bringing in also dating apps as well?
Or like, Christian Mangle?
That didn't come 2010s, right?
It's still too early.
Like, there was Match.com.
Let me tell you, yeah.
Yeah, we're going from 2000, this one, 2000 to 2010. 2010, yeah.
So, Match.com was a thing back then, but you were considered a loser.
Loser.
Like, absolute loser if you were on Match.com.
I'm going to use this dating app.
Because, you know, you have some movies like You Got Mail started to come out in the 90s, and this internet started to come in.
You can meet people on the internet.
I'm telling you, it's unsafe.
You're going to meet some guy you don't know.
This is unsafe, uncharted territory.
People use dating match services in the 80s and 90s, but dating services like...
Match was, like, off limits.
You're a straight loser.
Yeah, I mean, I remember when there used to be, like, intense shame if you even mentioned that you met someone online.
Oh, yeah.
In the 90s, it wasn't a thing, but the 2000s, because the internet was still new.
People didn't trust it like that.
Yeah, dude.
I'll never forget.
I went on, like, my first, like, family trip as a kid.
And, like, my little sister, she had, like, booked a bunch of shit on the internet.
I'm like, this ain't gonna work.
Like, these tickets aren't gonna work.
You're not gonna be able to get a hotel?
And it all worked.
I was like, what the hell?
We could do this on the internet now?
Like, that's when it, like, hit me on.
This is, like, early 2000s.
People really only used the internet at that point for work.
You know what I mean?
Like, there was not much of this, I'm gonna have a life on here.
Right?
I'm gonna have romance and buy groceries and, like, all the stuff we do easily.
I'm trying to think.
What the hell were niggas doing on the internet?
Not even read the news.
What about computer love?
That was in the 80s.
What would people do on the internet?
You would do your work.
You would go on there.
Well, porn.
Without porn, there's no internet.
I'm going to tell you what you used to do.
You young guys, man.
It was tough.
We had dial-up.
It would be one picture and that thing would load like...
And you're looking at it.
Oh, there's her hair.
And then you down there, there's her neck.
You know what I mean?
Like, there's her nipples.
You know, like, you just watch it and shit.
You know what I mean?
And then, you know, you probably try to print it out or something like that.
You couldn't save it.
Nobody was saving it.
Well, yeah, and they have, like, the, like, porn shops where you can, like, go there and pick up a magazine or a Playboy and shit.
Like, niggas go in there in their trench coat and shit.
They go in there with the hood in.
Like, yeah, yeah.
You go in there with your glasses and shit.
You go in there.
We used to, yeah, that's how you used to get dirty magazines.
You know, you have to get the magazine.
That's where the best stuff was.
But going in the 2000s, you know, one of the most searchable people on the internet were porn stars.
Gotcha.
So that changed a lot.
So when it comes to dating now, so we saw the culture shift in the 90s where single mothers are starting to be accepted, thugs are starting to be accepted.
And then you mentioned that R&B starts making its way back.
How did that influence dating and how men needed to move with women?
And then what was the, I guess, the approach like?
Were guys still cold approaching at this point?
Yeah, you still cold approach.
The club was still viable.
Like, nightclubs is like, what are we going to do tonight?
You got to go to the club.
Yeah.
So even women went to the club.
They went to the club.
Men went to the clubs.
There's no cell phones.
So everybody's either standing around or they dancing.
Gotcha.
Right?
Or you buying a drink.
The women's expectation, you buy me a drink, you get a conversation.
But they're still kind of finessing it a little bit.
I do also want to say this.
You know, growing up in the 2000s, I remember in the early 2000s, almost every fucking music video was the club.
Was the club.
They were in the club.
Yep.
Girls there, etc.
Versus music videos nowadays, number one, they're not as creative and they don't spend as much money on the music videos.
Because back then, major record labels ran everything.
There was no independent artist.
So they'd have these big budgets.
But every single time, now that I think about it, if you look at music videos from the early 2000s, they were almost always in a nightclub or some type of social situation party.
And if they did have a cell phone, it was like they'd pull out a sidekick or some bullshit like that.
That was the cool thing.
Cold approach is still viable.
Girls still aren't getting attention unless they go outside.
Were they still valued the cold approach?
Yeah, you weren't going to meet nobody.
Let's see how many numbers we're going to get.
It was the expectation you were going to approach, but now since no scrubs, they can shoot you down.
So now you're getting hardcore rejection.
I was going to ask you.
That was the dovetail right in my question.
Were the major differences in dating between the 90s and the 2000s?
Did you say it just got harder?
It got harder because I could stop a girl 80s and 90s.
Hey, how you doing?
Let me talk to you real quick.
She either be, you know, she hit you with that or keep walking and you might have to catch up.
Hey, let me talk to you.
She might be like, okay, go ahead and put your work in.
Let me see if you a fool.
They'll give you the chance at least.
Or they'll be like, you know, that type of stuff.
It wasn't this cash at me shit.
You know what I mean?
It wasn't that or this straight where they just look through you and around you.
Yep.
That was not the norm.
Today, that's the norm, right?
Where they could just be like, cash at me.
They look through you or around you.
And to be fair, women got more going on today.
Yeah, way more.
For sure.
They got jobs.
They got make more money than a lot of these guys in many cases.
They got virtual options.
They got options.
They got social media.
So they're monetized.
That's where I say they're monetized.
Leverage out the wooza, man.
They got leverage.
So, okay.
And it's interesting, too, because in the 90s, you're in your late teens, early 20s.
So now you're an adult now.
You're going into your 20s and 30s in the 2000s.
So you're saying it actually was harder for you in the 2000s than it was in the 90s.
Easily.
Wow.
Even though you're making more money and you're more successful now.
Easily.
So I got married.
I cold approached my wife.
So I met her.
But we were in the same social circle.
So it was easy for us.
We were in the same profession.
But we just didn't work at the same place.
But I just met her.
Hey, what's going on?
This type of thing.
But it was expected.
And she didn't shoot it down.
It was like, oh, let's see what happens here.
I regret that day for the rest of my damn life.
I wish I could go back to the future and stop myself.
But that's another thing.
But you're still seeing women want to get married.
There's still this, I want a husband, kids, creating a family.
It still exists more than it doesn't exist today.
2000s got a bit harder.
Women are more open with rejecting you.
Would you say the women becoming more independent through Destiny's Child and this culture of I'm going to get work made it where women's standards went up and they just were not willing to tolerate certain things and that's what made it harder?
I suppose, but still there was still shame though.
There was still this sense of the woman couldn't just be out here.
Now they were there, but you had video vixens, models.
These women were...
Okay, these girls are over here.
I'm going to go give me a good girl.
I'm going to go give me a good girl.
So you can still go find a good girl where that good girl doesn't have a digital footprint on OnlyFans or Instagram.
Okay, before we get into the 2010s, because I predict that there's going to be a lot of shift here into the 2010s, what is the magic age now at this point?
So in the 90s, you said that age was 24. You don't got a man at 24, you're basically cooked.
You're getting made fun of, what's wrong with you.
Now we're in the 2000s.
What is that age now?
Say 28, 29. Okay.
Where the woman would go to Thanksgiving for the eighth time with no boyfriend, no man.
Oh, you ain't got no boyfriend, you ain't got no man?
So their relatives would tell them, even though female relatives, what's going on?
Okay.
You know, why you don't got a boyfriend?
So the shaming began at around 28, 29 now.
28, 29, yeah, yeah.
In the 80s, what was that number?
I know you were a kid back then.
Yeah, in the 80s, shoot, man, look, man, I'm telling you, people would have kids and families at 21, 22. Okay.
So if a woman isn't married by 22?
You can still say 24, 25. 24, 25 still?
Okay.
She could do some damage.
I mean, my mother had me at 20. Okay.
You know what I mean?
So you can still have young moms where women weren't pushing that career thing in the 80s all the way to 32 and 38. Gotcha.
This is definitely a 20s thing.
Okay.
Still a 20 thing.
Yeah.
All right.
So it was unheard of now where it's like you don't got a kid and you're 30. Something's wrong with you.
I'm telling you, man.
I don't think people realize how big of a deal that is.
That's why I'm harping on it.
