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Dec. 19, 2022 - The Adam King Show

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EP016: Love, Pandemic Style

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	- Welcome everybody to the Adam King Show.
	This show, I can't even believe, is happening with all the amount of obstacles that we've been through to get it up.
	But we are here. We are recording, once again, on Thursday, as promised, every Monday and Thursday, The Adam King Show.
	Joined with me is my one and only rock breath, And he's super excited that the Bills are playing on Saturday.
	I don't understand why football is not just on Sundays anymore.
	And Thursday night football, I'm not digging.
	I just got to say that out loud.
	Look, there is so much going on in the world, Rock.
	We published on Monday an amazing video on COVID with Dr.
	Margaret Aranda and Dr.
	Shannon Croner. Two amazing anti-vax.
	uh um activists and then we followed up that video with a response to Nick Fuentes interview with uh Alex Jones I highly encourage everybody to watch this because we really walk through a lot of the criticisms that Nick say says and uh and I think that it's a must see for everybody in the band.
	It is and it's only available on band so we are not publishing that anywhere else no So, that being said, we got some really great guests coming up next week.
	We have...
	Emily Wilson in a special episode off studio.
	So we will be out of the studio making some really cool material for you guys.
	And then followed by next week, we have Gordon Einstein.
	And yes, he is a distant Einstein.
	But this man, I don't even know where to begin.
	If you want to hear words from probably one of the most influential people in all of crypto, this is the episode you're going to want to see.
	That's going to be a one-on-one interview.
	Yeah. Excellent. Announcements are out of the way.
	Rock, let's get to some memes.
	Before we get into memes, I want everybody to know that sometimes I get really impassioned and I make a meme myself.
	So we're going to start off the memes with my meme of the week.
	I'm so proud of myself. I gotta see this.
	I'm ready to laugh because I can't imagine.
	I have a major announcement to make.
	I will be reading stories to children at the public library.
	Oh, that's alright.
	That's pretty good, actually.
	But I don't know why you had to use my favorite person on the planet.
	I'll tell you. He's mine, too.
	Or he was mine. I'm getting sick of this.
	A major announcement.
	We're like facing the apocalypse right now, Rock.
	He says a major announcement.
	America needs a superhero.
	And we're like sitting here like, oh, yes.
	What's he going to do? What's he going to do?
	And then he's like, I'm making NFT trumps.
	Dude, NFTs peaked two years ago.
	There's nothing new about NFTs.
	You are so behind. You are just proving how behind you are right now.
	And it's like, when you want to speak, Mr.
	Trump, you do stuff like this, but then when we need you to speak on behalf of all of us, you are so afraid of the deep state and you're nowhere to be found.
	And I have to say this.
	I'm with you. I'm trying to get you to be president.
	I'm trying for your revenge tour.
	But DeSantis right now is going to war against mRNA vaccine manufacturers.
	And, Rock, to me, that's a huge deal.
	That's just a huge deal. It's like the words versus the actions.
	Yeah, but it doesn't necessarily make him a president.
	You know what? It doesn't, but I gotta say, like, Trump's gotta get his act together.
	This is what he looks like to me.
	He looks like a tranny at a freaking pedo show at the public library.
	Okay? So either get it, or they are gonna take over.
	And this is who Mrs.
	Trump is gonna be. All right, let's get to some other memes.
	Oh, but I wasn't the only one who made a meme about Donald Trump today.
	They had us in the first half, I'm not going to lie.
	By the way, Moo Freedoms memes is a great follow for anybody who wants to laugh.
	I want to follow this up by Frederick Douglass.
	The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress.
	Synchronicity 1111.
	It is time we rise against our oppressors in America.
	That's what I got to say.
	It sure is. And in the Christmas spirit, here's a Jesus post.
	Me, love and light. Awesome.
	I'm trying not to cuss because Band Up Video is very sensitive about cussing.
	So I'm just going to say F the system.
	Some more from our Christmas series.
	Merry Welkmas, everybody. And last week we gave a Christmas one, Rock, and you love this one.
	When your kids act, take a bunch of presents, boxes, wrap them up, leave them empty.
	When your kids act up, throw one of the gift boxes in the fireplace and they'll behave quickly.
	You thought that one was good.
	This is another good one for Christmas.
	Place a Santa hat on the corner of your TV and every time someone wears it, you got a drink.
	I love that.
	I know you're going to do that.
	I'm going home to do that.
	I know you will. I know you will.
	No, I don't drink, but I'll do something else.
	Alright, let's take a peek.
	This is our favorite queer-do to make fun of.
	Oh my god. Oh no.
	Getting assaulted for stealing multiple women's luggage.
	Remembering jail is full of sexually frustrated men.
	This guy Namrock Namrock is brutal.
	I know, and I saw one that's a little different than that the other day, Adam.
	It was pretty good. I'll bring that up next time for you.
	This guy, though, he's just, I gotta say, if there was ever a government official that robbed you the wrong way, this is the guy.
	And I can't believe he got to go down in quiet, too.
	Like, you didn't even hear that he got fired.
	That's gotta be one of the best I've seen.
	This is a real article that came out.
	People who skip their COVID vaccine are at higher risk of traffic accidents, according to a new study.
	What? I can't believe that people are even talking like this.
	This is so stupid!
	They're the stupidest people in the world!
	I feel like I'm living in, like, the Twilight Zone.
	Literally. Now imagine a time and space.
	Pace. Place.
	Beyond this world. I can't even do that guy's accent.
	It makes me stutter. You're funny.
	But we are. We're living in a Twilight Zone.
	And even another Twilight Zone in the news.
	AOC's climate change documentary flops and brings in just $80 per theater during its opening weekend.
	Barely made enough money.
	They added up all the money that it brought in.
	And divided it by all the amount of theaters that it was playing in.
	And every theater grossed 80 bucks.
	I think she spent over a million dollars on it, too.
	Yeah, just by looking at them on the cover, I would just take that and throw it in the trash.
	I know. Look who it is.
	AOC, what do you expect?
	Well, $80 a head.
	That's all she's pulling in.
	That's how real her voice is.
