Nicki Clyne challenges the narrative surrounding Keith Raniere, asserting his innocence against media sensationalism while detailing her ESP experience as a Socratic therapy focused on personal responsibility rather than a pyramid scheme. She recounts witnessing his kidnapping in Mexico, critiques the US justice system's reliance on plea deals and wrongful convictions, and reflects on her role in Battlestar Galactica. Ultimately, Clyne argues that true due process requires distinguishing between provocative teaching styles and criminal intent, demanding prison reform to protect human dignity from a prosecutorial culture obsessed with convictions over truth. [Automatically generated summary]
My own experience taught me that we don't have a justice system, at least not in the way that the Constitution dictates or the way that I think most people perceive based on shows like Law and Order or, you know, pop culture, where we believe people are supposed to be innocent until proven guilty, that if they are innocent, they will be proven as such.
But as we've seen with multiple documentaries made 20 years, 30 years after the fact of someone being wrongfully convicted and then having to fight.
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But the hypothesis that, you know, Nancy and Keith have have come up with is that Tourette's is actually an impulse disorder.
So it's like anything where you have this urge that you need to do something to alleviate that urge or that itch, you know, and and so with Tourette's, that's in the form of a tick.
That could be a vocal tick, a physical thing, whatever that is.
But don't we all have those urges?
You know, like, don't we all have impulses?
Some that are healthy, like some people have urges to go to the gym every day.
They're like, they need to exercise.
So that's, that's a socially acceptable, you know, positive itch.
But, you know, then there's, there's addictions and some of them are more socially acceptable than others.
But it, it all comes down to this, like our wiring and what we think will alleviate the pain or the pressure of basically being human.
And the Tourette's is so visible.
So when people went through the process of kind of working with Nancy and using the tools to explore like the root of the tics that they have, when it started, and there's a documentary about it that I hope will be public one day.
It's not yet, but it toured film festivals for a while, won a bunch of awards.
And it was like, and here's, here's like the beauty of it is that he spoke on tolerance because he'd grown up with such an experience of prejudice and rejection due to his Tourette's.
He barked like a dog.
He bit the air.
He would yell the worst thing that you could say in any moment.
So, you know, depending on who's in front of him, he would say the most offensive, egregious thing.
Oh, I didn't realize that it was like a profanity form of Tourette's because I've known people with Tourette's that just kind of like flinch, you know, every once in a while, but he had the, he had sort of the verbals behind.
I would say I was talking to someone and I made the joke, like, don't we all have a little Tourette's?
Meaning it more as a metaphor, right?
And the person is like, you know, like we should pretend like we all have Tourette's.
And I'm like, that's what I meant.
Because yeah, it kind of flies in the face of the political correct police against someone who has a disorder, you know, and is saying these things because they literally literally can't help it.
So that's, there was actually the same person I was speaking to sent me a link of a woman who's a YouTuber who has Tourette's, who I forget what she said on one of her videos, but she got in a lot of trouble.
And it's sad because I think part of her message is to educate people about the existence of Tourette's and what it's like.
And, but she said something that was really inappropriate and got a lot of backlash.
Like I said, because he didn't come to the program to specifically address it.
And I think it might have been even an additional challenge for him because his whole career, identity, and livelihood in many ways depended on him having Tourette's.
And I think he will probably do that again soon and be speaking about his story more.
But the most like the simplest way to put it is that it's a type of talk therapy.
So it's conversational.
Now, it's obviously more effective than what most people think of as talk therapy.
And what he did was he was just taking the normal curriculum and applying the tools.
And what ESP taught really had a lot to do with personal responsibility, emotional awareness, goal setting, building transition states so that you're not a victim to how you feel in your body, but you can actually kind of move through different states or even dictate what state you want to feel.
Let's say you have, I don't know, have to go to a birthday party and you're just like not in the mood, but you want to show up for your friends.
So how do you, yeah, like you want to be fun, even if you don't feel fun.
So it's kind of like Victor Frankel, like Man Search for Meaning, that book about how you can't change what happens to you, but you can totally control how you respond.
I love that you that you brought him up because I read that book when I was 15 years old and it changed my life.
Like that, I think is really what shifted my perception of how much we can control.
And at the time, though, I didn't have any tools to be able to do that.
I knew it made sense to me because if you look at, you know, many people can go through a similar experience and experience it very differently.
Or we go see a movie and we have completely different perceptions of it.
So that just goes to show that there's no objective way to experience something.
So if it's true that we can choose the nature and the quality of that experience, why wouldn't we want to have the richest, most positive, most fulfilling experience of every moment?
Now, we don't have any structures that I'm aware of in our educational model or in society right now to really learn that and build that.
Like we are, traditional education is very deductive.
It's just like teaching kids, you know, what to think, basically.
And what ESP offered was an inductive process of questioning, you know, using Socratic questioning, of examining your beliefs and never telling you what to believe, but understanding why you think what you think, because a lot of our beliefs come from conditioning from way before we had logic or cognitive abilities.
And unless we have some like major crash with reality, we usually hold on to those beliefs.
You know, we like go around the world thinking something we were taught when we were little, consciously or not, and we don't necessarily challenge or change them or adapt them to being a grown up or, you know, just to the kind of life we want to live.
One of the, this just occurred to me hearing your response.
One of the more fascinating things to me about Keith and ESP and Nexium based on what you just said is that traditionally, when you have, in our culture, we rely so much on experts, right?
Experts say you see that in headlines all the time.
People go to their therapist, they believe everything the therapist says to them.
They go to their professor, they believe everything the professor says to them.
And by using the Socratic method, you really eliminate the need for anybody to be an expert in order to care because all you do is ask questions and you cause you cause the recipient or the subject to kind of go through the process on their own.
You're not providing answers.
You're not an expert.
So it kind of gets rid of that like ability for a charlatan to come in and just like make shit up because all of this is a question and response sort of sort of method.
Yeah, people like that who were really attached to their knowledge or their expert authority and image as such often, I think, felt threatened by the curriculum because it was very accessible to anyone.
I mean, in order for something to be scientific, it needs to be verifiable, measurable, reduce, reproducible.
And so that really was the trick.
Like you're not getting results unless you can measure them and reproduce them.