I want the audience because some of the guys that are watching are older so they know this.
I want the younger guys to know, bro, these older women that are single still, they're failures.
They're failures.
They got women 32 and 44 still talking about marriage and children.
In the 80s and 90s, this was non-existent.
Now, that didn't mean women weren't having children at that age.
They could have had their fifth kid in their 40s, right?
Or they could have married their third husband.
So it was something still there.
But women are going, I'm going to trick off my 20s, and then maybe mid-30s, I'm going to think about having a family and husband.
This is new, and not only new from the 80s, this is new in the history of human beings.
How important is money at this point?
Is it still important for dating?
I mean, you could be broke.
You could have some struggle love.
You could have some struggle love.
You could have that Jaheim.
You know, Jaheim was in the 2000s, that struggle love.
You know, type of shit like that where y'all gonna build together.
Yeah.
We gonna get together and we gonna put a family together, build, and we gonna have our apartment, sleep on crates, and then we'll eventually build something together.
That was more likely the idea both for the men and the women.
Okay.
Now, once you get into 2020, that's...
It's over.
That's done.
Yeah, that's good.
Should we reach out before we get into 2010s?
Because I know that's going to be a big shift.
Is there anything that we need to look at?
And shout out to all you guys.
Guys, I'm live on Twitter right now.
We're live on Rumble.
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We're live on other platforms.
We've got Coach Greg Adams in the house.
It's a great discussion going through the different decades.
Also, CryptoCourse is still live for only our people at this point.
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So get in there.
Don't be a brokie so you don't end up with the struggle of...
Ain't no struggle love out here no more.
Yeah, they want you pre-assembled.
You gotta be ready.
Yeah.
Okay, so let's go into the 2010s.
I predict that there's gonna be a lot of changes here.
This is what destroyed everything.
So the 2010s, obviously, Tinder, Bumble comes out 2012. Well, Instagram comes out 2012. Tinder, Bumble, the iPhone 3 comes out.
This is the biggest selling iPhone.
iPhone 1 and 2 didn't do anything.
I think Instagram had a part in that because people were still using Android.
The first iPhone was 2008, 2009. I think the iPhone 4, that was the big one.
That came out 2010. I think it was 3S, then the 4. So this is 2010 going into 2011-12.
So this is when most people are getting an iPhone now.
They're turning in their Android.
They're turning in their Palm Pilot and their BlackBerry.
They're like, oh, it's iPhone, right?
So now we have apps.
BlackBerrys are starting to die.
Yeah, so now we have apps.
And the apps work better on the iPhone than they do.
So everybody's like, oh, let me see this, right?
So Instagram's out, 2010, 2012. Tinder, this is hookup culture.
So hookup culture for people, many people were born in hookup culture.
Hookup culture is brand new, 2012. You can swipe, swipe, swipe.
You're not a loser too much anymore for joining Tinder, although if you met a girl.
And then you met her family down the line, you would never say, hey, I met my girl on Tinder.
You probably would be like, I met her at a coffee shop.
It still was passe.
But now women can reach the woman that is considered four, five, six, and seven.
She can reach six-pack, ab, muscle.
She can reach a guy, and she would hook up with him.
She wouldn't want a relationship with him.
She's trying to get her rocks off underneath.
Then she would go find Beta Man.
So, basically, this whole social circle, circumference game that they had to adhere to and to avoid being shamed in the 90s and the 2000s, that's gone now.
Now that anonymity is finally here that they'd be looking for.
They could just do under the cover at night.
9.30, meet somebody on Instagram, meet somebody on Tinder, come through.
Now, women will blame the men for this, but I'm telling you, it was them doing this whole thing where they can get their rocks off and...
You know, get the sex that they want.
Get choked, hair pulled, all the dirty shit that they're watching.
Now women are more likely to consume porn at this point.
Because if you were a guy in the 80s and 90s, early 2000s, and you bought a Playboy magazine, women are like, ugh, he's one of those guys.
Now women want to be Playboy models.
Now you're seeing model mayhem, and a lot of the women want to be models now.
And they're saying they want to be models.
And you're like...
What the hell?
You know, I think they had a show on E! with Hugh Hefner and he had three girlfriends.
Now the women are like, we like that.
Paris Hilton's out.
We like that.
We want to be her.
So now they're wanting to be this, exploring their sexuality a little bit more.
Being sexually free.
When did Kim have the sex tape again with Ray?
That was probably late 2009, 2007. Yeah, like 2007 and around there.
But Paris Hilton was before that.
Yeah.
So would it be fair to say that like, This hookup culture began basically in 2010 where women were now indiscriminately.
Well, they're discriminant, but to a degree.
Where it's like mass, where they're starting to hook up with guys.
They're exploring their sexual freedom.
It would be on reality TV a little bit.
I remember Jersey Shore and The Real World and all this stuff.
You would see hookup culture there.
Maybe that was something reserved for television entertainment.
Now we're saying normies are doing it now.
The normal woman is now going.
I want to get my hair pulled.
I want to get choked.
Where before it was like a type of woman.
So the woman could say, there's good girls out here.
But now the normal woman is going, going, going.
I'm going to match with this guy.
He's just going to come through, beat the brakes off of me, and then go.
But sex was more free.
I think it was like 60s free love.
Hookup culture was free love.
It allowed an opportunity for regular women to find the guy they want to bang, the dangerous guy, the bad guy, but not put relationship restrictions on him.
At the same time, she's dating me, you, and telling us we need to date them, wait 90 days, want to get married.
So she's playing both sides.
So women are also starting to date multiple men now.
They're having rosters.
Versus they couldn't do that before.
The social circle would find out.
Everybody would find out.
Because I could be like, go to church.
Hey, what about Tiffany?
Oh man, don't mess with Tiffany.
Right now, Tiffany could be out there.
But over here, And then also dating over here.
So what would you say...
You mentioned a bunch of different dating apps, social media, whatever.
But what do you think was the biggest contributor to the hookup culture that began in the 2010s?
Tinder and Instagram.
But Instagram wasn't what it was today.
Instagram was a photo filter app.
What about Facebook?
Because Facebook is still popular at this point.
But would people use it for...
Facebook is a facade.
People want to put their best...
So people wasn't out there hoeing on Facebook.
Now you might cheat on your wife on Facebook.
It's more family.
It's more family oriented.
I'm a good person here and I'm on my job.
What about Myspace?
Because Myspace was a thing too.
Well, Myspace and Black Planet was a thing.
Yeah, that was a thing.
Black Planet?
Black...
Yeah, it was called Black Planet.
Yeah, back in the day.
Can I go even further than this?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I don't even know.
What the hell is Black Planet?
Whatever the black community does, the greater society will do 5, 10, 15 years down the line.
So the debauchery started with black people on Black Planet.
That came out of Freaknik.
So Black Planet was a place where the thoughts was on.
And MySpace was kind of along right around the same time.
But you still weren't really meeting a girl on MySpace and banging her.
Got it.
It was just some girl out there.
Just chatting.
Yeah, you just chat with her.
And you really wasn't like, okay, fly out, drive out.
I'm going to go see you.
She was just a woman out there.
Whereas in 2010, 12, 13, Instagram started to become before.
And a lot of you guys don't remember this.
There weren't celebrities on Instagram.
There were Instagram celebrities.
There were people that were popular.
They started getting popular on Instagram.
Celebrities still were like, oh, speak to my publicist.
They would go out and get a popular.
That's a very important distinction.
This whole internet influencers was not a thing.
It wasn't real.
You're right.
The real celebrities were your traditional celebrities.
Personal trainers.
Girls weren't dotting, I think, at the time.
It was the whole duck lip.
There were those girls.
So you're starting to see women getting attention doing scantily clad.
Today it would be innocent.
You're like, that's what was popular.
But women started to get a little bit more...
Women had to be doing something.
They had to be a personal trainer.
Scantily clad.
They couldn't just be like this dot.
But that changed.
2017, 18?
You know what we'll do?
Because the 2010s are so goddamn revolutionary for dating.
We can go from 2010 to 2015 then up to 2020. Real quick.
LomasD12 says, 2012 was the beginning of the end for dating.
It was.
Pretty much.
You could just say that was the year it was done.
Okay.