	She's one of these Twitter all-stars who were absolutely nothing but Twitter made into something.
	Gave her fake one million followers overnight to get her started.
	Yep, exactly.
	Don Jr. with the kill.
	Democrats be like, still better than Trump.
	Yeah. That's good.
	How to have fun as an adult.
	That's one of my favorite things to do.
	This is kind of a serious day.
	We're making serious memes here.
	I started to be free when I discovered the cage was made of thoughts.
	This one really got me going.
	Law of void there.
	Classical liberty licensing.
	When the government takes away your right to do something and then sells it back to you.
	Yeah, for sure.
	Oh, these are for the meme section.
	We got a dating episode, so we'll drop this one because we did, and then we'll get to the dating episode.
	Choosing your wife is the most important financial decision you will ever make.
	We got $7 million for Ms.
	Hurd. Ms.
	Kardashian, $200,000 a month.
	$36 billion.
	And Gates's wife, $76 billion.
	You got Bezos and Gates at the bottom.
	Anyways. 76 billion dollars in their divorce.
	That's how much he took from Billy Gates, the pedo.
	Jeez. Billy Gates, the pedophile, man.
	All right. We got an amazing guest.
	We're doing another dating episode so that we could post onto YouTube again because they suck and they only let us post things that are...
	You know, not political.
	So we have a non-political show.
	That's right. We're going to talk about dating again, which was everybody's favorite subject.
	So I'm going to bring in our guests. Adam, have a fantastic show.
	Thanks. I'll see you soon, man.
	You sure will.
	And please, God, make those do well. Yes.
	Let's get our guests in here now and get our show on the road.
	We have, once again, our good friend, Layla Brooks.
	And for the first time, my good friend in New York, Laura, who is a real estate entrepreneur, mogul, socialite wizard on the west side.
	So welcome to our show, Laura.
	Thank you for having me.
	So, last time we had Layla here with actually a rabbi, and it wasn't our most viewed show.
	Some of our shows right now are going super, super viral, which is really exciting.
	But it was our most talked about show.
	And we had, like, people were sending in, like, essay responses in the comments.
	It was really kind of a cool thing to see.
	So, Layla Book, a matchmaker in Los Angeles to the stars.
	What is your website again?
	Tell us. LaylaFindsLove.com LaylaFindsLove.com So I think last week, you know, Laura and I were talking before the show and she asked me if there's any like polemic that we can talk about.
	Okay. Not only did she educate me on what a polemic was, but we had a polemic last week where we spoke about women pursuing men and how to make dating more equal.
	And this is the number one comment.
	I was getting letters from women around the world saying, well, if you want a woman who pursues a man, would you want to go on a date with me?
	Blah, blah, blah. And it was like one after one after one.
	You know, I don't know. Did you see that episode, Laura?
	No. No. And I will never do that.
	Okay, good. So we got somebody who has a little bit of difference.
	So, Leila and I were talking about it, and Leila told me...
	Basically, I said like this, there's two women.
	There's women who want to be pursued and women who want to be in a relationship.
	And when a woman wants to be in a relationship, she will go find like sonar radar, him, and she will close.
	And so I said this on the show and Layla, who's a matchmaker and is a professional, all she does is make, you know, gets people married.
	She actually told me that she went after her husband.
	So I want to go deeper into this story, and I want to pivot to you, Layla, and I want you to tell us and remind our audience about the story about how you met your husband.
	Sure, sure. So I, as a single, I was going around and there was a Shabbat dinner for Jewish singles.
	He was across the table.
	And then afterwards, there was like an oneg thing.
	So I was, you know, we were smoozing or whatever, and then he left.
	Without, you know, Shabbat, you know, I keep Shabbat, so we didn't able to exchange numbers, but he didn't even mention anything like, nice meeting you, whatever.
	No hard feelings, of course. But I think he was the type that, you know, he wasn't able, he didn't want to pursue, or maybe he wasn't, he was a little maybe unsure about it, possibly.
	I'll cut him some slack.
	And at the end of, you know, after Shabal or whatever, I emailed our host who had us and I said, hey, can I have his, you know, we exchanged, can I have his exchange, his contact info?
	I was, you know, I'm interested in him.
	I wanted to know about him, you know, I even forgot his name, whatever.
	Sorry. And then after that, you know, we started a conversation via email.
	And then we moved it on to, you know, phone and what have you.
	We set up a time to meet for coffee.
	And that's, the rest is history.
	So yeah, I mean, I wasn't, I didn't wait for him.
	I didn't wait for, you know, hoping like, Is he ever going to contact me or whatever?
	Why waste time?
	What do you have to do as we were talking about that last time?
	So I went for it and here I am, married happily.
	Kids? Kids and a dog.
	And a dog, too.
	She was talking about her dog in the backstage.
	Yeah. Laura, you have a dog, Laura?
	I have a dog, yeah.
	I just rescued a 10-year-old dog.
	What kind of dog is it?
	A Yorkie. Oh, they're the best.
	My parents have two Yorkies.
	Yeah, they're cute.
	So, Laura, what do you think about that story?
	How does that fit into your whole scope?
	I know you've been married before.
	You have, you know, your own family.
	Like, how does that hit you?
	I think that's very brave, and I think that's amazing and beautiful that worked out, but I don't think I have.
	I think I'm very confident, but yet I'm very conservative, like the man.
	If the man wants, he will call it the man.
	I don't know, it's kind of tricky because not everyone has the confidence to approach Someone and ask for a number or start a conversation.
	But still, I'm very conservative.
	There was like one time I was in Dubai.
	I just got out of the flight and I wanted something.
	Everything was closed.
	All the restaurants were closed.
	And then there was a guy and he looked at me and he said, do you need any help?
	And I said, yeah, I want to eat this and this.
	And he said, and he ordered from me.
	And then he said, what do you want to drink?
	And then he went there, he grabbed everything from me, like coconut water, orange juice.
	And then he got everything I wanted, and chocolate, everything.
	And then he paid for it, and then he gave it to me.
	And I was looking at him, and he was like super handsome.
	And I was looking at him, and I said, thank you so much.