And so that's why it was important that like you could do this process with someone and get a certain result and do the same thing with someone else and get a different result.
And obviously it very like there's human experience and it's a very human-centric thing.
It's not something that you can just read in a book and integrate the same way, but it was all about like consistency and reproducibility.
And because of that, I wish I could, I might have like my book reports because I know I had to like write about it.
I'd love to go back and find out like what the hell I thought as a 15 year old.
I just, I just remember being deeply impacted and thinking it made sense to me and that I also wanted to go into psychology because of that.
And I, or, or maybe it was my interest in psychology that really made me interested in it.
The only other book that I'd say, well, there's two other books.
One that I read when I was 12, which again, I don't, my mom isn't, she's a retired now English teacher, but so she had a very diverse bookshelf.
But when I was 12, I read Carlos Casaneda's Yaki, Don Juan's Yaki way of knowledge, I think it's called.
And it's about this, it's written by this doctor in hindsight.
I don't even remember.
I don't even know if it's true or not, but I read it as if it was true that this American doctor goes into the desert, I think in Central America, and goes on this peyote trip.
And he like becomes enlightened, like finds himself, goes on this psychedelic journey.
And I was reading it on a boat trip with my dad.
I got in a fight with him, locked myself like in this room that like didn't even have a ceiling this high and just spent the whole day reading it.
A very vivid memory, but I loved it.
Like it, I think it helped me in the moment escape the circumstance I was in.
And it again, it clued me into this perception that there's just so much more to life, to this human experience than we can explain or that is dictated to us through kind of the typical societal progression.
So for whatever reason, whether it was books or maybe I was just drawn to those books because I was just born this way, I don't know.
But I've always been curious about all the different ways we can be human and why it is we choose one way or why we say one way is the right way or it's normal.
And I don't really believe in that.
I believe that it's unique for everybody and it's a, it's a journey and it's a constant evolution or it should be.
And yeah.
And then the other book was The Fountainhead when I was 17.
I remember exactly who I sit next to on the bus when I finished that book.
That book changed my life because that book flipped a switch in my head, literally, where I went from having self-esteem that was dependent on how I was perceived by others to the exact opposite, where I just don't give a shit at all.
And he refuses to do anything except what he wants.
And that sounds selfish in the negative connotation of the term.
And I think Ayn Rand used the term selfish to be intentionally provocative.
Like she wrote The Virtue of Selfishness and some other essays on that.
But what she really means is self-esteem, in my opinion.
And seeing him as this sort of godlike figure, obviously he's not, he's not a realistic depiction of a human being because nobody's that perfect.
Nobody has that much integrity in that they live so perfectly in alignment with their ideals like he did.
But she laid it out so perfectly and she made a moral argument for why you're a better person if you focus on your own happiness than if you focus on others, right?
So we were brought up in this sort of Judeo-Christian environment to always consider how we make other people feel, always consider how other people make us feel, and always consider what we can do for others.
But really the moral thing to do is consider what you can do for yourself, because if you live based on what you owe others or what others owe you, then you'll only ever think of yourself as a sacrificial animal.
And human beings are not to be sacrificed.
So that I read that book and I mean, it was 800 pages.
I was 17.
And I think I read it because I was reading a Neil Strauss book.
I was reading the game by Neil Strauss about how to pick up women.
And he's like, Just he just mentioned, oh, and I picked up the fountainhead before I fell asleep.
And I was like, What's the fountain head?
I went and bought it.
And I was like, Holy shit!
Like that book to this day, it like still gives me goosebumps.
And if people don't want to read the 800 pages of the fountain head, I don't know if you've ever done this, Nikki, but in 1949, Gary Cooper starred in the fountainhead, the movie, and the screenplay was written by Ayn Rand.
So, so, and I didn't, I don't want to, I want to hear what your thoughts were on the fountainhead too, but I just, I couldn't help but interrupt because I'm so passionate about that book.
Well, and I think this idea of selflessness is a lie, and to think that you are sacrificing yourself for others or being some type of martyr and that that's good, it's a lie because we're always doing it for a feeling we get, even if that's if I help other people, I feel good about myself, you know what I mean?
And to defer, like, let's say I consider my values ideal.
Like, I think hopefully, most people consider their values, even if they don't always uphold them, but they're like intellectual, I, you know, higher everybody thinks they're right, yeah, right.
But it's like, if I believe that those are virtuous, then why wouldn't I want to use my life to honor those?
Why would I honor someone else's?
And so, that's what I think the beauty in what she writes about is it's not selfishness in like an indulgence in feeling good.
It's a, it actually is in some ways a sacrifice for a virtue, you know, like for a principle.
Like, that's how I understand Howard Rourke's character: is like he's he goes through hell in order to have integrity, exactly.
And that, like, you know, that that means we're not animals, that means that we can honor something, even if it is inconvenient or painful or causes great loss just for the principle to exist in the world, even if no one knows it.
I don't even, I wouldn't be able to tell you what I understood about the fountainhead when I read it at 17.
I just felt something it made sense to me.
I grew up in Canada, so there's a very um much kind of like socialist indoctrination that I that didn't sit well with me.
And so, what the fountainhead was about, like, and this kind of you know, like owning of your values and what you've earned, like that was compelling to me and new.
Atlas Shrugged, I was um 23, I think.
I just, I think, at a different maturity level.
So, the short answer is I liked Atlas Shrugged better, but I also, if I read the fountainhead again, I might, who knows?
It's just like when I read it and I understood it better when I was reading it.
When I was, yeah, uh, well, when I was in high school, I um decided I was going to read the Bible.
I was like, Holy shit, if this is like, if God wrote a book, like, why wouldn't you read it?
That's one of the like things that just blows my mind about the vast majority of people who believe that it's the word of God, but like never get around to reading it.
And so, at the time, I believed that it was literally the divine word of God.
And so, I read it.
And when I read the Bible, I was like, Holy shit, I don't, I don't think that the Lutheran church, which I grew up in, I was like, they got it all wrong, you know.
And I was like, I need to go get baptized because there's not a single instance of infant baptism in the Bible.
Like, I, and the word literally means like dipping or dunking, and like the whole sprinkle shit doesn't even make sense.
And how can you repent if you're an infant?
I was like, This is all up.