So, hookup culture was the defining situation.
Alright, so now we're in 2015. Trump is about to run for president.
So what are some of the differences now at this point in 2015?
I think by that time, celebrities are on Instagram.
So now this is the blue checkmark.
So now if you don't have a blue checkmark, you shit out of luck.
And how do you get the blue checkmark?
How do you get a major following?
It's hard to build your Instagram following if you're not a celebrity.
So now this is the rise of internet celebs now.
So I remember...
When I came to this space, people said, Instagram is not a dating app.
You're crazy.
You're trying to sell a course.
I'm like, no.
This is the new matter for dating.
And it's funny because the blue check mark meant something back in the day.
It meant something.
It meant you're an actual celebrity, verifiable, and this is actually you.
Nowadays, what is it?
It's a statement to say, I can buy it.
That's pretty much it.
And guess who was mad at that?
Celebrities.
They were mad because now we can put ourselves on par and their check doesn't mean anything anymore.
I'll be honest, bro.
Me and him both had legacy verifications.
We were pissed.
We're like, what the fuck, bro?
Yeah, because now I can get in.
Because I think I was kind of like, how do I get a blue check?
Because they were hard to get, dude.
It's very hard to get.
Back in the day, you needed a publicist or you needed a bunch of articles with a bunch of press to get that actual check.
For real.
Nowadays, you just pay, what, $12?
$12 a month, you get a check.
Yeah, exactly.
I was pissed.
Because you're paying a lot of money.
Yeah, because I had the real check.
You needed actual articles and shit like that.
Dude, I had so many articles of them talking shit like Fox News, misogynist, whatever the fuck.
Right, so that's how you get verified, but today you don't have to do that.
Back in 2016...
And Vine was huge too.
I forgot to mention this.
Vine, like a lot of these big celebs that we have now, internet celebrities, a lot of them started out like the Logan Pauls, etc.
They were Vineers, yeah.
Vine was big.
To our point, Lomas...
Super Todd, again, he said, only NBA players can get girls on Instagram.
Every good life message on Instagram ignored me.
Well, who is Lomas?
I don't know who you are.
You ugly nigga, man.
You're right.
Exactly.
Let me tell you something.
I don't want to tell you.
We play ugly nigga, bro.
Fresh was talking about.
Fresh said Instagram is the number one dating app in the world.
100%.
It's the number one dating app in the world.
It trumps any of them by far.
Now, the problem is we're talking about monetize now.
You're going to have to have some lifestyle money to be able to very much do well on Instagram or be fit.
And for us as men, it's competition.
No matter where you look, okay, who is the best man that I can find in my area to date?
Instagram is worldwide now.
So you're competing against Odell Beckham, a Drake, a Future.
It's like, bro, these niggas got the majority of women looking after them.
And you're a regular guy with a regular job posting selfies in the mirror like, huh?
But you know what's crazy though?
Where guys don't understand, Drake will fuck a five in your area.
Bro, thank you.
But you're looking at her saying, she ain't all that.
We got a five right now that we're going to put on camera soon.
Yeah, we got a video rack too after this.
Coach, that's genius.
It was crazy.
Niggas be like, oh bro, I ain't gonna fuck baddies.
I'm gonna fuck tens.
I'm like, really?
Let me see your ten.
Oh nah bro, nah, nah, nah.
But then, when you go actually see them in person, bro, they're fucking fours or threes.
That's the other thing.
But then, they see you, oh I'm gonna hit on this nigga.
Oh, she's a five or six.
Right.
To bring you down.
Yeah, right.
Come on, nigga.
Come on, man.
Exactly.
Let me capping, bro.
Exactly.
It's funny, though.
So now we're in 2015. So in 2015, you're saying we're starting to get the shift in the rise of the e-celebrity.
The e-celebrity.
Yeah, because Vine at this point is like...
Was mine still around 2015?
I think it had just started.
It just started.
I believe.
It might be started phasing out.
Yeah, I think it started.
Because I think it came out 2013-ish.
Yeah.
And then it maybe started phasing out.
Maybe 2017, 2018. I think Twitter bought it at one point.
Yeah.
But Instagram is mainstream now.
Everyone got an Instagram.
Everybody got an Instagram.
You don't got an Instagram?
What the fuck's wrong with you?
Like, what?
Yeah.
We're banned, so yeah.
Yeah, I would say, yeah.
We're banned now.
Maybe we'll come back.
But yeah, at this point, so you're starting to see Instagram.
Like, if you don't got Instagram, people look at you like you're weird.
Right.
So we start to see the rise of...
Social media.
What else do you think, I guess, from the 2015s?
Well, actually, you know what?
Compare and contrast it to the 80s and 90s.
Okay, so now let me tell you something.
A woman could not get married.
Like, that couldn't be her goal.
She can push off.
She can say, hey, I got my 20s.
I'm going to live out in my 20s.
I'm going to have fun.
You're starting to see this fly-out element where people are going to Dubai.
Oh, where are they going for?
Now we know they're getting doo-dooed on right by a sheep.
But for the most part, women are looking at it like, I have extended life.
The options just aren't in front of me anymore.
And for men, you're seeing that men are going, okay, I don't have a blue checkmark.
I don't have a physique, six-pack abs.
I don't have, you know, a nice car.
And we're seeing women give these guys attention.
And we're seeing men going, I can't compete with that.
So this is the whole 80-20 rule being lived out in front of everybody.
But hookup culture is going to start to phase out at this point.
So I would say hookup culture.
Really only lasted really to about 2020, COVID. So 2012 to 2020 was hookup culture where you could be like, I'm getting sex for free.
Okay.
Right.
All right.
Now let's get into 2020 now.
2020. Because this is also a big shift from the plandemic.
Yep.
So you got the plandemic, you got COVID, everybody's at home.
Yeah.
They're on their phones.
They're on YouTube.
They're on social media.
They didn't have a huge jump in social media.
Everything's going crazy.
COVID, you start seeing women more latch on to try to get a relationship because they're at home or they want somebody.
I call them a quarantine boo.
They can quarantine with some dudes.
At the same time, you're also seeing women still out there using their 20s to fuck around.
And hustling and monetizing.
And hustling and monetizing.
Because a lot of them lost work.
A lot of these women that were bartenders or strippers or any of this stuff where they monetized their beauty and they had to go somewhere to do it, now they don't have a job.
Now they don't have a job.
So now OnlyFans started in 2016, but it still was like...
I'll say sugar dating became huge too at this point.
So at this point, now they're overtly sugar dating.
It was like a joke before.
I'm going to give me a rich guy.
Now you're seeing them do it.
So seeking arrangements is 2018, 2019. Women are losing their jobs, young women.
They're not going to school because of COVID. So now you're seeing it overtly being lived out.
So I call it the monetized dating marketplace right around COVID. Also, back then, there were scouts going to strip clubs, going to clubs, trying to find girls that were working.
So you know what?
Stop this shit.
The OnlyFans.
I'll manage you.
Oh, wow.
Constantly.
Oh, yeah.
The Rise of OnlyFans, too.
Yeah, Rise of OnlyFans.
A lot of people forget that OnlyFans has been around since, like, 2016. Yep.
But it became huge in 2020. And COVID. Because all these girls that made money being bottle girls, strippers, dancers, everything else like that, now they're like, damn, I need to make money.
So they get OnlyFans.
Like, every dancer, every stripper did OnlyFans.
Had to.
I mean, because you don't have any means to be able to go out there.
You couldn't do nothing.
So you got a sugar daddy, you got OnlyFans.
So now what happened was guys started to see it.
At this point, we're popular.
You're popular.
You're flowing, right?
At that point, we're already doing this type of content.
We're exposing this, right?
YouTube was huge, too.
Basically, I would say 2020 was a turning point where a lot of people started to shift to watch their favorite concert creator versus television.
Correct.
We started to see the mainstream media die a bit.
Trump had already been doing this too, calling it fake news for four years.
So we're starting to see the rise of independent media, the rise of people using the internet and watching their favorite influencer versus like television.
But yeah, sorry, continue on.
Well, I remember I went to right when COVID hit.
My channel's already, I'm over, over.
100,000 subs.
But I'm going to Best Buy during COVID and people are buying lights, cameras, microphones.
