Sargon of Akkad - Carl Benjamin - It's Not About Men or Bears

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May 4, 2024 - Sargon of Akkad - Carl Benjamin

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It's Not About Men or Bears

Women are struggling with what feminism has done to them. More from me: @ThePodcastoftheLotusEaters

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	I saw this video of a guy responding to a comment and the comment basically said like you can tell me that a woman would be less intimidated by a bear than a man and honestly I immediately thought no I'd much rather face a bear while I'm alone in the woods than a man while I'm alone in the woods.
	Like objectively a crazy thought.
	Like crazy thought.
	And my immediate rationalization for that thought is a bear can be reasoned with.
	There is a current viral trend of feminists announcing that they would rather be alone in the woods with a wild bear than be with a man.
	It all started with this TikTok video.
	Would you rather be stuck in a forest with a man or a bear?
	Man is scary.
	Um with a bear.
	What I've heard about bears, they don't always attack you, right?
	Unless you like fuck with them.
	So maybe a bear.
	Depends what man, but probably a bear.
	100% a bear, which is terrifying to say, but...
	Definitely a bear.
	Some men are very scary out there.
	A bear.
	I would say a man.
	American feminists then took to social media to announce that they too would rather be alone in the wild with a bear than with a man that they don't know.
	Which is of course absurd.
	If you actually read the accounts of bear attacks, they are horrific.
	I found this particularly awful account of a young Russian woman who was attacked and eaten alive by a bear and her cubs, and it took her over an hour for her to die.
	She was even able to phone her mother and tell her that she was being eaten alive, because apparently bears don't just kill you first and then eat you.
	And it's hard not to notice that the city-dwelling women who gave their opinions on wild animals that they have little experience of are living in blissful ignorance and have no idea what a bear attack is like.
	Then the argument went online and one point was made that there are far fewer bear attacks on women than there are attacks by men.
	And of course there are fewer attacks on women by bears than by men for obvious reasons.
	Proximity.
	If women encountered as many bears in a day as they do men and spent as much time with them, then I'm sure the stats would be alarming to say the least.
	But this is really not about the bears though.
	This is about a few other things.
	The most obvious is a kind of selection bias where feminists in their determination to confirm to themselves that their hatred of men is justified excessively focus on crimes by men against women and get a disproportionate impression of the danger that the average man presents to the average woman.
	No doubt, many of the more virulent feminists are damaged people who have been abused in the past and so acting out like this is really just a way of expressing the pain of that abuse, which we should take into account when we consider their opinions.
	However, I suspect that for most of the women taking part in this trend, they are really just trying to vent their frustration over the general level of uncertainty that exists between men and women in society, and perhaps also a broader feeling of isolation that many young women may feel.
	In traditional societies, there are all kinds of formal rules which govern the interactions of men and women, which renders the behaviour of each predictable to the others so that both sides can feel safe during interactions.
	The West also had these prior to the latter half of the 20th century.
	Look at this footage from England in 1901.
	The women who walk past in the background all wear shawls with their hair covered and only their faces showing, as many modern-day Muslim women tend to do.
	The past was much more prescriptive than the modern era is, and I think that these lack of prescriptions underpins many of the issues we are seeing today.
	Men and women had quite definite life paths that they could reliably expect to follow, which would contain many relations between mothers and fathers, children and parents, extended families, neighbours and communities, all of which made up a person's place in the world.
	And these come with obligations.
	Women's liberation detached women from many of these and encouraged women to be independent and go into the workforce, which created the kind of lifestyle many young women have today.
	They move away from their families to get a higher education at university and then move to a city to start a career.
	In addition to this, I think there are a lack of romantic bonds that many women fail to make with men.
	Casual encounters have introduced strange tensions between the sexes and made relationships bewildering and unstructured.
	Expectations of what should or should not be done are confused and ill-defined.
	This has to have some kind of psychic effect on people, and I suspect it's what makes comics like this one resonate.
	Instead of feeling situated and secure, I think that many modern women do feel isolated and unsure of what will happen tomorrow.
	They are often far from home and on their own, in a world where half the population can seem predatory and uncaring, and without any men of their own to make them feel safe.
	Indeed, this all seems to be the general thrust of the argument in favour of bears over modern men.
	Quote, bears are more predictable.
	Perhaps this is why some of the feminist memes have essentially been demanding that men in general express contrition about how men in the abstract treat women in the abstract.
	Now imagine that when your gender answers this question en masse and they're all giving the same answer and the same reason for why they would choose the dangerous wild animal, the gender that has harmed you over centuries, harmed your gender over centuries, is laughing about it, bitching about it, mauling about it, joking about it and calling you all liars.
	Because that's a situation that we're in and it's not a game to us, it's not a joke.
	Because when most of us leave our front doors every morning, it's not a dangerous wild animal we're going to come across.
	It's you.
	It's you.
	And you, as a collective, are, first of all, refusing to accept the damage that you have done to us over many, many centuries.
	Why that damage might have led to us being afraid of you and that being ingrained in us.
	And more than that, because you're refusing to accept any of this, you're refusing to accept the fact that the only way that this narrative that you dislike so much changes is if you guys change.
	Not only are they looking for a flood of social media sympathy from men to reassure themselves that actually men everywhere are in fact safe to be around, or when men object and mock them for this absurd opinion, the feminists take a kind of self-satisfied pleasure in the fact that these men are justifying feminist misandry.
	However, there is something underneath even this.
	Men's lack of predictability and safety is being used as a moral cudgel by the feminists in an attempt to control men's behaviour through shame and guilt, which is the last option these women have to try and change society.
	They can't pull on the bonds of love and sentiment.
	However, if the widespread mockery to these strong independent women is anything to go by, it seems that they're trying to cross a bridge they have already burnt.
	Liberation from men meant liberation from material reliance on men, which in turn meant men's liberation from the moral dictates of women.
	Feminism destroyed the longhouse.
	The feminists of the 60s and 70s began the process of tearing women out of their social place in traditional society by emphasizing their power, capability, and autonomy.
	Women were encouraged to have it all.
	By the late 1990s, it was becoming apparent that having it all by yourself was a curse rather than a blessing, and by the 2010s, modern feminism had manifested into a movement that was focused not on the power of women, but instead the vulnerability of women.
	We learned that we lived in a rape culture that was unsafe for women, that university campuses were more dangerous for women than the Congo, and that women are in fact not free, but are structurally oppressed by patterns of male domination, which they do not possess the strength to overcome.
	Feminism's strange narrative arc has arrived at a point so pathetic that now they are challenging men to demonstrate that they are in fact better than wild animals.
	If men were beasts, then such an appeal could never work.
	So this amounts to an admission by feminists that all of feminism's drive for liberation was actually a mistake, and now they are asking men for reassurance that they will once again make the world safe for women.
	Healthy, well-adjusted women, who feel that they belong where they are and don't constantly look up tragic events to scare themselves about the opposite sex are actually busy enjoying their lives and relationships.
	They aren't posting about bears and they aren't fretting about men in general because they know lots of men and love them.
	And they know that these men will defend them should the need arise.
	The interactions they have with the men in their lives are predictable, are enriching and don't give them cause for concern.
	I realise this won't be a popular take in many corners of the internet, but I actually don't think women's liberation was good for men or women.
	I think it's clearly made a significant portion of the female population frightful and neurotic, and has made a significant portion of the male population lonely, resentful and callous.
	Future generations might want to reconsider what the boomer and millennial feminists have put upon them in this way.
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