Like, I've never really been baptized, you know?
So, I, so I um, I had an English teacher in high school who was and is, though we've had a falling out, um, incredibly brilliant.
Very argumentative, very self-righteous, clinically narcissistic.
I think genuinely a good person, just so self-righteous to the point of being kind of harmful.
Anyway, I would stay after class and argue with him about the interpretation of the Bible.
And day after day, day after day, I mean, he basically just convinced me that I, he convinced me of his interpretation.
And he was part of a religion called Christadelphian, which means brothers in Christ.
I think there's like 60,000 of them in the world.
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We started in the UK in the 19th century, I think.
Yeah, and be willing to argue the other side, right?
I think that's, you know, in our in our culture right now, we're almost like we treat we treat other perspectives as if they are like contagious, you know, like I don't even want to go near someone who thinks this way, it might like rub off on me, or I can't being close to it, I might be perceived as condoning it, or or even speaking it, I might be perceived.
But I think that's an essential part of deepening our understanding is being able to understand the other side, you know, to really, if you disagree with it, know why, not just ew, like that's not helpful.
I want to know like how you got involved in the beginning.
Like I said, I'm only on episode 10 ever, but I want to know how you got involved, what your audition was like, favorite moments, that whole experience.
No, I had a ponytail at the back, and I probably didn't get my ass kicked because of that.
You know, I uh, my coach, so I joined a girls' team, but there weren't enough um girls my age, they were like large um women on the opposing teams, and I, yeah, and so it was actually he invited me to so I could like actually play uh with with the boys, but I was like 11 or 12.
So, um, so I did a lot of things.
I played in the band, I loved school, but like drama was something that I, that I loved.
I did the school plays, and uh, after high school, actually, right before I graduated, I chopped off all my hair really short and dyed it dark.
Um, I don't know if you've seen the movie Hackers, one of my favorites.
I wasn't really aware of this because I didn't know the history.
I just auditioned.
It was an audition that was with the director for the first, for the first time going.
They were taking forever to get through the auditions.
And what it's like going to an audition, at least for me, is like I would come prepared.
You know, I do my makeup in the car.
I do like breathing, have all my lines worked out, go so that I can just sit and do the audition and go.
But they took hours.
Like, I don't know if they were behind or they were just taking longer or what happened, but I kind of went through these different phases of like getting ready and then having to wait again to the point where I was like, I just don't even care anymore, which is a great place to be because you're just, you're more present.
You're like, you've, you've let go of this attachment to being perfect and being on.
So I noticed that in the first season that I mean, you're in some scenes, but there's not a whole lot of content with your character as far as up to the first 10 episodes.
So like, what does an audition look like for a character with kind of a small?
And I always try if I had the opportunity to kind of like break the ice or just kind of like, you know, settle into the fact that we're all just human.
And they laughed.
And so after I did the first take, the director said, well, if everyone did it perfect like you, we wouldn't have to take so long.
So, and then they asked me to just do it one more time with the, with the changes I mentioned.
I did it.
I left and I felt good about it.
You never know.
Like I trained myself to leave it all at the audition, try to never think about it again.
Cause if you do, you'll go crazy and feel bad about yourself because there's so much rejection and you just never know like what it's based on, how they decide who gets the part.
But then a few days later, my agent called and said, I'd just gone to a movie and they're like, well, do you like, do you like sci-fi movies?
And I was like, and they're like, because you're going to be in one.
And I was pretty excited.
And it was, it was so, so much greater than I ever could have imagined.
So I couldn't have chosen, even though I didn't really choose it, but I couldn't have chosen a better show, in my opinion, to be part of.
And also, not just because of the experience, but because of the issues and the ideas and the philosophical concepts that are explored in the show, I think are so relevant and so important.
And it challenged like for its time.
And that's why I was curious to know whether it holds up.
And I don't know how this is going to play out, but the most fascinating part to me thus far is how there's a religious zeal among the AI, because for some reason, all of the AI sci-fi stuff that exists, it's all very like, hey, the AI is not going to be religious.
Like they're practical.
They're, you know, real.
There's no superstition in AI, right?
Right.
They're going to be scientific materialists, these artificial intelligent beings, right?
And that's something that's super cool.
And obviously I'm so early in the show that I don't know how that manifests and plays out.
What's really going on with the like religion thing, but the fact that there's like this religious zeal among the AI is super intriguing to consider because if you think about it, the manifestation of artificial intelligence, if it follows how intelligence manifested evolutionarily, it makes sense that there's going to be a religious component or a spiritual component because that is part of intelligence.
Well, and I think that's the crux of what Battlestar really proposes is what does it mean to be human?
And if AI has all the qualities, it has consciousness, it has emotions, has the biology, then what are they if not human?
And I think what the writing, what the writers did remarkably well, besides building these like complex characters and story arcs and, you know, graphic scenes, because of course it's still sci-fi, is really get audiences to question these really basic understandings of morality that we judge people by.
So as you get into the series, what I think you'll find is that, you know, there's not just the good guys and the bad guys.
Like, right, it seems like it now because there's a humans versus the Cylons.
And obviously we identify with the humans, but there comes a point when you start questioning like, I don't know, like they're doing some pretty messed up shit.
Like the humans are not all good.
And I don't know if I agree.
And certainly the religion plays into that.
But even just from a moral standpoint, it brings complexity to those questions.
Well, the interesting thing to me that it makes me think of, I'm a big fan of Westworld too, is if you get to the point where artificial intelligence is very much indistinguishable from human beings, especially with the biological component where look, they feel flesh and blood.
Then like, why don't we just skip all the bullshit and just start cloning people and calling artificial intelligence?
Because what's really the difference at that point, right?
Whether it's manufacturing or library, you're cloning someone, it's still artificial, right?
Like that, and that these are the types of questions that in some of the trainings in ESP, like we would get into all this stuff.
And that's, that's what I loved about it.
So like, you know, my, my track, I think checks out.
I know to some people, I might seem like an enigma because it's like, wait, am I Hollywood?
Am I a cult member?
Am I a conservative, which is like a new label?
But, you know, really, I'm, I'm a curious person who wants to understand why we're here and how to make the most of it and why we can't seem to overcome these societal patterns of kind of of events or themes that are very destructive and anti-humanitarian.