So people are becoming influencers.
Women, men, couples, families.
TikTok is now gaining traction.
So now people want to be...
Now you're a celebrity.
YouTube became super...
I remember dudes used to just record with their iPhone and put videos up on some bullshit.
Bro, have you tried to do that shit now?
Like, and you're new, if you're already in the game, you can get away with it.
But like, let's say you're new and you're just making a channel, bro, it ain't gonna cut it.
You just sit in there with your phone.
I remember at Best Buy, we used to go buy cameras back in the day.
It was sold out.
Sold out.
Yeah.
I'm like, wait, hold on.
Camera sold out.
How's this possible?
How?
I want to be a creator.
Oh, yeah.
Actually, now that you mention it, bro, I couldn't get a fucking...
You couldn't get roll mics.
You couldn't get roll mics?
You couldn't get cam links?
Cam links, I remember?
Cam links, that's right.
So for everyone watching this, if you want to stream, one of your best friends that you're going to need, if you don't have a switcher, which most people don't use switchers, that's a bit more sophisticated when you've got multiple cameras.
But what you would do if you have one camera and you're streaming, you use a cam link.
And that cam link, what it basically does is it connects your computer to the camera.
And I will never forget, Elgato had these cam links.
Bro, they were selling them for like triple the price because you couldn't get it.
And then the lights, you couldn't get those out of the Elgato lights?
Yeah, I remember the Elgato lights.
You couldn't get those?
You couldn't even get them.
I had to buy like five of them at once.
Bro, because you guys are bringing back memories because at this point I remember I had to buy all the equipment for the studio when we did our studio.
And I remember everything being hard to find and expensive.
I was like, what the fuck?
But yeah, you're right because you start to see people.
Get into being in content creation.
And then also you're starting to see television companies, news broadcasters, etc.
They're getting on YouTube now.
I don't know if you remember that.
YouTube around 2019 tried to sell out all the YouTubers.
Was that the Adpocalypse?
It was after the Adpocalypse.
But what happened was Jimmy Kimmel and all of these corny ass people, YouTube started to favor them right before COVID. So YouTube was like, hey, the mainstream people want to be over here.
And then right before COVID, all those people, like these late night show guys, they started, Trevor, whatever.
Trevor Noah.
The fucking rich ass liberal South African.
Right.
So these people started to get on YouTube.
But what happened was COVID hit and shut down their production because they would just shoot it from their studio.
And they're in LA. And they're in LA. And they had the worst restrictions.
So now YouTube had to pivot back to Kevin Samuels.
They had to pivot back to the regular YouTubers.
Yep.
Because they wasn't ready to sell us out.
I said that in 2019. They was ready to sell us out to the mainstream.
But then COVID hit, and then they gave it back.
And they're all based in LA, and we know LA had some of the most severe restrictions on lockdowns.
Exactly.
Oh, man.
Yeah.
And this is bringing back so many memories, because it was only five years ago, but I remember, dude, struggling to get a Cam Link.
I remember how much of a pain that is.
And a webcam.
There's the webcam.
Logitech.
I remember seeing Logitech webcams for $900.
Yeah.
That's crazy.
They're robbing everybody, bro.
Couldn't get them.
And the thing, too, also is that what ended up happening, I realized, is if you guys watch YouTube creators from 2019 or prior, you're going to see people use their phones.
They use more rudimentary equipment.
But then once you get into the 2020s, dude, people are using damn near TV-level stuff.
In this space, you change the game.
And I always say that.
You change the game because...
Like, AMS would just get his phone.
He'd just hit it up like this.
AMS would just be like, you know what I mean?
He would come on.
One of a kind.
And so, we all was like, that's how we get put on.
Right?
But then you came in with the lights and the studio.
And it completely changed the game.
Because I looked at how everyone was using rudimentary equipment.
So I was like, okay, if we're going to come into the Red Pill, we got to come in.
Not just come in, but we got to come in like...
On some super high quality shit, high production shit, to stand out.
And that's kind of what was my thought when I was buying the equipment.
And then also, having it more as a talk show, I thought was a better idea because what I noticed, because the other thing too, and I'll talk about this because I know you had talked about it to some other people.
Everyone was scared of censorship for YouTube, right?
And it's one thing when you're just sitting there just shitting on women all day, right?
But if you are having a discussion or a debate or a conversation...
It's going to be a little bit easier to kind of maybe bypass hate speech a bit, right?
And then obviously that led the way for having these discussions with women.
But yeah, I remember in the manosphere, man, guys were getting censored and shit like that because they were just shitting on chicks all day.
Yeah, all day.
And most of the guys were doing car videos.
You know what I mean?
They in the basement.
There's some dark dingy.
So they're just like these guys that aren't respectable.
Once the studio element came in, it was like, okay.
We got to treat these guys with respect.
They're official.
They got podcasts, studio, equipment.
It just changed.
So now that the guys today, they're like, oh, I got something to say.
And then they pull their phone out.
They're not going to get in traction.
And I think the other thing with us that I, you know, I don't want to pat myself too much on the back, but we were able to, like, bring...
Red Pill creators like you, like Rolo.
And people are seeing you guys in another environment.
Yes, right.
In a professional environment.
In a professional environment, in a studio.
So I think people really enjoyed seeing that.
Like, oh shit, I'm watching Coach, but he's not at his regular studio.
He's here hanging out with these dudes, and they're sitting together at a table, and they're talking.
This is awesome.
Because we didn't have that in Red Pill yet.
Most people would do these little, I'm going to pull you up on the stream, and then you got the stream, but now we're live.
We're more colorful.
And I just think for that, it changed the game for everybody else.
But all genres were doing more better cameras, better quality content, better editing.
People are starting to get teams.
You got a team.
Live streaming and shit.
Live streaming, yep.
And I'll say this too, right?
I genuinely think, though we kind of did the thing with the podcast and the Red Pill space.
Look, if you came up with us, you're going to continue to come on the show.
No matter how fucking big we get, we're always going to bring people on because at the end of the day, this start off as a Red Pill podcast is going to end as a Red Pill podcast and whether it's women or politics or whatever it is, it's the truth.
That's one thing I really like because it's bringing other guys in.
Because a lot of you guys do your own shit, right?
So you stream, it's just you.
But I think there's a certain satisfaction viewers get from having them right now watching their favorite streamer.
Maybe you're their famous streamer, but now they're able to see you interact with us and us ask you questions and kind of have you in a different situation where it's like, oh, I'm answering questions and it's off the cuff versus when you stream, I know you're very organized and you have a template.
Well, with us, it's like now you're able to be more chill.
More of a personality.
So, Coach, in the game, I think you're one of the best.
Actually, I said you're one of the top ones, right?
YouTube, YouTube.
Monetize your bro so I can get some traction.
We're there with you, bro.
We're there with you.
I would argue you set the pace for a lot of creators.
Your whole show segments, people copy it, they don't give you credit, all that stuff.
But you made a video.
What was right with you, bro?
You made a video about the manosphere.
Yeah.
Why it died, why it's not developing, why it won't go anywhere.
Can you kind of put it in a more concise way for the audience real quick?
Yeah, just real quick.
Yeah, very important.
I think what happened, And this is where I'm going to give you credit.
As you just said, you brought people in with their philosophy and you allowed them to showcase it.
Where I think happened was around 2021, 2022. Kevin Samuels is big by now.
You guys are half a million to a million.
Now we're starting to see, oh, we can make money from this.
So then we started seeing the carbon copy.
Oh, all we got to do is get the studio equipment and then repeat this shit.
And we're going to pop off.
So now, nobody's getting credit.
Where now, Alan Rodger Curry's not getting credit.
CGA, they can just bury me.
And they can just watch my show because I still am a big show for a demonetized channel.
So what they do is they just say, we're going to watch CGA in the morning and we're going to do a video on one of his segments by the middle of the afternoon of the night.
Or are we going to say what somebody similarly said without giving credit?
You know what's funny?
Alan Roger Curry, rest in peace to him.
He had emailed me saying, hey man, you're talking about no free attention.
You got to shut your boy out.
I was like, oh, I didn't know that that was your thing.
How about you come on the show?