	And he was like, sure, enjoy.
	And that was it. And I didn't ask for his number, and I would totally date him.
	He was so sweet.
	He was so nice to me.
	But he didn't ask for my number, and I'm like, I don't know.
	I thought that would be weird.
	It's not weird. That's a missed opportunity that you could have had.
	I know. I have to remember.
	He's giving you hints that he likes you.
	He's buying stuff for you.
	He's a complete stranger.
	But if you had that inclination, you have that something inside, like, oh, he could be totally for me.
	Why not? Like, say, hey, you know, like, great meeting you.
	Will I see you again?
	Something like that. I don't know.
	Just to see if there is any potential there.
	So I will say, as a man, in the end of the day, I still want to feel like a man.
	You know what I'm saying? So like, I would love if in that situation, where I was that man in Dubai, you know, Prince Mohammed Allah Jabari Al-Tawil, or whoever it was that came and just like, free food, free food for pretty girls.
	But if I was that guy, I would have loved it if you said, so when are you going to take me out?
	So are you going to ask me for my number?
	You know, like, you close the deal, but then he's like, okay, can I have your number?
	You know what I'm saying? So as a man, I still love that.
	Like, how does a woman actually get across that hurdle?
	Is just like, call him out.
	Like, are you going to be the man and ask me out?
	Like, let him know that you've already said yes, and all he has to do is ask.
	And I think that's the best, as a man, because I, and honestly, like, one of the things on the last show, people were calling me, they're like, oh, so you want a woman to take you on a date, too?
	Well, maybe, like, on my birthday, that would be nice.
	I have taken my, I have been in relationships on my birthday, where I end up having to take the woman out on my birthday.
	And pay on my birthday!
	So I stopped. Like, if I'm dating someone I'm not serious about on my birthday, I'm like, sorry.
	I need, like, three or four weeks to get through my birthday before, like, because I don't want her to, like, you know, force me to do that.
	But I want to pay for a girl on a date.
	I want to go out. I want to plan a date.
	I want to be, like, I want to do all those things and show off, like, the peacock.
	And, like, show all my beautiful feathers.
	You know, I want to do that.
	But I want the woman also, I want to feel pursued And that is basically the woman saying, I'm completely open for you.
	When are you going to ask me for my number?
	Right. About the birth date, avoiding her, like, it depends on the, you know, where are you in the dating?
	Like, is it, like, pretty much you just met her or are we already, like, you know...
	Yeah, if I just met her, you know what I'm saying?
	I think that matters as well.
	But I'll tell you, at the place that I'm at now, and ladies, write this down.
	At the place that I'm at now at 39 years old, If I take you out, and it's my birthday, and we're going out, and I end up paying, this face is gonna look like this the whole time.
	You are not gonna see this turn into a frown, you're not gonna see emotion, but I am not calling you back.
	So just remember that.
	You take your man out on his birthday.
	And that's why men and women get paid equally in the workplace.
	I have another funny story.
	Tell us. I went to Indiana.
	Three weeks ago.
	So I met a guy on a dating app and we had a lot in common.
	Probably he's gonna see this because we're friends now.
	And I have very little time in Indiana because I was so busy.
	And we had a lot in common.
	Like we do the same, exactly same business.
	And so he helped me out a lot.
	And I'm very thankful for that.
	But he wanted to take me out for a coffee.
	And I said, I don't go out for a coffee.
	If you want to take me for dinner, we can go, but I'm not going out for a coffee.
	And then he said, you know what?
	I'm going to pass.
	And then it was like, wow.
	I think the first guy that, usually they send cars, they take me for dinner and this guy said, I'm going to pass.
	And I was like, well, I'm so sorry if I offended you.
	If I came like rude, but I don't go for a coffee myself.
	So why would I go for a coffee?
	And I had very little time.
	I had time to have lunch, dinner, and I would have to fit him in this time.
	But anyway, he said, no, I'll pass.
	And we're still friends and he's a very smart guy and he helps me a lot.
	But he didn't want to take me for dinner.
	As a matchmaker, I set up the first date for my clients.
	And I asked the ladies, what are you comfortable with?
	Coffee? Dinner?
	And that gives me hints.
	But I think this man was probably...
	You were telling him, I'm more comfortable with the dinner.
	And then to brush you off?
	That's really odd. Maybe he was thinking, oh, she's really high maintenance.
	She wants something fancy, whatever.
	I can't afford her.
	Maybe that was the case, but to say like, to know already, that's like, I think like it's a red flag.
	He's already disagreeing with you with that, with the, you know, just the first, your recommendation that you're giving him.
	So that probably was better off than you would.
	But it's good that you're still friends.
	Yeah, maybe he'll see this. He's amazing.
	He's amazing. He's a very nice, and he's helping me so much.
	Is this somebody that you would normally be interested in?
	If he's not taking me for dinner.
	I mean, for me, I think I need a man that is going to treat me the way I treat myself, the same level that I treat myself.
	So I don't go out for coffee myself.
	Not even with my girlfriends.
	We don't actually go for coffee.
	Where do you go in New York?
	What do you think is the best dating spot in New York?
	Ah, there's so many nice restaurants.
	Give us top three spots. Top three spots that you think are just, like, so, like, you whisked away.
	You're gone. There's a lot of places by the water that is beautiful.
	The piers, the restaurant by the water.
	I think that's my favorite spot.
	Name three places.
	Three places. I don't know if I can.
	Restaurants. I don't know.
	I think a day doesn't have to be a dinner, you know, but...
	Okay, I'll name three for you in New York.
	I'll name one for you in New York and then you can name one in New York.
	I'll name two.
	I would say Mocha Burger and I think that's like Chelsea area.
	Damn, those are like the best burgers in the world.
	Not the world, but those are like really good burgers.
	And they're like bougie burgers.
	Yeah, it's a kosher place.
	The place is like super bougie, but they're like really good burgers too.
	You get your food there and you're like, wow, this is something else.
	Okay. Okay, what other places?
	Name one place.
	Let's get one place. I got another one.
	I got another one. The rooftop bar of the Gansevoort Hotel.
	Boom. Oh my god.