You know, like there's cycles within history that keep repeating themselves and like, what's it going to take?
And I think asking these questions before we reach the point where we can literally just like destroy the planet, you know, because someone leans on a button or Cylons take over or who knows, like we need to ask these questions before we have the technology in our hands.
And I mean, arguably, we already do.
And I don't think we're at the ethical understanding to be able to handle our technology morally, but I think we should try to catch up.
Well, I'll just say first, like the one consolation I had in them telling me that is I knew that if I was going to go, it was going to be epic.
So I was also excited about like, even though my role grew throughout the series, I still didn't have like the juiciest of scenes.
Like I was kind of, you know, I was always around.
I was fixing stuff.
And obviously, like, and I don't want to give away too much, but you know, my character goes through some dark things and there's a lot of action, but I didn't, I didn't have like a whole episode that focused on that largely focused on my character.
So I trusted the writers to make it an epic ending.
I don't want to, I don't want to ruin it, but I, I, my character finds out some disturbing information and doesn't know how to process it.
And even before, well, yeah, and starts to kind of like lose her mind a little bit.
So, which is, I don't want to speak for all actors, but I think a lot of for a lot of actors, like, that's like their dream, you know, to to play like emotionally, mentally complex characters that are really struggling and like going crazy in a sense, like that's super fun.
So, I got to go through that.
And then, uh, and then, yeah, some, something kind of unexpected happens at the end.
I meet, uh, let's just say, uh, uh, airlocks are not my friend.
No, there were, and, you know, back to the reproducibility of the model, like I think it started with Keith and then he, Keith and Nancy, and then they taught other people and how a training would work is there was like a head trainer and then there were breakout groups and coaches who would who would lead those.
And so I took a five-day intensive in Albany.
I think it like I was still doing Battlestar.
I just was on a break and kind of was at a point where it's like, okay, I have the show.
I have the apartment.
I have like, I have all the things, but I don't, I don't know what I'm doing.
Like I, I, you know, I would get really nervous doing interviews because I was so, you know, like what you were saying, you realized about reading the fountainhead.
I didn't have quite that shift yet.
I was still very much basing my sense of worth and value on what other people thought.
So it felt really good to be on a show, but then it almost increased the standard that I held myself to, where it's like, okay, now I'm successful.
So I need to be seen a certain way.
And I, you know, I've always loved learning, but I think also part of going to school was also making sure I was smart and educated and that I wasn't just an actor.
Like I kind of had a prejudice against just being an actor too.
So what I loved about ESP when I, when I took the training, and honestly, I was skeptical, very skeptical.
I was invited by someone who is now very negative about it, but at the time she was like, you know, pom-poms cheerley, like, you know, just and kind of like high pressure sales, you know, in getting me to go.
But I was like, you know what?
If it is what she says it is, and I noticed a change in her after she, she took a training, then awesome.
A pyramid scheme is when you make the, you make most of the money off of the recruiting and not off of the product or the service.
A multi-level marketing company is legal as long as you make 51% or more of your revenue off of the actual product or service, not just recruiting new people to join.
So like Cutco, for example, is multi-level marketing, because even though you make a lot of money off of recruiting other people to sell cutcoat knives, you still, the company still makes most of its money, more than half off of actually selling the knives, not the recruiting part of the business.
So that's how that's, that's what the difference between a pyramid scheme and multi-level marketing is multi-level marketing has a bad rap, but it's not unethical.
I mean, so basically how it would work is if you're a salesperson and you invited someone and they took a training, then you would get a percentage of the product sales.
So and everything was completely transparent.
You know, if that was a career path that you wanted to do, you knew ahead of time, like what your cut was, what other people's cut was.
And, you know, a percentage would go to them.
A percentage might go to their, what was called a field trainer.
So a kind of like sales manager.
Someone go to the trainer of the training.
Some would go to the rent of the building, the food, you know, like all the things that it takes to put on a training like that.
And some percentage would go to the company.
So that's basically, I don't, I don't know what you call that.
It was very lucrative for the people who pursued it full time and as a career.
And I, the first day, I remember being like, I don't know, like, I already kind of know this stuff.
It was about communication.
And it was cool.
It was interesting to me.
But I was waiting for like what Sarah had told me, the woman who enrolled me was like, she had these like big breakdowns and emotional shifts and, you know, like aha moments.
And I, and I hadn't had that yet.
So I also thought like I was just checking out all the people.
I was pretty judgmental, to be honest.
Like I was, I was, uh, I was into being cool.
And I wouldn't say that the people taking or teaching the course would, all of them would like classify as dorks, whatever that is.
I don't know what that even is anymore.
And I'm, and I'm so thankful for that because I missed out or I could have missed out.
So, so anyway, I was skeptical, but I, I really just tried to focus on the education, which is why I was there.
And on the third day, I did, I really did have a, like a huge realization.
And it, it centered around, funny enough, self-esteem and, and how I had been limiting myself by what I realized, which probably seems basic to anyone who does, you know, introspection or self-awareness, but I hadn't come to this understanding yet, which was I was kind of cursed with like talent when I was young and things were easy for me.
So I, and I don't mean to sound, I don't know, like self-aggrandizing or anything, but like I was able to do well in school and sports and different things without trying very hard.
And so that meant that I didn't build the ability to like push through failure and discomfort.
And so when I did come to a point of failure or discomfort, I would have an emotional meltdown.
I would like cry or, you know, you know, just try to get out of having to go to like, you know, soccer tryouts or having you just like stopped at that stage of development that most people go through and like growing up.
I think so.
And I, but I was smart enough that I could get away with it and just keep switching to different things.
Like I went to four different colleges because I was like, oh, actually, I want to study photography.
And actually, I want journalism, religion, film.
Like I just jumped around to all these things and I was good at them and I wasn't willing to feel like feel like I sucked at anything.
So whenever it would get to the point where I'd have to feel like I sucked, I'd be like, I'm bored.
I'm a making case for encouraging kids to push through adversity and not indulging in tantrums.
You know, like letting kids have their feelings, have, you know, negative emotions, feel sadness.
I think I, I think I repressed a lot of, I mean, as much as I might say I didn't, you know, go through enough.
I, like I did, my dad was an addict.
My mom raised us.