And he came on the show and we had him on and we talked about Mode 1 and everything else like that.
So instead of me saying, fuck you, bro.
We're bigger than you.
We're not going to listen.
I was like, you know what, bro?
I have an enormous amount of respect for you because I knew who he was.
But I didn't know that that was his quote.
I genuinely knew that.
So I was like, you know what, bro?
Come on the show, and you tell us about Mode 1, and you tell us about No Free Attention.
And I'm honored that I was able to have him on before he passed away.
Right.
You had him on right there, but most people aren't doing that.
And I said everybody's guilty of that in the space, more or less the same.
Well, you know, we've been contacting you for like a year.
We always want to bring you on, man.
Show love.
But a lot of guys typically are just, and listen, great minds think alike.
So we do have a lot of new voices that were motivated to do content because of me, because of you guys.
But what happens is it gets lost where it came from.
Where did that come from?
Where did that statement you say came from?
What then happens is the person who said it gets buried, and then they become bigger, and they never had to acknowledge it.
And I think that's bullshit.
I'll never forget, when we hit a million subs, I did a little speech, and I thanked everybody that helped us on the way up.
And I said, the big thing with us is we're going to make sure that ladder's always Still there.
We're not gonna we're not gonna climb up and then retract the ladder We're gonna keep it there and bring everybody up with us because here's the thing that I've noticed is we've gotten bigger and I know that you mentioned this in your video and I want you to talk about it as We got bigger if we pretty much put a target on the entire red pill community Yeah, and one that what ended up happening and I realized this is these loser reaction bottom feeder piece of shit channels Started coming in and saying, look at these misogynistic assholes, these toxic alpha males, whatever.
Because this was a relatively underground concept and movement.
But then once we hit the mainstream and then we started to hit the YouTube algo, this was radical to a lot of people.
It wasn't radical until you and Kevin.
People were just like, we could dismiss these guys.
But yeah, y'all made it.
And then Andrew Tate, etc.
And then people started to say, oh, these are like some radical extremists, misogynist assholes.
And I look at it like the whole community started to get targeted.
Because I remember they used to make hit pieces on us.
They used to make hit pieces on Rolo, Andrew Tate.
I'm sure they probably made some on you.
So it's like...
I saw the rise as the Red Pill started to become more popular in the 2020s.
I also saw a rise of reaction channels talking shit about it.
And there was a bunch of influencers that basically, their whole mantra was going after, you know, because if they say Alpha Male gets owned, they would get a bunch of views.
And there were a couple YouTubers that literally would just do that shit all day, bro.
Just attack Red Pill channels.
And I look at it, the reaction genre.
I don't have to make content.
I can just watch somebody's content and react to it and make content.
I don't call them content creators, to be honest with you.
I just call them some sort of reactionists.
That's what they want to do.
It's all good.
But they pay their bills.
This is what the viewer has to understand.
They pay their bills going after the big names in this space.
Pearl, Fresh and Fit, well Kevin at that point is not around, but Andrew Tate.
So now, if they Could just focus on these three individuals.
They'll make money.
They're going to make a lot of money.
So now you got 200,000, 300,000 views.
For the people who don't know, that's 30 grand.
That's 30 grand if you get a video to pop off.
So I'm looking at this reactor going, oh, if I go on a freshman foot every week, I'm going to make that amount of money.
Yeah.
We've got channels.
Depends on the CPM.
Because I think like, well, every.
It just depends.
I'm just saying.
Yeah.
You can make quite a bit of money.
Yeah.
Yeah.
The whole career off of talking about us.
Right.
And it's like.
Oh, yeah.
There's.
Yeah.
Literally.
I think I think there's reacting to something.
And then I think there's targeting.
I don't think it's fair because I had several channels where every video is about me.
So I'm like, okay, that's not reacting.
I don't focus on the same person when I'm reacting to something.
Bro, there's people right now I can think of.
I know one dude that made 100 plus videos on us.
Literally, I counted it up.
And then another two idiots that made like 70. So it's like, bro, it's like, as I saw like the...
Okay, so what I've realized is like with the Red Bull, it's fairly polarizing and considered extreme.
Whenever you go really hard to one side...
You always have these idiots that make videos and try to...
They're gonna go over here.
They're gonna go more center and then try to criticize you on that.
But the thing is, which I've always said about reaction YouTubers is, by definition of them being a reaction YouTuber, they have to be centered.
They can't be left or right.
So they don't really stand for nothing.
Correct.
So that they can continue to make the bullshit content they make.
Because then they make fun of the people on the left, then they make fun of people on the right and say, look at these extremists.
And they're safe.
And they're safe.
And they'll get pushed through the algorithm.
But I think also, like if you're getting reacted to...
That's favorable to you, too.
Yeah.
Because then people are going to watch your show.
You got hate watchers, which does help you with some content and help you get pushed through the algorithm, whereas if no one's making hate content on you, nobody knows who you are.
For me, I don't get that much hate content.
Kevin Samuels, you guys, Andrew Tate got a lot.
Pearl, so guess what?
They're gonna get more views.
It's free marketing.
So their channel's gonna get more people watching them, or at least recognize them.
You know, it's funny, like, you know, as much as these dudes, I've been pretty stock shit, they've actually brought us a lot of supporters.
Correct.
Because what they fail to realize is we provide something that they totally don't.
Like, they just make reaction content.
We teach dudes, like, how to make money and not be like them.
Well, I think at one point somebody even accused you guys of working together.
Like, they're like, oh, he paid him.
I mean, I heard that earlier.
Oh, really?
Wow, I never heard that theory.
They must have paid them to react to them because they're a big channel.
At that point, you guys were rising up.
Remember, hold on.
We were going to catch up.
So at one point, that was a conspiracy theory.
Like, oh, I think Myron paid them to react.
But no, at one point, I figured it out.
They made that many videos on us that people really think that we paid them, bro.
I'm paying them nigger shit.
Bro, that's funny.
Bro, they made 70 videos on us, bro.
Like, between 50 to 70. That's their most viewed shit.
So what are you going to do if you're a consecrator?
You're going to keep doing that.
I've often said that people said they were responsible for destroying the manosphere.
I'm like, they only went in on a couple people.
So I don't see them that big.
They went in on Fresh, Pearly, and something like that.
But I think also...
Those niggas have no reach off YouTube, bro.
That's the other thing, too, people need to understand.
Anytime I mention them, or anything like that, they're like, I don't know who these niggas are.
Nobody knows who they are.
Your audience doesn't know.
My audience does sometimes.
People that casually, they don't know who they are.
I don't think they disagree with the entire message because I've seen them make videos.
I'll see them react to your video and then the next video they're talking about dating and relationships and women.
I'm like, wait a minute.
That sounds exactly like what I would have said.
For the money, they'll switch up.
I need to go get the girls real quick because I'll be right back for the girls.
But let's do this, the 2020s, and then we can...
The 2020s, you can...
No, no, he can go.
Yeah, he can go.
Also, we got video to play right after I come back.
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
And then we'll close it up.
But the 2020s is where I call it the monetized dating marketplace.
So right now, women can openly say, I want a man that makes six figures.
I want a guy that's established.
I want a guy that has his life together, essentially a complete version of a guy.
Yep.
And they can have access to that guy.
That guy is on the Sugar Daddy website.
That guy is on Instagram.
That guy.
So now you're seeing women participate in it.
However, they'll say, I don't want that anymore.
Because they'll realize they don't have an advantage over there.
Because they go over there and they're like, well, he has a rotation.
You know, he's famous.
I can't really lock him in.
So then they'll pivot out of it and say, well, money doesn't matter anymore.
Well, they've already done it.
They've already done it.
So I'm like, well, you can say that now because you went over there.
So today, in 2020, it's hard to distinguish the good girls and the bad girls.
Where in the 80s, you knew.
It was plain as day.
Plain as day.
They dress a certain way, whereas I think now women dress like strippers and they don't realize it because that's fashion.
I was with a young woman.
She was one of my young girls at the JUCO. I remember we were at a strip club.
I took her to a strip club.
She was a little bisexual chica.
Flatback Supreme.
But anyway, we were at the strip club.
She was like, oh, they're wearing what I wear.
I said, you're wearing what they wear.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So that's how different it is with the women.