	Done. On that rooftop overlooking the city like that, one conversation and you could be having children with that person.
	Sounds like a nice spot.
	All right.
	Thank you for the tips.
	I'll notice for my puns.
	Those are two from a Los Angeles local who lives out in the countryside.
	I am ballin'.
	That is good. Good work.
	Where do you recommend people go in New York?
	Do you have any New York spots?
	Oh, in New York. I'm actually not so familiar with New York.
	I'm based in Los Angeles, but a lot of people, like, I think water is very calming and inviting.
	You can walk around.
	You don't have to be in such a stagnant place.
	Just, you know, sitting there, it's like an interview.
	But things that, like, you can walk around in, it's comfortable, relaxing.
	I think anything in New York, you can't go wrong.
	But I can't really name specifics.
	I'm butchering. Okay, I got a third for you guys, and that'll tap me out on New York.
	On the opposite side of Manhattan, by the Arts District, you know where the Arts District is?
	On the opposite side, on the Brooklyn Heights side, it's like Old Town Brooklyn Heights, and there's a park over there that is, like, so stunning.
	And you take the park, they have these gardens, they, like, built these barges out onto the water.
	And they build these barges out there.
	And you can go out there and you can see the whole skyline from the Governor's Mansion to the Statue of Liberty.
	I'm seeing it in my third eye right now.
	To like all of Lower Manhattan.
	You're like staring out at the Arts District.
	Then you look out to your right and there's the Brooklyn Bridge.
	Just like picture-esque Americana.
	Like so romantic. I heard about that.
	Yeah. It's like the man-made island.
	Yeah. Bring a picnic.
	That's a great date. Bring a picnic to that spot during a warm day.
	That's a good date. Yes, yes, definitely.
	All right, so let's get on these subjects.
	Laura, I want to break this down.
	What do you think is the number one thing inhibiting people from getting into relationships?
	From taking it from dating to being in a relationship exclusive and proud to be exclusive with each other no matter who sees?
	That's easy. I think there's so many options today.
	So many options.
	You just go online and you can get a date every day.
	And I think that's pretty much it.
	Everything's still available.
	So why people want to be in a relationship when they can be free and date how many girls they want.
	I think it's like social media, everyone being like, I remember when I went to school, if I want someone's contact, like phone number, you would have to go and ask them and then you have to Call when the mom was not at home.
	It was so hard.
	It was so hard. Now it's so easy.
	You think someone at school is cute, and then you just, you know, you have social media, you have everything.
	You can go to the DM. It's...
	Everything's so easy, so...
	So you think it's really like beta males who just can't step up and ask a woman out?
	No, I think it's because there's too many options.
	You think it's too many... You think it's too many options and men can't commit or too many options and women can't commit or too many options and both men and women don't want to commit?
	Both. Both.
	And then you find someone nice and then you think, oh, but, you know, is she really nice?
	Is he really nice? There's so many people around, so should I stick with her or him?
	I think that's pretty much the main reason.
	And, you know, the girls won.
	Be just like as men so they're not they're not like they used to be more like shy and...
	Feminine you mean?
	Feminine? Yeah and they don't care like back in the day the girls didn't they wouldn't sleep with a guy in the first day.
	Now they don't care. They just go.
	They don't care. They do it.
	I know it's true. So they say more you have, like, more sexual partners you have, less you can commit to a person, something like that.
	That makes a lot of sense. That's a real study.
	So I think that's pretty much what's going on.
	Too many options, less intimacy, and everyone is just too free.
	I call it a distraction.
	It's so distracting. You keep going on these dating apps.
	You're thinking, oh, maybe the next person is even better than this one.
	So you can't really commit.
	I can't say the dating apps are completely like, don't go on them.
	I think it's meant for you to keep going back and keep thinking.
	Just like social media, you keep wanting to check.
	Yeah, it's like a total psyop.
	It's like the government secret CIA protocol to control us or something like that.
	It's totally messed up.
	You check them all the time.
	You're in like 20 conversations at once, getting intimate with 20 different people at once.
	It's like... How are you going to decide?
	How are you going to decide? It's like a mental orgy.
	It's like everybody's with everybody at the same time.
	Right. You're comparing one person to the other.
	This person is like this other person.
	Like you could be sitting here talking to one person and they say one thing you don't like and you're back flirting with the next person and it's completely different.
	Like within a...
	Like a train switching tracks.
	It's done. Everyone's brain is going all over the place and you can't focus on the one person.
	As a matchmaker, I introduce one person at a time to all my clients because I don't want to distract them.
	The complete thing is if you're going on multiple dates with different people or even just messaging, you're never going to get anywhere.
	It's not an effective way to get to know somebody because your brain can't focus on so many different things at once.
	My advice is if you meet somebody on an app, say as few words as possible to get off of the app, which means that the words you choose have to be very convincing on both sides, men and women.
	That means that you can't just message somebody and say, hey, how's it going?
	That doesn't work. Like really, if you match with somebody that you want to meet, look their profile up and down.
	Look for where they're leaving a door to where you could make a comment to and make your comment.
	Walk through the door. But say something that is going to be to the point and be constantly moving towards getting off of the app.
	Excellent point. And I've had great success on the apps.
	I really have had great success on the apps.
	I mean, basically in the fact that I've met everybody on the apps.
	You know, I match with like hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people on these apps.
	You know, and it's like, but no wife because of what Laura says.
	There's so many options. Hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people.
	Yeah and what when you're when you're like let's say you're in a conversation on the dating app you can always say well this sounds great why can't how about we take this offline it can be a woman to say that to Adam they say like okay we're you're in a conversation the woman or the man can say this is great let's take this online are you available on Sunday for drinks or something like that why just ask them out I mean it's that's the that's the top that's the main key is just like Take it offline as soon as you can,
	because then you're building fantasies of this imaginary person, like a pen pal, until you actually meet them.
	Yeah. I usually don't give my phone to people that I don't know in person.
	I have this real life.
	So pivot to Instagram, you know?
	Pivot to Instagram or one of the...
	You know, Hinge actually has a phone app.