Like I did have a certain level of adversity, which gave me insight into a whole different way to experience the world that anyway was different than kind of like my classmates and things like that.
So I did have a certain amount of struggle, but when it came to achievements, I didn't, I didn't have the strategies to really like push through them.
Right.
And coming to that awareness in the ESP training was revelatory to me and so helpful because I felt like there was something wrong with me.
Like I just couldn't, I thought it was like I couldn't find the right thing.
You know, like people make it, oh, you have to find your passion.
I'm like, I don't, but I don't really believe that.
I believe you create your passion.
You know, like, of course, there's things that we prefer and that we're drawn to, but I think it's more that the commitment to something that fuels a passion towards it.
But I never was able to kind of break through that.
And so what that realization gave me was so many more options.
Like, oh, okay, I just need to be willing to fail.
Like, I just need to be willing to be a beginner at something or not be the best, which is dumb anyway.
Cause obviously I was never the best, but I might have been the best in my class or I might have been like the best in my recreational dance group.
But that, and, and at that age, like when you're young, but then I like held on to that way too long.
And then other people who knew how to work hard way passed me, you know, and I was like, what's wrong with me?
Why can't I get it together?
And emotionally, I didn't know how to deal with it.
And I also, I think, had other, you know, emotional struggles that I didn't really understand that had to do with my relationship with my dad that I was able to identify and work through.
And that is probably the thing that I'm most grateful for that ESP helped me with is having a relationship with my dad, learning to forgive him, to accept him, to love him.
But, but, you know, I think that a lot of people who struggle with addiction are sensitive, have been through a lot when they're children and don't know how to process their sensitivity to the world.
And so they turn to drugs.
And so I was able to connect with him on a level I never ever could have if I had held on to my expectations of him, of if I'd held on to my anger, and if I'd continued to believe that somehow his failings were about me, you know, because as a kid, like you make everything about you.
And through the awarenesses and the maturity I was able to develop through ESP and a really supportive community, I was able to see my dad as a human being with a struggle.
And I, yeah, I mean, that means the world to me.
I was able to be with him in his last days, and it was just the greatest gift.
I mean, there's, I think there's a quote about like not wishing for calmer waters, but wishing for the strength to endure them.
I might be mixing quotes, but I feel that way.
Like, I, I don't, as I've mentioned, I don't think I ever wanted just a normal, comfortable life.
Careful what you wish for, because I don't think I ever expected that I would be dealing with the type of adversity that I'm dealing with now, but it's taught me a lot.
I've grown a lot.
Ironically, the tools that I, that I learned and the, I think, awarenesses and kind of the self-reliance, both like in the physical world, but also emotionally that I developed by being part of ESP has been the thing that's allowed me to kind of weather this controversy in this crazy few years.
Now, of course, I wouldn't be dealing with it if I hadn't been a part of it, but I'm also grateful because I feel like adversity is how we, like by how we deal with adversity, is how we define ourselves.
It's how we build character.
It's not by making ourselves the most comfortable we can be.
It's, you know, what do we do in the hard moments?
Not when it's easy.
What do we do when, you know, we, the things that we are attached to are on the line?
Do we do the right thing?
You know, do we, do we maintain our integrity or do we throw our friends under the bus or do we blame?
You know, and that I didn't know what I would do in extreme circumstances because I did still live a very comfortable life.
And I feel, you know, I guess I have more confidence in myself and more trust in myself now.
So I want to ramp up to the struggle and what you're doing now as a result of what's all that's happened.
But I want to bridge the gap and I just kind of want to hear from you a little bit about how what happened between your first five-day intensive and today, okay, which is a big story.
But like when seniors, yeah, when did you first meet Keith and what was that like?
Yeah, he sometimes would come and do what we call a forum after certain trainings.
And earlier on, he did it more.
So I think in either my first or second training, he came and did a forum, which was basically he would show up and people could ask him anything they wanted.
Well, in the training, and I think it's in one of the first, what we call modules, like the classes were broken up into two-hour modules.
And I think the introduction gives people a background into how ESP developed and the kind of history of Keith meeting Nancy and them developing, you know, having the idea for a school and how they worked together to develop the first five-day curriculum.
Or it actually wasn't meant to be taught in like a condensed format like that.
It was meant to be taught taking like one class a week or two classes a week, but then they ended up developing or basically just putting them all together for people who didn't live in an area where classes were taught.
I think the narrative that is out there is false, completely false, if anything, antithetical to who he is, what he stands for, how he lives his life.
And I believe there is enough evidence that if people could just see it and approach it with a critical lens and not get caught up in emotions or feelings of, you know,
like he had some lifestyle choices that were different than the norm, but nothing, nothing that crazy compared to stuff that's on TV or what other people do.
Like it's been totally blown out of proportion.
And really, it all comes down to intent.
And the people who've developed and crafted this narrative have planted the seed and it has like completely like a weed just overtaken everything that he has this sinister bad intent.
So anything he does, people see through that and it looks or they make it look abusive or manipulative or deceptive in some way.
I've known him for 15 years.
I've never seen him be deceptive.
I've never seen him be mean.
I've never even seen him raise his voice at someone.
Like when he's in front of a group, he was like, may I be candid?
And then he would say, like, ass or something.
Like, he, he, and he has said, like, some of the higher level trainings that people have taken video clips from and taken them completely out of context.
Like, first, they have to understand it's taken out of context.
So there's a whole kind of progression that has gone on to get to a certain point.
But he's, he's provocative in ideas.
He presents ideas that are sometimes like distasteful.
There was a show that the guy from Supersize Me did called 30 Days where he brought together, I think it's a brilliant concept, brought together two people from extreme ends of some ideological spectrum.
And the only one I saw was a hunter from like the Midwest.
Excuse me, went to live with a vegan family who supported PETA.
And all I remember is thinking I respected him so much more because not only was like for so many reasons, but the vegan family, they were super intolerant of his views.
They like did some demonstrations that were like rude and violent, which to me goes against the whole reason for it in the first place.
For me, like it's, it's a human-based value.
It's not making animals more important than humans.
If I'm deserted on an island, like you better know, I'm going to like learn to spear fish or catch animals or whatever.
Like if it's, if my survival depends on it, I don't believe my survival does.