And that also goes to show how much we've made it mainstream for women to behave and dress.
Like streetwalkers, bro.
Like streetwalkers.
But then they try to not, you know, well, just because I'm dressed like this doesn't mean I am.
Oh, yeah.
Now, in the 80s and 90s, when they dressed like that, that meant they were.
Right?
That was the uniform.
Yeah.
The hooker uniform.
The hooker uniform.
Like, okay, you're dressed like that.
That means you're a hooker.
Where today, a woman can dress like a hooker and say, I just want to express myself.
I want to be free.
I'm not wearing it for male attention.
Yep.
And this is how I dress.
You know, and...
Now that we've recapped almost 30 plus years of hypergamy and dating and everything else like that, what would you say are the five biggest differences between now versus, we could say, the 90s?
Okay, so obviously women are extending their single life.
They're extending their single life.
Instead of trying to settle down at 20, 22, 24, where they call that a child now.
Yeah.
If you try to tell a girl you should be married at 24, they look at me like I'm crazy when we're on the show, bro.
They're like, what?
I'm dumb.
My brainstem ain't developing my frontal lobe.
They'll come up with every reason.
Versus in the 90s, you're 24, they're laughing at you.
They're like, hey, you better pick somebody because it ain't nothing but duds left out here.
So I think they've extended their dating life out to 30s, some even 40s.
So shame has been removed was the second one.
So there's no more shame.
You can't shame them anything.
And if you do, they just say you're shaming me.
I would say women openly dating monetarily.
He needs to make six figures or any variety of that where bottle service girl can want a high-value man.
These are all monetized dating.
Sugar babies and this type of thing.
Would it be fair to say that back then in the 90s, women understood where they stood as far as what they can attract?
To me, I look at it like women are delusional and they over-inflate their sense of self-worth.
Back in the 90s was a girl that was a 5. She knew.
Understood that she was a 5 and like, damn, this guy might be out of my league.
Because, bro, there's girls here that are 5s and they think that they deserve a dude that's a 10. But you know why?
What?
Because the 10 will fuck them.
Gotcha.
They've hooked up with them already.
Yeah.
Versus the 90s, that might not have been a thing.
Nah.
Because that guy was like, I ain't messing with her.
And if he did, he'd be like, hey, just keep this on the low.
You know, don't say anything.
Keep it on the down low.
Yeah.
Don't, don't.
Don't tell anybody I hit.
So yeah, basketball players, like the high school basketball player, will fuck the nerd chick.
But the nerd chick knew not to go blow up his spot.
Gotcha.
But today...
She's getting an NBA player to hit her up.
Hit her up.
And then she's coming out telling you, I was with Jalen Green.
I was with...
Gotcha.
Now the woman could say...
Women were a bit more humble back then.
Right.
If I got him, that means that's the new level.
They cannot go backwards in lifestyle.
Women do not go backwards.
I've always said that.
You heard that?
They can't go backwards, bro.
So once she's experienced a guy like in high school, if you had a car, she's not dating nobody without a car.
Yep.
If you have an apartment, she's not going back to the dorms.
Yep.
If you have a house, she's not going back to an apartment.
Right?
It just goes along.
If you have a luxury car, it's hard for her to date you with a Toyota.
Yep.
So they don't go backwards.
So once they've experienced it, that's where they are.
That's their new level.
Yeah.
You can't tell them otherwise.
And to be fair...
Dude's still banging them, girl.
So, you know, I mean...
Damn.
So, you know, do you feel sorry for the...
Not necessarily feel sorry, but guys are kind of cooked, huh?
What do you see as the future?
I mean, you've lived through multiple decades of this and seen literally the change, the evolution of the modern woman.
Where do you see things going from here?
From what you've seen already?
Well, it's going to be hard.
Well, marriage is cooked.
So for the average guy, you cook.
You're not going to be able to say, I have a blue-collar job and I'm a good, faithful man.
You're getting a reform 304. That's what you're getting.
So, yeah, you're cooked.
If you don't chase a bag and you ain't got a bag, I'm going to beat you.
I'm going to beat you at 30, 40, 50, 60, and 70 in your 20s.
So average men, it's a wrap for y'all.
Yeah, you better figure something out.
You better go get a bag.
I've been saying that since 2020, bro.
Average men are cooked, bro.
I think that's the biggest red pill for men.
Average is no one good enough.
Here's the thing, though.
They do have options.
They can travel.
Guys will be like, hey, I'm only 5'5".
I'm 5'7".
I'm 5'8".
I'm like, well, you're a giant in Guam.
You're tall in Honduras.
You're tall in Honduras.
Go to Honduras.
You're tall in Peru.
Let me ask you this.
We've seen an explosion in this password bro thing, right?
And I've always said, you know, I'm not a password bro, but I completely understand why it exists.
Absolutely.
Was being a password bro even a thing in the fucking 90s?
Yeah.
Okay, so there were dudes that were password bros even back then.
White guys and people in the military.
Okay.
Okay, so these people knew because, you know, their father or they themselves.
We're in the Vietnam War, Korean War.
Okay.
They went to Desert Storm.
So military guys were the passport bros.
Okay.
But those guys are more because of their job, right?
Right.
Not like today where it's like, I'm just going to get a passport and travel because I hate the bitches here.
Yeah.
No.
No.
Okay.
No, no, no.
So they were passport bros kind of by...
By default.
...extension of their job.
Yeah.
They were there.
They got the...
And then they brought a Korean wife over.
Gotcha.
That type of thing.
Versus like now it's like they're just leaving because like the women weren't that bad where they just needed to leave.
But like now they are.
Well, I'm going to tell you, interracial, like, the things that we think are normal today were taboo 30 years ago.
Black guy with a white girl.
It's still taboo.
They had a movie called Jungle Fever at that time.
No way.
Right?
Yeah.
Who was in Jungle Fever?
Wesley Snipes and some Italian lady, right?
I haven't heard anyone use that term, Jungle Fever, in years, bro.
Jungle Fever.
So, it's still taboo to interracially date.
It's still, like, for black men to have economic prowess is, like, You got money and you're not a celebrity or a doctor.
Today, you could be a black guy and be working tech and make $150,000.
You can be economically solvent where you're not stuck in Jacksonville.
So, not only that, passports.
For a black man to travel internationally that was not in the military, it's rare.
You would just stay where you were.
And airline.
For people to just be like, I'm going to fly somewhere.
You have to have money to fly.
So, flying wasn't as cheap as it is now.
What about passport women?
Is that a thing?
Yeah, it's been a thing.
Women been getting their cheeks clapped in the islands.
You know this, brother.
You know they go down to the Caribbean.
Speaking of which, we've got a video to play here that demonstrates what passport women are dealing with nowadays, especially leaving America to find their dream man.
If you don't mind, Travis?
Now, he's threatening to have my page deleted.
So, you guys want to know what happened to the Tulum guy?
Well, let me tell you, we went on four dates.
It went really well.
First date, we went to dinner, which you guys saw.
Then we went to a cenote and then dinner afterwards.
Third date, we also went to dinner.
And then fourth date, we went for coffee.
I felt something was off when we went for coffee.
I don't know what happened, but he basically ghosted me.
Not basically, he did.
Uh, so things were going super well.
Conversation was amazing.
Um, banter was so good.
I think what happened and like, maybe not the case, but like, again, I haven't spoken to him.
So this is just what my take is on it is that someone, a friend of mine who's good friends with him was like, Oh my God, he's amazing.
He's so not, he's not at all.
She was like, he's healthy, masculine.
And I was like, okay, very rare for Tulum.
Um, but even though he's not a F-boy?
I think he just wanted to F. You know?
Because he was very handsy.
I'm not against it.
But it was very much of that nature.
Even though conversation and ventral, all of that was good.
But we had a lot of sexual chemistry.
So what is going on here?
There was a lot of sexual chemistry for sure.
And there was a lot of sexual talk.
And so I think that's just what he wanted, and I'm looking for a relationship, so that's it.
He might not be an F-boy, but it doesn't mean that he just is not DTF. People have needs, so maybe he just wanted to F and that was it.
And then after that, just like off the face of the earth.
So again, I don't have his take on it.