	Sometimes I force girls to use the phone app.
	I'm like, how about that?
	You know, they're like, you want to get off?
	You want to like, I'm like, how about you just call me in the app?
	You know, and I just have a conversation.
	But boom, you meet somebody and then you could decide right there.
	You know, it's like, but you got to get off of texting.
	Meeting people in a text message fashion is abnormal.
	It's the antithesis of nature.
	It is intended to destroy us.
	It's a blessing that we can receive people into our lives this way through this like kind of pathetic thing that like, you know, we used to have, you know, real men and women go up to each other in public and meet organically, you know, like God caused two people to meet on a corner crossing the street and they sparked a conversation.
	Today you spark a conversation with somebody at a street corner, they think you're crazy.
	You know, it's like, don't talk to me, even if they look as good as I do.
	You know, it's like... Absolutely.
	Yeah, no, take it offline as soon as you can.
	Maybe even if you're a little unsure who that person is, create like maybe a quick Zoom, 10 minutes to see if actually that person looks, you know, a little similar to what they're trying to portray.
	Right, catfish. Have you ever gotten catfished?
	Layla, when you were single, did you ever get catfished?
	I'm kind of like past that point.
	I was on dating apps, but it wasn't like that...
	I mean, they had Soluid Sinai.
	I think I was on JDate.
	What else was I on?
	I didn't really use online dating that much.
	I was more old-fashioned, but no, thankfully, I was not catfished.
	What about you, Laura? Have you ever been catfished?
	No. I think I'm very careful with the people.
	I don't have much time, so I got to be very careful with people that I meet.
	And I don't care about looks much.
	That's the least of my...
	I think what attracts me is more like the conversation.
	So if the person doesn't look like what, it's not good because, you know, I want the person to be real, honest, but if they don't look good as the pictures, I don't mind that.
	I think there's much more than that.
	That's great. Good to hear.
	That's a great pivot to a subject I wanted to take it to.
	And I'll start with you, Laura, because you just brought it up.
	What causes you attraction?
	Definitely someone smart.
	Yeah, gotta be smart.
	Yeah, I can't with...
	It's intelligence.
	Intelligence. What comes in second place to intelligence and how far away is it from intelligence in the scale?
	I think for me, the values.
	Values. More conservative, family, a good heart.
	I think that's pretty much...
	I don't care about looks. I care about the person eating healthy because I eat healthy.
	So is eating healthy number three?
	Not eating healthy.
	I think we want a healthy lifestyle.
	Or does that go with values?
	Or is that independent?
	No, I think it's different.
	We can make it independent. Okay, top three issues.
	Intelligence, values, healthy person.
	Let's try to get to a top five.
	And looks to be number five, so all we need is one more.
	I think gotta be someone motivated to Always have a better life.
	Number four is motivated. What is number five?
	Number five doesn't have to be looks.
	No, it's never looks.
	Honesty. Honesty.
	Wow. What wisdom.
	Thank you for that top five list.
	Let's go over that for all of our listeners one more time.
	Laura's top five list of attraction.
	Intelligence. Values.
	Health. Motivation.
	Honesty. That's a high five.
	No looks. It's interesting that you don't say looks.
	Looks didn't even make the top five list. Maybe it's on the top ten list, but this is only the top five list.
	We don't have time for the top ten list today.
	Because attraction, a lot of everybody said attraction, attraction, attraction.
	So I'm surprised that, Laura, you're mentioning that that's not a top five at least.
	So that's good.
	Yeah, it's not that good.
	Open-minded. You wanna know something?
	It isn't for me either.
	I actually was dating somebody.
	This is so offensive.
	I'm gonna tell you guys such an offensive thing.
	So I was dating like, I don't know, in the game of many options, I was dating like several people at once.
	And I was on the tail end of this one girl who was just like getting the boot.
	Like I just couldn't, like she was just really a headache.
	And I sparked something at a party with somebody who was like...
	I don't know.
	I don't want to say this and have them see this video and anybody take offense to it or something like that.
	No names are mentioned.
	No names. So I'll try to conceal the story as much as possible.
	So I was dating somebody. It was coming to the tail end.
	I saw somebody else. I wanted to talk to her.
	She was kind of... She wasn't, attraction wasn't the main motivator.
	Actually, the thing that got us talking in the beginning was that she said she was unvaccinated and she was so proud of it.
	And I'm like, yeah, me too. You know, like, and it was like, it like pulled me in.
	And then we started having like this conversation.
	She turned out to be one of the coolest people I've met in a long time.
	And someone came up to me.
	I was at a party with this girl and then I went to another party with this girl and someone came up to a party.
	They're like, are you dating this person?
	I was like, I don't know.
	Obviously, I never spoke to it with the girl.
	We were hanging out and this guy looks at me and he says, be careful because you're way out of her league.
	And I'm like, dude, you're like triple vaxxed, fool.
	What? What are you talking about?
	How would you say such a rude thing to somebody?
	That's rude. How would he know?
	He's just jealous.
	I don't know. But I wanted to say this story over because the offense that I took to that comment is proof that for men too, physical attraction is not the number one issue.
	I think for me, I think a woman's ability to commit and navigate out of the sea of options and focus exclusively on me and really show me that it's only me and there are no other options, that to me is very attractive.
	I forgot one.
	But you only got five.
	There was only five on your list.
	What's number six?
	Laura, what's number six?
	I want to switch.
	Oh, okay.
	Please don't take honesty off of there.
	Take honesty. No, I'm kidding.
	I think it's very important the way the guy treats me too.
	You know, like the guy that didn't take me for dinner.
	Yeah, but that goes into values.
	That's number two. That's like values.
	Not really. Let me ask you a question.
	What if a guy treated you with a lot of respect, but he went out to a restaurant and was such a rude guy to the waiter?
	No, get me my food.
	What are you talking about? I didn't order it like this.
	That's what I'm saying. It's values.
	It's not how he treats you. It's how he treats everybody.
	I was saying in another way.
	Okay. Well, that could be number six then.
	Because honesty is very important.
	And I also think motivation is important.
	I was very impressed that you put motivation on number four.
	Above honesty.