So I can, I have the luxury to make that choice.
But the hunter, you know, he was first of all open.
He also, when he hunted, he like, he took on the responsibility of taking the animal's life.
You know, he killed it.
He skinned it, he did whatever you do with it, used the parts, ate it.
And I respect that.
Like, if you are willing to take responsibility for that and you understand what that comes from, I support that much more than being an arrogant asshole about your,
and I'm a big meat eater, but I will say that it does bother me when I have chicken wings and one of the bones is broken because I know that it grew too fast because of the hormones.
So I wanted to ask you if you're comfortable talking about it.
And we can just totally bypass this if you want.
But I wanted to ask you: I've read, and obviously it seems to me having talked, spoken with you, and just used a little bit of critical thinking that the vast majority of any sort of media coverage on any of these issues, like Nexium or Keith, has been exaggerated or just blatantly false.
Is it true that you were like involved romantically with Keith for a number of years?
So how did that start?
It was just he would come to forums and then you go to volleyball or what's the deal?
And I want, and typically the reason I ask is because like I want to see, I want to see from you if there's like a distinguishing between ESP and Keith, or if you sort of perceive them as like this, this unit of like, was he, was he to you, the embodiment of this, the systems that he taught or that he set up?
Or what, what, did you, did you have a relationship with him such that he was Keith and it was different than his business?
You know what I mean?
So I own an advertising business, but my wife doesn't see me as Cube advertising LLC.
And so how did, how did that like transition happen from just knowing him as the leader of this, like, this system that you were participating in or taking classes from?
How did that transition happen to where it was like, wow, I know who this person is as a human being rather than the role that they play in the system I'm participating in?
I really want like, there's a part of me that that because there is so much misinformation and scary music around all of this, it makes it seem, yeah, just very different than it was.
At the same time, I don't want kind of like things that were personal and private to distract from kind of this phase of the story.
There are people wrongfully in prison, you know, Keith being obviously one of them.
And I think I'd prefer, although I think there is like, there's a humanizing aspect to talking about my relationship, because of the amount of prejudice and hate that's out there, I fear that whatever I say can be misconstrued or, you know, taken out of context.
So I think I'd, I'd rather kind of bookmark that, you know, maybe, maybe at a later date, maybe when we're like in a different phase of this story where it's people are more open.
I mean, just even the fact that I lost my dad, you know, and then, Yeah, just it was just one thing after the other.
A community, my career, my reputation, the people closest to me in my life, everything.
And then having to go through a phase of really great uncertainty.
Like what people probably don't know is that like after Keith got arrested and then Allison and then Lauren, Claire, Nancy, Kathy, because the government used RICO and called Nexium, which wasn't even really its own thing.
It was like an umbrella company for all these different companies that did different things and offered different services.
Anyone who was who had ever taken a course, who was friends with us, who was affiliated or involved could have been indicted.
Like what I didn't know about the government and about the justice system is that they can do whatever they want.
If they have their eye on a target, they will make a crime.
Like I really naively, when this first happened, I remember I spoke to the FBI agent, which I knew I wasn't supposed to do.
I'd seen billions and I knew I was supposed to go lawyer, lawyer, lawyer, but I couldn't help it.
Like he was a young guy and he kind of like intercepted me outside as I was going to like park the car and we were waiting for his buddy to show up.
And I was like, so how long have you been in the FBI?
Like I was just making conversation and I and I said to him, I'm like, look, I know you're just doing your job, but there is a lot you don't know.
And all I care about is that due process is served, that you, that you undertake an honest investigation and search for the truth.
Because so far, at that point, there'd been a bunch of stuff in the media.
Obviously, Keith had been kidnapped in Mexico and then brought to the U.S. And I knew that they had a very limited amount of information and it was coming from not credible sources.
So at that point, I naively thought like, oh my God, like once they learn the truth, they're going to see that this is not what they think it is.
Yeah, that's the disadvantage of having having so many high profile clients.
And Scientology faces this too.
I'm no fan of Scientology, but I'm certain that a lot of the criticism of Scientology is unwarranted just from the fact that Tom Cruise is a Scientologist and it's great headlines.
It's great for lawyers and it's great for law enforcement to just, and they love to, they love to have a big story like that about a celebrity conspiracy.
And I think that this was at the height of the Me Too movement.
So imagine, you know, like they, I think they imagined it was going to be like a Harvey Weinstein situation where once the story broke, an avalanche of victims were going to come forward.
There were the people that like went to them, which there's a lot of background there, which obviously I won't be able to cover today.
But there's a lot of questionable motives about those who have claimed to be victims, whether it was at trial or in so-called documentaries and things like that.
But, you know, there's money involved.
There's absolving themselves of certain responsibilities involved.
Well, there were a lot of family members that were worried about their kids, right?
I mean, like everything allegedly.
But I mean, it makes sense.
I know that like I told you earlier in this conversation, my parents were really weirded out that I joined this religion and I was going to Canada for two weeks at time baptizing kids.
My parents were very cool because they believe that I was at the age and I was 17, 18, where you have to start figuring shit out for yourself.
Like it wasn't like there was any sexual assault going on in this cult, or I wasn't being like beaten or threatened, or you know, there was nothing weird like that going on.
It wasn't a cult in that sense, it was just a very zealous, misguided.
So, um, yeah, well, I'm my point is I can understand why people who were formerly close to people who got involved in this new system or these classes that changed them for the better.
I could understand how their prior relationships would feel alienated by that because this person has grown out of the shit that they were in before, right?
But anyway, that whole story, by the way, of like there being some leading up to some recommitment ceremony.
I mean, look, if even if that were true, I believe people are entitled to do whatever they want in their private lives, consenting adults.
One of the ways I think a lot of this type of information has been propagated, especially attributed to Keith, is sometimes the way Keith would work with people is he would say provocative things to, and if they had a problem with it, like bring it to the surface, like, why do you care?
Yeah, and we also had the understanding and the tools ourselves to be like, oh, God, like I'm super pissed about that.
Or like, I feel like that's the worst thing ever.
Or I like, I need to work on it.
And that's, I guess, at the end of the day, even when like some situations were like hard or maybe not ideal, I always took it upon myself to think, okay, but why do I have a problem with it?