This is just what I, from my perspective, what I think happened.
So that's it.
No hard feelings.
I mean, it has to be mutual.
But yeah, I would have just appreciated the conversation considering he was older as well.
I just would have expected that out of respect for me and just like be open, be honest.
I'm a big girl.
I can take it.
I'm looking for a relationship whenever that happens.
I'm not searching for it, but the next thing that I get into, I want to get into a relationship.
I don't want to just be hooking up with someone.
So that's it.
Search for love continues.
Clearly Montreal didn't work out.
Bro, that nigga left because she talks too much.
The fuck, man?
Her mouth is moving, but it ain't moving importantly for what he wants.
Yeah, he's like, I'm not here for this.
So apparently she went to Tulum to find love.
She went to other countries before that.
Didn't work out.
And the guy that she met was an older guy.
Ghosted her after four dates.
But here's the thing.
I gotta know.
Did he smash or not?
I think he did.
She's saying he didn't, but I know he did.
Yeah, I think he did.
Well, it could also be he didn't smash and he said, fuck this bitch.
Yeah, left her there.
She said he was very handsy, but you know what I'm saying?
Listen.
I didn't hear all of it.
Because my thing is, she's annoying, and then if he didn't smash it, I could see why he fucking left, because this is annoying.
But with these stories, they're always pointing towards them looking good, so him smashing would make her look bad.
He's annoying.
I could tell right now that she's annoying.
So after four days of this, he had to have hit.
Pulsing up clarity, he done with it, and she said he's not a fuckboy.
Well, like I said, the market's monetized, so he don't have to be.
I got I got tickets.
You know what I mean?
I'm going to give you $1,500 when you get home pure cash.
She accepted it, but now she didn't get to capitalize.
As I was saying, these women do it, and now what are they doing?
She's probably 27, 30, whatever she is.
I want a relationship.
Do you start with relationships going to Tulum?
But in a monetized dating marketplace, you can start a relationship.
Tulum is actually where everyone went during the pandemic, too.
It was the only place that was open the whole time.
Why would a woman want a relationship to start with a guy that takes her too long?
100%.
But you know what's crazy?
She left America, right?
To find guys.
I guarantee that guy was American or Western, though.
Probably.
These bitches ain't fucking Mexican, bro.
No, it wasn't a Mexican guy.
When a girl travels, she's going to still have her hypergamy.
She'll go to Dubai, or if she does go to a poor country, it's going to be someone that is an American or something.
No, that was a guy that had money.
As someone that travels herself, why are women leaving America to find men now?
Also, she said he's older.
That's a code word that women use to say the guy has money.
Yeah, older guy with money.
Women will never say, oh, he's rich when they're making a video.
That'll make them look bad.
They'll say, oh, he's older and more mature.
He could have been 45, 50, 55. He had money.
He had enough to take a woman to Tulum.
Wait, he took her?
That's what I heard.
No, I think she met him there.
Oh, she met him there.
Yeah, randomly.
Okay.
Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Maybe he didn't...
Okay, well, why are you looking for a relationship?
You meet with somebody at Tulum.
She idiot.
Passport woman?
Exactly, yeah.
So that's what happened.
So she went there.
Yeah.
And the guy, you know, tried to sweet talk her out of her pants.
So she's a whole TikTok channel about traveling to find men.
Literally.
Okay, so she's a passport.
Okay, got it.
Yeah.
All right.
That's rare though, bro.
It's rare.
Not for a relationship.
No, she wants a relationship.
Well, it's rare that she's going to find that.
Because I'm going to show you this.
Think about this.
Think of all of the countries where you say, men leave this country to find women.
I have yet to hear any man say, I'm going to America to find a woman.
Not one.
They go everywhere but America to find a woman.
There's no man on the planet that says, I'm going to go to...
And think about this.
We have more single women.
We have attractive women.
We have women that are...
Nobody says, I'm going to America to find a woman.
They're coming here for tourism.
Like, the girls as a whole, that's not why they're coming here.
When niggas go to Columbia, they're going to fuck girls.
Exactly.
They don't come to America to fuck girls.
That's like making life harder on yourself for no goddamn reason.
Why would you do that?
I mean, you're dealing with highly hyper-mistrustful women that have been promiscuous.
They don't have shit.
Like, nobody's coming here to rescue women.
And you would think, even in the black community, you got 78% single women there.
And these women are all tens and queens.
Not anybody's coming to get them.
And they're in poverty.
Like, you would think.
You could go to St. Louis and clean up.
The other thing, too, is they outpriced themselves from the market.
So, like, they're in the U.S. with super high standards, but they're hoes.
Right.
So, it's like, dude's got to come here and pay full price to these girls that, like, quite frankly, don't fucking deserve it.
Why?
Yeah.
But notice, right?
He had the power to walk away.
Why?
He had money.
He had money.
Guys, get your money up, man.
Link down below for the course for crypto.
Listen, Bitcoin's down right now.
Is that what?
80k?
Is it in the description?
We got in the description?
Yeah, down below.
YouTube and Rumble?
Yeah.
Travel the world, get your money up, and enjoy life.
Remember, he walked away from her.
He said, fuck this shit.
I'm out.
I'm pretty sure he smashed, though, from my point of view.
Yeah, I mean, I don't know.
Let me just tell you.
Whether he did or didn't, either way, she's insufferable, and she couldn't keep him because she was annoying, and she talks so much.
I can see why.
Because she wouldn't care if, for example, his fashion leaving is worse because she's talking about it now in detail.
If he didn't smash her, fuck this nigga.
Right, she wouldn't care.
Four dates, bro.
Four dates.
She might have been invested at that point.
Four dates, bro?
Nah, bro.
Not four dates.
That nigga spend that much time talking to her, she might be invested at that point.
Nigga, she don't care.
And here's the other thing, too, about women that I realize.
Women are okay with going to the internet and taking their L's online.
Like, bro, could you imagine?
Like, you got flaked on, you got shit on by a girl.
You go on the fucking internet.
Oh, my God.
Life sucks.
Bro, women are the only retards that go on the internet and complain about their daily life.
But we should love that, though.
It's good for us.
That's good for us.
It's good intel.
It's good for us.
We can just look and go, hey, there's another one.
I see a pattern here.
It's good intel.
But to that point, notice, right?
She's upset that he walked away.
From my experience, it's only because he smashed and then dashed.
Otherwise, why talk about a stroke?
I know you look crazy a little bit.
Well, bro, I agree with that.
I've seen girls, bro, not smash and still get mad when a dude leaves them, though.
Wait, to not smash though.
He didn't fuck, but he stopped talking to her.
And she enjoyed the conversation with him.
She thought, I could string this nigga along.
She thought she had a gun.
She thought she had one on the hook.
She's like, I got him on the hook.
He's already invested.
He's going to want to hang out with me.
But she went out with him three or four times.
But I have seen it where the girl liked the dude, and then she didn't want to give him no pussy.
And he said, fuck this bitch.
And she complains.
He left because she didn't give him no pussy.
She sucked his dick, at least.
Something.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
She did something.
She did something, bro.
I agree she did something.
I agree she did something, for sure.
All right.
And we've got another video as well.
Bro, girls that go to Tulum are sluts.
Yeah, 100%.
Yeah.
By themselves, too?
It's crazy.
Hell nah.
Listen.
Oh, bitches that travel by themselves?
Whores.
Listen, let me tell you something.
If a woman leaves the country, this is cold word for she getting digged down somewhere else.
I mean, there's no way they going without it.
Especially when they're getting a foreign dick, man.
Well, because I know when I travel the country, I'm going to put hands on some hips, so I know what they do.
When I leave the country, I'm folding something up like a love letter from the second grade.
Ah, shit, man.
All right.
And then last video here.
Now, he's threatening to have my page deleted.
So, if you know.
Because you did a reaction to this on your actual ex account.
No, I just tweeted about it, but yeah, we could play it.
You want to tell them a little bit about that reaction?
I'll ruin it, though, if I do that.
Cool.
Yeah, we'll just play this girl.
She's talking about a certain rapper that you guys are probably all familiar with.
So this girl came on a podcast about a year and a half ago.
So she's an entrepreneur.
She's doing her own thing.
She's a single mom.
