The most dangerous of them all - the Borderline Personality Disorder. These 'people' are absolute monsters. Look out for them, folks. RockingMrE has a video on a Borderline: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pXdhQ9VIP7c www.staresattheworld.com
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| So the borderline personality disorder. | |
| If you look this one up, it's the hardest to explain. | |
| Or at least the psychologists have the hardest time explaining it. | |
| They don't seem to know exactly what it is. | |
| Although there is a saying in therapy circles, you don't treat a borderline, you ignore the borderline. | |
| They are the biggest assholes out there. | |
| But it's actually not too difficult to understand them. | |
| And as I've said before, they are the most dangerous to have in your life because they can easily slip under the radar. | |
| So I really hope I do a good job with this one because I spent a weekend in remand because I let a borderline in my life. | |
| And I'd rather that the same thing doesn't happen to you. | |
| So the borderline is a perversion of the phlematic personality type. | |
| Now the phlegmatic, again, is introverted, but very much a people person. | |
| They go along with the scene around them. | |
| They aren't controversial, but they very much, very much enjoy the company of other people. | |
| They want to be around people, and so they'll go to lots of different places that people congregate, but they won't initiate anything. | |
| They are the administrator, the bureaucrat. | |
| They'll put themselves in a position where they can deal with other people without having to initiate the contact. | |
| They do tend to care about other people a great deal. | |
| They're the people that come to your party to have a good time. | |
| They don't care what music plays. | |
| They aren't going to start a conversation with other people, but they like talking to other people. | |
| They want attention, but they're afraid of attention at the same time. | |
| And this is where the superego comes in. | |
| Now, if you've ever dealt with an HR person being extremely passive-aggressive, this is once again that conflict between wanting attention but not wanting attention. | |
| They want to interact with people, but they can't seek it out themselves. | |
| So sometimes they'll just start a little stink so that you'll have to pay attention to them. | |
| But generally, when they're acting like a healthy, sane individual, they'll balance that need for attention with that innate taking offense to things. | |
| Because it's very easy to offend a phlematic person. | |
| They don't want you to compliment them directly. | |
| They want you to appreciate them. | |
| The narcissist wants you to compliment them directly. | |
| The phlematic just wants to be appreciated. | |
| And too much attention makes them nervous. | |
| Now what happens when you pull those brakes off and get rid of the superego that gets them to balance their behavior? | |
| Well, remember I said the histrionic is fundamentally bored all the time. | |
| They have no id. | |
| It's subsumed in their ego. | |
| They're bored. | |
| They have no purpose in their life. | |
| The borderline, on the other hand, is pure id. | |
| is a pure swirling maelstrom of love, hate, desire, pain, just constant with no release. | |
| The narcissist seeks out constantly people to give themselves attention. | |
| They define their reality and try and incorporate people into this. | |
| The borderline is not an extrovert. | |
| They have no ability to get other people to go approach other people and pull them into the dynamic. | |
| No, no, the borderline is a swirling maelstrom that needs other people to approach them. | |
| They can't act. | |
| They can only provoke. | |
| Once again, the ego in the borderline is completely subsumed in the id. | |
| This evil little lizard brain is what controls the borderline person. | |
| And they won't lie. | |
| They won't lie to accomplish a task because they have no task. | |
| And they won't lie because they have to be completely honest with themselves all the time. | |
| Because the id feels what it feels at the time. | |
| So they are just this out-of-control little thing, this little black hole of attention. | |
| They need your attention. | |
| They are the perpetual victim because the lizard brain does not care what sort of attention it gets. | |
| It will take any sort of attention. | |
| It will take a beating. | |
| It will take a rape. | |
| It will take anything as long as it's getting the attention. | |
| They're this swirling maelstrom, and the only way that they can get anything out of people is by provoking people to act towards them. | |
| Once again, a healthy person that wants attention and isn't extroverted seduces other people. | |
| They show up at the party, dressed nicely, and stand there and wait for somebody to talk to them. | |
| Borderline doesn't have an ego that can be this rational. | |
| The borderline will insinuate themselves into other people. | |
| They'll be a chameleon. | |
| They have no real personality. | |
| Unlike the narcissist who has a constantly constructed fake personality, the borderline has no personality. | |
| They are an absolute social chameleon. | |
| They can go anywhere and be anyone. | |
| They will be whatever the environment demands for. | |
| And so they'll act like this person, they'll suck you into their lives, and then, when you're not paying enough attention to them, they'll start trying to provoke you. | |
| See, they don't start violence. | |
| They turn themselves into the victims of violence. | |
| The FBI did a study on spousal abuse. | |
| And one thing that they found is spousal abuse tends to follow not the male that did the violence, not the wife beater. | |