	Because I know you also.
	You're a real go-getter. Listen, the top five list doesn't have to be for everybody, but people can look at your top five list and become very inspired by it.
	That was a good top five list.
	I feel like it could be a meme.
	Could be. It could easily be a meme.
	You should. I'm in a lot of dating groups and I see all the girls saying they care about the way the person looks and how is the connection when they go out and I look at that like I really don't care like sometimes I talk with people they don't even have the the picture on the profile they don't have the picture and I'm fine with that I don't mind because it's the least of my my I don't want to comment about my exes because no like I said I don't want to be rude but But they know who they are.
	They know who they are, you ugly men.
	No, I'm just joking.
	That was a joke. That was joking.
	They're going to come after me.
	We got to have some comedy in the show.
	You know, it's got to be funny. But I'm happy to hear that, Lara, you consider these people without even asking, like, hey, a picture or whatever, because as a matchmaker, you don't even know.
	Like, I have to go hoops and, you know, to get updated photographs.
	I even Zoom, do Zooms with potential matches to see if they actually look like who they actually, you know, send.
	So this gives me hope that, you know, People are not just into looks, even though it's important.
	It's not just everything.
	It's the whole package. I think it's pretty much because people judge me a lot the way that I look.
	And so I think I don't want people, I don't want anyone to be with me just because the way I look.
	I want, I thought about, you know, making like fake profiles, but like the opposite way that people do.
	Then you'd be the catfish.
	I would cast it the other way.
	So I want people to like me.
	Oh, she's smart.
	She's a good mom. She works hard.
	And that's what I want people to see, not the way I look at all.
	So that's probably why I always try to put like the inside, how the person is inside then.
	Well, I think that attraction is a very important thing.
	And physical attraction is not always everything.
	And people who are seeking physical attraction, I think it's very easy to find My mother grew up teaching me one valuable lesson.
	Everyone is replaceable.
	It's true. And when you chase looks, that's like the easiest replaceable thing.
	There's always someone prettier.
	There's no such thing as someone who's the most beautiful.
	There's no such thing as anything like that.
	There's no hierarchy or ranking structure.
	There is a lot of very, very beautiful people.
	So if you chase beauty, you're never going to be satisfied because there's always new beauty coming about, you know?
	Someone might lose 50 pounds and then they release that inner person that nobody ever saw before that is, like, the most smoking hot person in the world.
	I've seen that before, too.
	It looks changed, too.
	It looks changed. Yeah, it looks changed, you know?
	So... You know, that's a very mic drop moment.
	Thank you for that one, Laura. All right, so we've covered dating locations in New York City.
	We covered top five attraction.
	We've covered the biggest obstacles that keep people out of relationships.
	Let's focus on relationships.
	Once you're in a relationship, out of all of our experiences, and we'll start with Layla because she is currently married.
	Once you're in, and please God, let her stay married, but once you're in a relationship, Leila, what are some good things that both men and women can do for each other, little things and big things, to keep the relationship alive and to keep it so that you don't have desires to go back to the sea of a million options?
	Right. I think we all discussed this in our last episode, if you want to call it, but appreciation is very important to know that they're valued, to know, to respect each other, to listen to each other and to listen to each other's Feelings and if something bothers them and then they communicate that to each other to say like okay you know this is this is I rather you know we switch it around and that person has to look you have to listen like as a as a as a wife you know if my husband is you're not too crazy about something that And he tells me that I'm going to have to listen to,
	okay, noted, noted, and I will, you know, we'll change the way we're doing things.
	So it's always, it's important to communication.
	Communication, appreciation, being, you know, being there for each other is important.
	And always knowing that you're important, that my other half is important.
	Otherwise, we wouldn't be together, obviously.
	So I think those are some things that people should value and know.
	Don't ask me, because I don't even remember what it is in a relationship.
	How long has it been since you've been in a committed relationship?
	I would say because my ex-husband and I, we separated, but we're still living in the same house because of the kids.
	We were too young. I think it's over like four years.
	I don't know what it is.
	To be with someone, being taken care.
	To be truly with someone.
	Yeah, yeah. Being happy, you know.
	Sad song.
	Oh, every day is a learning process.
	Every day, you know, every day you learn something new and you learn something new about yourself.
	You learn something about, you know, your other half and you or it doesn't even have to be married.
	It's just like whoever you're dating.
	You learn about each other and you pick things that, OK, well, that kind of ticked him off or that kind of like, you know, Provoke something or whatever, and you learn.
	And if you don't learn, then obviously you're not going to build a committed relationship.
	So everything, like you're going on a date and you see something that I don't think he didn't pick it up.
	He picked it up the wrong way.
	Take that into consideration, everything.
	So you don't provoke anything and Not only are you learning about him or her, whoever you're dating, but you're also learning about yourself and how you can build and be a better person.
	That's very deep.
	Those very, very deep concepts.
	I also think communication is key.
	And people need to learn how to talk to each other.
	Oh yeah. I think that's a major component I think a lot of people fail at.
	I actually...
	I think it was the first time I started dating a girl and her longest relationship was like...
	I mean she was my age.
	I'm 39. She wasn't my age.
	She was like a little bit younger than me.
	But her longest relationship was like nine months.
	And I was like, wow. It was the first time where I really registered that as kind of like a red flag.
	And I feel bad for the girl, but I didn't want to strike it on her, so I continued to talk to her.
	And I told her how it makes me feel right away.
	I said, look, as somebody who feels that relationships are acquired skills, because it takes work on yourself, To be able to understand and make space for another person.
	And I should say that making space for that person And their needs really comes as a step, a precursor to communication.
	Because you first have to desire, in order to fix everything that goes wrong in a relationship, you first have to desire to prioritize their need or their apparent lack Their need, whatever that a person's doing to the other person that is not, you know, working out for them.
	And so once you have that desire to put that person first, and that's like, I don't know, like I remember my first shot of whiskey.
	Man, that was disgusting.
	You know what I'm saying? But now I'm like, oh, Bunhaiben 26, it is so delicious.
	You know, like I think it's good now or something like that.