Because whatever this issue is that I have is a limitation to my ability to experience the fullness and the richness of life regardless of my circumstances.
Because if I need reality to be a certain way for me to feel okay, that's a limitation.
So I never took, not I never took, I really tried not to ever take things personally and to see anything where I was like, I don't like that, or that's not okay, as an entry point to evolving my, I don't know, my like flexibility, my emotional flexibility.
It doesn't mean I'm okay with something, like morally, or I might, I might still not want something, but at least it's not from a place of fear.
It's a place of understanding why I don't want it or why I don't agree.
There's eight of us who were who, you know, are addressing some of the topics and trying not to get into too much of like a defensive position.
Cause at the end of the day, we're all adults.
Like we, if anyone goes to the website, it's the dossierproject.com and we are all successful in our own right, you know, doctors, entrepreneurs, lawyers, artists.
Like it, this isn't a group of like vulnerable, impressionable young women, whatever that even means.
But I think that, yeah, the whole narrative has been very misconstrued and it's, it's very unfortunate because I think what we were doing was incredibly powerful in helping women build self-reliance and inner honesty and integrity and push through fears or social conditioning that may be limiting.
And it at the time, you know, I think we were doing a lot of really great stuff.
I get that now people have changed their perception of what it was.
And understandably, if they believe, like I said before, if they believe now that there was bad intent, then they filter everything through that.
And it's easy to like make things fit because some of the things we were doing were uncomfortable.
You know, like growth is uncomfortable, like even physical growth and working out.
But it's been, yeah, vastly misunderstood, misconstrued.
And it's, it's unfortunate because people, because the other narrative was out there first, because it takes this more of like women are victims position, just our mere existence, people feel is like victim shaming.
Like just the fact that we're saying our experience was this, it's different.
We own it.
We believe in taking personal responsibility.
We believe in pushing, you know, against adversity to overcome things.
We don't believe in blaming other people, et cetera, et cetera.
People have made that into some sort of threat against those who believe they're victims.
And it shouldn't be.
These conversations should all coexist and we should be able to examine if someone feels victimized, what the cause of that is.
So, what you experienced with this whole backlash was essentially Keith being arrested either legally or totally illegally and kidnapped, as you as you would say, in Mexico and extradited to the United States and charged with racketeering.
There was a hard drive that allegedly had illegal content on it.
And basically, there's this whole like sex trafficking collateral bullshit, right?
And you, as someone who knows him better than anybody, seem to me to be more in a position to say what this guy's really fucking like, right?
And so, what you sort of have garnered from this so far, and this is where I want to segue: is that the due process system in the United States is totally fucked up, and the prison system is just as, if not more fucked up, because you have friends that have been incarcerated.
I mean, Keith was sentenced to 120 years, which is no violence, no weapons, no drugs, right?
Right, unheard of.
So, so you've kind of come out and become this advocate for free speech, due process, prison reform.
What does that look like?
What have you learned about what it's like to for a prisoner?
So, my brother, my brother was actually incarcerated for a number of years, three years.
Oh, wow.
And he never fucking talks about it.
So, I had no idea what that was like, but it was like a maximum security situation.
I think it was a burglary charge.
I don't even know the charges because I was so little when it happened.
He's 13 years older than I. And I just know that it was a really fucked up experience for him.
He was like 18, 19.
He was married.
He had got a divorce from his wife.
Later on, he remarried her and then divorced her again.
So, that's an a whole other story.
But he's like, when you were describing your dad, to me, it sounded just like my brother Clayton.
Brilliant, sensitive, read every fucking book you can imagine.
And having had this experience, are the people that you're in touch with in prison just related to Nexiem, or are you sort of branching out and just speaking with people who are incarcerated that you're sort of sympathetic to?
And what have you learned about what these people go through that has really changed your perspective?
So, my own experience taught me that we don't have a justice system, at least not in the way that the Constitution dictates or the way that I think most people perceive based on shows like Law and Order or, you know, pop culture, where we believe people are supposed to be innocent until proven guilty.
That if they are innocent, they will be proven as such.
But as we've seen with multiple documentaries made 20 years, 30 years after the fact of someone being wrongfully convicted and then having to fight, really literally fight for their life and only because fucking plea deals are a travesty.
They are a scam.
They are a scam so that the government can convict more people and they have all the resources and the capacity to do things in a way that strip people of their right to a fair trial and a proper defense.
And obviously, a lot of these people are people who can't necessarily afford the best lawyers.
I don't even necessarily agree that the best lawyers are the highest paid ones, but often public defenders are overworked.
Some of them, you know, their area of expertise may not be the case that they get.
So they may not be as informed.
And they just, I mean, with their caseloads, they just can't give the attention to everyone that they, if they care.
And then some of them, I think, don't care as much as others.
So, so there's those issues.
There's how people are even kind of ensnared into the system in the first place, which there's a lot of sneaky stuff that goes on there, you know, jailhouse informants.
There's something called ghost dope, which I've, you know, this is all I've just learned in the past few years because I've been become obsessed with understanding like, how is this possible?
How is it possible that our case is not an anomaly?
Like, I thought our situation was just some like outlier.
I've learned is that it's the norm that almost everyone in prison, guilty or not of a crime, was wrongfully convicted.
And what I mean by that is they had some, there was some type of overstepping prosecutorial misconduct, some type of deceitful, what, you know, like the whole plea deal process.
He was a low-level drug dealer and user, which is often the case.
And he was willing to take 10 to 15 years for being a low-level dealer.
He's like, I, I want it, he wanted to take responsibility.
He's like, I did this.
I put myself in this situation.
I'll do 10 to 15 years.
Made the agreement, got to court, and the judge gave him 20.
And like, I'm just like, why?
Why?
If someone is willing to give up 10 to 15 years of their life to, it makes no sense.
It's just cruel.
And apparently the judge said, like, you shouldn't have taken a deal.
I don't know what he should have done because like you go to trial and then there's an even greater penalty for like, oh, you shouldn't have gone to trial.
So it's, it's a losing game.
I think people who take deals wish they'd gone to trial.
And my experience, so to answer your question, I speak to dozens of people in prison, mostly federal prison across the U.S. I started by, I know we don't have time to go into this whole story, but as much time as you need.
