All Episodes
Previous Next
June 16, 2020 - Davis Aurini
18:05
Sexual Morality in an Immoral Age

Originally published February, 2018. I probably disavow.

| Copy link to current segment

Time Text
Sexual morality in an immoral age.
This is a requested video from Rui, who wants me to address the topic, how are we supposed to be virtuous men in the whole field of relations between the sexes, given the sheer instability, the sheer schizophrenia to the present sexual marketplace.
How are we supposed to uphold God's law when it seems like every choice leads to some sort of violation?
Now I'd like to start this video by looking at the bigger picture of what's going on in our civilization.
What is the nature of our present society?
And I would say it is inarguably an extremely effeminate society.
Or if you prefer the term, it's very yin.
It's a very passive society.
There is very little yang in this civilization.
And you know this.
Anytime you show any yang, anytime you show any activity, there's a boot waiting to stomp on your head.
You have just a little bit too much to drink before you drive, and they're going to throw the book at you.
You get into a fist fight.
You know, you get a little bit too aggressive.
And, you know, they'll arrest you for that.
You state your bold opinion at work in a polite and civil manner, and you get fired.
You see, virtue is the mean between two extremes, between the extremely active and the extremely passive.
Courage, for instance, you have the extreme of foolhardiness.
The young men that race their cars dangerously fast, or will get into a fistfight over absolutely nothing, or will do any other number of foolhardy things.
That's not virtue.
But neither is it virtue to be the coward, to be the intellectual that says, oh, fighting never solves anything, that it's, oh, the consequences aren't worth it, oh, you never take any risks.
That's not virtue either.
That's not courage.
That's cowardice.
Courage is when you are willing to take a risk.
You are willing to stand up for something, but you're well aware of the fact that discretion is the better part of valor.
that it's almost never the right time to fight, but when it is time to fight, you are willing to go.
But here's the thing, with our society, if you err on the too much action, you can get into a lot of trouble.
Whereas if you err on too little action, if you're a coward, well, just keep buying those video games and comic books and you're fine.
Nobody is going to punish you for being a coward in today's society.
Now this effeminacy affects the characters of the men and women out there.
So for the men, it's fairly obvious.
Okay, the very nature of our social environment, of our schools, of our workplaces, tends to be act like a pussy.
Act like a wuss.
Act like a weakling.
Don't offend anybody.
Be worried about other people's feelings.
Be overly cautious about everything.
They want you to be walking around stoop-shouldered, looking at your feet.
Now, for women, this effeminacy takes a different turn, because effeminacy is not a strong female principle.
It's not femininity.
It's not an excess of femininity.
It's the passiveness in the female.
See, a woman that is actively trying to be a woman is going to be actively chaste.
She is going to control her sexuality.
She is not going to throw it away at every single Chad that walks into the room, at every guy that catches her fancy.
She is going to resist that to emphasize her female nature.
Instead, because these women are so passive with their emotions, they wind up becoming a mimicry of men, while the men become a mimicry of women.
And so this is the bind we're in.
If you screw up and go too far into the active masculinity, there are people waiting to punish you.
And furthermore, given that women are so incredibly loose, if you become, if you are actively pursuing women, it's very hard not to get sex.
So how do you hold to God's law with this situation?
Well, first, a little bit of context of what exactly is God's law?
Because we all know the churches that celebrate the virgin cuck boys who they're not virgin through any great effort of will.
They're virgins because they have no other choice.
And again, weak men cannot be virtuous.
Dangerous men are needed.
Potentially dangerous men that can show the restraint.
That's where virtue is.
It's easier to become a saint having been an ex-sinner than it is to become a saint if you've never sinned out of weakness.
Take this modern crop of atheists that we have.
I was joking with my friend Artistic Layman, because he's always debating these people for some reason.
And I was saying to him, you know, if you're going to be an atheist, at least do it properly.
Just be the greatest hedonist in the world.
Go drink absinthe and seduce tons of women and thumb your nose at that abyss.
Because the atheist that does that, that actually goes and experiences life to that extent, that person might just repent.
But instead, we have these atheists that they really just use it as a cover-up for their moral cowardice, for their weakness.
It's this little teddy bear they hold on to to tell them that they're smarter than everybody else, and that, oh, they don't need to be an alpha chad because whatever.
And I see so many of them winding up like that character in C.S. Lewis's screw tape letters who showed up in hell and said, I now realize that I spent my entire life neither doing what I wanted nor what I ought to have done.
So right off the bat, this passivity, this weakness, get that off your table.
That's not even a choice.
Literally anything is better than weakness and cowardice and passivity.