	You know, that's so lame compared to like when I first started, it was like revolting, you know, like so that's kind of like an analogy to like some of the work that involves relationships.
	It's like you really have to have those dark nights of the soul and look at yourself and see that You know, that you don't make space for another person, that you're all self-centered and all, you know, selfish.
	And if you want another person, you have to first desire that if they have a need that you're, I don't know, if you're stepping on their toes, that you don't want to step on their toes.
	You know, so you have to give space to, like, allowing communication to exist where they can come to you and say, hey, you know, when you do X, Y, and Z, it really makes me feel like this, and I have a really hard time with it.
	And the answer, whether male or female, because, you know, I've been in relationships where women gave me this answer, too, where they were like, you know, that's just your feelings.
	You know, that's just you. That's just you.
	There was a meme that I wish I put on the meme role for this show because it was so good.
	It was basically describing narcissistic behavior as like blaming the person For having the issue with you to begin with, you know, like, oh, I did put it on this show, but it's kind of like offensive to women because it specifies that women are being narcissists.
	I'm not going to play it. You guys want to see it?
	Should I just show it? Show it.
	I will. We want trouble.
	We want trouble, right, exactly.
	No, I didn't put it on this episode, but it is for sure in my folder.
	Let me go grab it and we'll cause some trouble.
	I have a question, Adam. What, going back to that nine months relationship, that really just, like, what was wrong with the, what was wrong with her having only nine months relationship?
	Like, what if she like, she knew that it was...
	It wasn't like really nine months, it was like six months and then three months on and off.
	So it was even worse than nine months.
	What's wrong with that? Do you think that's a red flag?
	Yeah, I think that it is a red flag.
	It's not a red flag in the sense that it means that we're done, done, done.
	It means that you've got to step up and show me that that didn't affect you.
	Do you think it's a red flag?
	Sorry. What's that?
	Laura? Do you think it's a red flag when people think that I've been single for too long?
	I think people see that as a red flag.
	Be honest. A little bit.
	I would say that both of these flags about not having long relationships and not being in a relationship for a while are yellow flags.
	And not being in a relationship for a while is less than a yellow flag.
	Not having long relationships is an orange flag.
	Orange flag. And not being in a relationship for a long time is a yellow flag.
	I agree. Definitely.
	It's worse to not know how to commit to somebody.
	It all depends on like, okay, are we on the fast track or are we like on the slow track?
	We want to take things slow.
	Maybe she was like more of like, okay, if I know it's not right for me, I'm not going to pursue it kind of a person.
	Or maybe she was just like, okay, I know it's a done deal.
	Or maybe like from relationships, you can go back backwards and learn from that.
	I'll tell you, it's like, When somebody is older and they don't have long-term relationships, I mean like in their 30s, I think that there is really something to it.
	I learned so much from having multi-year relationships.
	I think that's pretty much what I think about when the man is over 40 and he was never married.
	I know. Who's going to help me out on this one?
	I'm 39. I mean, I've never been there.
	Who are you going to help me out here?
	This is getting ridiculous. That's going to be like, tick-tock, tick-tock, tick-tock.
	Time-seeking. But the truth is, a man doesn't ever expire like that.
	So it's like 40 is one thing, but it is true.
	There is something to that, though.
	You know, I have a lot of really good friends who are single and all either over 40 or approaching 40.
	And I'll say for all of them who've never been married, some of them, they got issues, I'll be honest.
	I'm not going to lie, but other of them are really good men.
	And like, I don't know, I think like there's a lot of scarcity.
	There's a lot of like...
	They've had relationships, you know, like I practically have been married.
	I mean, I've lived with a woman for many years, you know, like I just didn't, I didn't get married.
	We didn't get married. So like, but it is, there is like that thing, a man over 40 who hasn't been married, but I'd bump it up.
	Let's bump it up for the modern age to 45.
	So I feel a little bit better about that.
	I mean, the most popular question I get as a matchmaker, when people ask me like about my clients, like, why are they single?
	How am I? That's like a million dollar question to ask.
	Like, why are you single yourself?
	Like, they asked me, like, why are they single?
	I'll tell you why we're single.
	We're all mental.
	We are messed up.
	We're all screwed up.
	We've been destroyed more than once.
	People ask me that, and I'm like, how would I know, first of all?
	Maybe a lot of things go, I mean, like, okay, I understand, as I understand my clients, okay, the situation, like one person had to take care of his parents, they were elderly, he just lost track of time, you know, or, I mean, I have another, he's 42, never married.
	How would I know what goes on in people's lives, first of all?
	I'm not God. I don't control, you know, who's going to, like, why he or she is not married?
	So that's, like, it's a million-dollar question.
	And, like, I try to explain it to them, like, why, but I really can't, you know?
	It's like, why are you single yourself?
	You know, I can flip the question around to, you know, to the person asking.
	So I get a kick out of that question already asked.
	I appreciate you for defending us like that, Leila.
	Thank you. Yeah.
	I was very insecure for a moment there.
	Sorry. No, I'm just teasing you.
	I don't get bugged. Maybe that's why I'm single.
	See? But I want to touch on why it is an issue if a woman hasn't had a relationship.
	Or a man. Not just a woman.
	A man or a woman. Especially a man.
	But even more so a woman.
	Because I really believe that sometimes what keeps a relationship is the woman.
	She's desiring to be in a relationship.
	Even a moderately...
	Okay. This is how it works.
	Even a less attractive woman can become more attractive if she's extremely committed.
	But even an unattractive woman can go out into the world and with one flick of the on switch of her dating profile can have options lining up to meet her.
	So, that being said, like, a lot of it has to do with the commitment of a woman.
	If a woman hasn't been in a relationship, it's because in her 30s, you mean to tell me you haven't met one worthy guy?
	Does that mean that I gotta jump through hoops of fire to get you?
	And then on top of that, I mean, there's more than one flag that it raises.
	It's like, there's that one, and then there's the other one.
	Like, maybe you don't know how.
	Maybe you don't really desire it, and the only reason you're desiring it is because you feel like you're getting older and it's freaking you out.
	That's a real thing, too.