I started a movement with friends dancing outside the Brooklyn prison when it was, they were on lockdown for COVID.
I know the media represented we were dancing for Keith.
Not true.
They actually moved him to a different cell the second day.
And we still showed up every day, brought more people, brought music, brought lights.
And I still will get messages like through Instagram like, hey, I just got out of MDC.
I just want to say thank you.
Like I look forward to you guys coming every Friday.
It's the only thing that got me through.
We were so, we were going crazy and just thank you.
Cause like when you go to prison, it's hard for people who care about you.
If you have people, if you're lucky enough to have people who care about you, it's hard, you know, and I think everyone wants to think that their friends are going to stand by them and be there for them or that they would be that friend if it happened to someone.
But it's painful, you know, like as committed as I am.
And I do believe that I've proven to myself that I am a loyal friend, but it is hard, you know, to really just walk around knowing that someone you care about is in a prison cell.
So so I think there's, you know, there's very human reasons why people don't answer the phone every time, whether it's because they're doing a podcast or it's just, they're just like, it's painful to talk to people in prison.
But I, I, for, you know, a long period of time, and I think still, I, I found it to be the opposite.
I found it to be healing to be able to be there for people.
So it started with the dancing and then we wanted them to be able to invite friends and family.
So I created a phone number and held up a sign with the phone number.
And of course they all started calling me.
And so I just started making friends and I just started, you know, meeting all these different people.
And there's such a wide range.
And MDC in particular, because it's a pre-trial facility, has everything from like murders to, you know, some white collar crime to someone who's just there on a parole violation or like any number of things.
That was one of the first things that I focused on because I wanted to educate the public about what was going on inside the prison.
And the dancing was two things.
One, it was giving entertainment to the guys inside, just like for no reason, because that's the thing they would call me like, what, what do you want?
Like, why are you doing this?
And we would say, like, for you.
And they couldn't like, you know, for them to think that people would just take time out of their day to show up for them, to entertain them, to connect with them, was a foreign concept, which is why it's so needed.
Like the fact that them just feeling like other people see them as human is confusing.
Like that should tell you something about the conditions and how they're treated.
And so they were locked in their cells at this point 23 hours a day, two men per cell.
You're basically locked in a bathroom because there's a toilet right there.
Toilet, bunk beds, hot and bad food, dangerous, and being treated not like an, not like a human.
There's one person who actually I'm still in touch with and it's coming up on a year now.
He reminded me because the first time I saw him through the window and then he called me and he told me it was his birthday.
So I made a sign for him that night and it was July.
But he said, after he'd been calling me for a few months, he said, you know, I like calling you.
And I was, you know, I thought maybe because like I'm smart, I'm nice to talk to or whatever, right?
Like he, he was educated and he's like, because you call me by my name.
Oh, what I wanted to say about ghost dope, because this is something people don't even realize.
So ghost dope is like, if they catch you with a certain amount of drugs, and then if they, they make, they can make up some arbitrary amount and say, well, you must have sold, like if you were selling for two years and based on this much and you probably only had like a quarter of your stash, then you probably sold this many a day.
And that means you sold X exorbitant amount of drugs.
So they sentence you based on an astronomical amount of drugs, even though a made-up number of a made up number and they're allowed to do that.
So, and you have no recourse.
What you can just say, like, no, but it's not based in anything.
The judges are responsible for sentencing and they're responsible for making sure that the law is upheld in court.
I think the biggest problem is, yes, the judges, but more so the culture of winning amongst prosecutors.
I think prosecutors should care about the truth.
They should care about prosecuting the right people for the right crimes and they shouldn't be rewarded for convictions because that, if you think about it, like prosecutors are usually very smart, very, you know, probably like come from Ivy League schools, best in their classes.
They're competitive and they're rewarded for getting the bad guy.
I think there are a lot, there's a lot we could do.
I think that, I mean, I don't know if all of them have the capacity for empathy or how that factors in.
I'm not, I don't, I just don't know.
And I also think there's probably a lot of great prosecutors, but I don't hear about a lot of them.
Let's just say that.
And a lot of the issues that I learn about from people who are in prison, it's because a prosecutor withheld evidence, told them something that ended up not being true, or, you know, badgered some other drug user to give testimony that wasn't true, things like that.
I have encountered people that I'd say are like hustlers.
Yeah.
But I've never encountered someone be that way about their crime.
Every single person I've spoken to has said, look, I'm not completely innocent.
I did this, but that's not what they convicted me for.
That's not like, but they gave me a deal.
Like, I was willing to cop to this, or, or it's their, their defense attorney totally like misinformed them about something, or like, there's always something that's believable.
And the other, the other thing I think probably that's, that factors into this.
So the people who've called me and reached out, that's a certain type of person too.
Some people are doing their time and they are not thinking about other people.
They're not thinking about the outside world.
They're in a very like kind of, well, dollar cystic mindset, you know, and I told you on the phone that I was in college, I was falsely accused of sexual assault.
And I can see how someone who's been wrongly convicted would be more likely to call because not because, not for any hope of getting out or any sort of appeal, but just because they want a normal, good person to believe them.
And it's, it's, it's fucking scary, but I remember I would, I would go to like my closest friends.
I'd say, listen, this is what happened.
Did I do something wrong?
Like, did I fuck up?
And it was like, I was second guessing myself.
And they're like, no, man, you didn't do anything wrong.
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And I talked to, I had lawyer friends and I talked to them like, listen, this is what happened.
No, that feeling of being misunderstood and really like, and that's something I've thought about and dealt with a lot in my choices because a lot of people don't understand my choices.
You know, why would you stand by someone accused of such horrific things?
Why would you put yourself out there?
You know, you're clearly, you know, smart, like you can move on with your life.
And so I've really had to think about what is the right thing.
And is it worth it, even if only I know?
Like, is it worth it if the rest of the world thinks I'm crazy or brainwashed or, you know, whatever they want to make of my choices?
Is that okay with me?
Is it worth it?
And so far, yes.
And the thing is, I haven't fully had to face that because there are a lot of people who support me, who believe me, who, you know what I mean?
Like, even though kind of the general population believes this crazy stuff, there are a lot of people who see through it and friends that I've had forever and my family and things like that who know me and don't doubt that.