And we're like, okay, cool, whatever.
Bro, you're good at remembering these.
I don't remember her, man.
Yeah, a gorgeous doll.
She wasn't rude, but she was like, there.
Mind you.
Did she get kicked out or no?
I don't think so.
But mind you, she was dating this rapper the whole time, talking about she's independent, and I'm like, wait a minute.
And I see her out, and I'm like, ah, gotcha.
So let's see what happens after this relationship has ended, how she reacts to this interaction.
Now, he's threatening to have my page deleted.
So if you know, go follow my other page.
But it's like, at the end of the day, babe, I will take this off TikTok, and we will go to Instagram with it, okay?
I will go to Twitter with it.
I will go to ever social.
Listen, babe.
Babe, who are you playing with?
Don't text my phone.
Don't text.
Excuse me?
Stop fucking playing.
Listen, at the end of the day, I promise you, I promise you on my life, on my fucking life, on everything in my life, all you have to do is shut the fuck up.
All you have to do is keep on fucking playing with me over and over and over and over and over and over again.
You're going to fucking learn.
I promise you.
Because I'm going to fucking teach you.
I promise I'm going to teach you, bitch.
Bro.
So she calls Future, records this phone call.
What else is going to say?
And I post it online.
Because she exposed their relationship five years plus.
Relationship, you said, though.
She called it a relationship.
Translation to just a side piece.
He could afford her and keep her at bay.
Because Future even admitted that he'd be tricking.
Didn't he do that when he did the Kevin Sanders shit?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
All rappers.
All of them, bro.
People call it tricking, but I look at it differently.
I call it just...
Kind of lowering your liabilities.
Because it's much cheaper to do what he's doing.
And then I can keep a rotation.
And then most of the time, an honest hoe wouldn't do this.
But this is a bad hoe.
And I think the reason why is he kept her too long.
So now she's more attached and hurt for it.
And of course, if he was removing any monetary value, this is her only recourse.
I said from the 80s and the 90s, there was a phrase called sprung.
Where a woman was sprung on you and you were sprung on a woman.
Today, women don't have that as much.
The only time they do have this is when there's something else attached to it.
So I tell guys, a woman can never really love you.
She loves you and I love you for what you do for her.
The minute you remove that one thing, she'll fall out of love.
And I think women today are more...
They can handle a lot of the rejection.
They can handle...
The breakups and just move on because they have a lot more options.
They can be like, alright, you don't want to do that?
I'll just go back on Instagram or I'll go back on Tinder.
Where in the 90s, there was no other thing to go back to.
She'd just go back to her college.
I'll say this.
Women absolutely get over men way faster now because they're more promiscuous and they have more options.
That's one of the telltale signs actually of a chick.
Instagram.
If you think about this, where I said for women, 80% of the men are invisible.
And women are like, that's not true.
I was like, okay, go park in Target parking lot.
I think it's 90, bro.
As a woman, go park in a Target parking lot.
Tell me, and go in and go out.
How many men did you see?
One?
Zero?
She didn't see the guy pushing cart.
Right?
She didn't see the guy bagging groceries.
She didn't see the creepy dude walking down.
She didn't see any of those.
Now, I'll tell a guy.
Do the same thing for a guy.
He is acknowledged and saw every woman.
In and out.
But the time he got out of the car, and he could tell you, I saw the granny with the soggy titties.
I saw the girl over there.
I saw this girl with the big booty.
I saw the girl at the makeup counter.
I saw the clerk.
So we see everybody.
They tend to say, this guy's not valuable to me.
I don't see him.
Yeah, dude.
Good point.
That's so true.
We say that all the time.
Like, you go to CVS, you don't remember nobody from your trip to CVS. Oh, there you go, yeah.
Right?
And it's true.
But like us...
It could be a chick behind the reception thing.
We'll remember her.
She got buck teeth.
Yep.
Big-ass bifocal glasses.
And we'd be like, I think I could do something with this.
Transformer.
I could fix this up.
You know what I mean?
Put some braces on her.
And then I could clean her up real good.
Yeah.
So cool.
Just to close this off real quick.
How does a man bent or, I guess, level up to have freedom in life and have the actual power to say, no, I'm good.
I want her.
And I want to say, win a life at large.
Dude, man, for guys, I think the best course for young guys is to stay single.
You know, we promote this for women.
Stay single in your 20s.
But then you have guys out here, but I want love.
I'm like, well, who?
These girls are out here 20 to 32 doing what they want.
They're not settling down.
So I'm telling guys.
Do the exact same thing and build up abundance.
You have to build up leverage and options.
If you don't have leverage or options in this dating marketplace or in marriage, you're cooked.
So you're begging and now you don't have negotiation power.
Yeah.
Good point.
Stay single.
And then last thing, what does JUCO mean?
The JUCO. That's the monetized dating marketplace.
So the JUCO, initially when I said it, it was me going to a junior college, so I'm going down to younger women.
And then it evolved into the monetized dating marketplace, so it's a place for you to be able to lease your pleasures.
Not buy, lease.
Not buy, and then you can put it back on out there for somebody else to lease, yes.
So when guys say, man, y'all don't know how to spit game and talk to girls with just a mouthpiece, y'all are lacking.
What do you respond to that?
The mouthpiece is for, number one, low-quality men for broken women.
So that's normally the people for women that are going to respond to that.
Now, you still do have to have a conversation and be able to talk no matter who you are, whether you got a million dollars or you got done.
But guys that solely depend on that don't realize that the quality of women they're getting are trash.
They're broken.
They're broken into a million pieces.
So they are going to possibly...
React to a guy that's spitting game.
But in 2025, game is dead.
It's only going to be for broken niggas and broken women.
Damn.
That's real talk.
Any last questions for Coach?
No.
I'm good, man.
Because when you were gone, we were definitely chopping up about a bunch of stuff.
So Coach, where can I find your brother?
The Coach Greg Adams channel.
The Free Agent Lifestyle channel is where I live stream every day.
Every day but the Saturday.
What time do you go live?
I go live at 8 o'clock on the West Coast.
So I get everybody through their workday.
I'm streaming for 7 to 8 hours a day during the weekday.
So I get you through your workday.
Then you can come home and watch me.
So Coach Greg Adams, the Free Agent Lifestyle channel.
You can find me on Instagram.
If you type in Coach Greg Adams, YouTube is fucking with me, man.
Sometimes my channel is coming up.
Were you on the DHS hit list?
No.
Well, I always say I wasn't in the top.
10, but you guys gotta realize that list was 30, 40, 50 people.
Okay, you're on that list.
Everybody's on the list, but it's a matter of where I was.
Every Red Pill channel is like Shadowband of Hell, and everyone's views are down.
Dude, you can type in my name, Coach Greg Adams, and my channel will not come up.
The big channel will only come up.
I got search for it to find it.
Go all the way down.
You know what it is, bro?
But you know what?
Now, with Trump in office, he literally signed his ex-voter on day one.
No more government collusion, because that's what it was.
DHS wrote a fucking hit piece on us, on all of us.
Us, Andrew Tate, Pearl, you, Sneeko.
We're all put on this list, and they're saying like...
Even bitch ass MTR. Right.
He was like number two or three on the list.
He ain't Red Poe, but like, yeah, he just reacts to our shit, but like...
But yeah, bro, they put us on this hit list, and I've noticed that a lot of them have taken a nosedive as far as views and shit because of the shadow ban.
So hopefully he changes that so we can get out here and get a conversation.
Yeah, bro.
Because the executive order was to prevent...
Big tech from colluding from the government to suppress American citizens.
Well, the government specifically, like you said, so that was a government.
And what we know about the Biden administration, they were going to certain platforms to say censor them.
So that's an overreach.
And so if they're doing that from the Homeland Security, that's an overreach and censorship.
Yeah, working with big tech to censor U.S. citizens.
That's unacceptable.
Fuck that shit.
W. Trump, man.
W. Trump.
Exactly.
Let's get him in.
Yeah, so yeah, no, it's definitely the shadow ban.
So we'll see what happens.
But anyway, guys, you want to tell them what's coming up?
Yeah, so we're going to do a show with some girls, I believe.
And then Coach will do something in the future as well in Miami.