	And a lot of people, not women or men, but people, have emotional distress that they aren't willing to process, and they have the desire to commit because of expectation, but they themselves are noncommittal people.
	They don't want to commit to somebody.
	They don't want to open themselves up.
	They don't want to have their heart open.
	And that's the yellow flag of not having relationships for multiple years.
	I haven't had a real serious relationship in almost three years.
	Well, two and a half years.
	But I have had multiple relationship startups.
	Startups. Where we get like a few months where we're like really like you know so you know I feel like at least I'm out there trying to find A relationship.
	The yellow flag of the person who hasn't had a relationship or a startup in four years is maybe they're very scarred from a previous relationship.
	Trauma, yeah. A lot of trauma.
	You know, and that's a hard nut to crack because a man wants to come in not having, and a woman, a man and a woman both want to come in not having to be the therapist.
	But I think at a specific point in our life, we all have to just expect that people are coming into our lives to heal us.
	And that's one of the things I love about the whole new age, heal everything.
	We're healers, we're healers.
	I love that about it because they do get that part right.
	It's like at some point, we all have to come in and just accept That the people that we bring into our lives are here to heal us.
	On a friendship level, and more importantly, on an emotional, intimate level with our intimate partners.
	Right. Everyone is brought into our lives for a reason.
	So you always have to think back, okay, why are we here?
	There is a reason why we're talking to each other.
	There is a reason. So whether it may be like we're actually going to Get married or whether it may be like we're going to help each other do something, you know, learn about each other and be better.
	But there's always a reason for...
	There's also that ancestral trauma stuff too that gets brought up in a relationship.
	I heard about that. Yeah, it comes back to life.
	Maybe something happened or caused the father to be overly zealous on the children or the mother or whatever it is.
	And maybe the parents didn't show love.
	And there's all these traumas that always get resolved through a relationship.
	You're shaking your head, Laura. Why are you shaking your head on that one?
	I don't know. I think everyone has issues.
	Everyone... You cannot blame your parents, your situation, the way you grew up when you...
	No, I'm not saying to blame them, but it does become our responsibility to still heal from them if we weren't raised properly.
	We still have to be able to get over...
	Listen, a person who grew up in a house where the parents beat the children, there's a propensity for the children to beat their partners, to beat their children.
	But the one who breaks that trend, it's still their responsibility to break that trend and to live non-violently, let's just say.
	Yeah, well, that's where a therapist, a mentor, a rabbi, priest, whatever you need comes into place.
	You know, a dating coach, matchmakers, somebody like you need somebody as a guide because a lot of people go on things on their own and without a guide.
	And don't be afraid to ask for help.
	And I'm not trying to shoot that.
	I do believe that everybody comes with...
	I think what you said, Laura, was best.
	Everybody does come with problems.
	That's what you have to realize.
	Yeah. We're not perfect.
	And they are responsible for their own problems.
	I think that's what you were trying to get at.
	I met a...
	He was way too young for me, but he grew up in an $18 million mansion on Long Island.
	Mom and dad married.
	Very Christian.
	Very, you know, the perfect Long Island family.
	And he had issues because his mother had issues because of the grandmother.
	And now he has issues because of the mother, the way the grandmother.
	And he told me the story. Such a handsome man.
	So handsome. So, like, with the best life in front of him.
	And he was like on the...
	Seeing a therapist two times a week and trying to get rid of this.
	And I looked at him and I said, why?
	Why? Don't blame your parents and the way they were raised.
	And don't carry that.
	You know, just move on.
	So, I mean, everyone can say, oh, because I grew up like this.
	But there's really no issue.
	You've got to look yourself in the mirror and say, I've got to face my issues myself and don't blame anyone else and fix it.
	And fix it. Not carry this on for eternity.
	It's a work in progress.
	It's much easier said than done.
	Baby steps.
	You have to not be able to carry it on for eternity.
	You're absolutely right. It's something that you should, and if you're single out there, you should strive to fix your issues as much as possible before you get into a relationship.
	And also, you should not allow your inability to fix your issues, prohibit you from getting into a relationship if the right one does come around.
	And for people who are getting into a relationship, it helps to understand that we all have issues and that we will have to make space for other people's issues.
	No matter, you know, no matter what we think, nobody here is perfect.
	And the older we get, the more issues we seem to get also.
	So, you know, we have to make space.
	And I would say that with that approach to a relationship, That a renewed desire for commitment every single day when you wake up will keep someone married for the rest of their life.
	To get back to that original question we asked Layla, what keeps people in a marriage or in a relationship?
	So these are really great points.
	I feel like we really went around the horn and I feel anybody who watches this video is going to have a world of thinking to do.
	What do you guys think about that?
	That's a lot of deep stuff.
	Yeah, we covered a lot.
	What do you think about today's episode, Laura?
	I loved it. Thank you so much for having me.
	And it's good to be able to vent and then you, I can hear the things that I was saying and then I can try to Fix my point of view, too.
	So I think...
	Yeah, you learn a lot. You learn a lot about yourself.
	Yeah. To tell you the truth, we have at the Adam King Show some super, super exciting guests lined up.
	But I think that my favorite episode are these episodes because they're like really personal.
	And also the people who see these type of episodes love these episodes.
	Like the viewership on these type of...
	Talk shows is through the roof, just judging by the last response.
	So I want to put it out there.
	To anybody who watched this show and was deeply touched, wants to say anything, leave a comment on any one of our platforms.
	As I mentioned earlier in the beginning of the show, we have begun getting censored on YouTube.
	So we're only going to be posting videos like these and promo videos to YouTube from now on.
	So this video will be on YouTube.
	It will be on Rumble. And for our many listeners on the Infowars, it will be on band.video with Alex Jones.
	So thank you everybody for everything you've been doing.
	Please shop at Infowarsstore.com, buy something, keep us on the air and Let's get our lives together.
	Let's get into healthy, committed relationships.
	Let's end this world of options by choosing the one for you.
	That is Layla Book.
	And this is my good friend, Laura, the real estate entrepreneur in New York City.
	And we will see you on Monday's show at this exact same time.
	Take care, everybody, and God bless.

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