You know, maybe if we lived in a different society, if you lived in ancient Rome, where they were a little bit too active, perhaps, then having that reflective quality, that ability to hold back, that passivity, would have been virtuous.
But right now, in this passive, effeminate society, we need more masculine men.
So passivity, off the table.
Don't have time for passivity.
And let's consider just what God's law is.
Fornication, if you search the root meaning, if you search the definition, if you look at the society that this came out of, fornication literally means hiring prostitutes.
The sort of man who was a loose cad 200 years ago was doing it because he was spending money on prostitutes.
And I don't think I need to make a big argument that there's a huge difference.
There is a continent of difference between your intellectual hedonist that takes advantage of the loose moors of the civilization to rack up as many notches on his bedpost as he can get, versus the trust fund baby that manages to get women around him all the time because he takes them out for dinner and has a fast car and it's soft
prostitution.
but it's still prostitution.
World of difference between the two.
And that's the thing.
The ancient, the CADS in 200 years ago were the trust fund babies.
They were buying prostitutes or they were paying for loose women.
They were paying for mistresses.
It was no great masculine virtue that attracted these women to them.
It was the fact that they were born into wealth.
So fornication points towards that, to prostitution, to using money to get women.
In other words, women that wouldn't sleep with you if you didn't have the money.
And I don't think that's what you're worried about.
I don't think that's what most of you guys are worried about.
The next thing to consider is look at the Old Testament.
Look at what sort of men were considered beloved by God.
We've got men like King David and King Solomon, both of whom, at times, allowed themselves to get led around by the dick.
These were potent, virile men that liked women, sometimes too much, and sometimes they did bad things because of this.
and yet they're described as beloved by God.
There's a third factor to consider in all of this, because it's sleeping around.
While not fornication, you have to ask yourself, is it good for the women?
Let's be frank, it isn't.
While there's no specific biblical prohibitions on men sleeping around, there is justice that the fathers can seek out, but these days the fathers are giving the daughters birth control and sending them off to university.
Fathers don't care if you turn their daughters into sluts.
Fathers don't want justice for it.
Society doesn't want justice for it.
Nobody wants justice for it.
So should you get your beak wet in the trough?
Well, what's the alternative?
being a shrinking violet, and a wallflower, part of developing into a man is that you need to understand women.
And you can read all the books you want.
You can study all the data sheets.
But until you've been out there pursuing, it's like trying to learn hunting from a manual.
You can learn a lot from Emmanuel, but you actually need to get out there into the wilderness and hunt down that moose.
As a young man, with your hormones raging, with them being inflamed by the pornographied society that we have, with the shameless, loose women that we have.
you need to get out there and engage in it.
You either need to become a hermit, or you need to get out there.
You need to go learn a little bit of hunting firsthand.
You need to see how these creatures behave in the wild.
You need to figure out what they are at their very core, because women are something very, very different from us.
They are so different, you can't even really put it into words.
Mencken wrote entire books trying to explain it, and yet it's the sort of thing that you can't explain to somebody who doesn't already understand it.
And the only way you understand it is you go out there and experience what women are like.
Now, if you want, you could be like Wentworth in my novel, Just based off of something I heard a Canadian fortress sniper say once, that he would love to go hunting, but he has no desire to kill an animal.
And so my character Wentworth went hunting, but he intentionally shot the tree next to the deer.
Because he had no need to kill the deer.
He just needs to know that he could.
He needed to understand it.
He needed to get out there and stalk it.
Now that said, a rifle ricochet off a tree is far more evidence than, don't you know the guy that convinces himself he's good with women when he's a completely creepy incel?
So again, get out there.
I can't tell you what you should do specifically.
You need to figure this out.
Part of virtue is coming to understand all of these things, to to grow and to course correct.
You know, and sometimes it's a bit left and sometimes it's a bit right.
Sometimes you're in choppy waters and going straight north will slam you into some rocks.
The end of the day, what you need to do is get good.
You can't run from this problem and if you don't understand women, oh yeah, you might eventually get married and you're going to think everything is fine until she divorces you out of nowhere because you've been living in this passive delusion.
You need to get out there.
You need to be active.
You need to engage with women, flirt with them, talk to them, pursue them, chase them around the woods a little bit and if you go too far, if you get yourself into trouble, repent and then get back on that horse and ride again.
Best of luck, brother.
▲
Export Selection