| Men that beat their wives and get divorced tend not to beat any subsequent wives and tend not to have had abusive relationships in the past. | |
| The violence follows the woman most times. | |
| That a woman that was beaten by one husband will be beaten by the next and the next and the next. | |
| Because ultimately, she is the one initiating this. | |
| This is a borderline personality disorder that we're talking about. | |
| They need the attention. | |
| They need to be the victim. | |
| They'll make frequent suicide attempts. | |
| That's one sign of the borderline. | |
| They'll make attempts at it. | |
| Because if they're the victim, suddenly you're provoked and paying attention to them. | |
| The doctors and the psychologists are provoked into paying attention to them because they're committing suicide. | |
| Once again, this is why the doctors say that you don't treat a borderline, you ignore them. | |
| If you do let them into your life, they will take offense at everything that you do. | |
| And this is where it starts becoming really dangerous because not only are they trying to provoke you into assaulting them and thus risking the prison sentence, they're bringing you into the world of crazy. | |
| I've mentioned paradoxia before. | |
| Pareidolia is our innate urge to see patterns where there are no patterns. | |
| We see a bunch of mountains on the Martian surface and it looks like a face to us. | |
| Well, we're just as pre-programmed to assume that other people are real people with real emotions caused by real things. | |
| The borderline's emotions have no cause. | |
| They are pure swirling id. | |
| And so they will get angry at you for going out and getting the mail out of the mailbox without inviting them along. | |
| They'll get angry at you for not phoning them on a Saturday afternoon because how are they supposed to know that you weren't dead in a ditch somewhere? | |
| Or whatever. | |
| It doesn't matter. | |
| They will get angry with you and tell you how you victimized them for something that was completely and absolutely innocuous. | |
| But here's the problem: your brain, as a sane person, is going to find patterns here. | |
| And so you're actually going to feel guilty even though you did nothing wrong to them. | |
| And soon enough, you start living in this cratered, chaotic world where you have no ability to judge what the impact of your own actions are. | |
| You become completely convinced that everything that you did that was so evil and cruel and wrong to this borderline person, you become convinced that you actually did do something wrong. | |
| And meanwhile, it just gets worse and worse with the borderline because they can never have enough attention. | |
| You going to work eight hours to support them is a form of abuse because you're not giving them the attention they needed. | |
| Because this is the week that their cat died a year ago and you should have taken time off work and why didn't you already know that and you feel like the asshole for not being there for them. | |
| They will cry and scream and wake you up in the middle of the night and argue with you and do everything they can to get attention. | |
| They don't care what sort of attention it is. | |
| And the only type of attention that you can trigger easily at any given moment isn't love. | |
| It's violence. | |
| And then when you finally, After months of this mental abuse, when you finally start to put the pieces together and try and run away from this person, if they realize that you're moving away and they can't claw their way back into your life, at that point, they find a new attention daddy. | |
| And if it's a woman, it's going to be the legal system. | |
| Doesn't matter what she thinks of cops. | |
| She doesn't care how the cops treat her. | |
| She wants abuse. | |
| So she will make up a story and phone the police. | |
| And like me, you'll get to spend $10,000 proving that the bruises on your face and the cigarette burns mean that you were the victim there, not the tiny woman without a mark on her body. | |
| It took me a good year to become sane again. | |
| Maybe longer. | |
| Still dealing with a couple little issues from that, because that's the crazy thing about the borderline folks, is that they pull you into this world where up and down left is right. | |
| It's absolute insanity and pain and craziness and chaos because they're just this black hole of emotional nihilism without any real humanity overlying things. | |
| They have no ability to pull themselves together. | |
| The best you can do with a borderline is put them in a very, very structured environment where acting civilized gives them the only attention that they'll possibly get. | |
| The best you can do with them is train them like a Pavlovian dog not to act like a psycho. | |
| But the instant they get out of the mental institution, they're going to go psycho again. | |
| They'll be able to find somebody that will believe that they're a victim, and then the whole cycle starts anew. | |
| Victim defines the borderline. | |
| Eternal victim of circumstance who is never responsible and who will gladly tear up your world for the sake of feeding that little lizard that's inside there controlling their actions. | |
| No personality disorder really deserves the respect due a real person in my mind. | |
| They're all nothing but a TikTok automaton wound up and going through society causing havoc and pain and misery wherever they go with no true ability to reflect upon themselves or their actions and no cathartic value going on inside of them. | |
| But of all of them, the borderline is the most dangerous because this is the one that will get inside your own head. | |
| Run away from these people. | |
| Do not let them into your lives. | |
| Hope that was useful for you folks because these people are fucking dangerous. | |
| Take care of yourselves. | |
| Look out for your mental hygiene. |